WEBVTT 00:00:00.479 --> 00:00:04.240 This is Ronald Hopkins, and thank you for joining the Life Center Church. 00:00:05.839 --> 00:00:09.039 For you to throw this in somebody else's face. 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:20.719 He did it so that you can be healed once you understand how you've been wounded. 00:00:21.039 --> 00:00:32.240 Because what we have a tendency to do, especially if you're a husband and wife, we have a tendency to not look at self, but to look at your spouse like he's talking to you. 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:36.799 That's how you know you're off. 00:00:38.159 --> 00:00:47.600 Because if you're pointing the finger at somebody else, more than likely you should take that finger and turn around and say, The Lord is talking to me. 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:51.840 Now let's go to Genesis chapter 2. 00:00:52.159 --> 00:00:55.759 Because we're going to look at God's design for a wife. 00:00:56.719 --> 00:00:58.880 God's design for a wife. 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:01.520 Genesis chapter 2, verse number 18. 00:01:01.759 --> 00:01:02.640 Very familiar. 00:01:02.799 --> 00:01:09.359 And it says, And the Lord God said, It is not good that a man should be alone. 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:12.400 All the men should have shouted, Amen. 00:01:12.560 --> 00:01:13.439 Praise the Lord. 00:01:16.560 --> 00:01:19.840 I will make him a helpmeet. 00:01:21.359 --> 00:01:26.400 So there are two genders. 00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:31.680 That's the Bible. 00:01:34.480 --> 00:01:40.079 You all know I play high school basketball and college basketball and I watch sports, period. 00:01:41.040 --> 00:01:44.959 There's a an epidemic that's happening in the W. 00:01:46.319 --> 00:01:53.120 It stands for Women's Basketball Association. 00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:58.239 And they will not come out and define what a woman is. 00:02:06.719 --> 00:02:08.400 Let me help you understand. 00:02:08.639 --> 00:02:12.479 That is the world, and that is the enemy. 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:19.039 It should be crystal clear the point of view from believers. 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:26.639 There should be no confusion where believers are concerned about who a woman is. 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:34.400 So this probably will be controversial to the world, but not controversial to believers. 00:02:34.960 --> 00:02:43.919 If you're confused about that, every 30 days is an indication of who you are. 00:02:44.639 --> 00:02:48.800 Because every 30 days, thank the Lord, it doesn't happen to me. 00:02:53.199 --> 00:02:55.599 All the men should have ran around it. 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:08.879 Male and female, female, male and female. 00:03:14.400 --> 00:03:17.280 Male and female. 00:03:18.479 --> 00:03:27.199 You have to understand, women, why there's so much confusion and why there is an attack. 00:03:27.680 --> 00:03:40.159 You have to recognize that in the beginning, the Lord prophesied that there will be an enemy and enmity against the woman and Satan. 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:44.879 Because of who the woman bore. 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:49.199 The Lord Jesus. 00:03:49.520 --> 00:04:02.159 And from that moment forward, there has been and there will always be an attack against women because of, think about what Jesus did. 00:04:02.479 --> 00:04:07.520 He changed the entire world because he was born. 00:04:07.840 --> 00:04:10.400 What do you think happens when you give birth? 00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:15.520 Your seed changes the entire world. 00:04:16.000 --> 00:04:28.399 So there's always going to be an attack against your identification to cause confusion so that birth never takes place. 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:37.040 How else can children come about? 00:04:39.519 --> 00:04:42.560 A man cannot have a baby. 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:55.279 I don't want that. 00:04:58.879 --> 00:05:01.279 I don't know why that's so confusing. 00:05:02.480 --> 00:05:08.160 I don't know if man of you've ever been in the room with your spouse, but man. 00:05:13.040 --> 00:05:26.879 They stretching and moving and girls grow into women. 00:05:28.639 --> 00:05:30.959 Boys grow into men. 00:05:33.920 --> 00:05:38.639 If anything happens beyond that, there's confusion. 