Hey Best Friend

Get ready for another packed episode with a special guest! We’re diving deep into workplace etiquette, celebrity drama, and the complex world of modern dating. From the courtroom to the cruise ship, no topic is off-limits this week.
In This Episode:

• The Commute Conflict: If your coworker picks you up every day, are you a jerk for not offering gas money? We tackle the ultimate "spicy" hook question.
• City Said What? * Breaking down the Stefon Diggs vs. Jamila Adams trial—is "dry snitching" ever okay?
• Mother’s Day: Is it a genuine celebration or just for the 'Gram? Plus, we shout out the Dog Moms and celebrate Dominican Mother's Day!
• Is Latto really hanging it up? We discuss her "Retirement Album."
• We Gonna Talk About It: NBA Playoff recaps and the Draft Lottery. Plus, a comparison of how men and women give breakup advice. (Spoiler: It’s polar opposites.)
• Yeo That’s Crazy: The latest Spirit Airlines chaos and a nightmare report regarding Hantavirus on a cruise ship.
• The "Her" Segment: * Why are some men hesitant to be public about their preferences? We talk body positivity and social pressure.
• The "Settling" Debate: Is compromise healthy, or are you just lowering your standards if they don't check every box on your list?
• The Closer: Joewel airs out friends who don’t show support when it matters most.

Be sure to like and subscribe to the pod and let us know how yall feel in the comments. 

Transcript

SPEAKER_05 0:00

Hey y'all, welcome back. It's another episode, Boys Will Be Boys and Her. This week's episode is called Hey Best Friend. Hey. Like, comment, and subscribe.

SPEAKER_07 0:13

Hey yo, I ain't gonna lie. Gas prices been going crazy in the city right now. Yo, if y'all co-worker had to pass your house every day to go to work, do you feel as if he's obligated to give you a ride even if you don't offer money?

SPEAKER_06 0:32

I don't feel like he's obligated, but he's definitely obligated to offer.

SPEAKER_03 0:37

I got a good heart game, so I ain't gonna charge nothing, but around my mirror, you just gotta come find me, bro.

SPEAKER_05 0:45

I mean, I feel like if you pass and by me, I'ma just stand outside and be like this. But I will offer, like, you know, lunch or gas, like, you know, something.

SPEAKER_07 0:55

The type of person I am, if I see you out there like that and you just like pick me up or I'm gonna put my foot on the gas. Nah, but for real, like the offer should be there, you know? Because they still gotta pay that gas money, and the prices are so crazy that you should offer something. At least a drink, bath, something like that. You know what I'm saying? Hey yo, welcome back to the boys will be boys and her pod. It's your boy, Mr. Don't get in the first.

SPEAKER_02 1:31

You in the chat. You in the chat, vo. You in the chat? You in the chat. You in the chat.

SPEAKER_07 1:39

All right, we got a special guest here. Shout out to the special guest. You want to introduce yourself? What's up?

SPEAKER_05 1:45

Hi guys, I'm a spectre, honey. It's my best friend.

SPEAKER_06 1:47

And best friend.

SPEAKER_03 1:51

They practice that shit for like five minutes with children.

SPEAKER_05 1:54

Well, we've been doing that since college. Hold it down and give her hands. We knew each other since high school. Oh, okay. It's like 20 years, right?

SPEAKER_07 2:00

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 2:02

Don't you put it in the next time?

SPEAKER_06 2:10

The math is mathing today.

SPEAKER_05 2:11

The math is mathing today.

SPEAKER_03 2:14

Well, go ahead, go ahead.

SPEAKER_06 2:15

Hey everyone. My name is Yolanda. I am Britney's best friend. Thanks for having me, guys.

SPEAKER_03 2:22

Welcome, welcome, welcome. Welcome to the show. Yes, yes. Good to see you. Jordan, how you feeling, big bro?

SPEAKER_07 2:28

You know, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good. Uh I got some some things to say this week. You know, I got things to say every week, but still, you know. Mr. Standing on business. He got his drop.

SPEAKER_05 2:40

Yeah, he got his drop. He hyped. Anyhow, I'm excited. My best friends are in here. You know, sometimes I'll be lonely. It don't be no girl. Shout out to Delilah. Miss you, honey. But yeah, like, you know.

SPEAKER_03 2:50

I mean, I mean, y'all didn't even, we went through three different nobody said happy Mother's Day, y'all. Nobody said I'm a sick.

SPEAKER_05 2:55

We was gonna get into that. That's it. I feel like we wasn't gonna get into that.

SPEAKER_03 2:58

How y'all feeling? I mean, Nick's just won. Nick's got the sweep. Standing on business. That's standing on business. Stand on business. We got the win. I'm feeling I'm excited, y'all. Like, it's Mother's Day. I took care of my mom's this week. This year, my fault.

SPEAKER_04 3:12

This year.

SPEAKER_03 3:12

I mean, like for Mother's for the holiday. Like, I didn't know. Relax, relax. I'm a good one. Relax, relax. Yeah, relax, relax. And my grandmother's so it was good. Just left their crib. Came to film with y'all. That's how dedicated we are to the pod. Filming on the holiday. We here, we here for y'all.

SPEAKER_05 3:28

I mean, I don't, I feel like this holidays for social media, but you know.

SPEAKER_03 3:31

I mean, do you believe in Christmas? There you go, y'all.

SPEAKER_05 3:34

Social media. But however, Valentine's Day is for social media too, but I still want my gifts, Corey. Thank you very much.

SPEAKER_03 3:39

Yo, Honda, how you feeling? How's your mother's day going?

SPEAKER_06 3:42

You see how bias today. Today is great. Definitely gonna cook my mom her favorite meal. Love you, mom. But um, yeah, every day for my mom.

SPEAKER_03 3:53

What was the meal?

SPEAKER_06 3:54

Well, this time she's like a big fan of pasta, so she wants the ricutoni bolognese and she wants the garlic herb bread.

SPEAKER_03 4:01

Oh, big chef'.

SPEAKER_06 4:02

Made from scratch. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 4:04

Rick, can you make that? I don't know how to make it. I'm not trying to rival y'all together.

SPEAKER_05 4:07

I didn't feel no weight.

SPEAKER_03 4:08

I low-key m though. I just want to know if you can make that.

SPEAKER_05 4:09

Wow, that's right.

SPEAKER_07 4:10

I mean, they used to that though. Like even in college, it's be like, yo, if I see if I see Britney and I don't see Yolanda, what happened?

SPEAKER_05 4:15

Yeah, yeah, like they can shut that up to me.

SPEAKER_07 4:18

I was asking the pod.

SPEAKER_05 4:19

Anywho, but I am excited to see my best friend make her own bread because I don't know how to make bread from scratch. So I'm definitely, you know, gonna try that after she showed me how she knows who can?

SPEAKER_03 4:28

Your boy.

SPEAKER_05 4:28

You know how to make bread from scratch?

SPEAKER_03 4:30

Everything. Five-star chef.

SPEAKER_07 4:31

I've actually made bread from scratch too. I cook. All the men on the pod making bread from scratch.

SPEAKER_05 4:34

You know how to make bread from scratch? Yeah, that's why I told you before the. While you were telling her what to use? Okay. So I'm next. After Yolanda tried it, I'm gonna be next to make my bread. I'm gonna bring it.

SPEAKER_06 4:42

Next time y'all do an episode, y'all should definitely do like in the kitchen.

SPEAKER_03 4:46

I got the chef hat too on deck. So I got the email in the chat somewhere. Okay.

SPEAKER_07 4:51

Let's set it up. Chef it up. I'm with it. I like to give a shout out to my moms too. You know, every day we show love to my mom. So thank you. Shout out to mama love. I think I did speak to your mom too, right? I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 5:03

That nigga lying.

SPEAKER_05 5:10

That was yesterday.

SPEAKER_07 5:10

You're right. You know what? Mom's yesterday. Speaking of the chefs joining. Happy Mother's Day, mom. And I would like to say, shout out to my mom. Divine Multiservice. Yeah, we got the props.

SPEAKER_03 5:22

We got the props. Shout out to the props.

SPEAKER_07 5:24

We in the chat, y'all. We in the budget.

SPEAKER_02 5:27

Slowly but surely.

SPEAKER_03 5:28

We'll have our shoes on solar.

SPEAKER_07 5:30

I don't know about that. Shoes still, shoes.

SPEAKER_03 5:33

So speaking of chefs, we're gonna go to a I don't want to say wannabe chef. She might actually be a chef. I don't really know, but the Stefan Diggs case with Britt, can you please remind me of this young lady's name?

SPEAKER_05 5:43

Jamel Jamela Adams.

SPEAKER_03 5:45

I remember once I looked at you. I remember, yeah, yeah. So just testing me? No, no, I remember like I had a blind, like a blind, a blind moment, didn't I remember it? So Jamel Adams, Stefan Diggs trial was the most popping thing of the week in the city said what segment, so we're gonna get into it. After a 90-minute deliberation trial, which is one of the quickest trial decisions ever. Usually when that happens, guys, you're usually not guilty.

SPEAKER_07 6:09

She got on stand and they were just like, uh-uh, not today.

SPEAKER_03 6:12

We don't believe nothing you said, so Stephon Diggs was found not guilty. This is a crazy moment. I think the biggest highlights we could take away from this was she basically at first said she didn't want to embarrass herself. That's what took her so long to come forward. But then when she took the stand, she ended up embarrassing herself. Times, who knows? I think this is something that could, I don't say you can even work again, that people could even hire you to do any type of service after something like this happened. But what are your thoughts? Yulanda, we'll go to you first. Um, one of the biggest things I found interesting during this trial was how she flat out admitted she was trying to befriend Cardi after even sleeping with her. What are your thoughts on that?

SPEAKER_06 6:45

I think desperate times call for desperate measures. I think she shouldn't have done that. She should have just kept it straight business and kept uh personal to the side and just so many other things or people that you could talk to instead of him.

SPEAKER_03 6:59

So you think she you think she shouldn't even work with him from the beginning?

SPEAKER_06 7:02

I don't think she should have like slept with him or do anything of the sort, just kept it strictly business.

SPEAKER_03 7:08

I'm not gonna tell her that's how she feels.

SPEAKER_05 7:09

That's how she feels. I don't think that was a case. I mean, I don't disagree with her, however, I feel like he knew what he was doing. Like, I even watched his hairstylist, like she's mad. Yeah, definitely. Like she was mad pretty. I'm like, oh nah.

SPEAKER_02 7:21

Took that down.

SPEAKER_05 7:22

Like, if you look at his lineup, his lineup, yeah, his roster.

SPEAKER_06 7:28

I mean some girls do not want to be a part of that if you're them. Let's be honest. Look how it turned out for her.

SPEAKER_03 7:33

So here's the thing. That's how, yeah, because she tried, she had as Jordan would say, too much chip on the dip.

SPEAKER_07 7:38

Too much dip on the chip.

SPEAKER_03 7:40

She tried to do way too much. That's he fucked up to say. I know what I said. He fucked up to say, but in this saying, okay, in this situation, right? If you're in a situation where I think she did this to try and get a restaurant, like that was what was said in the text messages.

SPEAKER_07 7:55

So she may just get that restaurant.

SPEAKER_03 7:58

That was her end goal, and she might, she might. I don't think so. And if she does, I don't think many people are gonna go.

SPEAKER_07 8:02

I'ma be honest with you. When you said she ain't gonna get another job, I agree. Like, I who's gonna hire for after this. Not only that, but the other girl that to did the interview that worked for him, she was like, yo, the girl was making just regular hobby. There was no actual hiring process.

SPEAKER_05 8:20

Oh, it's his fault. He knew what he was doing.

SPEAKER_07 8:24

I think it was on something like type of situation, like yo, he saw her, it was like, yo, this is a good thing. They said that he took it down a couple times and then hired to be a chef. She said, Yo, I'm a chef. He like, I bet I'm gonna move you in as a chef. He was giving her like $2,000 a week. So she like, yo, the money right. I don't gotta pay no bread to live here. Not really cooking. Not really cooking.

SPEAKER_06 8:48

Hot dogs? I mean, not even making bread, y'all.

SPEAKER_07 8:55

If I had that Stefan Diggs money, I still need my peanut butter and jellies and shit too. But I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_05 9:00

Yeah, but he's not gonna eat that every day.

SPEAKER_07 9:02

You're gonna want a four-force meal. And the lady was saying dried up hot dogs. Like, like at least let the hot dogs be fresh, nice, maybe get my chili and my cheese and shit.

SPEAKER_03 9:10

But I I think this is more of a situation. Brandon's about to do Amazon. I think this is more of a situation where, as we spoke about last week, when rich people have options, they could kind of do what they want and have fuck you money. And so you look at this situation, Stefan Diggs was in a situation where I think he was doing fuck boy antics, but I think they all they not to be had no pun intended, but they sat at the menu, they sat at the table, looked at the menu, and still decided to eat. You know what I'm saying? They everybody knew what was going on. Like, there wasn't no like surprise on what he was doing, you know. And I feel like he was probably being honest with them too. Like, you can't say everybody knew about Cardi because it was a public relationship, you know what I'm saying? So, from that standpoint, and everybody else is just trying to play ball, just trying to get theirs, and everybody wanted a piece.

SPEAKER_07 9:52

Yeah, she she tried to move, grew, slide, and grind, but she tried to razzle, dazzle. Yeah, she basically, yeah, she tried to let's switch it there. She tried to razzle and dazzle and just was not razzling and dazzling the right way. Yeah, I'm crying now. She did try to razzle.

SPEAKER_05 10:06

And then she came out with like text messages after like he was found out guilty, like trying to prove her point still. I'm like, girl, like just give it up.

SPEAKER_03 10:13

You're you're referring to when she was even digged, like, oh, I love you, this isn't that.

SPEAKER_05 10:16

Yeah, those that holds no weight in the text message.

SPEAKER_03 10:19

Like a guy can say I love you and not mean it. She's the oldest one in the chat and she's acting in Madrid.

SPEAKER_07 10:24

It reminds me of that song, you know, she's phony, she's fake.

SPEAKER_03 10:27

100%.

SPEAKER_07 10:28

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 10:28

Like, you know, you know, so I've I just I just find it interesting to when I see some people just really ain't shit. Like these, like it's very rare when you get to your own foot on storefront and someone who's ain't shit, like they doubling down on their fucking bullshit. Very rare.

