HEALING BALM -DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES OF THE BIBLE 6-23-26

GOD IS CALLING YOU OUT OF HIDING AND INTO HEALING AND RESTORATION!

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The Lord said with the heart of the devil of my people. Is there no dead is the no problem? With the help of the devil of my people. I'm getting alongside. Thank you for joining me today. We're talking about something that touches so many hearts and homes, and that is dysfunctional families. So many people are dealing with pain, division, misunderstanding, and broken relationships within their own families. But what brings me hope is the truth. Even in the Bible, families were not perfect. In fact, many were broken and as dysfunctional as any families you see today. But God still moved. He still healed and he still fulfilled his promises. So today I want us to look at dysfunctional families in the Bible and discover how the healing bomb that only God can give works. When we look at Scripture, it's pretty clear that dysfunctional families are not a new thing. Have you ever felt like you needed to just hide what you've been through or where you come from, you know, what your family background is, pretend you're somebody you're not, just wish it'd go away. Like the weight of shame, just too heavy to carry. What if I told you you don't have to live like that anymore? In this episode of the Healing Bomb, we're talking about shame, where it comes from, what it does to us, and how God heals it. Because shame may tell you to hide, but God is calling you into the light. There is healing for all of us. But as long as you keep it hid, keep it in a dark place, you'll live with it. It will just eat away at you. You need to have light, the light of the gospel of truth, in order to heal from the things that are going on in your life. Adam and Eve sinned. We've all heard the story, we all know the account from the the Garden of Eden in the book of Genesis. Or if you haven't read it, I suggest you read it. But sin entered through their disobedience, and everything changed. There was blame, there was shame, and separation. And then their sons, Cain and Abel. Most people know that story. Cain rose up against Abel, his own brother, and killed him. Sin opened the door to dysfunction, even in the very first family on earth. You think you're any different? You're just a different number. Abraham, Sarah, God gave them a promise, but they became impatient. Instead of waiting on God, they created their own solution, and that decision brought jealousy, it brought hurt and division. When we step outside of God's timing, we can create pain that affects generations to come. Isaac and Rebecca. This family struggled with favoritism. Isaac loved Esau. Rebecca loved Jacob, and that division led to deception and betrayal. Favoritism leaves wounds that can last for years. If you don't believe it, ask somebody that was a favorite child in a family. Ask the rest of the family how they felt when they knew there was a favorite. Jacob's family. This household was filled with rivalry, jealousy, and insecurity. Joseph was favored and his brothers hated him for it. They hated him and could not speak peaceably to him. You ever had somebody that couldn't even speak a kind word to you, a peaceful word in your own family? And that hatred it turned into betrayal. Pain that is not healed will spread. David's family, even King David, experienced deep dysfunction in his own home. After sin entered, his family was shaken. There was hurt. There was violence. It was rebellion. Unaddressed sin can ripple through an entire family. And a cost where you just keep on paying and keep on paying. The good news the healing bomb for us is God did not abandon those families. And he has not abandoned yours either. You may feel like he has, but he's come no closer to abandoning you, I'm sure, than he did any other family throughout biblical history. God works through imperfection. All things work together for good. Even the pain, even the mistakes, God can still use it. If he didn't use imperfect people, I don't see too many that he could use on this planet, especially right now. Healing begins with repentance. If we confess our sins, God's not looking for perfection. He's looking for surrender. He's perfection. You can break the cycle. There was a saying in the Old Testament, one that I've applied to my own life when everything looked absolutely hopeless, trapped in my own dysfunctional family. Believe me, I was. But the the scripture talks about the fathers have eaten sour grapes and the children's teeth are set on edge. This meant people believed that they were stuck in what previous generations had done. But God challenged that thinking. You're not bound to repeat the past just because somebody in your past or your past generation committed a sin. That's no longer passed down to you through a generational curse. You don't have to carry the pain, the patterns, or the cycles, for that matter. We have to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. You know, we gotta get rid of that thinking and quit holding on to the curse. It ain't gonna let go of you if you don't let go of it. It