Moving Through Disappointment - Full Strawberry Moon in Capricorn 2026

• Keep Going with Zadra is published with the schedule of the moon, deliberately, as an example of how we are each able to define what “consistent” means for ourselves.
• The Strawberry Moon in Capricorn invites us to find the balance of public ambition and private comfort, revisit existing goals rather than abandon them for something new, and assess relationships for the coming season.
• We examine the difference between being disappointed ("I am disappointed" — an identity) and feeling disappointment ("I feel disappointed" — a moment that passes), and what that distinction changed for me this week.
• I share what causes a breakdown — an unfulfilled expectation, a thwarted intention, or an undelivered communication — and why feeling disappointment is actually the key to a breakthrough outcome.
• I show you how to move through emotions by allowing yourself to be human, letting yourself truly feel the disappointment, self-soothe, change your state, and decide to keep going as your most powerful, aligned self.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:53

Welcome to Keep Going with Zadra. This is June 2026. It is the strawberry moon, which is the full moon in Capricorn in June. You might wonder if you're new to the podcast why I tell you what moon it is, whether it's the new moon or the full moon or a solstice. It's because when I first decided to run a podcast, I wanted a schedule that felt doable for me, that was keyword consistent, but that didn't feel rushed and didn't feel forced. I wanted to be in touch with a slower, softer rhythm. I wanted to be in touch with something more earthy or celestial in this case. And so I decided to follow the rhythm of the moon and the tides. It felt slower. It felt more connected. It felt like an alternative to the hurry-scurry that I've been used to. So when I decided that I was going to publish on the new and full moon, I decided to embrace what moon it was, whether it's the strawberry moon and Capricorn or a blue moon or what have you. This I did on purpose. I did it deliberately to show you in your life that you can be quote unquote consistent, but that you get to decide what that means. You get to decide what it means to be consistent. So often I hear people throw the word consistent around and then be mad at themselves for not being consistent, but they haven't defined what it even means. So they have a lofty expectation of themselves that it's going to be daily or every Tuesday or never fall, you know, off of the schedule. And that's something we'll talk about a little bit later. But I thought it would be useful to explain why I like to share about the full moon and the new moon. I love to incorporate spirituality of any kind that feeds you, feeds your soul that aligns with you into daily practice because I think that it helps keep us grounded. This can include a walk in nature. This includes a few moments of silence in the morning. Some would call it meditate, some would call it intention setting. Sometimes even just having a sense of wonder, stopping and smelling the roses or appreciating beauty, any of that has a place in your daily life and can inform the work that you do in sustainability and nonprofit, the work you can do at home, who you are, how you show up, how you relate to everyone, mostly who you know yourself to be. So it isn't arbitrary, it isn't just a lark, it's deliberate that I'm incorporating this as a touchstone. So with that in mind, the strawberry moon is in Capricorn. And it is a micro moon, which means it's the farthest point from Earth. It's the apogee. And that means that the moon looks smaller, about 10 to 12% smaller than it normally does. The meaning or what is attributed with the strawberry moon is a marriage of your public ambitions, which is the Capricorn energy, with your private comfort, which is the cancer energy of the season that we're in. And so that's especially useful for people who are wanting to create more visibility for themselves or create a public image of themselves or who have a public image or the face of a company and this paradox, if you will, between who we show up as in public and what we're comfortable with. And really the work is to be ourselves all the time rather than silo our energies so that we can show up as our authentic selves in all the spaces and practice being ourselves, being true and genuine and authentic, and becoming more comfortable with that. The other thing that's happening right now is that Mercury is going to be retrograde. So this invites us to revisit and recommit or firm up and evaluate our existing goals and our existing projects rather than embark on the energy of a new venture. So if you're up to a new venture, this isn't saying don't do that. But if you're in the middle of an existing adventure or goal or project and you're running out of steam, rather than quit on that and start something new that seems easier, the season is encouraging you to stop and evaluate and revisit why you created that goal in the first place, who it's creating you to be, who you get to step into to be the person that accomplishes that goal. And one of the things that we're going to talk about today is the difference between being disappointed and feeling disappointment. And really that's the crux of today. I do want to say that the Capricorn energy is pragmatic and earthy and real. And the full moon right now is inviting us to relinquish control, embrace uncertainty, and to create a strategy and work and determination and patience to keep our goals internal to ourselves and keep moving forward rather than changing it. It also invites us to inventory our relationships, decide which ones are serving us, which ones are not, which ones are aligned with where we're going, which ones will support our journey, and which ones maybe we can put on the back burner for a few, you know, until we accomplish our goal. So going back to this idea of being disappointed versus feeling disappointment, I love semantics. Some people get really annoyed because I'm a stickler for words, but I think words matter. And in August, I'm actually going to run a series called Words Matter, Word Matters, where I talk about specific words and why I use them or don't, or what context I use them for. Just to create an awareness. The word disappointed is coming up for me in my space, and I'll share a little bit of my story and why I opted to have this episode focus on that. But you can replace that word with irritated or annoyed or frustrated or angry. I suppose you could replace it with joyful words like giddy and ecstatic and joyful as well. But most of the time we're trying to change our state out of disappointment or we're feeling disappointed. And feeling disappointed or the disappointment keeps us from moving forward and pursuing. Whereas feeling ecstatic and giddy and joyful generally does not get in our way. So for this purpose, we're going to use, for my purpose anyway, where I'm at right now, I'm going to use disappointed. So the first thing about disappointed, disappointment, is there is a difference between being disappointed and feeling disappointed. Being someone who is disappointed, I am disappointed, versus someone who allows themselves to feel disappointment. And the difference is really this awareness of this separation, the awareness that you are not your