Celebrating All Wins

As Michael B. Jordan and Ryan Coogler make history at the 2026 Oscars with their film Sinners, the crew dives into a deep conversation about whether the Black community is finally embracing the arts as a viable path to greatness. The celebration of high-level creativity continues with the news of JAY-Z’s massive return to the stage at Yankee Stadium and the Roots Picnic—prompting the question: Is the game truly better when the legends come back to claim their crowns?

The energy shifts from the red carpet to the field. The sports talk gets personal with Le’Veon Bell’s sharp critique of Latto’s pregnancy rollout, sparking a heated debate on public image and family values.

In the viral "Yeo That’s Crazy" segment, the team reacts to Jill Scott’s new "no-phones" tour policy. Can an audience really survive a concert without a camera, or is the experience ruined without the digital memory? This leads into a vulnerable look at Ari Lennox’s recent admission about regretting her history with "toxic" men and her two-week FaceTime whirlwind with a "nice guy."

Finally, the Relationship Segment hits the "Gender Roles of 2026." In a world where the financial gap is closing and "50/50" is a dirty word to some, the crew asks: What does a "real man" or "real woman" even mean now? The episode closes with a direct challenge to the men: Would you really date a woman who makes more than you, or is the ego too loud?

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Host 

Brit @ Simplybrittbratt

Delilah @Highquality_D

Jaylin @ Jaysvisons__

Jordan @ Jomadswami 

Music by @ Ayolinq

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hey, this is Brittany. Hey, this is Delilah. This is Boys Will Be Boys and Her podcast. This week's episode is Celebrating Our Wednesday. Please be sure to like and subscribe and comment.

SPEAKER_04 0:13

Hey, what's up, y'all? Welcome back to a new episode of Boys We Boys and Her. We finally got the two women on a pod. Brittany, how you feeling?

SPEAKER_05 0:21

Hey, I'm happy.

SPEAKER_01 0:27

Girls can smile. Girls, like.

SPEAKER_02 0:32

I'm feeling great. J to the old man Swami in the building. Um, yeah. We feeling good. It's one week. It's one history month. Yeah, my week my week was pretty good, you know? Nice chill vibes. Got to enjoy a couple drinks. Shout out to the people that's out here making sure your boy is fat. Shout out to the restaurant too, or they don't get that much color. Oh no, they don't get that. They got the thank you for making sure it's fat.

SPEAKER_01 1:11

Um, the week was fine, same thing. School, work, working out.

SPEAKER_04 1:15

American dream over here.

SPEAKER_01 1:18

Um, this was one of those weeks.

SPEAKER_05 1:20

I can't remember what I did, y'all. I don't remember. Right. Like that. Yeah. It was like that one. And that's okay. You know, that's okay.

SPEAKER_04 1:29

Well, someone did have a go. I have a oh thank you. I actually forgot about myself. Um, actually, it was alright. Like, I don't I've I didn't do nothing too crazy. Like, I was chilling. Like my daughter had a competition today, so that was nice. She won. Um's big W's, I was all right, it was alright, dude. All right. But someone did have a good week this weekend was Michael B. Jordan. Shout out to the boys, man. Shout out to the boys. We're gonna start the show off with the City Set WhatsApp. Obviously, we started Michael B. Jordan, he took home the Oscar for Senator Sprint. Did you see Cynthia Spring? I did.

SPEAKER_05 2:06

I was I actually recently just watched it again. For the first time? No, no, no. Watched it again because like it was really good. Like I was into it, so I definitely went to IMAX to see that the first time it came out.

SPEAKER_04 2:17

But you see the iMac version too or not? Oh, you lobby yourself. You gotta see it in the iMac. Oh yeah, iMac is a different experience.

SPEAKER_02 2:25

If it hopefully we release it. Of course I seen Senator. First off, I like to say, you know, we rapping big jersey out here. Michael B. Jordan from Jersey. Shout out to the uh, you know, we've been we've been watching We've been watching the boy Michael B. Jordan for a while. From roles like Vince, from Horball. The boy, you know, he's been working. My boy been working.

SPEAKER_04 2:55

I was introduced to him from uh Father Night. I don't know if you ever watched that show on NBC because that was him and that's why I said that's why I said Vince.

SPEAKER_02 3:02

Yeah, that's what they said. That was a crazy cast, and now it's kind of crazy. Yes, sir, and the boy, the boy has been working, you know. We feel like the boy has been deserving of some big time awards before this last recent Oscars. But you know, we find we we finally got one, so you know, it's it's big representation out here, you know? Proud of the candy. What about you, Delala? Did you see your simple? I love Michael B. Jordan. Let's start with Michael.

SPEAKER_00 3:25

Okay, Michael.

SPEAKER_01 3:31

I love it.

SPEAKER_02 3:34

The girl is definitely been having something like anything.

SPEAKER_01 3:41

Um, but I definitely want to go watch that.

SPEAKER_04 3:43

I think everybody wants to go watch that when it came to the iMac still, though.

SPEAKER_01 3:46

No.

SPEAKER_04 3:47

Oh, yeah. I didn't.

SPEAKER_05 3:49

I actually don't remember. Like, iPad iPad. I don't know automatically.

SPEAKER_04 3:53

I've never been to iPads. I don't know. You and Cory, I'll be doing every things on the experiences. Yeah, legit experiences. I still wait on my mom. Cleasy, I ain't gonna be.

SPEAKER_05 4:05

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_04 4:07

So what I wanted to ask you guys was like, because shout out to Michael B joining, of course, Ryan Cooler, everybody with that casting cooler, did a phenomenal job, Oscar uh Del Lindo also. But my question to you that I'll ask you, Brittany, is do you think now it's become more acceptable for the black community to get into the arts?

SPEAKER_05 4:23

Um I think we just regard up. Like, like we fight for it. Like it just has to be done as like we hustle for it. Like, um yeah, like we just gotta hustle for it. Like, I feel like we still got challenges that we go through and stuff like that, but um, I like that it's celebrated more.

SPEAKER_04 4:43

Like, well, you're you're you're more so well Jordan is too, but you're you guys are both Caribbean. You think now, like I know like 15, 20 years ago, you could tell your mom, I want to be the actor, she'll be like, Yeah, that's it.

SPEAKER_00 4:55

Love Cloud is that.

SPEAKER_04 4:56

Yeah, like so. But I do think now, I think people are now becoming more and more slowly like accepting of it. Yeah, like so.

SPEAKER_05 5:03

I think it's because like to be honest, you really can't tell someone what to do. Like, I know it'd be parents that'd be like, no, you're gonna go to nursing school or you're gonna do this, or a lot of times people want to make their parents proud, right? But if it's in you and you got that talent, and after your first like debut, it's like, oh no, this is what it, you know, it's meant to be for you.

SPEAKER_01 5:23

Like also, I think like parents always have like an expectation too of how they want you to just do certain things, and then you just be like, oh, I'm supposed to do like the nine to five. Yeah, like you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 5:35

Like that's the same plan, or they have their lifestyle of they want their life to your life to be better than theirs, and it's like, what does that look like though? Like, you know, you don't know what that looked like.

SPEAKER_04 5:46

But and so all I can say is from that aspect is you know, I'm obviously black and his bad, but when I went to school, my parents are very acceptable because they know how much I love pursuing it. And I think Michael B. Jordan is kind of a proof of that because he's now getting his flowers and he's been in the game two decades already. Like, you know what I'm saying? So we just have to invest in the steps. Like, what about you, Jordan? You think it's more acceptable now within the community? Of course.

SPEAKER_02 6:11

I feel like I feel like it's been accepted with the likes of like Denzel or Denzel. But like, you know, yeah, not for the name. He said that's his name, alright? So his mama call him club. No, but yeah, we we've we've had representation like that with like the likes of like Will Smith, Jamie Foxx, uh Martin Lawrence, you know, like Trailblazers when it comes to that stuff. Um so we've had representation for a while, but it's good to see that now people are reaping the benefits from the trailblazers that that's at that stage, you know. We're winning awards now, and not just the Oscars, but also in like the Grammy stages and stuff like that. Like people are winning awards. So it's good to see you know I'm proud. You know, it's it's a good thing when you, you know, a black American, a Caribbean American, Latino American, whatever. Like it's good to see that everybody's starting to get their flowers now. So I could love it.

SPEAKER_01 7:15

Yeah, for sure. I think it's a hundred percent more acceptable now. And I think the fact that it's becoming more acceptable now and the way that the society is going, like everything that's going on right now in America. Like I think that's why it's even more celebrated. Like we're just so much prouder to see that.

