Seriously... Just A Woman

Happy International Women's Month ! In this week's episode Nikky & Celeste are embracing all the beautiful roles a woman can have. They are celebrating the amazing women in their lives by discussing the ups and downs of female friendships, their favorite parts of woman-ing, and all the ways that being a girl can be magical. Because they are seriously, just girls. 

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hello, hello. Welcome back. Hi. Hi. How are you? I've missed you. I haven't seen you in days. That's a long time for us. So yeah, it is a long time. Um, I'm good. How are you? How was your weekend? It was so fun. I was in Mexico this last weekend. Yeah, my cousin got married, and it's so beautiful the pics. They were really cute. Thanks. I have to show you the actual pictures. All of them. Yeah, show you everything. I told my cousin that I feel like I'm a better photographer than the one that he got because I was just like, cheese, cheese, cheese. You are really good at that. Last year for my birthday, when I had my little soiree, you took so many pictures. I love all of them. You are really good. I love having pictures for people so they can look back on. I think sometimes like photographers aren't very sociable. They just take the picture and you're like, hey, how are you, Snap? Oh my gosh, yeah, take a picture, Snap. Oh my gosh, I really want to show you the pictures now. Okay, yeah, we'll go over them. My weekend was fun. I actually had a really hectic weekend. Funny story. So my dad, we travel through TJ, which is Mexico. So my dad left his IDs, passport, everything back in Mexico. But it was really crazy because we ran into my Nino and I haven't seen my Nino in a long time. Like years. I haven't seen my Nino. Yes. Dude. Yeah, he doesn't care about me. I hope you're listening. I'm just kidding. Well, my dad and him are from the same rancho, like same pueblo. So it's not unusual for us to see people at the airport because obviously that's where our family's from and where he's from. So the fact that you guys are traveling. He actually said that the night before he was supposed to travel, but there was a lot of fog, so he couldn't make it home. And then it worked out because since my dad forgot all of his identification, he called my Nino as we're like exiting the plane. And he was like, Can you please take Celeste home? Because I can't make it past the border. There's no way. So my dad's still in Mexico right now. He's okay, right? Yeah, he's good. He's eating good. Yeah, he's eating good. I called him and I was like, hey, like, what are you doing? He's ordering tacos. And I was like, Oh, never mind. You're doing good. Oh my gosh. My parents love going to Tijuana. Like we will go and just eat. My dad is vegan. Some of the best vegan food I've ever had has been in Tijuana. I swear. I think they should take us. I think they should take us too. Like Ricardo. Ricardo, Laura, please take us. My parents would be so happy if we went because I don't the reason I don't like going is because of the line. My parents have like a bypass thing. Yeah, my parents have sentries, so they come and go as they please, and it's 20 minutes. Yeah, no, but there's a way that you walk at like a medical. I know. When you walk, it's faster. If I walk away, I walk. We could walk. But you can get like a medical thing to get in. What are the odds that your Nino was there? I know. That's insane. God he be moving. God works crazy all day lately. He is playing chess. Yeah. And we're playing checkers. He's playing chess. That's a good way to look at it. No, yeah. He he's like, oh, that happened. Don't worry, I got you, girl. I'm gonna delay this so that way the he can take you home. And he does everything for a reason. Yeah, it was crazy. My dad was running late. He wasn't even gonna make the flight, but he made the flight. You were able to see your godfather. Wow. Yep. I love that story. Thank you. My weekend was not that eventful. Oh. I had a good time. I mean, I was very social, but I mean, there was no crazy chess happening in my life. Um, I did have a crazy dream about you though. About me? Yes. Oh no. No, it was good. Okay, it was a good dream. Tell me, I love when people dream about me. Me too. I love when people daydream about me. It's the same. I love when I live rent-free in their heads. It is so funny. Because I woke up and I was like, oh, I have to tell Celeste. But then I thought, I'll save her for the pod. I hate that we think like that. I know. For the most part, I tell you everything, but I was like, no, this is gonna be so good because I want to get your reaction. So basically, in my dream, we were like on a campus somewhere, and you were gone. You didn't want to hang out with us. We'd make plans and you would be like, I'm busy. And then a few months went by, and I'm like, where is my girl still nice? I would see you, but not really see you. I would see you and we didn't really talk. I didn't know what was going on in your life. Dude, you show up one day and you're like, I have to tell you guys something. We're like, what? You're like, I got married. I'm married. What? Did I have a boyfriend in your dream? It was secretive. You kept everything on the low, like on the low. And I'm like, Celeste, who did you marry? And you're like, oh, I'm not ready to tell you guys yet. What the brick? I'm not ready to tell you guys yet. I'm like, oh my gosh. So we're just dying wanting to know. And it ended up being like I'm like, pause, was there a big fat ring on my finger? No, there was. That's what you told us. You were like, I got married and you put your hand up, and we're like, what? And I think it's because you were in Mexico because you said, Yeah, I got married in Mexico, blah, blah, blah. And we're like, what the heck? First of all, crazy that we weren't there. Right. And I remember the big part of the dream wasn't that you had gotten married, it was we wanted to know who, right? The whole dream was figuring out who you were married to. So then we're in class. I think we were like in a college setting, and we were just like sitting at a desk. I was like, Celeste, just tell me who. It's okay. Like, I know you want to protect it, but just tell me. And you were like, This is him. And it ended up being someone that you knew as a child that we were all friends with, and we're like, that's who you married. And he was very handsome. He was like tan, brown hair, very light honey like eyes. And I remember being like, Why didn't you want to tell us? And you're like, Because it just happened so fast, but like you were so in love, and that was my dream. That's