1: It’s Not About the Clutter — Why Decluttering Isn’t Working

You can declutter a drawer… and still feel overwhelmed.

You can organize your home beautifully… and still feel like something is off.

In this first episode of Making the Space Monday, I’m sharing the moment I realized decluttering alone wasn’t solving the real problem — even when my home looked “perfect.”

Because clutter isn’t just about stuff.

Sometimes it’s about pace.
Sometimes it’s about boundaries.
Sometimes it’s about outgrowing a version of your life that once fit beautifully.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

 • Why decluttering isn’t working (even when you’re doing it “right”)
 • The hidden disconnect between your space and your life
 • How clutter can signal misalignment ... not laziness
 • What it really means to make space for what matters

If you’re a capable, high-functioning woman who feels overwhelmed at home, in your schedule, or in your head, this episode will help you look at decluttering differently — not just as physical organization, but as a way to realign your life.

Decluttering isn’t about becoming minimal.

It’s about creating room — in your home, your head, and your life — for what matters most in this season.

If this episode resonated with you and you’re ready to take the next step, grab the One Space Reset Kit. It’s a short guided reset to help you clear one space at a time — whether that’s a space in your home or one of the open loops we talked about today.

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Transcript

Speaker 0:01

Hi. I am Jackie Picchi, coach and host of Making the Space Monday. For over a decade, I've helped women untangle what feels heavy and realign their lives with what truly matters. Here we look at clutter differently, not just as what's on your counters, but as anything in your home, your head, or your schedule that's taking up space where something better could live. You can have a clean house and still feel overwhelmed. You can be organized and still feel behind, and you can declutter one more drawer, one more cabinet, one more closet, and still feel like nothing really changes. If that's you, you are not failing. You are not lazy. You are simply overloaded. And here's what I wanna say right up front. This isn't about the clutter. It's about what the clutter is costing you. This could be your time, your energy, your ability to rest and create peace in your life, your presence with the people you love, your friends and family, and even your creativity. Because clutter isn't just physical. It can live in your head, in your schedule, and in expectations that you've been carrying around for a very long time. So today, in this very first episode, I wanna share the moment I realized organization wasn't solving the real problem, and what changed when I finally understood what was actually going on.. And all of this may surprise you because it didn't start with overwhelm. It started when we had built a life we genuinely loved and still felt something stirring underneath it. We had our dream home. It was beautiful. It was. Organized, it felt settled. When I say we loved that house, like we loved that house. We even loved our routines, our rhythms. We loved our community and being so close to family and friends. So on paper it looked like we had built exactly what we were supposed to want. And we had, but there was this quiet pull towards something more. It really wasn't dissatisfaction. It was not even discontent, to be honest. It was just this subtle knowing that we were craving a different environment, a different rhythm, something that just stretched us in a different way, and we really couldn't fully articulate it at first. We just knew we wanted more time outdoors. We wanted more space to explore, more room to evolve. And I've always been somebody who loves change and leaning into change and really just seeking that out in different times and spaces in my life. And this felt like it was the time. And so we did something that surprised even us. We sold the dream house. We packed up the very organized life. We left the familiar routines, and we moved out of state. And here's the important part. We didn't move because our house was cluttered. We moved because our life had become too settled for who we were becoming. It wasn't until we arrived and we were unpacking fewer things because we had downsized significantly. We were living differently and we were adjusting to new, a new environment. That's when it all really started to make sense. We weren't craving a prettier house. We were just craving alignment, being outside more, leaning into change, letting ourselves grow instead of staying comfortable. Because if I'm being honest, our life before was really comfortable. And yes, it absolutely came with its challenges. That'll be a story for another day, It came with some big adjustments and moments where we wondered even if we were crazy. But those challenges really stretched us. They absolutely clarified what matters. They made us grow and living with less in a new space somehow made us feel like we had so much more. And that's when it really clicked for me. Decluttering isn't about making your life look better. It's about making sure your life still fits. Sometimes clutter isn't mess, sometimes it's staying in a version of your life