How Intentional Fatherhood Breaks the Generational Cycle for Good | First Hero Podcast EP006

Most dads aren't bad fathers. They're unconscious ones.

There's a pattern silently running in the background of your fatherhood — and the scary part? You didn't create it. You inherited it. And right now, without even knowing it, you may be passing it straight down to your daughter.
In this episode, Corey and Rich break open one of the most powerful frameworks in personal development and apply it directly to fatherhood — the Drifter vs. Designer model. Rooted in Napoleon Hill's most controversial and suppressed book, this concept will change the way you see yourself as a father forever.

Because here's the truth no one is telling girl dads:
Your daughter isn't learning from what you say.
She's learning from who you are when you think no one is watching.
Every day you drift — she writes it into her story.

This episode will wake you up. But more importantly, it will show you exactly what to do next.

Most dads aren't bad fathers. They're unconscious ones.

There's a pattern silently running in the background of your fatherhood — and the scary part? You didn't create it. You inherited it. And right now, without even knowing it, you may be passing it straight down to your daughter.
In this episode, Corey and Rich break open one of the most powerful frameworks in personal development and apply it directly to fatherhood — the Drifter vs. Designer model. Rooted in Napoleon Hill's most controversial and suppressed book, this concept will change the way you see yourself as a father forever.
Because here's the truth no one is telling girl dads:
Your daughter isn't learning from what you say.
She's learning from who you are when you think no one is watching.
Every day you drift — she writes it into her story.
This episode will wake you up. But more importantly, it will show you exactly what to do next.

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🔍 TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — The hard truth about drifting dads
01:15 — Drifter vs. Designer: where this framework comes from
02:10 — Napoleon Hill's most controversial and suppressed book
03:46 — What hypnotic rhythm is doing to your fatherhood
05:23 — How the cycle gets passed to your daughter (this one hits hard)
07:06 — Why fear and shame keep fathers stuck in drift
07:52 — Rich's personal story: the moment everything changed
10:05 — The patterns of a drifting father (do any of these sound familiar?)
14:38 — What your daughter is silently learning from a drifting dad
16:54 — What the Designer Dad actually looks like in real life
20:25 — The awakening — it's not too late, no matter where you start
21:56 — Hot take: the Carl Jung quote that explains everything
23:55 — The 1-degree drift analogy that will change how you see fatherhood
25:14 — Closing reflection for every girl dad ready to break the cycle

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Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:00

Most fathers are living on autopilot. They wake up, they go to work, they come home tired, they doom scroll before they go to bed, then rinse and repeat. And somewhere in the middle of all that chaos, they're raising a daughter who's watching everything. And what she sees, she normalizes. Here's the hard truth. You're not just tired, dude, you're drifting. There are two types of fathers in this world: there's drifters and designers. Drifters let the day shape them, designers decide who they're gonna be before the day even begins. And every single moment, the tone you use, the repair you avoid, the phone you don't put down, you are reinforcing one identity or the other. And the question isn't whether you're a good dad, man. The question is, are you the architect designing your life? Designing your fatherhood? Are you the architect designing the relationship with your daughter? Or are you simply drifting through it?

SPEAKER_01 0:49

Your daughter doesn't need a perfect father. She needs one committed to being better. Welcome to the First Hero Podcast, where girl dads break harmful cycles and build impactful legacies.

SPEAKER_03 1:00

I am your gracious host, Corey. And I'm Rich. And this podcast episode, we're going to cover something really important. We're going to cover the difference between drifting versus designing, specifically designing, specifically it when it comes to fatherhood, fathering your daughter. This is important for fathers because there are invisible forces that are dominating and they are controlling and manipulating our lives, and we have no idea that it's happening.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Yeah. Yeah. It's a powerful topic. And uh I think the first thing we got to do is dive into maybe some context and giving the audience a little bit of context into where these concepts come from because they're not really invented by us. They're not unique to us. They're not unique to us. Um, but it is a it is a it is a context and a framework and an understanding and a perspective that comes from um something that uh that was written a very long time ago. A very long time ago. Documented a very long time ago.