weird, right? Yeah. I'm like, is that God trying to tell you that I'm just gonna get married on a whim? I don't know, but I even if it's on a whim, I'll be on the whim with you. Let me go. Yeah, I was gonna say, like, I would never know. That was the most unrealistic part. I think that we didn't know. If I'm crazy, I'm talking like, who was at the lunch table with us? It was like me, Haley, I think Robert was there. There's like a few other people there, but that's like the gist of it. That I just yeah. So clearly, Nicole. Nicole. What the heck? I never call her Nicole. That was weird. Um, clearly, Nikki missed me. I did. And Nikki wants me to get married. Okay, mind you, Celeste wasn't Metico for a wedding, so I think that definitely influenced it, but it was still like I woke up and I was like, I wouldn't mind if she was married. Me either, babe. I'm like, God, what you got cooking up there? He's cooking in my brain. He's playing chess with me. Yeah, I would never not get married with you guys, though. I feel like it's also a little telling because in the beginning of the year I was secretive about what's his name. Yeah, so I don't know if that's why. Are you mad at me about that? No, I'm not. Because it's okay if you are. Like, I apologize, but I'll apologize again. Like, no, I don't know if that's kind of my story a little bit, where I feel like my family and friends didn't really know what was going on in my romantic life. So I don't know, but it was just really interesting. And the fact that it was like a reveal was like a little off. Okay, drama queen, nobody cares. Just tell us who you married. That's a cool dream. I liked it. I'm glad you liked it. I literally was like, she's gonna love to hear about this. I'm like, tan, honey eyes, brown hair. And he was like, I don't want to say he was a ranchero, but the wedding pictures were like you guys in El Rancho, and you were wearing white and cowgirl boots, and yeah, like it was cute. Like he looked like he had calloused hands. You know what I mean? So I don't know. Maybe you were telling me that your husband's not here. Maybe he's in Mexico. Somewhere fun. Yeah, somewhere fun. I've been going to Mexico a lot. I love it over there. It's a good time over there. I love it. Well, thanks for sharing that dream with me. That actually did make me happier. You know, life is so short, you never know what's gonna come at you. You never know. You cannot predict your own future. Never. Nope. I just thought, oh my gosh, I cannot wait for Celeste to be back so I can tell her about my dream. March 8th was International Women's Day. What? What? Yeah, what a beautiful holiday. Holiday. Amen. As we come to a close on our first month of podcasting, we want to focus on women, which is the reason why we started this podcast. Because we're seriously just girls. So this week's episode, we really just wanna have a conversation about what it's like to be a woman and what it means to us, and maybe the ups and downs, because it's not always pretty on this side, but we wouldn't want it any other way. And that's what we want to talk about this week. We hope that you guys enjoy, and I think this is a conversation that we should honestly never stop having. Period. So, what's your favorite part about being a woman? It is the power that I hold. I love feeling sexy and beautiful, and just knowing that I could do whatever I want. Period. Period. There is a lot of weight behind being a woman. Yeah. I demand and I receive. Uh-huh. And you do it, you can do it so softly. Like you really do not have to be so aggressive. Like, it's a man. As a woman, you can be like so strong, but so soft. And I love it. It's the fact that you can just be so feminine. And you know what I mean? Yes, I know exactly what you mean. I love it. I think my favorite part about being a woman definitely has to be the friendships with other women and the communities that we build. And I just love us. Like, we're so cute with our little hobbies and our little crafting and our girls' nights and just making everything a group effort. Yeah. Ah, I just love us. Yeah. I think we're fun. Yes. The girls are fun. And we romanticize everything with each other. There does not need to be a man or like any lust behind it. We literally just love each other. We just want to experience life together. And that's my favorite part. Oh my gosh, wait. On St. Patrick's Day, went out with a few of my friends. And these two older ladies, they didn't look that much older than us, but they were like, I remember when I was your age. I remember like enjoy, live your life. And it was just such a sweet moment. Oh my gosh. I recorded like my friends after the fact, and they were like, live your life. Go on your grow nights, do what you gotta do. Prioritize the woman in your life, the women that show up for each other and make time for a few years. And I just think that's so important. And I was thinking about this the other day too. Haley and I went to see Braden and I was like, How sad is it? Like, I am so fortunate to have the woman in my life. How sad is it that some people don't have female friendships and don't have female groups? Because there are women like that that don't have groups, don't have their girls. Come and join me. Let's make the group together. If you're nice though. If you're nice. If you're nice, because there are some mean girls. We're not all soft and nice. No man. There are some mean girls. Um I love all my friends, and honestly, my friends really do become my family. I just love the girlhood that we have. It's so much fun. I wish though, I wish I was a part of sisterhood. I really do. I wish I had a sister. My friends have become like sisters to me, as close as I can possibly get. But oh. Celeste has a sister. Tell me about it. She's my best friend. I love her with my whole heart. My sister and I are actually 14 years apart. Yeah, we have a huge age gap. I'm like, you already knew. You look at surprise, but you knew that. But you no, you couldn't tell though. Because she is like right there with you. She has teenage daughters. So I think that has kept her very youthful. Like she is just She's gonna love to hear this. No, she You know who you are, and you are very with it. You are a good time. I truly don't think I'd be who I am today if it weren't for my sister, because having a sister does really shape you. We have the craziest arguments, the most insane arguments. I'll never forget. One time she picked me up while I was out and about, and she picked me up at four in the morning, and she was pissed. She was pissed. Like she was so mean to me. I'm like, oh, the working mom who had to go get you at 4 