WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.919 This is Ronald Hopkins, and thank you for joining the Life Center Church. 00:00:04.240 --> 00:00:08.080 Children become secure on the inside. 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:18.480 Now, Satan's primary responsibility is not just to damage your relationship with your natural father. 00:00:18.800 --> 00:00:20.399 He's not just after that. 00:00:20.559 --> 00:00:28.960 What he's ultimately after is to give you a distorted image of a relationship with God. 00:00:29.839 --> 00:00:37.200 So he'll go after your relationship or lack of relationship with your natural father. 00:00:37.439 --> 00:00:49.200 But his ultimate goal, if he can damage your relationship with your father, more than likely your life will be damaged because you don't know God. 00:00:52.479 --> 00:00:53.600 Now let me show you this. 00:00:53.679 --> 00:00:55.840 Go to Ephesians chapter six. 00:00:57.520 --> 00:01:04.319 Perception of God comes from your relationship with your father. 00:01:10.239 --> 00:01:11.599 God's design. 00:01:12.239 --> 00:01:14.400 Ephesians chapter six. 00:01:14.640 --> 00:01:23.120 Verse number four says, Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. 00:01:25.680 --> 00:01:27.120 That's what it says. 00:01:53.040 --> 00:01:54.159 Discipline. 00:01:54.560 --> 00:01:56.719 It's amazing what's happening now. 00:01:56.879 --> 00:02:01.200 There's an uprising of a lack of discipline. 00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:04.959 Where children are concerned. 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:08.400 That's why you have all this stuff happening in Detroit. 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:10.879 Teen takeovers. 00:02:11.280 --> 00:02:13.759 I wish you would come up in here and try to take over. 00:02:19.360 --> 00:02:20.879 I wish you would rise up. 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:25.280 It's a lack of discipline. 00:02:25.520 --> 00:02:28.000 It's a lack of understanding. 00:02:28.560 --> 00:02:33.280 It's a lack of helping them understand that you actually have a place. 00:02:35.199 --> 00:02:38.800 And your place is not to become an adult before it's your time. 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:49.520 Bring them up with the discipline and the instructions that come from the Lord. 00:02:49.759 --> 00:02:58.319 Now, how can you bring up children and the Lord with instructions if the father doesn't pay attention to the instructions? 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:05.520 If he doesn't know the word, how can he teach his child or the children the word? 00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:20.400 So that should tell you right then and there, if the father doesn't know the word, if the father is not in the word, if the father doesn't have a relationship with God, then more than likely that is what that child is seeing. 00:03:20.639 --> 00:03:29.520 And unless they have a visitation from God, then that child will grow up probably not having a relationship with God. 00:03:32.719 --> 00:03:39.360 God designed the fathers to give the children what they cannot get for themselves. 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:41.759 Need you to hear that. 00:03:50.560 --> 00:04:00.000 So the father stands in the earth as an example, a God example for his children. 00:04:04.159 --> 00:04:11.199 A father is supposed to demonstrate the attributes of God to his children. 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:17.680 So that the children can grow up seeing a God figure in their home. 00:04:21.040 --> 00:04:35.040 When the father is absent, children then begin to search for affirmation and other things that the father should have provided. 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:40.079 Let me say that again. 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:43.120 This will be sobering to a lot of men. 00:04:44.959 --> 00:04:56.639 When the father is absent, children begin searching for affirmation, because we're gonna camp on that, but they look for security. 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:01.439 They even look for discipline. 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:05.680 Do you realize they want to be disciplined? 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:10.560 They don't want to be yelled at though. 00:05:11.759 --> 00:05:13.600 Because that's not discipline. 00:05:15.120 --> 00:05:17.040 That's verbal abuse. 