SPEAKER_03 1:51

Document and it's so dope, dude.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

Probably predates even when it was documented in this very well-known book. Right. But um it's kind of one of those universal laws, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 2:00

Yeah, and that and it's and it so it was it was written by Napoleon Hill. So if you if you know Napoleon Hill, he's the OG thought leader of personal development, right? Uh he was the author of Think and Grow Rich. I'm sure you've heard of it. Now, this book that we're referencing Drifting from is uh it was so powerful and so controversial that that Napoleon Hill could not publish it during his time because he knew that the weight and the bombs that he was dropping in this book literally could not be released because we couldn't as a society accept what he was what he was writing about, right? And and this is the the book was called Outwitting the Devil, right?

SPEAKER_01 2:34

Yeah, it probably would have just I could imagine at the time it maybe just would have given created so much turbulence in his own life and his in his potentially even his life being in jeopardy.

SPEAKER_03 2:45

Right, right. And and if you're if you're like if you're if you if you hear this, like, you know, the it's it's not it's not a religious book, right? This isn't a religious book. This is a this is this is more of a mindset development book, but uh we're not gonna get too into it. But essentially what what this book is is he's able to shackle the devil and he's able to interview the devil, right? And get him to confess how he takes over people's minds and souls. Now, again, this isn't religious. The devil is not the classic like horns and and pitchfork, uh pitchfork. He's he's more of a um, you know, he personifies negative energy, right? So he's the negative energy, God's the positive energy.

SPEAKER_01 3:22

It's almost a metaphor for the, you know, the devil on your shoulder, like the good voice in your head, right and the bad voice.

SPEAKER_03 3:29

Exactly, dude. And his main method for snatching souls is by controlling the mind, right? Specifically, specifically through fear and specifically through negative thoughts, which most importantly causes habits inside of an individual, habits which leads to drifting. Now, these are drifting habits. Now, this is very important because a drifter, in the in the sense that Napoleon Hill is def defining and that we that we use, a drifter is a man who permits himself to be influenced and controlled by circumstances outside of his own mind, external forces, right? He's simply floating through life, never challenging anything, right, Rich?

SPEAKER_01 4:03

Exactly, exactly. And we all know people like this. And to be honest with you, I think some of us, if we're, if we have a certain level of awareness, we experience this, a spectrum of this as well. Right, right.

SPEAKER_03 4:13

We drift and and but but but being cognizant of it and being aware of it, that's that's the armor to say, okay, hey, I'm I'm in this, I'm in this cycle, right? Now, a drifter, why is this important for us girl dads? And this is very important for us girl dads, and this is why we you're gonna hear the term drifter a lot inside of this, uh, inside of this podcast. So, why is this important? Because once you drift for a time, it becomes a habit, right? And this habit is what Napoleon Hill calls hypnotic rhythm. And hypnotic rhythm is more, it's it's it's a hypnosis, and not a hypnosis in the sense that you might be familiar with, but more of like a trance. So, have you ever you know watched a movie? And in this movie, you're so into this movie that you have no idea what's going on outside, you're just so sucked in, and before you know it, time passes and the movie's over.

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_03 4:59

You forget about work, you forget about it. Forgot everything, everything you're hungry, and you're so locked in. Well, guess what? This movie is your life, dude. And this life is is controlled by this hypnotic rhythm, which is drift, right? And in the book, the devil says the trick to control 98% of people on this planet is he takes them over during youth, when they're children, right? Before they can come into possession over their own mind, before they can close the door of manipulation from the devil, right? This is why this is so important. And he says, How does he do this? How does he take over young children? Well, he says he gets the parents to do the this is crazy. I get goosebumps. I get goosebumps. How does he do the dirty work? He doesn't even do the dirty work himself. He gets the parents, he gets you, the father, to do the dirty work for him. He's planted these ideas in you since you were a children. You've drifted your whole life, you've created these habits, and then you, the parent, you destroy the habit of thinking. You destroy the habit inside of your daughter to think for herself. Right? He gets you to pass down the habit of drifting to your daughter. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:01

Like fucking powerful. Super, super powerful.