00:05:39.920 --> 00:05:44.480 And the Bible says when there's confusion, there's every evil. 00:05:46.879 --> 00:05:47.839 Praise the Lord. 00:05:49.199 --> 00:05:52.319 So Satan's strategy is not just to hurt women. 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:59.519 It's to wound you so that your identification never begins in the first place. 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:06.079 It's not just to hurt you, it's to wound you. 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:12.079 It's to cause you to get to a place where you don't know who you are. 00:06:12.240 --> 00:06:13.839 You don't know your purpose. 00:06:14.079 --> 00:06:15.759 You don't know why you exist. 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:18.720 And your relationships become damaged. 00:06:18.800 --> 00:06:26.480 And your emotions become all over the place, and you produce instability all the days of your life. 00:06:26.720 --> 00:06:34.480 It is the enemy who is behind it, and we've been exposing him throughout this series. 00:06:35.040 --> 00:06:58.480 Now, from Genesis chapter two, we can see that the woman is the covenant partner of the husband who's supposed to bring strength, wisdom, support, companionship, intimacy, and help to her husband. 00:07:01.360 --> 00:07:11.199 She wasn't created to compete with him, she was created to complete him. 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:20.160 She was created to walk alongside her husband, not behind. 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:26.480 She is your covenant partner. 00:07:28.240 --> 00:07:32.639 Now, since I'm out here, I might as well start saying some more stuff. 00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:37.920 Marriage is a blessing, not your identity. 00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:44.800 You don't find out who you are when you get married. 00:07:45.040 --> 00:07:49.839 You're supposed to know who you are before you get married. 00:07:50.319 --> 00:07:55.759 Your husband should not be the source of your life. 00:07:57.279 --> 00:08:03.439 Because what has happened is women have made the husband the source. 00:08:04.079 --> 00:08:10.160 And when he doesn't come through for you now, you have been disappointed. 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:15.680 Because he let you down. 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:20.000 Well, you put him on a throne where only Jesus is supposed to be at. 00:08:22.240 --> 00:08:24.720 And that now becomes a womb. 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:28.879 Okay, let's let's let's let's get into this now. 00:08:29.199 --> 00:08:31.279 So the wife room. 00:08:31.759 --> 00:08:42.559 It's a place in a woman's heart where her understanding of covenant, partnership, respect. 00:08:46.480 --> 00:08:48.559 She has to understand respect. 00:08:49.919 --> 00:08:54.000 Same way we talked about men, he has to understand love. 00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:58.639 These are two areas where marriages are breaking down. 00:08:58.960 --> 00:09:10.320 He doesn't understand how to love her the way she needs to be loved, and she doesn't understand how to respect him the way he needs to be respected. 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:17.679 So she has to understand what respect is, and respect is not popping off. 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:33.679 She has to understand what trust is. 00:09:51.759 --> 00:09:53.200 Communication. 00:09:58.720 --> 00:10:03.279 She has to understand that the same way he has to understand that. 00:10:04.960 --> 00:10:12.720 Support, she has to understand that she's been created to support him. 00:10:19.200 --> 00:10:20.960 She has to understand. 00:10:21.679 --> 00:10:28.159 I have been created by God to support what God has called you to do. 00:10:28.480 --> 00:10:31.039 I am in a support role. 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:37.919 And whatever and however you need me to support, I am here to do so. 00:10:39.360 --> 00:10:40.960 She has to understand that. 00:10:48.799 --> 00:10:50.399 And they work together. 00:10:53.120 --> 00:11:00.080 And when she understands all of these things, they are expressed in her marriage. 00:11:01.039 --> 00:11:03.039 So the opposite is true. 00:11:03.279 --> 00:11:11.440 When she does not understand these things, it's still expressed in the marriage. 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:18.399 So when she doesn't understand trust, it's expressed in the marriage. 00:11:18.720 --> 00:11:24.399 When she doesn't understand intimacy, it's expressed in the marriage. 