a.m. was in a bad mood. That is so shocking. But she will just always come through for us. Do you remember that time we were in Oregon? It's such a funny story. I was off the rails. She was on one. You were on one and a half that night. I remember that I, for reasons we won't get into, I needed to have my windows down. And it was really cold. We were in Oregon. It was October. And Celeste is just in the back, freezing cold. She goes, No, just drop me off here. My sister will come and get me. She will come and get me right now and put the heaters on. My sister will come and get me. I was like, relax. I would literally be like, dude, if we really needed her, she would figure out a way to get a helicopter and she would come get all of us. Like she that's how I feel about her. But she made me feel like I was torturing you. No, but my sister, I just I love her, and I think my sister has really grown to love all my friends too. She'll talk about Nikki and she'll talk about the girls, and she just She's one of the girls. Yeah. And I know that if you guys ever needed her, I know you guys could go to her because she cares about you guys and she loves you guys. She's always been like my second mom. That unconditional love. Yeah, and it's been, yeah, it's it's a weird relationship because she is just so motherly that she is my mom in a way, but she's also my sister. I think we've definitely outgrown that, but she has just shown me so much about what it means to be a woman and how to value yourself and be there for yourself. And she just makes me proud. And I wouldn't be myself if I didn't have her. I love sisters. Well, me and you are sisters. I know. You know, my mom did not give birth to another daughter. She gave me two brothers who I love so much. But I mean, she had three, she could have had another, you know, and they could have been a girl, but that's fine. I forgive her. But I do feel that my mom has tried her best to be that sister for me too. Because my mom is my mom first and foremost, but she definitely No Laura be putting in work to do it all. She really does it all for me. And sometimes I tell her, I'm like, mom, I don't need you to mom me right now. You need to be my friend. And I think I used to have to say that, and now I don't have to say that. She just knows. She knows when it's like, oh, maybe right now I'm not gonna lecture her. Maybe I'm just gonna hear her out. Or sometimes she enables me. My car almost got towed. This makes me think, this makes me think about that. My car almost got towed on my birthday. We haven't talked about it, but that's what happened to me on my birthday. It almost got towed. And I call my mom, obviously, to tell her. You know what she says? She's no she's literally on the phone, and she's like, Nikki, it's okay. You didn't do anything wrong, you didn't do anything wrong. It's not your fault. It's not your fault, is literally what she said. My mom said, It's not your fault. Like these things happen, it's not your fault. It was my fault, but you know what? She knew exactly what to tell me in that moment. And I feel like that is what a sister would do. Like they just really? Yeah, sometimes I would be like, It's your fault. Yeah. If that were me, she'd be like, Well, did you see the sign? And I'd be like, Yeah, it was there. And she'd be like, Well, then you can't really be mad at it. It's a little blunt. She's blunt now. Whereas before, she used to be like that. And I think now that I'm older. But yeah, I think it's because you're older. Blunt as hell. Whereas when I was younger, my mom was very blunt. Like, my mom just there was no softness. There was just, no, Nikki, you can't do that. This will happen. No, Nikki, these are the consequences. And now I think she just knows I've been through some things, and she's like, life's taught her. I don't need to go easy on her. My mom's like, life already took care of it. She has learned. So, yeah. Shout out to you, mom. I would not be the woman that I am without my mom at all. Like, my mom has shaped me to be the shopping addiction, book loving, overspending woman that I am. Mine too. She doesn't think so. But my mom is the reason that I am the way that I am. I literally, my mom's, oh my gosh, like you are just, you are so much sometimes. I'm like, girl who raised me. Right, right. No. She'll get so mad at me sometimes, and she'll be like, You have such an attitude. I'm like, woman, where do you think I learn it from? Like truly. I remember one time I would tell my mom stories about men or just anything, and she'll be like, Why are you so mean or whatever? And I'm like, girl, you don't think I say you'd be mean to my father? Be serious right now. I learned from you. Jokes aside, though, my mom is epitome of who I want to be in this life. I think we wouldn't be women without the woman who brought us into this world. We the woman who raised us. Yes. And I think women are just such vessels. Like, we bring life into this world. We literally, it's like magic. God gave us magic. And that is how I feel about womanhood. I just think we are just magical beings that bring life. I think my mom is such a strong woman, and that that has just shown me how to be strong. Shows me resilience and how to make it out of things. My mom was an immigrant who came to the US and she did that on her own. And I'm just so proud of my mom and the women in my life. And I'm about to get emotional. I know. It's so hard not to because there's just so much pride that comes with being the daughter of Laura. They really made it happen for us. My mom always made it happen for me. I remember I wanted to go on a trip to Europe. She helped me make it happen. And but she also taught me to work hard for things and to be smart and to be kind. My mom is very giving, very kind. And I think that's the reason why I'm giving and why I'm kind. And you are. Thank you. My mom always tells all my nieces you are smart. From that movie. Have you ever seen that movie? Yeah. I think she watched that movie. The Help is smart. You are kind. You are intelligent. Oh. You are beautiful. There's more to it. My mom just says, You are smart. You are kind. You are beautiful. She always says that to us. And I think the biggest thing I get from my mom is her heart. My mom truly cares and she loves us and does everything, and she's just that girl. This is I'm not laughing at you. But like I'm an empath because my mom is an empath. Me and my mom will be watching the same commercial crying. She gave me everything, the attitude and the crybabiness. We are both crybabies. I just love my mom. Me too. I can't wait to be a mom. Same uh when we're ready. Next year. God will.