SPEAKER_03 6:04

So manipulative.

SPEAKER_01 6:06

Yeah, absolutely. And and that's what we're this, that's that's the premise of exactly what we want to dive in today, because we want to, we want to break this open because this is really the premise of so much of the work that you and I have experienced. Yeah, the work we've we've been a witness to other people experiencing. And it's really at the core of the cycle breaker, you know, being being a father who being a hero, embodying the first hero concept and being that standard of a father. You have to understand generational cycles. You have to understand this concept of drifting versus designing hypnotic rhythm, hypnotic rhythm and how to avoid it and what happens, like what it is. And so that's why this episode is going to be such a killer. Such a banger, dude.

SPEAKER_03 6:48

And and you know what? And it's it's like, why do why do fathers drift? Like how and why do we get into this? And the devil says in this book specifically, you know, it's easier to repeat than than to design. It's able, it's easier just to get into these habits that everybody else is doing than to design your own life. And really what keeps you at bay is fear, the fear of failure, the feel of, and most importantly, the fear of shame and criticism. You know, going out. I mean, Rich, I'm sure you feel this too. Like creating this girl dad thing. I'm like, what is everyone gonna think about me when I say these opinions? You know, I think of that and I have to break that cycle, right? And and what keeps fathers stuck in these drifting cycles is no definiteness of purpose. Hill Hill calls it definiteness of purpose. No goal and no driving factor behind that goal to like really just tackle that goal and to and and and get that goal at at all costs.

SPEAKER_01 7:37

I think, I think my perspective on this is that when when Hill talks about definiteness of purpose, I think that's a great term of it in in and of itself. And for me, well, I think how that shows up is like you have to have something that you're willing to fight for. Yeah. You have to have, and this is it to actually do just a quick, quick, quick story from my own life. I had this huge pivot. I had this huge pivot. It's funny, you'll probably remember this, but there was a time in Corey and I's relationship where we spent a lot of time as adolescent, younger teenagers, and even into our 20s where we were doing a lot of questionable stuff together as most as most boys do. Hey, this is this is live in public, bro. Yeah, exactly. I can't talk about this. Um, but there was a there was a time when a lot of friends, including Corey, distanced themselves from me. And there was a pivot that I made that brought those people back into my life because I had made a big transformation myself and I had completely shed that version of myself and and be, you know, started down a brand new path. And what I had, I don't know that I've shared with you, but it was about this same concept. I had realized that what I was missing for so long was this. It was definitely definiteness of purpose. And I was lost and I was drifting and I was using so much of the, I was using using, you know, alcohol and the environments and all the stuff that is available to us, all these external forces that many of us experience as a younger age, um, to try to, to try to combat the pain of not having definiteness definiteness of purpose. And there was a moment, I can remember the moment, when there was, I recognized that I needed to stand for something. And by stand for something, I it meant having definiteness of purpose, having something that you're willing to fight for, something that you stand for. Purpose. You have something that is that is that you stand firmly for and you're willing to die on that hill. Yeah. And and that was the cat, that was the thing that I realized I didn't have. And everything up to that point, all the agony and turmoil and everything that I was searching for was because I lacked that one thing. Yeah. And then all of a sudden everything shifted and I started to identify, okay, what are the things that I can stand firmly on? What are the standards that I can set and hold, you know, hard, hard lines on? Because that rises me. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 9:45

