Seriously... Don't Buy Those Flights

Long Distance Relationships... Celeste & Nikky have been there done that. In this episode the girls are sharing their real experiences dealing with being in a LDR. They share what worked for them (barely), why it didn't really work for them (duh), and what maybe could have worked better (probably not though). The ladies are going to have to pass on recommending these sorts of relationships because after all: Love might not have a price tag, but flights sure do.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:07

Welcome back. Hello, hello. Hi everybody. I hope you guys are having a good week. I'm having a great week. I'm having a pretty good week too. I'm a little tired. Yeah. I don't know how you're up right now. I'd be in bed. Earlier today, Nikki said something, and I was like, uh, you need to go back to bed. She said something like it was just wrong. I was like, you need to go back to bed. I literally can barely speak today, so bear with her. That's exactly what I was gonna say. Bear with me, guys, because I'm I don't know if I'm jet lagged. It's only a three-hour difference, but it's a difference though. I'm just tired. Yeah, I would be tired. I had a long travel day. Where were you? I was in Washington, DC with my family for a couple days. I love it there. I love it there too. I live there seasonally. Yeah, I was like No, I don't know. I really like the East Coast, but I really love the West Coast. You love the weather here? Everywhere. I love it there and I love it here. But yeah, I don't think I could like do the snow. I think I could. Well, I have done kind of not to that extreme, but you know where a little bit of snow. Where? Boston. I would move to Boston. You've never been to Boston. I just know I would like to live there. My gosh, I can't have anything. No guys, Celeste has been on a sick one today. We were on FaceTime earlier with our friend Haley, and we were kind of picking on Celeste because she's just in such a bad mood. I'm not in a bad group, I'm just sassy. Yeah. You're little grouchy today. You're not gonna be sassy. Okay, thank you. It's the same thing to Latinos, okay? You know who you're reminding me of right now? What's that guy's name? He was on the I'm scared. No, he was on that podcast. He said guy. Oh you know what I'm talking about? I know exactly. No, what's his freaking name? He basically he doesn't have a podcast, he just goes on different podcasts. He's a he's a comedian. Yeah, he's really funny. He's wearing glasses. Yes. I'm wearing glasses. No, no, no. It was the way you said something that reminded me. It was the accent, and he has an accent. Oh. What is his name? He was on um Jake Shane's podcast and he has a Netflix special. Do you know what I'm talking about or no? No. I was thinking of something. El Gordito? No. That's what I'm thinking of. No, he's really handsome. Oh. And he has a beautiful girlfriend. She's like from Venezuela or something. Oh my gosh. The Dominican guy, Marcelo. Marcelo! That's his name, yes. You sounded just like him right now. I do love Marcelo. I love him too. Me too. Coffee break. Nikki makes the best coffees ever. Yeah. He did the little dingo bingo with the glass straw. Mmm. Max gets really my brother, Max, he gets um really um nervous when I use glass straws because he's like one day it's gonna shatter. Oh my god. I know. I'm like, why do you why do you have to think like that's gonna happen? He's like precautions. We're just like precautious. He's pessimistic. He is a pessimist. Um, anyways, I love Washington, DC. I don't know. Okay. I'll listen to it.

unknown 3:20

Alright.