SPEAKER_01 19:59

You're crazy.

SPEAKER_00 20:01

No way. I always joke about that, but I'm being serious. I'm gonna be married and with a child next year. Uh according to my dreams. Yeah, probably. Thank you. What are some of your favorite ways to woman? My favorite way to woman is by getting ready. Ooh. I think my favorite part about getting ready is the preparation to get ready. Oh my gosh, I love setting the candle, taking a shower. Everyone be quiet. My show's on. And sometimes I don't even watch a show. I listen to music or a movie or whatever it be. But I love getting ready. My other favorite thing is getting into the car and putting the windows down, sunglasses on, feeling good about yourself, playing music, and just going on a drive. I just love the feeling. I'll literally be like, oh my god, I'm a girl in my car driving, windows down. Ugh, like I'm in my element. Oh, I love that. Romanticize driving. I think we do that often. I think that's another favorite part about being a woman is that we do that about everything. We are just such cute little beings. I love to romanticize my environment. I love waking up and having flowers on my table and going outside and just soaking up the air and preparing my coffee. To me, just having florals around me all the time. I love my flowers and I love my candles. I love smelling good. Same. Oh my gosh. The combinations are endless. No, I love when somebody tells me I smell good. That's the best compliment. Yeah. Thank you. I put a lot of effort into it so you might get better. My new favorite compliment has been that my teeth look white or clean. I'm like, thank you. Cleaning every six months. Cress whitening stress. I love it. I love all the new ways to like self care. I love the gadgets. I love the mass. Even if I can't go out and buy a hair mask, I'll put some coconut oil on this hair.

unknown 22:03

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:04

I am not too good for home remedies. I love it. I love the ways that women have learned to enable each other. I love girl math. Whoever came up with girl math, thank you for putting my thought process into words. Thank you for validating us. Yes. Because if I make a return, I did win some money. Yes, you did. If I exchange something, I got it for free. So that means I can buy something else because I didn't even spend any money. I love it. My favorite part about girl math is if I buy it in cash, it doesn't count. It doesn't count because the number in my bank account hasn't changed. I also love that we can just tell each other anything and we know we're not gonna judge each other. Sometimes I'll be funny, and I texted you guys over the weekend because I had this crazy thought. And I was like, okay, I'm gonna tell you guys something, but please, no judgment. We listen and we don't judge. Right, but it was funny. Nikki was like, Why would I judge you? It's just a feeling. Yeah, like she acts like she committed something by feeling a certain way. I'm like, girl, I am not judging. I told them something like I miss this person or something, and they were like, Okay, it's okay. I was like, period, my friends don't judge me because we care about each other. And I think that's just so beautiful to have a group of girls that care genuinely for you, show up for each other, yeah, and love one another. Just how I wouldn't be myself without my mom and my sister, I would not be me without my girls, and I just am so thankful for the woman that I surround myself with and who I'm friends with. And I just love, I think about it all the time. I love my life because I am loved by these girls. It's fine if a man don't love me, like who cares? But my girls, if my girls didn't love me, I'm out. I'm out. I think going off of that, I think girlhood has taught me just to be selfless and to consider other people more. I don't know. It's almost like prepared me, I think, to be a mom one day, honestly. Just to put someone's feelings before my own or just consider people and show up for people. Because I think I've said this in a previous episode like it's not always convenient, you know, to be a good friend or to be a good person, but for the people you love about you do. And that's what I love about girlhood. True, genuine friendships can really take you far, even just in family. While I was in Mexico, I was around my aunts and my cousin that I never see, and it was just such a beautiful feeling to be around women. My dad and his brother were the only boys, and the rest were women, and being there in a big house full of all the girls. I love it. I loved it too. It was me and my cousin, Abby, and then we have a younger cousin. I just wanted to involve her as much as I could. She's 13, she's so cute. Her name's Aranza, she's like, Oh, I love that name, and she's so sweet, and I just wanted her to feel what I would have wanted to feel when I was 13, which is just being a part of the older girls. Abby and I are both 25. So, well, she's gonna turn 25 in two months, but we're both in that club. I know I'm like, girl, put it away as long as you can. Just stay away. I'm kidding. Abby, it's gonna be good. But what are we telling you? Is that that bad? Abby, I'm actually having a good time. No, and I really am. I really am having a good time. But it was just so nice, and I really tried to involve Aranza and me and Abby in like as much as we could do because that's what I wanted. I wanted to be a part of the girls. I wanted to be there and experience life with them. So I was like, Abby, we have to do our best here. Would you say that because I think that there is such a when you're in Mexico with women, it's like the senora energy is so powerful. Oh my gosh. Crazy story. More than I have to get into this at some point. But I not lived, but I was like three years old and I stayed in Mexico for a couple months, and I just remember it was my grandma and two aunts, and then my other aunts would come and visit too. So it was just always women all day, every day. And I feel like I saw them clean and cook, and there was no man, they were not doing it for a man, they were doing it for themselves, and they were just so happy doing it, and that's honestly how I learned how to sew, how to be crafty, how to just do hair. I learned how to braid from one of my aunts. Yes, they were just so amazing, and I do feel like the energy over there is just powerful. It's so powerful. I love being a Latina woman, yes, same. I will die on this hill, but oh my gosh, I love being Mexican. I love it. I love the ways that I provide, not just for myself, not just for a man, but just for the world. Like for my friends, yes. It's just we just provide in different ways, I think. And like no shade to no shade, no shade. I love my other ethnics, I really do. But there is something so special about being a Latina, especially a Latina by immigrant parents in America. There's a beautiful way that I think my parents have been able to blend that culture and this culture, and I just feel so lucky to be a part of both. Same. I love it. I will always die on that hill. That we're the best or what? Yeah, we're the best. I'm sorry, no shade. But I feel like a lot of our friends are all Mexican, and even if you're not Mexican, um, you act like kids.

