The real reason so many parents are being called to homeschool

What If Your Child Is Here To Help You Evolve?

This week's episode is one of the most personal and reflective conversations I've shared on the podcast so far.

What started as a conversation about homeschooling quickly became something much deeper.

Because the more I walk this path, the more I realise that homeschooling hasn't asked me to become a better teacher.

It's asked me to become a different person.

A more trusting person.

A more courageous person.

A person willing to let go of control.

In this episode, I share where our family is currently at as we prepare for a major move, navigate shifting identities and step further into a life that feels deeply aligned with who we are and what we're creating.

I explore the relationship between control, safety, motherhood and self-trust, and how so many of us have unknowingly built our lives around managing uncertainty rather than truly living.

We dive into:

✨ Why control is often a learned response to feeling unsafe

✨ How school, success, achievement and societal expectations can disconnect us from our own inner knowing

✨ Why motherhood amplifies everything we haven't yet healed

✨ The powerful ways our children mirror the parts of ourselves that are asking for growth

✨ Why homeschooling has become one of the greatest personal development journeys of my life

✨ The concept of "the opponent" - the inner voice that sounds like logic but often appears right before expansion

✨ Why I believe many of the children being born today are here to challenge old systems and invite us into a new way of living

✨ How becoming a Parent Educator is really about reclaiming trust in yourself, your child and your family's unique path

This episode isn't really about education.

It's about evolution.

It's about recognising that our children may not be here simply for us to shape them.

They may also be here to help shape us.

Reflection Questions

As you listen, I invite you to reflect on:

🤍 What am I currently trying to control that may actually be asking me to trust?

🤍 Where in my life am I seeking certainty instead of listening to my own inner knowing?

🤍 What is my child revealing about me that I haven't been willing to look at yet?

🤍 What would become possible if I trusted myself more deeply?

