EP 6: A Guy Finally Tells the Truth About Mixed Signals & Dry Texting

He's here. And he's answering everything.

Harper brought her friend Colt on the podcast and asked him all the things girls are too scared to ask guys directly — and he actually answered. Do guys reread your texts? Do they talk about you with their friends? What does it mean when he leaves you on delivered for four hours?

Spoiler: you're not as crazy as you think you are.

We talk about:

• What dry texting actually means to guys (finally)
• How to tell if he's genuinely interested or just bored
• Mixed signals, love bombing, and early red flags
• Guy code vs. girl code — are they even the same?
• What guys actually wish girls understood about communication

No more guessing. No more overanalyzing a one-word reply.

If you've ever sent a screenshot to your group chat asking "wait what does this mean" — this episode was made for you. 

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:05

Hi, welcome to Rarely Said, the podcast where we talk about what everyone feels but not everyone says. I'm your host, Harper, and I'm so excited you're here. Let's get into it. Okay, today I have a special guest. This is my very great guy friend Cole.

SPEAKER_00 0:18

What's up, guys?

SPEAKER_01 0:20

So, we're gonna start this off by doing a very quick rapid fire. This is about my guy best friend exposing boys because obviously you guys want like the guy to tell us because obviously the best insight is, you know, the real thing right here, a male. Anyways, okay, we're gonna do a rapid fire game real fast, and I have some questions, and the rules are you have to answer instantly with a yes or no, and you can't explain. Okay. Do guys reread texts?

SPEAKER_00 0:50

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

Do guys talk about girls with their friends?

SPEAKER_00 0:54

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:54

What's the biggest thing a girl does?

SPEAKER_00 0:56

When she's overly cocky or has like a high ego.

SPEAKER_01 1:00

Yeah. Do guys notice outfits?

SPEAKER_00 1:04

To an extent.

unknown 1:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:06

Do you guys like being chased?

SPEAKER_00 1:10

In a way, but it need it needs to like have like a middle ground, not like too much, but not like too little.

SPEAKER_01 1:17

Okay. Are mixed signals intentional?

SPEAKER_00 1:22

Somewhat, but I think if in like a real relationship, I don't think there should be like a whole bunch of like chasing in like a whole bunch of games. I just think it needs to be kind of straightforward as like a one, it's like a just a one thing. There doesn't need to be like a three-month rule or like a a start and stop of like texting and ghosting them for a couple hours. I just think it kind of needs to be like one fluent action.

SPEAKER_01 1:44

Okay. Okay. Now we're gonna talk about things girls overthink and like what you think about them. All right. Cause obviously us girls, we don't like dry texting and like when guys randomly like to, you know, pop back in and say hello and try and come back, um, or like the difference between dry texting versus being busy. Like, what do you think about dry texting? And like, what do you think a guy is like trying to imply when they're texting me dry?

SPEAKER_00 2:14

I think to start off, if a guy's sending you dry texts and it's been like that way for a couple of days, there's a reason why, and it's probably all like negatives. Dry texting just ha does to like he would do it in order just to show you that he really it's not his biggest priority. If a guy truly likes you, he will put in the effort and he'll show that he he you genuinely care. And if you are shortening up every question, making it really dry, really, really basic, then it's just implying that he wants the conversation to end way more quickly than it should, pretty much.

SPEAKER_01 2:54

Yeah. What do you think, or have you done this? Have you like left a girl kind of and then wanted to like you know add her back on snap again and draw and talk to her again? Do you do that?

SPEAKER_00 3:03

I did that one time. So one singular time.

SPEAKER_01 3:06

So then what was your take on it? How'd you feel about doing that? And why'd you do it?

SPEAKER_00 3:12

I felt a little iffy if it would work, but it later, like, some in a way it did. It it put us back on like a friend level.

SPEAKER_01 3:21

Okay. And what do you think a guy? I mean, you know, typically with me, I think that guys like to leave a lot and then they usually will come back. What do you think that that means?