SPEAKER_07 10:46

Can you really say he ain't shit? No, I'm talking about her. No, oh, oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:49

All right, like that's like that's that's I'm talking about her, like seeing her on storefront just not just being a bad human being.

SPEAKER_07 10:54

You try to make him look bad and say like he ain't shit, but then you got Cardi popping up to the mama mama event. Oh, the charity event that he took though.

SPEAKER_05 11:02

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 11:05

What just a picture? Yeah, he was kissing on her.

unknown 11:09

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 11:09

She like hugged his mom and everything like that. Like, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 11:12

Like she was really there, like, I'm here for the event, but I'm here for my man type situations. Like, she ain't care.

SPEAKER_03 11:17

So you think women always go back, Britt?

SPEAKER_05 11:19

Yes, nine times out of ten.

SPEAKER_03 11:20

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 11:22

I'm not lying. Nine times out of ten. Women go back.

SPEAKER_07 11:25

That's a big number, but a huge number.

SPEAKER_06 11:26

You know, I agree. I second that notion. Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 11:30

You oh you think so too, Yolanda. So I don't want to throw you under the bus. So what will cause you to leave a situation? Because this is like she was publicly embarrassed.

SPEAKER_05 11:39

So it's gonna sound crazy. To be honest, I think um violence, D V, right? Of course. That one would say, of course, because if you're something like women do get some but for me, you're asking me personally. So that um I think that would be I think that in the past, like I'll say, I'm done, and then two weeks later, hey, like a big head. Oh the haze with hey with the man with my head. Well, usually it's a booty call. But um nine times out of ten, women go back. A relationship don't end unless the man ends it. And y'all really end it. You know what? I can't wait. I like where y'all going with this.

SPEAKER_07 12:33

I like where y'all going with this, but let's say this. All right, so you feel like later, I feel like later this is gonna come up again.

SPEAKER_05 12:38

Let's move on.

SPEAKER_03 12:38

Let's move on. But Jordan, how we even get into the everybody's week in shit, bro. Yolanda threw me off for her comments.

SPEAKER_07 12:44

Well, I'm gonna be honest with you.

SPEAKER_03 12:46

No shade, no shade.

SPEAKER_07 12:47

If we're talking about my week, yo, I just bought some tickets to Don Tolliver.

SPEAKER_03 12:51

I've been seeing those clips about to go up. I've been seeing those clips. He's the hottest in hip hop right now. I didn't hear the album, but I don't know what that is. That's fine.

SPEAKER_07 12:58

It's like look, look, guess what? We're gonna send you that album and you're gonna enjoy it. Okay, thank you. You're gonna enjoy it.

SPEAKER_03 13:03

You didn't hear Breezy's album yet?

SPEAKER_02 13:05

I didn't. I heard that. You heard it?

SPEAKER_03 13:07

Yeah, I was gonna text you. Like, yo, I'm I heard your boy.

SPEAKER_05 13:11

Don't say my boy, you know, Cory watching. What's wrong with you?

SPEAKER_03 13:16

Um, you know, it's like, I think was it 27 songs, not jump? Really? Yeah. I mean, he's uh I I'm not the biggest CB f but the the Honey Pack song goes crazy. He got a song with vibes. It's actually I fucking vibes. Yeah, it's all right it wasn't bad. I heard that. Um there's a lot of the new music that was up. Heard the Kalani tape.

SPEAKER_07 13:33

Yeah, the Kalani tape was.

SPEAKER_05 13:34

Klian Tape is solid. I think you the one that told me that one day. Kalani and Kallion tape.

SPEAKER_03 13:39

Did you hear any of those albums? I didn't hear it yet. Y'all like oh uh Joe, I don't know if you listen to this dude. Uh Elmatic is one of Wild Wave's artists.

SPEAKER_07 13:48

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 13:49

He's solid.

SPEAKER_07 13:50

You already know that boy goes crazy.

SPEAKER_03 13:51

He's solid, yeah. He's solid. His album just came out, big friend of that. But shout out to him.

SPEAKER_05 13:54

Speaking of albums, did y'all hear Lotto talking about the tyranny?

SPEAKER_03 13:57

Oh shit, great segment. Look at you. Segway on the pod, dude. Okay, on the pod.

SPEAKER_05 14:02

I can't shake now that's how it's but it's Sigberry on the pod with the segment. But yeah, Lotto talking about the tyranny. What's up, big mama? Because you a Lotto fan. What's up? How you feeling?

SPEAKER_07 14:15

Um, I'm gonna be honest with you. It's gonna be sad to see Lotto go because I feel like she's like just now, like not really hitting her ceiling, but like she's breaking through what everybody was like capping her at. And she's been really hot right now, especially for like female artists, she's been really hot. So, you know, it's gonna be sad to see her go a little bit. But then at the same time, like in her profession as a rapper, any hip-hop or music like profession, they retire, they come back a couple years later. So I don't see that shit being like an absolute type of situation. So we're gonna see Big Mama again.

SPEAKER_05 14:50

I definitely agree. Like, I feel like it's just for her to take some time off, and then she's gonna come back with a banger, like Big Mama One Kid album coming out.

SPEAKER_03 15:02

Um, I was like, I'm actually I'm like Jordan. I mean, Jordan might be a bigger fan than me, but I definitely look like Lado and Cody one of the two like female rappers I actually actively listened to. Like Georgia Peach is actively in the rotation at least like once a week or nine, like once a day. If I'm in the gym, I'm playing Georgia Peach 100%. So um it was it was definitely surprising, but I also feel like you know, uh I think she's in a different category as opposed to other female rappers, where I think she does come off as more genuine with certain things that she says, and the type of not wanting to have that type of this is gonna be her first child, so she doesn't want to rob the opportunity of going on tour, and she may actually want to invest in the family lifestyle. That might be what she really wants, you know what I'm saying? So if that's what she wants and she doesn't want this, I mean, this is not 21 Savage's first kid, which is cool. And she knew that going in, but she might be like, yo, I want to, I want this. If I really want this to work, I want to be invested. And part of me being invested is putting my career on hold for my family, which I think is honorable. I think enough people don't do that enough, you know what I'm saying? So it's not I you can't hate on that. I think as a fans we can because selfishly we just want to hear more music. But for all we know, she might just drop a she might drop a Chris Brown drunk. Give us 30 tapes, 30 songs, and you know, uh, but like Jordan said, I think she will be back within this is not gonna be Rihanna situation. She's not gonna be gone forever. Damn, sure not because I'm back. Yeah, it's not gonna be that type of situation, you know what I'm saying? Oh no, 100%. I I don't think I don't think that's gonna be a situation.

SPEAKER_06 16:25

I definitely agree with you on that one. Um, I feel like she's going into uncharted waters. So being that this is her first kid, you know, you're more hands-on, you don't want to miss anything, the first step, the first walk, the first mama, the big mama. That might be the baby's first words. Who knows? But I also feel like um she might be having something up her sleeve, something in the archives. Yeah. Like, oh, you thought you thought I was finished? Nah.

SPEAKER_07 16:52

And she and she also presents that type of energy too. Like, her ego is big enough to be like, yeah, yeah, I thought uh, you know, she would say a bitch. I don't think I'm calling her one, but she's like, Yeah, thought a bitch was finished, and I'm coming back with that file. I don't think nobody actually thinks she's done though.

SPEAKER_05 17:06

It was I I think Lizzo and a couple of other celebrities like actually like posted like, I'ma don't retire, I'ma miss you, but I'm gonna be like, I think a lot of people are actually like fans of her.

SPEAKER_03 17:16

Like I think her her rise to stardom seems like she hit on the reality TV before that, you know, in the competition shows. Uh Jermaine Depreze. Yeah, so I think her rise to fame is different. So she was always around the industry. She hustled. Yeah, 100%. So I think it's just different. And she she does come off as genuinely like a solid like hustler. Like, I think people still admire someone who's uh you know out the trenches and gets to it. Like you have to it has to be when you come from humble beginnings, people have to respect that. Like when it's genuine, you can't you can't fake that. You know what I'm saying? So I I'm happy. I mean, I'm definitely gonna be excited for the tape. 100%. I have a question for you though, bro. And Yolanda too, because I was just I just thought about this. At what point in your career, if you have in this point like her where you're at your career, I want to say pinnacle, but you're on your way up, and you're in a situation where you meet someone uh who is also wealthy, and he says he wants you to retire. Do you do it? I'm not saying that, I'm not insinuating that's what 21 did. I'm not, I'm definitely not saying that. I'm just saying hypothetically.

SPEAKER_05 18:11

That's tricky. Because I always like to say, you know, I'm independent, right? So um, and these are conversations I have with Corey too, like, you know, when kids come about, like, am I a stay-at-home wife? Like, I think me personally, I can't do it because I'm so used to moving around. It would be not that I wouldn't, but it'd be hard for me to adjust to do it. But if, you know, my significant other is making sure I'm good and I'm able to have something for myself. Um not saying of I just feel like as me being independent, I I just need to have something for myself just to be there. Not saying that we're gonna break up or anything, but because of like how I was raised, like I just need to have that for myself, just to say, like, okay, I need that. Like, God forbid, my significant other passes away or something like that. God forbid, you know, I still want to be make sure that me, the kids, and the family, which granted, he was probably set up, most likely set up, but at the same time, like I just want to make sure that I'm good.

SPEAKER_07 19:07

So not necessarily that it gotta be a job, but even if it's like a project that you want to do.

SPEAKER_05 19:11

Yeah, like something like I'm I I need to, so to answer your question, I probably I would, right? But I would still need to keep moving. I can't see myself staying at home. Like whether it's creating something for the kids, like volunteering or doing something, I would have to keep moving. For sure.

SPEAKER_06 19:28

To be honest, I don't lie for the pod. No, I'm not a stay-at-home kind of person. No, I like to work, like I really be busting like 70 hours at work and stuff where I work. So it's like I can't save myself sitting still.

SPEAKER_07 19:42

Shout out to y'all. No, but hold on. But if I'm rich, you're not working no 70, 80 hours? Where's my time at?

SPEAKER_06 19:48

Your time is gonna be there.

SPEAKER_07 19:49

Not no 70, 80 hours at work. No, you better cut you better cut that shit down to 30 to 40.

SPEAKER_03 19:54

See, that's why that's why they call this nigga toxic. Oh dude.

SPEAKER_07 19:57

How?

SPEAKER_03 19:58

But wait, quick question though, because it's shout out to y'all, because nobody mentioned prenup. So y'all won't even ask for a prenup.

SPEAKER_06 20:03

No. Oh, shout out.

SPEAKER_03 20:06

Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait.

SPEAKER_07 20:07

Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.

SPEAKER_06 20:08

So it's hot.

SPEAKER_07 20:08

So you're saying you so you say you're not signing the prenup? Or you you not What do we need a prenup for?

SPEAKER_05 20:14

Right. What you mean? What do we need a prenup for? Well, as far as what look at me, bro. Go ahead and defend yourself. Stand on yours.

SPEAKER_07 20:21

I'm gonna I'm gonna put it like this, right? Standing on me. Whatever job you get, uh-huh, whatever job you get, or your children is young, all that stuff, you get life insurance, right? Correct. Why you get life insurance? For protection. Because it's protection and insurance. That's what a prenup is for. Protection and insurance to your assets.

SPEAKER_05 20:38

So you say we should give the prenup or the guy if the guy is.

SPEAKER_07 20:41

If he's rich, he gives you one. If you rich, you better give his ass one. You don't want to be like motherfucking steadman and all these other people. You don't want to be like Holly Berry.

SPEAKER_03 20:52

So the way I was phrasing it more so was that I feel like if a man is wealthy enough to have his wife like retire and do nothing, whatever, she there's no as a female, you should not sign the prenup because you're you're truly cutting your whole life off.

SPEAKER_05 21:07

Basically.

SPEAKER_03 21:08

So I don't I I don't think you should because if the guy, but that's wild.

SPEAKER_05 21:12

No. You're saying so we start working and sign a prenup?

SPEAKER_03 21:15

And sign the prenup?

SPEAKER_07 21:15

Yeah, hell yeah, because this is what you do too. Look, look, I got a step-by-lost me, big bro. This is where you fucking up. I got a step by step for each thing. If he's rich and he's taking care of everything and you getting your own projects and stuff like that, or let's say you starting your own businesses, those are your assets that you put in your name. Yeah, but because I'm married, but you might be using his money and stuff like that to invest that and put that stuff in your name. But once you do that, that's what you're setting up for just in case something happened. But he still gets part of that. Oh, he doesn't. Yes, he does. Oh, he doesn't. When you create something when you're married, yes, only when your assets are worth more than his. He's the breadwinner that we talk about. That is how that works. You split assets 50 50 based off of the marriage. And if the Person makes more than you, they're the ones that's liable to have to pay you. That's how it works.

SPEAKER_03 22:04

I don't believe that's how that works. That's called a lawyer. Anybody got a lawyer? So, and here's the thing too, as we're on this topic, because I do feel like going to back to the Stephon Diggs thing real quick, really quick, is that you know, there's an old saying how when people mention gold diggers, there's men who let themselves get ducked, who dig their own grave, you know? I see what I'm saying. And it's kind of ridiculous in this situation where if you're messing around with all these women, now granted, if you're using protection, you should be good. But the one time you slip up, like if this chick is going away, she's going after him. You know what I'm saying? She was, I mean, she I mean he already paid her, and she was still trying to tarnish his name. You know, that's so it's just crazy how when you're in some of these situations when you have to think twice ahead, but like uh people often say, with more power because more responsibility. So now time back into this. I do think though, if you are in a situation where you marry someone who is wealthy and they want you to retire, I don't think you should sign the prenup because you're putting your whole life in someone else's hands. Yeah, 100%. Legit, there's no fact. Yeah, that's the definition of blind loyalty.

SPEAKER_07 23:02

Look at it like this. You don't think Cardi B wish she would have signed the prenup? She got her own money. I was gonna say that's kind of different. They got their own money. Exactly. She got her own money, so why do you think if they do it? Why do you think stuff is not final for them? But even if they do, he's the one who gets the assets because he's not worth as much.

SPEAKER_03 23:16

Right, but he's the one that's making it difficult.