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:27.120 They'll look for protection from somebody else because you didn't provide it for them. 00:05:27.519 --> 00:05:36.560 And they'll look for understanding from somebody else all because you didn't provide it for them. 00:05:37.040 --> 00:05:42.639 Now, we're gonna look at a Bible character today by the name of Jonathan. 00:05:44.879 --> 00:05:58.800 And it's very interesting when we read the story of Jonathan, because when we read Jonathan, I am going to show you how King Saul had an effect on his life. 00:05:59.439 --> 00:06:02.160 Now go to 1 Samuel chapter 20. 00:06:03.680 --> 00:06:05.920 We're talking about wounded. 00:06:19.120 --> 00:06:22.639 And they are having dinner at the time. 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:27.920 And of course, David is supposed to be with them at the time. 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:31.360 So David is not there during this time. 00:06:31.759 --> 00:06:38.480 And David is not there because David believed that King Saul was trying to kill him. 00:06:39.279 --> 00:06:46.720 So David asks Jonathan, he says to him, I want to go back home and spend time with my family. 00:06:47.360 --> 00:06:50.319 And he tells him, Yes. 00:06:52.160 --> 00:06:56.800 However, David is in fear for his life. 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:04.879 Now, let's pick up the story in verse number 30 because this didn't just happen one time, it happened twice. 00:07:11.199 --> 00:07:17.120 And Saul boiled with rage at Jonathan. 00:07:18.639 --> 00:07:24.160 And notice the wording that he said to his own son. 00:07:24.879 --> 00:07:27.519 Now, I'm not reading a tabloid. 00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:32.959 I'm about to read the B-I-B-L-E. 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:39.120 So a father is now getting ready to speak this to his son. 00:07:39.279 --> 00:07:40.879 And notice what he says. 00:07:41.120 --> 00:07:43.279 You stupid son of a whore. 00:07:45.120 --> 00:07:47.759 Didn't I just tell you how to read in the tabloid? 00:07:48.639 --> 00:07:50.319 I tried to warn y'all. 00:07:53.199 --> 00:07:54.399 It's the Bible. 00:07:55.360 --> 00:08:03.279 But notice a father is saying this to his own child. 00:08:07.279 --> 00:08:16.560 Now you might be sitting out there, you might be watching, and I'm sure you probably wouldn't talk to your child like this. 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:29.199 But I'm pretty sure you have heard somebody else talk to their child or their children this way, and they thought it was okay. 00:08:32.639 --> 00:08:34.639 How many of you say, Yeah, I done heard? 00:08:38.480 --> 00:08:39.919 So he swore at him. 00:08:40.159 --> 00:08:41.759 And notice what he says. 00:08:42.080 --> 00:08:48.080 Do you think I don't know that you want him to be king in your place? 00:08:49.120 --> 00:08:52.240 Shaming yourself and your mother. 00:08:53.039 --> 00:08:58.799 As long as the son of Jesse is alive, you'll never be king. 00:08:59.279 --> 00:09:05.440 Now you go and you get him, bring him home so I can kill him. 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:14.480 So now the question is: why is King Saul so angry? 00:09:17.600 --> 00:09:22.240 Why would he call his own biological son? 00:09:23.840 --> 00:09:27.120 I don't have to repeat it, I think you can go back and reread it. 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:38.559 You stupid son of a whore? 00:09:40.000 --> 00:09:52.879 Why would a man be that angry to latch out at his children and to name call his children, belittle his children? 00:09:53.679 --> 00:09:58.080 Why would a father act like this? 00:09:58.639 --> 00:10:08.240 Well, if you go back to 1 Samuel chapter 13, you will see number one, God called Saul to be king, and he started off being humble. 00:10:09.120 --> 00:10:17.440 But because he started to build his own kingdom, he became disobedient. 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:31.519 Then if you look at chapter 15, because he went from being disobedient to then repentant, repenting, for then chapter 15, disobeying God again. 00:10:33.440 --> 00:10:35.120 It's a pattern here. 00:10:36.080 --> 00:10:49.200 And then it got to the place where the prophet shows up, and because of his disobedience, he tells him, the Lord is getting ready to replace you. 00:10:50.000 --> 00:11:05.919 And the kingdom that God placed you in to bring people into the knowledge of him and to use the resources that I've given you to make him famous, you made yourself famous. 