SPEAKER_00 3:34

It me it really means that his priorities really aren't that set forward, that that straight. A real mature guy really, if you're really truly like wanting to commit yourself to something long term, the guy should be able to position his life around that one focus. He shouldn't be getting distracted and chasing multiple girls, going to parties, doing all this. If he really wants to focus on having one true relationship, he'll move his life around in order to prioritize that relationship.

SPEAKER_01 4:02

Okay. Yeah. Um, okay. Do guys know when they're being like a red flag, like purposely like love bombing or leading a girl on, and you know?

SPEAKER_00 4:17

To be honest, it kind of how it all starts is your first like one or two relationships. That's how or talking stage is that kind of sets the tone for how you like start doing pursuing like your love life, and how you start at the beginning is kind of how you'll kind of finish. If you are like a very affectionate person and you like love to blow up their phone all the time, you're not gonna just like start and stop with like different people, you're gonna continue to text a lot because that's what you that's all you know, and you you don't know how to be a dry person. See, for in my case, I've never like I never leave girls on opened, I never I never leave any anybody on opened ever. If anyone texts me, I always respond to them just because it's not who I am as a person, and I feel like I always have something to talk to, and that's been like a personality trait that I really like emphasize that I am super super easy to talk to, and I can always carry on a conversation no matter the circumstances. So you'll never see me put do any dry texts. If you guys ever text me, I always answer with something good.

SPEAKER_01 5:19

So, do you think like I mean, specifically with me, you know that guys will like lead me on and then we'll kind of be like, Well, at the end, they're like, I don't want a relationship. Do you think that's because the girls scared them away, or because they like intentionally led the person on to then be like, oh well, just kidding, like just using you and stuff like that?

SPEAKER_00 5:38

To be honest, if he really, really likes you and he's really trying to spend time with you, and then you really get the vibe that he like truly likes you for you, and then one day he just decides to ghost you, most likely he's probably talking to someone else. And he he really just doesn't want to commit to a relationship with one person. He'd rather like explore like multiple options instead of just one. But if he truly does want to connect with you and just you, then he he'll tell you and he'll have that long conversation with you late at night, during the day, whenever, and it will be like an hour and a half conversation of him telling you, like Harper, like I truly want to be with you, and that's the type of conversation that mature people have. And a lot of people like aren't ready to have that conversation, especially in high school, and that's something I think that's pretty valuable is communication, because that's where it all starts. That's how you build trust, that's how you build boundaries, that's how all good things start. And I feel like that's what a lot of teenagers in today's society like lack a lot of is communication, and they're too afraid to communicate with how they feel because they're afraid of being judged and how others believe. That's very true.

SPEAKER_01 6:43

I actually have a very specific question.

SPEAKER_00 6:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:46

Um, when do you think that guys know like that they're gonna date the girl or that like she's the one? Like in high school specifically, so like meeting a girl and being like, you know, she's gonna be my girlfriend. And have you like had an experience with that?

SPEAKER_00 7:03

You kind of get a feeling so when you start texting them, you can tell pretty quickly based on the girl's responses. And if the girl is really trying to end the conversation quickly, then you know, yeah, it's not good. If you actually truly like someone, they truly like you, the conversation should be going on and on and on, and you guys should be blowing up each other's phones all day and talking. It shouldn't just be like every like couple of hours, just check check in or s Snapchat them.

SPEAKER_01 7:30

Yeah, yeah, I agree. And now we're gonna talk about girl code versus guy code.