SPEAKER_04 7:31

And I think most artists now, and I think artists are keeping it like boredom or every RV spectrum, you know, not just because before we were going, they was all wanted to be a rapper, and that's what it was when I was, you know, the quick fast and hurry. But I think now I think there's so many more talented artists, whether it's acting, whether it's music, whether it's dancing, there's so many forms of contemporary arts that people are, black minorities are involved in. Like I follow so many painters that have black narratives, like so fucking dope, you know what I'm saying? So I think now it is more accepted, and it's great because I think now, before like four or five years ago, we would say, Oh, Grammys don't matter, Oscars don't matter. But when Michael B. Jordan won, I think it pulled up you all deep down, all felt like it matters. And then you saw the love Ham and Warren Cooker got when he won. And also the uh cinematographer, I'm thinking of her name, but she's also a female, the first female won the best cinematography. But um, you you saw the room, just everybody was happy for it. You don't see that much in Hollow at all, you know what I'm saying? This is somebody that is respectable. Aside from uh his ex who was uh I don't want to throw shade to the girl, but Lori. Yeah, Laura, you know what I'm saying? But it was like so much love, and then that's I think that's just so dope to see if someone actually went in the whole room giving you flowers.

SPEAKER_05 8:37

Yeah, like they started like posting videos on TikTok and stuff of like what they do behind the scenes on my car when they start seeing each other on the car, that's kind of like happening around my history, too.

SPEAKER_02 8:50

Yeah, so like that's even more like that, and like I wanna say that it's also great to see that not only you celebrating like the black Latino uh say ascension when it comes to this art form, but the fact that they all stay together. Like the same cinematography, this film is used for like all that film. Him and Michael B. Jordan, they kind of got like a duo tag team where we're gonna come out with these original films, we're gonna work together, we're gonna get it done. And like it's good to see that you know you can stick together and you know achieve things when it comes to you know, just like teamwork and rock.

SPEAKER_04 9:38

That's a fact. And now I'm gonna switch topics a little bit because you mentioned trailblaces, so speaking of trailblaces, we got trailblaze returning back to the stage of the Bronx. This Jay-Z concert is happening, y'all. Whoa, whoa, whoa.

SPEAKER_01 9:49

Yeah, hold on, I was like, you'd be like, Wait, really?

SPEAKER_05 10:03

No, it's no, it's really I'm not a Jay-Z fan.

SPEAKER_02 10:08

I mean, and that's okay, you know. It's actually no.

SPEAKER_05 10:15

You don't gotta like everybody from Jay-Z is just what you said.

SPEAKER_02 10:23

Yeah, he's Beyonce's husband. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_04 10:27

If I was to say that, I'm gonna I'm gonna walk away from my kids.

SPEAKER_05 10:30

No, no, no. He has his own separate title. I know who Jay Z is.

SPEAKER_02 10:35

So you're not excited for the show?

SPEAKER_05 10:37

No.

SPEAKER_02 10:38

That is I think the show's gonna be amazing. I ain't gonna lie. Now the ticket prices is also. Oh no, no, no, that's a hundred terrace. Oh, that's like mostly that's it. Oh, so minimum 700. Yeah, I think also like the mid-level type.

SPEAKER_05 10:53

That won't make that me crazy when y'all find out how much I paid for Usher, so I ain't gonna worry. How much you pay for Usher? Okay.

SPEAKER_04 11:00

I'm not paying for Drake, but we saw Usher at Dreamville. Usher probably had the second best performance of the weekend. I think I'm gonna say second.

SPEAKER_02 11:11

He probably was third or fourth. No, third or fourth. So wait, so who was top two? Yeah. Uh because Drake and J. Cole had Drake and Drake and J. Cole had. But they were together, they was on stage together. But we're not counting that as one performance here. Oh, he's separated.

SPEAKER_01 11:23

Alright, so who's third? Because you're saying that's not Usher.

SPEAKER_02 11:26

He might be third or fourth, because I ain't gonna lie. We we got up there and damn, who was that from Chicago? Derberly was con dead. Dirk was the Dirk was insane. I wouldn't have to get it. Dirk was like insane. Yeah, I would have been like, yeah, okay, okay. I fuck with Dirk Happy, so I was really a avid concert guy, so you know, 900, that that's pretty reasonable.

SPEAKER_04 11:52

I mean, for Usher and Jay Z, like I put the like in this. Well, Usher's an entertainer. Like, Usher, you know, he's gonna take the shirt off, he's gonna do the whole nah. That's gonna, you know, he can't J Z is not obviously he's not doing that, he's so my and so my thing with the I'm one, I'm excited for the show. Am I gonna go? I don't know. But the so I think there's also a difference between reasonable doubt and blueprint. Blueprint is more of I think something you can perform live as opposed to reasonable about reasonable doubt. But so I'm just I always get happy, like like we were just mentioning with Michael B. Jordan when people get their flowers. Like this is 30 years later, and Jay-Z can still. I think I was telling them in the chat, the boys' group chat, I think this is a rollout to Jay-Z doing the Super Bowl next year. Yeah. That's that's true. That's what I think. That's all right. That's what I believe this is. I heard this is coming out of a new album. That's what I'm saying. I think all this is in Ty. He's gonna drop the album by the summertime after the summer, and he's gonna do the Super Bowl next February. That's what I think is gonna be.

SPEAKER_05 12:44

One thing I say, him and Bion say they are very smart business people. Oh, that they are the business people. They do their big one, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 12:51

And you you know what's crazy too? I I like, it was about two weeks ago I saw a throwback Jay-Z concert, which is crazy because now that they announced this, I saw a throwback Jay-Z, and when I tell you the energy in there was crazy, energy in there. I feel like the concert is gonna be fine.

SPEAKER_05 13:10

Come on, like that's like I'm not saying that's near your stand.

SPEAKER_04 13:14

Like, yeah, yeah, I'll be hyped for that, but I'm not, I'm not uh not to even sit to stop because he's also doing that, but he's also doing the the the boots picking. Yeah, he is doing the boots picking.

SPEAKER_05 13:25

Yes, I did. That lineup is insane.

SPEAKER_04 13:27

Erika Badu, uh, you got my scientists, Kalani's in there, while you're kind of that's gonna be a boot uh wow. I mean they're gonna be they're gonna be on the they're gonna be on uh the vlog with the crystal rock deodorant, so I don't know if I'm gonna be feeling like that. Yeah, but I And then well the the bad thing with the the picnic is Jay-Z had to do his whole discography, so he could do Otis, uh this whole shit. The the the concert in the stadium is just reasonable with doubt in the blueprint, so it's kind of like I think he's gonna bring out people for sure, for sure. For the no no, for the for the for sure. Um I don't know because there's only so like he's not bringing out Foxy Brown, so Foxy Brown's a reasonable doubt, but you know she got uh her hair issue shit, so I don't know if she's been still doing a concert.

SPEAKER_02 14:24

I I think it's more so gonna be like Miss Leek for sure. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Uh I think they should be on that one. We might see like I would love to see Emma. Like that's like we may see a freeway Vini Seagull pop out.

SPEAKER_04 14:39

Like that, like Swiss Beats on it.

SPEAKER_05 14:41

It's gonna be lit. I'm just I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 14:43

I feel like that's something they should definitely stream. Like Amazon should definitely pick it up. Oh, for sure. Uh if it's already in the works. I I don't even think he has title anymore, does he? Nah, I think he sold that job, right?

SPEAKER_01 14:53

All I know is the unts is gonna have a good time. Yo, I'm gonna have time.

SPEAKER_02 15:01

I'm not an unk yet.

SPEAKER_00 15:03

Yo, I stole something.

unknown 15:05

Okay. Alright.

SPEAKER_04 15:08

Y'all gonna be a rich auntie so I saw something that said like this is like the old men's summer right now. The way it's looking like with the with the concert, that's that's not it.

SPEAKER_02 15:28

That's how you know he's not unclear.

SPEAKER_01 15:31

There's gonna be a few people there with the towel.

SPEAKER_02 15:36

I'm looking forward to to going in like big jersey. So you definitely go? I I'm gonna say it's a definite. I'm gonna be on you're gonna see me see me in there, probably big jersey in there. Shout out to Jersey, man. No, no, no, not New Jersey. Like a big jersey.

