#10: “AMBITION: The Hidden Driver Behind Your Life: Part 2

“AMBITION: The Hidden Driver Behind Your Life”

In Part 2 of this deep dive on ambition, Larry Yatch and Vicky Giangregorio reveal the formula behind lasting change.

Why do some people stay stuck even when they desperately want a different life? Why do some children never develop ambition? Why do others seem driven to achieve extraordinary things?

Larry breaks down the three essential ingredients required for ambition to exist:

▪️ Dissatisfaction with the present situation
 ▪️ Clarity about the future you want
 ▪️ A perception of power to create change

Through real-world examples involving parenting, relationships, business, leadership, and personal growth, Larry and Vicky explore why ambition isn’t a personality trait—it’s a tool.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why many parents unintentionally destroy their children’s ambition
 • The hidden relationship between responsibility and motivation
 • Why dissatisfaction is necessary for growth
 • How to create ambition in yourself and others
 • The difference between power and the perception of power
 • Why some people stay trapped in frustration despite wanting change
 • How ambition can be used to create alignment, fulfillment, and purpose

If Part 1 helped you understand what ambition is, Part 2 shows you how to harness it.

Because the life you want isn’t created by desire alone.

It’s created by understanding the forces that move you toward change.

🎧 Part 2 premieres Monday, June 1st, 2026 at 8AM MT

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

This is Capital T Truth. Here we expose the beliefs, patterns, and trauma loops that have kept you limited. I'm Larry Gatch, a former Navy SEAL officer and entrepreneur who learned the hard way that the strategies that create success can also quietly destroy the quality of your life. This work exists to expose that truth. If you're ready for freedom through alignment, you're in the right place. And so what's nuts about this, this is the kick kick in the stomach for a lot of parents. Uh I I always know this one hits hard. Uh parents that um do that, right, generally do it so that they can be important and valuable in their child's lives. So their personal need to perform for love, to be important and valuable in their child's life, steals their child's ambition. Because it's important for me to make my child's life good. And to know that my selfish need for being important steals my child's ambition is like that's a that's a kick. Just from the parent perspective, if you have a child that uh gets, you know, he plays video games, eats Doritos, you make emotion and meatloaf whenever they want it, and do their laundry, life's pretty good today. Why would I want it to change? So we got to change that. Now, if we change that, and all of a sudden they have to pay for internet and pay above market for rent and all that stuff. But like, okay, today, today's starting to suck. Uh, but if they have no idea what the good tomorrow would look like, they're just gonna stay in suffering. And so you can live in dissatisfaction with the present and just stay there. And there's a lot of people that will just suffer in that and not go anywhere. And the biggest reasons they do that is they don't have any clue what a good tomorrow would look like. And so those three ingredients, dissatisfaction with today, clarity of the tomorrow I want, and perception of power that I can turn today into tomorrow, without any one of those three, you can't have ambition. It's it's absolutely impossible.

SPEAKER_00 2:21

So I know that when we speak about ambition and then the desire, there's always there there's another component. Do you want to go into the formula?

SPEAKER_01 2:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:29

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 2:29

I uh I can't help it.

unknown 2:31

I know.

SPEAKER_00 2:31

Oh, I know people need it. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 2:34

So in this, we've identified ambition's desire for change, as well as accompanied by action, right? Uh or follow-through by action for that change. And we've identified there's ways it can go wrong and ways it can be used uh in ways that are not useful based on the need for external validation or performing for love, coming from the wrong place. We also talked about where it's good for uh we don't necessarily need everyone to be high ambition, right? That you know, low ambition is can be good, especially when you're putting together a whole team. So within that place, if I want to create ambition in my life or ambition in someone else's life, there is three parts to it. Uh and if you're missing any one of these three parts, uh you can't have ambition. Okay. It's impossible to have ambition. And the first uh one is also the one that hurts parents the most, is uh dissatisfaction with a present situation. So when you're looking at ambition, desire for change, if in the first step of it, uh you or the individual uh does not live in the experience of a dissatisfaction with today. And the uh I'm very careful with my words. I can be dissatisfied with today, but not live in the experience of it. Right? The I ha I can be like, oh, I don't really I don't like how much money I'm making today.

SPEAKER_02 4:01

Right.