SPEAKER_07 23:18

So even if he did sign a prenup. But that's what I'm saying. Because he didn't want to sign a prenup, and he ain't gonna he ain't gonna want to like just sign everything over and to all the assets.

SPEAKER_03 23:25

But this that's a different story because as a man, you should just like yo, just chalk it up.

SPEAKER_07 23:28

As a man, but I don't mean you gotta make all the manly menly decisions as a man, and that's clearly what he's not doing. It's a reason why he's being petty.

SPEAKER_05 23:36

You will move like or sight out.

SPEAKER_00 23:39

Oh that's a clip. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 23:43

That's crazy. I'm just I'm just saying started something. You're about to go off. I'm about to go off. That was crazy. Nah, all I'm saying is, all I'm saying is, yes, you should sign the prenup, but you should also make sure that you're like secure before and after. Why you hyping it up? I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_05 24:02

I was not looking in before.

SPEAKER_07 24:04

It's okay. I thought we was cool, but you know.

SPEAKER_05 24:05

We are cool. Don't do that. Don't do that.

SPEAKER_03 24:08

I was not looking in, but I don't Jordan, I know when accept that, but Jalen. I'm just saying, bro. You gotta stand on your last name. You gotta end up business.

SPEAKER_05 24:20

Jalen's having fun with time.

SPEAKER_03 24:24

All right, Jordan. This is our time to shine, big boy. We're gonna get into it. We cap some sports real quick.

SPEAKER_05 24:29

Ladies, please chime in because Oh, I'm in the chat because I've been watching the Spurs.

SPEAKER_03 24:33

And uh, what's your homeboy's name? On the Spurs?

SPEAKER_05 24:36

Lama Lama.

SPEAKER_03 24:38

Victory.

SPEAKER_05 24:41

Shoutouts to Lama Lama.

SPEAKER_03 24:43

We're gonna start off with Rapid?

SPEAKER_07 24:45

Lama Lama rep pajamas.

SPEAKER_03 24:48

So the Spurs are actually up to one in the series. The last game. Uh, they play tonight, right? If I'm mistaken. Yeah. They played tonight. So if we're gonna Sunday, they do play tonight. Spurs are up to one in the series. Last the last game, first game in Minnesota. Both superstars dropped 35 plus. Spurs came out victorious, they're up to one. It's the best of seven, Brits. So but the Spurs are looking good to advance the Eastern Conference finance.

SPEAKER_05 25:10

He was took in like AE, was injured. Baba. I didn't.

SPEAKER_03 25:13

What's AE?

SPEAKER_05 25:14

Uh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 25:15

Anthony Edwards. Come on, you in the chat, boy. You gotta kid me.

SPEAKER_05 25:17

I'm in the chat. I just know AE. But he was injured, right?

SPEAKER_03 25:21

Anthony Edwards is the one who he what's the name of that uh you also got 11 right now out of 34.

SPEAKER_00 25:26

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_03 25:27

What's the uh what was the young lady he was messing with that he got pregnant? Who? Oh Anthony Edwards.

SPEAKER_02 25:31

He had he paid he I forgot her name, but yo.

SPEAKER_03 25:34

I know her, she's a celebrity King Swindle, Anthony Edwards. But he It's a celebrity? I'll give you a quick synopsis. So she's I believe it's futures.

SPEAKER_07 25:49

She's something like that.

SPEAKER_03 25:49

Joey, Joey, uh don't ask me on that. Don't ask me.

SPEAKER_07 25:53

I think I think she's future baby mama. I can't remember.

SPEAKER_03 25:56

But niggas you don't even know.

SPEAKER_07 25:59

I can't remember. I've already seen future baby mama. But so what happens is he gets her pregnant, he said, fuck that shit. I don't want that kid. Get rid of it. She says, No. Because she seen the bag. Yeah, and she was like, because she was telling him, like, you know, I'm on this, I'm on that, I ain't gonna get pregnant, I want you to this, this, that, and me. And you know he's young, dumb, and rich, so young, dumb for the So what she did was initially she filed for child support, right? So if if like if she got a petition in Atlanta, but then moved to Cali, because she realized, like, yo, if I go to Cali, the bag gets bigger. The judge says, nah, you just moved to Cali, we're not accepting that. We feel like you moved there just to try to get more money. Stays in Atlanta, they calculate however much he's supposed to pay now before the baby is born. So he goes, fuck that shit. I want to pay everything at once.

SPEAKER_03 27:04

So I checked for a million dollars. Go away.

SPEAKER_05 27:07

Oh, he's the one that did that.

SPEAKER_03 27:08

Yeah, that's him.

SPEAKER_05 27:09

Oh, okay, because y'all talked about this before. That was smart. That was before he really got big.

SPEAKER_07 27:13

Yeah, but that's right. Before he signed, I think he signed for like over 300 million. Oh, that's what's up. That's smart. He tried to get ahead of her. So now she big mad. Like, so you know, she already signed the paperwork and all that stuff for the Millie. Spent it.

SPEAKER_04 27:28

She spent it?

SPEAKER_03 27:30

Yeah, yeah, she spent it. So now she's trying to take him back. And they said they're going through litigation now.

SPEAKER_07 27:34

Yeah, and he only did that because now he's about to get a new contract and all that other stuff.

SPEAKER_03 27:41

I think he's dealt in a couple more years. But anyway, as you move on. Yeah. Uh Lakers gave it their all, but still lost. They're down three on the series. The sweepers looking eminent, Jordan. What are your thoughts? LeBron. I can't say James. I'm blowing the smoke as crazy.

SPEAKER_07 27:57

We ain't gonna talk about it. We're just gonna move on to the next one.

SPEAKER_03 28:00

OKC and company looking like OKC and the Spurs looking for an eminent match, the Western Conference finals.

SPEAKER_07 28:06

I mean, we can't really say that. It's only 2-1 right now.

SPEAKER_03 28:09

Yeah, you're right. They still got their game going on. Um, shift over to the Eastern Conference real quick. Big ball. We got Detroit in Cleveland. They're going at it 2-1. You know, you know it's on the Cavs, right? Miss Jones. Yes, Coco Choice. There you go. She was looking all hype. She saw her man. She was about to cry out. She was Dr. Michael.

SPEAKER_07 28:25

You know James Harden.

SPEAKER_03 28:26

You know James Harden? Y'all in the chat. Y'all in the chat. Yeah, yeah. James Harden down.

SPEAKER_07 28:30

That's one of the big beard, right?

SPEAKER_03 28:31

100%. They were the Kardashians back on the city. James Harden was getting ridiculed by the fans. Came out big in game three. Dropped the last, I think he had what, the last seven points in the third in the fourth quarter for his team to give him the victory. Made the big three, made the big floater. Vinces. James Harden was live in effect. K Cunningham, bad boy, just didn't have enough. It was a great game, but now it's 2-1. Now the question is they all shift to can the Cavs win the road game? Because I think they're all going to start the series at 2-2 and then it becomes a best of a best of five. No best of three, I'm sorry. And going for the game five, they have to go to Detroit. So interesting there, but what do you think is going to happen in the series?

SPEAKER_07 29:08

I'm going to be honest with you. I don't give a fuck about that series. Let's slide to the next, my boy. Can we get a New York City parade? No, no, no, no, no, don't talk about it.

SPEAKER_03 29:32

Let's go next, man. Let's go next, man. I'm excited. Knicks officially get the sweep. I'm actually sad because what the fuck am I gonna do for a whole week, bro, with no Knicks? As I try to figure out, because now, Britt, they won't. They don't play until next week. I have to await the winner between Cleveland and Detroit. Hopefully it's Cleveland. It's a better matchup for us. But the Knicks win. Well, we go to the Eastern Conference Finals, Britt. I'm gonna have to take you downtown with Corey. We're gonna have to go downtown and see what and see what the vibes is like.

SPEAKER_06 29:57

Yellonie coming? Of course. I'm gonna fly the way. I'm gonna fly away.

SPEAKER_05 30:03

Flight? You know, we in New York, right? Oh, that was blowing too much smoke. Yeah, I don't understand. Got to my brain south. My whole house locked in and shit.

SPEAKER_07 30:12

We were here. We were here. I guess I get the analogy. MSG is pretty far.

SPEAKER_03 30:17

Anyway, but Okay, moving on. Knicks officially moved to Easter Conference Finals, but what are your thoughts on my New York Knicks?

SPEAKER_07 30:24

Like I said before we started this whole thing, man. I feel like the Knicks got a road, a nice road to the finals. They get there, like I said, get a get us a parade. I ain't a Knicks fan, but I'll be there.

SPEAKER_03 30:38

It was crazy because I let me. There's actually some haters in New York, bro. I was at work today, and then I get to the light, and I'm talking to my boy about we're talking about the Knicks. And I don't know how, somehow, somewhere this Negro heard what we were discussing. And he turns and is like, nah, the Knicks is trash. I'm like, bro, what? Like, where you from? He's like, I'm from the Bronx. I'm like, bro, you just some type of trader shit you on, bro. You going against your own city? He's like, nah, they just whacked, blah, blah, blah. And he started going off. I just drove off away from that nigga. I couldn't, I couldn't. I don't know, but he was just on some Hayden shit, bro. It's like next, I didn't like that negative energy around me when my team had a chance to advance the next round. I feel like we did we we as a city didn't need it. Yeah, like we we didn't. You forgive them saying, Yolanda?

unknown 31:16

No.

SPEAKER_05 31:17

She's not a Knicks fan.

SPEAKER_03 31:19

I'm talking about people we're in your city just be against you. Basketball though, but she What's your team, Yolanda?

SPEAKER_05 31:25

Yo, but you make it look bad.

SPEAKER_06 31:30

You make it me look fanny. It's not invited back. Negative energy. As much as I okay, I don't really watch sports like that. I'm sorry. However, I'm more into college football or sorry, college basketball than I am the NBA. I just feel like because NBA they trade, and sometimes you're part of like the the team, but then you're really for the player when they get traded. I get that. I get that. I'm more into like college.

SPEAKER_03 31:54

College, that's fair. You invite it back. She passed.

SPEAKER_06 31:58

She crazy.

SPEAKER_05 31:59

That was crazy.

SPEAKER_03 31:59

It was. Now, what also is crazy is I had this discussion with Jordan before the show. And we was going like a little smiling back and forth before we get into the her segment relationship shit. We just got some main shit to talk about because I feel like as men, we gotta have these conversations.

SPEAKER_05 32:12

Okay, let's talk about it. What you got? What's your what's your thing?

SPEAKER_03 32:14

I feel like how the way men handle breakups and are giving advice from their homeboys is kind of different than how women give advice to their homegirls during the breakup. See you or no, Britt.

SPEAKER_05 32:24

Um, I don't feel like it's different.

SPEAKER_03 32:27

So, Yolanda breaks up with somebody right now.

SPEAKER_05 32:29

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03 32:30

What advice are you giving her?

SPEAKER_05 32:31

I know she's going back, so I'm not giving advice. All right. Yo. We know it's final.

SPEAKER_07 32:37

We know it's final. Am I lying? She's saying Yolanda's a part of the 90%. It's 90%.

SPEAKER_05 32:45

Wait, we're not gonna do my best friend like that.

SPEAKER_07 32:47

You're gonna like that. You're gonna come under the books.

SPEAKER_05 32:52

When the girl says she done, she not done.

SPEAKER_07 32:54

No, but but we saying we know for a fact that this one is over.

SPEAKER_05 32:59

If you're talking about me and Yolanda personally, yeah, she's not gonna tell me she's done.

SPEAKER_07 33:04

Oh, no, no, but she told you she's done. Like, like she broke the rules. She's fucking about hypothetical. She's not going back. She's done.

SPEAKER_05 33:11

She's not going back, she done. She's not going to listen to me. So I mean. Hey, what are you telling her though? A shoulder to cry on is a finishing.

SPEAKER_03 33:22

You are she said you be outside in them streets.

SPEAKER_05 33:24

No, no, no, no. That's what girls usually say. But no, I can't. You know, if you want me to answer the question, I have to use it as a personal thing. But no, no, no.

SPEAKER_07 33:32

Okay, no, no, use a different friend, other than Yolanda.

SPEAKER_05 33:35

Not Yolanda. A friend that, let's say, uh friends be going back, y'all.

SPEAKER_03 33:42

So, what I'm hearing is Yolanda, she has no faith in you, in your discipline.

SPEAKER_05 33:45

I don't have faith in any of my friends. I used to be one of the girls that go back.

SPEAKER_03 33:49

No, no pussy man.

SPEAKER_07 33:50

Man, they all going back. So if you out there, just know. If she says she done it, she lying. She'll be right back.

SPEAKER_05 33:58

I'll be back, baby. I'll be back.

SPEAKER_03 33:59

Do what you do in the meantime.

SPEAKER_05 34:02

Oh, honestly, no, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_03 34:04

That's what I'm saying. It's much different than the advice that guys give.

SPEAKER_05 34:06

It is, right?

SPEAKER_03 34:07

However, I'm trying to give the woman the leg to stand on, and you're just pushing them back into the.

SPEAKER_05 34:11

Go ahead. What is it? No, go ahead, don't finish her. No, because y'all making me look bad.

SPEAKER_03 34:15

Like, me making you look bad. You stand on your own principles, making yourself look bad. These are your principles.

SPEAKER_06 34:19

No, no. On a serious note, if I Please save your save her.

SPEAKER_03 34:22

She needs to be.

SPEAKER_06 34:23

Okay, I got you. Ready?

unknown 34:24

I got you.

SPEAKER_06 34:24

Ready? Alright. So don't cat. Like, no. If I tell her like I'm done with somebody and I announce it, it's kind of like I announced it, so I'm going back. But if she brings up the person's name and I don't like feed into the conversation, I know that she's like falling back.

SPEAKER_05 34:42

That's what I'm saying. Y'all can't tell me to answer something.

SPEAKER_03 34:44

So this is like, so wait, click this just to clarify. So Yolanda, if you come to her and saying y'all woke up, it's you for just venting that you're gonna go back.

SPEAKER_06 34:53

In hindsight.

SPEAKER_03 34:54

That's what you're saying. And if you just and if you just ask Hal's any like a random name like Michael Jackson, and she just ignores you.

SPEAKER_05 35:02

All of these girls is taxi. Anywho, no, like if if she hasn't talked about him in the what was that?