I love that, dude. And that definiteness of definitess, definiteness of purpose has definitely shifted for us both, especially since we've become fathers. Now we've taken that purpose to business and growing personal wealth, now to, you know, changing ourselves as a father, holding the mirror up and becoming the best version of ourselves and creating the best environment for ourselves for our daughter to grow and flourish. Yep. Right. That's the new definiteness of purpose that we're instilling in ourselves and also you, the father, listening. So to move on, you know, you're you're you're most likely drifting. If you're listening to this and you you're unconscious to it. If you're like most fathers we talk about and coach and mentor, you're drifting. And that's okay because those patterns were inherited to inherited, you you have inherited them since you were a child and you have no idea that they're going on, right? That's why we're talking about this. We're creating awareness around it. You're not lazy, you know, you're you're probably reacting to life rather than shaping it. But here's like some patterns, and we'll go over these quickly that that um that we notice inside of drifters, inside of fathers that are not performing to the best of their standards. They're waking up, they're checking their phone immediately, and they're automatically in reaction mode. They're reacting to everything that's happening in their day. They're not forming their day. They're not saying this is the day that I'm gonna have, they're letting the day dictate them, right? They're going through motions at work, they're coming home exhausted, they're zoning out, they're snapping at their daughter, they're snapping at their wife, like, don't you know I'm tired, I'm trying to provide, I'm trying to work, et cetera, et cetera. And it's the same freaking cycle every day, day in and day out. And then 10, 15, 20, 30, 70 years goes by, and you're on your deathbed, and you're like, you wake up from this hypnotic rhythm and you're like, holy shit, dude, what just happened in my life? What happened, dude? You break up from this rhythm and the devil's like, gotcha. Your soul's mine, give it up.

SPEAKER_01 11:24

Right? Yep. Yeah. It can definitely feel like that. And again, it's not, you know, the the the devil is just a metaphor for really that point in in the future that that point in the future on your deathbed, if you were to look back and realize that you were in default mode, you were in drifting mode the entire most of your life. Yeah. And you never pursued anything super significant, you never got a whole lot of big squeeze out of out of your life. You know, life was just handed to you. You almost never accomplished or was bold enough to go after any big goals or set a standard high or you know, be an example of something, something excellent, not just be an example of something, but something unique, something, something big, significant.

SPEAKER_03 12:06

Because a thought was implanted in your brain that I have to provide, I have to go to work, I have to do all this stuff to take care of my family, which you should do. And that should be the bare minimum. That should be the bare minimum. And to to to that that that drifting mentality is working in nine to five for me, is you know, working every day, all day, and just not having any connection with my family and doing it in the name of like, hey, I'm just providing for my family. And that thought, that thought is not yours. It was implanted in you in in the devil. The devil implanted that into you if we're talking, if we're coming from Hill here, you don't have to be religious to think that it could be the negative entities, but that thought has been implanted into you, and you took it in, you believed it.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

I think I think at a core too, I think this is an important caveat to what we're talking about with the devil. It's not about it. The the the concept of the devil is just as just a pure representation of keeping you from your greatest version. Right.

SPEAKER_03 12:53

It's not the devil, this yeah, it's not the devil like with the horns and a pitchfork. The devil is just this negative force is at play that wants you to drift and not become your best best version. Yeah. That's the definition of the devil here with us.

SPEAKER_01 13:03

And in and there, and that we're all in agreement that there is a there is a higher calling for each of us. There is a there is a greater level for each of us. And the only way we can reach it is by identifying the parts of ourselves like this devil, these devilish thoughts that keep us away from that greatness. Yeah, 100%.

