We Might Get In Trouble For This
Kerri, a Gen X comedian and author, and Suze, an elder Millennial mama who’s totally outnumbered, are two old friends diving into life from opposite sides of the spectrum. From pop culture and love to divorce, faith, and everything in between, they’re a little unhinged, a little risky, and guaranteed to get in trouble along the way.
We Might Get In Trouble For This
Ep 14, Chrisitian dating boundaries after 40.
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Dating over 50 is apparently just being 16 again—except now you have dating apps, divorce, teenagers, hormones, faith, and a much clearer idea of what you actually want.
On this episode of We Might Get in Trouble for This, Kerri Pomarolli and Suze catch up on the latest dating developments, including the ongoing saga of Kerri’s sarcastic “pirate,” a surprise real-life date with a very cute local guy, and the bigger question underneath all the dating shenanigans: Where is the long-game guy?
Kerri and Suze get honest about dating after divorce, Christian dating, being equally yoked, chemistry versus compatibility, emotional intimacy, and physical boundaries in a Christian relationship. They also talk about sex, marriage, faith, and why finding someone who shares your beliefs can mean more than simply finding someone who checks the “Christian” box.
There are laughs, questionable dating decisions, a very memorable story and a surprisingly heartfelt conversation about wanting a partner who will actually be there when life gets hard.
Because sometimes you want the funny guy. Sometimes you want the hot guy. But eventually, you start wondering: Where’s my guy?
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Hello everybody, it's Carrie and welcome to another late night episode of We Might Get in Trouble for This. And it has been confirmed that I'm definitely getting in trouble for this soon. I need to make a public statement before we go any further. If I happen to mention the word pirate tonight on this episode, and a certain person is listening to this episode, they cannot legally prove that I'm talking about them. I just need to say that publicly. My blog. Yes, um, I want to tell you about my sweater. If you're not listening, uh if you're not watching on YouTube, you have to watch on YouTube my sweater that you liked, right? I love it. I got a gift card, and this is the only reason I would buy a sweater like this: a gift card from a show I did to anthropology. And anthropology is one of those stores that I adore, and I walk in and I go to the sales rack, and the sales rack is like $98, and I'm like, I'm not paying it. And I had a $300 gift card. I'm like, that's gonna buy me one sock. And uh I bought this sweater at Anthropology for an ungodly amount of money, and Lucy goes, it looks like it came from TJ Maxx. And I was like, a pox on your house, a pox on your house. This is the $300 sweater.
SPEAKER_00That's stupid. Amazing, but I understand because that's how I feel about free people. Oh, but they they sell free people at TJ Maxx. They do, you know. The the best pair of jeans I ever got was a free people pair of jeans. I bought at Costco the one time I went to Costco. And I just want to say you look fabulous.
SPEAKER_01Well, I am loving your clavicle tonight, and I can't wait to get to that beauty product that you're wearing.
SPEAKER_00But I have to say, as I'm looking at you, I feel like I just got off the set of interview with a vampire.
SPEAKER_01Well, go back to episode nine or ten, and I will talk about the tanning cream that I'm using. But Susie, let's get to it. Let's get to it because there's so much to talk about. And every time we say we're not gonna talk about me dating like the whole episode, we're totally gonna talk about my dating like the whole episode because there's so much to talk about. If you're just tuning in, you gotta go back a couple episodes. I'll give a quick recap, okay? Uh Carrie went to Italy, Italian boys saw my video, it went viral. I had to repent for messaging the Adonis men. Then I started internet dating on uh I'll tell everybody it was Hinge. It was Hinge, and there was Bachelor number one and bachelor number two, and bachelor number three, and blah blah blah. So where we left off was bachelor number one, the pirate, who I swear I know you. If you're listening to this podcast, you deserve to hear every word. Okay, so the pirate, and then bachelor number two was like the normal Christian guy, and then we realized he was, and you called it, right, Susie?
SPEAKER_00I did, I did. Two things don't pray for me if you don't know me, and don't tell me I'm pretty or attractive or anything until you've seen me in person. No and no.