SPEAKER_00 3:21

I'll listen back. Um I went to Washington, D.C. I went to Washington, DC. Celeste, be nice. Every wrong thing I'm saying today, I feel like she's just so irked. She's like, oh, another mistake. Another grammatical error. That's really funny because I make the most grammatical errors. Yeah. When the most messed up stuff like that. So let me not be so mean. I don't know why. I had a doctor's appointment this morning and I had to wake up early, and so like I don't know, and then I have a hair. I just feel rushed. You can't watch the news. I can't watch the news. Yeah, ever since then you've been like really going down. So because it's really sad. It is really sad. I'll probably talk about it for like two seconds, but I was just in such a great mood yesterday. I mean, I wasn't even in that good of a mood yesterday. Maybe you shouldn't say specifically, because then they're gonna be in a really bad mood. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, fine. And I was eating enchiladas because my mom made enchiladas, so fun. I offered it to all my friends. I brought some over for Nikki. Haley came over for dinner last night, and yeah, my mom made enchiladas, and I learned how to make them too. And as I'm eating my freaking play, my niece Gabby, she starts talking about the news, and I don't really keep up with the news like that because I take things really same. I carry it with me. I carry it with me, and it just makes me really, really sad. And so I don't like to listen to the news for that reason. It's because it's always so negative. Yeah, I definitely know that I should, but I don't like to because I definitely know that there's terrible things going on in the world. But basically she told me about it and I looked it up and I was eating my enchiladas and I had like three more bites left, and I was like, I can't even finish. Like it made me so sick. Mm-hmm. Anyway, so I didn't finish my enchilalas, and I was just upset about so many things, and I think it carried on into today too. And so now it's Well, I feel like you were so great at the beginning. You were in such a great mood. When I was at the beginning of the FaceTime, yeah, you're like I went to the doctors, you were talking about your day, how your appointment went, yeah. Everything you had planned, and then you were like, guys, I have to tell you about what I just found out. Have you guys heard? And then we were talking about it. And I feel like ever since then you've just been like a little bit. But you know, you gotta let those it's hard, but like you kinda have to let them go a little bit for your own well-being. Obviously, care about things, but basically, um, if you really, really want to know, just look up FedEx Driver. Yeah. That's all. FedEx Driver. Yeah. It's kind of gruesome, so I'm like, Yeah, I feel like censored a little bit. It's a little trigger warning. Other than that, I had a great week. You had a good weekend? What'd you do? Uh yeah. So Friday I went to Haley's dress shopping. Um her first one's. I'll be at the second. I'll send you pics. Yeah, I won't be there for that one. FaceTime me. I wanted to FaceTime you, but I was like, she's busy. Like, I was like, FaceTime me too, but then I was like, that's gonna be so annoying to like be walking around and then like I didn't want to distract you guys. We were literally just sitting there. I would have totally FaceTimed you. Yeah, that was my idea, but I looked at your location and I was out and about. Yeah, and I was like, I was hanging out with Abe. Sorry. I remember you baby on the town. Nikki loves Abraham Lincoln. I love him. Like, what is your obsession with this guy? Like, he free the slaves. Besides that, he's 6'4.

unknown 6:42

Oh!