SPEAKER_03 35:12

That was just dropping, it got fucked up.

SPEAKER_05 35:17

Nah, okay, y'all. I'm getting headphones next week. Um, no, if it's if it's like she hasn't talked about the guy in a minute, and I'm like, hey, how's such and such or whatever? And she's like, he good, or yeah, I guess he's okay. I know that she's training her, not training herself, but she's like, Yeah, she's detaching herself from him. So that's why you can't put me on a spot to answer a question and think I'm not, it's it gotta be personal. If you're talking about Yolanda, that's my best friend. So I know that if she yo, he got me tight today, blah blah blah, I'm done. I'm I'm I'm over this. I'm gonna be like, okay.

SPEAKER_07 35:56

And then why are you asking questions about him though? If she told you she was done before.

SPEAKER_06 36:01

Like, so sometimes like we talk every day, but we don't really get like dive in. So like when we do our like little best friend check-ins, and like we're on the phone chopping up while I'm driving, while she's driving, whatever the case is, and she'll be like, Oh, how's it like?

SPEAKER_03 36:18

Nah, nah.

SPEAKER_06 36:19

I'm like, okay, nigga.

SPEAKER_03 36:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 36:21

She'll be like, okay. Or if she asks me and I'm like on a serious note, like I'm really like moving on, or just focus on something else. She'll be like, all right. Like I know her word.

SPEAKER_05 36:30

Yeah, I know her words. She'll use words, like, I ain't gonna find bro, like, I'm really turned off. Like, he really, blah blah blah. He did. If she say turned off, I know nine times out of ten, like she's not going back with no fancy.

SPEAKER_07 36:40

So now I feel crazy. Because I feel like me and my my guy friends might be having deeper conversations than y'all. Nah, it's easy.

SPEAKER_05 36:49

I'm just saying, based based off what y'all telling me, because wait, so what's the way if your guy friend is going through a breakup? How what's what's going on? You see, it depends, right?

SPEAKER_07 36:56

Because you know, I know, I know my people. Like, I I Jordan, I'm going through a breakup.

SPEAKER_03 37:01

What's the first thing you say?

SPEAKER_07 37:02

I run my friendships. Use Jalen. Yeah, I got you. I'll run my friendships.

SPEAKER_03 37:05

He says some bullshit and walking off the ball.

SPEAKER_07 37:07

I run my friendships like it's like basketball. So you can you can call me LeBron when it comes to my friends. I know everybody and their roles and how they treat stuff.

SPEAKER_03 37:15

He low key. I'm not gonna call him out on that because he does use the analogy of like, yo, sometimes you gotta call timeout on the play.

SPEAKER_07 37:20

Like he does.

SPEAKER_03 37:22

He's not he's not fucking maneuvering shit like he actually coached. He's giving himself too much credit. But he does, he he is.

SPEAKER_07 37:28

Yo, that what I'm saying to you is that you gotta know your personnel, the people around you, how they move and how they maneuver. Right? So I know Jalen, he the type that I don't, you know, I might just be like, yo, bro, you be all right, bro. What what what's the next thing we doing? What we popping out? You be all right.

SPEAKER_03 37:44

I don't want to be going outside like that.

SPEAKER_07 37:45

You see, he's trying to think I'm outside. I'm not saying that we outside like that, but I'm saying I might go outside for my boy if he's going through. Oh, that's true, yeah. That's true. That's true. But then I got other friends that you know. No, he might be a little more emotional. He might be a little more emotional. So I know the way I come at him is a little bit different. The way I approach the situation the way I approach the situation with him is a little bit different. Okay, I might have to like, you know, really break down the situation and go into depth about like what we're talking about. And granted, I do got those friends that like Jalen, like, you know, they some Klay Thompson is low-key. This nigga's why I be getting in trouble with shit.

SPEAKER_00 38:29

That's why I'll be getting in trouble. That's why we get into trouble.

SPEAKER_07 38:34

I'm talking about like after the relationship. He's he's Klay Thompson after the relationship. That's why we getting in the good cover. Niggas can't be wingman, but they're saying I got friends like that that are also like you know, there's times where we do gotta break it down and slow things down as well, and just talk about like how you really feel. Because, you know, not every relationship gonna like affect you the same way.

SPEAKER_05 38:55

I agree, but I also feel like with guys it's different, right?

SPEAKER_03 38:58

Because they make what type of advice you call me the most toxic woman on the show. This is what you said. All right. What type of advice do you think I'm giving?

SPEAKER_05 39:06

Where the hoes at? I'm not saying Joseph, they might say that. We outside.

SPEAKER_06 39:28

What about the ones that's in denial? Like, they're like the narcissists. What do you mean? Like it's never them, it's always the other person. Oh, I couldn't.

SPEAKER_07 39:36

Oh nah, my friends are Mr. I totally know what you're I tell my friends about everything. You know what I'm saying? So, like, if you if you fucked up in a situation, I'm gonna let you know, like, yo.

SPEAKER_03 39:50

See, it's like an old saying, if you're always the hero in your story, you're lying. So if you're always the one saying, Oh, uh Brittany does this, Brittany does that, why am I still with them? I know for a fact you're lying to me.

SPEAKER_07 40:00

But this is the thing too, though, because you could be in denial, like me, every time, even when I know I'm wrong, I'm Superman. I'm still the hero, though. That's the shit she's talking about.

SPEAKER_03 40:10

Yeah, that's why the whole woman in silence. Anyway, Alonzo, let's go back to what you said.

SPEAKER_07 40:14

She now somebody's cabbing. What'd she say? I'm out on the play.

SPEAKER_05 40:24

She tried to get she tried to get a moment for a second. I did! Y'all didn't used to have arguments. Thank you. Y'all used to have we used to have relationship arguments.

SPEAKER_03 40:36

She's trying to go viral.

SPEAKER_05 40:37

Lila. I mean, we're gonna move on. We're gonna move on. We're gonna go into it. No, but I do what I was gonna say is I think that it's different because sometimes when guys say they done with a girl, when they do go back, they hide it from y'all. Like uh, I think it I think that works both ways.

SPEAKER_07 40:52

I think today I think both parties could be. I just experienced that today. I ain't gonna lie. I was having a conversation and then he mentioned the person's name. I ain't saying nothing. I was like, oh. Noted. Like noted, noted. Back in the back. No, no, it ain't here you talk about. But could it be? Maybe.

SPEAKER_03 41:10

Anyway, nah. I do feel like to answer your question, I don't feel I I think that's kind of like I have a lot of platonic women friends who like go, and I know for a fact they're going back. Not all. I don't I don't think it's 90. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Because I I think there's I'm not even trying to be stereotypical. A lot of Hispanic women, they usually go back. The black woman usually go back after a fight, I usually happens. It gets real toxic. Real like, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's like you cutting up shit. You might key a car, you might do something like that.

SPEAKER_05 41:43

It's a little bit more aggressive versus what you're saying.

SPEAKER_07 41:45

I'm gonna disagree with that. No, I agree with you because the stories are women that's not not even just that, like, you know, we we can't really be saying colors and races, but I mean you know, I ain't really like that. Yeah, but I mean the those other ones, those other ones, I done heard some stories. I mean, we done said Latinos, we done said blacks, uh, we're not talking about Asians, but you know what I'm saying? We're not talking about Asians, so um, yeah. I don't see that.

SPEAKER_03 42:14

I mean I I don't really know, I don't have many friends that dated white women to really speak on that, so I can't like go into how those type of relationships have ended.

SPEAKER_07 42:23

Just so you know, there's a reason why if I see one in the elevator, I'm not getting on. All right, we're gonna wait until there's more people in that elevator. Yeah, okay. Yeah, we're gonna have a space. We're gonna make sure there's more people in that elevator.

SPEAKER_03 42:36

But so I like I don't think me personally, unless again my boys or girlfriends, whatever, keep it like they don't share that part. Because a friend will look a friend is notorious for calling their other friend to say, yo, you won't believe what X and Y just did. But what led up to XYZ doing that? You get what I'm saying? So, like, I know, like, if I find out, or if you tell me, yo, she went through my phone, she saw she saw something. Uh she went crazy. I'm like, bro, did she really go crazy, or did you like say some crazy shit in the group chat? Now I gotta clear my group chat because you you you don't fucked up. You what my boy Wally said you violate a hipper. Violet violated hipper, violate somebody on the chat. He let the shit get out. So I think it's different. I think do I think some people be crazy? I don't I think it's split like I've I've no, I have friends who have had got friends who've done crazy shit like yo, but I can't rock with you. Because you just have no remorse for like you're you're just a wild boy. I can't I can't function in your toxicity. Like I can't for sure. You're making faces. You got friends like that, Yolanda?

SPEAKER_07 43:39

If you were friends, you notice I wasn't looking at her because I already seen her.

SPEAKER_03 43:42

I am the friend. Oh shit, toxic friend? The crash out.

SPEAKER_07 43:48

She's she's a big crash out, 100%. Joel knows. I'm gonna be honest with you though. Like like you said, some stuff that these friends do, I can't do. Like if you ever was the type to expose somebody, I can't fuck with you.

SPEAKER_06 43:59

Nah. I can't. No, just make house visits. It's a wellness check.

SPEAKER_03 44:02

Wellness check. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 44:04

I drive her. I drive her to the wellness check.

SPEAKER_03 44:07

I don't even know what that even means. How do I know about wellness checks? It's a part of your profession. Oh, you can say my job, nigga. I don't be caring. I'm just saying, it's a part of your profession. I thought you were trying to throw me on the bus with some other shit. You should have through me on the bus.

SPEAKER_05 44:24

You had to clear that up immediately.

SPEAKER_03 44:26

I was like, hold on, bro. Immediately cleared that up. But yeah, so that's how I feel about it. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 44:36

I mean, at least she said she's the toxic friend.

SPEAKER_03 44:39

I was gonna have a share story, but I don't want I don't want her to get sorry the first time.

SPEAKER_07 44:43

So you're saying you don't give no toxic advice? Because I feel like there'd be times I give toxic advice.

SPEAKER_05 44:48

Do I give toxic advice?

SPEAKER_03 44:49

That's actually a good question, bro.

SPEAKER_05 44:51

Um, I feel like, like you said, right? I feel like I do, right? But I know my friends, right? So you know each one of your friends, right? So if I How do you think?

SPEAKER_03 45:02

Because that's been time I would have a girlfriend or a regular guyfriend that went back to somebody I never thought they was going back to. I was like, yo, you went back to you. So I was like, you went back to the back.

SPEAKER_05 45:10

I don't think you know what I did. I did have that one moment, but I don't talk to that friend no more.

SPEAKER_03 45:15

Um but I think not to cut you off. Can you not can someone not be your friend if you know how their relationship is?

SPEAKER_05 45:23

Yes. Um let's just say it's a DV case. I can't respect it.

SPEAKER_03 45:31

So this guy was put his hands on women. That's fair. Like I 100%. I think I've had a friend tell me, like, they like I knew this guy through like other people, and they was like, oh, he's had like domestic violence cases. And my homegirl comes up to me one time, oh I'm thinking about talking to X, Y, and Z. And I was like, oh, you know, I heard he like because it I feel like if you're my friend, I'm obligated to tell you if this person has a history of that. If they're if they're a cheater, if they do this, it's whatever they bear with money, they got a gambling addiction, none of that shit. I don't gotta tell you goddamn thing. Yeah, but if now now the reason why I tell you that, because if I tell you this and you get your ass beat.

SPEAKER_05 46:09

Don't quote me.

SPEAKER_03 46:10

No, I'm I'm not not.

SPEAKER_05 46:12

Don't quote me.

SPEAKER_03 46:18

Because this is the one that's I'm here for women.

SPEAKER_07 46:21

Don't call me. I've already stated it. The fans already seen that I stated clearly. I am the only one. What me? You're the guest today, so I can't speak on you, but I said already I'm the only one who's standing up for women on the play.

SPEAKER_05 46:36

Yolanda, if you meet a guy, right? And let's just say happen, let's just happen to say I know him, right? And I'm like, yo, bro, I heard his last girlfriend. Like he was I turn on that bitch, like whipping her ass. And you still mess with him, and God forbid, he's beating on you now. Are you calling me? You? No. It is and wait, but why are you? Hold on. Why are you not calling me?

SPEAKER_06 47:03

I'm gonna handle it myself. Okay, but stop.

SPEAKER_07 47:07

We don't support the movie.

SPEAKER_05 47:10

I'm gonna lose the city. I don't need the stars too.

SPEAKER_02 47:20

She knows the mobility.

SPEAKER_05 47:21

She knows I'm gonna tell her, like, yo, bro, did I not tell why would you put yourself in that situation? I let you, what you wanna go, you wanna find out? Why would you wanna find that out? He might. I'm just trying to see what that's about.

SPEAKER_03 47:32

She might have been he might have put the thing on. He might have put the wood on and she was like, yo, he's like, you know what it is too.

SPEAKER_06 47:39

A lot of people portray themselves as something to get what they want. Oh, that's definitely true. Yeah, of course.

SPEAKER_07 47:44

That goes without telling me all men that beat on women, they're gonna show you that they like Prince Charming first. Yeah, of course.

SPEAKER_06 47:49

They're gonna love bomb you, they're gonna do all of that. But then also it's like a lot of times we ignore the red flags.

SPEAKER_03 47:55

That's that's that's the thing. That is true.

SPEAKER_06 47:56

Yeah, that is true. We want to get on six flags, we want to join the ride. And it'd be like, oh, it's a big that's a real toxic answer.

SPEAKER_03 48:03

I just want y'all to know that. So you know it's toxic saying something like that.

SPEAKER_06 48:06

The roller coaster ride, the highs, the lows, you know, that pit in your stomach, that feeling you go all the way up to the top. Danger, danger, danger. People be wanting to thrill of it. Or some people just want to have that me too story.

SPEAKER_03 48:19

Nah, that's that's I'm gonna agree with you in a sense.

SPEAKER_07 48:23

I'm gonna agree with you in a sense because some I feel like some people do put themselves in situations like that on purpose. To play victims. Like, yeah, oh, because like sometimes it's like an attention seeking thing. You're not getting enough attention somewhere else, so you like, damn, he's beating on me, so he must care about me, you know.