SPEAKER_01You're right, you're absolutely right. And um, then there's bachelor number three, who we talked about on last week's episode, and he doesn't even deserve to be in the game. That was just like, you know, when your kid is like mad at you, and they're like gonna do like, I don't know if your three-year-old does like the worst thing the live could ever do to like make you mad. That's what I was doing with Jesus. That guy. Uh, so he's long gone, and I signed off all the apps, and I don't know what movie it is. I just can't quit you. What's that movie? There's a line that says I just can't quit you.
SPEAKER_00Oh, uh Brokeback Mountain. Oh, yeah. Which was an amazing movie.
SPEAKER_01It was I this is very similar. So um, I got up all the apps and uh yeah, broke up with all the things, all the people, all the things, and uh basically I can't quit you is the pirate, and he knows that there's no future, and I know there's no future, and I think the mature thing that we are doing uh is talking two and a half hours every single night, like teenagers, knowing that he and I may never um see each other.
SPEAKER_00I don't know what we're doing, it's so incredibly what hold on, Paul on the road to Damascus. I'm just saying anything can happen, scales can yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Lightning could strike, and he could want to not live like in the woods. Uh, he's just adorable. He's so the cutest thing and sarcastic. My level of sarcasm, normal people are like a level eight. Really sarcastic people are level nine. I wake up at 13 and he meets me. He we are equally yoked in the sarcasm because I always say it's over. I call him Steve, I go, it's over, Steve, it's over, Steve. And he always goes, Okay, round 15. So every single day I talk to my BFF pirate. He never has given me a compliment bigger than this one, and this is the best one I got the other day. It's so romantic. Try not to cry. I sent him a selfie from the plane, and he said, You look well rested and have a medium-sized smile. Like that is be still my heart. And the thing is, you know, he does that, and I like it more. It's the dumbest thing I've ever witty.
SPEAKER_00It's witty, it's humor. Whitty I know people are always very smart, you know.
SPEAKER_01And like he accepted for those of you turning in from last week when I had to apologize for him for calling him at 1145. So here's the scoopy scoop. We're fine. I'm like, I'm I'm off drugs, and he's like my last drug. I'm off heroin, I'm off crack, and I'm still smoking pot every day. That's what my pirate is like marijuana. And so here's the scoopy scoop. I'm in I'm in Georgia and I'm feeling good. I'm reconnected with God. I'm like praying. I'm like, all is well in the universe. I just have this one little thing, and I don't feel at all bad about it because there's no bad thoughts. I don't even know if he likes, I don't even know if he likes women. I really at this point, I don't know what he likes. It's just we talk all the time. But I did catch him calling me witty to his neighbor. So anyway, um, so I'm in Georgia, and this is so ironically weird, but I remember an episode the normal Christian guy, my friend Connie wanted to set me up with him. So we were at a bar and grill in Sacramento, April. I remember this date, like it was yesterday, April 29th, and she said, I want to set you up with normal Christian guy April 29th. And I said, Absolutely not. I was at this bar and grill in Sacramento, and then a week previous, I did comedy at this bar and grill, and the food was so good, I wanted to bring my girlfriends back, and so we were just enjoying a night. Now, I'm not gonna lie to you, the general manager, I don't know what kind of manager he is, the one who books the talent, uh, is very cute. And at the same night when my friend Tanya was like, I want to set you up with the normal Christian guy. I was like, No, I'm not interested in dating. And she goes, Well, you know, this manager keeps coming over to our table. I'm like, that is never in the history of ever happening. But he had a baseball cap on and he looks like every guy had a crush on in college. Like he just like, there it is, you know, like he probably played some kind of sports, like about five, nine, kind of buff, kind of cute, like kind of friendly. But we're old, and so we just had like mature conversations about this peanut butter and jelly bacon burger that they had. Because I had no game back then whatsoever, like zero, like zero dating radar. This is before I went to Italy and my hormones started working. So lo and behold, I wrote him an email on April 30th, and I said, Oh, I'd like to get reservations for my friends. I want to come back and have that peanut butter and jelly burger. I never heard from him. It was like a total business email. Last night or two nights ago, I get an email at nine, it was 9 p.m. California time from the bar and grill general manager or whoever the heck he is. I can't say his name. Hey, oh, I forgot to tell you, I stopped in there last Thursday to get food because they have poke nachos. I'd stepped in there to get poke nachos and I was all by myself and the kids were gone, and I'm not talking to the pirate and trying to weed myself, but talking to the pirate in the pot, like the parking lot the whole time, and I go in to get poke nachos and he's there. And I'm like, we're talking, we're talking. I'm like, is there like a vibe? Like, I don't know vibe, but I am in my like hormonary or like I'm on the I'm on the testosterone. So he emailed me and he said, Hey, you great to see you. Would love to get dinner or a drink. And he signed his name. Let's just call him Mike, because that's not his name.
