Ep 9: Shared Couple Habits

We talk about the couple habits that keep us connected after 22 years, especially the small, repeatable routines that make everyday life feel safe and close. Our biggest takeaway is simple: the strongest marriages are built on ordinary nights and intentional choices, not rare highlight moments.
• why shared habits matter as much as personal habits
• how praying out loud together becomes a marriage game changer
• keeping prayer simple, alternating nights, sticking with it
• building connection through dinner talk and shared TV time
• closing the distance with touch and small check-ins
• Saturday and Sunday morning breakfasts as weekly reset time
• seeing each other at the gym as a daily point of contact
• using a monthly marriage group for growth and honesty
• putting phones away to protect real conversation
• the hot take: Tuesday night matters more than vacation

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Transcript

Welcome To Marriage Hot Takes

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Hey everyone, welcome to Marriage Hot Takes, the podcast where we have honest conversations about marriage while it's still hot.

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We're Erin and Kim, and we're so glad you're here.

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This isn't about being perfect, having it all together, or pretending marriage is easy.

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It's about real life, real love, real struggles, real growth, and learning how to choose each other every single day.

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We'll talk about communication, conflict, faith, intimacy, expectations, and everything in between.

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So whether your marriage is in a great season or a hard one, you're not alone. Let's get into today's hot take.

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Welcome back to Marriage Hot Takes. Thank you for taking time to join us. I'm your host, Erin, along with my wife Kim. Each week, we would just want to come to you and share a little bit about our past 22 years of marriage, some of the success, the highlights, the not-so-good things, and some lot of things we've learned. And uh dealt with work through all the different things. We just want to share those each week. Um, as we mentioned many times, we come to you with uh unscripted. We basically start out with a um kind of a topic, and then we uh always want to leave you with a hot take, something really that you can take into your marriage, your relationship, um, to have a conversation about, to be a conversation starter, um, and to think about and to share. And so those are about the only two things we have mapped out before we start. Um, everything is just um kind of um it's willy-nilly. Willy-nilly. Um, so with willy-nilly, um, as we've talked about in other episodes, um, you just never know what's gonna come out of uh Kim's mouth. Um, what kind of words, what kind of awkwardness. And so, and you always want to watch because it's the most entertaining. Um, you can listen, and we'd love for you to listen to it, but if you watch, it's even more entertaining because sometimes you get to see our dog tango hanging around um, all

Why Couple Habits Matter

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the things. So, um, all that to be said, um, we hear a lot about habits. Um being in health and wellness, um, we talk a lot about habits, about habits of exercise, of eating, of all those different things. And a lot of times we talk about those habits as individuals because we do have individual habits. Um, you've heard of atomic habits, the power of habits, all those things. Um and really we're gonna talk about the power of habits, but the power of habits um as a couple, um, as a as a married couple, what kind of power do they have? Um, because you and I individually have habits. Have habits.

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Um I like to live a life of habits.

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You're very habit-driven.

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Yes. Um needs to be the same.

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Uh which which is an episode, which is a topic for another episode because sometimes those habits can become so rigid. Um, then as we've talked about mental um mental health, it can affect mental health.

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Yeah.

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Um, to a certain point. But um, we do each have those different habits of exercise, of hygiene, of all the different things.

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I'm glad for hygiene.

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Yes.

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Um random one.

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Well, because I was thinking about you brushing your teeth three times a day.

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It's not ten. It's several.

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Several. It's more than after every meal. It is. Um so anyhow, um, we each have our own habits. Um, but we also have we've and we haven't always had um habits together as couples, as couples, as one couple, or not a couple couples. Um, but what we have found that those really connect us and bring us closer together.

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Yes.

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Um, and and and probably one of the biggest And maybe ground us a little.

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Uh yeah. Yeah.

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Um one of the biggest uh habits we've started together, um, and and we we we talk about it often because uh we feel it is so vital and important to a marriage um that we didn't even realize how important it was.

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Right.

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Um it's not like we're going, we've always done this and it's the greatest thing ever.

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We have not.

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Um we have not. Um but one of the biggest things, the biggest habits we hit have done um in the last five

Praying Out Loud Every Night

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years, started five years ago, is praying together.

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Um like join hands, come together, and pray.

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And pray out loud.

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Out loud.

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Um, daily, nightly.

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We alternate nights. One night it's my night, the next night it's your night. Sometimes there is some confusion about whose night it is.

