The Inheritance You Didn't Ask For And the One You Leave Behind

Every man carries two inheritances at the same time — the one handed to him, and the one he's already handing his kids. Most men only ever see the first.

The hinge moment of fatherhood is when a man stops being the recipient and starts being the source. Father's Day is when that hinge swings.We slow down and pull the thread all the way through: the context, the mistake, the moment of truth, and the decision that changed everything. No hot takes. No highlights. Just the real sequence — so you can steal the lesson and use it today.

in this episode, we cover...


 Freedom of Speech — “The Inheritance You Didn’t Ask For”⁠

 Full Story — “The Inheritance You Didn’t Ask For And the One You Leave Behind”⁠

 From the Newsfeed — “What Gets Passed Down Isn’t Taught — It’s Absorbed”⁠
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Faith & Hope — “The Father Who Was Never Absent”⁠
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Father Time — “The Two Envelopes in My Own House”⁠
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Funny Factory — “Things I Swore I’d Never Say (And Now Say Daily)”⁠
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Fitness Minute — “What You Pass Down at the Cellular Level”⁠
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Every man inherits something from his father. Yeah, you didn't pick it. You didn't sign for it. You didn't ask the Lord to read it out in some quiet office. It just showed up. And the way you handle silence and the temper that flashes before you mean it to, and the joke you tell at the wrong moment. Lots of those for me. And the way you walk into your own house at the end of the day, that's the inheritance you didn't ask for. But there's a second one as well. Nobody talks about it because it's not in a will. It's not money. It's not the last name on the door. It's the way you walk into the room. And your kids are already absorbing it, whether you mean to give it to them or not. So this Father's Day week, we're talking about the two inheritances, the one handed to you and the one you get to leave behind. Welcome to the Jason Hewlett Show. Yes, this week coming up on the show, we have freedom of speech. We're going to be talking about the inheritance you didn't ask for, the silent download every son carries from his father, and the moment a man realizes he's been handing the same package to his own kids without knowing it. Then the full story, the inheritance you didn't ask for, and the one you leave behind. So we've got the two inheritances every man carries side by side, and the hinge moment when he stops being the recipient and starts being the source. From the news feed, we'll be talking about what gets passed down isn't taught, it's absorbed. And some brand new research that you're gonna be blown away by drop this month that completely changes how we should think about what fathers pass on to their kids. In our Faith and Hope segment, the father who is never absent. For the men whose earthly dads weren't there, the message you may have never heard. And in Father Time, the two envelopes in my own house. I'll be uh sharing a couple of interesting stories for you, and I hope that you enjoy it. Funny factory, things I swore I'd never say, and now I say daily. Eight dadisms that got installed in your firmware without your consent. Then we'll wrap up the show with the fitness minute, what you passed down at the cellular level, the inheritance that runs through your blood, literally brought to you by Yes, Cardio Miracle. They are the sponsor of the show. We appreciate them. I take this every day. Took it this morning before my workout, it made all the difference. Stay with me. This one's for every man holding two envelopes this week. So tonight is not about being a clown, it's about being human. The funniest version of you and the bravest version of you are the same person. Most of us stopped introducing them to the people we love. Welcome to the Jason Hewlett Show. As we roll into the freedom of speech, the inheritance you didn't ask for, let's talk about this. There's a moment that happens to every father I know, and it usually happens around the third or fourth year of being a dad. You're tired, the kid spills something, or doesn't listen, or won't put on the shoes, and a sentence comes out of your mouth, a full sentence, full volume, full tone. Tone, and the second it lands, you stop dead. Because you didn't write that sentence, you inherited it. Yeah, that was your dad's sentence, or your grandfather's or your uncle who raised you when your dad wasn't around. So it came out of your face like it had been waiting in your jaw for 30 years to find a kid the right size. That's the inheritance you didn't ask for. Nobody handed it to you in a ceremony. Nobody sat you down at 12 and said, Son, here's the package: the temper, the silences, the way we handle disappointment, the joke we tell when things get serious, the way we love say we love you without saying it. And you just absorbed it