SPEAKER_00 7:35

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 7:36

I'm actually in a situation right now that I haven't told you, so this is also blind reaction story time with Cole. Yeah, I always tell Cole all my like guy drama, and he doesn't really know this one yet, but I think I was actually just telling my mom that this is like I'm totally in this situation. So basically, you know how I was hanging out with the couple, you know them. Yeah, and I was hanging out and going fishing with their one friend, but I don't even I think you maybe texted me and said, New husband, but he's my friend. Like I did, I did not have a crush on him, did not kiss him, nothing, but I did hang out with him a couple of times. Yeah and he did pay for my ice cream one time. So basically a couple of days ago, on it was the day before my birthday, so the 25th, I was with the couple and then said guy who was my friend. We got ice cream and then he wanted to go see his best friend, and he was at church. So we like went to the church and his best friend came out, and I was like in the front seat with the guy, and um he like came to the window and we were like talking to him, and I realized and I was like, Oh my gosh, his best friend is so cute. And the first thing he said at the window was, Is this a two-man? And then I looked at him and like froze up and I got all red because I was like, Oh my god, I think he's cute. What do I do? Didn't say anything. Then I get home and I'm talking to my friend, you know who said friend, said friend, and I was like, Okay, he is really cute. So I did a little bit of stalking, and we followed each other on Instagram, and I was like, that's weird. So then I looked him up on Snap and he had added me like probably a month ago. Like it wasn't like a new ad, but it was an old ad. Like he said. Did you know who he was? No, I didn't know who he was, and we only had a couple of mutuals, so I added him back, and then I snapped him like a picture of me like laughing, yeah, because I thought it was funny, and then he sent one back, and then we just like snapped for a little bit, and then he said, Happy early birthday at like 11 30 because I was staying up, so obviously he was stalking my birthday, right? Yeah, and so I was like, Hey, you're stalking me or something, and he was like, Chill, I was just looking at your profile, and then we started like texting, and we didn't really talk about the fact that I was literally with his friend like a couple of hours ago. Oh gosh, but we were kind of talking, and then obviously, like now that I'm thinking about it, said guy that I was with couldn't have told his best friend, oh, I was like getting with her and stuff. Like, he literally could have said I was hanging out with her. There wasn't much to say because nothing happened. So I guess in a way it's like fine. But said guy was texting my friend saying, like, oh well, what's Harper think about me, and all this stuff. So he clearly did maybe have a feeling that's what guys do. Yeah. So, anyways, we're texting, and then he stayed up like to tell me happy birthday, and my bestie Ava was the first one to tell me happy birthday. He was the second one, but he told me happy birthday, and then he was like I thought he was really cute. Some may say this was cringe, but he said goodnight, sweet girl, and I think he was just trying to be nice because like it was my birthday.

SPEAKER_00 10:54

Yeah, that's like a nice thing.

SPEAKER_01 10:55

I know, I thought that was really nice. And then he was like, I'll text you in the morning and stuff, so I was like, Okay, I'll be counting on it. And then he texted me the next morning at literally five in the morning, was like, the morning birthday girl. So clearly he's into me. So then we were texting when I was at school, literally just the like on my birthday on Thursday, and I like asked him to hang out because I knew he would ask me to hang out because like it was my birthday, and he drove and he lives like 30 minutes away. He drove here, picked me up. I can't expose that. Uh and he drove 30 minutes and picked me up, and then we drove all the way to Newport to get dirty sodas, and he doesn't even like dirty soda, but he got one. And then we like just talked in the car and we really hit it off, and then we finally talked about said friend, and he was like, I mean, he said that he doesn't really care. But then he didn't know that we hung out and we all went to a party yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

So how was that? I never even asked you.

SPEAKER_01 11:56

It was boring and there was no one, so just wait.

SPEAKER_00 11:59

How many people gets better?

SPEAKER_01 12:00

Like 15, 20, maybe by the end, like 40.

