Your Family Knows When You're Not Really There

You can be in the room and still be missing. 

 Jason Hewlett takes on distracted presence, phone snubbing, and the promise to give the people in front of you time and love in the same moment.

In this episode, we cover...
FREEDOM OF SPEECH — "The Small Betrayal"
The FULL STORY: Your Family Knows When You're Not Really There
FROM THE NEWSFEED — "The New Word for an Old Problem: Phubbing"
FAITH & HOPE — "Jesus Looked Up"
FATHER TIME — "The Look-Up Promise"
FUNNY FACTORY — "My Phone Thinks It's Family"
FITNESS MINUTE — "Your Body Cannot Multitask Presence"


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Transcript

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Hello. You can be sitting at the dinner table and still not be there. Your body made it. Your chair's full. Your plate is right in front of you, and everybody can see you, but your eyes keep dropping. Just for a second. Just to check, just to make sure it's nothing important. And the person across from you learns something without you ever saying a word. Whatever is on that screen has permission to interrupt me. Tonight is not about hating phones. I like phones. I use mine for business, family, friends, and people I love. And tonight is about the promise we make when we walk into the room. Because presence is not the absence of technology. Presence is deciding that the human being in front of me will not have to compete with everybody who's not here. That is the promise. And if we are honest, most of us have been breaking it in small ways for a long time. Welcome to the Jason Hewlett Show. Yes, welcome to the show. Coming up on today's episode of the Jason Hewlett Show. We're going to go into freedom of speech first with the small betrayal, the phone glance, the half-listen, the promise to become all the way present. In the full story, we'll get to your family knows when you're not really there. This is the Jason Hewlett promise line that gives this whole episode its spine. And from the news feed, the new word for an old problem. Fubbing. Yeah. P H U, B B I N G Fubbing, the research-backed warning that our phones are teaching people they are second. Faith and Hope section will be talking about Jesus looked up, Zacchias, attention, the holy act of seeing the person, everyone else pass by. Then in Father Time, we're going to be uh talking about uh something very special to me, which is I call it the Madman segment. So I hope you appreciate that. I'm going to be playing a song I've never played before, and I wrote it many years ago. That's what's fun about doing this show. I get the place to uh share and experiment. So then we'll do that. The funny factory after that is my phone thinks it's my family. I mean, fake listening, screen time reports, emotional support rectangle in your pocket. We'll make fun of that a little bit. And then the fitness minute, we're always brought to you by Cardio Miracle. Yes, this is the world's finest nitric oxide and vitamin D3 supplement. And we'll talk about attention, movement, presence, recovery, the decision to stop outsourcing your energy to a screen. So stay with me. This one is about being all there. Let's go into freedom of speech. My dad shaped me. He was trying to close the gap between who I was and who he could already see I was capable of becoming. The wound and the gift are sometimes the same thing. You are not the cool dad, you are the real dad. I mean, we sit together and disappear separately. We say, Hey, I'm listening, while our thumb proves we're not. And we ask our kids how their day was, and then make them compete with a notification. And maybe that sounds harsh, and it should. Because leadership does not start on a stage, it starts with eye contact. You know, even every time I'm looking over at my my points and my scripting, I mean, I'm breaking eye contact with you. I don't know if you feel the difference, but imagine somebody sitting next to you and they're just looking down at their phone all the time. That that's a big break in the eye contact. I do wish I could have a teleprompter or something pre uh pre-ready to do this, but I'm just not at that space yet. And so I'm still having to look over here. Leadership does not, like I say, start on a stage. It starts with eye contact, and it starts when your wife begins a sentence and you do not reach for the glowing rectangle. It starts when your son walks into the room and you look up like his arrival matters. Presence is not a personality trait, presence is a promise. Now, I wrote years ago that the promise is 100% presence, and that presence equals time and love in the same moment. I've been talking about this on stages all over the world for many years now, over a decade. And time by itself is not presence. You can give someone an hour and still make them feel like an interruption. Love by itself isn't presence either. You can love somebody deeply and still train them to stop expecting your attention. Presence is when time and love show up in the same moment. And most of us are not leaving our families in dramatic ways. We're not packing a suitcase or slamming a door shut. We are not saying you do not matter. We're doing something quieter. It's this is a subtle, this is a this is a kind of a challenge in its own right because we're glancing down. We're doing something