while you were tying your shoes, while he was driving you to while while he was driving you to practice, you know, your dad just doing the normal things, maybe while he wasn't there at all. Because here's the part that breaks people the most. Even the men whose fathers were absent inherited something. The absence itself is an inheritance, and the empty chair teaches just as loudly as the full one. Actually, maybe even louder. So I've talked to men in their 50s who never met their father, and they can tell you exactly what their father gave them. That flinch, the over-explanation, the reflex to leave the room before someone else does, the promise they made at nine years old, I will never do that to my kid. Yeah, that promise is an inheritance too, and it's heavy. So here's the work, the first work. Before you can think about what you're going to leave your kids, you have to sit down and and sit with what you've got left to you. And you got to think about it that way. Like, what is it that got left to me? Not to blame him, not to be upset with him, just to see it. Because the thing is, the things you don't see, uh, you hand down by default. And by default is the most dangerous way to parent. Talk about intentional parenting. So, my question for you, and thank you for our um our viewers, and and thank you to everyone that's listening on the recording after the uh live broadcast. Questions would be this What sentence came out of your mouth this month that you recognized from your father? We're gonna share some dadisms in a little bit. You're gonna get a kick out of some of these because you probably have said them too. And you probably said, I'll never say that. How about if your dad was absent? What did the empty chair teach you? And and what habit do you have that you can trace directly back to your father, for better or for worse? And and what did you swear you'd never do? That you now catch yourself doing. If your kids could name the inheritance you're handing them right now in one word, what would they say? So that's what we're gonna be talking about today. So this may be a very heavy topic, but it's Father's Day's on its way. And we celebrate a lot there. We're gonna talk more about that for the next week or two because the fact is that Father's Day is a moment, it's a very special one, and for a lot of people, it's not. People are upset about Father's Day, and I can understand if you didn't have the type of father I had, which mine was my hero and is still to this day, you know, my one of my best friends. I mean, he's still around. We get to work together, it's amazing. And not everybody has that relationship with their father. And some people that I know have heard me talking about fathers in the past, they've said, I don't really know if I like that topic too much because I have a real strange relationship with my dad. Well, that's all we're talking about today. You inherited some good things and you inherited some bad things. So, how are you intentionally going to create something great in your life and keep greater promises to the people that matter the most to you as the father that every kid wants to have? So, the full story right after this. So, in the full story, let's talk about the inheritance you didn't ask for and the one you leave behind. Imagine you have two envelopes on a table in front of you. Here's here's two envelopes. For those of you that don't know what this is, this is paper. Back in the olden days, people would write notes and use envelopes. But think about you have two empty envelopes. The one on the left is the inheritance you didn't ask for. So let's just imagine that. The one you didn't ask for. If it's been sitting there your whole life, some of it is gold. It's your dad's work ethic, it's his sense of humor, it's the way he made your mom laugh, uh, the way he showed up to your games even when he was exhausted. Some of it isn't. Some of it's the temper, the silences, the way he disappeared into work, the way he never said the words you needed to hear, the way he left, or the way he stayed, but wasn't really there. So whatever's in that envelope, you didn't pack it. He didn't even pack it on purpose. It just accumulated. So the one on the right is blank. That's the inheritance you're leaving. The one on the right, that's here's what nobody really tells you. Most men go their entire life staring at the left envelope only. The stuff that you know, trying to figure it out, trying to be at peace with everything their dad left them, and trying to forgive it or escape it or prove it wrong. And while they're staring at the left one, hmm, they're absent-mindedly writing on the right one. Yeah. Every dinner they did or didn't sit at, every door they closed, every promise they did or didn't keep, every time their kid asked them a question, they answered with their eyes on the phone. The hinge moment of fatherhood, the one that separates men who lead at home from men who just live there, is when you finally pick up your eyes off the left envelope and look at the right one. When you