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Yes. And we have fun with it, and it's not that the other one doesn't want to pray, but it's just kind of giving each other a hard time about it. Um, but that has really uh made a difference in our marriage. Um it started out as a 30-day challenge and we had in our marriage group and um we discontinued it. Um and we're apart very rarely when it comes time for unless you're on a girl's trip or something like that. But very rarely, so it happens most um well, we haven't ever missed a night.

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No. Um doesn't matter what time we go to bed, but um even when our grandsons are here and he's in the middle of of the bed with us, we still do it.

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We still do it.

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Yep, do it over and we still do it.

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And and interesting um uh the fact about praying together, um only four percent of married Christian couples pray out loud together, um, which is which is very fascinating. Um when I read that stat, I was like, wow, that's that's amazing that it's so low. Um, because I think we just assume that Christians pray. Um, but it's very it was very challenging um to pray out loud very together. Um and they're not, I mean, don't get us wrong, sometimes they're not the most elegant, eloquent prayers. They don't form and they're not formal. They're not formal, they don't, it's not a certain whatever.

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Yeah, some nuts, it's Lord help Aaron remember it was actually his knot to pray, and then on with the rest of the prayer.

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Go on.

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Yeah.

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Um, so but but it really um it has made a difference for us because it because in uh recently within the last few months, um, it has uh opened us up to also um praying for um at the gym. Um we have a prayer pals box that if anybody has a prayer request, they can put it in there. Um and then we um take it out every day. And when I get home at night, we will uh pray out loud over it together. Um and if uh if there's several, I'll do one, you'll do one. Um so it has it has um opened up to that habit.

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Yeah, that would have never happened previously before we had started that.

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Yeah, never. And I mean, I don't know if that would have happened a year ago, honestly. I mean, we've been doing it for five years. I don't know if that would have happened a year ago. Um so it has really made a a big difference um in our in our habits. And um and we have simple habits. I mean, it's nothing I mean that one That's our biggest one. That's our biggest habit.

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Um that's the one that we're probably the most proud of.

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Yes. Because I think we're proud of it not to say, oh, look at us, we're we're so good. We're 96% the top nine. No, or the top four percent. It's really because we're proud of it because it has made such a difference for our life.

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I agree.

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And and and if we could tell you to do, if you do one thing for your marriage, if you could do one thing for your marriage, it would be pray with your spouse out loud. Um that I mean, um, because again, research has shown that those that do it, the divorce rate drops to one percent, regardless of first, second, or third marriages. It drops to one percent. Um, because you get into a different conversation um when you're praying out loud together. It's just um it can be a marital

Small Nightly Rituals At Home

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game changer. Um, but some of the simpler things we do. Um, what's something simple we do every night?

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Watch TV. Well, it starts with you come home and I have your dinner ready and you eat, we just we while you're eating, because I have already ate at the dinner time, which is five o'clock. You eat at five, twelve.

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And it's usually a couple hours later when I get home and eat.

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So I eat noon and then maybe at five.

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Again, habits, rich.

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And then you come home later and then you eat your dinner. And while you're eating, we sit and uh talk about the day. Talk about your day.

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We talk about yours too.

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Yeah. And then we sit down and watch our and we like to watch about an hour of TV. That's usually about what how much time we have left at that point.

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And we before I'll fall asleep in the chair.

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Right, and then I have to get you up. But um we like to watch a sh, you know, a show together or a movie that might take us a few nights to watch. But we do enjoy that, just the quietness of sitting in our chairs and you know, uh every once in a while, oh hey, pause that for a second so we I could tell you something, or you might tell me something that you remember from throughout the day. Um, but those quiet moments like that to get our TV time in. And and it's funny because um And and while we do that, I I color.

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Yeah. And it's funny because again, kind of like the prayer. Um, we find ourselves uh praying for others, doing it um at a different time besides bedtime, but praying for others. But again, with this simple habit of watching TV, you have your chair, I have my chair. We have a little um end table in between us for our drinks. Um and we've talked, we want to be even closer. So we've talked about getting um different uh different like chair recliner thing that we're right next to each other. Yeah, we want so we don't have a big space because we want to be closer.

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Yeah, because I like to touch.

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Yes, and I like to your love languages touch.

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Yeah, I like to reach out and touch you, and uh Ethan, just being this far apart, I will still say, Are you right there?