quiet. We're checking the message, we're refreshing the feed, we're opening tomorrow's email tonight. And we look up and say, Oh, sorry, what were you saying? Oh man, that sentence is more expensive than we think. And because sometimes the answer is, I was saying something, but now I know you're not really with me. And we think the phone glance is neutral. Well, it's not. It teaches the people we love how interruption works around us. So, for example, if you've ever been at a meeting with somebody, you know that if they look down at their phone, they're they're probably just getting a notification. But when they start to focus on it, it's like, do I keep talking while you're looking down at your phone? Because I don't know. So if I have to use my phone for any reason, I'll say, Hey, I'm gonna check my that notification that just came in. Oh, it's not a problem. Thank you. But if it is, I can say, Oh, I have a real problem here. I hope you understand. And or you could say, hey, I want to show you something on my phone. I want to find a picture of my family to share with you because you're telling me about your family. So keep telling me about your family. I'm gonna find my picture. Those types of things can work, but uh the we think the phone glance is neutral. It's not. I mean, you can have me unless my phone lights up. That's kind of the that's kind of the gist there. You can talk unless something else arrives. That's not presence, that's attendance. Here's the test. When the people closest to you walk into the room, what does your face do? Not your speech, not your values, not your not anything else. It's your face. What is your face? Does it stay buried? Does it look annoyed? And when my kids come into my office, I'm usually doing something important. I'm typing. I'm in the middle of something really. Well, if I turn and give them my full attention and I look at them and then I hug them or I listen to what their question is, it's so much better than just continue to be typing as fast as I can and kind of not paying attention to what they're doing. Does this say give me one second again? Or does it lift? I mean, that's leadership. Your face is off in the first place. Your promise either shows up or fails, and a child can read your face before they can read a book. A spouse can read your face before you say, I'm fine. And your face cannot lead while it is pointed at the floor. This is not about shame. Shame makes us hide. This is about awareness, and awareness makes us choose. So because the distracted life is built by a thousand tiny permissions, the table, the car, the bed, the movie, the prayer, the one hour where everyone finally landed together, then we wonder why our relationships feel thin. We have not lost love. We have lost undivided attention. So what do we do? We do not need to become a monk. We do not need to throw our phones into the nearest lake. We need a better promise. So try this. When I enter this room, I'll arrive all the way. Not forever, not perfectly, just on purpose. And dinner can be 20 minutes, make it 20 real minutes. The drive to practice can be 12 minutes, make it 12 minutes where your kid gets your attention. The first five minutes after you walk through the door can be protected. No phone, no inbox, just a face, the voice, the presence, the eye contact. It's not that complicated, but it is. It's hard because the device is trained to win. Promise was never supposed to be easy, it was supposed to be kept. So presence is one of the most powerful promises you will ever keep. And that's what we're talking about today on this powerful show. I love this content and I love talking about these types of things. So, questions for you. Where am I most often physically present but emotionally absent? And who in my life has learned to wait for my attention instead of expecting it? What room deserves a no phone promise this week? And what does my face communicate when my family walks in? And okay, lastly, what would change if I gave one person ten minutes of undivided attention every day? Good questions to consider. The full story right after this. You know, your family knows when you're not really there. There's a sentence I I wrote years ago I can't get away from. It's that the promise is 100% presence. I wrote about home. I and it's about family, it's about the gap between being good for an audience and being fully available to the people who know you without the microphone. And that's an uncomfortable part. So at work, we know how to show up, we know how to enter the room, we know how to shake hands, make eye contact, ask the questions, remember the name, deliver the result, make people feel like they have our best, and then we come home and give our family the leftovers of our attention. I like to say that you give your all to everyone else and you come home to your family and give them what you've got left. That's bummer. It's not because we don't love them, it's because love is not the same as presence. You can love your wife and still make her repeat the sentence. You can love your kids and still make them wait for your eyes. You can love your parents and still treat their calling like something you can half answer while doing three other things, and that is why the line matters. Presence is time and love in the same moment. Now it looks like we have some friends