SPEAKER_03 13:23

100%. So you're like, oh well, I'm too busy, I can't, like, I'm I'm reaching my I don't need to be great. It's like, well, dude, have you like go do something nice? How much how much how much have you been have you served anybody lately? Like, so I can challenge you. Like you are, you are you are designed to do great things. Exactly. Anyways, the drifter, uh it's it's important to note the drifter isn't a bad father, right? He's just, it's not bad. It's not bad or good. It's just, it just is. He's just an unconscious one. He's living life by default, and he's not living one by design. And his daughter is ultimately learning that is how life is. So if any of this is landing for you, make sure, hit the plus symbol, listening to the podcast, or if you're watching on YouTube, make sure to like and subscribe. Yada, yada, yada. But here's what we have. Rich and I have something really awesome for you. If you're asking yourself, am I a drifter, am I a designer, like what's going on? We have a girl dad quiz type for you. So go take this girl dad quiz type. It'll, it'll, it'll tell you exactly the type of parent you are or father you are right now. It'll tell you your strengths, it'll tell you your blind spots, your weaknesses, and it'll give you a custom roadmap to become the designer to design a relationship with your daughter that will create an environment of flourish and growth and connection that you that connection that you just you can't even dream of. So it takes five minutes, links in the show notes. That's our sponsor to have for the show today.

SPEAKER_01 14:42

Yeah. Let's talk about uh let's talk about what your daughter learns from from you as a drifter, if that's where you're at.

SPEAKER_00 14:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:52

Let me let me drink some water. So this is very important because your daughter isn't simple your daughter doesn't learn from what sh what you say. She learns from what you do and the patterns you are, right? And this is very important. Well, your daughter learns from a drifter, from when you're drifting. Men are physic most likely, most likely. I'm not saying this is absolute, but men are physically present, but emotionally mute, emotionally absent, right? That work and outside external forces, other than the relationship and the connection with her, is more important. Right? More important than connecting with her daughter.

SPEAKER_01 15:33

Which is crazy, dude. I mean, if you you imagine for any of us fathers listening, well, you know, that's gotta, that's gotta have some pain behind it. And and even your daughter's also a witness to that, to the version of you that comes home after work, right? Yeah. So if you're stressed out, not if you're carrying a lot of baggage and you're feeling stress and you're telling her, hey, I'm just stressed out, I've hit it's been a busy day, you know, and that then you're vegging out and disconnecting. That's what she's learning. Yeah, and she's learning that that's an excuse, that that's okay. That's valid. Exactly. That's valid.

SPEAKER_03 16:01

I'm just stressed, I'm tired. So that way I can disconnect from life. I can disconnect from reality. Exactly. And that's okay. That's how life should be. And it's that's bullshit. That's the devil making you drift, dude. That's the drift right there. It's like that little thought right there.

SPEAKER_01 16:12

By the way, that's one that that is that is that seed that's planted, that stress is an excuse for des disconnection. That's one one simple step away from then jumping into substances as a way to disconnect because it's excused or it's allowed, or you know, anyway. 100% without without digressing.

SPEAKER_03 16:31

Yeah. Seriously, man. Now she's learning what love feels like by how you look at her, by how you connect with her, right? She's learning how love is by how you're interacting and connecting with her.

SPEAKER_02 16:39

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 16:40

Right. And every day you drift, every day you just chalk up some excuse to like, oh, why I can disconnect. You're writing a script that she's gonna live out in her own life, in her own relationships.

SPEAKER_01 16:51

Very, very powerful, very important. Yep. Right. Absolutely. So the flip side of that, right? The designer, what what what does this look like? Let's kind of paint a clear picture of what this household, what this life, what this intentionality is gonna look like.

SPEAKER_03 17:06

Yeah. So, real quick, I mean, it's super simple. I mean, it's the exact opposite of the drifter, right? The drifter just simply drifts through life, never challenges anything, never, never fights or believes in anything. He just kind of floats through life, collects a paycheck, collects a pension, and then just fucking dies, right? To the very extreme to that. Now, the designer is the exact opposite. He's he lives his life with intentionality, right? And this is this is an art and it's a skill that you need to build and you can build. He doesn't just react, he responds to everything, to what happens in his life, uh, personally, business, and relationally, right? He builds values and he lives his life off of those values. I value connection, I value love, I value family, and he lives by that.