SPEAKER_04 16:05

So speaking of concerts, I don't know if y'all saw it. You can switch the yo, that's crazy segment. Brittany almost all for you. So Jill Scott has recently said that when she's doing her upcoming concert, so there's no cell phones allowed. That's crazy. Well, this is that's how I fit the segment. What are your what are your thoughts on that, Brittany?

SPEAKER_05 16:23

I record everything. Like, I gotta have the memories, so I mean, don't get me wrong, right? If you really want to talk about like Jill Scott, her concert's kind of like some porn type stuff. She's a little launchy, she's a little launchy. Like she be. I don't want to go just to see what she be doing, because the hype is crazy. Yeah, the hype is crazy, but um, not having your phone at a concert is crazy. Like, yeah, I need y'all to hear when I post on Instagram how bad I sing I don't move a kid because I had his arm. Like, I need proof of it. I was there, yeah. I was there. I was there.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

Also, my thing is like, if that's what you promote, that's what you promote. Like, if you freaked out, you freaked out.

SPEAKER_04 17:03

Right.

SPEAKER_01 17:04

It's okay.

SPEAKER_04 17:08

I mean, uh, I think that's maybe I'm in a minority, I'm not sure what Jordan's stance. I'm okay with this. Like, I don't see. That's my stance. Like, so aside from Dreamville, so even Dreamville, like, that was one of my best concerts. I don't go back and look at that footage.

unknown 17:20

I do.

SPEAKER_04 17:22

You may so like the way, like, the perfect example I'll say, and I'm not trying to throw shade at her, but like Cardi B's concerts right now, tickets jarring, shout out to Cardi Big Moss. Yeah, but take the sneak. Yeah, but you see the twenty, yeah, this was there. This was it, Thursday. But I feel like I've already seen her concert already on social media.

SPEAKER_05 17:37

Yeah, that makes sense.

SPEAKER_04 17:37

Like, I feel like I've already, I'm not like I've already texted stuff. If bought four seats, I'm like, yo, I already know the set list. Like, know the set list is alright, but now I know the wardrobe changes, I know when she's gonna twerk, I know when she's gonna sit in a chair, I don't know, I know the whole I don't know what's the one.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

But what if you have like Alzheimer's or dementia? I like I don't even remember that, like, you know? It's true. Like you go back in your phone and be like, you know what? It's like I do. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 18:06

I'm not gonna touch around comes to happen or whatever. I mean, please. I was in the late, remember, and again, but when when it comes to this topic, I'm gonna be honest with you.

SPEAKER_02 18:34

Um I when people grab moments and stuff like that, I feel like that's cool when you grab a moment, but when you just sit in there with your phone out recording the whole thing, I don't agree with that. Because to me, I like it to be like a live in the moment type of thing. You gonna grab that memory more with you experiencing it because you get like a full body experience of you enjoying the music. The music goes through your body, you vibing, everything good, and the experience is better to me when you don't have that phone now because now you're distracted, you're only seeing everything through your phone screen. So I'm big on that. Uh-huh. And I'll if I'm with somebody out of the car, you you seen when we was at Dreamville, I'm like, yo, put your phone down, like, yo, experience it.

SPEAKER_04 19:17

Like I remember when they was going hit for hit with Drake, it was like, yo, I got more in the tank. I'm just like, yo, yo, like it's like I I believe like it's a different experience when you just like, you know, like if these concerts are being recorded anywhere, so like I could pull a clip from there. Like, I all I gotta do is post a sound, you know I'm there. Like, you know, I don't have to, like, I'm I'm there, like I'm experiencing it.

SPEAKER_05 19:35

We're not saying we Instagram has to know when there. It's for us to know that we win, like for our experience. So, like, I'm not recording the whole concert, I'm not doing that. But it's certain parts where I'm recording that I'm like, oh yeah, I wanna remember this part, you know, like, or even when they come out on this, you know, on the floor and they walk you through, like I wanna go to the city. Yeah, I mean, it looks like it, like, yeah, it looks like it. Like the Usher part, like he could have gave someone a cherry right next to me, and I'm I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_04 20:04

Let's take it off topic. You think Cory would have been crazy if Usher would have gave you the cherry?

SPEAKER_05 20:08

Corey, I would have been a sequel.

SPEAKER_04 20:10

I'm a screw, I'm just gonna go.

SPEAKER_05 20:12

I would have been like, yeah. No, this is so funny because that's been a debate. Like, we've been talking about that all the time. I was like, if Usher gave me a cherry, like, what's up? Like, it's for the experience, right? You know what though?

SPEAKER_02 20:28

I feel like if I'm there and Usher gave her the cherry, I'd be cool with it unless you start going crazy. You start going crazy, how is that?

SPEAKER_01 20:36

I'm gonna find most of the time it's him.

SPEAKER_05 20:40

He's pushing it. But women do be like, oh, this is my time to shine.

SPEAKER_04 20:44

Like crazy right now. Because I think, I mean, I'm single with it, but If my girl was to get a cherry from us like that, I'm out the door.

SPEAKER_05 20:52

But you got you just said luck, you know what? We're not even doing that.

SPEAKER_02 20:55

But that's what I'm saying. If she's not going crazy.

SPEAKER_05 20:58

This is the one that keeps his good exes on Instagram as friends. Oh, but your your current girlfriend can't take a cherry from Usher? Nah, come on, what are we doing?

SPEAKER_01 21:08

Yeah, I'm sorry. That doesn't align. That doesn't align, Jalen.

SPEAKER_02 21:13

I mean, it's not like she's doing the Chris Brown joint. Now the Chris Brown joint, I'm gonna be honest with you, you're a big single after that.

SPEAKER_05 21:22

A female celebrity that you, you know. We were so much before. I told you Tim, I love her. Like, I'm gonna go to the club. So she called you on stage. She called you on stage, and your girlfriend, like, don't go. No, I'm I'm gonna go. I'ma if Tim's called you on stage to give you a letter. I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_02 21:37

I'ma be honest, she gotta hold that one. You gotta hold that one. You gotta hold that one. I think I'm about to. Would you be understandable? She likes she like yo, Corey, get on stage, right?

SPEAKER_05 21:56

I wasn't thinking so his personal scissors. I'm like, yo, it's the scissors like. Yeah, so I'm like, but the crazy part is.

SPEAKER_02 22:03

To cut your story, I'm sorry. Just hold that. But when I was at the scissor concert, you know, Scissor was looking directly at me, singing to me, and that was everything. I was just like, oh I almost melted to the floor. I was like, oh man. He remembered one day I'm gonna be scissoring. I'm gonna talk about that, and I'm gonna just But you see.

SPEAKER_05 22:31

If he would have had his phone out, he could have recorded that and then you could have tagged it.

SPEAKER_02 22:35

That's true, but guess what? I've got that memory for that.

SPEAKER_01 22:40

But you got no proof that it's true. Right. So it's gonna be false.

SPEAKER_02 22:48

That's strange. Now I'm hurt. Your memory is torn. No, no, no, it's still there. You know why? Because I have my phone up.

SPEAKER_04 23:00

So you feel like really so this is something so you'll be so if you were to go to the concert, so you want to go to a concert to tell you you cannot come. If you in order to enter this concert, you cannot bring your phone in. You're not going.

SPEAKER_05 23:09

I probably would just for like that one than a lifetime experience, but I prefer to have my phone and record what I want to record or something like that.

SPEAKER_04 23:18

What about you though?

SPEAKER_05 23:19

It depends on the artist.

SPEAKER_04 23:19

I was gonna say, no, that's what I was gonna say, because like me and you were talking about this earlier, was like, I I went to Benito when he was at Yankee Stadium, and that was an out-of-body experience to see that. So you know what I'm saying? So and I don't I don't I think we have like one or two videos on my phone from that concert. So I think it's I think it for me it also would depend on the artist, naturally, and I'm not the biggest concert lover anyway to begin with, but that's what I have to do, like I think it would have to be somebody like Benito, Cole, probably Wild Wade, like there's a handful of artists that I would say are he's not like Drake, because he was.

SPEAKER_02 23:53

No, but I'll say Nathan. Right, Nathan. No, but that's not everybody else.

SPEAKER_04 24:01

So I've seen I've seen Drake, I've seen Drake at Dream Girl, and I saw him three times at when he was at the garden. So I've seen him, I've seen him enough times to know that you're like, I don't, he's like off the checklist to me mentally. I'm talking about Jordan, like I'm like, no, he's like, like Drake to me, he's not the I don't think he's the greatest performer of all time, but he's has enough hits in the tank and he's engaged enough to it's a good concert. You're not gonna be supposed to concert. Like I'll I'll always give him love when it comes to that. I never take that approval. That's true.