here today. I I I think my my man Randy McNeely's here a few minutes late. Thanks for being here, buddy. Looking forward to the rest of the show. Thanks for being here. You know what? Let me just say real quick about this guy, Randy. What a stud. Captain Kindman. Go follow him on LinkedIn. He's one of the most inspirational speakers out there and just human beings, just a good guy. Last week, uh, if you noticed, I didn't go live. In fact, I was so gravely ill that I was on my way to an emergency situation. Uh, I was unable to press play here. And uh I had informed the team as I was suffering, and I said, I'm so sorry, I never cancel anything. I cannot do this today, and I'm so sorry. You know, I my team was very concerned. They asked if I was okay, and you know, they're I they totally understood. They're so prof professional. I appreciate them. And then I got one message from one person who watches every week, Randy McNeely. He reached out and said, Hey man, I hope you're okay. I just noticed you're not live right now. And this is while I was driving to somewhere to go take care of some things. I was just in a something happened, uh, pain in my body that I've never experienced. And so it was a it was a rough week, um, a rough day. And uh it had it had already been manifesting for about 10 days. So it was an interesting experience. And I appreciate so much. I'm just saying, Randy, the fact that he reached out and said, How are you doing? I hope you're okay. You didn't go live. That tells me he's not only here every single week, but also like uh, you know, people are now starting to expect that I'm gonna be live at three o'clock on a Thursday. And that's a unique thing for me, anyway, because I'm pretty busy on Thursday. So thank you, Randy, for your support. Thank you to everyone who understands why I couldn't go live last week. But presence is is so important, and and uh so that's what we're talking about today. Presence is time and love in the same moment, and time without love is obligation, and love without time is theory. Presence is where the promise becomes visible, and it is it is the lookup, it's the phone down, the body turned toward the person, the quiet decision that says, You do not have to perform for my attention right now. You have it. That's the full story on this episode. It's not a war on technology, it's the return to the room. Because the room you're in is always asking one question, are you here? When I do my speeches, and when I'm the MC of events, which I get to do that a lot, I'll say to the people attending, I'll say, Hey, look, the hardest part for anyone in this building today doing this event is it's not the audiovisual people, it's not the speakers coming out, it's not the, it's not all the people that put this together. It's you as an audience member. This is a hard thing for you to be here for this, fully present in this moment. So can you be fully present and get everything you can out of it? Or are you going to be distracted with all the notifications? I mean, I'm challenging people with this all the time. It's a return to the room, it's not a warrant technology. Because your spouse is asking, are you here? Your child's asking, are you here? Your team is asking, are you here? And God may be asking it too. Randy, thanks for seeing me today. Thanks for being here. I am doing better, and I'm very thankful for that. God is good. So God might be asking, Are you here? The answer is not what you say, it is where your attention goes. So the promise this week is simple. Enter the room all the way, let your face arrive before your advice, let your attention prove what your mouth has already claimed. And if presence is time and love in the same moment, well then this week, give somebody both. You ready for the news feed? Let's go there now. So in the newsfeed, the new word for an old problem: fubbing. Yeah. P H U B B I N G. Maybe you never heard of that word before. There's a word that we're talking about, fubbing. It sounds like a cartoon insult. It's not. It's uh Utah State University Extension described fobbing as the act of ignoring the person you're with by focusing on your phone. That's an actual word. Okay. Fubbing. Painfully clear. The act of ignoring the person you're with by focusing on your phone. You're with someone, but you're not with someone. You're in the conversation, but the phone has the wheel. You're close enough to hear them, but distracted enough to miss them. So the same Utah State article says fobbing is associated with lower couple relationship satisfaction, decreased intimacy, and increased conflict. And it notes that even a brief phone glance can signal disinterest and reduce a person's willingness to communicate. That last part matters. It's not only that the phone interrupts the sentence, it can interrupt the future sentence because when someone feels ignored enough times, they stop offering as much of themselves. They shorten the story, they keep the tender thing inside. They say, Oh, never mind. And never mind is one of the saddest phrases in a house. I want you to think for just a second about this concept. Because I know in bed at night, my wife and I have gotten into that habit of just looking at our phones before bed. I mean, we just sit there and we share a lot of funny videos we see and things on the feed that we are things