SPEAKER_00 12:03

That's a kickback.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

Yeah. With a ton of people I didn't know besides and then Well Um Niche Pole. Basically, what happened was we were all in the car together driving there, and a comment was made, kind of implying that we were together last night, and then was like, You guys were together last night, and then we both looked at each other, and we were like, Yeah. And then at the party we didn't talk because it was just like really awkward at that point. Yeah. And then finally, me and Boy sat next to each other and we were talking. Then said guy got up and was like, I'm gonna go home, and just left. And then me no way, yes, and then we were like, What the heck? But we weren't like touchy or weird, like we were literally just having a conversation. And there's this Ford Exchange student, we love him, and he was like also talking, and he's literally so funny, anyways. He was also a part of this.

SPEAKER_00 12:54

I gotta I gotta hang out with them.

SPEAKER_01 12:55

I know they're they're very fun people, Cole. And then, so I was obviously with the guy that I was hanging out with on my birthday, and we were kind of talking, and my brother like made plans with his friends and didn't want to pick me up. So then I ended up asking him for a ride home because he was like our ride there and whatever. So he took all of us home, anyways. We kissed last night, and his friend I think is mad. So, moral of the story is what he about guy code because they are best friends. They are best friends, and do you think that's bad? And do you but also I didn't kiss the other guy, I only kissed this guy.

SPEAKER_00 13:38

This is like this is like a prime example of Guy Code, because especially if the guy before texted you and really told the other guy, yeah, I really like this girl Harper, like she's really pretty, all that, and then he go the other guy goes and starts talking to you and gets with you, that's gonna cause a lot of tension between the both of them because that as as a as like a boy, if here's an e here's an example, my best friend Tristan, if that ever happened, there would be a huge, huge argument because it's just like a respect thing. You have you don't have respect for your best friend, and you really would go behind his back to do something that you know would make him upset just for your own desires.

SPEAKER_01 14:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:27

And I think it's a little unmature, but I can get I can like see how it would happen, especially with teenagers nowadays. They really don't think about it, they just think about what's best in the situation. They don't really think about the longevity of it.

SPEAKER_01 14:44

Clearly, I'm the best in the situation, so just wanted to let it rumble.

SPEAKER_00 14:47

Hi ego harper.

SPEAKER_01 14:49

Oops, sorry, was that an ick?

unknown 14:51

Ick.

SPEAKER_01 14:54

Well, I was actually thinking about that. I was like, damn, is he a messed up friend? But also, like said friend texted him and was like, You she's all yours. And like they would make him jokes. So I'm like, technically it wouldn't be his fault, but then he's gonna like be all dramatic and leave and stuff, which was a little immature. But I also think that his friend needs to like text him and be like, by the way, like I have a really fat crush on Harper and we will be hanging out because I hope so. But um, like, don't you think?

SPEAKER_00 15:22

I I think it's an interesting situation, but if he texted the other guy and said it's it's all good, then I think it'll be all good. They'll probably just have like a man-to-man conversation that night about it. But other than that, I think it's one of those, like, hey, bring in brother, and they're good the next day.

SPEAKER_01 15:37

Yeah. And I'm not getting involved in that, obviously.

SPEAKER_00 15:39

So see, because it's not it's not on you, it's but it's on them. Yeah. You're just the you're the middle person.

SPEAKER_01 15:46

Yeah. So that was a really good story time about that. So we obviously did a little Instagram post about questions that girls specifically want to ask. Yes. Okay, one of our Instagram questions was why don't girls or why don't guys want to treat girls right? Uh that's probably I don't know. I mean, we know me and my little ex-boyfriend situation. That was just a really bad situation. I don't really know what I ever did. Because I thought I was a really good girlfriend. Do you think I was?

SPEAKER_00 16:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:19

And then I just got shit in on. So what's your take on this, and why do you think that guys don't want to treat girls good?