that no longer aligns with who you're becoming. And that realization changed everything and. Because I started to see clutter differently, not just as a pile on the counter, not just as the drawer that won't close and is overstuffed with junk, not just as the garage we avoid because there's just not enough time in the week. But is anything in our lives that takes up space where something better could live, and that's when I understood something that I wish more women heard. Clutter is often a symptom. It's a symptom of growth. It's a symptom of misalignment. It is a symptom of staying in something that no longer fits. So when your life expands, but your environment doesn't evolve with you, that friction starts to build up in the background. And when your values shift, but your routines stay the same. Heaviness builds when you grow, but your surroundings still reflect an older version of you clutter builds, and sometimes that clutter looks like stuff. Sometimes it also looks like a schedule that's way too full a commitment. You've completely outgrown an identity. You're still performing, or even expectations that you never stopped to question. That's when organization alone stops working because you're not trying to fix a drawer, you're trying to fix a disconnect, and that's what this podcast is really about. That disconnect can show up quietly. It's that feeling that your life looks fine, but you still end the day thinking, why does this feel harder than it should? It's standing in a home you worked really hard for and still feeling a little restless. It's looking at your calendar and realizing it's way too full, but not with the things that light you up. It's when you keep reorganizing the same drawer, the same closet, the same corner of the house, hoping that this time it will feel different, and maybe it does for a day, but the relief doesn't last because the problem was never really the drawer, it was the misalignment underneath it. And misalignment doesn't usually show up as chaos. It shows up as like this low grade heaviness, if you will. So like snapping more easily than you used to. Like feeling drained by the things that you used to enjoy or constantly thinking once I get through this week, right, just like racing to get to Friday or the weekend. That's the disconnect. So it's when your environment, your home, your schedule, your routines. Still reflect who you are instead of who you are becoming. And here's what I've learned. If you don't intentionally evolve your space, it will quietly keep you anchored to an older version of yourself. You'll keep maintaining systems that just no longer fit, keep commitments that no longer align and holding onto things physical or otherwise that represent who you used to be. And that's why organization alone can start to feel exhausting. I'm sure you guys have felt this before when you spent maybe the entire weekend doing a reset and everything feels organized and before you know it, you're into the next week or two, and it almost feels like everything went right back to that reset point because you're not actually trying to create order, you're trying to create relief. And relief doesn't come from prettier bins. Trust me, I know that it comes from awareness. From asking braver questions. And braver questions don't have to be dramatic. They can be really simple. So instead of how do I organize this better, try asking, why does this keep happening? For me, it's the counter, the kitchen counter. I seriously cannot think when the kitchen counter is covered. It could be the mail that came in. It can be that pile of water bottles that need to be washed. It's the random Amazon boxes. It's something that belongs upstairs, but it decided to live there permanently. The things from the backpack and the purses, all the things. And I will reset that counter like it's my full-time job. I clear it, I wipe it down. I feel like I have my life together again for like 12 minutes. And then life happens again. And for a long time I thought the problem was the counter. I thought if I just found the right basket, or maybe we need a better system or I need to get everybody on a better routine, and it, it just would keep coming back. But here's what I realized. The counter isn't the problem. The counter is actually providing the information, so when it's consistently covered. It usually means we're moving too fast. It means I've overcommitted for that day or that week. It means we don't have enough margin built into our days to reset it naturally. It might mean that I'm tired, and once I saw that I stopped treating it like a failure, like I just couldn't keep it together. I really started treating it like feedback and that's the shift. Decluttering stops being about perfection, and it starts being about paying attention because we all have a counter, right? Maybe yours is the laundry chair. It could be the car or the inbox that you keep clearing out and then you avoid it again for a couple of months. It's that place that you just keep going to, to fix all the time. Because it feels easier than asking the bigger question underneath it. That's the work here. It's not just clearing the surface, but getting curious about the patterns. There are patterns emerging in our lives all the time, so instead of asking, how do I make this look better, I want you to ask