will stay with you as long as you're willing to drag it along with you. Stop letting that broken record of your family's past keep hanging you up in repeat mode. Some of you don't even know what a record is, much less a record player, but the old record uh players used to, you got a bad place in the record and a needle would hang there and they just keep repeating the same thing over and over and over and over, like a broken record. Dysfunctional families and relationships are part of life on planet Earth. And it's always gonna be that way until the Lord returns. Forgiveness brings freedom. We need to remember that. We can choose differently, you can live differently, you can start a new life, a new legacy. You don't have to live under that old curse. It's not for you anyway. But forgiveness is not easy, but it's necessary. Forgiveness releases the burden and allows God to heal your heart. If he doesn't heal your heart, that burden's not going to go away. He's not gonna snatch it out of your hand or pry it out of your heart. You've got to give it to him. You've got to lay it down. Adam and Eve is where division began. You may not have looked at it like they were dysfunctional families, but ever since Adam and Eve, the dysfunctional family, has been on this planet. Division in the family began early right there in the Garden of Eden, after Adam and Eve sinned, fear and shame entered their hearts, and instead of running to God with the problem, they tried to hide from him. Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, Where are you? So he said, I heard your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself, according to Genesis three nine through ten. Now you know God already knew where Adam was. He knew what had happened. So the question becomes what if Adam had a confessed immediately? What if there had been true repentance? Confessed his sin. Could things have been different? Likely so. Instead Adam hid. And then God asked another powerful question. Who told you you were naked? Who told you that you were exposed? You know that's one of the cheapest tricks that Satan uses on us. I'll get back to that in just a minute. But he uses it on us if we've got guilt that we're trying to hide, keep in the darkness, and nobody wants to confess. Nobody wants to just put it all out there and and confess everything that they've ever done or confess to God the the shame, all the stuff that goes with it. Sometimes you'd just rather pull a sheet over your head and try to hide and just accept the fact that you're a sinner and that you make mistakes. But look, in order to get free, we gotta get a little light on the subject. Gotta get that off your back. Who told you you were naked? Who told you you were exposed? Our biggest fear, generally, is being exposed by the light. You see, the enemy, just like the serpent in the garden, still tries to expose our sin. That's the blackmail he uses over us. He still tries to accuse us and make us feel uncovered before God. He'll do it sitting on a church pew. He'll do it in your automobile, he'll do it in front of your husband, your wife, your parents, whoever. He will point his stinking finger and accuse you just to embarrass you, just to expose you. But here's the truth. God already knows. No surprise to him. You know, Satan's not informing God of anything. It's really like uh a lot of times when we pray, it winds up being more like we're trying to inform God of something that's going on in our life or something that we've done. He already knows that. We do need to confess our sins and get that shame off of us. We can't talk to God with our head hung down in shame. The enemy wants you to run from God in shame. But God is calling you to run to Him in repentance. You take that shame and lay it down and repent. You know, we're all repeat offenders when it comes to sin, one way or the other. And when fear replaces trust and hiding replaces honesty, that's when division begins. That's Satan's game and purpose to divide and separate us from God through our own guilt. Jesus knows your guilt. That's why he came here for the guilty. They don't give you a right to trample his blood under feet, they don't give you a right to sin. But he was not surprised as to what he was doing here at Calvary. The role of shame in sin is bigger than we think. Shame entered the human experience the moment sin entered. It came right in there with it. Before sin, Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed. They had no reason to be ashamed. There was no fear. There was no hiding. They were born naked. You've heard people say, Well, I was born naked. Yeah. Mankind was born naked. There was no separation between them and God. Everything was clean. But after they sinned, everything changed. Then the eyes of both of them were open, and they knew that they were naked. They had no covering for their sin, no excuses really. Let's face it, they had no prior experience of being human. So deception came easy for the serpent. Didn't take much for him to cun, use somebody that cunning voice, you know, talk 'em into to sin or disobedience to God, which is sin. You don't think God knew that? We were no match for the devil then, and