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Transcript

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Hello, my love. Welcome back to another episode of the Parent Educator podcast. Hope you've all had a great week. I am going to give a little update, laugh update to start. And then I'm gonna get into this week's episode and I feel it yeah. This one's a big one and it's been landing really hard for me lately. I I've kind of really been going into what we're navigating as we're in the void between, you know, pretty much letting go of an old identity, an old version of ourselves, an old life before stepping into the new one. And I really call this space the void. The void of, you know, you're not the person that you were, but you're also not sure who you're fully becoming. Like I visualize it, I see it, yet I can just feel I'm in this space between, and I know that's really going to come to life when we move to our new location, 10 hours away from everything we've ever known. And you know what's fascinating about this is it feels like life is speeding up, but it also feels like it's going really slow too. Like I have had this feeling through many major life transformations before. However, this is probably the first time that I'm truly able to like consciously observe myself as I navigate the challenge. So the last couple of days, my inner critic, my opponent, that voice, that ego has been quite loud, and there's been quite a bit of fear there and stories with that. And I was awake last night really just thinking, what are you doing? Like, are you sure you want to do this? Like, you know, and that's just my nervous system. That's again my opponent just trying to keep me safe, trying to keep me back secure to everything I've ever known. But then I know that that's not who I am anymore. So I'm able to kind of shift that feeling quite quickly because I'm so clear on the vision of you know who I'm becoming. I'm just in this awkward phase, and like I'm the awkward phase is real. Like, how much has shifted for me? I don't know what I love for exercise right now. So movement is literally jumping around, walking, and what I mean by jumping is like jumping in the house, moving energy through my body. I used to be into so much sport, I would like meticulously, this will go in today's today's episode, meticulously do the same thing every day. I would go to the gym at 5:50 a.m. every morning, and I would pretty much vlog myself to get energy moving. And this was as much as I at the time it worked for me, it it cleared my head, it did what it needed to do. I now see that it was just another avoidance strategy. I wasn't listening to my body and what it needed. Like I would train the same through my period when I was depleted and exhausted and was wondering why I was feeling so tired when I thought I was doing all the right things. And this time it feels really different, and I'm sharing that with you because I don't know what I like to do for exercise. So that feels really uncomfortable. I don't even know what I like to wear anymore, and that's like really like weird for me. I just don't know what I feel comfortable in, what I like wearing. Um, yeah, watching the transitions with my body, my relationship with my body, because I feel like my body's shifted a lot since I've stopped exercising and so like giving so much love to my body as we're in this transitional phase. And yeah, just just sharing with you what it's like to be in the space between and that void. And this is where our opponent can get really loud and say, What are you doing? Because it feels uncomfortable being in the unknown. It feels uncomfortable not being attached to the things that you've always known. And I've shared recently, you know, the duality of the emotions that I'm feeling right now. Like there's fear and then there's also excitement, you know, the fear of like, oh my gosh, what is this actually going to look like? Is this going to work? Is it, you know, the logic coming in, but then so much excitement because I know this is what it's calling me to. And then, of course, there's the grief of the old version of me, of the life, the things that I've been, I've I've always known. There's a lot of grief there, particularly around like where we live. I've been feeling really sad that we're leaving this home and you know, seeing how much has changed for us in this home and also, you know, the environment that we live in. Um, just on our walks. Like I sit in so much gratitude, but also grief of like missing this walk. And I know that that's expanding me and showing me what's possible, but you can have a duality of emotions, and I'm just sharing that with you right now because we're really in it, you know, packing up boxes that makes it feel more real. And so the head noise becomes loud, or for me, a story I've always held, or something that I've always kind of clung on to is that I'm a last minute person, so I can see how I'm kind of self-sabotaging or falling back into old patterns of like, oh, I'll just do it last minute so I don't have to sit in this uncomfortable feeling of boxes around the house, or you know, my home not feeling homey because things are packed up. So I'm very much can see how I'm in that avoidance of kind of waiting to the last minute and putting, yeah, my nervous system into overdrive of just get stuff done. And I know that works sometimes, but I do want to, you know, move through this and consciously see how I'm navigating this. And yeah, Locke, Loc is moving through it too. He sold a lot of his home gym stuff yesterday, and so there was some grief there because he's, you know, made a really beautiful relationship with his home gym and it's been part of his life, and he's had some incredible PBs on his own early mornings in the in the gym in our garage. And so he was kind of grieving that part yesterday. So to be able to hold that for him, but also see the duality of emotions that he knows that you know, really exciting things are coming on the other side. And you might be thinking, like, Ali, why do you share this all with us? Like, if you're been listening for