SPEAKER_00 6:43

Besides that, he wears a top hat. You sound like me. Besides that, he loved Peter. Besides that, he was a really big reader. I just relate a lot to him. I get it, I get it. You know? Yeah. I love him. Yeah, so that was fun. I saw Haley in her dresses and it was really nice. I think you're gonna cry when you see her. Probably. It's a really nice moment. I'm glad you're gonna be there. I wish I was gonna be there with you guys. I won't be because I'll be right back. I know. Haley's such a little I hate that we like are separate. Yeah, I know we're separate too. Separate friends at separate things. I'm like, no, let's all get on the same page. Right. Well, Nikki had um, she was in Washington, she couldn't go to the first one, and then I can't go to this one because I'll be at stagecoach. So we'll just have to send you a little bit more. We're gonna have to figure it out for the third one. But I really appreciate all the pictures that you took. Yeah. Haley says that she swears she's gonna find it this time. I'm like, no, you're not. You're not gonna find it. No, I don't think so. She might be a little over it. You think? Maybe. I'm like, yes. That way we can all be together. That'd be cool. Yeah, I don't think she's gonna find it. Anyway, other than that, Saturday was her sister's bridal shower, so I spent the whole day with Haley. We were like setting up, and then my sister helped with stuff over there. So I was with Haley all day. Two days in a row with her. Oh, yeah. That was a lot. Maybe that's how you're gonna be. Maybe I'm just gonna be and then Sunday I went to Santa Barbara and I spent the day out there. I like Santa Barbara. I love it. It's a long drive. It was a good one. It's a long day in the car. I slept. Oh, good for you. For a long portion of it. I felt good. I was like, hell yeah. But it was really pretty out there. Weather was nice, it was kind of hot. I took like a jacket, I thought it was gonna be so cold, but no. I know I really like Santa Barbara. We should go, like on a girl's day or like a girl's trip. I think that might be if my birthday were not in the freaking winter. I feel like that too. I'm like, I know it's March. Yours is actually in winter. My birthday's in March, but I feel like it's always cold. This year it was a little warm, thank god. But it's usually really cold. I think So on your birthday, oh my gosh. Celeste's first birthday that I spent with you. I was like my toes hurt. Oh, it's so cold. What was my first birthday? When we were at Roseanne's house. Oh, your dad made oh goodness, all the tacos were so amazing. But my toes were like hurting. It was really cold that day. It was really cold. I think I don't know why it was that cold, like freezing. I think I'm over the birthday parties. I don't think I'll have a birthday party anymore. But I think I'm gonna start celebrating my half birthday instead of my regular birthday. So my birthday will be in the summer, not this year, because we just have so much going on. This is what June? June 21st. Three plus six is nine September. That's pretty good. So next year. I think next year I'll still celebrate in January, but then I'll make everybody go on a trip to Santa Barbara in the summer. I think that's my plan. I think you absolutely should do that. I think we could do it this June. No, I don't think we can. Why? What do you mean? Why? Yeah, why not? Everybody's so busy and everybody has weddings and everybody has events to go to. I only have one event in June. You only have one event in June. Haley only has one event in June. Who else do you want to invite? I think you absolutely should do that. And do you think you can hear the birds tripping? Hope is beautiful. The background. Yeah, I had a really good time with my family. It was it was so fun to have the conversations that we were having because everyone was telling me that I was type A. My parents were telling me that they think I'm gonna be a really strict parent. They're like, you're strict. You're so strict. I think I'm so type B that I'll be type A with my kids. I think you're so type A that you're gonna be type B with your kids. I think I'm gonna have to realse I'm gonna go crazy. Like I think I I think I am so type A, but I've met people that are like a capital A. I'm like a lowercase A. I have also met people that are a capital A. Yeah, like they're type A, capital A. I think I'm a capital. You're like a B minus. Because like you're type B, but like you still get it done. You still have a schedule. Yeah, that makes me feel better. Yeah. No, you're a B plus because you're almost A. Oh, okay, okay. So maybe, yeah, capital B. That's what you were gonna say. You were right about that. I was like B minus. What does that mean? Okay. So if you lived in Santa Barbara and I lived here, would you be sad? So sad. Really? Yeah. I would be sad too. Remember when you were gonna you were thinking about moving to LA? Uh-huh. I was really sad about that. Really? Orange County's like more doable. Yeah. I don't feel like Orange County is super long distance. I don't think so either. Which is what we want to talk about this week, guys. We want to talk about long distance friendships, relationships, our experiences. Our opinions. Our opinions, yeah. Maybe we're a little biased. Yeah. I don't think I'm biased. I'm just experienced in the subject. I'm definitely biased. I hate that shit. I'll never do it again. No thank you. I don't think I would too. What is long distance for you? Okay. For me, I think any amount of distance where you can't see each other at least once a week. I think an hour. I'm just kidding. Um You're like, actually, it's a 10-mile radius. I don't want to drive anywhere, so. Yeah. Or fly anywhere. I will say it is fun when you are in it. Are in it, yeah, because you get to travel. Like, I got to travel a lot, but I would never do it again. I don't think I would do it again either, especially at my big