00:11:06.000 --> 00:11:08.320 And now you started operating in pride. 00:11:08.399 --> 00:11:11.519 And now because of pride, God can no longer use you. 00:11:11.600 --> 00:11:13.919 So he's getting ready to choose somebody else. 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:27.759 And so all of a sudden, God chooses a young boy by the name of David, whose heart is pure before God. 00:11:29.360 --> 00:11:38.960 And then if that's not something, the man or the child David comes into King Saul's home. 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:45.679 So now you actually have to train your replacement. 00:11:49.600 --> 00:12:08.960 And then all of a sudden, David begins to grow up, and David is anointed by God, and David slays Goliath, and then David slays 10,000 soldiers, and then Saul only slays 1,000, and then they came up with a theme song. 00:12:09.919 --> 00:12:16.960 The people were celebrating what David did as opposed to what Saul did. 00:12:19.279 --> 00:12:30.399 And now all of a sudden, this man who started off being humble is now disobedient to God, in pride, and now he's jealous. 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:39.200 And add to that, his own son sees that his now covenant partner is supposed to be king. 00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:43.200 So his son says, Man, my dad is tripping. 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:45.840 This is the next king. 00:12:46.240 --> 00:12:58.960 So now you take this father who's now hurt and wounded, and he turns right around and wounds his own son. 00:13:01.519 --> 00:13:06.000 Let me help you out. 00:13:07.440 --> 00:13:17.440 The pain that children deal with is because of unresolved issues in the parents. 00:13:35.360 --> 00:13:50.960 And if you don't figure this out, if God doesn't reveal this to you, you will grow up as a child to an adult looking for protection in all the wrong places. 00:13:51.600 --> 00:13:59.039 You will look for things that the father was supposed to provide, you'll look for it in other people. 00:13:59.200 --> 00:14:02.799 That's why teen pregnancy is high. 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:07.279 Because the father wasn't around. 00:14:07.519 --> 00:14:09.919 And the father didn't demonstrate love. 00:14:10.159 --> 00:14:16.399 So because the father didn't demonstrate love, she looked for love in somebody else. 00:14:21.600 --> 00:14:23.200 Point number one. 00:14:25.279 --> 00:14:29.440 Don't allow someone's approval to become your addiction. 00:14:33.919 --> 00:14:35.919 So then what does a father want? 00:14:36.879 --> 00:14:58.879 It's the pain created when a father consistently fails to provide the affirmation, the protection, the identity, the love, the guidance that God intended for him to give. 00:14:59.279 --> 00:15:01.120 Let me say that again. 00:15:01.440 --> 00:15:09.519 It's the pain created when a father consistently fails to provide. 00:15:10.399 --> 00:15:15.440 He failed to provide affirmation. 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:17.919 Well, you might say, well, what is affirmation? 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:20.720 Because people are looking for affirmation. 00:15:20.879 --> 00:15:24.080 It is an intentional expression of love. 00:15:25.600 --> 00:15:26.879 Acceptance. 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.600 Value. 00:15:31.279 --> 00:15:37.279 You didn't receive value from your father, so you're looking from value from your spouse. 00:15:38.399 --> 00:15:51.039 You look for value from some other source that it should have come from God, that He now gave it to your father, and now the father should have given it to you. 00:15:51.279 --> 00:15:55.519 But because it wasn't received, you look for it in other places. 00:15:56.720 --> 00:16:02.720 Encouragement should come from the father to his child. 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:06.960 That confirms. 00:16:07.120 --> 00:16:14.320 So all these things should confirm a person's identification and a person's worth. 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:20.799 Jonathan absorbed all his pain from his father. 00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:31.440 And a father womb is not always created by what I call verbal abuse. 00:16:32.080 --> 00:16:38.080 A father womb can be created when a father is not even present. 00:16:47.279 --> 00:16:50.399 The absence of a father. 00:16:51.039 --> 00:16:55.440 You can be in a home and still not be a father. 