a while now, you know that this is not just about homeschooling, like, homeschooling is the doorway to your expansion as a parent, as a woman, as a father, as a man, whoever is listening, this is so much more than homeschooling, and what gets to conspire for you when you allow yourself to, you know, step into the unknown and do something that's different. And yeah, I'm sharing this with you because all the transitional moments in my life, you know, leaving a long-term relationship, leaving education, selling our house and, you know, burning all our house plans to the ground when we'd invested so much money, you know, starting this business with no idea about entrepreneurship or business or anything, homeschooling and now moving, like all different stories and the same sensation. And this time I'm really able to, like I said, consciously observe, you know, how I'm navigating this and how you know I can fall back into old patterns and also hold so hold the vision in what I'm being called to, and that's really exciting. So I want to really speak about how homeschooling hasn't asked me to become a better teacher, right? Because when I know when people think of homeschooling or hear of homeschooling, they often assume that the hardest piece will be the challenge is teaching, right? And upon my reflection and my evolutionary journey, and particularly in speaking to parents who are stepping into this space, I honestly think teaching feels like the easiest part, right? And I want to go deep into this today because the hardest thing homeschooling, parenthood, business, relationship, life, the hardest thing that that has asked of me is letting go of control. And I put up a carousel yesterday on my Instagram, if you follow me, around what control has been like for me. And I don't know if I've mentioned it on this podcast yet, but a lot of the work that I'm doing with my mentor is around like your tacoon, and your tocoon is like the thing that your soul chose to move through, you know, the the shadow part of you that is asked to move through and see it as part of your evolutionary journey. And what I've come down to is that my cocoon, the thing that's asking me to rise through and move through is control. And I put up a post yesterday, the hardest thing I had to unlearn had nothing to do with school. And I went into control, you know, how much of my life was built around control or managing or holding, performing, you know, planning and how much of like I followed that. Like teaching is such a big piece around control. And I mentioned this in a previous episode. I think I remember when I fell pregnant with Eden and was speaking to the midwife, and she was asking what I did for work, and I said, I'm a teacher, and she says, Oh, well, just letting you know that you may have. I notice in teachers that they have a lot of challenges with control when having a child. And I was like, What do you mean? You're like, Well, you know, a child is very hard to control, and I kind of was like, Oh, yeah, didn't really think much of it. And of course, my daughter, her soul chose me to help me move through that cocoon because absolutely she reflected to me that there is no way to control a child, and what that has raised within me in terms of letting go of control is that you truly can't control anything in life. And this is this is a nervous system response, and I'm gonna go into this net in a moment, but so many of us have operated or still operate from control, and I see it in my my clients, and I know why they come into my world because they're just uh another version of me, you know, of you know, holding so tightly to things or thinking we can manage or having to plan or prepare or do everything right. And I know that this is why so many people come into my world is that they see something with me within me and they see that I can help give them the answers or help them see the light or create more control around what they're here to do in homeschooling. And this is again for the people that come into my world, this is the work that we work through, is seeing that control is only limiting you to your potential and how you can really allow this journey of choosing homeschooling and moving along this through your child, is that it's letting go of control and needing to do everything right and needing to plan everything and to perform. Because for me, for the for most of my life, I thought responsibility and control were the same thing, right? Like this this was a massive part for me, and I shared on the last episode of like a subconscious belief I held around of responsibility from responsibility of looking after my older sister that I didn't realize that I'd subconsciously held that it was going to be my responsibility, you know, and how that was then making me control so many aspects of my life. And that was just a small part, right? And I I am going to go deep into this today because I don't think I don't think any of us wake up one day and decide we're going to become controlling, right? I do believe our souls came here to move through this, and this is why so many of you are here right now and here and questioning and being called to homeschooling, because it's asking you to move through your takcoon or your your tight grip on control. And like I said, we don't wake up one day and decide we're going to be controlling, we learn it. Control becomes a survival strategy, and this is often a response to feeling unsafe in some way. You know, when we're children, many of us felt like we we didn't have power or we don't have perspective or we don't have regulation and we don't understand the world. And so with that, we create meaning from that. And what I mean by we create meaning is that we create these stories. So maybe we learned that emotions were unpredictable, you know, whether that was seeing that at school with our peers, whether that's seeing within our parents, within our um, with our siblings. Maybe we learned that emotions were unpredictable. And so we needed to act differently or perform or quieten down or not say the thing to try and control other people's way of responding