grown age. Cause I'm like, you're either coming with me or I'm not. Like the relationship that I'm in right now, if one of us moved, I feel like you gotta start asking those questions. Like, are we gonna be together? And if we are, one of us is gonna have to go with each other. Cause we're too grown for that. Like, I am not gonna be in a long distance relationship at 25. Are you crazy? You said in the relationship I'm in right now. It could change. People think I'm mean when I say that. My mom's like, you're so mean. It could change. Nothing is for certain. I mean, obviously, I hope that it lasts. Like, let me backtrack a little bit. I hope this is the last relationship I'm in. What's long distance to you? Uh, I would say compared to what I used to do, my long distance was 10 hours in a drive. Um, and I did the drive one time. By yourself? Mm-hmm. Well, it's because it was my birthday. At the time, the person I was with was working a lot, so he wasn't gonna take time off to like be with me every single day because he still had to work. Like, you couldn't, I don't know, maybe it was a lie, I don't freaking know, but he had to work while I was out there. He would tell me like you could keep your car and like just drop me off. I didn't want to wake up at five o'clock in the morning. So it was like so. At the time I was like, I'd rather just take my car. I don't know why. I was out there for like a week and I was like, I just want to be able to like go wherever I need to go if I there wasn't a lot to do where he was from. Yeah, I was like, but I in my head I was like, oh, I'll go to the gym. Never went to the gym. I'd go grocery shopping. He waited until he was off. No, literally, there was no point. I should have just No, me and you were different because when I was in a long distance relationship, I would fly because it was in a completely different state. Um, well, it was so weird actually. We started off a couple hours apart and then he transferred schools, so then he went out of state, and so I would have to take a plane, so I would only see him like maybe every six weeks, maybe. Oh wow. Yeah. I would see him maybe like every two months. Every two months? I think so. I don't know. Yeah, we see each other. I don't want to say it was like every other month, but it was it was pretty often. If I had time, I would fly out there. He would fly me out too. So like I didn't really. The only time I paid for it was when I really wanted to go out there. So I like wanted to book it. You're like on my way. Waste the money. Yeah, that's how I think it now. But no, I really liked it because I would. I would be like, Can you walk to school and I'll use the car? Or he had roommates. No, he had roommates, so he would like go to school and practice with them because he was a baseball player. But yeah, he had well like this town was very small. I don't want to talk too much about it, but like the town was small, so he had roommates or had people co-workers nearby, like a lot of them did the same thing and all his own. Well, so sometimes he'd carpool. Yeah, sometimes he'd carpool, and then he would leave me the car. But for the most part, you were just on your own. Yeah, I was just on my own, and I'd be like, You're like Uber. Oh my gosh, and then the town. No, it was a small town. There was no Uber. No Ubers out there. So I'd be like, dang, do I gotta walk or something? No, one time he thought he was gonna be off early to take me back, like take me to the airport because I had to go home. No. And I don't know how we figured it out. I think I ended up getting a taxi. Getting taxis, dude. I don't remember what I did, but the first time that I went out there, the very, very first time, he was like probably like a week in, like had just moved out there, and I went that week. Um, and I was so scared. He was supposed to pick me up. He didn't get off early enough, and so he's like texting me. He's freaking out because he feels bad. And then I ended up taking like a shuttle or like some big band. And the guy was like creepy, like I was scared. And then I'm also this is the first time that I'm in this city, and it was like he also is not that familiar with the area either, maybe. Yeah. And there was like trees everywhere, like it it was like really. Like the town itself. It's like eerie. Eerie, yeah. Spooky. Spooky. There's a lot of like that's how I felt the town that I was in. Yeah. Wait, what is what is it called? Dispensaries? There's a bunch of dispensaries, and so I was like, What is the top M Line of that? Oh my gosh, that's so funny. Yeah, the town that I would visit, it was super small. I really liked it. So I don't know, I guess there's pros and cons to long distance relationships because I kind of enjoyed feeling like I was traveling somewhere, but I think long distance relationships aren't sustainable because it's like you're vacationing together. It feels like a vacation, so everyone's on their best behavior, everyone's just happy to see each other. And it's very like the way that I would see it is like, oh my gosh, I only get a weekend with him, so I'm just gonna bottle up everything, not talk about anything that's maybe bothering me, and I just want to have a good time, you know, and we'll talk about it when we get to it. And we never addressed those things, and so as our relationship got more serious, those things never got addressed, and basically it was a very volatile relationship, and it just exploded in both of our faces. No, I never really thought about it like that, but yeah, I do agree. I have a friend who's in a long distance relationship, and that's what I tell her. I'm like, you have to one of you guys has to find a way to like consistently visit each other so you can see each other in everyday life. Or when he comes to visit you, don't take the whole time off, you know, like see what he's like after work or he needs to see you after work because Yeah, well