SPEAKER_02 24:29

I mean, I and I've been to like everyone he's ever, you know, what you're about, but so you so you'll definitely go to a concert if you have to tuck your phone away. 100%. 100%. Like I said, I I barely have my phone out now when I go, like, you know, I do get a couple videos and stuff like that, but mostly my phone is in my pocket, and like, you know, I like to experience like whatever show they're trying to put on, that's what I try to experience. So I try to get the whole thing. Like, I don't know if y'all remember when I was telling y'all like with the whole Kanye West thing, because Kanye is probably like one of the biggest innovators when it comes to like, you know, performance and giving people a show. And I'll never forget, like, he made it literally it was a snowstorm during the concert, and he made it snow in the building. So like if I had my phone out, I wouldn't really be able to experience that as much as like you know, you looking up and you just like, damn, it's really snow in it.

SPEAKER_01 25:28

Like I said, yeah, I definitely would. It depends on the artist. Like, I saw that one in Puerto Rico, and that concert was phenomenal. I felt like I was at a party. It felt like I was at home, like it was a little bit. But you recorded a little bit. I did record, but like if he made it, like, don't record, I would have had a blast there without it. Like, I didn't need it at all.

SPEAKER_04 25:45

I think the only problem when it comes to some of those concerts is, and I'ma just throw them a little bust is the DJs. Because I think in order to do a concert like that, the DJs have to be like because there'd be times where they have to home with DJ. He's playing SIP hits, and I'm like, yo, bro, like you think this is a hit, but it's not you not to get the crowd is not, the crowd is not feeling it, bro. Like, you gotta read the room, big bro. Like, we're not doing that right now. So I think that'll be a big part into it. But other than that, like I think I'll be open to it, even especially like I get like when it comes to comedy, I get it because you don't want your material getting out there for people to see. But when it comes to concerts, I think this is such a precedent.

SPEAKER_05 26:18

I think some artists are gonna adopt this policy because So y'all go to Joe Scott concert like just to see what she is. Nah, I don't. I can't.

SPEAKER_02 26:35

Sing one of my songs right now. Look, look.

SPEAKER_01 26:44

I'm just saying it like I'll probably be dead.

SPEAKER_02 26:54

She won't be like my first she won't be like my first choice, but if somebody was like, yo, I'm going to this Jill Con Jill Scott concert, you wanna pull up with me? I'd be like, yeah, because I I love music, so just the experience in itself, you know, and just to get exposed to more music that she has.

SPEAKER_04 27:10

Yeah. So shifting topics in the US crazy segment. I'm gonna start off with you, Delilah, because I started twice. So I'm gonna be fair too late. So we're gonna switch over to what Rennes recently said, and I want to get your thoughts on this because Ari Lennox was recently in the interview where she said she regrets not giving a good man a chance. And I want to get your thoughts on that. Do you think that some women now are getting to a point in their life where they're not giving a quote unquote safe guy the chance? So they're supporting where they're getting all that like such and such was a good guy, I should have walked in. Oh, and also the finishes, so she also was finished saying that she was on the interview, and I don't remember the interview that she was on, but she was basically saying that the person asked her when's the last time it was heartbroken, and she said, Oh, I was heartbroken yesterday. Oh she was like that, she fell in love with a guy after two weeks, and all he ever did was on FaceTime. And when she said that's what she said, I'm not making it up. That's what she said. And then she was like, they never met, they spoke on FaceTime for two weeks, about five hours a day, which is a commitment, you know. And then she said that she pulled up to the city and he was like, Oh, let's get lunch, and he was like, if time permits. And after that, she dealt on it. Yeah, he had with the city. I ain't gonna lie, that that is that was crazy.

SPEAKER_01 28:24

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_04 28:25

That should be crazy. So after that she said she was heartbroken, but what were your thoughts on that?

SPEAKER_01 28:30

Um I don't think any woman should regret not giving the nice guy, the nice guy like a chance. I think there's a reason why you didn't want to give him a chance, and you just didn't want to like indulge in that. And I feel like if you did give him the chance and eventually you'll be with him, later down in the line, like either you're gonna be bored of him or you're gonna be like, damn, like I should have got with somebody I really want to be with. That's how I feel about it.

SPEAKER_04 28:54

I'm gonna go to school first, though.

SPEAKER_05 28:57

No, I definitely I feel like everyone likes the bad guy, and I think that is the age is like bad guys and like you know, you want peace, you want the healthy relationship, you want the good guys after a while. I think it comes with age, it comes with like maturity and like what you want in like like if you're looking for peace, like it's definitely and it's it's bad to say that like the good guys finish last, but it's true. Yeah, they kind of date they finished last. Sorry.

SPEAKER_03 29:31

I'm just here waiting, binding my tongue.

SPEAKER_01 29:37

It's a thing like if women just end up dating the nice guy, like it's gonna be a comfort thing. You wanna be in a situation where it's just comfortable and there's not really a spark?

SPEAKER_04 29:47

I think in the words of Anthony Hill said, he was on the park, you missed you today, my boy. He was like, Where are your father? I think I think now the older I get, and I'm not that old, I'm only 32. But I've never been married, so I want to make that clear. But I do think that I've seen enough in in life and also in my line of work where there are so many women, and this is also this also goes to men. It's not just women only take the same guy. Men do it all the time. They'll get the girl who they know they can cheat on, and she'll never leave. Like this is not, this is not a gender, this is it's not gender specifically. Exactly. It's not. But I do think it comes to a point where, simply speaking to R Lynx in the situation, because that's the topic, where you have to look at it from an insecurity factor. Because I think that's the biggest thing here is the insecurity of the person who's once the person who they know is toxic. Well, they feel like, oh, I can fix them. Oh, there's that spark, there's this possibility, they have so much potential, there's this, this, and that. When eventually the whole is a dopamine fix because I don't think that there's no way if you know someone, it only takes, I think, I could be wrong, but to to want to be with somebody only takes a one or two dates. You know, okay, I I I I could go somewhere with this person. See you know, like I think the candle, experienced candle will agree.

SPEAKER_05 31:43

But women give more chances than men. That's true. So, like, I feel like a lot of women sometimes we feel like we can change. Yeah, like we can change though. We work off potential.

SPEAKER_04 31:55

But then that's the problem, though. Like, there's no, you can't change a man who doesn't want to change. That's the one. There's no there's no pussy in the world that can make a man say, yo, bro. That's it.

SPEAKER_02 32:08

And um, I mentioned this a couple weeks ago when I said, like, you're not gonna be the reason that he changes. He's gonna realize, like, okay, stuff I've been doing is not working out, so he's changing himself. You just the woman that he's with when he goes through that phase of change. Right. And go ahead, boy. No, I was just gonna say, like, in my opinion, a lot of women take it as like, oh, okay, it's a boredom. It's a boredom thing, or I'm gonna get bored with the nice guy, or I'm gonna get too comfortable with the nice guy. But if you look at the marriages that actually do last, most of the time you're gonna experience boredom, you're gonna experience comfort. Like, that's what happens, because nothing's gonna be nothing's gonna be perfect. So there's gonna be times where things are just like not going your way, or things are are getting too bored, there's no spark. So it's it's both of y'all job, but you as a woman, if you're realizing like, okay, like the spark is gone, he's not giving me the romance he did when we first got together, that's something that you know you gotta explain to your partner so they they get that knowledge to be able to try to change that, or you try to spark something up yourself and just bring that stuff back. Well, instead, you gotta wonder they want to be trap queens.

SPEAKER_04 33:23

Because that we already said that. All I heard was she wouldn't be a trap queen. She wants to be with the bad boy.

SPEAKER_05 33:28

Yes, I feel like you shouldn't have to be.

SPEAKER_04 33:29

That's all that's all I do.

SPEAKER_05 33:31

I think women, some women thrill off of like they get a adrenaline off of the toxicness of a relationship or of a man, right? Because it's like, oh, I know he's doing something like that. Me and the girls are about to go do this. It's like a thrill, right? But I feel like at a certain age when you realize like peace and healthiness and like anything in life, it's like, no, I want that in a man too. Like, you know, like I just want that. Like, I feel like even with men, right? Y'all have that moment of I don't want her. She's easy. I'ma go, cause she's easy, I'ma just get it. Like, y'all have that moment. Everyone has that moment, but then it comes a point in time where it's like, I'm too old for this. Like, I don't got to do that.