feelings. We don't want to create our identity as our emotion. We definitely want to feel all of our emotions, though. So this is not, you know, just suck it up and get over it. I'm not asking us to not feel. I'm simply inviting us to recognize that our feelings are not us. And what happens, why it matters, why I'm harping on this, is because when we say I'm disappointed, which is something I found myself saying this week, it becomes an identity and a self-fulfilling prophecy where I kept finding things to be disappointed about because my sentence in my head was, I am disappointed. It was one experience that created, it was a circumstance that I had a thought about that created a feeling in me of disappointment. But once I said, I am disappointed, then I kept finding things that would prove that I was disappointed. And I honestly had an entire day of sitting on the couch listening to stories and reading and hanging out with my dog, and that's okay. Sometimes we need that. But that was not my intention for that day. And I recognize it's because I kept telling myself how disappointed I was. When I say I feel disappointed, then rather than resist being disappointed, rather than resist the emotion rather than fighting against it, then I can allow myself to feel it. I feel disappointed. I know what disappointment feels like. I can handle feeling this way. I know that it's an emotion that will pass. When I say I am disappointed, this feels permanent. It feels like it's always going to be this way. But when I say I feel disappointed, I know that it's not permanent. It's simply a moment. It's this moment and this moment and this moment. It may be several moments. It may be several days, it may be a few minutes, but it is not perpetual. That gives me the ability to trust that I can move through it and not stay in that energy. Sometimes we think that if we let ourselves feel an emotion, we're going to get stuck in that emotion, but that's not actually how emotion works. Emotion is fluid. It's like putting your toe in a river. It just keeps changing and flowing through, flowing through if you let it. But why we get stuck in emotion is because we have a thought that we keep thinking over and over and over that keeps us feeling the way we feel. That's great if the emotion is something you want to feel, but if it's something that's not helping you, we don't want to stay there. So we want to let ourselves feel and then move forward. The thing about something that's disappointing or something that you feel disappointed about is that you actually believe an alternative is possible. If you've created a goal for yourself and you're not seeing the results that you want and you are feeling disappointed, it's because you actually believe that an alternative success is possible for you. Or you wouldn't be disappointed, you just wouldn't care. You would just resign yourself or let it go or move on or not even have that. But there's something in you that knows that this is for you. If there's a circumstance, um, in my case, um, I received some information about a loved one, I was allowed to feel disappointed. I was allowed to think whatever I needed to think and process my emotions and recognize I don't have enough information to be devastated at this moment and feeling that isn't going to solve anything at this moment. I needed to wait until I got more information to decide what my next steps were. If I had let myself be disappointed rather than feel disappointed, I would probably still be wallowing. One of the things I learned that causes disappointment is to have a breakdown, an unfulfilled expectation, a thwarted intention, or an undelivered communication. And sometimes I would say that it's not actually the unfulfilled expectation, but rather it's a fulfilled expectation that was not desired. So a fulfilled, undesired expectation. Because remember, I we've talked about this before, but the circumstance doesn't create how we feel. It's our thought about the circumstance that creates how we feel. And if I'm thinking I don't want an experience, I'm feeling some kind of way that makes me act in alignment with the thought I don't want that experience, or that experience is terrible, my result becomes the same as my thought. So the result becomes that experience is terrible or disappointing in this case. And it's important to catch those moments because feeling disappointed, recognizing that you believe there's an alternative is actually one of your greatest assets. It's one of the biggest tools you have because it's through those breakdowns that we create breakthroughs. It's through assessing and growing through those disappointments, taking steps, creating thoughts, creating feelings, taking action, creating new results, that let us actually be the person that we want to be, that let us become that version of ourselves that we're most proud of. If everything was easy, you wouldn't have anything to be proud of. You wouldn't be disappointed. You just it would just be like ho hum, right? But we want to experience 100% of the humanness of being alive. We want to know what it is to live. We want to evolve and experience. And life is 50-50. So some of those experiences are pleasant and some of those experiences are less pleasant. Or horrible. You could say that if you want. So it's a self-perpetuating prophecy here, which is why I was saying in the beginning, when we say I am disappointed, that's an is statement. It's an identity statement, it's an I am statement, not an I feel statement. So let's decide to be aware of what we're feeling rather than encompassing what we're feeling as who we are. And when you do that, you have freedom then to change it, if you want to. So once you've decided that you don't want to feel the way you're feeling anymore, or that the way you're thinking isn't serving you, then that's when we can decide to self-soothe. We can look at our thoughts. We can decide what are we thinking? Do we want to think this? Is it serving us? Do we want to change what we're thinking? Sometimes those thoughts do serve us. Sometimes it does make sense to feel sad. Sometimes we want to allow that. And then sometimes we're ready to move on or to not feel that or to change our relationship with the circumstance. When that happens, then we move into self-soothing, we can talk to ourselves, we can listen to music, we can go for a walk, we can change our state, we can meditate. There are some activities that we engage in that become buffering, that become a way to avoid what we're feeling. And I would not recommend that. Some of these are overeating or over-drinking or overworking or even going to the gym more than is good for you. You know, you get to decide what that is. We know there's nutritionists and trainers and um physiotherapists that can tell you, you know, where the line is, but you have to decide where that is for yourself. But it goes back to that sentence: do you like your reasons? If you're doing those things to avoid a feeling, then they're probably not helping you move through and evolve. They're not helping you reach the actual goal. So, whatever the actual goal is, if the actual goal is to feel better, okay, that's one thing. But if the actual goal is to process your emotion and experience being alive, accomplishing the results that you're after, then the best thing is to simply pause and let yourself experience the emotion.