realize you're not just the recipient anymore, you're the source. For me, that moment came on an ordinary Tuesday. Oh, Romney asked me a question, I don't even remember what it was, and I gave him the answer my dad would give him word for word. Same tone, same little half smile at the end. And I watched it land on my son's face exactly the way it had landed on mine 35 years ago, and I thought, I just made a deposit. Like, I didn't even mean to. That's the moment, that's the hinge. And that's when you stop being a son carrying on inheritance, and you start being a father writing one. So both at the same time, forever now. Uh, two envelopes, one in each hand. So the men I respect the most in this world, the ones who lead at home, the ones whose kids don't flinch when they walk in the room, every single one of them has done this work. They've looked at what got handed to them, named it, kept the gold, set down what wasn't theirs to carry, and then turned around and started writing the next inheritance on purpose, with intention, not by default. And that's the whole show in one sentence. Now, let's not throw dads under the bus too hard here. Our fathers have tried their best, and I know that my kids will be able to throw me under the a lot of buses, but I'll I'll tell you that when I think about my own father, it's it's helpful to see some of the mistakes he made so that I can do the opposite. And it's wonderful to watch the successes that he had so that I can try to duplicate it. And when I think of the tone of voice that I use with my children, and then I remember my dad doing the same thing to me, giving me the lecture or the the monologue or whatever it was, and wondering, I wonder if he hears me. Now am I doing that to my own kids? Yes, I can't help it. And we need to just acknowledge it, be aware of it, understand that it's real, and it's okay. Just gotta work on making it better. So don't just pass it down by default, pass it down on purpose. And so this week is Father's Day's day week. I want you to look at both envelopes. I want you to look at them carefully and think to yourself, okay, I got the one on the left that is the stuff my dad left me. I've got the run on the right, I can do anything I want with. I can create the best version of me and the father that I want to be known for, remembered for, and it and it's not just like the big moments, it's every day moments. It's it's being fully present. So, honest look. The one in your left hand, the one on your right, ask yourself, what am I writing right now in the right one today, that my kids will be carrying when they're forty? And standing in a kitchen with a kid of their own. That's the work, that's the inheritance, that's the promise. From the newsfeed, right after this. From the newsfeed, what gets passed down isn't taught, it's absorbed. Let's hit a few stories. Story one Equimundo just dropped State of the World's Fathers 2026. State of the World's Fathers. It's the most comprehensive study of fatherhood we have. 8,000 parents and caregivers across 16 countries with 400 in-depth interviews. The headline finding dads worldwide are showing up more than ever, and they're even more isolated than ever. The expectations are higher, the support structures are lower. The picture is a generation of fathers trying harder than their dads tried, often with less of a map. That's from Equimundo. How about story two? Fatherhood literally restructures your brain. Yeah, a brain study came out last week, published in the Christian post that I can't stop thinking about. Fathers who are actively involved with their kids actually experience structural brain changes. The gray matter shifts in the regions responsible for planning, reasoning, attachment, and emotion. Showing up, it turns out, doesn't change your kid as much. It changes you. Physically, at the cellular level, that's from the Christian Post. I like that story. Story three. One in four. Here's the headline that should stop every man listening this week. The same article reports that as of 2023, nearly one in four American children, that's roughly thir uh well, 19 million kids, live in a household with no biological step or adoptive father. One in four. Man, that's sad. That's just crazy to think about. So I guess the question becomes then how can we be a father figure to those that need some counsel, some mentor, some fatherly advice? Uh look around in your community. Look at the kids your kids hang out with. I mean, ask them about their families. It's interesting to hear when my kids come home with a friend and I ask about their family, and then I realize, oh, they probably should hang around here a lot, you know. And that's a hard thing to realize. It's sad, and yet it's real. It's just being observant, perhaps. And we can be helpful with the one in four. How about story four? It's absorbed, not taught. Then there's the research that ties this whole episode together, and that's with this one. A piece and intergenerational wealth and inheritance pointed out something stunning. Sons who lost their