unknown 27:34

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 27:35

No, there is something to be said about the fact that it's very easy to pick up on our lingo and our language, even. Girl, I got a friend that's from Lebanon and she speaks better Spanish than my brothers. She is good. Supuestamente. Yes. That is so funny. She just said that. That's funny. There is something to say that it's so welcoming. You know, I think we are very welcoming. What is some advice you would give your younger self? I think I would tell myself to be patient and not to rush things. I'm just such a romantic and I was in such a rush for everything. I just wanted to get to the end. And I I wish I would have told myself that like just take your time, girl. It's okay. Like experience things, take things day by day. And as I just wanted to get to the end. And I think that comes from being a very anxious person. I just want to see how things end. But yeah, I wish I would have just told myself that. I wish someone I mean, even if someone would have told me that, I think you don't really take advice from people. You know, you unless it comes from yourself. Yeah, I would have just said, girl, be patient, take your time, no rush, and no rush. Everything that is for you will be for you. Yeah. I wish I would have slowed down with a couple of things, but that's crazy because now I'm like in that position where I'm hearing it come from you. Well, this is my best friend that's saying this, and I need to slow down too. Good. I'm glad it's good to hear it from you. Seriously, just slows. Every yes, everything will happen as it should be. Especially if you are a spiritual person, that gives me a lot of peace. It does give me a lot of peace. God has his plan, and just gotta roll it there. Yeah, we'll get there when we get there. My turn?

unknown 29:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:34

What's some advice you would give your younger self if you could? Um, mine would be to never ever depend on a man. Um and I hope that my nieces listen to this and they they really value how I feel now because I used to be just like you, a romantic, and I grew up with my mom being my dad made my mom a stay-at-home mom, and my mom never really had to work, and she was able to do whatever she wanted, and thankfully my dad gave her everything she wanted. But I think even though it has worked out from my mom, I never want to depend on a man, and I never want to allow a man to take everything I've created for myself, or to take my mind, my body, my soul. Like, I do not ever want to give a man that power. And so I think that's what I would have told my younger self is to just worry about you, worry about what you want to achieve. Yeah, be selfish, be selfish with who you want in your life. Like, I know we talk a lot about this, but I just think it's so important. Like, it's so important to think about what it is that you want for yourself and never let someone else dictate that for you. I would just tell myself, it is just so important to do everything that you want for yourself. Never ever ever let a man have his two cents when it's not needed. Unless this man, obviously it's my younger self, but unless this man has earned it and earned that spot to have an opinion, that's different. But I do think that it's just so important to be the woman that you want to be for yourself and to never let anybody take anything from you, not your spark, not your heart, not your soul, nothing. Yeah, my mom used to say, be you completely and want the things that you want and never settle. And if a man can meet you there, great. And if he can't, another will. Like my mom was very like your world doesn't end when one man doesn't meet those expectations. While we're here, I'm telling my nieces, I hope they're listening, but it's to never settle. Sometimes you think that this is the best thing in the world for you. It is not, it is not be open-minded, be open-minded, better. Yes, be open-minded to the fact that there is a world full of people and life and adventure and experiences. It doesn't start with a man and it doesn't end with a man either. Literally, mic drop. That is some really good advice. I love that. Being a woman is the best thing in the world. I would never want to be a man. Me either. Never ever in this life. If they know because you know what? With the right man, it makes being a woman even more fun with the right man. But with the wrong man, uh, you hate your life. Literally being a woman is a chore. Yeah, it is. It is, it's not easy. Like, I do not want to make this episode about a man, but we are women who want a husband, who want a father to raise our children and to lead us. So I think it is important to talk about a little bit um about what a man can add to the life of a woman. And I think that with the right man, it can just make you soft and feminine, and that's what you should feel. You don't need to have this masculine energy if you're with a man. Yeah. Like you should have a softness, an energy to you that is just empowering. Yes, be independent and never have to depend on him. But so beautiful to be with a man who wants you to be feminine. Yes, and you should be able to depend on him if need be to have help, and he should make your life easier. Yeah. And if he doesn't make your life easier, softer, beautiful, make you prettier. That's what a man's for. Literally, literally, that is all that a man is for. Just to make your life easier. So he's not making your life easier. Red flag. And we get to be so independent. We get to be everything that we want to be, everything that we choose to be. But the culture of being a woman is rough sometimes. It's not always fun. It's not always fun. It's hard. I can't tell you the last time I got to go on a walk and felt comfortable or felt safe. That's never happened to me. Nope. I feel like every time I go on a walk, I'm getting honked at least once or twice. And you know what? It's not even just a it's like going to the store. Going to the store, going anywhere. Being stereo being alone. Yeah. I love going on my little dates with myself, but it comes with a price. And that is not always being safe. And I do think it's crazy. Like when I think back on it, I'm like, what are you thinking? Like, why would you think it's okay to honk at somebody? I would never think to honk at a man that I thought was attractive while he's walking. There's no way that works. So why do you keep doing it? I would never think to stare at a woman and make her uncomfortable. And that pisses me off. It's you think you have this powerity, yeah. Right. And it's disgusting. It's terrible that men there are men that feel that way, think that way. You guys suck. And you guys really make a woman's life difficult. Yeah, it's irritating. Right. It's irritated. Irritated even talking about this part because it's just so frustrating. It's can you just leave me alone? Right. Women just want to be left alone. Yeah. Don't look at us. Unless they want to be talked to. But we'll make that known. Don't you worry. Yes. And also there's a time and place. Right. When a woman is alone, sorry, you're not allowed to go up to her. Sorry, you can't do it. Like, not it's not okay. Um, the reality of being a woman make things a little harder for us, like body image and beauty standards and the timeline comparison between me and another woman, or oh, it's exhausting. It's exhausting. Just having to feel that way. There's a constant set of standards that I think we may never reach, or these expectations of a woman is supposed to be. I mean, just with the body image, like you have to be skinny but not too skinny, and thick but not too thick, and tall but not too tall, or tan but not too tan, or you know, when I look at a beautiful woman, she looks different every time I think of it, you know? I and that's so beautiful. Yeah, like every time I'm like, oh, beautiful woman, yeah. I think of different people in my life, my friends, like everybody, and everyone looks different, and I love it, but it's hard not to let yourself go there where you do compare a little bit, oh my gosh, she's married, or oh my gosh, she has a career. And on that note, I want us women to be a little less judgmental because there are mean girls, there are mean girls, they are mean, they exist, they exist, and I don't miss them. I currently don't have them in my life, and I don't want them in my life, but I definitely had my fair share of mean girl energy in high school, and it was really hard, it really tore me down, and I don't think that I had a strong sense of girlhood until after high school, which is such a bummer because it would have been great in high school. But I Nikki and I weren't that close in high school. No, we weren't one class, yeah. And it's hard. I mean, I had friends like that, you know, where I would see here and there, but I didn't have that. Like, it doesn't matter if that girl's being rude to me because I have my group of girls. I didn't have that, so I'd just be like, oh my gosh, I don't get along with girls. And then I gravitated to being friends with guys, like now, no offense to the men out there, and I do have some guy friends, but my girls are irreplaceable, they're incomparable.