that's why I like in a way I don't feel like it was vacationing because literally I'd go out there and fucking clean too, like rub whatever. But he was always working, so it was like it didn't really feel like I don't know, didn't feel like a vacation. That makes sense, but that's a good point. Yeah, that's how it felt like for me. I mean, yeah, like he still was going to school and practice and all that stuff, but I would just not address anything because I you know, you don't want to like take things for granted and you don't want to waste the only time that you have with this person. Um I don't think I was like that. I would still pick a fight. Oh, good for you. No, but you know what I do love? Long distance friendships. I love them. I love them. I'll go see you. Yeah, you know, I don't think I have a long distance friendship besides Juliana. And that's not even long distance, she's an escondido. No, that's a little long. You just said that it was like a two-hour long distance. She's only an hour. It's only an hour? Escondido, yeah. Girl, we live in SoCal, nothing's an hour. It's like an hour and a half of traffic. Mom, I need to be better about going out to see her. Yeah, that's how I feel about my friend, but I just feel like let's sp let's split a let's split a flight. Just come out here. Like that's what we did last time, but I really want to go out there this summer. Because I have two friends from where I um used to live in Oregon, and one of them's pregnant again, so I want to see her, and then I want to see Meredith, and I just think it'll be so much fun. Yeah, I think that's my only long distance friendship. You are my other long distance friendship. I'm trying to think. I'm like, where else? I don't think I have anybody that lives far. Do you think a long distance relationship can be successful? Um well I've seen them be successful. Really? On TikTok? Oh. I'm like, you know someone personally? Because I don't. Everyone I know that's been in oh, I shouldn't say that because merit is in a long distance relationship. It'll work out for you, girl. It will work for you. Um anyway. I don't know. I think because I was in it, I had faith in it, and I feel like it would have worked out had we not had other problems. But you don't think the distance was a problem. Yeah, I don't think so. I think I was um You're right. I think it was all I know. I think I enjoyed my independence. Like I'm very independent to begin with. I love to do a lot by myself and a lot with my friends and my like I love that was the pro for me too. Yeah. But I don't think that it was so bad that it wouldn't have worked out. I think I enjoyed like having my own personal space. Not that I didn't when he lived closer to home, but it's just different. It is different. You literally have to keep yourself busy too, or else you will go insane. Yeah. With like missing him or letting your thoughts wander, or like it's really hard to be confident in a long distance relationship and not have those doubts. Oh, a con for me was definitely like just communication, I think. Because I think at the time we talked a lot, but he was working a lot, and then I kind of was busy too, so I don't feel like we talked as often as we should have. And so when it came to like bites or disagreements, or just like you know, especially when you're not seeing the person, and then you're also not talking to this person. I remember in the beginning it was really rough because he started a new job, and so like I would not speak to him. He would call me like at the end of the day, but I was like already going to bed, like wouldn't really talk. So I think that's probably the most difficult thing for me is communication, like when you don't when not that there wasn't effort made, but when there's not a lot of that, it's really hard to it's really hard because I would look up like tips, like no, seriously, I'd be like, how so to make a long distance relationship work, and some people would say never end the trip without knowing when the next time you're gonna see each other is, or like you need to have rituals in a relationship just like other people, like you know, date nights on Fridays, like try to do that long distance, and I feel like my partner had also such a demanding schedule that it was really hard to have those. I also I'm like I I don't love long distance relationships. I wouldn't wish that for anybody if we're being so honest. I wouldn't recommend it, I wouldn't wish it for anybody because I feel in my situation it was so easy for him to hide who he really was. It was so easy for him to put on his best behavior while I was there and kind of keep his emotions in check because I made it to the long distance ending and us creating a life together, and you know, we moved in together, like we were starting the thing, and I really. Was seeing the real him, and I was like, um, this is not the same person that I was dating long distance. Long distance, he was very sweet with me, very charismatic, very just romantic, yeah, and different and patient and graceful. And I feel like all of that went out the window because he just couldn't he couldn't hide it anymore. It just he was a manipulator. Yeah, he definitely was. He definitely was, and I don't know, I try not to like hold anger about it, but I'm just like, dang, I know that if our relationship had been closer, it probably would not have lasted or developed the way that it did. Like I probably would have been like, oh, okay, I actually don't like this, this, and this, and so I'm out. Do you think that would have been the same way had you guys, for example, your relationship now? Like you guys don't live together, you guys spend a lot of time together, but do you think that it would be different if you guys lived together? I don't know if I'm asking that the correct way, but like the same way that he wasn't himself when he was putting on a show. Like, do you think about