fathers in childhood showed exactly the same consistency in social status as sons whose fathers lived to an old age. So, whatever was being transmitted across generations, it wasn't simply parents teaching their children directly. The researchers said, I'm reading this verbatim, it appears to work through something closer to absorption than instruction. The financial culture of a family soaked up long before any deliberate lesson is given. That's from Vicky Raynall on LinkedIn. Soak that in. Your kids are absorbing you long before you ever sit them down for a lesson. And I know this is true because this is one of the pieces of gold my dad gave me. When I was a kid, he it seemed like he could make money appear out of thin air. And he was just really great at having a financial sense of making things work. And he's always done that, and it's been amazing to watch. I have found that that's also been the case for me. That I can pull out of a out of a magician's hat, essentially, not the rabbit ears, but enough to make a living as a performer, a speaker, a consultant, and doing what I do. I just find it fascinating because it's actually kind of an impossible thing to make a living at in general. And yet my dad, I absorbed that from him. We didn't really have that many talks about finances, other than he would just say, There's plenty of it out there. You just have to work for it and go find it. And he's right. And he said, Do it ethically, do it, do it as a trustworthy person, keep your promises. I mean, he taught me so many things that I absorbed as I watched him live his life. And and so, um, you know, think about the times you've had to talk with your kids about finances or about the things that they maybe they're inheriting. Maybe this is a good place to start. You could say, hey, what do you think are some of the things you're getting from me? You know, you be careful, but you know, the one more that I want to talk about is the one thing kids actually want, and this is my favorite part. A new piece on fathers.com this month referenced a national survey of adolescents. They were asked what they wish their dad would do more often. Maybe take some notes here. The number one answer wasn't teach me or discipline me or fix things for me or buy things for me. The number one answer was one word. Think about it. Listen. That's it. Listen. It's pretty special. So I think you've heard me say this in the past. I mean, I'm I'm a speaker, I make a speaker for a living, but I make a life as a listener. And I love listening, and I prefer it to speaking, and yet uh obviously I make a living with the spoken word, and I'm grateful for that. But being the dad who's the speaker ends up being a lot like the the dad who's the lecturer. And uh we don't want that for our kids, and I'm doing my best to write that. It's just it's it's it's disturbing to me to think that I've uh fallen into patterns that I didn't want to be, where I'm just a lecturer, the monologue. But with my children, you know, it comes down to how much can I listen, how much can I ask them what's going on in their lives, how can I be a part of that? And sometimes they don't even want to talk because they're adolescents, they're teens, they don't care about saying anything, and yet they want someone so badly to listen to them, if you can just get them to open up. And so dads are showing up more than ever. This is from the news feed, but more alone than ever, and showing up restructures your brain. One in four kids does not have a dad in the house. What you pass down is absorbed, not taught. And the one thing your kids want from you the most is the one thing most men think doesn't count. Listening. The data is the story. The data is the sermon. Are you ready? We're gonna jump into Faith and Hope right after this. Alright, in Faith and Hope, I wanna talk to a specific man for the next four minutes. The man whose dad wasn't there. And whose dad was there but never present, whose dad was present but maybe couldn't say the words. Whose dad left, whose dad died too soon, whose dad hit, whose dad drank, whose dad worked so hard he was a ghost at his own dinner table, and the man who every Father's Day posts the picture anyway, because the truth is harder than the post. I'm talking to you, and if you're this man, I hope this helps you today. There's a verse in Psalm 68 in the Holy Bible that says God is a father to the fatherless, not as a metaphor, not as a poem, as an identity. The father in the story, capital F for father, never had an empty chair. He never missed a game, he never came home different than he left, never broke a promise, never used the wrong tone, never went silent when you needed words. The Christian message when you strip it down to the studs is not actually a religion, it's an adoption story. It's a father reaching down into the lineup and saying, That one is mine. The one you may have inherited absence from the man who raised you or didn't, but you do not have to inherit absence from the one who made you. And here's what I have watched happen