SPEAKER_00Can I just say that maybe your ovaries, you know how like dog whistles only dogs can hear them? Maybe that's like ovaries. I think it's like pheromones.
SPEAKER_01Wait, she calls it the Austin Powers mojo. She's like, I think you have mojo ever since you came back from Italy. So here's the deal. I was like, What? Okay. I was like, I'm I'm off the apps. There's a real guy in real life who works next door to me, like down the street, asking me first. So I was like, okay, I do like the mature thing. I wait 24 hours. And I text him back and I said on the email, I said, Oh yeah, I'd love to get together. Um, by the way, should I give you my phone number? Because apparently it takes you three months to answer an email. And he like messages me back right away, like two seconds later. And then he starts texting me, and I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, are you old enough to dial a phone? Because I don't know how old you are, right? Are you a Gen X? Are you a millennial? He's like, I'm I'm 49. I'm like, if you're 49, why are you texting me? Huh? Like, you know? So he called, this was last night, and we talked for like two hours. And by the way, if the pirate is listening to this podcast and he's jealous, he should be because he never asked me to hang out and I can talk to whoever I want. So I talked to him for two hours, and we have a date on Sunday. And uh, very like I guess that's what's happening. And then what do you want to know? Yeah, I have a date. We're going out. Date date? Yeah, date. And he he messaged me the reservation of where we're going, like cute little steakhouse, very meat and potatoes. Sweet guy. The only problem with me is I am so sarcastic that a normal functioning human being cannot handle me. He can't he doesn't know what to do with my personality. Like, I was like, well, you know, like in case we never talk again. And he's like, What? Wait, what? I'm like, oh my gosh, do we need a button? Do we need a button? He goes, Yeah, just press seven when you're being sarcastic. But it's like two, but I think you and the pirate have such like yoked uh I know equally yoked, you know, sarcasm that I think it levels up your sarcasm, and then he's like a Bible verse, iron iron sharpens iron, right? So two hours and he's like, I hope you talk about me on your blog thing. I hope you talk about me on your podcast. Like he was all into it. Uh, he had already done a deep dive on me and he told me, which I love that masculine energy of somebody being like, Oh, I looked you up. I can't believe you've been on the tonight show 29 times. You have such an impressive career. Like, uh I was like, Okay, I don't hate it. I don't hate it. He did not, you'll love this. He did not tell me I'm pretty. He did say he liked my dark hair, and I was like, Is that why you messaged me? And he just came out and said, Well, no, you showed up at the restaurant the other night and you had the dark hair, and I thought you looked really good. That's as far. Is that an acceptable compliment?