00:16:59.440 --> 00:17:02.960 You never got the time. 00:17:23.359 --> 00:17:28.400 And since there was no presence, there was no connection. 00:17:31.599 --> 00:17:45.680 And many adults are now dealing with unanswered questions to problems that they had when growing up. 00:17:47.359 --> 00:17:49.920 You ain't got to say, Amen, it's true anyway. 00:17:52.160 --> 00:18:03.759 And because of Saul's King Saul's wounds, especially pride, it began to shape his home. 00:18:04.880 --> 00:18:15.279 So any wound that a father, we'll talk about mother next week, it shapes your home. 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:20.160 And that is the environment that you grow up in. 00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:28.400 But if you trace it back, it goes back to the father was wounded. 00:18:28.960 --> 00:18:35.680 And because he was wounded, and he may not understand, he's now wounded his children. 00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:38.319 So point number two. 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:44.319 How you hear, how, not just what you hear, how. 00:18:45.599 --> 00:18:49.359 How you hear is crucial. 00:18:50.720 --> 00:18:57.920 How you hear what's being said to you is crucial to your life. 00:18:59.200 --> 00:19:07.839 Verse 31 says, as long as the son of Jesse is alive, how you hear, how you hear. 00:19:08.079 --> 00:19:13.359 As long as the son of Jesse is alive, notice what he heard. 00:19:13.839 --> 00:19:19.519 You'll never, you will never do this. 00:19:20.079 --> 00:19:22.240 You will never achieve that. 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:24.400 You'll never be king. 00:19:25.519 --> 00:19:28.640 So he heard a lie. 00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:40.240 And the lie he heard, if David becomes the king, you won't fulfill God's purpose for your life. 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:50.880 So how you hear what's being said to you will determine how far you can go in life. 00:19:54.400 --> 00:20:12.240 If all you hear is negativity, criticism, calling you out of your name, you being ridiculed, you'll never do this, you can never achieve that. 00:20:12.880 --> 00:20:14.480 Let me ask you a question. 00:20:14.720 --> 00:20:17.920 How do you think that child is going to respond? 00:20:20.799 --> 00:20:30.400 If you hear it long enough, remember the Bible says faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:32.400 The principle doesn't change. 00:20:32.640 --> 00:20:36.240 Faith comes by what you are constantly hearing. 00:20:36.480 --> 00:20:47.440 So if you are constantly hearing that, you will then begin to believe what you are constantly hearing, what you are constantly listening to. 00:20:47.680 --> 00:20:49.200 It's a lie, it's a lie. 00:20:53.039 --> 00:20:57.680 Saul was trying to convince Jonathan to go along with his pain. 00:20:58.240 --> 00:21:03.839 Every father womb, listen, comes with a voice. 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:20.000 And belief in that voice or those voices can create a false or distorted narrative of your life. 00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:28.880 Because its goal is to paint a picture, something that God didn't create. 00:21:32.720 --> 00:21:36.640 You'll never do this, you'll never accomplish that. 00:21:36.799 --> 00:21:44.480 Well, that's a distorted image of what God said because the word says you can do all things. 00:21:46.400 --> 00:21:53.039 So how you hear what's being said can shape your life if you receive it. 00:21:54.319 --> 00:21:59.279 The word distort simply means to change something the way God designed it. 00:22:02.480 --> 00:22:11.599 To change something based off of what you hear and what you believe is against God's desire. 00:22:14.559 --> 00:22:20.079 It was King Saul's version of his reality. 00:22:20.559 --> 00:22:26.000 He wanted his reality to become his son's reality. 00:22:29.519 --> 00:22:35.359 And those words that he spoke were trying to shape his future. 00:22:38.480 --> 00:22:40.720 You got to protect your own destiny. 00:22:44.720 --> 00:22:52.400 If anybody's speaking against what God said, you've got to learn how to protect your own peace. 00:22:58.160 --> 00:23:02.240 Remember, the womb doesn't protect or produce the lie. 00:23:03.119 --> 00:23:13.440 It creates, listen, a vulnerable moment in which a destructive message from people can take root in your heart. 00:23:13.759 --> 00:23:14.640 Key word. 00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:16.720 If you believe it. 00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:22.640 So he presented his son with a choice. 