again and again in the lives of men I know men whose dads were broken or gone or cruel or just inadequate, when they let the father in the story re father them, something shifts in what they pass on. And when you realize that God is your father and listens to you, it's matter of saying I think it's time to start praying. If you're not taking the time to pray every day, to communicate with your father and ask for help, ask for inspiration, ask for guidance, if you're not spending your time doing that ever, that's a major loss in your life. Because having a father in heaven who cares about you, who loves you, who knows you, who knows you intimately, the details about you, uh that you are made by him. And so when it comes to communicating, open your mouth and pray. I know when there have been spells in my life where I've gone a long time without saying prayer. And I don't know why. It's not like I just was mad or something. I mean maybe there's been times like that, but mostly it's just I forgot. And thankfully we've established traditions with our family and our children that they expect to have an at least an evening family prayer, if not a prayer over the meals and prayers in the mornings before school, all those things. And so I would just advise you to consider prayer to your heavenly father. Because he wants to listen to you. He wants to be there for you. As much as we just talked about in the news feed that listening is what our children want. Well listening is what God does. Our father loves us cares about us put all of this together for us this whole world and life and it's wonderful. Do you want to hear the word of God? Open your scriptures listen to something inspirational. I hope that when you hear this podcast or watch this broadcast you might think to yourself I I feel different watching that. You know we're here to spread the good news we're also here to say hey it's important to have faith it's essential to our happiness that's why this show talks about lots of F words and faith is the first one I always say faith, freedom, family, fatherhood, all these things and you know when I think about my Father in heaven he continues to keep me afloat. He continues to help me sustain my life and I'm so thankful for the many blessings in my life with my family and all the things we've experienced. Yeah there's hard stuff that's not what it's about it's God didn't send us here to just have a you know an easy time every day. We grow most of the times when we struggle when we have a challenge when there's something that really didn't go right and can we still find joy in the sorrow? Yeah if we know God if we talk to him if we pray to him if we rely on him and you know the download from the broken man upstream loses its grip. A new download starts and their kids without even knowing it start absorbing that one instead and this is the verse for the men carrying the heavy envelope this week. This is from John 3 1 or 1 John 3 1 in the New Testament it says Behold what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us that we should be called the sons of God. Behold what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us. Just think about how much love you've been gifted that we should be called the sons of God. We are the children of our heavenly father and you're not stuck with the inheritance you didn't ask for you can be re-fathered and what you've been refathered into is what your kids will absorb. That's the gospel of Father's Day for the dads whose dads were giants thank goodness for them name them tell them this week if they're still around tell them to their face and give them a hug and say thank you. If they're not around tell their story share how much they influenced you because that's an essential piece. For the dads whose dads were not there there is a father who was and still is the man upstairs that's faith and hope. Should we transition to father time? Let's go for it right after this all right I want to talk about where did the time go and as you can see I have a new camera angle for the father time segment today but I actually have two new camera angles. You want to see the other one this is the piano one and it's gonna be yeah it's gonna be interesting when I head over there to play a song for you. So here's what I want you to know that when I uh I I was a dad of four kids in five years we had a very busy life binkies diapers everywhere and I remember when I had the opportunity to begin being on cruise ships cruise ship performing is cool but it's also tough because you do two shows the first night you get on the ship and then you hang out on the ship for like eight days and then you do the last two shows. So it's kind of like you're just doing the first and the last for each of the cruises cruise people and it's interesting because you're gone a lot. The money's not that great and the audiences are awesome. The performance hall is beautiful and I remember having a s a spell in my career where uh getting corporate dates was difficult. Education was waning for me in terms of the