SPEAKER_00Totally. That's because he saw you in person.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and then he said, Um, I go, so red hair, Carrie wouldn't have gotten a call. He goes, Yeah, red cats are crazy. So then last night he said, I look forward to our date. I go, Yeah, I'll be busy dyeing my hair. Um, but I'll see you. So it was a pleasant conversation, but here's a scoop. I don't know. I don't think any of these guys will listen to it. Like, here's where life is today. I don't think any of these guys are long game, and I was dealing with some unfortunate circumstances in my real life, which it's not a secret. My dad went into the hospital today, and um I realized that all the shenanigans dating that we're doing and all the playing games and all the text roulette and all the things and all the all the flirting and all the things, you really just want to get to the point of life where when you have a partner and you can go through something with them, and they can be there for you, and you can be there for them. Now, ironically, my ex-husband is praying his head off, and we're both dealing with parent issues mutually with each other, and we are like soulmates forever, we'll always be soulmates. I don't ever want to date him or get back together, but like I have that in him, and I feel like a jigsaw puzzle that has all these missing pieces because I have all these, like, well, I have this one guy that's sarcastic, and I have this one guy that's local and cute, and I have this one guy that was Christian, and I'm like, God, at the end of the day, where's like my guy? Where's my long game guy? Like, any of these could have potential in my gut. I don't think that they're either of them of the bachelors right now are long game, and it hurts me to keep playing around and being shenanigans, but at the same time it's fun. But then there's like a longing in my soul that said, God, like, is there is he out there? Like, is there that is that guy out there? Is my brody your guy? Like, that's like you said on your first date when he when he said that was just so hard for you. Like, I think you said something on your first date.
SPEAKER_00You said Yeah. Yeah, I think I I talked about how I kind of had to give up the hope of having children. I think it's some of the things that were going on in my first marriage. And I remember you just said, I'm so sorry, that must have been really heartbreaking. And it wasn't like a it wasn't fake, it was so sincere. And then I was like, I think this is the first time a man's ever really listened to me, which is probably not true, but it was you know, very like being seen by a man and like me taking my clothes off wasn't required.
SPEAKER_01Well, and then you know, no, I I have had these boundaries up of like, you know, nobody's getting in. Even the pirate who I've been talking to for I swear, I want to say like five weeks now, like every single night. I messaged him today in all vulnerability, and I said, Hard day off the internet. And he's like, Oh no, what happened? And I said, I've been in the hospital with my dad. And for a person like him, who's not a person of faith, he sent me the most appropriate, sweet, compassionate response, funny. Like, what could I do? How could I help? Could I offer a half medium smile to cheer you up and all the best to your family? And I mean, I he's just so endearing to me. But what I need in the long game is somebody, there's a guy, there's a guy on the internet who I know who wants to go out with me like so badly, and I will not say his name. He literally messaged me and he's like, I know your dad's in the hospital, but like, how can I pray for you? Like, there's there's such an unfairness in the way that God has created human beings because we always want the ones we can't have, and we don't want the ones that want us. Because there's three right now, like godly, sweet Christian men that I can think of right now that would move mountains and date meet, and we'd be in a relationship, and I don't like them like that.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, I think I think a few things. People that don't have faith can like don't have faith in Jesus, can be some of the most amazing, wonderful people in the world. Amazing, like you know, more Christian, more Christian than a lot of Christians, yes, guys. Some of my dear friends that are so much more Christ-like than some of my Christian friends are are are not people that follow Jesus, but it's almost as if they are the character of Christ exudes from them. And I know there's like a whole theological idea, well, it's still not the Holy Spirit. Look, the Holy Spirit, I'm not a Calvinist, it's going after everybody. You know what I mean? There are some beautiful, amazing people, and I don't think God doesn't see their beauty and kindness and compassion and service and everything. I think the Lord loves it, frankly. But I do think because your faith is so, you know, it is the center of your life, and it is important to you that you you are you marry someone that shares that same faith with you. I have a lot of Christian girlfriends who have had wonderful, awesome, do have wonderful, awesome housings that are are not believers. So I I don't have any whatever for anybody. Adults can do whatever they want. Um, but I I think good people, not good people, there's such an overlapping of wonderful people of all faiths, right?
SPEAKER_01I think that there's graceful, wonderful, amazing, like like just amazing people. But as a Christian who goes out and prays for people, I want to have the commonality of like, I prayed for a 13-year-old girl who's on drugs and she just texted me and said everything's getting better. I went to Africa on a mission trip. Like, I I've talked to the pirate about going to Africa, and he never really wants to delve into that much more. Like, it's kind of like eh, you know, and so that's fine, but that's who I am. That's who I exude, that's what I bleed. Like, I bleed like Jesus and what is God doing.
