When Enough Is Enough

We ask the hard question When is enough enough and draw a line under excuses that keep us stuck. I share how sobriety, training, and fatherhood push me to stop half showing up and start living with discipline that holds up in the ring and at home. 
• procrastination turning into an easy reality 
• deciding enough is enough with drinking and drugs 
• why training requires a 24-hour lifestyle 
• sleep and food choices driving real fitness results 
• kids copying what they see at home 
• rebuilding ourselves through counseling, faith, and study 
• accepting there are levels and choosing to level up 
• distractions that let others pass us 
• work ethic as the difference-maker 
• the ring as the harsh truth teller 
• cleaning out shame triggers to move forward 
• the middle of the journey as the grind 

Transcript

When Enough Is Enough

SPEAKER_00 0:18

What's going on, everybody? My name is Dustin Charles Little, and you are listening to another episode of the Native Viking podcast, Discipline Over Motivation. What is it gonna take? When is enough enough? I mean, that's uh that was a great question for me in my life, and even it continues to this day. When is enough enough? So um, you know, sometimes we we have this thing where we procrastinate on what you know you're supposed to be doing, and the excuse becomes the reality and an easy way out. So, when is enough enough? When have you had enough of making excuses? When have you had enough of procrastinating and hiding from the things that you need to do, or the tasks in life that you need to accomplish, or the weight that you need to lose, or the business that you need to build, or the fight that you need to prep for, or the mindset that you need to strengthen? When is enough enough? When and how much is it going to take for you to start moving forward? How bad do you need to fall in order for you to change? You know, I wish that I didn't have to fall in order to figure it out. But that's just how I learn. And there's ways that you learn that you need to figure out how to move forward.

Rock Bottom And Choosing Sobriety

SPEAKER_00 1:51

I quit drinking and quit uh partying around because an accident happened. And because that accident happened, I had to swear to myself that I would never touch alcohol and drugs again. And uh I haven't. I'm over five years of sobriety now. Just last weekend I got to celebrate that. And that is a huge milestone. I remember just thinking about one year, let alone five years. And so I had enough of living that life. And I could have, you know, continued. I could have, you know, gotten sober for a little while and cleaned myself up and built trust again, and then said, hey, you know, I'm I'm just gonna have a drink. I'm just gonna, you know, kind of chill on this. But I decided not to because enough was enough. Enough of repeating the same mistakes, enough of lying, enough of hiding drinks, enough of making a fool of myself. I just had enough. And so when is enough enough for you? When are you gonna start taking your life serious? When are you gonna start growing up? When are you gonna start showing up for yourself?

Training Takes A Full Lifestyle

SPEAKER_00 3:10

You know, I see a lot of um I see a lot of people inside my gym. And inside this gym, um everybody shows up differently. They all show up differently. And what I mean is some show up just to kind of get some of their anger or frustrations out, some show up because they have dreams to be a fighter, some some show up to lose weight, but not everybody's showing up a hundred percent. Because just to do something like fitness or like showing up for Muay Thai isn't enough, it's not enough because there's more, there's more to it, it's a lifestyle, it's not just you show up for an hour and expect results. That's not how this works. You have to show up for yourself on a daily basis for 24 hours, even taking your sleep seriously. So a lot of people will show up and they'll train and they'll do their thing, but then they're gonna go home and they're gonna just eat like crap. And they're gonna wonder why, why am I still weighing so much? Why have I not built any muscle? Why have I not built my cardio? What is going on here? Well, the truth and the fact of the matter is you're only showing up for an hour out of the day. So when will you have enough of just partially showing up? When will you show up fully? When will you bring yourself to the table and say, I've had enough, it's time to draw a plan, it's time to make a blueprint, it's time to be successful, it's time to build a business, it's time to lock in and lose the weight, it's time to become a fighter and have my first fight or my second fight, it's time to overcome my mindset, it's time to stop drinking, it's time to stop partying, it's time to stop smoking weed. When have you had enough? It's time to stop eating junk food, candy, and cake, all the guilty pleasures that you hide in your drawer beside your bed. It's time to stop. And so when will you have enough? What is going to break you? What is gonna m force you to say, I'm done, it's over, I need to better my life. And if