yourself, what is this trying to tell me? Is it the pace? Is it the boundaries? Is it a season of growth? Is it that you've outgrown something that once fits so beautifully? Because sometimes clutter builds in spaces that used to work perfectly, and that doesn't mean that you've failed in any sense of the way. It just means that you've evolved and evolution. It always requires recalibration, so not prettier bins and systems recalibration. And that's what we're going to practice here. Okay. Not dramatic overhauls, not turning your life upside down. Recalibration, small, intentional shifts that create space, because this isn't just about decluttering a drawer. It's about making the space. Making space for what actually matters in your life right now, and not just the things you dream about quietly, the things you want to live. So this week, I want to invite you to not just organize something, okay. Really observe it. Choose one space and ask what it's supporting. Is it supporting maintenance or is it supporting growth? And if you're not sure where to begin. Maybe that's exploring a career shift that you've been circling for a couple of years. Maybe it's finally planning that trip. You've always talked about maybe it's having slower evenings instead of constantly rushing into tomorrow. Maybe it's getting back outside more connecting with nature. Maybe it's trying something new. That hobby, that idea that you've just had spark in your mind. Maybe it's simply feeling less reactive and a whole lot more present space isn't empty. Space is what allows those things to move from someday to right now. Because when your energy is spent maintaining everything, there's very little left for momentum, and momentum comes after action. So when your schedule is packed with maintenance, there's no room for intention. When your home reflects who you were, maybe even five years ago, it's harder to step into who you're becoming now. And that's why we recalibrate. That's why we reset. That's why we make the space not for perfection, but for possibility. Maybe it's your closet, and I will have a future episode on this topic alone because I happen to feel pretty passionate about this one. But what would it look like if it supported confidence instead of confusion or overwhelm? You know when you stand there and you look at everything and you're like, ah, nothing fits or nothing feels right, nothing really fits the mood for today. Maybe that means keeping fewer things, but really loving what's there. Maybe it means letting go of clothes from a version of you that you're not trying to be anymore. Maybe it means making room for how you wanna show up. Now, maybe it's even your calendar. I know I get stuck with this. What if instead of like optimizing it, you protected the heck out of it? What if you blocked margin, just some space and some room on purpose? What if you removed one thing that doesn't reflect what matters most in this season right now? Because every space can either reinforce autopilot or it can support intention, and that's where values quietly enter the picture here. Not in a really complicated way, but it's very foundational to the work that I do. It's a simple question. What matters most right now? Not five years ago, not in theory, but right now, because when your space supports what matters most, your life feels lighter. Not because it's emptier, but because it is so much more aligned and that's what we're practicing. Making the space for what matters, not just for maintenance, not just for the next task, but for the life that you actually wanna live. Maybe that's pursuing the dream you've been postponing. Maybe it's creating space for rest. Maybe it's reconnecting with something that used to make you feel so alive. You don't need to do all of that this week. I just want you to notice. Just begin clear one thing with intention, protect one little pocket of time and what, let that one little space reflect who you are right now and not who you used to be. That in itself is enough. And honestly, I'm really excited for you to try this. Not because it's dramatic in any way, but because it's actually really simple and simple shifts done on purpose, they really can change the entire tone of your week. So with a little practice and a little trust and patients, this can go a long way. You might. Clear a counter and you'll feel calmer. You might protect 20 minutes and realize just how much you needed it. You might let go of one small thing and feel lighter than you expected, and that's how this all starts. It's not a huge, massive overhaul. It's. With awareness, intention and just with making the space. And if you'd like a little guidance, figuring out where to start, you can take the clutter type quiz in the show notes if you're not even sure where most clutter shows up in your life. This is a great. Place to start. And if you're anything like me, you may find that you feel cluttered in all of the different areas. So it'll really help you see your default pattern so you can stop overthinking and start moving forward. And next week we will reset one simple space together. Nothing overwhelming, just one step because you don't need a new life. You just need a little room to live the one that fits. I'm Jackie Picchi. This is Making the Space Monday, and I am really glad you're here. Let's make the space.