that happened that day, photos. It's a fun way to connect, you know, and just sit and laugh. And I I realized recently that I was like, I'm just laying here looking at my phone. Maybe it's even for 30 minutes or an hour, like you get sucked into this thing. You're not watching a movie with your spouse, you're not doing anything else with your partner, and you're just laying there looking at your phone. It's it's an interesting disconnect from being fully present in what we're talking about here in real life. And I I noticed the other day after I had laid there for an hour just looking at my phone, laughing and having a great time. I was having a great time. And then I looked over at my wife, she's on her phone, and I was like, you know, before the phone thing, I'd be rubbing her back, like, or I'd be kissing her or whatever, right? Like, what the heck? Well, let's be honest. Like, what are we doing? And it's it's interesting how much that disconnection can happen. And so you never want them to say never mind, or you never want to think like, oh, I I I'm not going to rub my wife's back because I'm looking at Instagram. What a shame. Instagram's great, but at the right time and right place. Let's talk about the other story. The message under the message from the newsfeed, uh a May 2026 psychology today piece, summarized by work with some great talented people on parental fubbing, reported that the researcher studied 159 Romanian adolescents ages 13 to 18. The article says that parental fubbing can make a child feel unimportant or neglected, and that adolescents' feelings of not mattering positively predicted smartphone addiction and related symptoms. So it is a cycle where we say it's the kids' problem. Well, it's our problem. That is a sentence worth sitting with. The child feels like they do not matter, then reaches for the same kind of device that helped create the feeling. So that's not a technology problem only, that's a belonging problem. So what's the flip? Utah State's Christina Pay recommends intentional presence, including simple rituals such as screen-free dinners, daily check-ins, and she says connection grows through consistency, not complexity. I love that. Consistency, not complexity. That sounds like the promise. Just a dinner where the phones are not invited. Just a walk where the person beside you gets the whole conversation, just a couch where your spouse does not have to wonder if you're listening. Meaningful relationships do not need perfect people. They need people who return. Return your eyes, return your attention, return your face, return your promise. The human need to be seen is older than every phone in the world. Let's talk faith and hope right after this. I don't know if I'm saying that right. I'm just gonna go for it. Zacaias was not just short, he was isolated, he was wealthy, but not respected, he was known but not visible. Um, I mean, he was visible enough to be hated and invisible enough to be missed, and so he climbed a tree just to see Jesus pass by. And that is the part we usually focus on. He wanted to see Jesus. But the miracle is that Jesus saw him. There was no fobbing in Jesus' time. Luke says Jesus came to the place, looked up, and said, Zacchias, hurry and come down, for I must stay at your house today. Jesus looked up. That phrase has been sitting with me. He looked up. Some of the best parts in my life have been when I've looked up. The crowd was moving, the noise was loud, everything and everybody wanted something. There were probably a hundred reasons to keep on walking, but Jesus looked up. He did not see a category, he didn't see a tax collector, a sinner, a problem, a reputation, he saw a man. And being seen changed the whole house. We talk about faith like it's always big big prayers, big miracles, big declarations, big mountain moving movements. Well, something you have to remember is that sometimes faith is looking up. Sometimes hope begins when someone important stops long enough to say your name. That's presence. Jesus did not outsource attention. I love that. Thought he didn't outsource his attention, he didn't assign it to other people, he was there. He did not treat people as interruptions to the mission. People were the mission. This is where this gets uncomfortable for me because I can tell myself I'm busy doing important things. All true. But if the people got Placed right in front of me, never get my eyes, then my productivity may be hiding a spiritual problem. I can be efficient and unavailable. I can be successful and unseen at home. I can be religious and still fail to look up. Jesus says, hurry and come down. That's not shame. That's invitation. Come down from the screen. Come down from the feed. Come down from the false emergency. Come down because there's a table. Come down because there's a conversation. Come down because somebody in your house does not need a perfect sermon from you. They need the person God assigned to love them to be all the way there. That is faith and daily clothes. And if you've ever been served by somebody who really ministers and is a Christ-like person, these are per people that look up. And these are people that encourage us to come and follow them. And or um come down from what we're looking at. And and so I think this is this is not flashy, it's not viral. Uh it's not always noticed by