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:31.279 When she does not know how to communicate, it is expressed in the marriage. 00:11:32.799 --> 00:11:38.399 When she doesn't understand, covenant, not cohabitation. 00:11:41.440 --> 00:11:44.799 It's expressed in the marriage. 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:49.919 Now we went to a conference this past week. 00:11:56.799 --> 00:11:58.879 It wasn't for the faint at heart. 00:12:00.159 --> 00:12:04.960 Because every session was at least five to six hours long. 00:12:06.480 --> 00:12:13.840 So we check into the hotel, and we stayed in the host hotel. 00:12:14.720 --> 00:12:20.240 And because we stayed in the host hotel, we paid months in advance. 00:12:21.120 --> 00:12:26.639 And they end up giving us a room, but it had two separate beds. 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:36.720 I was upset. 00:12:43.679 --> 00:12:46.799 I I'm twenty-seven years in this thing. 00:12:47.200 --> 00:12:50.320 There's no there's no separation. 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:53.519 You making me sleep in a separate bed. 00:13:00.879 --> 00:13:03.120 I I understand some things. 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:07.120 How you gonna sleep in a separate room than your spouse? 00:13:08.720 --> 00:13:09.840 Don't miss that. 00:13:12.159 --> 00:13:15.919 How you gonna get in a you gon' sleep on the couch? 00:13:17.519 --> 00:13:21.519 A lack of understanding of intimacy. 00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:24.320 You might as well stay single. 00:13:29.919 --> 00:13:35.200 So whatever is happening in the wife room will eventually show up in the marriage. 00:13:36.159 --> 00:13:47.600 Whatever is happening in the wife room will show up in the marriage because what shapes her heart will shape how she sees things. 00:13:48.399 --> 00:13:49.279 So true. 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:54.879 It will shape how she feels about a situation. 00:13:55.840 --> 00:14:00.639 It will cause her to think a certain way. 00:14:01.360 --> 00:14:07.919 You can be healthy in one area of your life and be wounded in another. 00:14:10.720 --> 00:14:16.720 When a man is successful, he can be wounded as a son. 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:26.240 I need you to understand this because there are rooms in our lives that we've not dealt with. 00:14:27.440 --> 00:14:35.200 A woman functions as a mother, but can carry unresolved wounds as a daughter. 00:14:36.639 --> 00:14:43.759 She can love God with all of her heart and have unresolved wounds with her husband. 00:14:44.720 --> 00:14:53.039 And we can come in church and act like, praise the Lord, but we're wounded. 00:14:53.600 --> 00:15:02.960 Now, these rooms are important because they help you see where the womb, where the wound shows up. 00:15:04.320 --> 00:15:07.919 Now, let's look at Rachel today. 00:15:09.039 --> 00:15:12.080 Let me say this because we're going to close this out. 00:15:12.320 --> 00:15:17.600 Whatever you refuse to heal in one room will show up in another room. 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:24.559 It will show up in a different room. 00:15:25.840 --> 00:15:34.320 So you might say that in the sun room I am going to be healed. 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:40.080 However, you can be wounded as a father. 00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:50.080 Go to Genesis chapter 29 because we're going to look at Rachel today. 00:15:52.960 --> 00:15:58.000 Whatever you continue to hide can never be healed. 00:15:59.679 --> 00:16:02.080 Quit hiding. 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:08.559 Because you end up carrying it for the rest of your life. 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:17.279 Genesis chapter 29. 00:16:17.440 --> 00:16:18.879 Let me give you the backdrop. 00:16:19.039 --> 00:16:24.879 We already looked at Leah, so you are very familiar with the rest of this story. 00:16:25.120 --> 00:16:29.200 We know that she is the youngest sister of Laban. 00:16:29.840 --> 00:16:34.399 And we know that Rachel married Jacob. 00:16:34.960 --> 00:16:38.720 And her sister married Jacob. 00:16:39.600 --> 00:16:41.440 How many of you have siblings? 00:16:44.639 --> 00:16:51.600 I could not imagine, I have I have brothers, that my brother is married to my wife and I am too. 00:17:15.039 --> 00:17:26.160 So Genesis chapter 29, verse number 18, it says, And Jacob loved Rachel and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel, thy younger daughter. 00:17:26.400 --> 00:17:29.119 Let's go to verse number 30. 