FOMO 10/40 Podcast | Episode 8 | Developing Through Coaching & Family Culture

Welcome to the FOMO 10/40 Podcast.  We're so glad you're here!  In this episode, Andrew talks about creating a culture that honors forgiveness, coaching others to be their best, and family.



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Transcript

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How do we build a team that wants to stick around? There's so much turnover all over the place in our world. And I really deep down believe it's a culture thing. People long to be connected, they long to have meaning in their work, they want to have an environment where they want to come to because they're accepted and loved and cared for, appreciated, and that they're doing something that matters in our world. And you, as a leader, need to create that for them. Welcome to the FOMO 1040 podcast, where we have a passion to connect families, inspire our community to a greater sense of purpose, and to make an impact on the world. And baseball just starts to kick up. And I'm currently coaching uh the varsity baseball at Shiloh Christian. And so being able to connect with students and see their development and to be able to teach and to coach the game has really uh been exciting to me. So today, as I jump into this podcast, I think we're gonna start with that, with the coaching mentality. And you know, in business and life and leadership, it's so nice to have the voice of a coach. I just gotta throw that out there right away. Like the voice of a coach in our lives as a as a young person uh really challenges us to become a better person. And to the point we would not do the things that we probably um would do if if we were by ourselves. So if you're by yourself, it's so hard to get on the ground and do push-ups or to do sprints. But having the voice of a coach share and encourage you to do activities that are good for you is uh just uh an amazing discipline. And so this is the the coach that comes out sometimes in the business, but also on the field. And you know, sometimes we have different situations come up where people need coaching, they've never been through the situation before or the experience, and they just need someone to express how they've done it in the past or the right way to do that. And so um, as you lead your businesses, as you connect with your families, as you kind of focus on what God has called you in your life, I just want to encourage you. What have you been coached in? And are you a coach for other people? And how in what ways could you coach them this week that would uh encourage them, inspire them to do even greater things than they would do on their own? And so I just I think sometimes we just need uh an eye, we need a question, we need something to spark uh some change, and that change can be very positive. So uh the voice of a coach in my life talks uh a lot about the details and the importance of details and to be fully present and to be aware of the situations around you. Um, I love when we get to do situations in baseball. We put a guy on first and third base, and when the pitch comes, we have to understand are we gonna throw the ball all the way down to try to get the out at second base? Are we gonna throw it to third base? Are we gonna fake the throw? Are we gonna put throw it to the pitcher? Are we gonna look for some type of cut option? What if there's a butt on the first and third opportunity? Who charges? Who stays back? And everybody has to be on the same page. And if you're not, it's pretty quickly seen and exposed by the other team. And I think that that's one of our biggest fears is just being exposed and seeing ourselves as a fake or that we don't actually know what the right thing to do is. And so me as a coach and as a leader, I need to foresee those situations before they're put in those situations in order to train and equip the personnel to do the right thing in the right situation, to know it like the back of their hand. When we talk about our value of excellence, we talk about mastering it. And mastering excellence takes time and discipline and work. Um, but when you know discipline well and when you execute well, excellence, you don't have to think about it. You're just doing it because it's the right thing to do every single time. So I just uh yeah, I love a lot that has to do with coaching. And coaching is a unique role that you can have in somebody's life. So as a boss, maybe maybe focus this week on just um instead of trying to be one that uh just kind of lets things slide or um maybe just doesn't care, let's let's let's coach our team to see the details. Let's see the things that need to be done before they happen. Let's coach um on how we can uh make the world a better place and to really just yeah, just be the best, most present person that we can be in in the lives of the people around us. So I have to um just give a shout out to Josh Wolf, who gave me just a little bit of inspiration to this and this podcast, because um coming off of this weekend, we just had a uh a staff gathering and we call it a family gathering. And it's just a you know, people who are committed to together, to not just work together, but also just be together. And so our FOMO family gathering um happened and it and just to kind of celebrate uh birthday, but also to celebrate a mission team that's gonna go out in June and serve in Brazil Brazil uh at an orphanage. And and I just um just thought about this verse in Ephesians, it's Ephesians chapter four. And this is Paul talking to the church at Ephesus. This is a prison letter, so he's in prison, so he can't actually be there, but he's writing and he says, Therefore, I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of the calling you've received by God. Always be humble and gentle, be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love, and make every effort to keep yourselves united in spirit, building yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one spirit, just as you've been called to one glorious hope for the future. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, and one God and Father of all, who is over all in all, and living through all. I think when I think of family, I think of this. I think there's always opportunities for conflict and for challenge and for disagreements, but even despite those, we can respectfully agree to disagree some situations, and we can find unity in the spirit through the bond of peace, and we can build each other up and encourage each other, and we can be united in body and purpose. And so for me, um, as a boss, just want to be able to lead that way, want to be able to lead uh people with understanding that everybody comes from different backgrounds and we're all, you know, being challenged every day by different things. And so, how do we guide people to our sense of truth, which should be rooted in the word of God, the Bible? But also how do we justify the situations and things that have happened in our life and our families? One of the one of the things in our life that that they know us the best, but they also can get under our skin the most, and it can be very hard and difficult to uh to deal with some of those conflicts and relationships at some at some points. But I think the