that now? Um, yeah, it's always a worry. Like, I think that's that's the trauma part in me where I'm like, that's the part of me that I think only time is gonna heal. Yeah. Because I'm just like, are you really who you say you are? Are you really this way? Are you really this calm and collected, or is this really who I'm dealing with? And I think that I'm finally at a place where I'm like, yeah, I think like he is who he says he is. I think living together would obviously we would see more sides to each other, but we already see a lot of sides now, and I think with the long distance relationship, you miss so much. Like he missed my partner at the time, he missed my bad nights, and if I was arguing with my brothers or if I had a bad day at work, like he's just not he wasn't physically here to deal with that, and it was so weird because we had no problems our long-distance relationship. That's also a red flag. There's no problems, no arguing, never argued, never. Really? Yes, nothing bad ever happened in his life, nothing bad ever happened in my life. Supposedly, like it was like sunshine and rainbows. So when we did live in the same area, well, we moved in together, suddenly he's has family members passing away, and I have personal things going on, and so we were being tested so much and we weren't passing the test. Like, he wasn't passing the test. I was like, Oh, this is how you respond in a high stress situation, and he didn't like how I responded in a high stress situation, so it was just difficult for the both of you, I think. Yes, and we definitely got a little too committed. I think we took a little too many steps to the future. I wish that honestly, you're like, we took it too far. Yeah, we took it too far. You know, you know. Um you guys will know. Don't worry. I uh took things a little too far. I locked a little too in. Um, but I think honestly, in the perfect world, and this is what I tell my friend, I would say to move in the same area, maybe not move in together, but go see what it's like where he lives, if that's where you guys are gonna build your life. Go get an apartment or try to get an Airbnb for a week. Like literally just try to see if that's the type of life that you envision and play a little house together, see what this person's life is like, and if you really want to blend with that. Because I think maybe if I had seen that, I would have gotten my ass back to California. But then you would have called your dad a little sooner. Yeah, I would have been like, Dad, come get me right now. And he would have came. But you know, those TikToks that are like, oh, like people say like people are never gonna come save you, no one's gonna save you. Dude, I feel so bad for those people that say that because I'm like saying I'm like, my dad will come save me, and my mom will come save me, my sister, please. Everybody will come save me, like, no, literally, my friends will come save me. No, like that makes me so sad. I'm like, I know a couple acquaintances that would come save me if I needed them to. What do you mean? No one's gonna come and save you. If you haters that would come and do, seriously. Dude, no, long distance, just don't do it. Yeah, no, it's not fun. Yeah, no, I'm sorry. I say no. I did love the independence and I loved the fact that I was still making my life. But the truth is, if you're gonna build a life together, you gotta like m mix. When I started dating my boyfriend, I was very adamant about the fact that I wanted to see him around my family. I wanted to see him around my friends, and I wanted to see him around his friends. So I do think that it's really important to like blend your life with your partner. And I think that it is very hard to genuinely authentically do that in a long distance relationship. Well, you kinda I feel like your long distance was a little different because you guys started close distance and then went long distance and then didn't quite get back to close distance. It never ended. We're actually still long distance right now. So no, you're not. Stop. I'm really happy that we could joke about this. Yeah, I'm really happy too. Right guys, there was a point where we couldn't even match. She was not speaking for the day my eyes teary. Anyways. Okay, lock it. Yeah, but Laura. Actually, you know what? Okay. I think we're at this stage of grief where everything's a joke. Which is a good place to be. No, I remember when I was there. Oh, you do? I feel like I'm still kind of joking about it now. Yeah, I was like, it's just one big fat joke. One big fat joke. One big fat joke, you know. But I also think long distance relationships are so childish. What are we doing? No, yeah, like what are we doing? But also it's so hard, dude. I don't know. I'm like having this like epiphany right now because I'm thinking about how young I was. Because I'm 25 now and I look back and I'm like, dang, being 21, 22, making the decisions that I was making is crazy. It is so crazy. Just the decision to go and spend the weekend with a boyfriend and trying to build a life with someone when it's like, girl, build your own life, you know. And but then at the same time, I think long distance are so childish because I'm like, if you want to be together, just literally be together, like be in the same room together, you know. It's just really hard. Honestly, if you're long distance, good luck, Charlie. You're gonna need it. God bless you, God bless you. Um there's some hope for some though. Like, no, one thousand percent. You know, you've made me friendlier. Me? Yeah, you've made me a friendlier person. I was in Washington, DC, and I don't know what girl I was like. I asked her a question, she asked me a question back, and I was thinking to myself, like, I should ask for her number or something, or for her Instagram. Like, and you did? No. No, but I'm getting friendlier in the thought process. I'm not there verbally, I'm really physically.