to us, right? So emotions were unpredictable. So if we acted this way, then we wouldn't evoke it and an emotion that made the other person feel uncomfortable or that they couldn't move through safely. Maybe some of us felt that money was unstable, right? And so that we saw that maybe our parents stressed about money, like anyone in our circle, family stressed about money. They were talking about money like it was unstable. So we do everything we can to not feel that feeling of unstability. So we do whatever we can to control the outcome of money, right? Maybe we felt that conflict wasn't resolved safely, and so we avoid, we do everything we can to control and avoid conflict. This is a massive one that I see not only in relationships, but then, you know, with children. If children and siblings are having um arguments, disagreements, like healthy conflict resolution and how we navigate that within our relationships, or do we avoid it, or do we get anxious when there's conflict that comes up? And again, this is not to blame anyone, it's just from our experiences and the stories and the meaning that we create around what we experienced as a child and what our soul came here to move through. Maybe people left in our life when we were younger, maybe family split, maybe you lost a parent, maybe you lost a grandparent, like people left in your life. And so you now do whatever you can to control that not happening again because of the feeling that it evoked within you that didn't feel safe. And so your nervous system does whatever it can to avoid feeling that again. Or maybe people around you became sick. Maybe someone close to you became sick, maybe you saw someone suffering for a very long time. So, what do we do? We do whatever we can to avoid that happening again, and we control, we try and control the outcome. Like I had other points down, like maybe we had to care for others, you know. So we do whatever we can to control that outcome, to control how um how we show up, how how we look after that that's our responsibility. Maybe we we step into the people pleasing, maybe the responsibility role. And so with that, trying to perform or be something that we're not, or you know, whatever it is is holding, managing, it's all control. It's all trying to make something. If I do this, if I do X, then Y will happen, right? Because we're constantly looking for logic and our nervous system, our opponent, our ego is holding on to memories, meaning from things that happened in the past. And that might be even further along your your generational line that didn't even happen to you, that you're carrying on a cellular level, right? So something that happened to your parents. Maybe achievement was praise. So you do everything you can to control to make sure that you're constantly achieving. Like how many of us are high achievers or we're now realizing that we are constantly overdoing, but we can't help it because that's a nervous system response as well, right? Constantly doing, overachieving, having the mental load in our head. Again, that all comes down to control. And maybe for many of us, that being the easy one, being the compliant one, being the one that doesn't say too much was rewarded, was praised, was thanked. And so we do whatever we can to control ourselves to keep acting like that. And again, these are all nervous system responses. And then we create the story that we constantly operate from is if I can get this right, maybe I'll be safe. You know? So maybe that relates to you now with homeschooling. If if I can just get this right, like I know I'm being called to do it, but if I can have all my ducks in a row and I can know exactly how this is going to pan out in two years, and I know how my child's gonna respond, and I know where they're going to be at, so then I can I have evidence that they're they're doing the right thing, then maybe I'll feel safe, like I'll feel okay then, right? This is a nervous system response. This is what we create meaning from in our lives, and it's also a massive part of what you're here to move through. And I can't preface enough of how much school reinforces this, right? If we haven't linked the dots yet, like school is such a powerful reinforcer of control, right? From the age of five, from the age of five, when our brain is still very much in development mode in creating stories. If you haven't heard me say before, we we're in a brainwave state from the age of zero to five, sorry, zero to seven, where we're pretty much in a hypnotic state. So we're constantly just consuming everything around us that we believe is truth. And this is what then creates our stories, our identity, what we believe about ourselves, right? A lot of the work that I do with my one-on-ones is around acknowledging those stories and really shifting the beliefs, the stories, the subconscious programs that we've created in these early years of life because our brain was in the theta brainwaste state, the hypnosis hypnotic state from those ages where we're downloading everything as truth. Right? And so with school, when we go at the age of five, from the age of five, we learn to follow instructions, you know, stay in the lines, ask the right question and make the right answer or get the right answer. Don't make mistakes, meet the expectations, constantly seek approval, and constantly ask for permission outside of yourself, right? And so with that, we stop asking what feels true for me, what feels right for me, what is come, what is on my heart, what is my intuition saying? And we start asking others maybe it's an authority, someone above us that we've subconsciously believed is above us and has all the answers, what is the correct answer? And so over time, we develop the story, the subconscious belief on a cellular level that the teacher knows, that experts knows, that expert knows, that the system knows, that the curriculum knows, that anyone outside of us knows more than we do. Right? And so eventually with that we stop trusting what we know. And when we stop trusting what we know, we need to control and so with that, success becomes a control strategy, right? And