we're no match now. But the devil knows he met his match in the garden when God spoke a promise to that snake, and that promise is still to be fulfilled. God hasn't forgotten. Shame doesn't just say I did something wrong. It says something is wrong with me. That's what Satan wants you to really dwell on. Something is wrong with me. Wants you to look down on yourself. That's exactly how Satan wants us to feel. Defeated, hopeless, but he's still a liar and he's still the father of the lie. Adam didn't just recognize sin, he began to see himself differently. Shame attacks how we see ourselves and makes us feel unworthy before God. Even after you repent, you still try to carry that baggage of shame. Maybe the guilt's been laid down, but the shame because you feel so unworthy that you could have sinned again over and over. Shame produces fear. I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself. That's what Adam said in Genesis 3 and 10. Fear and shame work together. Instead of running toward God, Adam ran away from him. Now wasn't that kind of dumb? Well, yeah, but Adam was dumb when it came to being a human, had no experience. Shame makes us afraid of the very one who can heal us. Why do you think Satan wants your head hung down in shame because one more time you failed? You knew better, but you failed again. Repeat offender. Shame leads to hiding. Adam hid himself. And that's what shame still does today. It causes people to hide behind silence. Look, if somebody sinned or done something against you, they will give you the silent treatment. They don't want to be around you, they don't want to talk to you. Their feeling is, you know, that you'll know. Silence, denial. You'll get in denial. Or blame. You ever seen somebody try to blame the other person when they're really the one who's guilty, but they tried to put the blame off on somebody else. Well, it's your fault. If you hadn't done so and so, I wouldn't have done so and so. Well, two wrongs still don't make a right, no matter how you slice it. Anything to avoid being seen. But hiding only deepens that separation. That includes the separation going on in families right now. It's not just God, it's your family. It's your mother, your daddy, your brothers or sisters or whoever, your friends, just like the prophecies say or say it, and still say what happened in the last days. Check your calendar by the events you see happening right now and tell me where we are on the prophetic time clock. The woman whom you gave to me, she gave me of the tree, Adam says. Shame caused him to try to shift the blame off of himself onto her. And that's where division began between husband and wife. The very first couple started off that way, and ultimately within the family. It corrupted the entire Adam and Eve, whatever your last name is, family. Have you ever considered why the serpent didn't go to Adam? We've talked about this instead of Eve. Did the serpent know that God had said Adam by naming the animals exercised his authority and responsibility over the animal kingdom in Genesis 1 twenty six through twenty eight? Instead of exercising dominion over the serpent by exposing his deception and defending Eve, Adam failed in his role and yielded to the serpent's influence. The sin, shame, and disobedience began in the garden and God's garden in Eden. To the very creation humanity created in the image of God. God knew what Satan was after and why. It didn't catch God off guard what happened in the garden. Shame is used by the enemy to degrade us, to knock us down. The serpent introduced sin. But shame is what kept Adam and Eve distant from God. Even now the enemy operates as an accuser. He wants you to feel exposed, unworthy, and condemned. But here's the truth God already knows everything about you. Nothing is hidden from him. While shame came through sin, healing comes through grace. God did not leave Adam and Eve exposed. Also, for Adam and his wife, the Lord God made tunics of skin and clothed them. God covered them. And that points us to Jesus, who covers our sin, removes our shame, and restores our relationship to God. We have to accept that healing and restoration for the relationship with God to be restored, not run and hide from Him. You can't hide from God. You can't even hide from you. You can hide from yourself. You may deceive other people around you or keep them from knowing things about you that you're ashamed of, wish hadn't happened, hope never happen again. God's not surprised by anything going on in your life. He knows the hour we're living in. That's no excuse. But it's hot out there, and it's going to get hotter. Satan's after your family. He's after your relationship with your sons and daughters, your your mothers, your fathers. He's after destruction of the family unit. He tried to destroy God's family in the garden. Adam and Eve was God's family, created in his image. And he's after your family and my family. Don't forget that. God is mindful of where you are. Keep praying. Shame is not from God. It tells you to hide, to stay silent, to believe something is wrong with you. But that's a lie. God's not trying to expose you. He's trying to heal. You have to accept that healing.