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Mm-hmm. Just because honestly, we're probably a little closer than this sitting together at night, and that's still it's a little far from yeah, yeah. Um another simple um habit that we have together, um, every Saturday and Sunday morning. Uh Saturday's different than Sunday morning. Um, but Saturday morning, um typically I get home from the gym, you're still uh you're about to wake up. Um and so I've already kind of started breakfast, but then we have breakfast together. Um and usually um depending on the time of year, what we have going on.

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Um not during the summer.

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Not during the summer because I have to get out for it.

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But um I mean we

Weekend Breakfasts And Long Talks

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still have breakfast.

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Yeah, we still have breakfast, we still, but the time isn't as long during the summer. But um, like during the wintertime, uh we might sit for a couple hours. Yeah, just talking. Um talking, talking about different things, different ideas, just we just have good yeah, good conversations on Saturday mornings. Um we do the same thing on Sunday morning. We um but we wake up together on Sunday mornings. Um it's our only day we wake up together. Um usually I'm gone the rest of the week the week before you get up. Um but it's that day that we wake up together, um, then we get breakfast going and we and we'll sit for maybe an hour, um, eat breakfast and talk and and visit, and then what do you got going today? What do you got going? And then we um get our day started.

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Yeah.

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Um, so it's um and and that's really uh our probably our favorite times of the week um that we really enjoy.

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Yeah, because it's um, you know, just talking about life.

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I was just gonna see if you had anything else.

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I could tell why you were just gonna give the awkward pause that I hate.

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Silence silence. Um another um habit that I think is is good for us, um, that we do as we do it separately, um, but it's really for us together because we get to see each other. So um even though I'm gone before you get up in the mornings, um we still see each other every morning because you come to the gym and work out and you might be there for an hour, um, hour and a half, depending on what what classes we got going on. And it's a time that um we just get to say hi to each other, see each other, or visit for just a little bit.

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And then I get to be a participant, just like everyone else in the class. But I get to see you. We get to be in the same room.

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And and before opening M2B, uh fitness, that didn't happen.

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No.

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Um, I would go to work all day at the gym and train clients and we just wouldn't see each other.

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No.

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Um, but since we moved to another new location, smaller, um, different business model, all

Seeing Each Other At The Gym

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that, but um, it it works better for us.

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Yes, it does.

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Um, just for us to, and that's a habit.

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Um and it's what I look forward to. Yeah. Not only to see you, but to to see the ladies.

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To see friends and everybody else that's there and and um and it does start my day well. Yes.

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Because I get to see you.

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And then um, then if you want to follow Kim on TikTok, uh every day she'll give me a review.

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I do give you a review.

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Uh about maybe the treadmill class music was good, but the workout was awful or the workout was good and the music really sucks.

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Today was 16 thumbs down about a booty class. Yeah. I mean, I'm I'll be honest about it.

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Uh yeah, it doesn't get sugar coated. No, it doesn't.

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Well, I mean, the workouts don't get sugar coated for me, so I don't think that the review should get sugar coated for you.

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That's a good point.

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But um, I could put in my request of what I like to do, but it's not gonna happen.

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So I feel like you know, I can I mean we take all requests, it's in that black uh can next to the next can.

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Yeah, I know. So I I give you an honest review.

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Yeah, so you can just go find find Kim and uh Kim Deglern on TikTok and she and you and you see how the workouts went. I mean, like literally every five days a week. She will five days a week.

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I will review him.

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Yes. Um, and sometimes her awkwardness comes out.

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Yeah, it does.

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Yeah, um, it can be quite entertaining. Um, you're probably gonna go viral now because yeah, I bet so.

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Yeah, I bet so.

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Yeah, this podcast heard worldwide. Worldwide.

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Yeah.

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Um, but the power of habits as couples is just important. And and it's about what you enjoy, about the things that you find um that are habits, um, that maybe it's a it's it's a relational habit um that that helps keep your

Marriage Group, Phones Away, Food

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your relationship strong. Um maybe it's maybe it's a habit of um attending a small group every week. Um that's a of a couple small group of a married small group that really helps you maintain balance. And and sometimes in small groups, the interesting thing about those is uh uh a couple group uh habit every month. We have a a uh marriage small group, every first Wednesday of every month.

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Yeah, we don't skip.

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We don't skip. It's it's something that's out of town, huh?

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Unless somebody's on vacation.