performances and speaking there and so I went to the cruise ships. And the cruise ships were great. They sustained us for a couple of years. My kids were little and they didn't you know I mean you know that they know that you're leaving but they don't remember now. I mean now that I ask them and they're in their teens they're just like I don't remember you were gone that much and in terms of like a week at a time or something. And they just remember that daddy went on lots of trips and was always back quickly. So you know how a kid's life is but when we had our fourth child Royal so let me show you a picture of our of our family if I can here when we had Royal the little guy there and uh all the others were uh three four and five Royal's brand new baby and uh man I wish I had a picture of him when they were a little little but we'll have to get one next time but anyway Royal's a brand new baby and I had already booked a bunch of cruises without thinking like this is the prime time for a baby and for a parent to bond with the child and I remember uh going on a cruise he was born on October 5th and I went on a cruise in November. So it was like three four weeks into his life I'm gone for like a month of cruises I was torn up the whole cruise. I was like this is the biggest waste of my life I can't believe I accepted this gig I needed the money but I also was like I don't need it that much that I'm gonna miss my whole child's youth you know and when they're little you know the newborn baby newborn baby it's like a tree frog you know you put it on your chest and they're just curled up and you only get that one time as a parent. So you don't want to miss it. And I and I missed a lot of it in the first um two months of his life. I'll never forget my brother and I went on the cruise together because I could always bring a guest so I'd either bring my wife or my sister or my brother or a friend or whomever would come with me and because the kids were too young to go at the time I remember my brother and I went over Thanksgiving and we were supposed to be home just in time for Thanksgiving. Well as things panned out with the way that ships go uh we got stranded in Puerto Rico which you might think is a nice place to be stranded but no we were in an airport and everything was closed except for this one shop with tacos and so my brother and I had Thanksgiving dinner eating tacos in Puerto Rico in an airport and I said I am done with the cruises and I remember going home and being sad that I missed Thanksgiving with the family and I said I'm not gonna do that anymore that way. And Royal was born uh you know two months prior and when I got home it seemed like he was already driving like that's how big of a shift it was from tree frog newborn to like full grown toddler person and and so I wrote this song and and and this is called uh this is called Where did the time go and I have I have only played this a couple of times myself just alone I don't know how this is gonna go. I hope it's okay I add a little effect to the to the microphone and so forth but I drew a picture that's kind of bizarre but this is kind of how it feels watching your kid get old all of a sudden or grow up. I hope you enjoy this I hope you can see it there he is that's a picture I drew of not of Royal but like of a kid in general as you can see he's got a baseball cap, braces, maybe a couple yellow teeth, a goatee and some weird sideburns, a a shirt that's way too small and pants too small because you've outgrown them too fast. And it says when you were young you were small then you got old you got tall now look at you all big and all I mean these words aren't like amazing groundbreaking poetic things. I'm just doing my best to make a song that or an idea that could be helpful to somebody who wants to be a better dad and who also realizes where does the time go because it goes way too fast when they get big so fast. I'm gonna try to play this song like I say I have some new reverb on here. I hope it's not too much it'll be kind of like a cool echo to it but like I say this is a song I've never played and that's what's fun about doing this show is that we have an opportunity here to do stuff that I haven't done in the corporate world or on stages anywhere so I can just try it out here and hopefully it works out. Should we try it out? Let's we had a new camera angle let's see if this works all right check check yeah that's extra reverb E.

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Let's try it when you will yum smile All right let me read through those lyrics for you just in case you didn't get them it says uh when you were young you were small and you got old you got tall and I look at you all big and all and I say where did the time go man I don't know and when I look at you you know I'm proud of you I can't help it but think when you were a little stink and you did that little thing with your face and I remember the time but can't remember the place and I could see it in my mind I'm just getting so old oh no no where did the time go?