SPEAKER_01 4:02

But if I don't experience the dissatisfaction of not having enough money, I'm not gonna do anything about it. And so it is not only that clarity of that uh dissatisfaction, what I don't like in to like in my life today, but I have to experience it. There's a uh a variation of that, right? So you have dissatisfaction with the present, uh, the experience of that. The second like flavor of it is you can live in a world where today's pretty good, but you're very clear that to the trajectory you're on is not gonna be good. And that can be the same, right? I can be like, well, today's not too bad, but if I keep doing what I'm doing today, if I keep being on the path that I'm on today, it's gonna be really bad. That can be the very same, right? So it's either clear dissatisfaction with my experiences today, or it could be this uh clarity that the trajectory I'm on is not gonna be good. Uh if you are not, if you're satisfied with the where you are today, you're not gonna do anything about it. Right. And that's to me where especially the conversation with parents, like you have the the 27-year-old living in your basement, you know, playing video games all day and eating Doritos. Shit, that's pretty good life. Yeah, I mean, I wouldn't mind that, right? I don't have to worry about it. I don't have to pay for anything. Mom does my laundry, I get to do, you know, get groceries, all that stuff. Like, I don't have to worry about anything.

SPEAKER_02 5:34

Right.

SPEAKER_01 5:35

Why the hell would I want to change anything? And so what's nuts about this, this is the kick kick in the stomach for a lot of parents. Uh I I always know this one hits hard. Uh parents that um do that, right, generally do it so that they can be important and valuable in their child's lives. So their personal need to perform for love, to be important and valuable in their child's life, steals their child's ambition because it's important for me to make my child's life good. And to know that my selfish need for being important steals my child's ambition is like that's a that's a kick.

SPEAKER_00 6:27

It is. I remember the very first time you told me that about a year ago, and I really didn't like you very much. And I wanted to find all kinds of ways that that was not true, and the more work I did inside, the more I even see it very highlighted. It is so true. Yeah. And um and and that's just that's just one example, and it's not even um and sometimes it's not the performing for love, because I know we're gonna talk about other areas as well. But um it's something. It's something like why are they still there? Yeah, that's a great question. Why are they still there?

SPEAKER_01 6:59

Because the dissatisfaction is I need them to be there. I need them to be there so I can be important.

SPEAKER_00 7:05

Right. But but you will complain as the parent that they're still and you're like, I'm so dissatisfied, I'm so disappointed, I'm so this they're lazy, they need to be out of here. You know, you're like, honey, do you do can I have your darks, please?

SPEAKER_01 7:19

Okay now, okay. That's gonna work here.

SPEAKER_00 7:23

That's your because I love them so much, Lila. You don't understand.

SPEAKER_01 7:28

Like, they need and then on you added on top of that the guild.

SPEAKER_00 7:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:34

Right?

SPEAKER_00 7:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:34

Oh, I screwed up. I messed up.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

How did I mess this up?

SPEAKER_01 7:38

I screwed up when they were six, seven, eight. I wasn't present, I wasn't there, I worked too much. Oh, now I have to make it up for them. And all you're doing is stealing their ambition.

SPEAKER_00 7:46

Yeah, this is my fault.

SPEAKER_01 7:47

Yeah, because they can't have ambition if they don't have dissatisfaction with their present situation.

SPEAKER_00 7:54

So basically what I'm hearing is if if you're in this position, make your lives or make the children's lives very dissatisfacing.

SPEAKER_01 8:01

Oh, you your slip make make your life.

SPEAKER_00 8:05

Yeah. The slip, the sneaky. But yes, make their life so uh undesirable that then all of a sudden they get ambition. Right?

SPEAKER_01 8:15

Well, it's it hopefully it's step one, right? We got two more parts to this, but step one, if you don't have step one, you can't go anywhere.

SPEAKER_00 8:23

It's but we have to be so dissatisfied with right now in an area.

SPEAKER_01 8:27

We have to be experiencing dissatisfaction if you don't underscreen.

SPEAKER_00 8:31

Almost to like almost to like a level of just disgust. Like I am more so dissatisfied.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

Well, again, think of ambition isn't a light switch on off.

SPEAKER_00 8:38

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 8:38

It's uh it's a ramp, right? So the more that I'm dissatisfied with my current situation, the more ambition I have I can potentially have.

SPEAKER_02 8:48

Right.