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Yeah. Um, but it always happens. Um and and if it doesn't happen, we rearrange it so it does. Yes. Um it because it's important to all the couples that we do it. Um and and that's and that's a habit that helps us grow.

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Yeah.

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Um, we have a different topic every every time. And and not only um and we eat and we eat. Um we have a lot of habits revolving around food. We do.

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We love some food.

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We do love food. Um, it's good.

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I think that food opens communication.

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I was gonna say that because it a lot of it is around dinner table.

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Yeah.

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Um, we start our marriage group. Um, we eat first.

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Which is what is happening in the world is we got away from family meal time around the dinner table. Because that's when you did all your visiting.

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And again, when we when we do breakfast and um I get home at night, we don't have, I mean, after we've talked for a little while, if we're looking for things, we might scroll. But otherwise, we don't really um scroll unless you're looking at your paper first thing. Um but even when we have our marriage group, everybody, their phones are away. Um, we're eating, we're visiting, we're talking across the table. Yeah. Um, and it makes a big difference. Um, it I mean, that helps us, our marriage group helps us work on a on a each other as a as a couple. And also, um, those are good too because sometimes you can say things in a fun way that at home might get in a fight.

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Right. That is true. You could bring it up. Um, and you have been known to uh yeah, to be known that to bring something up to see if I would agree with to it in marriage group. Because then if I agree to it, that it what was it that I agreed to that time in marriage group? And then oh, I remember about having another marriage group.

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About having another marriage group.

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I remember now.

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And doing an additional one, yeah. And and I was too scared to ask you one-on-one. Well, I wasn't horrible. It was just, I thought, I don't know.

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Hey, don't do this. That means that you need help. So don't do that during the podcast. That means you need help if you feel unsafe with me. Well, I might. Evidently, that's why that's why I you have to bring it up in a group. Why am I doing this?

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I don't know why you're getting close to the mic. That's why you always gotta watch.

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Uh but yeah, you waited to you sometimes you bring things up then to see because you think I'll agree, I'm be more agreeable there.

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And and I had tossed it out before. And I shut it down, and you did shut it down, and I wanted to reapproach it. And I felt like maybe you'd be softer to hearing it in a group because I just and you and because I had a margarita. Yeah. Yeah. And then then you didn't say no, and then you said we talk about later, which gave me hope.

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Yeah.

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And then you said yes.

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I did, yeah. And and then you had to say, Did y'all hear that?

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Yes. Now I will say about um doing this podcast. I actually actually asked her in private.

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Yeah, you didn't ask me in a group.

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I didn't, and I was ex fully expecting a no, quite honestly. And she got a yeah. And she was really excited about it. Yeah. And like every um when we record the show, she's always excited about what we're gonna do, when we're gonna do it. Yeah. Um, I gave her a hard time before we started recording today because I was doing something else in another room and I came in and she was all sitting ready to go. Like I said, I was like this. I said, You're like a kid excited to go somewhere. You're sitting in the chair, like ready to go. I'm ready.

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Tego was here and I was here. We were like this, waiting for our our camera debut.

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Yeah. And uh, so I mean that that's that's a big thing. Um what was our topic? Habits.

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It's habits got me off track. Yeah, I can tell.

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Um, but but it's it's about finding those um things on a daily basis.

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Yeah.

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Um, and maybe it's a weekly basis.

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Yeah.

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Um big ass tired over there. Um that that that are habits that help build your relationship.

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Yeah.

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And it could be going, you love a Sunday drive.

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Uh Saturday afternoon walk.

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, any of those. And you know, I think about a Sunday drive all the time. I used to hear that when I was growing up, and I would think, how boring is that to go drive around on a Sunday? But I think that sounds so amazing. But you know what I do love? And this is a habit as well. I love for you to take a Sunday afternoon nap. And it's I like for you to do it and for me to color while you're napping. Or during football season, I like to watch the I like to watch football and you like to nap for football. So it that's I don't really care for sports. Yep.

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And I can't fix anything. I'm a real catch.

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Yeah, you are. Yeah. No handyman, no sports guy.

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I'm nothing. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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But but but that's a good point. It's it's it's something we're doing together, but we're doing different things.

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Yeah.

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That we both enjoy.

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Yeah.

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Um maybe if if you go enjoy playing golf and one just likes riding the golf cart. Yeah, and that's a good thing.