SPEAKER_01 17:43

And you know, go ahead. I was gonna add in here another really important thing is that he's he's he's doing all of that. And he's also in the designer mode, you are you have an end goal in mind and you're working backwards from that, right? So you're aligning all of your decisions based on the outcome and the version of your life that you want, right? Exactly from a relationship, finances, from a job, from a time perspective, all of that. Right. And then you're making decisions backwards.

SPEAKER_03 18:12

100%. I was actually gonna go there. The designer has an ideal self. This is who I am. When I meet myself at the end of my life, when I go to heaven or whatever, I am the perfect, I am the perfect form of whatever that being is of my truest potential. And then I make decisions from that, right? What would my highest self do? What would my what would my uh highest and best use in this moment be, right? I'm making legacy decisions here. Make sense?

SPEAKER_01 18:42

Yes. Cool. Yeah, and I want to relate something because this is this kind of came to me as we're talking through this. This whole business, the first hero project, is intended to give all of us fathers who align with what a first hero father um is an example of. Yeah. That is the designer. Yeah. That is the designer. That is you, you don't have to create it. Like that's you can come into this community and and be in agreement that from a fathering perspective, we are all here to represent what a first hero to our little girls looks like. Right. And that be the standard that we're all making decisions from from where we are now to in pursuit of that. Right. 100%. And you don't have to be perfect, dude.

SPEAKER_03 19:25

You don't have to be a perfect father to come into our community.

SPEAKER_01 19:27

You're not gonna be perfect.

SPEAKER_03 19:28

You're not gonna be perfect. We're all wrapped, we're all on this journey together. So don't think you have to be some sort of way or some sort of person to come into our lives in our community. You don't. We're at we have all walks of life in here. But you gotta be willing to attack. You have to be willing to attack. You have to be willing. The designer asks himself, like, what kind of father do I want to be? What kind of father do I have to be for my daughter? Right? What is this moment teaching me? What is this moment teaching my daughter? Am I reacting from my past, from past traumas, or am I responding from my whole self and my values? Right? What would the man I'm becoming do right now? This stops with me. Right? The designer doesn't have it all figured out, man, but he's conscious, he's aware, he's awake, he's authoring his life, he's writing the script of his life instead of inherent inheriting it and just letting it happen. Got it? So let's move on to the awakening. Waking up. Realizing you're probably listening to this episode, like, holy shit, I've been drifting. Right? But it's not too late, bro. It is not. It is never too late, whether your daughter's 20, 30, 40, or you have uh a newborn on the way. It's never too late. Right? The moment you recognize the pattern is the moment you can change it. Awareness is awareness. So in the book, the devil says the biggest threat is awareness, is learning his tricks. Just being aware of it. Just being aware. That's all you need to do so you can fight it and understand it. Right? And that's what we do here in First Heroes. We we awaken you to these to the unconscious, and we make the unconscious conscious, and then we help you break those cycles so that way you you're you're not drifting and you're designing.

SPEAKER_00 21:02

Make sense? Cool. So let's um let's go ahead and let's do the hot take, dude.

SPEAKER_03 21:13

Let's do it. Let's land the plane. How about that? I got a lot of notes that I want to, I but I want I have a lot of notes, but Corey always has a lot of notes. I know, dude. I want to go so deep in this stuff. Trying to keep them short and concise, easy to digest. Let's do the hot take here, man. So I gotta so the hot take is um the hot take, every if you're new to this podcast, every podcast we have a quote, and in this quote I give it to Rich. Rich or Rich gives it to me, and we have no idea that the of the quote that we have to or that we're giving to one another. And then we have to give like a hot take of what we think. So we have no idea. It's right off the cuff. Cool. And if you have any suggestions on some quotes, DM them to us.

SPEAKER_01 21:48

Yeah, so drop them in the comments or wherever you're watching from. I think YouTube you can comment, but podcasts, you probably just have to.