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Amen.

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But on that note, I just think that we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves and we shouldn't judge so much. You know, if you're a woman who wants to be a wife and stay at home and raise her children and create a homestead, beautiful. I love that for you. If you're a woman who wants to be in her career and dedicate herself to something different, I love that for you. If you're a woman who wants to do both, I love that for you. I do not think that there is a right or wrong way to woman. Like however you want to lead your life, I love it, and I support you. And that's it. I agree with you, and I think the most beautiful part about that is that we have the choice, we have the power, and we can do whatever we want. That is so true. Um speaking of women makes me think of the title of our podcast. Seriously, just girls. I think it's a great way to explain our title because the way that I see it, I mean, obviously, we're playing on the saying, like, I'm just a girl, like I love doing this, I'm just a girl. But let that not be mistaken for weakness or us belittling ourselves or because we're lowering our expectations. Yeah, we're not just women, we get to be women, but also we have to be women, and it's not always easy and it's not always fun, but it makes me think of the movie Little Women. I love that movie, it is so cute. It's definitely top three for me. Um, but there are these sisters, and they each want different things in life. I think there's the main character Joe, who she wants to be a writer, and she is just so independent, like she doesn't strive to be a wife, you know, and then there's another sister who does strive to be a wife and to be a mom, and that's her dream. And she tells Joe, just because my dreams are different than yours doesn't mean they're not important. And I think that goes with what I was saying. Don't judge another woman for the path that they want to choose. Um, but then there's Amy, she's not the youngest sister, but there's like six of them, I think. There's a lot of sisters, it's a really good movie. We're gonna watch it later. Um, but there is another sister, Amy. She's an artist, but she can't really be an artist because it sets place in a time where you had to marry for money and you know the dowry and the courting, all that business. So she loves doing something, but she knows that in the society that she lives in, she can't just be a woman. And she's talking to this man who's kind of belittling her a little bit, like kind of saying, Oh, you just learned piano because you want to impress this man. Basically, he's like belittling her because she needs to marry for money. She likes this guy, but also she needs to be able to support her family. And she says, Well, I'm not a poet, I'm just a woman. And then she goes on to say, I can't be who I want to be and only be that. Like, I have to be so many other things because I'm just a woman. Yeah. I honestly really resonate with that because there's so many things that I want in this life. Yes, so many things I want to do, achieve, be like, I can't imagine myself just being one thing. I want to be a mom, but I also want to be a gazillion other things because I freaking can. Exactly. I feel so powerful in that sense where I can just do whatever I want and I can be whoever I want. And I don't have to be stuck to this one person about who I want to like. No, you don't. And I thought that literally, yes, like they just put it into words, like so beautifully. And I just I love it because it's so deep. Like, obviously, if you're just watching it, you're like, oh, okay. Yeah. But as a woman watching it, you're like, wow, that is so empowering. It is empowering. I was actually sitting here while you were talking about it, and I was thinking to ask you at the end um when you were explaining each character and what path they wanted to go out. I was gonna ask you, like, what's your path? What do you want to be? And then I answered my own question. I was like, she doesn't have to, she doesn't have to pick a path. She could literally be all four thousand things because she freaking can. I think that's so beautiful. That kind of makes me think of the main character Joe, because she does start off as very anti-men, you know, but then she ends up being able to have both in the end, like she you can do it all. Yeah, makes me think of Gray's too, Gray's Anatomy, yeah, and how um Christina and Meredith, obviously, Meredith, she's a mom, but she's also a doctor, and Christina's like really be both. Like you can't be a thousand percent in both, and it's okay, it's okay to be a thousand percent in motherhood and maybe eighty percent in your career. Yes, uh, but I remember I would be like, I would watch that and I'd be like, really, really Christina. She can do whatever she wants, and she can. She's a girl, she's a woman, she can literally do it all in a minute. And you can change your mind and you can restart. Yeah, how lucky are we that we get to restart and do life as many times as we want? I think about that all the time. I think about that all the time. I feel like I have lived a million lives. I do too. I feel like just within the last year, I feel like I have lived so many lives, and it's so crazy to think that we still have the rest of our lives to continue. Yes, I tell myself that all I'm like, you know what? Girl, you're only a quarter in. Right. No, we are only a quarter into this life, and my mom always, like I said, I feel like I've lived a million lives, and my mom always says, You should write a book. That's why we made the pod. And that's why we've made the pod. No, I just sent Nikki this like meme on Instagram. It wasn't a meme, it was like a from an account, and it was like, y'all