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It's you're together and you're enjoying it. Just like a Sunday afternoon drive.

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Yeah. And and and um it's to create those habits because they are very powerful. And I think if you're looking in a relationship, and maybe if there's some struggles going on, um, it it could be because you don't have you may have habits, um, but they're not together habits. Yeah. They're not, they're I have a we have habits separately.

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Yeah.

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And we do them separately and consistently do them separately, and that can cause some issues.

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Yeah.

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Um and you might look at, are we doing couple habits?

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Yeah. And I don't know if it's if you call it a habit or not, but um, I mean, I do whatever, but you know, I send you a message every morning and I I send it, I send it, I do the send later feature on Apple. You just type your message and send it later. You can choose your time. And so I will work on it throughout the day, the day before, get it to what I want it to say, and then that way it sends to you at 311 in the morning because I know he's already up by that time, he's getting ready for his day, doing all the things, which I would never be able to be up to to now. If I was my mom, my mom used to get up with my dad early, but I wouldn't have never done that.

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You just go to the text.

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I'll just send you the text to tell you how I hope your day goes. And um I think that that's a habit too. And I enjoy it because I get to tell you all those things first thing in the morning.

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And I enjoy it because it it's the first thing I see in the morning.

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Yeah.

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Um, so I mean, it is and that's a good that's a good point. It could be a habit that you're doing for the other person. Person, and then the other person enjoys maybe it's the you're getting up and fixing breakfast, or you're getting up and doing something for them, or um, it's just a habit that you're not gonna get up and fix your breakfast, though. No, no, you do fix my breakfast.

SPEAKER_00 22:13

I do fix your breakfast ahead of time. I do.

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Yes. Um, so we have a lot of habits with food again, but they're just very powerful. Um, whether they're personal habits, um, just as strong as personal habits are, so are couple habits.

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Yeah.

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Um and and we have a yearly habit, and we talk about the daily habits, but we have a yearly habit of we love to go to Red River, New Mexico. That's one of our favorite trips that we go on every year because it's a time for you and I just to connect.

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Yeah.

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And be together in the quiet. In the quiet. And we don't do anything.

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We don't.

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We do nothing. Like literally, we fix all of our meals in the little cabin, we eat out on the porch. We watch a lot of networks

Tuesday Night Hot Take

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a lot of it.

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We watch a lot of Netflix, we go for hot, we take naps.

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We take naps. Sleep late.

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And we love it because it's our quiet. It's it's the getaway of just being quiet and just reconnecting, um, being able to be together all day long. Whatever that looks like. If it's whatever we want to do. Yeah.

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And that that's uh that's a yearly habit we do.

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Yeah.

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Um, but really the power of habits um come in the daily. Um it kind of takes us to our hot take for today that Kim has um all lined out for us. I do. Something's on my phone. Oh, there it is. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

Today's hot take. Today's hot take. It's not the big vacations that bind you. It's Tuesday night. Nice.

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And we always talk about on a random Tuesday. On a random Tuesday, because everybody wants to wait until a Monday to start this great plan of maybe it's to for a better relationship, of starting habits together. Um, but sometimes it's just a random Tuesday that we decide today's the day. Um and and so whenever you listen to this, maybe this is just your random Tuesday night um that you start a habit together. Um and those are the ones that are special, and those are the habits that connect us um and really make a difference in our relationships. If if you talk to those um relationships that are sex successful, um, they really have those habits. Um, just like any successful person is gonna have habits um in all areas of their life. Um so we just want to leave you with that hot take of um it's not the big vacation, it's that random Tuesday night that you're sitting next to the one you love. Um, and she just says, Are you still there?

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Um that are you right there?

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Are you right there?

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Are you right there?

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Um that makes all the difference, uh, makes me smile, makes us feel connected. Um, and that's our one of our many um random Tuesday night daily habits. So

Final Encouragement And Subscribe

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uh thank you so much for joining us on Marriage Hot Takes. We'll look forward to seeing you next time. I'm Aaron.

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And I'm Kim.

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We'll see you right here next time on Marriage Hot Takes.

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Thanks so much for spending this time with us on Marriage Hot Takes.

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We hope today's conversation encouraged you, challenged you, and gave you something practical to take back into your marriage.

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Remember, strong marriages aren't built in one big moment.

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They're built in small, intentional choices made every day.

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And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples. Until next time, keep choosing each other, and we'll see you for the next hot take.