SPEAKER_00And so it's like I have to think that you want someone who's a believer. You want someone who's a believer who's also aligned with your faith. Because, right, there's a lot of different denominations. So I don't think that's wrong. I think that's wonderful because that is also part of being equally yoked. It's not just, oh, I believe in Jesus. It there's also other elements. There's theological elements, there's personality elements, right? There are even in within that Christendom arena, there are also values that seriously.
SPEAKER_01We always talk about sex every week because I'm not having any, but um, I really don't think that there's a lot of guys out there that are not Christian that would be like, yo, girl, yo, you don't want to sleep with me? And that means not this month, not next month, not six months from now, until you I put a ring on it and walk you down the aisle, and I'm gonna say yes. I don't, I'm not saying they don't exist, but let's do the math, Suze. I don't think there's a lot of Christian men, frankly. I don't think there's a lot of Christian men, I worry about it. I really worry about it. I my husband and I like were celibate. You and your husband were celibate, and I worry about it, but I think I have a better shot at it with somebody who's in a hopefully I I I don't I just I can't imagine if you I think you do have a better shot at it, right?
SPEAKER_00Because why else would I mean there are other faith traditions that also think sex is much more for a committed marriage relationship, right? But I think you can find someone like that, but also I think when you're a committed relationship with someone, like sometimes we're worth it, you know? We're worth it.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, but it's like I yeah, no, and I mean I and I was like, should we talk about this or should we not? So we can edit it out if we don't want to talk about it. But so this is a very real topic. I have three friends right now, 40s, middle-aged, beautiful, I'm over 50, uh, single. One of them is entering into a relationship with a godly guy, like he is a godly guy, but he's also a very masculine guy. He's a Christian guy, he hasn't done it exactly the way that she wants him to the boundaries to be, right? She and I are talking like 16-year-olds, and let's just get real on this podcast. She literally is like, How far is too far? And I was like, if you have to ask the question, I think you know. And then she's like, But do I? And I was like, I'm rooting for you. Please go be my guinea pig, figure it out for me because I feel like if I even get in the car, not even turn on the car, just even if I the keys are in my hand, we're gonna take off. And I think everyone knows what that metaphor means. And she's trying to like play around with it, and I'm like, I don't know the answer. I think in my head, I know. I just don't want to say it out loud because like too far is probably like not a lot for me. And I sexually, you know what I mean? Like, yeah. Like, because it says in the Bible, and you're a theologian. So I actually, if I could bluntly ask you that question, not you as Susie and Brody, I'm not going to ask what you did or didn't do. If I asked you as a theologian, if I'm your daughter and I'm dating, and I say, mommy, how far is too far physically with a guy outside of marriage? What would the theologian, Susie, say?
SPEAKER_00I think like I oh well, so I would say truly, there are different parameters based on age and based on seriousness of relationship, right? Age, though? Oh, really? Age, yeah, because because I think age does make a difference because our brain development is different, right? So if I am 33, I am much more likely to be able to be alone in my boyfriend's apartment and make out with him. And we are much more likely to have those boundaries where we can be like, okay, here are the boundaries, here's what's not.
SPEAKER_01You didn't know me at 29, you didn't know me at 28. I was horrible. I was horrible.
SPEAKER_00And I was trying so hard. Oh gosh. But that at that age. But I will say, like, I think there are different boundaries when you're older. I I just do. I think my 15-year-old or 17-year-old, etc. I mean, maybe French kiss.
SPEAKER_01And yeah, but I feel that my like that that's all I can do. Like I feel like that that's all I can do. And I have no problem with that, right? But I'm afraid, because I'm a grown adult who's been married before, who's not a 15-year-old virgin, that it's putting the man in a position and the woman, let's just say equally, like that's so tempting. And then I'm like, is that it? Really, Susie? Is that it? I mean, is there no is like my we're having this theological discussion, my friend, and she's trying to put it. Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00Well, I mean, I don't know. I mean, I know for me, what was easy is because Brody held the boundaries.
SPEAKER_01But it's the thing about like mutual edification, mutual whatever. I know it's marriage, right? But is there anything in a committed Christian relationship when you're not married? Like we are all sitting there like treading water, like little.