SPEAKER_00 18:39

This is how we keep going. We keep going deliberately, powerfully, purposefully, and aligned.

SPEAKER_01 18:48

We decide that the thing that we're working on or the thing that we're experiencing or the news that we've received is something that we're capable of handling, something that we want to work through, something that we believe will serve us, and then we decide to keep going as our most powerful, aligned self. And if we decide that that goal or that endeavor or that information no longer serves us, at least now because we've separated ourselves from the experience, we have the ability to create a new outcome or even to release the project that we're on. So back to our strawberry moon and Capricorn. This is the moment for us to assess the projects that we're working on. Are they exciting? Are they motivating? Are they miserable? That doesn't mean that we don't keep going. It means we assess why. What's happening? What are we thinking about the circumstance that has us feeling this way? What do we want to change or tweak or adjust or try or get help with or ask for advice on or do a different way. And the last piece that I want to share is we don't ever want to make ourselves wrong for any feeling that we have, or even, you know, wallowing or being indulgent in our emotion. This is part of being human. What we want to do though is plan for it. Plan to be human, plan to have emotions, plan to have setbacks, and allow for it. It doesn't mean that we're horrible people or that we don't belong or that we can't have the goal or the outcome that we want. It simply means we get to revisit and look at and readjust. And as a bit of inspiration for you, I'm going to invite you to go to Instagram if you have IG and look up You Row Kelsey. Y-O-U-R-O-W-K-E-L-S-E-Y. She's the first American woman to row solo from California to Hawaii, and she's setting a bunch of world records. But if you scroll through her feed and you look at day eight, day eight, she's been on the water for almost two months, but day eight was a really hard day. And I keep thinking about that day in that post, and I'm so motivated by it because even on a really hard day when it felt like futility, she was able to get in touch with herself, to remember what she practiced, to refocus and be determined because she let herself feel her disappointment. She didn't try to pretend she wasn't disappointed, she didn't try to act smiley and shiny. She let herself be human and then recommit and move on.

SPEAKER_00 22:00

And keep going.

SPEAKER_01 22:04

So that's what I have for you today. If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out. Enjoy this strawberry moon. Enjoy the rhythm of nature and enjoy that separation of you and your feelings and know that I believe in you and I know that whatever you are up to, whatever you desire, you can have it.

SPEAKER_00 22:30

You can accomplish it. Just keep going.