00:17:29.680 --> 00:17:39.680 It says, and he went in also with Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served yet with him another seven years. 00:17:39.839 --> 00:17:40.960 Verse number 31. 00:17:41.039 --> 00:17:48.079 And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb, but Rachel was barren. 00:17:48.319 --> 00:17:54.799 So we see that there was a complicated situation that was happening. 00:17:59.039 --> 00:18:12.880 And it's interesting when I went back and reread this, is that even in a complicated situation, there's always something positive to focus in on. 00:18:14.160 --> 00:18:26.799 But yet, when you don't look at the positive and you look at the negative, then you can focus more on the negative than you do on the positive. 00:18:28.720 --> 00:18:32.559 Jacob, the Bible says, love Rachel. 00:18:33.039 --> 00:18:37.759 So Rachel had something that Leah wanted. 00:18:38.079 --> 00:18:40.160 Jacob's affection. 00:18:41.200 --> 00:18:45.440 Leah had something that Rachel wanted. 00:18:46.160 --> 00:18:47.119 Children. 00:18:49.680 --> 00:18:52.799 Notice her circumstances. 00:18:53.519 --> 00:18:56.960 She could not bear children. 00:18:57.279 --> 00:19:02.960 Now, in the Old Testament, when that happened, that was considered to be cursed. 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:08.480 So they understood the importance of motherhood. 00:19:11.039 --> 00:19:23.119 It was important that they understood the importance of I have to raise children with fear and admonition of the Lord, and it is an honor to be a mother. 00:19:25.519 --> 00:19:28.000 It is an honor to be a mother. 00:19:30.160 --> 00:19:38.720 Now, be mindful not to turn legitimate desires into emotional requirements. 00:19:46.319 --> 00:19:51.359 Because God created us to enjoy things. 00:19:52.640 --> 00:20:01.359 The problem is when you allow what you want to determine what it is that you don't have. 00:20:25.039 --> 00:20:26.880 Now, point number one. 00:20:34.160 --> 00:20:42.160 Now, verse number 31 says, And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb, but Rachel was barren. 00:20:42.400 --> 00:20:44.240 So, what is the wound? 00:20:44.480 --> 00:20:46.960 Now I want you to catch this today. 00:20:48.160 --> 00:21:08.720 Here's the wound: the pain of an unfulfilled desire that became a vulnerable place for her identity, expectations, and her marriage to be affected. 00:21:09.200 --> 00:21:19.599 So it was, listen, the pain of an unfulfilled desire. 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:29.759 This is where marriages break down. 00:21:30.880 --> 00:21:40.160 Because it's an unfulfilled desire, and what goes along with that is pain. 00:21:41.839 --> 00:21:44.960 Her pain was legitimate. 00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:47.839 She couldn't have kids. 00:21:49.200 --> 00:21:51.279 But that's all she focused on. 00:21:52.799 --> 00:21:59.759 She had a husband who loved her, she had everything else that she needed, but she focused in on that. 00:22:00.799 --> 00:22:10.720 One thing that one area and it affected her entire life. 00:22:10.960 --> 00:22:13.759 It affected how she saw things. 00:22:14.240 --> 00:22:17.680 It affected how she talked to people. 00:22:24.880 --> 00:22:28.559 The wound is the pain of an unfulfilled desire. 00:22:29.920 --> 00:22:36.720 The pain was something that she wanted that wasn't happening in her life. 00:22:37.039 --> 00:22:41.119 So she wanted something, but it wasn't happening. 00:22:42.799 --> 00:22:48.559 And because it wasn't happening, she felt bad about it. 00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:53.839 It changed her identification. 00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:59.119 It changed her relationships. 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:03.359 It changed her emotions. 00:23:04.079 --> 00:23:12.640 It changed her feelings all because she couldn't have what she wanted at that time. 00:23:16.720 --> 00:23:17.519 It's important. 00:23:17.599 --> 00:23:21.680 I'm going to reiterate as I've been saying this entire series. 00:23:22.079 --> 00:23:32.640 Every womb creates a vulnerable place in your heart that is going to open up the door to something. 00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:39.039 So there's when you have been wounded, your heart is wide open. 00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:50.000 And it can be wide open to then follow this progression that we've been talking about, or you can change the direction. 00:23:50.559 --> 00:23:56.640 When your heart is wounded, more than likely a lie comes behind that. 00:24:00.319 --> 00:24:10.640 Now she became vulnerable in her identification because she said, I don't have children, which was a fact. 