SPEAKER_06 48:40

If you're in a DV case, God forbid, and you call me you talk Wait, so let me ask you this, Yolanda.

SPEAKER_07 48:46

Hold on. We're also gonna drop the numbers down low for anybody that needs help. Don't say that. Don't put that on me, bro.

SPEAKER_05 48:50

We're gonna drop the number. But we're gonna drop a like a helpline number.

unknown 48:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 48:55

So I gotta put that in?

SPEAKER_00 48:56

Yes, yes! The fuck?

SPEAKER_03 48:58

So put that on me. Hey yo. I'm the only one. I can put the end of the podcast.

SPEAKER_07 49:06

I can put that in the podcast. I don't gotta be in there doing the doing this thing.

SPEAKER_03 49:08

Okay, okay. I was gonna say, are you the friend? So God forbid Britney's in a relationship. Not with Corey, anybody is hypothetically. And she calls you and said, Yo, we never would thought, but Macy's put his hands on me. Are you gonna are you are you popping up?

SPEAKER_05 49:22

I wouldn't call Yolanda because I'm gonna have to have Bell money.

SPEAKER_03 49:25

No, but that's okay. Stop it with the violence. I'm just asking, like, are you? Yeah, crazy, crazy.

SPEAKER_07 49:32

She lives for this. No, but you know what though, that's crazy. Because I always see myself, and don't get me wrong, I still do put myself in this situation. If somebody calls me, they got a DV situation. I always go. But at the same time, you always go, you pop up.

SPEAKER_03 49:46

Yeah, you're a good friend, bro.

SPEAKER_07 49:48

But like friend, but like you all you also see the situations where men do go and try to help this person out. And then I don't know if y'all seen like recently a couple weeks ago, the two brothers. Yeah, like yo, they got the same birthday, everything. Both went to go help their sister, both got shot. You came back, brother shot both of them.

SPEAKER_03 50:07

This is why I don't be uh mind my business. Well, uh and I've told Jordan this numerous times because of my profession, there's people who call I've been woking up out of my sleep a handful of times with people asking me advice. Legit. And you're now pick up the phone because picking up the phone is different than telling me to leave my house and go ahead and do something. But when I pick up the phone and nine out of ten times, it's usually either what Jordan is either domestic or is that they're drunk. It's one of the two.

unknown 50:29

I'm drunk.

SPEAKER_03 50:30

Majority of the time. And I always tell the same thing. I'm like, yo, you're in a situation, you have to go through the process. I'm talking about friends who call me asking me for advice up on their person who's arrested behalf. And I say to them, like, yo, they when you make these some of these poor decisions, you know they are ignoring these red flags. And the same thing goes for people who I don't want to say date because I don't like to victim blame people who are a victim. Everything is different, it's case-by-case basis. You know what I'm saying? But now, if a friend, like how I started the whole conversation, if Yolanda was to come to me and say, hey, I'm talking to Macy's, and I was here, Macy's has put his hands on someone before, I was like, Yo, Landa, this one give you the heads up. Because as a friend, I'm obligated to tell you your safety, you are in danger. I don't care how good a good woman thinks, or he can't do that to me. I look too good, or and vice versa, men think like that too. Because there's women, there's women who be hating on niggas too. Like, don't get this shit twisted. No, Steve, definitely. Except for that, Londa had no problem putting hands on somebody.

SPEAKER_05 51:26

I have to deny.

SPEAKER_03 51:29

Deny, deny, deny.

SPEAKER_05 51:31

I apologize.

SPEAKER_03 51:34

I just feel like as friends, there's certain obligations we have, and I feel like that's one. Like I said, if you if I know someone is in imminent danger. Yeah, I I wouldn't say imminent because it could be, even if I heard the story five years ago, I don't think there's uh uh what's the word I'm looking for?

SPEAKER_07 51:49

No, it's absolute. If he's putting his hands on a woman like consistently, everywhere.

SPEAKER_03 51:52

There's no timetable on if it happened ten years ago. I was still sure. Hey, yo, I remember in high school, he did this to show. Like, I have to share that information because it just won't. There's no timetable on that.

SPEAKER_06 52:01

I feel like it's a disservice if you don't tell him.

SPEAKER_03 52:03

Exactly.

SPEAKER_07 52:04

Not not even only a disservice, it's just like, would you like if you knew before she got like she told you before she got involved and you had that information, you sat on it, and something happened to her, I would feel like shit the fact that I didn't tell her. You know what I'm saying? And I would feel like, yo, that's my fault, low-key. Because I could have gave her the warning. Granted, she's gonna be a good one. I mean, depends it also depends on a friend because somebody might look past the warning. Yeah, but if she looked past the woman, I don't feel bad. Because you know, me sitting on that information without telling her, and now that shit happened.

SPEAKER_03 52:33

Because you know what it is too, sometimes too with abusers. Is I've if I go to my friend and tell him and say it's a uh a female friend, I say, hey, heads up, he did so and so. Now, if she goes and asks him about a situation, he might yoke her up and yo, wait, who the fuck you heard that from? And then you still gonna feel like shit. So at times it's it's a case, it is a case-by-case basis. You know, yeah, you know what I'm saying? So it is, but I feel like as a I was definitely share, hey, you didn't hear this from me, but I can also protect myself, but I will still say, yo, I'm gonna tell you this, but however you want to deal with this information, deal with it. Don't go and run your mouth and say, Jalen told me this and that. Because now you're just putting yourself in the room.

SPEAKER_07 53:07

Remember that story I told y'all about how I won that one friend. Like, yo, they got the drop on you, Brody, but I just told you. He went and snitched me out. So yeah, that's it. I mean, no, but I I do got one more thing to say on that. Go ahead, bro. Like you said that you went and tell your friends about cheating. I'm gonna be honest with you. If you one of my guy friends and I know she a cheater, I'm telling you.

SPEAKER_03 53:29

We established this already. I'm telling you. We already established this. You wasn't you wasn't leopard, but we established this, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 53:34

The girls, I don't know. It might, but the fact who I knew first. Who I knew first.

SPEAKER_03 53:40

I don't even think I think it's different for women sometimes. I'm definitely who I knew first. Aloysi is two of our knew first.

SPEAKER_05 53:46

I feel like women also I feel like he said he's telling. I didn't say that.

SPEAKER_03 53:52

I I feel like for I feel like women, and not to make it sexual, but I feel like women look out for their girlfriends when they know their girlfriends need to get cracked. It's not a lot. I feel like they I feel like they know. They're like, yo, my girl needs to get cracked, her man's not giving her good whatever, and you're like, yo, I feel like they know.

SPEAKER_07 54:07

They be knowing about the second option.

SPEAKER_03 54:09

Yeah, like like I feel like it's different.

SPEAKER_06 54:10

I feel like all my friends are top tier, they're top shelf. If you're not meeting up to the standards for my. What does that even mean? No, no, no. It just means that, and I don't want to put it like a pick me kind of thing. I know my friends work on themselves. So if you can't sit here and be a good customer and get that top shelf product, you don't have to be a good thing.

SPEAKER_03 54:30

Anybody can get cheated on it.

SPEAKER_06 54:32

Anything can happen. Yeah, I understand that, but if you cheating on my friend, you're not only putting her health and her safety at risk.

SPEAKER_03 54:43

People use protection.

SPEAKER_06 54:47

We're gonna call him toxic again. Yo, he is toxic as shit. What kind of answer is that? That don't mean my health ain't in good age balance.

SPEAKER_05 55:00

I think we should move on. Let's move on. So I wanna say rest in peace to spirit.

SPEAKER_07 55:10

Oh, yeah. Uh minute RP job. I can't stand it. I can't stand you.

SPEAKER_05 55:19

Rest in peace to spirit, man. Um, you ever flown spirit?

SPEAKER_03 55:24

100%. I hate spirit, so go with it.

SPEAKER_05 55:26

Really?

SPEAKER_03 55:26

I was I'm I'm not I'm like y'all here, like y'all be trying to spare failure. I've never had a bad expensive spirit. I've had a lot of people. Well, let's just say this.

SPEAKER_05 55:34

I took spirit when I needed a cheap flight, and I'm definitely I definitely wanted to go on the trip, so I needed a cheap flight. So I was like, I spirit it is.

SPEAKER_03 55:42

Like there goes the hidden expenses. See, I'm a very black, like I'm very black and white when it comes to like almost everything.

SPEAKER_05 55:49

But it wasn't hidden. I knew I had to pay extra.

SPEAKER_03 55:51

I didn't. So the time That's your problem, though.

SPEAKER_05 55:53

You didn't do your research.

SPEAKER_03 55:54

No, I did it. I could admit that, but I can still say I don't like me hit with surprises. I'm very black and white. But you didn't do it.

SPEAKER_07 56:00

It ain't a surprise when they tell you when you buy your flight.

SPEAKER_03 56:04

Your baggage is not included. You got that. Then you got the the fucking when I when I fly and I get my little snacks or whatever. I went to ginger ale and shit. My what's that? The brisk off cookies, whatever the fuck them shits are called. Yeah, them shits hit. Nah, the biscuff cookies didn't. Yeah, them shit's hit.

SPEAKER_07 56:18

I think I might still have some.

SPEAKER_03 56:18

On spirit, they charge for that in the ginger ale.

SPEAKER_05 56:21

Huh? I mean your last trip.

SPEAKER_03 56:22

Yeah, cut me off mid speech.

SPEAKER_07 56:24

Mom Dukes went to Costco. Shout out to her.

SPEAKER_05 56:26

Oh, Mother's Day. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 56:28

We we was listening. I'm ready to move on. I'm about to do my Jordan and shit. I don't want to talk about it no more.

unknown 56:33

The fuck?

SPEAKER_06 56:35

You don't want to distract the people with the biscoff? Um flying spirit.

SPEAKER_03 56:38

Yeah, no, no, yeah, bisco. Yeah, I get the cook. That shit's like $15, bro.

SPEAKER_07 56:41

$15 for a pack of cookies?

SPEAKER_03 56:42

In the ginger easy, that shit too. Yes.

SPEAKER_07 56:47

I didn't know that. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 56:49

Nigga, I've never clone.

SPEAKER_07 56:50

Wait, no, they give you a free bath. No, they don't. I swear I got a free bath with it. I don't know. I'm gonna like you, nigga. I swear I got a free bath. She motherfuckers might think you was handsome.

SPEAKER_03 56:59

Nah, them niggas hit me over the head with that shit, bro. I can stay in spirit.

SPEAKER_06 57:02

So when they hit you in the head, you ain't go to sleep. He should have.

SPEAKER_03 57:07

It's your friend me invited. Yeah, it's not. It's not.

SPEAKER_07 57:09

That's not funny, man. It's not.

SPEAKER_03 57:11

I'm gonna be honest with you.

SPEAKER_07 57:12

That hate that spirit get, I don't I don't see why spirit get hate. I don't see why spirit get hate. Spirit been very nice to me. I ain't never experienced no ghetto shit that people be talking about. I pay my extra.

SPEAKER_03 57:27

Yo, so when we had to go to Dreamsville, you missed your flight. That wasn't Spirit? Hell no. Who was that?

SPEAKER_07 57:31

If it was Spirit, they would have waited for my ass. That was Jet Blue. That was Jet Blue. Jet Blue.

unknown 57:40

First of all.

SPEAKER_07 57:41

I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I'm not calling anybody out of here. I'm just saying. That was Jet Blue.

SPEAKER_06 57:49

First of all. They left the terminal. JD Power. They had the. You read this. Nigga, don't chitz.

SPEAKER_07 58:06

It left eight minutes early and didn't even change. Didn't even tell me my gate was was changed. Oh my god. Like, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:15

First of all, you're supposed to get the notification to your phone. They didn't give me a mic. They didn't give a notification to me.

SPEAKER_05 58:19

They did not give a notification. I was at the airport. I was at the line. I won the TSA line.

SPEAKER_03 58:25

That nigga called us the other favor.

SPEAKER_07 58:28

You see me running through the motherfucking interpol, like I gotta get to the gate. I get that. Still eight minutes early. And she like, oh yeah, we thought everybody was on the plane.

SPEAKER_06 58:37

Bitch, ow! I'm right here. I'm right here. It's crazy. She left earlier.

SPEAKER_07 58:41

What do you mean? I had a flight to DC. Stop being on the front of the fight.

SPEAKER_06 58:45

It's an on-time airline. That's what I heard. Eight minutes early? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 58:49

That's on time. That's why I fly Delta.

SPEAKER_06 58:52

Exactly. And they left. I like to get nigga the on-time performance. No, fuck them. That's not even the performance.

SPEAKER_03 58:58

Who's the who's the five-star performance? Who gets that ranking? Uh fuck your rankings, nigga.

SPEAKER_07 59:04

You want to know why it's really why it's really fucking ranking. You know why it's really fuck your rankings? 2026 and 2025. I seen that. Spirit had the number one.

SPEAKER_03 59:16

And what did that get them niggas?

SPEAKER_06 59:17

It don't matter what it had to be.

SPEAKER_05 59:25

They didn't transfer them to other airlines, or they got they had to apply to other airlines. They may get preferences. Okay, that's my story.

SPEAKER_07 59:30

No, no, no. Did y'all see that? What's his name? James.

SPEAKER_06 59:33

What are you talking about? Fuck.

SPEAKER_07 59:34

You know the dude that does makeup. He got famous doing makeup. His name's like James something.

SPEAKER_06 59:38

Patrick.

SPEAKER_07 59:39

James Patrick. She got the makeup. I don't think it's Patrick. Patrick Starr. No, no, no. Not him. The nigga don't even wear makeup. I don't know why the fuck they didn't ask him like he wear makeup. But he's like some some famous content creator. Okay. And some some lady that used to work for Spirit Airline, right? Yo, she's like down on her luck, because you know they all just lost their jobs. She last resort. She like, fuck it. I'ma just send these celebrities my um Oh that's fire. My what's the shit called?

SPEAKER_03 1:00:02

Yeah, make a uh real?

SPEAKER_07 1:00:04

The GoFundMe.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:04

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:05

GoFundMe. So she sends it to them, like with her story and stuff like that, just saying she needed a little help. Yo, he blasted her. For real? Blasted her online. And the only reason blasted her? You mean like put her on blast like trying to help her out? No. Like made her seem like she was just like, why this broke bitch basically went crazy on her online. And he thought it was cool until people start firing that ass up. And so now he just should he starts shooting off at least, I want to say at least 30 different apologies. And he's like, oh now, like I'm like, I'm sorry, I had a moment, and that wasn't really me, huh?