SPEAKER_02 34:11

But you see, my only problem with that though, is when women go through that phase, right? Now it's a lot of the times it's already too late. Because you're already done gave the best of yourself to men that you knew wasn't really worth your time in the first place. And you got stuck in the face, like, oh, I could change him, I could change him, knowing damn well you honestly can't change him. Right. Because he's been doing the same thing for the past five years since you've been in a relationship, and you know that you can't change him. So you're putting yourself in that situation and you giving the best to the wrong person when if you could have just experienced a couple bored moments with that guy who's the good guy or the nice guy, guy who's gonna take care of you, make sure you're straight, make sure you, maybe even your family, everything is good. If you give that guy the best of you and he's giving him like the best of him to you, now y'all can build instead of you plateauing.

SPEAKER_01 35:04

I think that woman just like it's not even about him not being nice. I just think that woman like a little mystery in a man. It doesn't mean that he has to be high.

SPEAKER_04 35:14

There could be a mysterious award. There could be mystery and still a nice guy.

SPEAKER_01 35:20

That's what I'm trying to say. Like you could be a nice guy and still have a mysterious side to you. I think for us women, we consider a nice guy like overly nice, like you just in our face all the time, and like you just want to do all the nice things for us, like straight. And I feel like that's laying all your cards out on the table. And I feel like sometimes women get turned off by that.

SPEAKER_04 35:39

So you're saying basically that they feel like they can have no control over like how you are. Like they're gonna know, okay, it's a good one.

SPEAKER_01 35:45

Well, we feel like we can control him.

SPEAKER_02 35:46

Yeah, yeah, that's all that's a good thing.

SPEAKER_01 35:47

And I think that's what it is.

SPEAKER_02 35:49

But you know what's the craziest part of all of that? Because women will ask for those same things when a man is not giving it to them. When they with the toxic guy, that's what they want. Like, yo, you know how he wants to do with a five or mouth, or you don't do that. I'm just saying, you wouldn't watch it. Once they actually get that, and the guy is like overly giving that to them, now it's like, oh, you're doing it too much. But I want to do it.

SPEAKER_01 36:18

I think it's like leading up to it. Like, I feel like you there's steps to it. You don't have to do it all at one shot. I think that's what it is with women. We just want to see it like slowly, gradually get in there, and also we don't want to feel like I'm I'm running it. Like, I think I still want you to run it.

SPEAKER_05 36:36

Girl, we Leo, so it's not like a Leo thing. Yeah, like we don't want to be in control, let y'all leave. But what I also wanted to add to that, I think it comes with I'm big on like Tom is everything. Like, I feel like going back to what you were saying, I feel like some women have to experience the toxic to know what they deserve and to become and have more self-esteem because you you said insecurities, right? And I said, I feel like to have more self-esteem and to know what you deserve, you kind of gotta experience that toxic to be like, nah, this is not what I want. Because if you go straight to that good guy, it's like how you know what you don't know how to receive it. Yeah, you don't know how to receive it. So I'll say, like, I'll use you know, I always get personal, like, this is the healthiest relationship I've been in, right? And in the past, you know, don't like in the past, it's been toxic situations, like no.

SPEAKER_04 37:29

Jamaicans is real toxic, baby.

SPEAKER_05 37:32

No Jamaicans, no Jamaicans, but no Jamaicans are very toxic, but no, I'm just saying, like, you know, it's been times when like girls sending me pictures like, yo, this is such and such at this body. Oh, he definitely told me he was home. Oh, we pulling up, we do it, and you know, at a young age. Well, the dust laying on the face where you get a clothes at a young, dumb age, you get a thrill out of that, like, and then you still be waiting the next day, just be being silly, and then when you get older, it's like, yo, I'm tired of doing this, I don't deserve this. Like, someone's buying me flowers every day, someone's telling my mother hi, like, or treating my family like good, like just doing certain things that wasn't a big deal. Yeah, like before I never noticed, like, wow, every time I get in a car, you opening the door, oh kiss the ground, I walk, or like, baby, like that feeling. I think, and you know, it may sound crazy. I feel like every girl has to go through that like toxic little stage for them to be like, no, I don't deserve this. Like, let me big myself esteem out, like, whether your father in your life, your father not in your life, I feel like you have to learn through experience. And like females can have the biggest confidence, like, nobody can tell me nothing. Like, I know I'm that girl, right? But at the end of the day, like when it comes to men, I feel like in the past, I'm like, why the no today, right now, you can never have talked to me. Like, you know, like certain guys, like, why did I do that? Why didn't you do that? Yeah, why was I why was your name even in my phone? Like, so it's like I think it's like a growing thing for you, and for men too. Like, you're gonna have them women that's gonna break your heart. I feel like after your first heartbreak, y'all become savages, and then very cold. Yeah, y'all become savages. I think y'all become savages after that first heartbreak, and then it's like, nah, I'm gonna do a girl like that.

SPEAKER_04 39:17

Again, shout out to him, my boy That's hot bookly few times.

SPEAKER_02 39:22

Still a lovely boy, that's my guy. That's my guy. But look, this is the only thing though, like, when you when you come to that realization, like you said, when you're older, you run the risk of like which this whole topic with Ari like comes to a conclusion. Because now you're older and you want the nice guy now, but now the nice guy already found another girl. And so now you feel like now you feel as if like you can't find a good guy anymore. And so you keep running back to the toxic guys because you like, okay, maybe I can change one into the guy that I want. The clock starts ticking. Yeah, because the nice, the nice guy's already gone. He found the girl that didn't want to play with him the same way you was.

SPEAKER_05 40:07

But once you that's the that's the thing, right? That's the test, right? When you run, when you get to that part where you're like, no, I want the nice guy, you have to keep trying for that. You can't go back. Like you have to date intentionally. You have to date intentionally. Didn't I say that before I said you date with intentions? You don't like that. I like the date. No, no, no, that's not a good thing. You date with intentions.

SPEAKER_01 40:27

I feel like for a woman though, that's a thing. Yeah. After a while, like, yeah when you start to date, you're like, alright, now I'm dating for intention. Like, you start asking men, like, what do you like? Why are you reaching out to me?

SPEAKER_05 40:38

Two weeks because she's dating, like, yo, I want something different. I don't like this.

SPEAKER_04 40:43

We don't know what was said over those two weeks for a conversation. Obviously, it wasn't intimate, but we know how you know what I'm saying. But I also think me and Jordan say this all the time. I said this is a lot of women's coming in. I say, yo, woman and man break the rules for who they want. And so when it comes to you guys mentioning toxicity, oh, we've been a good guy, you're gonna break the rules, I think, forever you want to be with. And then you're blaming your say it was toxic, but I think at some point, like I said, I think it's an insecurity and also a level of this sometimes if you don't like it, like you said, if you don't know what it is, you'll run away from it until you realize, oh, I did have kind of have that. And then at times I think you also make the mistake of thinking toxicity is love, which eventually you realize, damn, that's how it's true, you know what I'm saying? So I also I think there's so many factors, but but the biggest thing I want to say is congratulations, you played yourself to Army Linux. Because like for two weeks and it's over FaceTime, you the dopamine spin is going crazy. But I also think that there's people, I ain't gonna say names on like I ain't gonna do my name on the bus, but then people be like, oh, first date, I'm in love. Like, well, that you can't, this is you know what I'm saying? So when you get put yourself in some situations, even if you're dating with your dating with intention, you can't make your after one date. It's like that's that's the dopamine hit facts. You know what I'm saying? This is why no shitty to the live eight-hour first date.

SPEAKER_03 41:58

I'm like, well, I can do another eight-hour first date.

SPEAKER_01 42:01

I'm not gonna lie to you, Britt. It's happening a few times. I'm not gonna say like I'm both in love, but I'm gonna get a time, like a person has a good if two good personalities link up, you're gonna have a good time.

SPEAKER_05 42:22

That is true, but eight hours. I'm gonna come in short because I don't want it to go down.

SPEAKER_02 43:05

I wanna bring up something. Did y'all see that L'Avion Bell talking about Lotto thing?

SPEAKER_01 43:10

I didn't see what he said.

SPEAKER_04 43:12

So I look uh, he basically said, I'll pull up for you right now. L'avion Bell was quite on saying Lotto just announced she's pregnant, but I married a man with three kids and made it part of their album rollout. And that's why today's woman look up, and that's what today's woman look up to. We're doing that.