I've spoken about my construct control strategy of how much of my life I moved through the success ticker boxes, you know, that I went through school, I did all the things, I was the people pleaser, the girl that said yes, that sat there quietly, got praise for being the nice girl and you know, respectful and staying within the lines, and that continued all throughout my life. When I left school, I didn't know what I wanted to do, but the pressure to fulfill a role. And if you didn't fulfill a role, you were failing. If you didn't know what you wanted to do, you were failing. So I went to uni and I said, okay, I'll become a teacher again. Like I love children, maybe that will work. Studied, got the job, moved into leadership, you know, stayed in the relationship, thought I was gonna marry, you know, all the things that I thought were successful, I was ticking off. And yeah. Wondered why I spent years chasing a version of success that looked right, not wrong, it just wasn't mine, and that was all based on control and what I'd seen and what I was told was success, and constantly seeking answers outside of myself. And I honestly thought that if I achieved enough, eventually I'd feel safe. Because that's what we're all working towards is just constantly feeling safe. But that safety never arrived because safety wasn't in the achievement. And I was thinking about this the other day, and it just dropped into my awareness and it's popping out again. And I'm just going to sit here for a moment. Is how many of us sit in the comfort zone because of this, right? I think I spoke about this last week, or it just dropped in for me on my walk. Yeah, look, and I went for a walk after doing some packing on Saturday, and I was sitting in the duality of emotions of like the just the sun glistening through the trees, and you know, those beautiful, crisp winter days, and it was in the afternoon we're walking Bill and I could hear the birds chirping, and I was like moving my hands through the trees, and I was just thinking, like, I love this place, I love this walk. And it made me really like anchor into sorry if you can hear Bill snoring again. It made me really think about how so many of us stay in the comfort zone because it feels safe, you know, like nothing about our life here, nothing of it is wrong. Like it is great. And this is what so many of us shame is the fact that we desire more or that we're being called to more, or that it's and then when we're called to more that it's selfish. Like, why would you pick up and leave and do like ri take a risk when everything's like easy, you know, or maybe it's not easy, but everything's comfortable, you know. Like, yep, you've got a beautiful house, a marriage, your daughter's healthy, you've got family support around you, you know, you're building a business that feels that lights you up and you're you're still being called to something more. But so many of us stay in this comfort zone because that's what our nervous system feels safe with. And so stepping out of that, it feels too unsafe. And that's where this is where we don't allow ourselves to expand and expand our nervous system capacity because we don't allow ourselves to step out and push ourselves to expand. And so we get stuck here, or we get the no one's you're not stuck anywhere, but we get the feeling of being stuck and wonder why we don't feel fulfilled or happy or successful or alive. And it's because we are not taught that this experience, we are here for an evolutionary journey. Every challenge that you face is an opportunity for you to rise, it's an opportunity for you to evolve, it's an opportunity for you to grow, right? And I was just reflecting is like, yes, we could stay here and like everything would be okay, but I would be denying the part of me that's asking me to expand into something more, and so I would it would feel it just wouldn't feel good, right? And I I really want to share this with you because this is where so many of us get stuck in our stories. Again, like I said, you're never stuck, but we do, we allow our stories to take over, and we think that if we achieve enough, we will feel safe, or if we achieve enough, then we will feel successful, or if we just, you know, stay in the comfort zone, but like dip our toe in and out every now and then, then maybe we'll feel safe and fulfilled. But it's not, we are here for an evolutionary journey, and if you're here and you're being called to homeschool, that is happening for you for a reason. And how many times I've said to my clients of late is like this is as much about you as it is about your child because your child is asking you to rise alongside them, like they're not just asking you to lead this, they're asking you to rise alongside of them. And I want to talk into how parenthood, motherhood amplifies everything, you know. Like I said, I had such deep attachment to control again. A nervous system response. Bill is snoring so loudly. I'm sorry, Bill. Shh, and yes, motherhood amplifies everything. Like this, when we become mothers, and I know if you're here, this is because this is what's moved through you, everything gets exposed, right? Because suddenly you love something more than yourself, and you cannot control that. So you cannot control obviously how much you love something more than yourself, but you realize that you cannot control their development, you cannot control their friendships, you cannot control their emotions. And this was the biggest part for me that I was called to rise through with Eden is from the moment she came, but was birthed into this world, she was screaming, she was so vocal. And I remember the midwife saying to Locke and I, and I just said, Is she okay? Because she was screaming, they're like, She's got a set of lungs on her. And that was the moment that yeah, began it all for me because it made me realize how much expressing emotions and expressing how you feel and being seen in that felt unsafe for me. How much I've been asked to rise through my attachment to control, but also my ability to feel safe in expressing emotions and to hold space as she expresses