SPEAKER_01 8:48

Right. If I'm just kind of dissatisfied, well, I might have a little ambition. So uh it's how much change do you want to see and how quick do you want to see it? Right. It's I uh number of times I've had uh guys that wanted to be SEALs come and ask me if I would mentor them and help them. And and I ask a couple questions because there's a couple things I'll ask ahead of time, and I'm like, no, you're not gonna make it, I'm not wasting my time. It's not even a chance you could possibly do it. But then if it do, I'm like, okay, so uh mentorship is going to look like me making your life miserable as much as I can to the highest level possible, uh, make you suffer as much as I possibly can every second I can. So if that's what you're looking for, like maybe like we can do this. And what's funny is you always know at least there's the potential they might make. And when they're like, Yeah, hell yeah, that's exactly what I want. Torture me. Uh when the other one's like, look at me a little funny, like, oh no, you're out, no, you don't get to it. So yeah, that foundation, right, of dissatisfaction with the present is is the p place. And being clear on that, the expectations are what responsibilities are mine, what responsibilities are yours, and having that arrangement because if you've been covering all the responsibilities of your adult child, right, and then all of a sudden say no, it'd be a little confusing. And again, that's fine, but uh being clear on I am no longer responsible for these things for you.

SPEAKER_02 10:23

Right.

SPEAKER_01 10:23

And if you don't, I have to be willing as a parent to see them suffer. And most of us will not allow ourselves, our children, to suffer in our presence. And if we do, you're right back to stealing their ambition because they can't have ambition without dissatisfaction with the present.

SPEAKER_00 10:41

That sounds like a big loop. It sounds like a big loop. So I have to be dissatisfied in an area of my life, right? That's step one. Step two and I have to and I have to really be experienced in this. And not only that, but clearly say if I continue these behaviors and I'm looking at the direct trajectory going forward, this is what my life is going to turn out to be.

SPEAKER_01 11:00

That can add, like again, that ambition curve going up, right? If if I don't like today and I see that if I keep doing what I'm doing, today's gonna get worse and worse and worse. The potential for ambition goes up, goes higher and higher. So that's the first one. The second one is clarity of the good future that I want. I always say clarity of the desired future, right? Like if I live in today sucks, but I have no idea what I want tomorrow, I can't have ambition either.

SPEAKER_02 11:32

Right.

SPEAKER_01 11:33

And in those situations, uh, if we just stick with we'll stick with the same example of parent, we could talk about business. Like, I think we should talk one of your one of your distributors, like we can talk through the same example on the business side in a second. But just from the parent perspective, if you have a child that uh get, you know, you plays video games, eats Doritos, you make a milkshake and meatloaf whenever they want it, and do their laundry, life's pretty good today. Why would I want it to change? So we gotta change that. Now, if we change that and all of a sudden they have to pay for internet and pay above market for rent and all that stuff, we're like, okay, today, today's starting to suck. Uh, but if they have no idea what the good tomorrow would look like, they're just gonna stay in suffering. Yeah, and so you can live in dissatisfaction with the present and just stay there. And there's a lot of people that will just suffer in that and not go anywhere. And the biggest reasons they do that is they don't have any clue what a good tomorrow would look like.

SPEAKER_00 12:37

That's where we hear uh even some of my personal friends, something's gotta change. Something's gotta change. What's probably happening is they actually are pretty dissatisfied, they're just they're totally not clear on what that future looks like. No, and some sometimes people can't see it because they feel undeserving.

SPEAKER_01 12:54

Or that it would be even possible for them, as you said.

SPEAKER_00 12:57

They they need to create a world in which there is suffering, and obviously we'll get into more of the trauma and the survivor strategies, but they have to create this world so that they they feel safe in it. That's another episode, y'all. But but the reality of it is is just being able to do the work and be so clear what does that future look like that you're desiring so much to be.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

Yeah, and that's where like for my children who are currently 9 and 11, so they're younger, uh being I'm I feel like right now my job is to try to expose them to as much as possible to see what triggers sparks that fire for some desire for the future.

SPEAKER_00 13:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:44

Right?

SPEAKER_00 13:44

The other thing that I do Can you give an example of of that when you say when you say that? That you're trying to spark that because there's probably a lot of parents that hear that go, but how?