00:23:26.160 --> 00:23:31.680 And we have these choices every single day based off of what people are saying to us. 00:23:34.000 --> 00:23:35.279 Every day. 00:23:36.240 --> 00:23:37.839 You're going to get a divorce. 00:23:38.400 --> 00:23:40.400 You're going to abort your child. 00:23:41.440 --> 00:23:43.519 Those are choices. 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:57.920 You can either accept the narrative or you can reject the narrative. 00:23:59.119 --> 00:24:08.079 You can accept man's point of view or you can receive the plan of God. 00:24:08.960 --> 00:24:13.759 You can reject it or you can accept it. 00:24:14.400 --> 00:24:16.559 Verse number 32. 00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:19.839 Notice what Jonathan did. 00:24:20.640 --> 00:24:22.240 He questioned it. 00:24:25.920 --> 00:24:27.279 Who told you that? 00:24:30.240 --> 00:24:31.519 Where'd you get that from? 00:24:33.039 --> 00:24:36.000 How did you come up with that conclusion? 00:24:36.319 --> 00:24:41.119 Is what you're saying the same thing that God is saying? 00:24:42.880 --> 00:24:45.599 Or you can find yourself fighting against God. 00:24:47.359 --> 00:24:49.440 Notice verse number 32. 00:24:49.839 --> 00:24:52.000 But why should he put to death? 00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:53.440 Be put to death? 00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:55.839 Jonathan asked his father. 00:24:57.839 --> 00:25:02.079 What did he do that you want to what did he do that you want to kill him? 00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:06.079 He questioned that lie. 00:25:07.680 --> 00:25:08.799 That's good. 00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:10.960 That is so good. 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:13.680 What are they saying to you? 00:25:15.119 --> 00:25:17.839 Do you actually just believe what they're saying? 00:25:18.079 --> 00:25:20.000 Or are you questioning? 00:25:20.240 --> 00:25:23.440 Where did you where did you where'd you come up with that? 00:25:23.599 --> 00:25:24.319 Come on. 00:25:24.640 --> 00:25:26.640 Where did you get that from? 00:25:28.079 --> 00:25:31.279 Because if it doesn't line up with the book. 00:25:41.359 --> 00:25:46.480 You have to choose the truth over emotions. 00:25:49.839 --> 00:25:54.960 Some of the stuff that's been coming out of your mouth is all your feelings. 00:25:55.440 --> 00:25:57.759 It's all how you felt. 00:25:58.319 --> 00:25:59.839 But is that the truth? 00:26:05.279 --> 00:26:13.039 He's choosing God's will over personal gain. 00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:17.359 That's something right there. 00:26:17.680 --> 00:26:20.079 Because I can get ahead. 00:26:21.200 --> 00:26:24.400 But you can only go so far if you don't have God with you. 00:26:26.640 --> 00:26:33.119 And then you gotta keep it going instead of God keeping it going. 00:26:34.319 --> 00:26:35.839 Which one you want? 00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:40.640 You want God's will or your will? 00:26:42.079 --> 00:26:46.319 You want God's plan or you want your plan? 00:26:47.759 --> 00:26:57.599 And I've learned my journey in these 55 years, if it's your plan, you gotta pay for it. 00:27:00.319 --> 00:27:04.400 And I don't know if anybody in here right now is a billionaire. 00:27:06.079 --> 00:27:10.160 But you don't have enough resources to fund your own plan. 00:27:19.039 --> 00:27:20.960 Watch this, verse 33. 00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:26.000 Then Saul Saul was something else. 00:27:28.960 --> 00:27:31.839 Saul hurled his spear at Jonathan. 00:27:31.920 --> 00:27:47.759 Now he took the spear that was supposed to be meant for David, and now is trying to take his own son out. 00:27:52.240 --> 00:28:00.640 Now, because of Jonathan's attitude and his position, he could have responded another way. 00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:05.680 This could have turned out completely different. 00:28:07.920 --> 00:28:14.559 But notice his position because he did not agree with the lie. 00:28:16.720 --> 00:28:18.240 Need you to hear this. 00:28:18.799 --> 00:28:30.160 Because if you agree with the lie, your actions and what you say and what you do will be in agreement. 00:28:33.279 --> 00:28:37.039 He didn't agree with his dad's plan. 00:28:38.559 --> 00:28:40.400 So then what did he do? 00:28:40.880 --> 00:28:46.480 So at last Jonathan realized that his father was readily determined to kill David. 