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:15.200 There's a difference between the fact and the truth. 00:24:16.400 --> 00:24:19.039 And many times we don't understand that. 00:24:19.359 --> 00:24:22.240 A fact can be changed. 00:24:24.319 --> 00:24:30.319 You have to get to the place where you recognize that that is a fact. 00:24:30.880 --> 00:24:34.480 It may be factual that your head is hurting. 00:24:35.119 --> 00:24:37.920 You can't deny you got a headache. 00:24:38.240 --> 00:24:42.319 It's foolish to say my head don't hurt and your head is pounding. 00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:47.599 But what does the truth say? 00:24:50.079 --> 00:24:53.440 Stop denying things that are factual. 00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:55.119 It may be a fact. 00:24:55.359 --> 00:24:58.240 You may have one dollar in your bank account. 00:24:59.039 --> 00:25:00.880 That may be a fact. 00:25:01.200 --> 00:25:02.799 But what does the truth say? 00:25:04.640 --> 00:25:13.759 So we have to get to the place where we understand and we receive the truth instead of receiving a lie. 00:25:17.759 --> 00:25:25.039 Never allow temporary circumstances to write a permanent definition of who you are. 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:34.559 And because she could not at this moment have children, notice the conclusion that she came up with. 00:25:35.440 --> 00:25:37.519 Something must be wrong with me. 00:25:41.039 --> 00:25:46.799 Because I could not have children, something must be wrong. 00:25:47.119 --> 00:25:48.960 And we do the same thing. 00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:56.799 Point number two. 00:25:58.079 --> 00:25:58.400 Okay. 00:25:59.920 --> 00:26:10.880 There's an empty place that many have that voice of that empty place has become louder than the voice of God. 00:26:12.880 --> 00:26:23.039 You cannot allow that empty space or that unfulfilled desire that's in your heart to speak louder than the word. 00:26:23.839 --> 00:26:38.319 If you have allowed that empty space or that unfulfilled desire to become louder than the voice of God, then the enemy is now fulfilling that empty space with lies. 00:26:39.920 --> 00:26:41.680 The Lord said, stop that. 00:26:44.960 --> 00:26:50.000 Point number two, what are you allowing to define you? 00:26:52.160 --> 00:27:01.359 What have you allowed to determine who you are, what you can do, what you can have? 00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:06.160 Have you allowed a lack of education? 00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:12.000 Because I don't have a degree, they said I couldn't get this job. 00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:16.640 You just allowed a degree to define you. 00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:20.079 Do you realize that that didn't happen? 00:27:20.240 --> 00:27:23.200 Degrees didn't happen until after the fall. 00:27:25.440 --> 00:27:28.880 Adam didn't have a degree, and he named all the animals. 00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:41.359 My Bible told me that God can make you smarter than professors. 00:27:46.559 --> 00:27:50.880 What have you allowed to define you? 00:27:51.920 --> 00:27:59.680 Who have you allowed to determine what you can do or what you cannot do? 00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:03.200 Surely there are no limits with God. 00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:06.480 I don't know if you caught that. 00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:09.519 There are no limits with God. 00:28:11.519 --> 00:28:14.079 He is a limitless father. 00:28:14.400 --> 00:28:19.920 And he has a limitless supply of whatever you desire. 00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:42.240 Now, Genesis chapter 30, verse number one, it says, And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I'm getting ready to die. 00:28:47.359 --> 00:28:49.440 That was extreme. 00:28:51.599 --> 00:28:53.759 But notice what the lie is. 00:28:54.480 --> 00:29:00.079 Because this area of my life is empty, my whole life is empty. 00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:07.039 I cannot be fulfilled in life without this one thing. 00:29:11.119 --> 00:29:16.559 The lie, listen, is exposed in words. 00:29:17.839 --> 00:29:32.400 If you listen long enough to people talk, you will hear whether or not they have gotten into agreement with the lie or the truth. 00:29:35.039 --> 00:29:37.200 What have you been saying? 00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:45.839 She was overly emotional. 