are so lucky I don't have a podcast because I'm gonna be saying everything. And I sent it to her and I was like, can't relate. I was like, and we're Jenna that's getting started. Like, they're gonna be ruining them and episodes go on. No, seriously. No, we're not meme girls. No, we're not, but we tell the truth, so it's gonna get juicy. And we tell our truths, yeah. That's the that's the best part of it. Yes. I just think it's so beautiful that we get to live life as much as we want to. Oh my gosh, this is a little off topic, but it relates. As we were flying back from the airport in Mexico, we were like waiting in line to board, and my dad was like, Look at the pilot. And I looked at the pilot, and then I looked back at my dad, and he goes, It's a girl. And I was like, Oh my gosh. I was like, Have you ever seen a woman pilot? And he was like, No, never. This is my first time. And I was like, Do you think we're gonna be okay? He goes, Yeah, we're gonna be fine. And I was like, Okay, and then my aunt was with us. She brought it up to us. She was like, Did you see that the pilot is a girl? And I was like, Yeah. And she was like, I'm kind of scared. And I was like, the internal massage. And I was like, Yeah, my dad isn't afraid. He would be so happy if I were flying this plane. And she was like, You're my dad. Yeah, and so I was like, I remember sitting, and I did think, I was like, How empowering of my dad. Like, I was proud there because like Oh yeah, my dad's a girl dad. Those moments. Yes, I love those moments. My dad is definitely a girl dad. He'll play it all. But my dad, he let me braid his hair growing. He let me put little trencitas, like little chongos, like he let me do it all. Yeah. And my dad has always told me, like, you can do whatever you want to do. Mine too. And you will do whatever you want to do. That's where I was trying to get at because my dad would always tell me, like, you could do life as many times as you want to do it. And you can be passionate about whatever you want to do. And sorry, this is about woman, but just a little appreciation moment for my dad because he has always told me that you could do whatever you want. And I wouldn't be me without my dad either, because he has shown me that I can do anything and everything as long as I set my mind to it. Exactly. The right men will just make a woman's life better. Yes. My dad makes my life better. Marriage, partners, friends, brothers. Oh my gosh, my brothers. See, so listen to us because we're really not anti-men. We're anti-men for the wrong men. We're anti-men for the wrong men. I started there. I did start there. Because y'all make it really easy. And you do. But certain ones. But I love them, yes, the right men. And you know what? That goes for women too. The right women, because there are mean girls. And I was saying I love being a Latina woman, but I know some of us are a little judgy or maybe not super welcoming, but we're talking about the good ones. Yeah. Amen. On today's episode, what are you so seriously serious about? I am so seriously serious about matching people's energy. It should have been our New Year's resolution. But it is now. Still can be. Exactly. It's only March. No, seriously. And that goes positive and negative. You know, if someone's not showing up for me, I need to match that a little bit. But if someone's going hard for me, I need to go hard for them. And I really mean that with everything in me because I think we all have energy about us. And I think that I only want to reciprocate the right kind of energy going forward in my life because life is beautiful and I'm only a quarter in, but also life is so short and it's so precious. And I don't want to waste it on negative energy or things that just I don't want to say things that don't serve me, but just things that aren't purposeful. I just want to be very purposeful and intentional with my energy. And I have so many amazing people in my life that are just so amazing towards me. People were saying nice things about me on my birthday. That's my favorite part. And a couple of people said that I make them want to be better. And I just said that. Yeah, you did. And so did Haley. Yeah, Haley did too. And I just love that. And I love that my godmother, hey Jackie, Mega, I miss you. She recognized that and she appreciated that. And I just want to continue that energy. I want the people that are receptive to me, I want to continue that energy. Yeah. And I think you do. I think, at least for me, I think you are a great friend. And you really are someone that I aspire to be like. And you are a woman that I am proud of. And I love to be around you and I love to be friends with you. And you make me grateful for just being there because you are great to me and I love you. I love you so much. I'm gonna cry. She just keeps getting her flowers. I know. Since we're talking about women, one of my favorite women that I know that I can depend on and always has my back is this girl right here. And I love this adventure that we're going on. It's been so much fun. And Celeste is a very beautiful image of being a female. Thank you. I know that's so like I hate when men say, oh, females is, females that. And it's like, no, when I say that about Celeste, it is a compliment. She's just, she's so tea, and she's so beautiful, and she's so funny, and just I just love her. And she's just such a woman, and I'm so proud of you. I'm proud of you. Thank you. We've just been women these last few meetings. I love women together. Yeah, womaning together. It's been so much fun. Yeah, we've just been women. It's been a joy these last couple months, and I think it makes life so beautiful. So I'm proud of you. And you are a reason that I celebrate International Women's Day. I'm like, sappiness aside. What are you so seriously serious about? I need a sack.