the world. This is faith in daily clothes. Heaven notices, and guess what? Your family notices. Let's jump into father time right after this. Alright, I'm taking a big old risk here, trying this one out. Because I wrote this song when I was a new dad, and I'm talking my my son just graduated from high school yesterday, the third child. Uh the kids are all older now, right? So they're like 20, 19, 18, and 14. I wrote this, I believe, when the older three kids were about the ages of two, three, and four. So that's almost 20 years now. So uh it says it's it's called The Madman, and that's what this segment of Father Time is about today. I just want to tell you about this song because I I wrote it out. You can see here, I've just got some lyrics, and then I've got the chord progressions, and then I've got some words that I thought should go along with the story. And you know, my original intention with doing the broadcast and the podcast, all these things was just to say, okay, I'm gonna tell the story of the song, and then I'm just gonna do the song, and then I'll tell more about my thoughts about that. And that was the original intention of doing the podcast and and doing this as a weekly effort. But instead, I've decided, okay, I'm just gonna add this within this show because we've got all these cool segments. So here's what the madman is. Um when I was trying to prove that I could make a living for my young family, I was I had to establish not only am I good on stage, but I have to be an entrepreneur. And if you've never run your own business, you have to be everything. You're the janitor, you're the you're the person at the front desk, you're the person in the back office, you're fixing everything in the IT world. And uh, luckily you can eventually find independent contractors that can help you with things. But at this time, I was fully engaged in being uh busy at all times, and I was successful meant 200 days per year on the road when my kids were little. And starting to have kids, I realized even as a business owner, that I was killing not only my relationships, but I was working myself to death. And um a change began once I wrote this song. I actually uh hired a therapist to help me to know like, should I be working this much this hard and losing my children's you know, growing up? And what I believe is that as I wrote this song, because it's called I'm Working Too Hard for the Madman, and I cannot believe it's me. Yes, I am self-employed, and I cannot avoid that. My family hardly knows me. So this is a hard song. I'm I'm calling myself out on this, but it's a clarion call to all men to re-evaluate priorities, habits, work hours, if possible, what one does with their time. I wrote it for men because I knew I was going through it. My wife was fully present with the kids, she's the best mom you've ever seen. And yet I remember the time that I was gone for two weeks performing, and my wife came to the airport and got me, and she was gone like 20, 40 minutes, whatever it was. And I've told this story other places, not on this podcast before, but I I remember I came through the door, I was so excited to see my little babies, and they all had their little diapers and their binkies and their onesies, and they would just run around the house, little two, three, and four-year-olds. And I remember opening the door with my wife, and I had been gone two weeks, she'd been gone 40 minutes, and I go, kids, daddy's home, and they go, mommy, and they ran right under my arm to mommy because she let me go in the house first. Daddy's home. Oh, this was a painful moment. I only share it because it's important to understand why I wrote this song. It's a choice to be the madman and to work for them and let it run your and rule your life. This phone, this technology, all of it, to try to survive and make a living. I mean, we have to do what we have to do, I know. But I thought that oh, and it's got Randy's saying, I used to travel and miss a lot of time with my family. I missed about nine months of my oldest daughter's second year. Yeah, I mean, good for you for doing what you have to do, and yet equally I know the pain. It's a painful thing knowing, hey, I have to go and do this for my child. They don't understand why. But it wasn't until I and I've said this before the goals before coming home was to be a better dad, and then it wasn't until I made it a promise to be the kind of dad any kid would want to have. And I'm still working on this. This is why I talk about it, it's because it's hard to do. But what must be put away from your current habits, lifestyle choices that can lead you away from being the madman? You know, I I've played this song countless times for myself. I have my kids know this song, but they don't know the words because all they ever hear is me playing as loud as I can on the piano. I wrote it almost 20 years ago, and this is the first time I've ever played it anywhere. I hope it goes alright. I'm still even trying to figure out the right rhythm and beat for it. So I hope this goes okay. I may even start over a few times, but this is called The Madman, and uh this is this is a little bit of a risk for me to try this one. But that's what we do on this show. Going for it. Let's go to the piano. All right, here we are. This is a song that's very important to me. It's called The Madman.