SPEAKER_00 16:27

Me personally, I can't be like a jerk or anything like that. It's just like I can't do it. I'm I'm too nice of a person to treat like people like disrespecting because I was raised better than that. I don't have like disrespect. I have respect for women, men, whatever. And to be honest, if the guy really like does not like the girl, he will show her like clear and obvious signs. They'll schedule a hangout and he'll cancel last minute, or he'll just ignore her, see her in the hallways, just put his head down. There'll be clear and obvious signs, but also coming from like a general standpoint, it would be past trauma with other situations that you think could also think that you would be set up for failure. Because I know people get their heartbroken by one girl and they think another girl's actions towards them is setting them up for the exact same failure that they already endured in the past. So it's kind of like a s from a safety standpoint, they feel com they feel comfortable and they don't want to cross a road that's they've already known has hurt them. So that would be a reason why. Another one is just they really just don't want to prioritize that and they just want to be dry, but yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

Maybe he just doesn't have a crush on you.

SPEAKER_00 17:43

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 17:43

Because if he does, he would say goodnight, sweet girl.

SPEAKER_00 17:46

Guys, that's the quote of the day.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Good night, sweet girl. Anyways, okay. I think our next thing that we're gonna do, I have another game. Yeah. Because these are like really fun. This agree or disagree game, I think we should actually talk about some of them because I think they're actually kind of good. Um, but you can just add on to if he agrees or disagrees. If he wanted to, he would.

SPEAKER_00 18:09

If he wanted to, he would put in the effort and put you as his number one priority, unless he specified that his sports or job or goals are ahead of the relationship, in which girls also need to respect that. Because I feel like a lot of girls say you need to prioritize me and only me, but also there's more to life than just a relationship. Getting a job, getting money, having success down the road. Not all these relationships are gonna be some super long-term thing, and you know at the end of the day, your career is always gonna be there for you, and the girls or the guys might not always be there for you.

SPEAKER_01 18:44

Guys fall in love faster than girls.

SPEAKER_00 18:46

That is very true. Really? That is very true, I feel like. I feel like guys some guys like really seek attention, and when they get that attention and they like what they see, and it's wholesome.

SPEAKER_01 19:01

Wholesome.

SPEAKER_00 19:02

Wholesome twin.

SPEAKER_01 19:04

Oh my god, I just stuttered.

SPEAKER_00 19:05

Wholesome twin. Wholesome twin, take five.

SPEAKER_01 19:09

Um, pretty privilege is real.

SPEAKER_00 19:13

I really do not understand what this means.

SPEAKER_01 19:15

Yes, you do. I feel like we talk about it.

SPEAKER_00 19:18

What does this mean?

SPEAKER_01 19:18

You literally have said that you think I get what I want because I'm pretty. That's what it means. Like a girl.

SPEAKER_00 19:24

I those exact lines have never come out of my mouth. But I think from a girl's standpoint, girls can get like whatever they want, just because I feel like guys are guys are like easier to get with than girls are. That's like Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_01 19:39

Like, I feel like if a girl at a party went up to a guy and is like kissed me, they're like, Yeah, but if a guy came up to me and was like kiss me, I'd say, Yeah, exactly. Girls and guys can't just be friends. We are a clear example that girls and guys can be just friends, I promise you.

SPEAKER_00 19:53

I think a lot of the times when you get like so close to someone, really getting into a relationship with them can really damage a true friendship. And really, if you break up, I know people say, Yeah, we fixed we fixed it and we're all good now, but there's always like a piece of that friendship, a relationship that's missing, and that's one of the key things. You need to know what you want to prioritize in a relationship and a friendship, and hey, best friend.

SPEAKER_01 20:21

Um, double texting is embarrassing.

SPEAKER_00 20:24

What's an example of this?

SPEAKER_01 20:26

Like, if I were to text a guy and he didn't respond, and like so I double texted him, so I was like, hey, what are you doing? And I'm like, hey.