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I love that.

SPEAKER_00 28:48

Yeah, because you are so friendly. But I was also thinking about the fact that we were gonna film this episode, and I was like, I would love to have more long distance friendships. I'm going on a couple trips, I don't know, I maybe I should make it a point to make a friend, you know, in every you know, place that I visit or something. So Nikki and I are going to Mexico City. When we went to New York, we met this like big group of like really fun people. Like I was I only knew them for like a four-minute subway train ride. And I fell in love with them. And one of the guys, he followed me, and we've been like internet friends, and he'll like will tell me happy birthday, and like I see his posts and stuff. I'm pretty sure he lives in Mexico City, so I'm not sure. I think they said that they were from Mexico City. I'm hoping that we'll post that we're there and he'll sign up and be like, Oh my gosh, be like, I don't know. Comida, send that. But he was so fun. No, that whole group was really fun. Yeah. So hopefully we can meet with them. We want him to be our friend in Mexico City. Um, I'm really excited to listen to Fresitas. I love Fresitas. They just speak so pretty. It's definitely the girls from Haley School too. Like the Oh, 100%. I'm just I'm really excited for us. I think you're gonna absolutely love it. I think I will too. It's gonna be a lot of walking, probably. I'll bring comfy shoes. Comfy shoes, yeah. I really wanna like make it a point to like do an outfit change though. Yeah, no, we're gonna need like for dinner, yeah. Like we're gonna need to go back to the pigs. Me too. Yeah, like we're just gonna go out for dinner and come right back. Oh my gosh, I freaking told Nikki the other day, I was like, I'm doing so much traveling these next few weeks. I was like, my Instagram followers are really about to be sick of me. She was like, babe, they've been sick of you. Literally, my freaking jaw dropped. I was like, Oh, that sucks. They've been seeing you. Trying to be like coffee post. Hey, I'm trying to post a lot too. I know, I'm trying to be more mysterious. I'm trying to post more on my close friends rather than um my main story. Your close friends aren't gonna make you rich. That's true. Your close friends aren't gonna get you sponsored. Anyway, back to the topic. Back to the topic. No, no, no, I want to talk about this a little.