00:28:46.799 --> 00:28:50.799 So Jonathan gets up and he runs away. 00:28:51.599 --> 00:28:55.519 He doesn't go back and forth with his father. 00:28:58.079 --> 00:29:00.799 He's not arguing with his father. 00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:05.359 He's not now calling his father names. 00:29:06.079 --> 00:29:08.799 Because his father called him names. 00:29:22.880 --> 00:29:24.799 There's only one person that's frustrated. 00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:29.759 It takes two people. 00:29:31.839 --> 00:29:36.240 So because he is tripping, I'm not about to go there. 00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:39.440 You are not about to take me there. 00:29:41.359 --> 00:29:42.799 So guess what I'm gonna do? 00:29:47.519 --> 00:29:49.920 I'm gonna just let you say what you need to say. 00:29:51.039 --> 00:29:53.359 Because a soft answer, my Bible tells me. 00:29:54.480 --> 00:29:56.079 It'll turn that thing away. 00:29:58.000 --> 00:30:04.640 So while you all hot and steamy and upset in the flesh, I'm just sitting there just like. 00:30:15.519 --> 00:30:20.559 Philippians chapter 2, verse number three says, Don't be selfish. 00:30:23.839 --> 00:30:26.400 Don't try to impress others. 00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:28.880 Be humble. 00:30:29.920 --> 00:30:33.839 Thinking of others as better than yourselves. 00:30:34.559 --> 00:30:41.200 Don't look out only for your own interest, but take an interest in others too. 00:30:42.079 --> 00:30:48.799 Verse 5 says, you must have the same attitude that Jesus Christ had. 00:30:49.519 --> 00:30:56.720 You must learn to live for the approval of God and not for the approval of other people. 00:30:59.039 --> 00:31:01.359 Now, point number three. 00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:06.559 You can reject the agreement because we see that Jonathan did. 00:31:08.000 --> 00:31:14.400 Verse 31 says, as long as the son of Jesse is alive, you'll never be king. 00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:18.799 Go now and get him so I can kill him. 00:31:19.279 --> 00:31:22.960 Saul wanted Jonathan to make an agreement. 00:31:23.599 --> 00:31:25.119 This is wicked. 00:31:27.680 --> 00:31:29.359 To kill somebody. 00:31:29.920 --> 00:31:33.119 Now you may say, Well, I'm not about to kill anybody. 00:31:33.839 --> 00:31:35.279 What about your mouth? 00:31:41.440 --> 00:31:47.359 Ephesians chapter 4 says, let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but only that which is good. 00:31:47.519 --> 00:31:53.599 How much goodness have you been speaking over people that have been saying wrong things about you? 00:31:57.119 --> 00:32:01.279 If you're not speaking good, you are in agreement with evil. 00:32:05.680 --> 00:32:14.000 Jonathan made a decision to refuse to see his friend how his dad saw him. 00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:19.200 It was a different kind of narrative. 00:32:19.440 --> 00:32:25.920 So the Lord is showing you that you can refuse to be in agreement with that foolishness. 00:32:28.319 --> 00:32:38.559 It is possible, although they have wounded you, and you may have experienced pain or you may be in pain right now. 00:32:39.119 --> 00:32:42.960 It is possible not to accept the lie. 00:32:46.079 --> 00:32:48.160 Let me say that one more time. 00:32:49.200 --> 00:32:55.839 It is possible to not agree with what they think about you. 00:32:58.079 --> 00:33:00.079 What they say about you. 00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:04.160 The lack of love that they give towards you. 00:33:04.319 --> 00:33:09.839 It is possible that you do not have to be in agreement with that foolishness. 00:33:12.400 --> 00:33:14.240 And point number four. 00:33:15.839 --> 00:33:20.079 Your behavior will reveal your belief. 00:33:21.759 --> 00:33:34.640 Your behavior, how you act, is going to actually reveal whether or not you have been in agreement with that lie. 00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:41.759 And you can talk to talk, but everybody's gonna see how you've been walking. 00:33:43.440 --> 00:33:46.079 Everybody can see how you are living. 00:33:48.559 --> 00:33:51.279 Because your beliefs are your roots. 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:56.079 So your roots may have to be pulled up. 00:33:59.759 --> 00:34:05.039 Verse number 33, it says, Then Saul hurled his spear at Jonathan, intending to kill him. 00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:09.840 So at last Jonathan realized that his father was determined to kill David. 