SPEAKER_00 20:35

See, guys like when girls put in the effort. See, I can speak with truth on this subject because this has happened to me. I feel like I put in a lot of effort into this relationship that I really prioritized, but for some crazy reason, for the first time ever, the girl actually put in way more um way more effort than me. And I thought I was like doing like above and beyond. I was texting her all the time, I would call her, I'd hang out with her all the time, but it it seemed like she was doing more, which was crazy to me because I've never felt that way. That like a girl's like really like prioritized more than I prioritize her. And the thing, it's not like I like her less or like she likes me more, like I really, really liked her. It was just a mental thing of I felt very safe. And at night I could like sleep knowing that hey, I know I felt loved, and that was it was a great feeling.

SPEAKER_01 21:24

Wow, that's amazing. What do you since me and Cole always talk about this? I feel like everyone should know this. What are your takes on pressing the hangout button too much?

SPEAKER_00 21:34

She is the prime example of this. She does this way too much. She will literally start talking to a guy. And I kid you not, she sends me, in five days in a row, she sends me a snap with the guy in each day in a new location. And I'm telling her, I'm like, Harper, like, how much time do you have on your hands? Like, where's your life? Like it's just every single night she's like, oh, I'm hanging out with so and so again. I'm like, Harper, you've done that for the past three days. Like, hang out with your friends or go get food or like I think it it hurts a relationship more than it helps it. I know, yeah. To an extent.

SPEAKER_01 22:16

Big talks about this.

SPEAKER_00 22:17

I know. I think there should be like some spacing involved. Like, I like yes, if you want to hang out with them like two or three days in a row, yeah. But don't hang out with them for like the big seven days a week Warrior Harper Stevens. She's the prime example of this.

SPEAKER_01 22:33

Actually, don't do that because the guy gets sick of you, I've noticed. I think they get really bored.

SPEAKER_00 22:38

Exact this is my exact reason why I tell her this all the time.

SPEAKER_01 22:42

This is why Harper's talking stages don't work, is because I just like take out too much. And also, I don't do a sport and I have like nothing to ever do. You know, that's really sad.

SPEAKER_00 22:56

That's her sport.

SPEAKER_01 22:56

She's professional tanning. I I actually said that in my first thing. I I really love to tan. I'm actually wish I was doing it. Olympic tanning. Is that a thing? I think it's a win.

SPEAKER_00 23:07

Um Olympics, if you're watching this, put tanning in the sport and put harper on it.

SPEAKER_01 23:10

Yeah. I'll represent USA. Um But no, actually, I think I'm gonna take your advice, and this time I'm not gonna press the hangout button. I also think he doesn't have that much, like he's a football player, and I think he does a lot of stuff.

SPEAKER_00 23:26

I also think if a guy can hang out for like five, six days in a row, then that shows like really what's going on in his life, which means like it's nothing. Facts. I think there should be a balance. I think me and Colt don't even hang out that much, and that says a lot. I say at most two or three days in a row. More than that, you're really, really pushing. Unless it's like a vacation, you take him on a vacation, then like that's that's another conversation.

SPEAKER_01 23:53

Whoa.

SPEAKER_00 23:54

But if you guys are just hanging around like around town, I don't think more than like two or three days in a row. More than that, you're really, really pushing it.

SPEAKER_01 24:02

Yeah. If a girl really likes a guy and they're hoping to get the hair off. Sorry. And they're hoping to pursue them for a long time, what should the girl know about the guy? Or not about the guy, but what should the girl know to keep the guy for a long time?

SPEAKER_00 24:15

To be honest, number one thing is no games. Because that's what people like talk about all the time. That oh, you should snap them, then ghost them, snap them, ghost them, keep them chasing you, leave them on delivered for three hours, have them like double text you. No, I'm gonna be honest, that is not a good if if a girl did that to me, I would just get so annoyed and I would just not talk to her. Straight rage bait. It's it's rage bait. It doesn't set you up for success. If you actually truly like someone, there shouldn't be some some push-pull, or it should just be like YouTube like both like each other, and you just really just want to pursue that.