SPEAKER_00I mean, I feel like likely in a, I'm gonna also say non-fiance, I'm gonna just be called a heretic. So whatever. Um, I would probably say if it's just a dating relationship that's casual, I would say probably French kissing. And I'm sure that if anyone I've ever dated not in marriage, is hearing me talk about that, they can collectively roll their eyes and be like, oh, okay. Um, but I would probably say in a casual dating relationship, making out No, I'm talking about admitted dating as you get into a more committed relationship. I think that's actually a discussion between the two people. Because different, I think, yeah, I think that's all it can be. Because you can't say because we can make I think this is part of a problem. We can make all these legalistic rules about it, right? You can make all the rules like in the old testament, don't do this, don't do this, don't do this. But the issue isn't that, the issue is honoring each other's physical body for you know, until there is a covenant made. I mean, I'm I'm very loose about it because I'll be honest with you, physical, making out and that kind of stuff, even sex didn't really mean anything to me. I know that's what I'm happy, huh?
SPEAKER_01I have to give you the greatest quote I've ever heard. I mean, this is great, and she won't listen to my podcast if she does forget it. I don't care. So she's she's talking about this is a woman that I know. I'm not gonna ever, I'm not even gonna say what country she lives in. She's talking about this guy, and they're Christians, and they're on a date. It's not the first day, it's not the second day, and they had some physicality happening, a little bit more than what you just described. And she said, This is so awesome. She goes, He just wanted to bless me. Yes, how many times did he bless you? Oh my gosh, and I was like, What t-shirt can we put that on? I'm just looking for a man that wants to bless me. I died, I fell off my chair, and she didn't realize how it sounded when she said it. But I was like, cook it and smoke it, okay?
SPEAKER_00Just I it's very hard. The whole sex thing is so hard for me. It's that makes me sound like a heretic that I'm like, it didn't matter any at all to me. I look, I I had I don't know why. I just felt like sex was so transactional. I didn't want to have it during high school because I thought it would the idea of teenagers having sex even when I was a teenager was revolting. I just thought of two people not having anything, any idea of what to do, like what could be less sexy, right? And so I like everything else, like smoking cigarettes and like drinking, I like waited until it was appropriate, like or legal, right? Right, but I think sex to me just felt so sterile and not um not sacred, like I just didn't see the ironically waiting. And if I'm honest, there's a part of me that still doesn't see the point, right? That sounds so horrible. God sees the point, but I will say in my relationship, it's it's just so much easier if um it was really easy for me for a dude to hold the boundary for me, not because I was so lustful, but because it just didn't matter. It just, I mean, I know now that I was able to disassociate, and that's why it didn't matter. But um, it is sex to me, it's like one of those things where I just have to like trust God on it, right? But also at the same time, I would never tell my daughters, get married so you can have sex.
SPEAKER_01I would Oh, I mean, I talked about that, and the other thing is, and it really did happen to me, and I did have the moment on my wedding night of remorse a little bit, not like, oh my gosh, I'm dying, but they'd say that they're you have a highlight reel, you can't help yourself, and like you like I pray that my daughter, just for her sake, that she does both my daughters that they do kind of decide that to wait until they're married, like so they don't have a moment of like I wish you were, I wish this was the first for me. You know what I mean? Like, I I actually had that moment of like, you know, and I was 31, so um, you know, it wasn't the longest high real, but it was like I really I think that uh I hope for my daughters that they can have that. I I won't shame them one bit if they don't. I hope they come to me. I hope we talk about it, I hope we're open. Um it's just so interesting acting like a teenager right now. Like, I'm going on that date with this guy this weekend. He's totally like I I know that I know that I know that he's not like on that game plan. Like, I and no shame. Like, no shame. He's super cute and funny and like sweet. It's just that like where's my like unicorn gonna come from? Do you know what I mean? And I guess I'm hurt by the guy from the internet a couple weeks ago that said he was on that plane with me, and I found out he was just not, and then I've got a guy who doesn't proclaim any kind of faith whatsoever and didn't even know what OnlyFans is, and he's just like more sacred. He didn't he, you know what that guy, I'm gonna tell you, I bet you, my pirate, if he was in a relationship with the right woman that was like, you know what, I just don't like I don't see this, I don't want to be intimate, like, but he really liked her. I bet you, I bet you he would be like, okay. Like he's so like he's and then of course I'm going out with uh I'm going out with uh hot masculine bar guy on Sunday.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I will say like any of the long-term relationships I was in where um I was like I was like sorry about that whole part of our relationship where we were having sex. I've decided I want to be celibate. All of them stay.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I I I um I had that happen like in my late 20s when I was in a relationship and we we both kind of came back to the Lord and were like, hey, this is wrong, and you know, and we stayed and then we ended up breaking up. But I I guess I gotta trust God in it. I think today was like a hard day, and I think dating over 50 is still the same as being 16 years old. It's just sillier, it's crazier, it's just like I don't know, it's it's sweet. I'm glad I have I'm glad I have someone to talk to, but these we're not talking about like intimate things, and I think that that should be reserved for somebody that the Lord ordains. And we'll see when this podcast airs and things will change because as you know, my dating life changes in 37 seconds. So we'll wrap it up.