joy of the community is worth all of it. It's worth the discussions, it's worth the highs and lows. Um, but the joy of having the the deep connection with people is is worth fighting for. And so in your uh in your current circles, I would just ask the question, how are you adopting or welcoming those into your family? How do you uh how do you love them? How do you keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace? Like, how do we do that well? And I think a lot of my time has been thought about thought of just like how do I be present for for them in their biggest need? How do I know what what's going on in their life? And that takes time uh to build that relationship. But if you don't ask the question, you'll never get the answer. So being available is really, really important uh in order to have those connections and to be able to speak into people's lives. And you know, sometimes we it says we we need to make allowance for each other's faults, and making allowance for each other's faults, especially in the business world and the secular world, there's not a lot of grace. It's actually you made the mistake, okay, I can't trust you, you're gone. Bye. I think as a Christian business owner, as a Christian coach, we need to have a greater allowance for someone's mistakes because we know the mistakes that we've made in the past, and we know the rejection that we've felt in the past. And we need to be able to clearly explain how when somebody makes a mistake, it hurts us because trust can be broken. However, that's not gonna stop us from trying or trusting again. Because trust is something that you can choose or you choose not to do. And trust, um, when trust is broken, it might take some time to reestablish that, but ultimately you still have to choose to trust. You know, there's always that analogy of sitting on a chair. And if you're sitting on a chair, you're fully trusting that chair is going to support you. However, if it uh if broke or something like collapsed on you, you'd be very hesitant to sit on that same chair again. But uh the reality is with trust, you still have to choose to put your weight on the chair uh for it to trust you. You have to make that decision. So you can lean into that, you can go slow. But the reality is uh to build trust and to trust, we have to we have to choose to put it, put our trust in it. So uh encourage you to have those conversations to to make allowance for each other's mistakes, help them understand that it does hurt because it breaks trust, but ultimately we're there for their growth and their support, and we believe that it's not who they are. It was just a mistake. And I wish that there was people in my life that said, This is not who you are, this is just uh this is just a one-off mistake. I know, I know that's doesn't represent who you are. Um, because nine out of 99 out of a hundred times you wouldn't have done that, but happened to be this time. And to have someone express, I forgive you and I'm here for you, and I believe in you, and don't worry about it. We got this. We're gonna we're gonna go after it again, we're gonna get the next one. In baseball, we fail so many times at the plate. You know, if you hit 300, three out of 10 times, you are considered a great hitter. So we talk about this in baseball a lot. We trust that we're gonna do our best every time at the plate. Win, lose, strike out, hit a ball on the ground, hit a base hit, hit a home run. It doesn't matter. The goal is to give it your best and to trust that we're gonna do our best in every situation, every circumstance. So family is more important uh than anything. And so we we don't want to necessarily like cut off relationship or just uh, you know, uh bash somebody for their mistake, but we want to uplift them and we want to encourage them. We realize their identity is more important, and I think this is ultimately what creates a small uh a bond between people. And you know, many, many of us are probably trying to figure out how do we build this leadership team? How do we build a team that wants to stick around? There's a there's so much turnover all over the place in our world, and I really deep down believe it's a culture thing. People long to be connected, they long to have meaning in their work, they long to have an environment where they want to come to because they're accepted and loved and cared for, appreciated, and that they're doing something that matters in our world. And you, as a leader, need to create that for them. And if you're seeing a lot of high turnover, I would question are you do you have a family culture? And if you don't have a family culture, how do you create that? How do you create a deep family culture? Well, I think it starts here in Ephesians 4. I think it's always being humble and gentle, being patient, making allowance for people's mistakes, trying to keep the unity. We're not spreading gossip, we're speaking highly of others, we're giving responsibility with trust and with accountability. And then ultimately, as people are ready for more responsibility, we give it to them and we we ask them to mentor the new ones into this culture, this way of life, this family, this connectedness. And there's a lot of values that you could pick, but I believe the family culture is really what allows people to choose to stay versus to go anywhere else. Um, sometimes it's about the money for a lot of people. And we tell people here like if it's about the money, you can go find another job anywhere to just get paid. But if you want to have a meaningful, purposeful growth season of area of your life of the growth with people who will learn to care and and um want just a genuine relationship with you, this is a this is a better place for you to work. And I think you're gonna find a lot of opportunity here, and you might end up making more here than you would somewhere else. Um, and that happens when trust is built and relationships are established and leaders are are pouring into other leaders, and it just gives that momentum. And you know, really the only way to scale any business is to develop leaders and to trust them with a lot and more. And if you can't do that well, then I don't think you'll ever see your business grow. And so I say that to myself is I want to see our business grow. I want to see our relationships within the community grow. I want to see the the impact for God's kingdom and the world grow. I want to see all those things happen, but it can't happen without trust and leaders and trust in relationships. And that happens when they become more than just a worker for you. They become a family member, they become somebody you care about, somebody you want to get lunch with and dinner with, and you want to invite them over to your house on a Sunday night because their their presence and their relationship to you matters. And so let's let's be world changers through relationships. Let's create family cultures when families are so broken, and let's create businesses that have purpose and meaning to our communities and have a goal to impact the world. I'm Andrew Herschel, your host. I'm glad I can take this time to talk a little bit about coaching and family and culture. And I hope that you enjoy this short podcast. We'll hopefully see you next time. Thanks.