hers and feel safe in that while she does that. That has been my whole evolutionary journey of a mother, and I'm still not there yet. Like she is so expressive when she's upset, she is so loud and expressive. And I still see now when I'm around my family, how much that brings up in others, you know, how much that makes them feel uncomfortable because so many of us have moved through this life being taught that emotion is not safe. Think about school. How much of you dimmed your emotions, didn't cry, maybe got told to be quiet when you were laughing in class, whatever it is, the duality of emotions, how much it was taught that it was not safe. You do not express yourself because you'll be judged, because it means that you can't control your emotions. Pretty much that showing emotion was unsafe. And this has been the biggest one that has called me to rise through is that I cannot control my daughter's emotions, and I cannot control, I cannot control my response to her emotions. I can only see myself in it, regulate and tell myself I'm safe, and then teach myself how to feel safe in expressing. That has been a massive piece to feel safe in expression, to feel safe in joy, in laughter, but also to feel safe when I'm angry, to feel safe and cry when I'm upset and let the emotion move through me. Right? That has been the biggest thing to call me into like releasing control and asking me to rise. And like there was a story for so long, particularly around homeschooling, of like, if I don't move through this, like I don't, I I couldn't spend, like, how do you spend all your time with your your child? And it's like if I'm asking that question, it's asking for something to rise it within me. You know, what is she reflecting back in with me that I cannot hold, that I cannot see as an opportunity to grow through. And you know, there's so much, so many more things that we cannot control. Literally anything in life. And I said this to Locke the other day, we cannot control anything other than your location where you live. You can pick everything up and move, but anything else you can't control. So with our children, again, we can't control their development, we can't control their friendships, their emotions, you know, their personality traits, their interests, their star sign, the outcomes that they achieve, right? And if we have a real tight attachment to control, then we try and find other ways to control that for them. So what do we do? We we we we research more, we plan more, we do whatever we can to create more certainty that we're doing the right thing. Anything that we can do to create more control. And from everything that I've experienced, not only for myself, but with my daughter and in teaching, children don't respond well to control. They respond to connection. And with that, if you allow it and you're able to see it, your children, your child becomes your mirror. I honestly think that's like I said, what we're here to move through. And if you're being call called to homeschooling, this is what you're being called to move through. That our children become our mirrors, and not because they're trying to upset us or not because they're revealing us. It's because they're asking us to rise what we're here to evolve through, what our soul is here to evolve through. You know, the strong-wheeled child, the emotional child, whatever label they've been given, the sensitive child, the child who questions everything, the child who refuses the box, the child who says what they're thinking. Sometimes I don't think our children are challenging us. I truly don't believe they are. I think they're revealing us. They're asking us to grow. And what they're revealing in us, they're revealing our fear, they're revealing our need for certainty, they're revealing our need for approval, they're revealing our need to perform, they're revealing our need for control. And if you don't allow yourself to see that and see that as an opportunity to grow through, then this is going to be so much harder than it needs to be. However, if you're being called to homeschool, this is what they're really asking you to rise into. This is what your soul's asking you to rise into. And this is this is how it all connects. Is for me, this is why homeschooling has never felt like an educational decision. And I keep coming back to this. It's this is about you. It's been a decision around trust, it's been a surrender decision, it's been a growth decision, it's been an identity decision, a decision to allow myself to have the full experience, human experience, and evolve alongside my daughter. Because the part of me that wants certainty, that wants guarantees, that wants to know that if I do X and Y, then I'm going to get Z result, that part of me is not going to see that. There aren't any guarantees. There's no certainty. Because what homeschooling, what choosing to lead my child's education, what becoming a parent educator has asked me to do is to trust. And what I mean by trust is trust myself, trust Eden, my daughter, trust her learning timeline, trust my evolutionary timeline, trust her evolutionary timeline, trust life, right? Trust that you are here for an evolutionary experience. And what I mean by that is you're being called to this because you're someone who is beginning to question. Like we are in the time of human evolution where we are questioning how we work, the foods we eat, our health, our relationships, who we are asking for the answers, like who in power is actually someone that we respect and that we want answers from. And we're questioning education. And I think our children, your children, your child are helping us question it too, is helping you question it too. And they're helping us question because they're the ones that won't comply, they're the ones that won't conform, they're the ones that won't fit neatly into boxes and do X, Y, Z and get this result. And maybe we need to stop looking at that as a problem. Maybe we need to start looking at it as the invitation. Because in all of this, in my attachment to control in my cocoon, what I've come to realize is what if the thing that