SPEAKER_03 1:00:41

Is he flamboyant? Because you put on a real flamboyant voice.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:44

I'd say he do makeup, bro.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:46

Judge niggas. Cancel culture? Yeah, cancel culture.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:50

Yeah, so you know the bag probably started looking like looking a little shaky now. So he starts trying to apologize and be like, oh, yeah, if I find you again, I'll help you out and all that shit. No, too late. Too late. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:01

Speaking of speaking of too late, you got the shit going on in Africa. It's too late with the henta virus, the new uh COVID 2020, 2026.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:10

Not the new COVID.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:11

I just want to say before we even get started on this. Hey, full disclaimer, I'm not missing the loan train this time. All these PPP loans that they got coming out, if it comes out again. Wait, wait, they got PPPs? No, I'm saying if it comes out, I'm not missing the train this time. I will be applying. A couple people ain't getting in trouble with the money. A couple people ain't gonna trouble the money over here.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:31

I'm about to be on TikTok live. How many employees just have all jokes aside?

SPEAKER_03 1:01:38

So the Hendavirus has uh taken over uh the coast of South Africa. So as of today, they did uh disembark the boat. They did get them off the boat today. Uh so essentially what happened was a Kuzlaner that had a 30-day voyage from Argentina to Africa, did as they were taking their travel amongst the travel, there was a married couple and another third person who did pass away unfortunately from what it's like the Hentavirus, which apparently was for was not a person to person, was not transmitted person to person. It's a case of rat droppings and stuff of that nature. But apparently now it was transformed person to person. In America, as of now, there are 11 potential cases that people were either came in contact with the people that were on this cruise line in so that's where New Jersey, I heard. Yeah, the closest one is New Jersey. So as of today.

SPEAKER_07 1:02:25

That's right.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:26

So as of today, they did where they were allowed to disembark. The way they did it was I'm not sure who tested the positive as of today, but the way they did it was uh they got the little uh fucking a little boat go to the cruise line, come close to shore, then they immediately test them. And if you test the positive, they put you on a jet to the Netherlands, and then that's it, then that's how they went about it. And if you were we gonna affect them, huh?

SPEAKER_06 1:02:48

They're getting displaced?

SPEAKER_03 1:02:49

Yes. And so they uh that's that that that's the terminology. Thank you. I appreciate you because you know these two on this side are a little ignorant. I can't right now. Um so um that's where we are now. And my my so what this all the reason why this I thought this has sparked such a controversy online is everybody used everyone's PTSD, PTSD kicked in immediately once this story started to catch traction because it is crazy. You know, even I found it to be even more crazier was that apparently until about four days ago, the people who did get off the cruise line, like there was one person who got off and was in Switzerland, that's who tested positive. He wasn't even called to see if he had the virus until like four days ago. So there were people who got off the cruise and were never even contacted about tracing their that's crazy, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:32

Yeah, contact tracing.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:33

Yeah, that's kind of crazy, you know. A whole bunch of the ball was dropped. Is that the best way to put it? Yeah, that but that's what the rat dropping. That's where the rat the rat, yeah, that's the rat dropping stuff. 100%.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:45

So everything is.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:46

That's when everybody was really dirty, though. No showers and shit.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:49

There was a lot going on back then.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:50

There was so much rumors though about this. Like somebody said like a a couple that started like spread this was walking in like a trash dump or something like that. Like they was touring.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:01

Well, that's because the cruise line did go to a few remote islands. So it's a 30-day voyage. So they left from Argentina, which is where they believe it's the the origin of all this, and then at some point they had to be off the coast of West Africa, I believe, or South Africa. So there was a lot, and they were stranded, or they were they couldn't disembark, I believe, for almost a month. So it's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:19

I don't want to sound like an asshole, but I'm I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm still going to my cruise.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:23

Planning your cruise?

SPEAKER_03 1:04:24

You do sound like an asshole.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:27

Me and my friend's supposed to be planning a cruise for October. She's a part of that. Yeah, she's a part of that.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:34

I just wanna ask Yolanda's question. Hold on, let me ask Yolanda question. Do y'all don't look at Bray? Because you know y'all can't look at each other like a bottle. Do your trips, do your trips make it out of the goo chat? Yes. They do? Shout out to me.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:47

Um it'd be like 15 to 22 of us.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:50

So y'all travel 15, 15 vaginas deep.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:54

She ain't even talking about that group chat.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:56

She's talking about her other one. You're talking about the other group chat? I have other friends that I travel with. Yeah, she has I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:02

So I'm just curious. What's the max you travel with women? Like how many women like two. She just said 15.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:09

No, I just cold edge. Oh, a score ed. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:13

I can't do 15 females. No.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:14

So what's the what's the color? Me and her. Get the fuck out of here.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:19

But that's not nice.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:19

That's not true. Am I lying? No, it's true.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:22

No, my.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:24

That was mad.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:26

That was for what you call it birthday.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:27

That was a cold edge trip. And after that, I bet you you would not have done that.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:31

You said what?

SPEAKER_07 1:05:32

Like if it was all girls, that trip to Vegas. I've never been with a guest. Only two, only two years? That's that's it. That's two.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:38

Yeah. It's usually just us two.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:40

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:41

But like my other group trips, it's not all girls.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:44

Right like the cap sometimes on the pod, but she ain't lying. No.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:48

You're not gonna sit here and come for my best friend. That's insane.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:51

You're a guest.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:53

I could kick you out. Thanks.

SPEAKER_07 1:05:55

We're we're back in my house today.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:57

I just put my shoes on.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:03

That was a good way.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:08

That was a good one.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:09

So it's only two people. That's the the Maxi. You'll be like, all right, that's it.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:13

Like just all girls? Yeah, just me and Britt.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:15

Brit?

SPEAKER_05 1:06:16

I mean, I mean, we did a trip before.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:19

Yeah, two people.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:19

I mean, we did a trip before where it was um two other girls. We're not friends no more. No, we are still friends. We still talk to them.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:25

But we're not tripping with them.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:27

No, not that we're not tripping with trippings.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:28

Like, yeah, like everybody does their own thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:30

Like, when we honestly, I'll try spur in the moment. Like, hey, you want to go to Puerto Rico tomorrow? All right. We going for a day. That's fair. And not everybody could do that. That's very true.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:38

So I damn sure can.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:39

I damn sure can. Yeah, I definitely can. I was scared.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:40

So it's like, you know. Alright.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:42

So Brit.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:43

Let's get into it.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:45

It's Britney Day. It's the Britney Bish film.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:50

That's a good one. I'm gonna get my headphones, y'all, so I could be laughing. Nah, this is the hers segment. Let's get into it. Let's get into it. Best friend. You it's the smoke, the Snoop Dogg giving over there. No, um, let's talk about it though. Do you feel like, and then I'm gonna come to y'all?

SPEAKER_03 1:07:07

Just fucking.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:08

Matter of fact, I'm gonna come to them first.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:11

Watch her come to the most toxic one first.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:13

Jalen.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:14

See. At least he's agreeing that he's the most toxic one. Nah, that's what she presumes to be. You know what's crazy? I actually got flacked last episode. I was told that people feel like I flaunt that I cheat. Which I y'all feel like I do that?

SPEAKER_05 1:07:26

What?

SPEAKER_03 1:07:26

Like, because I've cheated in the past, like I flaunted. I don't feel like I do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:29

I don't think you flaunt. But is it okay to you not feel like you?

SPEAKER_03 1:07:34

Then it don't get into it. Please don't.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:38

Please don't. Okay, I do that. You don't, you don't, you don't, you don't. Okay. So my question is do you think that men are afraid to show off that they either are interested in BBWs, like BBWs, or want to date BBWs?

SPEAKER_07 1:07:54

Before you answer that, the great Drake said, I like my bitches BBW. I like my girls BBW.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:04

So, like my boy Tom says, everybody got a box, bro. Where do you fit in your box? Some men like bigger girls. Shout out Tom. Because you said everybody got a box. I threw me off. I was like, everybody got the box. Okay. Like a preference. Okay. Okay. Um, I I can't say it's hard to answer that. Cause I do think there are guys who would definitely like keep it off, like keep it like as if they're hiding it. You know? But I for the most part, at least the guys that I like actually could say I know what their box is. Okay. I feel like I wouldn't, I don't think that they actually hide who they're like attracted to. Especially if friend go. Yeah, like I don't know what's saying, like, yeah, I guess you'll say friend go. People like I know, like I've I've been around, I I know who's I know who's who's on their hit list, and I know who they approach to say, all right, they're not afraid to share afraid to say they like bigger girls. But then it's also, I feel like women now more than ever, there's is very ambiguous on what big is. Because to some, thick is big. Like there's some girls who are petite, and if they see a thick girl, oh, you're fat, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 1:09:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:04

But they're all there there is a thin line between thick and fat. Let's not get that shit twisted, too. There is a thin line, you know what I'm saying? So, but I do think it, I think it depends on the person. And some are naturally more insecure at their bigger age as an adult, they are still insecure in what they like. So they may be more reserved and letting somebody know, unless it's like their boy. Because I got boys who I go out with them, I know for a fact who they're gonna go out with. Okay, or who they're even gonna like approach. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? So I I think it definitely depends. But overall, I would say, I would say no. But I'm pretty sure women have had the experiences where a guy is gonna, you know. I'm gonna talk about it. Alright, well, I'll let you talk.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:41

Let's keep the whole thing with the box, okay? So well, let me speak about my box first. My box is like it's not oh my god.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:52

That sound crazy. Yeah, I keep saying that.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:55

It sounds crazy. My preferential box.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:59

Don't let them get you off your square, bro. Stay solid. Stay solid.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:06

Stop playing with them. Nah, but yeah. So mine is like multifaceted. Like, you know, there's women who are BBW, there's women who are like slim. There's limit.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:16

What's what's BBW? What's your size?

SPEAKER_07 1:10:18

You said what?

SPEAKER_03 1:10:18

What's your size?

SPEAKER_07 1:10:19

What's BBW? Like, I have to do it.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:21

You say 225 on the scale.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:23

Like, like give it a weight? Yeah. If you all right, don't get canceled. It gotta it gotta be don't get canceled. It gotta be height combined with weight. So if you okay, okay, that's what we're gonna do. You're gonna start like a good start. So like if you don't want to fucking up. So if you about, let's say if you're about five eight. Let's give you five eight. I feel like I mean it's tall. But I feel like that's common. I'm five seven. Yeah, I feel like you're tall, nigga. That's crazy. Ever try to full.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:54

Most women are five five.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:56

No, if you are two, ever try this five.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:58

She tried to play me.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:02

I did it. You are two. I tried to keep going to me. No, don't come for my boy like that. But I'm about the bad video.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:13

Oh, okay.

unknown 1:11:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:15

I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:15

I'm 5'10. It says it's on my license. Does it? You can put whoever we want on you. I can put 60. So shit ain't gotta be true, but I'm gonna be shit.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:33

I don't really like putting a weight to it, but let's say if we had to stigmatize a weight, I would say anywhere from 250 and under 5'8. That's a good thing. Some niggas love the food pop, bro. Siggles love the foop.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:48

I don't know. I don't know who's like who started. Not to get you off. I don't know who starred. That had to be like a Twitter thing. I would say nine of ten men I know do not mind stretching. No, they don't mind that. I don't know who a woman started that shit. Like most men I know are not anti-stretch marks.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:03

Or is it because you've gotten older? I'm gonna be honest with you. No, I've never been anti-stretched.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:07

I see more women attack women for being bigger than that. Stretch marks, yeah. And I see men. Yeah. I see men. And I'm gonna be honest with you. There's a whole community of men who they'll see your before and after, and your your after you done lost weight, and they like, nah ma, I want you do I gotta give you some cheesesteaks? I need you to go.

SPEAKER_03 1:12:25

That's the preference though. That's a preference. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I need you to go. I had not to get not to throw them on the bus, but I had a boy who was like a trainer, and he loved taking out BBWs just to take them down to help him lose lose weight and shit like that. And then he'll he'll get he'll get like the post nut once they lost too much weight. Oh I don't like her no more because she's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:41

That's the real shit. Yeah, 100%. It's real shit. I was bringing it up because I was having conversations. Um, shout out to Chiara. Um, she actually watched the pod, she repost the pod. She's a loyal friend.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:54

Um actually repost a couple times too. I saw that.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:56

Shout out to her.

SPEAKER_07 1:12:57

I don't know Kiara, but okay. Yeah, it was uh looking in.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:00

It's okay. Yeah, yeah, it's okay. But um, she asked a question that I'm gonna get into next, but it made me think about this question because you know, Yolanda knows, like, I used to get, oh, you're pretty for a big girl. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:13

Those type of things.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:13

Yeah, like, I'm sorry. So if I lose weight, like, am I gonna be ugly? Because I don't think that's how it works.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:19

I just wanted to ask you to look at you a bit like, ugh, disgusting, not slim now. Like, obviously, this is pre-core. So was this within like five years ago or like ten years ago?

SPEAKER_05 1:13:27

Um, I feel like about five.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:29

Close enough to five. So I feel like like in high school, I know maybe in high school I would say that.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:34

But you know what's in high school?