SPEAKER_03 21:54

Right, right. Cool. Okay, so I here here's the quote. And I think it's very relevant to what we've been talking about today. And this is actually my favorite quote. So don't fuck this up, Richard. Okay. Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

SPEAKER_01 22:10

Until you make the unconscious conscious, you will call it fate. It will direct your life. It will direct your life and you will call it fate. Yeah, this is this is unconscious programming, guys, at the fundamental level. This is exactly what we're talking about. And and again, Napoleon Hill uses this devil terminology to to be a metaphor for this exact thing. But whatever is unconscious is pretty much just is pretty much just in a program that is running on autopilot, on repeat, with with zero influence or auditing from you. And those programs are instilled from us, instilled in us from an early age, to Hill's point in his book. Most of our programming as adults that we're running on are programmed into us as adults. And I think most of us would agree, or as children, most of us would agree, our parents probably, now that we've reflected on it, most of the time we can say, Yeah, they they did their best for sure. You know, they probably did their best and we're willing to give them that credit, but there's also a lot that could have been improved on. Yep. And so those programs, if you haven't audited them, if you haven't moved those programs from conscious programs to to from unconscious programs to conscious programs, then you are drifting. And that is the exact definition of drifting from Napoleon Hill. And that's what we're talking about specifically for you as a father. If you're fathering style, if you're fathering type, if your fathering protocol is unconscious and it's never been brought to the conscious part of your mind to be audited and evaluated and adjusted, or even just to look at and say, yeah, this still applies based on the concept of the first hero that I want to embody for my little girl. If that connection hasn't been made, then you're drifting. And I guarantee you, Corey's made this, this, this example before. You're flying a plane from LA to from LA to New York. And that that that drift is 1%. It's one degree off every every every mile that you fly the plane. You're not going to hit New York, dude. You're going to land in friggin' Australia somewhere. And that Australia is going to be the difference between, you know, that difference between New York and Australia is going to be a massive difference in the relationship that you have with your daughter, her outcome, her relationship with happiness, her confidence, her ability to find um good partners, good friends, develop deep relationships, you know, and just navigate life with the tools appropriate to be at her greatest self. That's what I think. How about that?

SPEAKER_03 24:43

That was a great breakdown quote, dude. Perfect. No, and and and it's not Australia, it's actually like Maryland.

SPEAKER_01 24:48

So is it one degree is only Maryland?

SPEAKER_03 24:50

It's Maryland.

SPEAKER_01 24:50

Yeah. I mean, still that's like 400 miles, dude. Oh, dude, you could be drifting a lot. That's just one percent. That's just one percent, dude. You could be drifting a whole hell of a lot more than one percent. So I guess I'm I'm taking you off the deep end like here. Like that's you know, that's like 10%.

SPEAKER_03 25:05

Yeah, exactly. Okay, so if if this hits you, you're one of us, you're one of us, you're a cycle breaker. But I want to leave you with this closing reflection. Your your daughter is watching you right now, man. She's watching you. She's not listening to what you say, she's watching what you do. If you're drifting through life, she's learning that from you. So, my question to you again, are you the architect designing your life? Are you teaching your daughter to think for herself, to shut the devil out and think for herself and have autonomy and agency for herself? Are you teaching her to lead herself? Or are you just drifting and passing that down to her? So if this episode hits you, it's because you're one of us. You're a cycle breaker, you're a man waking up a father who refuses to drift, who now knows what drifting is and says, fuck, screw that. I'm not drifting anymore. If you want to know exactly where you're starting from, again, we have the father type quiz right now. Go take it. It's somewhere in the description. Girl dad quiz to know the compatibility with your daughter and how to become the best father for her. Um, you're not too late, my friend. You're not too late. And just remember, distraction is the enemy. Breaking the cycle is your duty. And legacy, it's the only thing you leave behind. You're just one decision, one decision away from becoming the hero and the designer that your daughter deserves. Thank you.