you are trying to control or that I'm trying to control is actually always the thing to set you free. Yeah. And you know, the children that being born are being born now in this time of human evolution. I I truly believe from just before the shit show of 2020, the children being born now, and from the conversations that I'm having with parents lately, the themes that I'm seeing in these children is that they're more highly sensitive. Maybe they are the neurodivergent ones. Maybe they are the ones that we know they will not fit the school mold, or they don't fit the school mold. They're the children who we know will challenge authority, who will ask questions, and whose spirit will be dampened when they do. Maybe they are the children who we know won't sit still or don't sit still, and they're the children who ask big questions. And with that, like I wonder, and I also know that these children came here for something different, right? Not because they're broken or because they're difficult or because they just want to be annoying, whatever it is, because they're helping humanity evolve, they're helping us evolve. And maybe they're not here to fit the old world. Maybe they're here to help us build a new one. And so this has been, and I share this with you because this has been my process. This has been has been what I've moved through so far on my evolutionary journey of, you know, choosing to be the parent educator for my daughter and what that has asked within me from the moment she entered this world. And this is why I talk about becoming a parent educator, you know, not because parents need more answers or curriculum or resources or, you know, whatever it is that they're searching for to be able to cling on to control of knowing the result. I talk about becoming a parent educator because parents, you are here, you are listening to this podcast because you're reclaiming leadership. You're reclaiming your inner knowing, your intuition. You're reclaiming your ability to be responsible for what is of value to you. You're reclaiming your trust within yourself, you know, your trust in your journey and seeing every challenge as an opportunity for you to rise and move through it alongside your child. And the biggest thing that choosing to homeschool has given me isn't just educational freedom. If you haven't noticed by now, if you haven't pick it picked it up, the biggest thing that this choice has given me is self-trust. It's given me courage, it's given me the ability to be present and sit with my emotions and like I said, consciously see how I'm moving through challenge, consciously choosing how I move through challenge as an opportunity for growth. Consciously choosing to rise not only for myself but for my daughter, so she feels safe as she rises to in this new transitional period of human evolution. It's given me the ability to strengthen my relationship within myself, so strengthen the relationship with my loved ones in my marriage, in parenthood, in leading here in my business, in the parent educator movement. Like this has called me to rise in more ways than one. And I honestly, we're only just getting started. Like, I know if you're here listening to this, you are as much a part of this as I am. This has given me the most profound opportunities for growth and seeing my life in a way that feels so expansive. Because, you know, the resources, the curriculum, the whatever it is, attaching to some type of product to give me answers, that's not the work. The curriculum's not the work. The parent is the work. And what I mean by that is that I have parents enter this doorway still clinging to control, and I get it because this is what I'm here to help you move through. But they come in and they're like, what curriculum should I be using? What resources, like what program, who's gonna help me be able to control how this how we move through this? And don't get me wrong, like those questions matter. Yeah. But the bigger question that I help you navigate and move through and feel confident in is can you trust yourself? Can you hold and tolerate uncertainty? Can you actually lead with your values and feel safe in that? Can you question and acknowledge the inherited beliefs that aren't yours, the stories that aren't yours? Can you actually question them and acknowledge them and see that they're here for you to evolve and move through? And the biggest one that I am still navigating and you will navigate to is can you withstand? Can you hold being misunderstood? Right? Sorry about Bill. So with that, I want to circle back to what this means and what I spoke about last week. Is that can you trust yourself? Can you tolerate uncertainty? Can you lead? Can you withstand being misunderstood and acknowledge the stories that come up with that and know that this is the opponent? The stories, the the being misunderstood, and the stories we create under that, create around that, you know, the the control piece, this is the opponent, this is the ego, this is that inner critic, that voice that is telling you to stay in the old way, to stay, telling you to cling on to control because that's what feels safe. That's what our nervous system knows. Asking, seeking answers outside of ourselves, that's what feels safe. That's what we what we know, and that's what's going to get you to where you you want to be. But we know deep down that our inner voice, our intuition is calling us to move through that. And like I said, that that opponent, that inner voice, it sounds like logic, not just fear. And because so many of us have operated from logic, from ha from you know, the certainty piece, from the control piece, from knowing that if I do X, I will get Y. That's what keeps us stuck in loops. That keeps us not feeling safe in uncertainty and keeps us away from trusting ourselves, because then we just allow that to play without consciously seeing that it's trying to keep us safe and that it's just fear to move through. And so we just say, Oh, I'll just wait another year and see how it works out, or it's too risky right now. Like the the um economy is not good. We look for all the logical