SPEAKER_03 1:13:36

You was a joke. Yeah, that's the thing. At the high school that was that'd be a thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:39

Yeah, but the dudes that was in high school be in on my line. Like, well, not now, obviously, but they would say, like, but I'm just saying, like, and I had a personal situation where Yolanda knew the dude, and like we was talking, and he would want to hide me because his friends felt like, oh, she's pretty, but she's bigger than what I usually go for.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:04

But he would usually go for, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:05

Wait, no, what the friends will usually go for. Okay. So they're telling him like, like, she's a big girl, like she's, you know, or whatever, but she's pretty. But to me, I'm just like, are you? Fucking your friends are you gonna be? It's kind of gay, it's gay violence. Yeah, so I mean, it's things that as a plus size girl that I'll just be looking at like, that's insane to me. Like, what's happening here? Like, you know, I feel like a lot of times plus size big girls, like we get the whole uh what's the word I'm looking for? Um like negative stigma? Yeah, negative stigma that like, oh, we stink, or oh, this.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:40

From what I can remember, my first crush was on like a bigger girl, like in like the girl from America's next top model. Uh Sakara.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:47

I'm at her lost. Yeah, that's not fat no matter what.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:50

But but but no, even then she wasn't fat.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:52

Yeah, true, yeah. That's what that's what I was saying.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:54

There's a thin line between I haven't seen her in who knows. Like, I couldn't even. I probably wouldn't even recognize her. Yeah, but I remember as a kid, my mom like would watch America's next top model and shit, you know. And so I I remember like now vividly that that was one of my. She was labeled the big girl. Exactly.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:09

She was never she was sexy in my sexy yourself, by the way. I don't know how you look now. Most of the BBWs I know or the the bigger girls I know, they actually take care of themselves hygiene-wise more. Just because you're like, you know, even me as a bigger girl. Oh, you're saying the stigma what they say, like even as a bigger dude, I'm aware that, like, you know, I'm gonna sweat in places where you know you gotta make sure you clean those areas because, like, you know, you don't want to get that you know that that's all stuck in there. So, like, you know, you take care of yourself. And the bigger girls I know or the BBWs, they always have great hygiene for me, at least the ones that I talk to.

SPEAKER_05 1:15:45

Well, I want to turn it to my best friend because I feel like my best friend gets into the conversations where sometimes she's considered a BBW, or sometimes she's just considered a thickum. And I want to know, like, what is your thoughts on this?

SPEAKER_03 1:16:03

I feel like how do you classify?

SPEAKER_06 1:16:05

I classify myself as thick. I I honestly I really want to call myself fluffy.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:11

Fluffy is fluffy. It's crazy. It's crazy. What are we doing?

SPEAKER_06 1:16:18

A lot of Caribbean men love fluffy women. So it's like they say fluffy.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:23

Yeah, she took me to a Jamaican. I would never go to a Jamaican party again. She took me to a Jamaican party, the whole party, that's why I got fluffy, fluffy.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:32

Come here now, come here, fluffy wagon.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:35

The whole party. Never heard the term fluffy in my life. Nah, nah.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:41

Fuck them, fuck them, fuck them. Um, as a girl that's fluffy, you would like, there's guys that'll be like, oh, I'm not really into um, oh. There's um times where guys will be like, I'm not really into big girls, but you like you're gonna be a great time. You got the pork chop arm, so I know you know how to cook.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:57

Pork chop arms? Fucking crazy. That's mad funny.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:02

Don't be talking to my sister about pork chop arms. But I mean, technically exactly. Well, they won't, because she said she could throw down in the kitchen. So I mean they had what they were talking about. But cooking the pork chops is saying I got the pork chops.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:15

Right. They be like, oh, you know how to cook. You I know you know how to cook. Oh, in your family, Jamaican, I know you know how to make some good oxtail and rice in.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:23

I must be out the root because I didn't know all these were like stereotypes.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:26

Or they say they say that, like, big girls give the best head up.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:30

I've heard that, but I've never heard like fluffy is never something I think.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:32

And pork chop palms, it's kind of like but you think that stereotype is because they like, and I'm not taking no shots at no big women or anything, no BBW, but you think they say that because they like, yo, she's hungry, that she might just know how you eat.

SPEAKER_05 1:17:44

I feel like that's what they and I'm a big girl, and I don't like to eat all the time. Like, I don't like to.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:49

That's the thing too. I do. I'm gonna eat my food in the microwave. I put it in the oven. That's how you know it's gonna be good.

SPEAKER_07 1:17:56

I'm a bigger guy, but I know it's a time and a place to eat. You know, I don't eat all the time, but when I eat, I eat.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:01

No, but I feel like people have Jordan is lying. He's lying. Eat all the time, gang? He was eating a snack on the pod.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:07

Because I wanted a snack. What was eating before the pasta?

SPEAKER_05 1:18:11

What you mean? I ain't eat shit. I bought you McDonald's, bro. Oh. I don't know. Mr. Juicy shit? No, but um, I just wanted to bring this up because I know like my best friend goes through it sometimes where like people try to say like she's BBW or she's a thing.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:29

You feel like your weight has hindered your relationships?

SPEAKER_05 1:18:32

Do I feel like what?

SPEAKER_03 1:18:33

Your weight has ever hindered you in the relationship?

SPEAKER_05 1:18:36

That's a good question. I asked the questions.

SPEAKER_07 1:18:37

Like where you you mean like where he sees them in the light of like nah she's big? Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:42

I think that I'll say for me, right? I've been basically plus size all my life, right? And I'll say for me, like, I think that a lot of guys in the past was just like afraid. And now that there's Lizzos and there's all this other pro.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:58

More accepted.

SPEAKER_05 1:18:59

Yeah, it's more accepted. Guys, there was a time where I would show Yolanda, like, why is he on my line right now? Like, do you know what you was doing or saying about me? You know? So there was times where I'm just like, yeah, why is he on my line?

SPEAKER_03 1:19:13

I feel like Did you ever get that confused? Because you know, at one point, I almost said at one point, like some people love language to cut your ass, especially in New York. Right. So was that ever like if you're dealing with me? Yeah, so was that ever like that I ever like a misconstrued? Or did you ever no? All right.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:26

I was over I'm always like very confident in myself. Like you could say whatever, and I'll be like, okay, like I know I'm that girl, and guess what? You're gonna be back hitting up my line.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:34

Like exactly. I understand that. You know, that's why I said, like, yo, I still see myself as Superman. Cause I'm gonna tell y'all the truth, yo. Like, at one point, I ain't even gonna cap to you. Step on the scale, I probably was like 380. This nigga's lying.

SPEAKER_05 1:19:50

No, I ain't gonna friend. I had a big 380 is nigga. I promise you I could show you. No, I had a I sent him an old video of us, like, this was what five years ago? Couldn't have been five.

SPEAKER_07 1:20:01

No, no, no, it was more than five. It was it probably was like what was that video? Okay, eight years ago. No, I looked at his face.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:06

You know you could tell in someone's face. I looked at his face and I was like, wow, Jung Wow, like on the scale, it was like, wait, 380, this can't be true.

SPEAKER_07 1:20:13

And I remember when he lost the weight, like yeah, and it, but I don't know, like my body must be a little different because I went from 380 to legit 300 in like a summer, summer and a half. And then after that, I just started losing the weight again. Like, you know, now I'm a I'm a healthy 225, but still.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:31

No, but um, I'm gonna get into Kiama question because I shot a high. Let me get to her question. Now we good, we good. You know, we be chatting up here. But real quick, her question was talking about the big girls and things like that. Her question was, do you believe that you are in a relationship? Do you compromise or do you settle? Depending on if, you know, you have that female that has that list or you know, whatever the needs are.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:53

Why are you gonna ask me this question? Because you know where I'm gonna stand, bro.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:56

Yolanda, answer, baby. I'm not coming to you, Jay Lane.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:01

I'm gonna answer, but you know, anti-ultimating.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:03

I feel like you compromise more than settle. There's that 80-20 rule, but then it uh you compromise because you're two different people in a journey of life, and you guys have to come to an agreement about something. Compromising is more of coming to a common ground. Settling is like I'm not happy with the outcome, but I'm just here for it in the long haul, anyways. So I would prefer compromising. So I would say relationships definitely compromise.

SPEAKER_07 1:21:29

Settling seems like it's more of like I'm not happy. I'm staying here, but I'm not happy.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:34

This is definitely a woman topic because I don't really think men even deal with this on a day-to-day, daily coup relationships. Like I don't ever think I could ever recall in my relationships or even with other people, like guys, that I know, ever said, yo, I'm settling with this girl. Or what is a that is like I don't I don't think guys look at relationships that way. It's just not at the it's not with two black and white.

SPEAKER_05 1:21:56

I feel like y'all don't y'all don't say y'all settling, y'all just go out and cheat.

SPEAKER_07 1:22:00

That's I don't I don't even know if it's I'm not gonna subscribe to that mentality. You you're not gonna just disrespect it. I'm just saying, just like we stand on business for women or stand on business. That's that's inaccurate.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:11

And to be clear, cheating is a character flaw. There's many character flaws that people add. Because women, like nobody's yeah, like it's a character.

SPEAKER_07 1:22:18

Women gonna do it even if they're not settling or compromising.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:21

Yes, 100%. Yeah, but it's nigga. No, it's nigga, what? No, no, but to go back to the topic. You don't know your friends. Hold on, just cheat, just to cheat. Hold on, to get back to the topic that y'all were saying, though. When it comes to settling, I know plenty of men who settle because they're there for the kids, just like the women, just like the women.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:37

But that's a that's a whole that's a whole different okay. Yeah, if you bring in kids, kids is a whole different thing. Keep it the keeper when you got the kids.

SPEAKER_05 1:22:44

It's a different conversation. I feel like this. I agree that you there this is a women's topic because I had a list, right? Well, I s yeah, I can say I had a list because I'm in a relationship. Obviously, I found what I needed on that list. Um, so on my list was like, you gotta have a passport, you gotta have a car or a driver's life.

SPEAKER_02 1:23:01

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:01

Why is that crazy?

SPEAKER_02 1:23:02

It's just a crazy thing to be a part of the list.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:05

But what I'm keeping in my phone to take trips. Whatever I have on my list, best best believe that it's on I have it. So I'm not saying you don't, but like how you say whatever you bring to the table. Right, but what if you want a passport? Yeah, like yeah, he could get one.

SPEAKER_07 1:23:20

That should take two months.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:21

That's fine. That's fine. Like, and this is where I'm going at it with, right? So let's let's just say Kobe didn't have a passport when I met him, right? That's not something where I'd be like, oh, I'm settling for this man, because that's something he can get. However, on my list is I need you to, I'll give an example, I need you to have a job, right? Obviously.

SPEAKER_03 1:23:42

That wasn't gonna be a question I was gonna ask.

SPEAKER_05 1:23:43

I need you to have a job that's on my list, right? I need you to have a job. Granted, people get laid off, things happen. I'm very understanding of that. But if you don't have the motivation or you don't have any type of hustle or want something else, ambition, something, I'm gonna be if you didn't have a job, what's the timetable before you become Easter Ray?

SPEAKER_03 1:24:04

Um why she didn't watch this. Oh yo, my nigga, you're killing me, bro. That was a slow one over her head.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:11

That that uh show. But um, I'm not gonna stay as long as she did. I'm definitely not staying as long as she stayed like three years with no job. But however, that was the Lawrence though, my boy. It it he turned out to get the job that he really wanted. I don't see no phone.

SPEAKER_07 1:24:29

Was he the dude that they got like the memes and shit? Like he laying it down OD in the videos and shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:33

So like he ended up getting like a job that make 100k and better, basically, like his dream job, and it took him three years. However, she stayed, and you know that happens. That happens.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:45

I've left that the important part. She cheated.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:48

I didn't want to say that. I didn't want to say that.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:50

Well, we always want to protect women in this room.

SPEAKER_07 1:24:53

Remember, she won't be showing out none of the stuff her friends do. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_05 1:24:56

You want me to air my friends out so bad. No, no, no, no, no, no. All right, anywho, um, no, but I would say, so me and Kiava would have these talks or whatever, and she'll be like, girl, like that's not settling. I'll be like, Yes, it is. If you don't have certain things on my list, and I still so for example, I told you that I'll mess with someone that had kids, right? Or my list is I don't want to mess with anyone that has kids. My first should be your first or whatever. That's just my list. However, you break the rules for who you like. Exactly. And in that situation where I was messing with the dude, I felt like I was settling because it was things he was doing, and I'm like, yo, you like, I don't even know why I'm here because it's certain things on my list that I broke my rule for, and you doing X, Y, and Z.

SPEAKER_03 1:25:40

I mean, I think this is why I said that's why I think it's a woman thing because I think women so much get caught up in that idea of, oh, I did this, I wasted my time. That's like women say that way more than men do. 100%. Like, that's the same thing, and which is not true because at the end of the day, you're making an investment. And investment is not, you're not always gonna get your ROI. You're not always gonna get your return on your investment. And secondly, I had an ex who used to say this numerous times. She always said the business of people is the most unpredictable transaction you can make. And it's true because you never know how people are gonna react. That's what I like. That's a small girl. You know, so you never should your girl still?

SPEAKER_04 1:26:11

Huh? That's your girl still, like y'all still cool.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:14

We follow each other on Instagram. Cool.

SPEAKER_04 1:26:15

This is the ex that you follow.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:16

But we're cool. Like, there's no, like, there's no smoke. Come on, don't do that. Not today. You're not making up hot water and shit. But she will always say that. And it's true, you know, because the nobody's obligated to be with anybody. And I feel naturally, this is the thing where I say it's a woman comp type of conversation, because nine out of ten times when a woman is ready to settle down, the man might not be there yet. Or women are naturally more willing to invest in the relationship more than a guy is, especially in the beginning. Because nine of ten times when a guy could be rocking, if I'm failing you, when a guy says he's failing you, it's just the it's essentially he's saying, I was really attracted to you. Now I got to sit down on a date with you, bro. Let me know if I'm more in that okay, she's cool. I could rock with her. This could be something. That doesn't mean marry, it could just be okay, I could like this could be something I could be.

SPEAKER_07 1:27:02

No, I'll see where this goes type thing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:04

Now, again, this is some man who I'm gonna marry this girl. I'm not saying that doesn't happen, but I'm saying like on the early stages, it doesn't always happen to where a girl puts it. I feel like a the way when a girl starts dating to where a guy starts dating, it's two totally different perspectives. I agree with that. Because when a girl starts dating, the first thing they're saying, especially between the first, second, and third date, or even phone conversations, is oh, does he my my list? Is he meeting my list? Niggas are not saying it. That's not a thing niggas do. Yeah, not thinking like that. Nah, because it's not. It's like yo.

SPEAKER_05 1:27:30

Texting your line, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:32

I believe it. Like, this is not it. At best in the group chat, you might hear, yo, her shit's actually as her shit is matches what I saw on Instagram. She's not catfish. Yeah, like just as fat and burst. I hate that. Yeah, like that's just like that's just not uh it's just different. It's just different that way.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:49

Yeah, because I think guys, y'all look at the face value of things and women look at the potentials.