SPEAKER_00I think what can happen with intimacy, right? Intimacy can like intimacy for me now is very different because I'm married, but I'm also with a very safe person, right? Where it's not transactional. Do you want me to tell one of your favorite stories about me and Braddy? Yeah, I love it. So we've been dating a while and a while, and he would make, you know, we'd kiss, whatever, but he never tried to like you know, never tried to touch it for them. And I was like, so they're good, and by the way, I've I've seen them and they're real good.
SPEAKER_01I'm looking at tonight.
SPEAKER_00Thank you. And um, so before brand dating, so yes, even more. It was they were full and not deflated. Um, and um, like I would just not under I just kind of get it, and so I but I felt strange asking him. But he walked in, he was doing something in his kitchen, and so I said, you know, can I ask you a serious question? And he's like, Yeah. And I go, um, why don't you ever try to test my boons? Because they're really nice. Yeah, they're like right here, they're really high. No, but I was like, and he was like, Yeah, and he was like, What? And I was like, Is it because you don't want to? Um by this time in my life, I was like very clear. I'm just gonna ask you questions. And um he walked back to the couch where I was sitting, he put one arm on like the arm of the couch and the other on the you know, the headdress of the couch. He kissed me on the forehead and he goes, if you ever have a question like that, ask me anytime. And basically he was like, Because I'm trying to respect you. I don't want to screw this up. That was his whole thing about holding the boundaries and everything to me.
SPEAKER_01If he did that to me, that would have been I would have chased him down, tackled him in the kitchen. I I have no willpower, I don't know what I would have done.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, it was very um different because I that I think how I had even known about like Christian guys that I did, how we know a guy likes us is because he tries to touch us.
SPEAKER_01Thank you. Thank you, right?
SPEAKER_00Yeah so it was confusing to me, and um so it was a different experience dating him, and I think I was a different experience for him because he very much wanted it to work, and that was.
SPEAKER_01I'm not gonna settle until I meet that guy who's like on the same page as me. And I right I have a feeling it will not come in a package that I expect it to, it will not come in the way that I expect it to. And I think God will be surprised.
SPEAKER_00The great thing about Brody is it wasn't contrived, it wasn't like he was being super Christian, it's because he had lived a life, right? And like, and I had lived a life, so I think he felt like you know, the detours of our lives that kind of brought us together. And he was just so like he wasn't so Christian. Sorry not to bag on Christian dudes, he wasn't like overly spiritualizing everything. He was just like, I like you, I want to be with you. I don't want to touch your boobs. I mean, I do want to touch your boobs, but I don't want to touch them because I don't want to screw this up. Like that kind of thing was so intentional. And um, yeah, I mean that was part of it, and he knew very early on. And I'll never forget, he once, this is a good, this could be a movie. He did there was a time he had an opportunity to do something and it would be somewhere else, and I was like, Well, you know what, and he was like, I will not go unless you go. And this was very early on in a relationship. I think maybe we'd been on five dates, maybe four. Um, and yeah, like maybe a month of dating in person, seeing each other. And he and I said, you know, I don't think I could do that. Maybe in a year I could maybe move or whatever. And he left me a voicemail and he said, It's fine. He said, My desire is not to be a successful man, my desire is to make us successful. Oh, just shut it, Susan.