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This is the whole sons killing the town of the children, so we call the concept.

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And there we have it. The Madman. First time it's been played, maybe the last. But I like that song. Makes me feel like it's happy sounding with the melody, and then you're like, oh man, that's really sad. But it's a choice. It's a choice to be the madman, or it's a choice to just simply be the kind of parent that's fully present every chance we get. Alright. You can put away the madman if you want. We're gonna jump right over now into the funny factory. Here we go. So let's talk about this. I don't want to be dramatic, but my phone thinks it's a member of a family, our family. It joins us for dinner, it comes on walks, it sits on the nightstand like a tiny glowing emotional support rectangle. And my phone is the neediest relationship in my life. Can I send you notifications? No. Can I know your location? No. Why are you coming to pick me up? Oh well, we we've become elite fake listeners. And my wife could tell me, could be telling me something very important, and I'll do the classic husband multitask face. You know what I'm talking about. Eyebrows up. Mm-hmm. Slow nod. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Right? You know that. That's not listening. That is buffering. The brain is not receiving information, it's just trying to look like the Wi-Fi is strong. Then she says, What did I just say? That's when every man joins a game show. He did not know he entered. You said uh the thing about the place. Incorrect. Ah, thanks for playing your prize. A silent car ride. Every week my phone sends me a screen time report. This is not a report. This is an intervention from a device with no soul. Your screen time was up 17% this week. Okay, first of all, lower your voice. Second of all, you were there. Don't act shocked. You enabled this. This is like a donut texting me. Hey, your sugar intake seems high. It's like you're the problem, donut. Now, restaurants are amazing now. Every table looks like a charging station with appetizers. You got four people, four phones, nobody talking. Server comes up. Hey, can I get you started? Yes. Could you start our personalities back up? We lost connection. Is the Wi-Fi free here? And then someone says, we should take a picture of what? The relationship we're not currently having, but we take the picture anyway. Everybody smiles, then we go right back to ignoring each other with documentation. Sylvie. Oh yeah. Most of the time. Uh I mean, here's the thing. The phone is not evil, it's just very confident. It thinks every buzz is a royal announcement. Most of the time it is not. It is a coupon, a group chat, a sports update, an email from a company you bought socks from one time in 2018. That can wait. The person across from you cannot always wait. So today, make the phone less important, not gone, just demoted. Okay, let's try that. From family member to tool, from master to rectangle, from interruption to object. If it gets offended, put it in a drawer. It can journal about its feelings later. I hope this isn't too harsh. But it makes me laugh to think about the idea that a phone has a personality and then thinks it's part of our family. Is it a part of yours? Demote the phone. That works at the table. It also works when it's time to move your body. Thank you, Randy. This is applicable. Thank you, brother. I appreciate it. You guys ready? As we wrap up today, we're gonna go into the fitness minute right after this. Alright, presence is not only emotional, it is physical. You feel distraction in your shoulders. Yeah, you feel it in your breathing. You feel it when you sleep. You feel it in you know, when you finish a long scroll and somehow feel more tired than when you started. That is because attention has a body. If your mind is always jumping, your body rarely gets to settle. If your phone is the first thing you see in the morning, you begin the day receiving demands before you make a promise. Have you had that happen? Like the first thing you start in the day is like, this is the first thing you touch is your phone. If your phone's the last thing you see at night, you hand your nervous system a glowing list of other people's uh uh emergencies, opinions, vacations, arguments, purchases, bodies, meals, and breaking news. Then you ask your body to rest at night. Good luck with that. And then have you ever done this in the morning? First thing you do is grab your phone, and instead of getting up and brushing your teeth and going for your walk or doing a workout, what