SPEAKER_05 43:29

Okay, so we all know that is 21 Savage, right? From the 20th. Is he married? He is he is married in the UK or something like that.

SPEAKER_03 43:37

No, he married in the yeah. That's how I mean that's how people believe that's why he got to stay here because he got married to his favorites.

SPEAKER_01 43:43

That's okay. Oh.

SPEAKER_03 43:46

They do have three kids together.

SPEAKER_01 43:47

No, that same woman, though?

SPEAKER_04 43:48

Yes, that same woman.

SPEAKER_01 43:50

I didn't know all three were from her.

SPEAKER_04 43:52

I believe two are from her and one's from somebody else.

SPEAKER_01 43:54

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 43:54

Oh, which is okay.

SPEAKER_04 43:55

I mean, either way, man, he has three kids. He's not he's not a dead dad, but he has three kids.

SPEAKER_05 43:58

He he's still married.

SPEAKER_01 44:12

I'm gonna be honest with you.

SPEAKER_02 44:13

I'm gonna be honest with you. Shout out, Big Mama, man. Shut up, big uh because I don't see nothing wrong with what she's doing. And the reason why I said that is because yes, he's married. Yes, they do have kids together, but they've been separated for so long that I don't see why in a separation you can't have another relationship. Are they separated? Yeah, they are separated.

SPEAKER_01 44:38

But why like why isn't there a divorce? Like that's the question.

SPEAKER_02 44:42

Look, it might be cheaper to keep it. I don't know. I get hard to be an offset, though. I can't tell you. They're separated, right? That's the offset they don't want to sign the papers.

SPEAKER_01 44:49

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 44:49

I mean But yeah, we don't know if somebody in this relationship don't want to sign the papers.

SPEAKER_01 44:54

I actually heard that she liked the papers too.

SPEAKER_02 44:56

I got this.

SPEAKER_01 44:57

I heard that um his wife liked the post, yeah. So like everybody's like, we don't know if that's like a petty like or if it's like uh I support it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 45:06

Yeah. Um shout outs to Lotto, right? Because Lotto's she that girl.

SPEAKER_04 45:12

I'm not gonna find she that girl. Georgia Peach is one of my favorite intros of all time.

SPEAKER_05 45:16

Yeah, like she that she that girl. I just think that it goes back to what we talked about before with girls just looking up to social media, the relationship goes and things like that. Like, we don't know what's going on in these people like for real. So it's just like we go on for hearsay, the shade room, and all that stuff like that. But she pregnant, he probably separated, they probably have a whole like agreement, like this is what it is, or whatever. He clearly you just said he got another kid by someone else. So, I mean, we don't know the agreements. I think that saying this is what girls look up to, I think he meant it in a way of like everybody be like, oh, relationship goals, or uh what's the term big mama, no kids, not just big mama, one kid, or whatever. So, um, I mean, I'm not saying he's wrong. But he's wrong, stay out of women's business. I I agree. He's moving like okay, about give me a watch his face. He's moving like Drake. But I'll just say you can do better. No, but I mean, I agree, right? Like, for him to say that is is crazy. However, um, like I think that he's saying it, he's coming from a standpoint of like women like to be like, oh, I want to be like that, I wanna be like this, and you don't know what's going on in these people's lives. Like, we just go on for what we see. We don't know the real story because she's been dating 21 for a while. I heard five years. She's been dating him for a while, and she kept that under wraps. I like the way she did it, honestly. Like, and she's still kind of keeping it under wraps. Like, you never seen I never seen them together.

SPEAKER_02 46:52

Like, probably for situations like this, because people don't be like, yo, he's married, and you're dating a married man.

SPEAKER_05 46:57

And I think people need to chill out with that because like that's what celebrities are normal people, and like you really put your life on the line, like your life is out there, and people could get to you mentally, like she's really pregnant, and you talking about her like that, like that's crazy, you know?

SPEAKER_04 47:13

Like, so so when it comes to, I mean, we gotta talk about stuff like this because we have a podcast and stuff like that, but when it comes, I'm kinda gonna take your same stance and same extension that Jordan took. Do I think it's kind of crazy that the man is still married? But yeah, but I think similar to what Jordan was saying, we don't know the dynamic of how all that played out. But I I think the biggest thing here is that we gotta stop believing these rappers and their music. Gotta stop. Like what they say is purely entertainment. Like these dudes or these a lot of these rappers that y'all would like look up to are lover boards. And the same thing with the women they play. Like, look at Megan Study now. There's a love of Clay Thompson and shout out to them. Like, these it's only entertainment. Jay-Z said it for a reason. No, we're not shouting on Clay Tony. We're not showing up, yeah. Oh, it's a free toy. I'm not trying to get it.

SPEAKER_02 48:04

But I'm not showing on nobody. I'm just saying we're not shouting on baby.

SPEAKER_04 48:08

What I'm gonna say is that, what I'm gonna say is that I think that it seems like obviously it's a pregnancy involved, and I risk them help with a healthy pregnancy. Right. And we don't know the dynamic of their relationship. I do think it's crazy how, I mean, fans, like we've seen what on the hot pod we talked about last week, what uh the Rihanna stand did. Like some of these fans are really crazy. They make it their business to know I want to find out what the gender is. I want to like they so invested in these genres. And I was like, yo, bro, if you was this good, bro, you'll be a fucking CEO somewhere, bro. Like, you can start your own private investigator company. Like, let it go. Yeah. But I I think it's just weird. Like they, like the R. Lennox thing and this is two totally different things because this was a relationship. Like it was kept private, and now we're left, like you said, here, so we're left to sit here and ponder. Oh, was it this, was it that? R. Lennox thing, two weeks old FaceTime, we're talking about talking about human love. Like, that's like if like if my dogs home and say that to me, I'll be like, yo, boy, you tripped. You know what I'm saying? So I think in this situation, I think it might be a situation where I don't think the divorce is settled. There's stuff that's going on. We know we had this thing with the citizenship, so maybe that's also a part of it. Like, there's a lot of layers to the story.

SPEAKER_01 49:21

Um, I love Otto. She's probably like one of my favorite female rappers, but I don't necessarily agree with that. Like, I feel like preach what you talk, and I feel like I don't I want to see where her music is gonna go after this. She's real big on I'll spend $500 on that abortion. Like, you know what I'm saying? Nobody's gonna trap me. Yeah, verbatim.

SPEAKER_03 49:42

Yeah, I just want to I just want to join the peach work for where I'm gonna do it.

SPEAKER_01 49:48

Like, Lotto's one of those female artists where it's like, I'm not gonna be like one of you DMs. Like her music is solely based on being her.

SPEAKER_05 49:56

She doesn't stop, right?

SPEAKER_01 49:57

So I wanna know like where she's gonna take it from there because I feel like a lot of her fan base are like very independent women, like, you know, like us, where we'll be like, I'm not gonna be a baby mother, you know, where's my ring at?

SPEAKER_05 50:09

You know, like she gave She gave herself a reputation and stuff.

SPEAKER_01 50:12

So I feel like right now everybody's kind of like, where are you going?

SPEAKER_02 50:16

That's why she has the vob of 21. She would be able to do it. But I'm still still be independent.

SPEAKER_01 50:22

No, no, of course she can. I'm just what I'm trying to say is that you're disappointed. I am a little disappointed. I am a little disappointed. I am a fan, and I just feel like I don't know, like I saw her kind of, even if she was gonna stay with Savage, like I saw her maybe just like at least popping out with him, him repping her, or like a ring on her finger before she thought this out. I would have respected that a little bit more because I'd have been like, that goes with your flow, not just because you a BM, like you just her fourth BM or whatever, third, whatever it is, but I would have respected that a little bit more from her, because that's her big talk. But I love Lotto. I do, I love her, I love her music. Yeah, I would definitely respect it. But um, yeah, I just want to see where she's gonna take it.

SPEAKER_04 51:09

Like, I respect that. Now we're gonna switch over to a little bit more spicy side of the show and get to the relationship segment. You ladies had a lot to add to the segment. There was so much time with the podcast, so be mindful of that, guys. So you guys wanted to start with the main thing since Twin wants to have a baby, with Rada 210. So, how do you ladies feel about men being providers in the relationship? I mean, you don't want to be a relationship with it, so you gotta stop. Oh, oh yeah, don't I? Oh, you won't be able to stop.

SPEAKER_01 51:40

Oh yeah, I think a man should definitely be a provider in a relationship.