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Man I don't know I like that song because it's like nobody would write anything like that. And uh you know I think I was listening to a lot of uh Gilbert O'Sullivan Ben Folds and Randy Newman when I wrote that so maybe you could tell uh and I wish it sounded like any of them anyway I hope you've enjoyed this little segment and especially from this new angle that's my phone whereas this is a this one's a real camera and this one over here that's a beautiful camera all right we've had fun today should we keep on rolling we just hit through the father time stuff i i hope you enjoyed it thanks for listening to my song I hope it turned out okay you never have to hear it again if you don't want but hey let's jump into the funny factory right after this well in the funny factory welcome welcome here are some things I swore I'd never say you know there are sentences that live in every man's jaw waiting for the right kid to come along you don't put them there they are installed by the previous administration you will hear them come out of your mouth one day and your soul will leave your body for a second here are the top eight. You ready? Number one Because I said so you ever done that one? Yeah you swore you'd never say this one. You had a whole speech ready about how you were going to explain things to your child. You're gonna use reason and respect then your three year old asked you why the sky is blue for the fourteenth time during a left turn into traffic and now you are your father welcome to the dark side all right next one I'm not mad I'm disappointed ever got that one? Yeah this one's psychological warfare and you know it you're aware mid-sentence that this is the exact line your dad used on you in 1989 and you are doing it anyway because here's the brutal part it works number three money doesn't grow on trees ooh it does not in fact grow on trees it is however an extremely weird sentence to say to a six year old who is simply asking for an extra popsicle you'll say it anyway you'll not be able to stop yourself in fact I even wrote a song about it or um how does it go yeah um money grows on trees in our backyard nobody knows why daddy works so hard maybe I'll have to do that one sometime all right number four when I was your age the instant you say this when I was your age oh man your kid's face goes blank they've entered a matrix level disassociative state and you didn't even know what you're gonna say just that it involved walking somewhere uphill you know like back in my day when I was your age to go to school it was uphill both ways you've all heard this you probably had parents that said it and I remember when they decided because in our zone and district here the the you have to be with a mile uh outside of a mile from the school my family lives at point nine five they would not let us get on the bus and I would say and when I was your age we had to walk four miles the kids are like whatever it was like okay go out in the snow enjoy your walk yeah how about this one number five close the barn or close the door were you born in a barn oh man this one I love because nobody who says it's ever met a person who's born in a barn the barn question is purely rhetorical but you'll ask that question uh of an eight year old with full conviction and they'll not have any idea what to say that's when I'd say you're born in a barn they're like you know it's like okay well goodbye number six turn that down I can hear it from here it's like an old I can hear it from here turn it down man you realize as it leaves your mouth that I can hear it from here is the same thing your dad said about Metallica in 1991 oh come on you are now the old man yelling about volume sorry there's no recovery from this in fact even last night my son Royal came to me and he said Dad can you hear my speaker from your room and I could and I said yeah I can hear it he goes oh I don't want you to let me close the door so he closed the door and I go I can still kind of hear it he's like ah so I number seven I'm not sleeping I'm just resting my eyes oh yeah that is a complete and total lie you are very much asleep for 45 minutes the TV is asking if you're still watching your daughter is filming you you're about to go viral because you're drooling you will deny it on your deathbed that this happened how about the championship belt number eight this one we'll see we'll see I mean seriously I use this forever the one we all said we'd never say translation means no but softer and with plausible deniability every kid in America knows we'll see means no every dad in America says it anyway it's the universal solvent of fatherhood that's the inheritance you didn't ask for ain't ready to deploy sentences fully installed no opt-out menu no software update available the good news your kids are gonna say all of them too so it's okay and one day they'll text you from a kitchen somewhere going dad I just said we'll see to a four year old help that's a fun thing when you become a dad and they start to see the patterns and the things that absorbed into their lives that maybe they didn't realize would that's how you know it's working all right funny factory hope you enjoyed it let's jump into the fitness minute right after this in the fitness minute here's the inheritance nobody puts on a Father's day card your kids are not just inheriting your habits they're inheriting your biology believe it or not heart disease is the number one killer of men in this country and cardiovascular health for better or worse runs in families even if people that have it do or don't run. Your dad's heart history is part of your medical chart and yours is part of your kids so this is the part where their work goes beyond reflection you can do all the inner work you want about the two envelopes and you should but there's a third envelope yep there is a third the one with your blood pressure in it your