SPEAKER_02I know.
SPEAKER_01I know, I know, and the world needs to know he's just cute as a button. But uh I we'll wrap up our episode on that adorable story, but give me the one-minute beauty accessory that you are promoting tonight on our beauty segments that are completely unuseful. Okay, go ahead. I'm wearing it.
SPEAKER_00But are we gonna sit or know?
SPEAKER_01Because I can't see it. You're wearing it. It's cricket. What is it called?
SPEAKER_00I don't know. It's it's from Amazon. I'll link it. It's a it's a corset. Basically, remember how I used to work out two times a day? That has passed, but I'm trying to not work out two times a day, but still look like I work out two times a day? That's cool.
SPEAKER_01So are you wearing the corset to burn fat, or are you wearing the corset because it makes you look skinny and you hurt yourself?
SPEAKER_00Well, it doesn't make me look skinny, it makes me look a little thicker because it's like two solid layers.
SPEAKER_01But does it make I should wear it on my dates? I should wear it with the chastity belt. Uh, but also does the corset do anything or does it is it just cosmetic for when you're wearing it?
SPEAKER_00Um, it's not even cosmetic for when I'm wearing it. I'm just trying to get all the, you know, I have all that loosey loosey skin from um from the babies. Yeah, you know? And then um, so my uterus gets stays big. And um, and uh we had a recent experience, and so my uterus was still very swollen, and so it just kind of like you're almost wearing like a post-birth corset.
SPEAKER_01I wore one of those.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Okay, well, link in bio or link in the description. It's hard to get on, be honest with you. Well, I uh will be investing in one of those for my date on Sunday, and uh I try I trust my my new rule is no alcohol on any date. I won't even drink a Shirley Temple this Sunday, uh, much to his dismay.
SPEAKER_00Uh I might change my mind Monday, but we will see and um we'll just go through the apologies since I already have them. Um, I didn't mean to say make sex sound whatever. I just I don't know. I grew up reading Cosmo. That's probably what I want to do.
SPEAKER_01Oh my gosh, thank that made us really good wives. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00Okay, good to read. Cosmo and watching 902 and oh and my so-called life and Melrose Place are not ideal for 14-year-olds if you don't want them to think sex isn't just a natural part of adult relationships.
SPEAKER_01Uh Brenda did it at prom and it worked out fine. Okay, oh my gosh. Yeah, okay. Do you have any more apologies before we sign off?
SPEAKER_00Um, only that that dress that her and Kelly wore on I2 and O for that prom one where she has sex with Dylan for the first time. It was so hideous.
SPEAKER_01Oh, yeah. It was the same hideous as Molly Ringwald's dress at the end of Pretty in Pink after all that build up of like her sewing the ultimate dress, and everyone in America's like, that's the even Molly Ringwald is like, that's the ugliest dress. But um, I just want to say that Brenda was such a role model because Brenda had sex at prom with Dylan, and I was in the same grade as her. Like she was class of 92, and we were class of 92, and every girl in my class was watching that, and we were all like, it's okay. Uh Brenda did it. Brenda did it. And uh back in our day, it was like one character a season. Now they watch the shows on Netflix, and the kids are like, and then the pilot on uh Scooby-Doo. So uh this has been a very special ABC after school special. It is uh a very seal, very serious, uh sultry episode of We Might Get in Trouble. But I appreciated the conversation, Suze. I really do, and I look forward to hearing from you guys. Give me your thoughts. Give us your thoughts. Like, what do you think about this topic? I really want to hear it from guys, girls. Uh, what are your experiences? What are your convictions? We want to hear from you, and you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, Spotify, Amazon, iTunes, Apple, YouTube, uh, all the things. MySpace, probably. And we will see you next week. We will, because I'm having a hot flash.
SPEAKER_00So I have to go. Love you.
SPEAKER_01Okay, I do have a question for you.