SPEAKER_05 51:42

What does that mean? Yeah, baby.

SPEAKER_01 51:44

So yeah, I should have a big thing. What does it look like to me? Okay, so for me, I think it's like if we're going out on dates, you should be paying. I don't think that I should be paying unless I want to take you out on a date.

SPEAKER_04 51:56

So even on my birthday, I gotta pay for the date.

SPEAKER_01 51:58

No. On your birthday, I'm paying for it. Like, I'm getting you a gift. All that is on me. But I'm saying, like, if we just go out on a regular date, like, and you're taking me out, like, I just feel like as a man you should be provided for the date. Oh, so basically, if it's my date and I'm planning it. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 52:11

I'm sorry, so you mean like if you if it's your suggestion for y'all to go out, then you'll pay. But if it's just a normal like we're going out and you want him to be paying?

SPEAKER_01 52:20

No, I'm not saying a suggestion. I'm saying if I'm planning a date. Like if I'm planning a date and I'm saying I want to take you out, I'm going to pay for it.

SPEAKER_04 52:28

Real quickly, then I guess I'm saying real quick. So, how soon into dating are you planning a date?

SPEAKER_01 52:33

Um, you're gonna be my man. So I'm not paying for you unless you're my man. You heard that. Yeah, sorry, that's just me. That's how I feel about it. When it comes to like, let's say we're living together, I don't mind doing 50-50. I respect it.

SPEAKER_04 52:49

Jumping ahead, jumping ahead of the five.

SPEAKER_01 52:50

I see the family. Sorry, yeah, but that's part of like being a provider. So out there, she's saying, Oh, yeah, I don't mind doing the 50-50 if that's what he wants to do. Like, I could be open to that. But I'm also open to traditional. Like, if he wants to take on the bigger bills like rent and I do groceries or the light bill or whatever, I could do that too.

SPEAKER_04 53:12

One thing real quick, because the 50-50 thing, and I'm not supposed to say, but when it comes to 50-50, and this is a I remember my girlfriend, not girlfriend, but like a persona from me just pointing off. When it comes to 50-50, I think it also factors in, like, if I make, say, 150 and she makes 65, you can't expect 50-50 because there's such a financial age gap to where the relationship, like if the rent is 3,500 or 3,000, you can you're making 150 and you can afford that, but you can't expect her to go half. You know what I'm saying? So I think when it comes to 50-50, I think it does also depend on the couple's like financial status.

SPEAKER_05 53:44

Yeah, I agree.

SPEAKER_02 53:45

I mean, but 50-50 also doesn't necessarily mean that we split in everything exactly 50-50. Like if all of our bills is 5k and we're not doing 25-25, that doesn't necessarily mean 50-50. What Delilah said technically counts as 50-50. It's just I'm not paying 100% of the bills. Your 50% doesn't have to add up to my 50%, but it's just 50% of what maintains our household. So I think that speaks to your point.

SPEAKER_05 54:14

I think that I'm a big, like, I'll spoil my man, clearly. I knew you were gonna say it. I'll spoil my beds. Alright, come on, not too much. No, but I'll spoil my man. Um, you did say something of like, if I like to do like, I'm spontaneous, I like to do little surprises. So even if he takes me out sometimes, I do be like, you know what, babe, you've been paying. Like, I just put my card on the table. He be looking like, oh, you paying this time. So I do cute stuff like that sometimes or whatever. Um, you know, obviously, if it's something I plan, like I try to pay and do all the I try, but you know, I'll be like, yeah, it ain't it. I don't need a money gloss in the back. You know, but um, I do I always say I be like, I say a hundred, a hundred. Now let me say why, right? Because I feel like, and the girl's gonna hate me, but I feel like um, and this is where I'm at in life now, right? The old Brittany probably would have been like, oh no, he gotta pay for everything, or you know, but it comes with more maturity. Like, I don't like that saying, what's that saying? Happy, happy wife, happy life, because I feel like the men needs to like their emotions, their needs need to be, you know, catered to as well.

SPEAKER_02 55:28

That's amazing.

SPEAKER_05 55:31

No, and I feel like that's why I say 100, 100, right? Because it's like if men usually we want the men to take us on dates a lot, and they paying for this, you know. So sometimes I'll be like, Alright, nah, babe, I got it this time or whatever. Like, I'll be considerate and I'm thoughtful of things like that. Like, I want you to do this, I want you to do, and men really don't ask for us to do much. We be asking for this, this, this, this, and men don't really ask us to do, and I had to learn that, right? Like, and I had to step out of my ways and be like, nah, like, you know, like I want this is a good man, and I want him to be here, and you know, certain certain times it's like we be asking a lot, girls. Don't get me now, but we be asking for a lot, and it's like we don't reciprocate it. So relax, not too much, not too much. We don't sometimes I feel like we don't reciprocate it. So I mean that's what like that's why I'll be like 100-100 because I feel like yeah, you spoiling me, I'm gonna spoil you back.

SPEAKER_04 56:29

Like, I'm gonna ask you the same question I asked up. So before Cory was Amanda, or maybe he was. How soon do you pay for it?

SPEAKER_05 56:36

To be honest, please be honest. Okay, to be honest, me and Cory's first date, I think I told him I'm paying for my part, honestly.

SPEAKER_04 56:47

Yeah, listen, and they still together, y'all.

SPEAKER_05 56:49

I honestly told him.

SPEAKER_02 56:51

Remember, she said the healthiest relationship.

SPEAKER_05 56:54

And honestly, the reason why is because I had this mindset of like, I don't need nobody to do nothing for me. Like, and that could just be me as a female, right? Like, I was I'm very independent, so it's just like I don't need you to, I got it. Like, I don't want you to come into this thinking like I'm gonna be asking you to do because I'm not that girl. Like, like I said before, like, if I want something, I'm gonna get it. If you get it for me, that's cool, right? Um, so like the first relationship, like our first and our first uh date was at David Bus's. I was like, I'm gonna I'm gonna play games, like I'm gonna do something fun. I don't wanna, I don't wanna eat, like I'm gonna go somewhere that granted we ate at David Bus's, but we had bowling, we you know, playing arcades. Yeah, yeah. Like I like I think you mentioned Jordan, like you wanted to do something competitive, yeah. Like, yeah, I wanna go to David Bus's, and then we went to like pottery and different, like we did activities, like I don't wanna just go eat. Like, I know a lot of times girls be like, take me to this restaurant, I want this $500 steak, like just to see that he could buy it. And I'm like, girl, I don't care about that sink, that $500 for the hotel that we about to travel, you know. Oh, no, I'm saying, but I say that to say, like, yeah, like the first date, I um I told him, and I'm not saying he was okay with it, but I was adamant, like, nah, I'm gonna pay for mine.

SPEAKER_02 58:12

And you see, like, on the guy's perspective, like, don't get me wrong, like, I've had a I've had a lot of dates paid for me, and you know, shout out shout out to the one, shout out to the one. Nah, but at the same time as the man in the relationship, or even if like we're we're just getting to know each other and going on frequent dates, like, you know, sometimes your ego does play a part of it. So, you know, you want to be the guy that's paying for it. Yes, right, but it does, you know, when especially when you're in that relationship, now we're dating, it does, you know, warm your heart a little bit the fact that she like, yo, she's gonna pay right now. And you know, there's been times be like, I just appreciate the fact that you was going to, so I still got it.

SPEAKER_04 58:56

Okay, let me ask you, oh, because it's staying on topic where we just we was discussing doesn't matter if a woman makes more than can you date a woman who makes molding?

SPEAKER_02 59:06

I mean, I haven't experienced that yet, but I don't feel like I would be the type to be like, nah, she makes more than me, and and all of a sudden it's gonna like make me insecure or anything like that. Because if anything, as long as she doesn't present the energy like, nah, I don't need you, fuck out of here. Like, you know, as long as she don't present that energy, I feel like I would be secure in that relationship as well.

SPEAKER_05 59:30

I feel like when what you say, the fucking money, like I feel like that's why I made that face, because I'm like, sometimes you have women that bank more and they feel like nah, you know.