SPEAKER_01 13:54

Yeah, well, like uh my and not every parent could do this, but I mean, again, this wasn't that much. Uh my youngest son was has loved planes since he was a little kid. Uh when little I mean like three, two, three, four. Uh so for his sixth birthday, uh we got him a hour flight lesson to fly a Cessna, right? Now, many parents be like, I couldn't do that. It was like $170. Like it wasn't a lot. My intent to doing that was to see if that continues to spark him, right? Because I want him to connect to, oh, there's a future where I could do this every day, right? That's just connecting to some positive future, which I think has had some effect. Because, you know, and what's interesting for him is my background with all the military, I couldn't comprehend not wanting to be a jet pilot. He has no a fighter jet pilot. Like, he doesn't want to be a fighter jet pilot. He wants to fly uh maybe for Delta, but generally he wants to fly prop planes. Like, will he want us to do that forever? I don't know, but he's got a future in his mind that is good where he gets to fly these type of planes. And so that's a a very real example of what I'm trying to do is find something that sparks their interest and give them a picture of what their life could look like in the future.

SPEAKER_02 15:26

Right.

SPEAKER_01 15:26

And so uh those are those would be the two pieces. Uh big piece if you have an older child, right? Uh a and this would be an employee as well, right? This falls the same thing. One of the biggest things that people will connect to more than anything else when it comes to the future is what it feels like. So not necessarily what it looks like specifically, like what exactly planes are you flying, how are you flying them, what are you getting paid, all that stuff, but more of what do you feel in that future. We call that a desired end state. Um helping your team member, your employee, your partner, your child really be able to verbalize what is it they feel and what is it they don't feel. Like I don't want to experience this feeling. Um those that's really how you, as someone trying to inspire uh ambition in yourself or another, the more you can verbalize those uh emotional experiences, the emotional state that you're in and the emotional states you're avoiding, that's really where you start to shape that second piece of the formula. The first piece being dissatisfaction with today, clarity for the future. I want really what we're saying is what do you want to feel and what don't you want to feel? Being able to put words to that, and it doesn't have to be a specific is enough and ultimately the most powerful way to create that dissatisfaction today, that positive experience tomorrow, the clarity of it. Because a lot of people are like, Oh, I don't know how to get my kids to or employee or team member or partner. I don't know what future they want. We don't really need to define exactly the future. We have to define uh we have to have them connect to what they want to feel and what they don't want to feel.

SPEAKER_00 17:22

Well, a good example of that too would be relationship like a marriage or a partnership in life. So, like what what kind of example could you give there? Because you have plenty of clients that you talk to about relationships. So, and then more, but like in that sense, like uh so that's something you've actually helped me with uh tremendously is um because if I've come from a relationship of years of performing and now stepping into my new life, um not performing, I had to be very clear, and you helped me become very clear on the other side.

SPEAKER_01 17:53

Well, how would you define what what emotional states do you want to produce in a romantic relationship? Not with a specific person, but in in one. How would you define that?

SPEAKER_00 18:06

So if I was saying emotional, I would just say um I just think peace. Like I literally think peace. Honestly, I uh it's almost like today, if if I had to answer that question, I was like, I just want to be still and be very peaceful.

SPEAKER_02 18:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:22

That's it. The end. And smile a lot. Happy, fulfilled, joy, freedom. That's it. That's all I want. I mean, I'm not asking a lot.

SPEAKER_02 18:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:34

Well, and is that within you with or without a person?

SPEAKER_00 18:38

Either.

SPEAKER_01 18:38

Yeah, that's the interesting part. The coolest part. Because now you don't have to perform for it. You don't have to earn peace from another person because you can generate it yourself.

SPEAKER_00 18:48

You asked me that question eight months ago. I would have answered that totally differently.

SPEAKER_01 18:51

Of course, today it's them. It's up to them to help.

SPEAKER_00 18:53

It's up to them to help. But even a relationship, like if if there is a partnership, like the two of you could also come up with this together.

SPEAKER_01 19:00

And if you don't clarity, because this is the key part with ambition. Say you have two partners, and one partner wants to produce peace, and the other partner wants to produce uh a feeling of safety based on knowing that this other person is never gonna hurt them. Okay, so we've got one that wants to experience peace. I just want, and from what I'm hearing you say, is not peace and that we aren't fighting, but peace and I get to be just be still and experience presence. Right? So you have one person that wants that, and the other person wants to feel safe to make sure that because this person will never hurt me. What's interesting about that is uh if their current situation alone is dissatisfying dissatisfactory, one person wants the future of safety through control is really what I'm saying. And the other one wants to just have independent peace that is experienced as a as a couple.