SPEAKER_07 1:27:53

No, I don't know. No, I don't know. I think that's true too, because like men, we we do look at the potential. But we won't look at the potential until we already invested.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:02

Oh no, won't look at the potential until we hit that's what I'm saying. That's like what because you could tell that's not like you can sit here and tell me, Alando, if you go on a date with such and such, and you're like, oh, he's a nice guy, this and that. And you may think the date is going well, but he might see, oh yo, she can't, her nails is always fucked up. Or she did that guy might have the same mental checklist, but in his head, it doesn't nothing takes precedence than get in the jaws.

SPEAKER_07 1:28:27

But that's a initially.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:29

That might take me the heart that. Yeah, that's it. It's not all God. It's not me even making it sound like owing some like fuckboy shit. It's just the if the attraction is there for the guy, his main concern would be alright. If this happens, okay. Because nine out of ten times, and well, that's why women hate this. Because if I that's why the offset shit is so legendary. When the nigga said I won, that's what I that's why so many niggas like retweet, because that's real shit. If a nigga hit, you can't tell me. Take that out.

SPEAKER_05 1:28:55

Take that out.

SPEAKER_03 1:28:56

There's nothing you can tell me. You can say my dick's small. This it don't matter what you say. If you if a dude consistently letting me hit that's what we got to the point if I'm consistently hit, there's nothing you can tell me.

SPEAKER_07 1:29:08

You can say that shit literally, you can say that and that's why it was good enough for me.

SPEAKER_05 1:29:13

How true this is, because in their chat, like their boys could be laughing at them, like, yo, she said you got a little dick, and then they never spot to be 100%. Like this.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:26

Yeah, like it's that that's that that's why I say like the whole list is like to me, not not to dismiss what you're saying. No, I definitely believe what you're saying, but on the guys' end, it's like, nigga, I ain't worrying about that. Yeah, y'all not worrying about stuff like that. And at most, it might be if at most, if a nigga is thinking fast forward, is uh if I hit, how much of a headache is she gonna be?

SPEAKER_06 1:29:46

And it be worth it too, though.

SPEAKER_03 1:29:47

Nah, no, no. Sometimes sometimes. Nah, I do.

SPEAKER_07 1:29:49

Sometimes, but I'm gonna be honest with you. I love WAP though. I ain't even gonna like I ain't even gonna ask on that. All right, let me get a little bit deeper in this in this thing. Cause I'm on the opposite end where I don't believe that it's just like a woman's topic or a man's topic. Because I think that men also think about stuff like this, but it's not it's not the number one priority.

SPEAKER_03 1:30:11

One second, just pause.

SPEAKER_07 1:30:13

Yeah, so I'm gonna go a little deeper because I don't agree with the whole this is a man's topic or a woman's topic. Like to me, I feel like men think about stuff like this as well, but it's just like not a number one priority. So when things aren't a number one priority for us, it's not like a burning desire to get that information out compared to like when women, when something is like, oh yeah, it's a part of my list, it's a part of my list. You gotta get it out. So it's something that you feel like.

SPEAKER_03 1:30:40

I mean, I don't even think all women, even I don't think all women disclose their list to the guy. No, no, no.

SPEAKER_05 1:30:44

Not saying that they disclose their own. So you gotta get it out as far as. You're saying that's where those questions come. So where do you see yourself in five years? But I don't I mean, having my list, I didn't ask those questions, but I worded I'm a I have a psychology major. So, you know, I played a little mind tickling games where like I wanted to, you know, see where that person's mindset is.

SPEAKER_03 1:31:06

And but yeah, I think through conversation you can have, you don't have to like, yo, what's your list?

SPEAKER_07 1:31:09

Like, I feel like No no no no, it doesn't come out like that. When I say get it out, I don't mean like towards the other person. When I say get out, I mean like towards yourself, where you start like overtly asking yourself, like, oh, okay, he doesn't have this, but he has that. This meets this stigma, this meets that stigma. Like the stuff that you want, it meets those standards. You start like it it burns you enough to where you actually have to go through that list of what he's meeting you, right? So to me, I feel like when it comes to like compromising and settlements and stuff like that, I don't see it the same way other people do. Because I feel like when you're in a committed relationship, not like the early stages. The early stages, you know, you figure whatever the fuck you want to figure out. But like once you're in a relationship, the settling and the compromising is all hand in hand because people change. Like over time, everyone's changing. Every day, everyone's changing based off of the experiences and stuff that they're going through. Like, just because you're the you're the way you are now, all your experiences that built up is gonna change the person you are two years from now. So your person is gonna have to adjust and learn you every day. And that's where the compromising comes from. Yeah, so that's where the compromising comes from. That's where the setting, like, not really settlement. I feel like that's too negative. So that's where the compromising comes from. That's where you like, you know, yo, today only I got 80%. She got 20. You know, I really want it to be 50-50, but you know, she only got 20 today, so I'm giving that 80. Or today it's like, damn, I only got 20. Hopefully she give me that 80%, you know, to make sure that we're good. Sometimes they do sometimes it's gonna be a 50-50 situation, but a lot of the times, you know, like I said, you compromising and you just gone based off of the experiences to you know connect and be adapted.

SPEAKER_03 1:32:48

I think from that point of view, like you said, when you're in a relationship, it is tend to be a little bit different. But I do think you could definitely settle within a relationship when it comes down to if you're at a position where you're moving up in your career and this other person is stagnant and they're it becomes because the number one leading thing for divorces is what? Finances. You know what I'm saying? So when it gets to that standpoint, that's when it becomes more stressful. I think that's a you know a lot of people. Don't you know what else, too?

SPEAKER_07 1:33:14

Because I feel like finances typically is not the main issue. No, no, no. Look, listen to me. Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out. Hear me out. No, hear me out. Hear me out. What I want to say is that I don't feel like finances is saying, I don't feel like it's the main thing, but I feel like finances is the only thing. Oh, there was a study that was. I'm just saying, listen, finances is the only thing in a relationship that can heighten any other situation that's negative. I agree with that. So I think that's so when you are going through those financial struggles, that right there is gonna heighten everything else. It's like, damn, he cheating on me and we broke.

SPEAKER_03 1:33:53

I I don't agree with that too, because I think it depends on the the person. But like there was I read that the other day, I think it was Shaven who posted it. Like, men now say that they don't even make the entry level to date because women say they don't make enough money. So that's seen that.

SPEAKER_05 1:34:06

Yeah, like the shit is like the shit.

SPEAKER_07 1:34:07

But how many times we see them come, we see them settle.

unknown 1:34:10

Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:34:10

Because they know they're not gonna get no dude that's 200k. I definitely agree with that, right? I I agree with that, whereas like say we we going through I don't have these problems, but um Shout out Corey, man. Say we, you know, we going, we going through something or whatever like that, and um, you know, I'm just like something pissed me off. And now I'm thinking, yo, and you couldn't afford this the other day. Like, I'm tight. Like it, it's the icing on the cake.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:37

Like it's what's the icing on the cake is the right same?

SPEAKER_05 1:34:39

Yeah, no, it's another one. The straw that broke the back. Yeah, like it's it's that little straws in Jamaica.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:48

They ain't showing no cambis. They got sugar cane though, right?

SPEAKER_06 1:34:51

You know, you would have flown the spirit, you probably would have found out.

SPEAKER_03 1:34:54

Oh I don't think I've been to Jamaica. I don't think I definitely fly spirit.

SPEAKER_05 1:34:58

I'm saying Jamaica, nah, but um, I definitely agree. I think is a good conversation. Shout out to Kiara, shout out to the supporters, right?

SPEAKER_07 1:35:08

Max, big shout out to the supporters, all the friends of the pod that support the pod repost, like, comment, and subscribe. And all the friends that's just watching.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:18

They're not watching technically.

SPEAKER_07 1:35:19

No, no, no, no. When I say watching, I don't mean like watching on the YouTube because that's supporting. Right? That's what we want to see. We want to see them supporting by watching the YouTube, commenting and subscribing, like and all that shit. But the friends that we got that just be watching posts and can't take the second to just like, comment, subscribe, because that shit free. It don't require you no money, it don't require you no effort. You just pressing a button. That's it.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:42

Support is free, my guy.

SPEAKER_05 1:35:44

I'm giving out free tickets when we have our live shows. See, that's how you get them. Nah, shout out to you, Yolanda.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:51

That's a crazy budget we got about to have.

SPEAKER_05 1:35:53

Shout out to the future budget. You got it, CEO.

SPEAKER_03 1:35:56

Stop playing. Shout out to the future budget. Yolanda, thanks for joining us this week. You think you'll be back?

SPEAKER_06 1:36:01

Thank you guys for having me. Um, I can definitely come back if you guys allow me to. I definitely enjoy my career. Why y'all looking at me? She's already a vote. I didn't look at it.

SPEAKER_07 1:36:10

I didn't even look at you. I'm just saying, she said, unless we want her back. So if I feel like we don't want her back, then we don't want her back. Majority rules.

SPEAKER_05 1:36:17

Thank you.

SPEAKER_07 1:36:17

I know she won't think she got my vote.

SPEAKER_03 1:36:20

We even reached the before we wrap up, y'all. No, you've been great, Lana. Thank you for joining us. Thanks. We love you. Before we wrap up, what are y'all looking forward to this week? Before we wrap up, join them what you got, bro. Anything exciting? Oh, Drake is dropping. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_07 1:36:50

May 14th, the boy coming out with a new episode before Iceman in his face. Tell about that. Hey! Right, you're right. And you already know it's gonna be a special episode for the pod. What's so special about it? Special episode, because it's Iceman.

SPEAKER_03 1:37:03

You gonna you're gonna come you're gonna come here with a fucking OVO hoodie.

SPEAKER_07 1:37:07

I mean, you know we got the OVO stuff on deck. But you know.

SPEAKER_03 1:37:11

That nigga's got a great budget, though.

SPEAKER_07 1:37:12

Iceman. Iceman. You don't got nothing? You're not excited for the week? It don't matter because we got Drake coming up this week. Let's go.

SPEAKER_02 1:37:22

Please save us.

SPEAKER_05 1:37:24

I'm excited for the week. I don't have anything. Oh, I'm going to a cooking class. That's gonna be dope. I'm going to a cooking class. No, we're making red velvet waffles.

SPEAKER_07 1:37:36

Okay. Um, we're going that's some real, that's some real hood shit, though. It must be one of those we getting drunk while we cooking, ain't it?

SPEAKER_05 1:37:43

That's a different is actually um that is crazy. Y'all be going. But um, no, it's me, my mom, my aunt, my sister, Corey. Like Mother's Day's gift type shit. No, no, you say Cory going. Oh. I mean, the fuck he might be cool with the family. I don't know. He is cool with the family, but no, it's not for mother. I told you I appreciate my mother every day. Mother's Day is for people to post their mamas on social media.

SPEAKER_03 1:38:09

Yeah, sometimes I can't steal my mama. Nah, but mamas be annoying, but we love them.

SPEAKER_05 1:38:14

Yeah, we love them. Like, yeah, but no, I'm going, I'm excited for this cooking class because um, you know, it's uh networking thing, you know. That's funny, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:38:23

Yeah, networking. Shout out to Pod.

SPEAKER_05 1:38:28

Yeah, so and the the chef is actually really dope and he's well known. So you know. That's what's up. Okay, yeah. That's what's up. That's what's up. I'm doing my in the chat.

SPEAKER_03 1:38:36

You in the chat.

SPEAKER_05 1:38:37

Yeah, I'm in the chat. You're in the class. You in the field, no baddies chain, no nothing.

SPEAKER_07 1:38:43

Hold on, hold on. Speaking of that, yo, they got they got the new swatch with the AP dropping, bro.

SPEAKER_05 1:38:49

Y'all put that in the chat.

SPEAKER_03 1:38:50

Yeah, I saw that. A lot of people ain't like that. A lot of people ain't like that. Yeah, DDG. Yeah, that nigga was telling Madden Secure when he said that.

SPEAKER_07 1:38:56

Like, I spent 200k for 200.

SPEAKER_05 1:38:59

Yolanda, any final stories?

SPEAKER_07 1:39:01

You skipped the CEO. Let me let me get the AP.

SPEAKER_05 1:39:24

I had you. Yo, that's a good one. I had you.

SPEAKER_06 1:39:29

Final thoughts, please. Um I just wanna say, guys, once again, thank you for having me here. Um, I had a blast. Um, as always, I love you, best friend.

SPEAKER_07 1:39:40

No love for me. Crazy.

SPEAKER_02 1:39:42

You don't even want her on the show. Like, I'm like, I'm just starting shine.

SPEAKER_07 1:39:47

You gonna believe it?

SPEAKER_02 1:39:49

You know they say short people don't lie. Yo, she's talking.

SPEAKER_07 1:39:52

Or do they say that they can't reach up to the truth? Oh, don't do that to the video.

SPEAKER_05 1:39:58

Because I want my baddie shade.

SPEAKER_03 1:40:00

I'm excited. Oh, see, this much can't be bad. Oh no, do not disturb. Respect for the pot and I timing.

SPEAKER_05 1:40:08

My final words, Jaden.

SPEAKER_03 1:40:09

I'm gonna find a shout out to uh French Montagna. I told y'all niggas that uh unforgettable was hot was better than Devil Blue Triple.

SPEAKER_07 1:40:16

I see on social media, everybody was like, this is a good thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:40:20

I was just confused. What was Max B that little toothstep he was doing the shit? Yeah. I'm a pink performer.

SPEAKER_03 1:40:37

Um got nothing else to say. I mean, I I saw that Chris Brown the meeting greet is gonna be 2500 for the meeting greet.

SPEAKER_07 1:40:43

Yo, you try to get sugar. That's actually not that bad because it was like 2K not before. You was already saying you was getting cherries.

SPEAKER_03 1:40:52

Multiple cherries.

SPEAKER_05 1:40:53

Why we gotta talk about it again.

SPEAKER_03 1:40:54

Before we go, Yolanda, you're dating someone. Can they can you go to the concert if you're gonna get the cherries? You think your man's gonna be okay with that?

SPEAKER_06 1:41:01

No.

SPEAKER_03 1:41:01

But will you still do it? Yes. Sorry in the pile. We're back next week. Happy Mother's Day to everybody. Happy Mother's Day. We appreciate y'all. We'll be back next week, y'all. Take care.