SPEAKER_01 24:53

Yeah. You know what I think is also hard is like having a conversation about that. I feel like I would get scared, like, to be like, hey, like, seriously, what is this? Because I feel like I always get confused in like what I'm in. But I think sometimes I feel like guys are too immature for me to like sit here.

SPEAKER_00 25:09

A lot of a lot of guys are immature. But the thing is it's also who they hang out with. A lot of times, if the friends around them are pretty childish or like they joke around a lot, then it's really it's probably not gonna work the best that you want it to, unless there's a guy who has a lot of wisdom or a guy who really like knows what he wants, then I feel like then you're in a better place for success. But I really feel like it the girl just really doesn't don't be dry. That's the key like the takeaway from this. Just don't be dry. And if you like the guy, learn how to keep a conversation going and don't have him be the only one who starts the conversation. Because I feel like a lot of times the guy's the one keeping it and maintaining it and creating new talking points, and the girl's just the one answering it. So I feel like the girl really needs to check up on the guy and be the one who's also starting, so it's not just like a nut just like a one-way street. Because I feel like that was back to the situation of the girl putting in more um more effort than me. She was the one, like af after pra after basketball practice, I didn't even have half to look in my phone. Like 20 minutes before my practice ended, she literally texted me, I hope practice is going well. Tell me about it when once you're over. I miss you. Like all that. And it's like that's the type of effort that guys want, but a lot of them don't get it. It's just like they open their phone, it's the girl's going, like the key har the key harper snap. What's the case?

SPEAKER_01 26:31

So now it's hard to bring my snaps. I don't know. I snap a lot of different ways. I have different ways.

SPEAKER_00 26:37

Different methods, guys.

SPEAKER_01 26:38

Yeah, you have to get your methods. Also, my biggest hack is to send them funny stickers.

SPEAKER_00 26:44

Of what?

SPEAKER_01 26:46

Have I not sent you my funny stickers? Dude, that's number one Riz. You got they have to think you're funny. Do you like a funny girl cult?

SPEAKER_00 26:54

Yeah, someone you could joke around with, but also like have serious talks with, because I feel like a lot of them are just like really, really, really like straightforward and like they don't like joke around that much, and I feel like it's the guy just making a lot of jokes. So I feel like it's good to have a girl that can like actually take a joke and like you and like laugh with.

SPEAKER_01 27:11

Yeah, I agree. Um, so I think Colt has definitely sh exposed the boys today. Do you think you've exposed us?

SPEAKER_00 27:19

Or yeah. Yeah, I I feel like to it to an extent, to a safe extent.

SPEAKER_01 27:23

Okay. Um, is there anything you would like to specifically tell the girls that you think they should know?

SPEAKER_00 27:31

Girls, you know, put in the effort and don't expect it to always come from the guy. Also contribute to this conversation and the relationship if you want to pursue it. And also if you're dating a guy, don't go to like a random Snapchat house parties all the time, because that is just it's not a great way for success. And the guy's gonna get mad, and if something does happen where you end up getting with another guy because of certain substances you used or you weren't thinking clearly, it's just gonna cause issues, and I really don't think it's it's it's not healthy for the long run. In high school and college, I think it's pretty common just because that's like the times we live in. But if you really want to pu pursue something like genuine and wholesome, wholesome twin, um, then you really need to prioritize that and not prioritize other lustful like desires of the world, pretty much. Yeah and ha you know how crazy the world gets with parties, alcohol, drugs, all that. It's very, very common and very publicized, and I feel like if you can step away from that and go into your own like peaceful world, then you're gonna have a lot of success.

SPEAKER_01 28:47

Yeah. Anyways, if you're listening and you already feel seen, then this podcast is doing its job. You don't need to have your life figured out to be here. Sometimes just noticing what you're feeling is enough. Thank you for spending this time with me and Colt.

SPEAKER_00 29:00

What's up, guys?

SPEAKER_01 29:02

Um, I'll talk to you again soon. Bye bye.

SPEAKER_00 29:05

Bye, guys.