SPEAKER_02 20:01

Right.

SPEAKER_01 20:02

Uh are those pointing in the same direction?

SPEAKER_02 20:04

No.

SPEAKER_01 20:04

No, they're pointing in two different directions. So there is ambition on both sides, but the ambition is not going the same direction. That's why that second piece of the formula, the clarity of the future that I want to experience, when we're talking now talking in community as a couple, as a parent and a child, as a as a boss and uh someone working for me or as team members, uh, when we're talking about that, now I have to be careful that I'm creating ambition in the same direction. Right? Like it's funny how these things on the surface, when people heard ambition, I many people like I understand what ambition is. Like, think of how deep we've gotten already.

SPEAKER_02 20:45

Right.

SPEAKER_01 20:46

And then we just unveiled a whole nother layer of saying, oh, not only do I have to worry about making sure people are clear of their their current situation, I have to get them connected to some future. If we're now coordinating in a partnership, uh a relationship, in a family, in a business, I have to be careful as to what future they want because different futures provide the purpose and the direction and can create different directions in it. So it is important, like you said, not only to have clarity in a romantic relationship, what future we want to create, but then have it be a nest. Like they don't have to look exactly the same, but they have to be similar.

SPEAKER_00 21:29

Right. No, that was really good. And so, okay, we have to be dissatisfied, we have to be clear on the desired future, and then this is my favorite part.

SPEAKER_01 21:38

That's another part. Yeah, the last part because I'm sure uh when I describe this, a lot of people are gonna connect, like they're gonna have name, like, oh, that's Bob, that's Barb, like we know these people. Uh all they do is complain about today and all they do is talk about the future they're going to have, right? But they take no No action towards it.

SPEAKER_00 22:01

My favorite people.

SPEAKER_01 22:02

Oh. Yeah. I cannot stand this. I think you're being sarcastic, but it's something to do. It's something to perform for.

SPEAKER_00 22:12

Oh my gosh, Larry. Okay. Thank you for calling me out.

SPEAKER_01 22:18

Oh my gosh. Yeah. Complainers, complainers.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 22:23

But they're missing one of the most important pieces. So I don't like today. I'm clear on the tomorrow I want. I don't do anything. Why don't I do anything? Because I don't have a perception that I have the power to turn today into tomorrow. Right. And so within that stuff, two key words, perception and power. Right? So power, the fundamental distinction that I use for power, and we'll probably have a whole episode on this, is the ability to influence change. And so you can say if ambition is the the desire for change, you can't, you ambition will always be unfulfilled without power. Power is the ability to influence it. So if I have desire with no ambition, I live in frustration. And that's where those people live, right? Today sucks, tomorrow's what I want, but I can't do anything about it because I don't have the power to influence the change that I need to create today into tomorrow. And then the the key word though is uh power is the ability to influence change, but I didn't say the third ingredient was power, it is perception of power. That's what's crazy about this is if I just perceive that I have the power, I can have ambition and I start to move. Right? If I'm dissatisfied with today, I'm clear about the tomorrow I want, and I just think I can turn today into tomorrow, I start moving. And as soon as I start moving, my world starts to change and it's gonna move in the direction that I want. It might not go as fast as I want if I don't have the actual power. But once I understand that, or once I have that perception of it, I start moving. And so those three ingredients dissatisfaction with today, clarity of the tomorrow I want, and perception of power that I can turn today into tomorrow, without any one of those three, you can't have ambition. It's it's absolutely impossible.

SPEAKER_00 24:20

You have to have the whole formula. So, in what example would you not have the perceived power going to relationships?

SPEAKER_01 24:30

Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:30

Let's let's do a couple of examples.

SPEAKER_01 24:32

Every relationship I'm in, I get they cheat on me.

SPEAKER_00 24:35

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

Right? They they always cheat on me, they always leave. Uh I don't like someone being unfaithful. I want a future where I can feel like even we're saying feel safe that I'm not gonna be betrayed, if you will, but I can't do anything about it. It's all on them. They're either gonna cheat or they're not gonna cheat. Like I'm faithful all the time. And so I can sit there and have no ambition to have a good relationship because I know I can't, every person that shows up is gonna cheat on me, and there's nothing I can do about it. Like that would be a good example of I don't want to be cheated on. I don't like the world where I'm I'm abandoned, I'm cheated on, but I can't do anything about it. Now, is that true or not true?