00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:15.360 Verse 34 says, Jonathan left the table in fierce anger. 00:34:17.920 --> 00:34:19.199 He was angry. 00:34:19.920 --> 00:34:25.920 Be ye angry, but he refused. 00:34:26.159 --> 00:34:34.800 He refused to eat on the second day of the festival, for he was crushed by his father's shameful behavior toward Jonathan. 00:34:36.559 --> 00:34:39.440 Faithfulness is what he began to demonstrate. 00:34:39.599 --> 00:34:41.840 Faithfulness and the plan of God. 00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:49.519 Faithfulness will refuse to celebrate and tolerate the sin of other people. 00:34:51.119 --> 00:34:56.159 It's your faithfulness and your commitment to God. 00:34:57.760 --> 00:35:00.880 I refuse to celebrate sin. 00:35:07.199 --> 00:35:11.280 I'm not going to be in agreement with your lifestyle either. 00:35:16.800 --> 00:35:20.960 He did not allow his emotions to dominate him. 00:35:25.760 --> 00:35:27.360 He just walked away. 00:35:32.320 --> 00:35:34.719 Can I help the merry people out? 00:35:40.320 --> 00:35:43.519 And this is wisdom for all of the singles. 00:35:44.079 --> 00:35:45.679 In fact, let me show it to you. 00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:47.039 Go to Luke chapter 6. 00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:48.719 Here's the issue. 00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:53.440 Here's why he could walk away. 00:35:56.159 --> 00:35:58.480 Here's why he didn't respond back. 00:36:01.280 --> 00:36:03.360 Here's why he was faithful. 00:36:04.719 --> 00:36:12.079 Luke 6, 45 says, a good person produces good things from the treasury of his heart. 00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:16.320 Come on, sir. 00:36:17.840 --> 00:36:21.519 Person that's good can only produce the goodness that comes from his heart. 00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:29.440 But an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. 00:36:30.480 --> 00:36:47.039 What you say, what you are saying, what you continuously say out of your mouth is simply flowing from the deposits that are in your heart. 00:36:55.199 --> 00:37:00.480 I'll say it, He will not change your behavior. 00:37:02.719 --> 00:37:04.400 He has to change your heart. 00:37:06.239 --> 00:37:12.320 You're praying for your God to change your husband or change your wife. 00:37:13.519 --> 00:37:15.440 That's why it doesn't work. 00:37:16.719 --> 00:37:19.519 He's not gonna change the behavior. 00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:29.840 He's gonna change their heart. 00:37:31.599 --> 00:37:37.280 And when your heart is right, the behavior lines up. 00:37:41.360 --> 00:37:46.719 See, your actions are the fruit of what you believe. 00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:58.400 So you're showing people, based off how you live, what you actually believe. 00:38:02.400 --> 00:38:11.760 So we're actually watching either a living epistle is what the Bible says. 00:38:15.039 --> 00:38:17.119 I'll let you fill in the blank. 00:38:28.880 --> 00:38:31.519 The reason why you have issues right now. 00:38:35.599 --> 00:38:36.960 It's your heart. 00:38:42.559 --> 00:38:44.559 It's a heart issue. 00:38:45.199 --> 00:38:53.840 If you want different results in your life, you gotta get what was rooted in here out of here. 00:38:55.360 --> 00:39:04.400 Then you can work with Holy Spirit, and He can help produce the right type of fruit in your life. 00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:08.880 It's a heart issue. 00:39:10.800 --> 00:39:15.119 Having lack, it's a heart issue. 00:39:16.320 --> 00:39:20.960 Being selfish, it's a heart issue. 00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:27.360 Not wanting to die to self, it's a heart issue. 00:39:27.599 --> 00:39:31.679 Not willing to serve, it's a heart issue. 00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:36.639 Not giving has nothing to do with whether or not you can afford it or not. 00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:39.360 That's just an excuse that people make. 00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:49.920 Because you can afford to pay your light bill, you can afford to pay your cell phone bill, you can afford to pay your rent or your mortgage. 00:39:50.480 --> 00:39:53.360 The issue is it's not in your heart. 00:39:53.440 --> 00:39:54.559 That's why you don't do it. 00:39:56.079 --> 00:39:56.719 That's true. 00:39:56.800 --> 00:39:58.400 It's God, it's playing. 