SPEAKER_04 59:40

Big fucking money. Yeah, like that's like. So and let me ask you this, let me ask you this, brother, because I saw this on uh, I think it was on Twitter, where someone was saying, like, if a if a male is a CEO at, let's say, McDonald's, can he date the secretary? I thought it's gonna be yeah, so like that's like that's what happened. So now if a woman's a CEO at McDonald's, can she date the janitor? See, woman, women never my thing, my my point was, and when I read that, I was like, yo, majority women never date down.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:10

They don't want to date I just say that it never happens, but it is like compared to like But my point was that it's more of a it's a situation where we know we speak about equality and men.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:35

I to be I I think most men won't care if a woman makes more than more than them. I've never been in that situation personally, but I feel like if you do it something, I disagree. I think it's something too dick that you think men that do that.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:46

I thump into I think the ego will play the bigger.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:48

I literally was just speaking to somebody not too long ago that I I used to speak to, and he was like, Your Instagram gives off like you do so much, it's hard to keep up with you. He's intimidating and it becomes a little different than your body though. But that still has to do with money because if you're looking at some like he he explained, like you travel a lot, you go to a nice restaurant. You can't do that. Like, and my thing is like it seems like I'm gonna always have to take you out to a nice restaurant, or I'm gonna have to go on all these vacations with you.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:18

No, that might be.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:21

He wants the whole thing. But this is the thing though, when when he presented that to you, did you like reassure him that that's not the type of person you are, or that's not the energy you have?

SPEAKER_01 1:01:30

Yeah, but my thing is like the time I think a lot of men they see that and they they be like, oh nah, like that's too much for me. Like, it's too much to keep up with that certain lifestyle, even though, like, okay, yeah, it's Instagram, like I I've probably been to a few places.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:48

Yeah, but he he also don't know.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:50

But he well, he does know me. I'm saying that but you're saying like a random person, but like, yeah, I feel like a lot of people fall into that. Like, they see stuff like that online and they be like, oh, she's bougie. Meanwhile, um what I just said last time, take me on a golden egg.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:10

I did not say, don't skip.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:28

That's gonna be really cool about that.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:34

Um but yeah, like like I said, like I feel like a lot of men sometimes, even if it's just social media, and let's be real, that's kind of our dating scene right now. It is social media. You look at someone's Instagram profile and you automatically assume like this is their life. Shout out to them. Um and I'm about to call Johnny, but um, yeah, like I feel like we see people social media, and that's how we scoop people out. Like, and let's be real, everybody here can say that. I started talking to somebody, even if you met them somewhere in person, you get their Instagram, you're gonna start seeing like what they about, what do they do? Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:15

So the pigback off that before we wrap up is do you think that men, what does being a man mean in relationship at all for right now?

SPEAKER_05 1:03:24

What do you think that means? What does being a man? I feel like for every female it's different, right? So like something I'll say is being a man may not matter to Jalala, or it may matter, or it may be something different. For me, safety, I'll say that. Like I have to feel safe.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:40

That's not cooler finances, you just mean finances, the safe finances out of it right now, right?

SPEAKER_05 1:03:45

So like safety, I have to feel at peace. And today I have to feel like I want to be healthy. Like, I don't got time to be chasing you around trying to figure out where you are, what you're doing, why you're not answering me. And I'm not saying you gotta answer me all the time, but communicate, yeah. Like I need communication.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:04

Like, I shouldn't be going half the day, not even half, like all the whole entire day without knowing what's going on. A simple text like, hey, I'm working, give me a second. But but I'm saying, like, let's say it's you write somebody good morning, and then you don't hear from them the whole day, and then they write you the next day, like late at night.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:23

Yeah, like mean because I'm pretty sure you're trying to get like that's crazy. Like a simple text, like my day is about to get like everyone knows if their day is about to get busy.

SPEAKER_04 1:04:34

Everybody has their phone in their hand 24th.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:38

Yeah, like even on a podcast right now, like it's like we're sitting as on the pod. Right. Boom. That's what you need to know. Like you literally just looked at your phone and tell your dad was calling you. Yeah, like so it's it's simple, like things like that, communication, technique. I mean, I wouldn't go into finances, like that's a whole nother topic, but for me, that's what a man looks like. Like those characteristics. What you do?

SPEAKER_01 1:05:00

For me, I feel like it's leadership skills. That's what I need in a man. Like, that's what I want in a man.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:05

You can't do that shit.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:06

Yeah, you can't do it.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:08

Joe Clock it.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:09

Joel clock it.

unknown 1:05:15

No, wrong finger.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:16

Oh, my bad.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:17

No. I was doing it this. I was doing this.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:19

This is my middle finger.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:20

Oh, it is?

SPEAKER_05 1:05:20

Oh, I'm sorry. I just thought this is clocket, and this is when like like you don't want to clap. Yeah. This was clock it. I thought this one was is it this clock?

SPEAKER_00 1:05:35

I mean people.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:37

So my thing is leadership skills, and I feel like consideration. A lot of women don't realize we like to be considered, like, they forget that a lot when they speak to men, and they're like, What do you want in a man? You want to be considered. Yes. And you want leadership skills. Again, it has nothing to do with finance, but for example, like planning a date is a leadership skill. There's just because you Let's say you like, oh, she planned it. I'm paying for it. I still planned it. Yeah. I took the lead on that. Where's your leadership skills as a man?

SPEAKER_05 1:06:07

Not all men plan. However, I do want to see you do some other things.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:11

I need you, but I I feel like planning is a leadership skill. You can't plan a date. How are you gonna plan the rest of our lives?

SPEAKER_02 1:06:17

So that means you like it. That means you look at trying to get my house. That means you're looking for a good guy, though. Not the guys that already Linux is not getting.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:28

I know the toxic spot.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:31

They will. They got the same spot.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:41

You go on a date. You know the fucking boss. You'll be like, oh no, no.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:47

But that's not really planned. If I'm running it back, that's not a plan.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:50

I went on a date with a guy, obviously, a long time ago, whatever. Went on a date with a guy, and we went bowling. As we're at the cashier, he like stepped away to something with the lane or something like that. He stepped away. I can't remember for what. The cashier goes, You're the fifth girl he bought here. Literally.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:08

Shout out to the girl. Shout out to her. Yeah, shout out to her. I like her. No, don't shout out.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:14

She was like on cage like that. Girl, he bought here. You know what I did? You see how I said with mommy and now I paid half for the first. Oh, he paid for everything. Every margaritas, and I need to finish them. This, I like this. I'm half coming.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:32

That could have been my boy Jay, because he would have left.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:38

I'm getting this. I'm getting that. Before we wrap up, y'all.

SPEAKER_04 1:07:41

Actually, y'all last before we wrap up, we're gonna talk. We didn't get to talk about this last week and some recommendations. But y'all watching right now.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:47

I just finished Beauty and Black Horn Fricks.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:49

That's the Tyler Perry's room. I gotta start it. I started the first um the six Angels episode. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:54

Uh the season two or the six. Season two. Yeah. Okay, okay. You up there, but yeah, that was uh shout outs to Tyler Perry.

SPEAKER_04 1:08:03

You know, I ain't checking in on that, Jordan.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:04

What you watching? I just finished one piece, season two. Pretty good. No, it's no, no. It's not anyway. Yeah, I'm watching a live action now. It's on Netflix, but it's still not. I think it's not even existed.

SPEAKER_04 1:08:20

I'm all about time.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:24

Um I'm watching actually the love story of JFK Jr. Oh, I think it's Carol Basil.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:33

Yeah, it's on Hulu. You guys should check it out. It's really good.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:37

Put that in the chat. It's really good, it's cute. It's very, very cute.

SPEAKER_04 1:08:41

Check that out. Uh I'm on uh Imperfect Woman and Kerry Washington John.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:45

Is that on Apple TV? Oh, is it on Apple?

SPEAKER_04 1:08:48

No, no, it was on the two episodes in. It's not bad. I fuck with it. She's a really good actor, Joe. Yeah, she's one of my favorites. And she's from the pong, so shout out to Curry Big K.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:59

Come on. I didn't say big big cave.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:05

You see those apples.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:11

Julian, you feel what you got for us before we get out of here, big boy. I'ma just say everybody be safe.

SPEAKER_04 1:09:17

Have a good week, and we'll see you next week. Shout out to USA when they lost the world baseball class. I didn't get to bring it up earlier, but that was crazy. They did lose.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:28

I'm hype. I'm sorry. Hype is crazy. It'll fuck. You don't think out to the Latin community. They were their big ones. Okay. And if it wasn't gonna be them, I wanted it to be the R. Shout out to the dads. Shout out to the dads.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:56

Okay, shout out to the women.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:57

Oh, shut up to January. Shout out to the other one.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:04

Shout out to the women.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:06

I shall take it.