do you do? You get everyone else's to-do list. I would advise you to consider maybe try to figure out a way to manage that. So now it's tough enough to fall asleep with all the demands. How about when you wake up? Here's a simple fitness promise move without the leash. Take a walk without checking the phone every block. That's tough. Do a workout where the only thing you track is whether you kept going. Stretch without turning it into content. It's okay to not take selfies at the gym the entire time. I mean, I I'll tell you how many times I'm working out and I look over and somebody's like, get out of my shot, and they're trying to do their aren't they? I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't even know where I can work out. Breathe without a notification telling you to breathe. That one always makes me laugh. If you you've ever gotten that notification on your phone, it's like time to time to stand up. It's like, oh my gosh, have I not stood today? You haven't stood for 12 hours. It's like, I guess my phone knows, my watch knows, everything knows, except for my body that's going, oh my back. So my watch says, breathe. Thanks. I was planning on, I was planning on that. But there is something powerful about movement that does not need to be posted, measured, optimized, just can or converted into proof. Just move. Let your body know it still belongs to you. And when you're present in your body, you make better choices. You you notice the tightness before it becomes pain. You notice the fatigue before it becomes burnout, you notice the way one short walk changes the tone of an entire evening. You notice that a conversation during a walk often goes places of conversation the couch never reaches. And that's why movement and presence belong together. A distracted body drifts, a present body participates. And uh You know, I was I was thinking the other day about the the fact that every single time I wake up and I don't get moving, if I just wake up and then I go sit and I start working, I don't move again for a long time. It's like a trance. And yet, if I wake up, ignore some of the uh notifications, even if they're kind of essential, and if I go for a walk or if I go do my workout, my whole day is different. If I go do the cold plunge like I've committed to do, oh man, that wakes me up. Three minutes and the freaking freezing, that's incredible. And yeah, then I go work out after that. That's a great day. That's when you go, I won the day. And unfortunately, if you don't hit that in the morning, you're gonna be lucky to get time in the afternoon or the evening. And and you know, your your body, um a present body participates, and and this is where I like to talk about cardiomyracle because it's helped me so much. It's not just a product that our family, you know, has a part of because my dad's the founder of it and creator John Hewlett. But cardiomiracle helps you with your movement. If you're stuck on the couch, if you're relying too much on caffeine, this doesn't have caffeine in it. This is just good wholesomeness for your body. This has got 58 natural ingredients, it's going to open up your blood vessels, it's going to allow blood flow to pump stronger and better through your body. If you're aging, you know that those things need to be happening. And when you introduce this to your body, in fact, my neighbor came up to me the other day and he goes, Man, you just changed my whole life. I said, Why is that? He goes, Well, I saw your wife talking to another friend about your product. He called it cardio. I saw him talking about cardio, so I ordered some and I said, Oh, do you like it? And he goes, Man, I've never felt this good. And he's in his 60s. I said, Well, what do you think it is? He goes, It's gotta be the product because I haven't added or changed anything else. He said, But I'm waking up earlier, I'm going to bed more sound sleep. I'm uh I'm I just finished my uh tearing out my backyard and then I put it all back together. Usually a project like that would take a year. I did it over the weekend. He said, My wife is freaking out because she's thrilled that I'm, you know, back to my old self before the hip surgeries and the knee surgeries. He said, This thing is incredible. I said, Yeah, I'm glad to hear that. That's that's the actual testimonies a lot of people give us, and that's what's fun about it. So put that in your body. You're gonna your body will thank you. Movement, feeling good, feeling ready for the day. Get some cardiomerical in you, get some nitric oxide. That's the gas molecule that activates inside your body once it's introduced, and the next thing