SPEAKER_00 25:24

Um, not true. That was like definitely not true. And then I'm looking in his eyes like, I got it right, right, coach?

SPEAKER_01 25:34

Yeah, I mean, all right, so even in that specific situation, right, right? Like I I can live in the complete perception that I have the power to influence if they cheat on me or not. But even in the fact, like we'll get into the the attachment pieces and stuff like that before, but if I can't, if I just live in a world where I can't be hurt by them if they cheat on me or not, all of a sudden, yeah, I can have ambition for a good relationship.

SPEAKER_00 25:59

For the good relationship.

SPEAKER_01 26:00

And so that piece of uh perception of power to change, and that's where if we go back to the kid, right? The kid stuck in playing video games, okay, all of a sudden I make it so they're paying twice market rent. They have to pay for food, they have to do all the chores, life sucks now at home. Uh, they've connected to well, I would like it to where I'm independent, have my own apartment, I can uh have my friends over when I want. Okay, that's good. Uh perception of power, right? How would we build that perception of power? Uh that always comes down to the formula of learn, practice, experience. So it's okay, what do you gotta learn? What do you gotta practice? What do we gotta gain experience in? And in that you create the perception of power to create change. And as a parent, I can do that. Now, if you're dealing with a 28-year-old, that gets harder because we should have done not should have, quote unquote, done that a long time ago.

SPEAKER_02 26:55

Right.

SPEAKER_01 26:56

Right? And so part of what I work on with my boys is that like the good life that they experience is based on my ambition, not theirs.

SPEAKER_02 27:09

Not theirs.

SPEAKER_01 27:10

And so if they want to have this same type of good life, well, they're gonna need ambition. But I have no connection to if they have ambition or not. They may choose not to. But if they choose to have no ambition, they're not gonna experience the good things. Right. I'm not providing them for.

SPEAKER_00 27:30

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 27:31

Which will then either create ambition or not. And my job now, I believe, especially the ages that they're in, is to constantly try to create that uh clear future they want, right? Give them opportunities to find it. I can't create it for them, I create, I create the opportunities for them to find it. And then how do I give them as much power as possible? How much how do I build as much power to create a change?

SPEAKER_00 27:53

I give them as much power as possible for them to create the ability to change.

SPEAKER_01 27:58

How do I give them tools like understanding ambition?

SPEAKER_00 28:03

Right.

SPEAKER_01 28:03

Or like a big one we'll talk about at some point is responsibility. No, I just I appreciate that responsible.

SPEAKER_00 28:09

I appreciate that you said that because a lot of people would think, well, you know, they're set in their ways, they're a 21-year-old child, they're just behaving this way, you know, and now you're feeling as a parent. Oh, I've kind of um conditioned them to be that way. So now you're taking on the responsibility, but we have the opportunity here as a parent to pass on some responsibility, give them some weight, give them a little bit more weight to carry and show that they can do it. And then that builds their confidence and support them through that.

SPEAKER_01 28:34

And so as long as they are exhibiting ambition. If they're not exhibiting ambition, then they will never choose to hold a responsibility.

SPEAKER_00 28:44

Right.

SPEAKER_01 28:44

And if they don't choose to hold a responsibility, they won't self-regulate to do it, and they won't produce success. And then there's going back to the ambition.

SPEAKER_00 28:54

Yeah, and in this scenario itself with the child at home, it would be um as the parent, I am going to choose to create a little bit of um dissatisfaction of their present state. So there so what you're saying is there's hope for me, Larry.

SPEAKER_01 29:11

We're doing pretty damn good. I think we're gonna be able to do that. We are doing great. No, we're doing fantastic.

SPEAKER_00 29:15

Um I would like before we end, I would love to give an example, because there's gonna some be some people here that'll they'll say, Oh, well, I don't have the power. And it's not the power, it's the perception of power. So are there any any examples at all? Because what I'm when I'm looking at this and I'm hearing it, I'm like, okay, well then uh this is available to everybody in all circumstances, or is there some circumstances that they literally do not have the the the perceived power?

SPEAKER_01 29:42

Would there be any circumstances for that to be true? Let me think of a good example. Uh for me, uh my current situation in life, right? Uh what, 49, about to be 50, 17 surgeries put back together, uh 6'3, 210 pounds. Um, if I had ambition to be a world-class gymnast, that's never gonna happen.