00:39:59.920 --> 00:40:02.239 The pastor did this, they took my money. 00:40:02.320 --> 00:40:03.119 That's not hard. 00:40:03.440 --> 00:40:05.599 You're blaming somebody else. 00:40:06.719 --> 00:40:13.920 You're robbing yourself of the system that God set up because you got hurt because you thought that they were supposed to do that. 00:40:14.000 --> 00:40:15.840 No, that's between them and God. 00:40:16.000 --> 00:40:17.599 He has to give an account to that. 00:40:17.760 --> 00:40:18.480 Not you. 00:40:19.599 --> 00:40:28.719 See, one of the biggest things that I've learned in my walk with God, God will always protect the integrity of your heart if you do what's right. 00:40:31.440 --> 00:40:35.599 If you do what's right, God will always protect you. 00:40:35.840 --> 00:40:39.679 God will always, listen, have an open door of escape. 00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:45.519 It's never failed me. 00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:49.599 So I keep my heart right despite what they say. 00:40:53.280 --> 00:41:08.239 Because they just gonna I've been stored, I allowed the word to be stored up so much on the inside of me that when whatever they say comes to me, it bounces, it just bounces right off of me. 00:41:09.360 --> 00:41:12.159 It doesn't even bother me, it doesn't even affect me. 00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:12.480 Why? 00:41:12.639 --> 00:41:14.239 Because that's not who I am. 00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:14.880 Why? 00:41:15.119 --> 00:41:19.039 Because my heart is rooted in my true identification. 00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:22.400 I'm his child, I'm his son. 00:41:22.800 --> 00:41:31.199 And because I'm his son, if somebody else is saying words that my father didn't say, question that lie. 00:41:32.639 --> 00:41:34.000 Where did that come from? 00:41:34.159 --> 00:41:37.280 That came from the pit of hell, so I choose not to receive that. 00:41:41.280 --> 00:41:44.000 So I stay in my kingship authority. 00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:48.800 But it's a heart issue. 00:41:50.400 --> 00:41:56.800 You get your heart right, you can stay right with him, then you can flow with him. 00:41:58.559 --> 00:42:00.880 All right, you all stand on your feet today. 00:42:07.119 --> 00:42:08.719 It's a heart issue. 00:42:17.599 --> 00:42:20.719 Before we do this, renouncing today. 00:42:23.760 --> 00:42:38.400 Some of you may have to forgive your father for not being there, abandoning you. 00:42:42.639 --> 00:42:44.400 Forgiveness is not for him. 00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:47.760 It's for you. 00:42:50.639 --> 00:42:52.239 This is how you get free. 00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:58.719 You've been holding him captive for what he didn't do. 00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:02.159 What he couldn't do. 00:43:04.159 --> 00:43:05.280 You know why? 00:43:05.679 --> 00:43:07.280 Because he was wounded. 00:43:09.360 --> 00:43:10.880 You gotta let him go. 00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:15.119 You gotta forgive him. 00:43:18.800 --> 00:43:27.840 Remember, the enemy's job is to steal, kill, and destroy. 00:43:32.000 --> 00:43:33.920 You gotta forgive your father. 00:43:37.440 --> 00:43:39.519 He's not in the earth anymore. 00:43:40.559 --> 00:43:42.480 The womb's still in your heart. 00:43:44.800 --> 00:43:46.239 You gotta let him go. 00:43:49.119 --> 00:43:57.679 And as a result of the unforgiveness that you have towards your father, it has rooted you in offense and unforgiveness to yourself. 00:43:58.239 --> 00:44:05.280 And so, in addition to that, some of you You all need to forgive yourselves for functioning into the womb that even came from your father. 00:44:09.760 --> 00:44:13.920 And you're blaming yourself for stuff. 00:44:18.559 --> 00:44:20.400 You gotta let all that go. 00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:27.119 And your heavenly father sees all of this. 00:44:30.079 --> 00:44:32.480 But you gotta understand something about God. 00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:35.519 He won't take anything away. 00:44:37.039 --> 00:44:38.480 You have to give it to him. 00:44:40.320 --> 00:44:45.119 He will allow you to keep it as long as you want to have it. 00:44:46.880 --> 00:44:48.559 You gotta give it to him. 00:44:48.960 --> 00:44:52.639 And when you give it to him, he'll receive it. 00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:59.119