you know, you feel better. It's just amazing. Like I say, no, there's no caffeine in it. There the sugar is like monk fruit sweetener, so that like it's it's very healthy for you. If you're in uh if you're like a keto or intermittent fasting person, it doesn't knock you out of that. That's what's so neat about all these ingredients. So I hope you check it out. If you want to check it out, you just go to uh I know I have a there it is, Cardio Miracle, hey! And if you want to get the like a good deal, I'll just you know just scan that code. Or you could just go to Cardio Miracle.com forward slash J H E. That's my personal page, and you can check it out. So I hope that uh I hope that you'll take a minute to give yourself the body and the energy that you need. Cardio Miracle can do that for you. And when it comes to your fitness, just move. Just move. Because God gave you a body that is meant to be able to do many things. Hopefully it it lasts for a long time for you. I know my body feels better when I do what I need to do for myself. So thanks for listening to that. Let's bring this home. Tonight was about presence, not perfect presence, not dramatic presence, not the kind where you disappear into the mountains and return with a linen shirt, no passwords. Just the kind that looks up. The kind that says, You matter more than this notification. So maybe instead of looking at the phone for the dinner tonight, look look up. Set it down. The the kind that makes dinner dinner again, the kind that makes a car ride a conversation again, the kind that makes a house feel like less like a waiting room, more like a home. And I know we talked about with my song The Madman. I hope that this was a positive experience for you to hear this song. Because for me it changed the way that I think. I said, I can be the madman or I can make the choice to not have to be subject to what I've created. Very much the Frankenstein story, isn't it? I think about Mary Kelly's Frankenstein, and my friend uh Mike Michaelitz, he put this together in his intro of his book, That's Killer, and it says, when Mary Shelley wrote the Frankenstein story, it was all about coming up with something that was like the perfect creation. And Frankenstein was this beautiful thing, and then once he came alive, then all of a sudden now they're trying to figure out how to kill it because it was trying to kill everybody else. That's what happens with the things we create, isn't it? Whether it's a business or something that we've we've made and we've built for ourselves, like we're like, I have to make this career go, and then all of a sudden you're like, it's killing me! It's like Frankenstein. So I just say, how can we make sure that we're not the madman anymore? Don't let it control us. Do all that we can to allow ourselves to be uh not to be the promise makers and keepers. You know, we talked about fobbing. I love that word. Sounds funny until you realize it's just a modern word for making someone feel second while they're sitting right in front of you. And we talked about Zacchias today and how Jesus looked up in the crowd. Could have just kept him moving. And we laughed at phones because they deserve it. Don't they? Yeah, we could laugh about our phones. And we remembered that health is not only what we put in our bodies but where we put our attention. And so this week, choose one room. Not the whole life, just one room. Make one table phone free. Make one drive fully present. Make the first five minutes at home belong to the people inside the house. And make one conversation the kind where your face says, I'm here, all of me. That's a promise worth keeping. Because presence is time and love in the same moment. The people you love do not need a flawless version of you. They don't. That's not what this is about. They need the real one to look up. Turn away the madman. And commit to putting that phone in its place and utilize it when you need to, but mostly be present. Because presence in the home. That's the promise. I'm Jason Hewlett. This has been the Jason Hewlett Show. As you know, lots of F words around here. Faith, freedom, family, fitness, fatherhood. Funny. We try to do a little bit of all these things. Thank you for taking the time to enjoy this with me. I hope you'll tune in next week. And if you're on the replay listening to the podcast, I would love to get some comments. I would love for you to share this. If it's been helpful to you, let me know. Thank you for joining me. Thank you to my man Randy, who's always here. What a guy. And I hope that you have a great week. Until next time, keep the promise and have a great night.