00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:53.680 And because she was overly emotional, she wasn't stable. 00:29:55.279 --> 00:29:59.759 And because she wasn't stable, her mouth wasn't stable. 00:30:00.160 --> 00:30:04.640 And because her mouth wasn't stable, her actions weren't stable. 00:30:04.880 --> 00:30:08.960 And because her actions weren't stable, her mind wasn't stable. 00:30:09.119 --> 00:30:11.759 Her entire life was out of control. 00:30:12.000 --> 00:30:12.400 Why? 00:30:12.559 --> 00:30:15.599 Because she believed and she got in agreement with that lie. 00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:25.440 You can be married and only see one thing. 00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:32.240 You can be single and only focus on one thing. 00:30:32.480 --> 00:30:37.039 And you can miss what God is doing in your life. 00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:46.240 Lies will magnify what's missing. 00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:50.960 Because that's all you're talking about. 00:30:52.400 --> 00:30:53.759 Is what's missing. 00:30:54.000 --> 00:30:56.000 What about what you already have? 00:30:57.599 --> 00:30:59.680 What about what God is already doing? 00:31:00.160 --> 00:31:03.039 What about what He's already done for you? 00:31:07.200 --> 00:31:09.680 Psalm number thirty-seven. 00:31:13.440 --> 00:31:16.160 Psalm number thirty-seven. 00:31:17.359 --> 00:31:37.200 Stanza number four says, if you delight yourself, you delight yourself, you delight yourself in the Lord, notice if you delight yourself in the Lord, what the Lord will then do, because He knows those desires that are in your heart. 00:31:37.519 --> 00:31:40.400 Who do you think put those desires there? 00:31:40.880 --> 00:31:41.599 Right, right. 00:31:42.880 --> 00:31:51.359 He put those desires there to bring those desires to pass when you delight yourself in him. 00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:53.440 Here's the issue. 00:31:53.759 --> 00:31:57.680 We try to get the desires in our heart without him. 00:32:01.759 --> 00:32:04.640 And those desires go unfulfilled. 00:32:04.880 --> 00:32:13.519 His responsibility is to fulfill those desires when you delight yourself in him, when you stay in prayer. 00:32:13.839 --> 00:32:15.599 That's why you got to have a prayer life. 00:32:17.039 --> 00:32:18.559 When you stay in the word. 00:32:20.720 --> 00:32:22.240 When you speak the word. 00:32:24.559 --> 00:32:32.559 When you delight yourself in him, he will bring those desires to pass in your life. 00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:37.920 He is the only person that can do it. 00:32:41.680 --> 00:32:44.079 I'm going to let that sit in for a minute. 00:32:44.319 --> 00:32:49.279 Because there are things in your heart that he's put there. 00:32:50.480 --> 00:32:53.839 He is the only person that can make it happen. 00:32:55.039 --> 00:32:56.000 Not you. 00:32:58.880 --> 00:33:00.480 Can I help you all out? 00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:21.359 There are things that the Lord has placed in my heart that I realized that the only person that can give me the resources, open up the doors, grace me to do it is Him. 00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:27.119 How those things come to pass, I have to stay in Him. 00:33:28.000 --> 00:33:30.880 I have to stay connected to Him. 00:33:31.279 --> 00:33:41.519 And as I'm staying connected in Him and I'm listening to Him and I'm following Him, He will then say, Now is the time. 00:33:42.799 --> 00:33:49.039 Now there is a door because every door that opens is not God opening that door. 00:33:49.359 --> 00:33:51.759 There are doors that are traps. 00:33:54.400 --> 00:34:05.440 So you gotta be sensitive to Him, staying in Him, so He can bring to pass those things that are in your heart. 00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:16.559 Don't allow disappointment to create tunnel vision. 00:34:19.119 --> 00:34:23.360 Some have gotten off because your vision is off. 00:34:24.639 --> 00:34:27.840 Because you've been disappointed. 00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:51.360 He disappointed you, she disappointed you, your parents disappointed you, your godparents disappointed you, your grandparents disappointed you, your job disappointed you, and it caused you to lose sight of what's most important. 00:34:52.639 --> 00:35:02.000 All you're doing is focusing in on what they did and what they said, and it's caused you not to see clearly. 