reasons why it won't work out, you know? That it's just not the right time now. You know, what if people think I'm crazy? What if my family think I'm ridiculous? Like, I'll just wait a little bit longer. And Every time that I've done that, that intuition, that voice doesn't go away. Like the move for me has been on my heart for a few years now. And how many times I've pushed it back and let the stories control me of like, no, Locke won't want to do it, it'll stress him out too much. Like that's gonna put too much stress on him for his business, for what's happening. And like then I was like, oh, Enan's got a beautiful bush, kinda community. What if like that disconnection from friends, like the stories that were like, no, it's just not gonna happen for you. It'll go away. It'll go away. You're happy here, everything's good here, right? It doesn't go away. And every pivotal moment when you look back, like mine was, every pivotal moment, ending the relationship, selling a house, leaving my secure role as an assistant principal that I worked so hard for, starting a business, you know, pivoting in my business that was working, choosing to homeschool, the opponent, the logical voice was always there, was there every time. And if I'd listened to it, I wouldn't have had the life. I wouldn't have the life I have today. Right? And so I ask you for every pivotal moment that you've moved through, can you acknowledge that the opponent was there, but you moved through it anyway? And what are what is the opponent saying to you now? What are the logical stories that the opponent's making in your mind that it's actually just fear for you to move through and evolve through? Right? What if the opponent keeps telling you what it what if the opponent, what it keeps telling you is not what it's telling you not to do is actually the doorway. It's the doorway to your expansion, to your growth, and to feel comfortable in the uncertainty and to loosen the grip on control. Because the older I get, the wiser I get, the more I move through this journey, right? The more I realize that homeschooling is not asking me to be a better teacher. It's asking me to be a braver human, a more trusting human, a more conscious human. And maybe our children aren't here for us to shape them. Right? Maybe they're here to help shape us too. And like I said, for us to rise with them. And so maybe that's why you and so many other parents are feeling called to choose differently right now. Maybe that's why this is so heavily on your heart. And not because you're just trying to escape the system or you're in big fuck you energy. It's because your children are inviting you into a deeper version of yourself. Right. So I wanted this episode to be again an opportunity for you to see yourself here, like I see you. And it pretty much to remind you that I'm in it with you. Like I am just one step ahead of you, getting you to see yourself within me and building the trust that this is possible for you too, because it absolutely is. So let me know if this resonated today. I hope you liked this episode. And if you are wanting to evolve through this and have someone see you even more, I am currently running some audits where I create a little profile when you answer some questions around your child and yourself on how you're already navigating this and not seeing yourself in this. And it's called seeing your child audit. That's the first starting point that you can jump into my world. I also have a family clarity session where we spend 60 minutes together delving deep into where you're at and really allowing you to see what's possible. This is a great doorway that we can really see your opportunity for expansion here. And I also have my six-week mentorship, which spots are filling up quite quickly now, which is really exciting. I'm working with some incredible people, and this is where we spend six weeks delving deep into not only creating some structure and you know, safety still, because that's what your nervous system is asking for in making this choice for your family, but also deeply supporting you in this evolutionary journey. Because, as you've heard, I don't do this alone. And every time I fear some feel some fear, feel some doubt, feel the opponent getting quite loud, I step into the spaces that show me what's possible. And that's what I want this space to be for you. To show you what is possible when you acknowledge the opponent, when you acknowledge the fear, when you acknowledge that voice that's trying to sound like logic, and see it as your opportunity for growth. My growth has been so profound from the spaces that I've chosen to jump into to support me with that, and how much self-trust that's built in myself to, you know, take leaps of faith and trust that the universe is going to catch me. And that's what I endeavor to create in Spaces for You is to build that self-trust within yourself that yeah, this journey is as much about you as it is about your child. So thank you all for being here. Thank you for listening. I love hearing from you and what is resonating, what's landing in the podcast. It helps me, you know, continue to shape what I talk about on here. But honestly, like these last few episodes have just been what I have been navigating myself and what I've been seeing in my clients and what comes through me to share. So I love hearing from you from what resonates. If you want to jump into a session together, reach out. I've also got my booking, I'll pop some links in the bio. And yeah, we'll keep you up to date. But I love you all. Thank you for being here. It's so nice. This community that we're building in the podcast, I feel so connected to you all and feel so safe in sharing. And you know, the peace around being misunderstood, I feel so understood and seen and held here because of the community and space we're building. We're all mirrors to each other. Anyway, again, thank you for being here. If you heard Bill snoring, apologies. That's just going to be part of my episodes because he's always with me. And yeah, that's me, that's my life. Anyway, I love you all. I will chat to you next week.