Your Kids Are Watching

SPEAKER_00 5:58

you have kids, more so. They're watching. They're watching every little thing that you do. You drink, they're watching you drink. You party and get a little out of hand, they're watching you. They're accepting that as their reality, and that that is okay. And I'm so glad that I caught myself when I did, and I changed my behaviors. Cause now my kids see me as a champion. Every night that I come home, my son greets me. Hey champion. That's what he says. That's what my son says to me when I come home. Hey champion, hey dad. And I'm like, man, I would way rather that than him be like, oh man, dad's coming home to drink again. Oh man, dad's coming home. He's gonna have some beers, he's gonna be, he's gonna act weird again. I would way rather that. And so I had had enough and I made the changes necessary. I showed up for myself. I went to counseling. I went to church. I read my Bible, I read self-help books, I did a lot. On a daily basis, I watched Eric Thomas, and I don't know if you know who he is, but he's a motivational speaker. He's one of my favorites. On a daily basis, I watched this. I showed up for myself. I watched on YouTube motivational speeches. I watched how to fix myself, what things that I needed to work on, what was going on inside of my heart that was feeding my mind, which was then causing me to act inappropriately, to get frustrated, to get angry. When have you had enough? When you look in the mirror and you see, you know, you see a half developed person. When you look in the mirror, you see half-developed person, you say, I could be so much more. And I'm I'm I'm kind of in a in a pivotal moment in my life right now where I'm kind of doing that to myself. I'm saying, hey Dustin, like, you know, you're you're capable of more. You're capable of so much more. Now I understand that I got private training and classes and all this other stuff, and my own training and my own camps and all this stuff. And it seems as if that I'm I'm so busy, how could I take on more? It's possible. It's more than possible because I have to take on more. In order for me to go to another level, there's levels to all of this. There's levels to Muay Thai, there's levels to speaking, there's levels to weight loss, there's levels to, you know, weight gain for muscle. There's levels to everything, there's levels to building a business to a small business, to a big business, there's levels to online coaching, there's levels to everything. And so I need to develop myself in such a way that I go to another level. So one's enough enough for me. I've I've hit that point. It was really nice over the weekend to be able to go and and and rent a truck and not have to ask my wife for a credit card just so I could rent a truck to do some spring cleaning and to clean and to do dump runs and all this kind of stuff. I did it myself. Why? Because I earned my credit card. And I'm proud of myself. I'm proud of myself to be for being able to get there and to be to be able to continue to climb. And that's what I want to do. And that's what I want for you as men and for the women too. But I want you to stand up and be like, man, like when's enough enough? I think it's now. I think that I'm I'm becoming weak. I think that I need to be doing something different. I think that I need to be showing up. I think I need to set the alarm. I think I need to go to the gym. I think I need to eat healthier. I think I need to start reading. I think I need to build a business. I think I need my first fight. Like, you need to do more, not less. There are so many distractions in this world right now that it's easy for you to fall behind. It's easy for you to just say, ah, I'm going out for the for the weekend with my friends. Ah, I'm going camping with my friends. And that's okay. Listen, it's okay if you want to go camping. That's okay if you want to go out on a weekend, you want to go party, you want to do all this stuff. But just understand that there are people like myself who are going to pass you. And you're gonna wonder, and you're gonna come into the gym and you're gonna say, why? Why am I not why am I not fast enough? Why do I keep getting punched in the face? Why do I keep getting leg kicked? Why am I not strong enough? Why am I not on point? Because you're not showing up when I am. And that's a message to everyone. Because when you're not showing up, somebody else is. So when is enough? When is it enough? When have you had enough of drinking yourself to a hangover the next morning and then feeling like a piece of crap and then having to recover for three or four days while somebody else is on the grind? While somebody else is training to beat you, while somebody else is training to build a business that is going to dominate yours. When's enough enough? It should be right now. It should be I've I've had enough.

Work Ethic And The Standards

SPEAKER_00 11:42

An unprecedented work ethic is what it requires. One thing that I know that I'm known for is my work ethic. I'm known for that. Man, this guy's tying a tire to his waist and going for a five-kilometer run. This guy has just brought a new uh tire to the gym, and he's doing all these crazy sledgehammer slams, and he's doing battle ropes and his strength and conditioning, and he's going for runs, and he's doing round after round on the bag, and and he's just relentless. That's what I'm known for. And that's what I want to teach. And that's what I'm currently teaching, what it requires to become the best. I have some young students in my gym that I have to continue to teach and show and say, hey man, you're messing up right now. Hey, man, you need to figure this out. Because I promise you, right now, there are a bunch of people that are coming for you. You want to fight, you're you're you're not showing it right now, you gotta show up. You want to become a champion, you're not showing it right now, you better start showing up. Because it's not gonna happen for you, it's not gonna be handed out for you or to you. And so there's one thing that I've mentioned before, and I've mentioned to a lot of students and a lot of people, there's one thing that will never ever lie to you, and that is the arena. That is the ring. The moitai ring, the boxing ring, the kickboxing ring, the MMA ring, the jujitsu mats. They don't lie. They do not lie. As a matter of fact, they tell the harshest truth. You have either put in the work, not only physically but mentally as well. You have either put in the work or you haven't done enough. You have either done your sprints, you've done your road work, you've done your strength and conditioning, you done, you've done your skills, your theory, you've done your pad work, you've done your bag work, you've either done all of that stuff on a consistent and daily basis, or you haven't. And it will show. And you will enter that ring, and that ring will tell you exactly where you stand. So when have you had enough? When have you had enough of being distracted? When have you had enough of procrastinating? When have you had enough of running away from your fears, of running away from your past, of running away from the things that require your attention? When have you had enough? You should have enough right now. You should be looking in the mirror right now and saying, I've had enough. I need to change. And it starts today.

Clear The Closet And Start Today

SPEAKER_00 14:49

And the skeleton that is in your closet needs to be cleaned out. The guilty pleasures that nobody knows about needs to be cleaned out. Because those are the things that are your major distractions. Those are the things that make you feel guilt and shame. And when you feel guilt and shame, you're stuck and you cannot move forward. So that skeleton that's in your closet, you need to clean them out. And you need to prepare for a new journey. And when you begin that journey, understand that the beginning is exciting. But the middle's not. The middle is the grind, the middle is the silence, the middle is the hard work. But the end result is always with your hand raised. Thank

Final Challenge And Goodbye

SPEAKER_00 15:53

you so much for listening to the podcast today, everybody. I hope this message finds you well and that you've had enough of being stuck, and you make the decision to press towards. We'll talk to you soon.