00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:07.679 Okay. 00:35:09.519 --> 00:35:19.360 And what happens is because of that, you have allowed your thinking to become a pattern. 00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:28.079 And that pattern has called you to become or be in a place called a stronghold. 00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:30.400 So now you're stuck. 00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:40.800 Go to Second Corinthians chapter, I believe it's ten. 00:35:44.159 --> 00:35:46.639 I'm bouncing a little bit, Tina. 00:35:48.400 --> 00:35:52.559 Second Corinthians chapter ten, verse number four. 00:35:52.719 --> 00:36:00.320 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of a stronghold. 00:36:03.360 --> 00:36:21.360 A stronghold is an established pattern of thinking that's built around the lie that begins to influence you on how you see things, how you see yourself, how you see other people. 00:36:23.280 --> 00:36:33.119 A stronghold, when this pattern of thinking is wrong, it can even cause you to see God in the wrong way. 00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:39.440 God is the taker of life. 00:36:41.840 --> 00:36:44.480 That's a stronghold, and that's a lie. 00:36:46.559 --> 00:36:50.239 Why did you take my God doesn't take anybody? 00:36:51.679 --> 00:36:58.480 How can Jesus go to the cross, go to hell in our place, and then He takes people out of this world? 00:36:58.639 --> 00:37:00.559 That's an insult to the cross. 00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:01.920 But you know what that is? 00:37:02.079 --> 00:37:08.719 It's a stronghold because somewhere along the line, somebody fed you a lie that you believed that. 00:37:08.880 --> 00:37:13.440 And now because you believe that, it influenced how you see God. 00:37:17.199 --> 00:37:20.800 Many of God's people are living life in a prison. 00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:29.119 Because you believe the lie that the enemy fed you that you're not enough. 00:37:29.360 --> 00:37:31.199 You're not good enough. 00:37:32.320 --> 00:37:34.000 You're unworthy. 00:37:38.159 --> 00:37:40.800 And it formed your thinking. 00:37:41.039 --> 00:37:45.119 And now, because it formed your thinking, you act a certain way. 00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:47.920 You don't think that way. 00:37:48.079 --> 00:37:52.159 So now you walk, your posture even the same. 00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:57.519 You just feel weak. 00:37:58.480 --> 00:38:00.559 You don't think you can do this. 00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:03.920 You have no confidence, you have no self-esteem. 00:38:04.079 --> 00:38:04.400 Why? 00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:12.000 Because somewhere along the line, you believe the lie, and the lie became a stronghold. 00:38:12.239 --> 00:38:18.559 And now you're in a prison that you can't get out of, and you're screaming for help. 00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:21.920 It's a stronghold. 00:38:22.639 --> 00:38:23.920 It's a lie. 00:38:24.719 --> 00:38:29.039 This happens to men, and it happens to women. 00:38:30.320 --> 00:38:33.840 It's a strong hold. 00:38:35.119 --> 00:38:41.840 It's been holding God's people captive for a very long time. 00:38:43.039 --> 00:38:46.719 But the Bible is real clear what we're supposed to do. 00:38:47.519 --> 00:38:50.719 Cast down imaginations. 00:38:51.840 --> 00:38:55.760 And every high thing, notice what it's supposed to do. 00:38:56.079 --> 00:38:59.280 It's trying to get above the word. 00:39:00.400 --> 00:39:12.880 So any stronghold that you've allowed to continuously tell you a lie, if you don't know the word in that area, you will remain in prison. 00:39:15.280 --> 00:39:23.440 So you must know the word in order to deal with the stronghold in order to get out of prison. 00:39:24.880 --> 00:39:26.639 You don't need money for this one. 00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:29.920 You need the word. 00:39:30.880 --> 00:39:40.320 You're supposed to cast down those thoughts to the word and put the word in place of the lie. 00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:50.320 Notice this if you go back to Genesis, Rachel looked at herself through barrenness. 00:39:52.719 --> 00:39:54.480 Because she believed a lie. 00:39:55.599 --> 00:39:58.880 She looked at her sister through envy. 00:39:59.599 --> 00:40:03.360 Because her sister had something that she wanted. 00:40:03.599 --> 00:40:05.599 And you know what was painful? 