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Okay.

SPEAKER_00 48:37

Okay. I am so seriously serious about my iPad. What would I do without my iPad? She is everything to me. I took her to Mexico. I took her to Mexico with me. And I would go to sleep. And you know, I just I can't fall asleep easily. I turned on Netflix. My iPad girl. Um I was in Mexico, so I got to see like these movies that I don't see in the US. And I was like, oh my gosh, this is great. And I was in love with so much more. And I was like, oh my gosh, thank God for my iPad. And I just love her. I have like my Apple Pencil. I need to buy a keyboard for it so I can type, you know, because you can get me messages on iPad too. I would love it if I really use an iPad to its full. She knows its features. Yeah, so I am insanely passionate about my freaking iPad. You can also take pics on it. Photo booth pictures. You can text your friends, FaceTime. You can do so much on it. And it's a bigger screen. And it's a bigger screen. I'm gonna use it for school. It is the best thing I've ever purchased. And I love her. Oh my god, so this is my little tech savvy girl because she has really carried this. And one more thing that I'm seriously serious about um the Hannah Montana premiere. Oh my gosh. I know. But here's the thing, I'm not ready to watch it today. So I need to prepare. Okay. I need some popcorn and maybe some tacos. I don't know if I'll wait for you. No, no need to wait for me. I really want to, but I got Laura. Okay. Cool. That is really exciting. Yeah, I love Hannah Montana. She was my childhood. She was my girl. You get the best of both worlds. That's what it's like to be a woman. You get the best of both worlds. Whatever you want, you can have. Period. Amen. This is gonna be so funny, but you know, going based off of women, I'm really thinking about like you could even see the differences in animals between men and women. Like a lioness and also my dog. What I was about to say. My dog, Charlie, that is my girl. If I'm anxious, I see a complete difference in her. If I'm sad, he shifts her energy, and we are connected. Yeah. And people laugh at me, but no, I feel like it's my daughter. Bailey is my girl. If I got no one, I got Charlie. Yeah. No matter what. Like Charlie needs to live to be forever because don't even talk about that. No, seriously, don't even talk about that. But she's just such a girl. Like, she is such a girl's girl. She loves girls. A man walks in, barks. Same. Bailey will literally bark at anybody who's not a girl. I'm like, yeah, girl. That's right. I'm like, hey, Bailey, don't be too trusting. You never know. It's true. You never know what these girls do, huh? Right. You can never tell. No, when me and Charlie on a walk, if there's a man that's coming our way, Bailey will bark. Her whole demeanor changes. I'm like, yeah, girl, you have our back. No, but you know, this probably isn't the right thing to say on our podcast for the entire nation to hear. But Bailey will not do shit. Bailey will bark, and that's it. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I know Charlie. I know she'll kill somebody. She's an Argonian. Um, if I really needed her to, I think she could get down. She really does somebody. As we come to a close on one of our most special episodes, we really want to thank all the girls listening to us right now. We know that a majority of our listeners are powerful, insightful, intelligent women. And we are just so thankful for each and every one of you guys. We know a lot of you are our friends, our family. And we are just so thankful for you guys. I know that maybe our podcast hasn't reached that many phones yet, but the phones that it has reached, it means the world to me when someone tells me what they think about it. And it makes me feel so seen and so heard and so much less alone. And honestly, it makes me feel a little less silly for talking into this microphone. It makes me feel like I have a purpose, and I hope that all the women listening to this feel how I feel. I hope that you don't feel alone and that you feel that you can relate to us because I think that's what's so beautiful about being a woman is that there always will be one thing that we can agree on. And I love you guys. And you guys are all beautiful and powerful, and you can do amazing things. Don't forget that you can do whatever you want. Whenever you want, you can choose, you decide how your life goes. So thank you again for listening to us, taking time out of your day, playing us while you're doing something. It does not go unnoticed or unappreciated. Thank you for all the support, and we just hope that you never forget that at the end of the day, you're just a girl, and you deserve to feel everything and anything, and you deserve to be happy. So thank you. Talk to you next week. Bye.