SPEAKER_02 30:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 30:07

I could create that ambition, right? Where I'm dissatisfied with not being a world-class gymnast. I have a clarity that I'm gonna get the golden wherever it's gonna be in four years, and I could start building the perception of power that I could do that by starting gymnastics lessons, going every day. Like, and guess what will happen is I'll move towards that. Will I ever get there? No, I'm too big, I'm too old, I'm too broken. It's not gonna happen, right? Um that will result in unfulfilled ambition. But what's crazy about that is because I have the three parts dissatisfaction, clarity of the future, perception of power, and actual power, I'm creating more power to do it, my life will still move in that direction. That's the cool thing about ambition. Ambition with the three parts will change your world towards that. Will I get there? It depends. Can I produce enough power to meet my ambition? And the answer is no, because I'm too big, I'm too old, I'm too broken. Right? So what's nuts about that is more ambition than power, I won't meet it, but guess what? I'm still moving in that direction, right? Less ambition, more power. That's like where you have the 28-year-old not doing anything in the thing. Like they actually have the power to be independent, but their ambition doesn't match it. And what's crazy is ambition with not enough power, I get frustrated. I'm not the Olympic champion. More power than ambition, you get frustrated because they're not where they should be.

SPEAKER_00 31:44

Right.

SPEAKER_01 31:44

Right? So it's frustration, but which direction, external and internal.

SPEAKER_00 31:48

So it sounds like there's more opportunities that we do have the perceived.

SPEAKER_01 31:52

We have opportunity to create, I believe that you, every person has opportunity to create change in any aspect of their life at any point in time. Are we gonna get to where you want to go? It depends on what your ambition is and what your desired end state is. Um, but I don't think there is anything in our lives that we can't create ambition for. And as soon as we create ambition, we start creating movement, just like my gymnastic example.

SPEAKER_00 32:19

And I agree with that.

SPEAKER_01 32:20

And it's the same. So we talk about it for ourselves, how do we do it for ourselves? Live in my dissatisfaction, accept it, look at my trajectory to clarify the future I want to create, specifically, what do I want to feel, what don't I want to feel, and then build power. How do I build power? Learn practice experience, right? How do I do this for someone else? Same thing. How do I create experience of dissatisfaction? How do I get them to them to connect to the future they want? And then what perception of power do I have to help them into? And how do I help them into it is learn practice experience to build confidence?

SPEAKER_00 33:00

Build the power. I like that.

SPEAKER_01 33:02

Ambition. Ambition. Yeah. So in the end, we hit the definition of it, right? The distinction, ambition is desire for change, uh, coupled with movement, right? The parts to it, right? It isn't good or bad. Uh, it can come from the bat uh an ineffective place like external validation or performing for love. Uh we need low ambition, high ambition people on a team. Uh, there's really no judgment in it. I look at it as a tool, not uh a trait or a way to go. Uh and then how do we build it? We build it through dissatisfaction with our present situation, clarity of the future we want to create, and having a perception of power to do it, power being the ability to influence change. Uh we the best state is when my power and my ambition, if I was to say optimal state is my ambition is just above my power. Right? When it's just above my power, I'm not quite able to produce the exact change. Because as soon as my power meets my ambition, I no longer have ambition because I've created it. I've created the situation. So I like to keep my ambition just slightly above my power. Uh if my ambition is way above my power, I'll eventually create frustration. If my power is way above my ambition, oftentimes I create frustration around me. And so uh now with those tools, we can, as we both agree, uh you all can create change in any aspect of your life or the life of another, depending on leveraging these formulas.

SPEAKER_00 34:41

I'm excited.

SPEAKER_01 34:42

So uh that is ambition uh in uh great depth. And as you heard in this, we brought up a bunch of other topics, right? We talked about uh external validation, performing for love, conditional love, responsibility, success, self-regulation. And a lot of these topics are either topics that we've already covered, and if we have uh in the notes, we'll kind of connect you back to hey, go listen to the self-regulation or the success podcast. And if not, there'll be topics we'll be covering in the future. So join us again. We'll look forward to diving into our next topic. Thanks for listening to Capital Tea Truth. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. As you know, the work doesn't stop when the episode ends. For more, visit the website at capitalteetruth.org to submit a question to be answered live on a future podcast. We also invite listeners onto the podcast to work directly with me, where we dive into your personal strike of survival and we solve them live. Until next time, Living Capital Teach.