00:40:05.920 --> 00:40:12.079 She had to constantly look at her sister having kids when she couldn't. 00:40:13.440 --> 00:40:18.320 So she put her eyes on somebody else. 00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:24.079 You have your own race to run. 00:40:26.079 --> 00:40:29.440 You have your own calling to fulfill. 00:40:30.079 --> 00:40:32.400 You have your own assignment. 00:40:34.079 --> 00:40:36.079 You need to have tunnel vision. 00:40:37.199 --> 00:40:38.320 Okay, yeah. 00:40:38.480 --> 00:40:40.880 Some of you need to get off social media. 00:40:47.599 --> 00:40:53.840 Listen, she looked at her husband through unmet expectations. 00:40:55.360 --> 00:40:58.800 The stronghold didn't change the people around Rachel. 00:40:59.199 --> 00:41:06.559 It changes the lenses and through which Rachel saw people around her. 00:41:07.920 --> 00:41:11.519 So she looked at people as the problem. 00:41:16.320 --> 00:41:18.239 She looked at other people. 00:41:19.039 --> 00:41:24.000 She focused more on what other people were doing. 00:41:27.760 --> 00:41:39.440 When a stronghold controls your perception, people stop being people and they become reminders of your pain. 00:41:43.199 --> 00:41:46.960 Everything in your life you don't have to agree with it. 00:41:50.480 --> 00:41:52.559 Let me talk to this side. 00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:59.760 Everything that happens in your life, you don't have to get into an agreement with. 00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:11.280 Many times we settle for less because we don't know that we're supposed to have more. 00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:15.039 So we settle. 00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:19.440 We get into an agreement with lies. 00:42:22.239 --> 00:42:26.480 Just because you think something doesn't mean it's absolutely true. 00:42:30.559 --> 00:42:34.000 Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's real. 00:42:36.239 --> 00:42:37.920 Okay, maybe this side will say. 00:42:51.440 --> 00:42:54.559 Because you can feel something and be absolutely wrong. 00:42:57.119 --> 00:43:07.119 You're supposed to challenge it, reject it, and bring it under subjection to the word. 00:43:09.440 --> 00:43:19.840 You're supposed to challenge it, reject it, and bring it under subjection to the word. 00:43:20.559 --> 00:43:23.280 Tell me those three things you're supposed to do. 00:43:25.199 --> 00:43:29.199 Reject it and bring it under subjection to the word. 00:43:30.800 --> 00:43:32.559 Now let's close here. 00:43:32.880 --> 00:43:34.159 Point number four. 00:43:34.960 --> 00:43:38.079 What's happening in you will come out of you. 00:43:50.960 --> 00:43:56.480 But what's happening, it's a response delayed based upon your pain. 00:43:58.559 --> 00:43:59.840 So it comes out as your personality. 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:03.599 Personality, but what it is, is pain. 00:44:08.000 --> 00:44:16.800 And your behavior, how you respond, should tell you something is not right. 00:44:19.199 --> 00:44:24.239 Based off of how they respond to you, that's why you shouldn't get upset. 00:44:25.679 --> 00:44:27.760 You shouldn't get frustrated. 00:44:28.079 --> 00:44:34.079 Because based off of their response to you, you should say, something's wrong with him. 00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:41.840 Nobody in their right mind would respond that way. 00:44:43.760 --> 00:44:49.440 Somebody that's actually living this thing, they don't respond. 00:44:49.840 --> 00:44:53.280 That should tell you not to be frustrated with them. 00:44:54.079 --> 00:44:59.679 But take a position of they've been wounded, and now let me pray. 00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:05.039 They've been hurt, so now let me cover them. 00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:09.760 Not going evil for evil. 00:45:11.599 --> 00:45:14.559 Not going back and forth with them, not arguing with them. 00:45:14.800 --> 00:45:19.440 They've been wounded and they don't even know it and they're responding that way. 00:45:19.599 --> 00:45:22.719 Oh, I gotta take this, oh, I gotta, I gotta cover them in prayer. 00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:26.159 They don't even realize what's happening. 00:45:27.119 --> 00:45:31.599 So your behavior should tell you something's wrong. 00:45:32.159 --> 00:45:38.000 If you are yelling at fault, something is wrong. 00:45:39.360 --> 00:45:44.960 If you can't accept criticism, something is wrong. 00:45:48.400 --> 00:45:53.760 If you don't want to be accountable, oh something is wrong. 00:45:54.079 --> 00:46:00.639 Listen, if we don't hear from you and you've been hiding, something is wrong. 00:46:00.880 --> 00:46:01.920