nitric oxide levels your circulation your heart muscle that envelope gets handed down to here's the encouraging part Cardiovascular health is one of the most changeable inheritances in human biology. If you don't realize that you can actually shift this is what's exciting you can lower the bad numbers you can raise the good ones you can put yourself in a position where the inheritance you pass on biologically is a lot stronger than the one you got that's real power. That is fatherhood and that's why the fitness minute on this show is always brought to you by Cardio Miracle. And before I talk about Cardio Miracle I want to tell you about my father has uh a superpower and a not superpower and it he admits this all the time. His superpower is that he can go forever he can stay up he can stay up all night he can keep working like a madman and it's an unbelievable thing to observe because most people A quarter of his age can't keep up with him. Teenagers even can't. And it's unbelievable his stamina. On the flip side. That's his that's his superpower. On the flip side, he's got the not super power, which is taking care of his health every day. He just for years was so busy and working to make money and running around and being, you know, productive and doing great things, and yet he stopped working out, going for walks, doing those types of things. Now, the guy can still walk 36 holes of golf while everyone else is looking for a cart. And like he says, he's short for his weight. Because he's a fairly hefty guy. He's put on some pounds through the years. It's amazing what his body can do because he's he hasn't kept up with the health game. And so he passed that on to me to say, uh, I'm going to do all I can to. I mean, I do have the endurance thing too, or I can just kind of keep going for a long time without needing a break. And then I also have found that if I don't get the workout in early and do it as my main thing each day, I I'll also start to skip for a good chunk of time. So what he passed on to me in that sense was to say, I think I'm going to make a due promise to myself to make sure that I don't miss the days at the gym, that I do take a walk every day and get some sunshine, that I I focus on the health because in in reality, you can have all the money in the world and be unhealthy and you're miserable. And so, cardiomyracle. Uh, I talk about it on every show. I'm so thankful for this product because it's the world's best nitric oxide supplement and vitamin D3 supplement. And the company is founded by my dad. This product, my dad created with some scientists. He's a he's a brilliant dude, and I'm very grateful for what the what this uh great product has done for me. But the the one specific goal that came about with this Cardio Miracle was that my dad wanted to help a million men live long enough to be the dad they're meant to be. We've now we've now had a million people try it. So we're now working on a hundred million. So if you want to try it, I hope you will. And uh Cardio Miracle will change the way that you do your life. Once or twice a day, 20 seconds of work to protect the inheritance your kids actually need from you, which is you alive, present, well, for as many years as possible. And we'll put a link in the show notes if you want to check out more about it. But you can also scan this code if you want, and the cardiomerical the cardiomerical thing is amazing. I'm so thankful for it. And and so I hope that you'll take the supplement. I hope that you'll take a walk. I hope you'll take your blood pressure, and I hope that you'll do something about it when you find out that things are not going as well as you want them to be. But don't just leave them to inheritance. You choose and you leave them the inheritance you engineered. You can do that with Cardiomiracle. In fact, my dad was supposed to have a quadruple bypass when he was in his 50s after an emergency at the hospital, and instead of having that done, he he therapeutically helped himself by drinking as much nitric oxide products that he could until he created Cardiomiracle, and he's never had quadruple bypass. Although his dad passed away from cardiovascular disease, and his dad before him. My dad did something about it. I love that story. It's real, and you can have that great miracle for yourself as well if you are willing to try it out. And there's a 60-day money-back guarantee. So, let's bring it home. Let's bring it home, my friends. Thank you for being here with me. Two envelopes. We talked about it today. One in each hand. The one you didn't ask for, the one you're already writing. So this Father's Day, while everyone else is doing brunch and ties and Hallmark cards, do the real work. Sit with the left envelope, name what's in it, keep the gold, set down what wasn't yours to carry, and then here's the part most men skip. Pick up the right envelope, the blank one. Write on it on purpose because your kids are absorbing you right now. Not your lessons, but you. The way you walk in, the way you handle disappointment, the way you love their mother, the way you treat people who can't help you, the way you keep or break the small promises, they're absorbing all of it. And one day in a kitchen somewhere, they'll say they'll say a sentence and stop mid-air and realize they just inherited it from you. So make it a sentence worth carrying. For the dads whose dads were giants, call him. Tell him. Don't wait. Um, if your dad's already passed and he was a legend, tell his story. Share about his greatness. For the dads whose dads weren't there, be refathered. Become the man the next inheritance starts with. Line breaks with you or the line continues. It's your choice every day. And remember, God, your heavenly father, is waiting to hear from you. Pray to him. He listens. I hope you will too. I'm Jason Hewlett. This has been the Jason Hewlett Show. Hey, we did it. Until next time, next Thursday. Keep the promise.