unknown 31:00

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 31:01

Because I've been posting a lot on my Washington DC trip, and I I feel like a little bit of a fraud. I don't think this is how influences do it, but this is the only thing that I could do it, like posting. I can't post in the moment because I want to live in the moment. It's enough to take a picture, but then I have to sit there and what pick a song, decide what I want to say. So I've just been like getting everything ready the night before, and then I just like post it the next day throughout the day. That's cute. And save it as a draft. And I feel like my stories have been so much better that way. I think it's cuter too, because yeah, sometimes I forget to post like yeah, I forget to post it too. And I'm like, oh, this song would have like really hit with this song. I mean with this post. Yeah, that's how I want to be these next couple weeks. Like, I want to take my time with posting because also my post too. Like, sometimes I'm just so excited. I'm like, oh, this picture eats, like, post it, and then I'll go back and look at the other pictures that I have, and I'm like, oh yeah, like sometimes you should have sat with it a little. I get what you mean. You should have sat with it a little. So I'm trying to be better about what I post and what I want to share because I am um I am an oversharer. A hundred not personally 30%. No, yeah. Yeah. I'd be telling everybody everything. Yeah, and TikTok. But I'd be telling everybody everything. I met Haley's cousins. She told me. They wanted to know about me. What was I gonna do? Say no, like no. No, but less it's like you want to know about me. Let me tell you the most soul-crushing thing that's happened to me in the last six months. That's what people really care about. Those cousins left and they're like, wow. We gotta put her in tonight's prayers. No, you know, I used to be like that too, and it's so funny because when we started this podcast, Marma was telling you, I really want to start journaling about the episodes that we're gonna film. So I was reading through my journal, and I was literally saying, Today I worked on not oversharing. Today someone asked me this, and I didn't say. I stayed quiet. I feel like I was very like a trauma dumper in friendships, and I try not to be. But maybe I was just trauma dumping to the wrong friends. My friends that I have right now are very um tell me, yeah, like it's okay. But I also think it's because we're older and we can handle it better. Like my friends from when I was really young, I was like, dang, I really told them that. They really know about me. That was really heavy. I was like, I'm okay. No, yeah. But I think it's okay to trauma dump. Especially with your best friends, I think it's okay. I agree. But I only I only have best friends. Yeah. I yeah, I feel like you have friends. Yeah, I don't really have friends. I have like my best friends, and I don't really like anyone else. I'm gonna say this though. Um, if you're not gonna tell your best friends, who are you gonna tell? So I think You are so funny because you do say that. She'll text us like But guys, I have to tell you guys because I have to say it out loud. And now I did. And who else am I gonna tell? Literally, guys. If you guys hear a lot of background noise, my house is full today. Okay, there is too many dogs here. We have a visitor, my brothers are home at the same time. There's just a lot happening here. My parents are gonna be home soon. I hope they bring tacos this kid. So this is so funny. My grandma's like, oh yeah, I mean and chiladas. My and so is like, can you make me some too? No, I'm happy. One thing about me is I will make myself at home. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And she's not shy. Like, even my mom, too. The other day she asked my mom, Can you make me chilar llenals? Because I really like them, but I think I'm gonna like yours. Like, okay. Wait, my mom's gonna make chilarellos for Haley's birthday. So you should come in July. Is that Haley's favorite meal too? I guess so. Yeah, it is. So my mom's gonna make some, and then your mom should make some either in June or August. That way, everybody has them once a month. I agree, yeah, yeah. And then yeah, everybody gets their fix.

SPEAKER_01 34:37

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_00 34:38

Love chilarellanos. I also love rajas. Like I that poblano chili is really my thing. I think that I could just like slice it up and just like chop on it. Um, remember when me and you were long distance friends? Do you remember? I do. Me and Nikki weren't that close, but I think if we had been, I because Nikki and I thrive off of FaceTime calls. Yeah. So I think that I really, really would have enjoyed that. I actually did have a long distance friend. Haley was my long-distance friend when she lived in Oregon. Damn, all my friends lived in Oregon. I feel like it's like I feel like I need to move to Oregon. I think I would have been a better long-distance friend had I not been in the relationship that I was in. Because I was going through such a terrible, terrible, terrible time in that relationship that I just didn't know. Yeah, I just like did not. It's like so that was actually your fault, not mine. No, no, it wasn't anyone's fault. I just I was like in a place in my life where I couldn't get close to anyone, and the people that I was close to, I put a lot of distance, not even physically, just like emotionally, like with my mom, with my best friend. Like I just couldn't talk to anyone because I'm not a good liar. So I feel like if someone asked me, like, how are you? I'd be like, Well, actually, like, this is the worst relationship I've ever been in, and like I'm the most miserable I've ever been in my whole life. And you didn't want anybody to know. And I don't want anyone to know because like how embarrassing. Not embarrassing, but like that hard to talk about. This is like not the topic of the conversation, but I think back too, and I'm like, ugh, if I just would have been honest to some people, like maybe I would have like set you straight a little. Yeah, maybe I would have helped myself. Um, I always told my mom, like, I wish someone would have just like called me, like, dude, you look stupid. Like, I honestly like I wish someone would have told me, like, you look stupid and you're being stupid. I don't think I would have cared though. No, I think I would have because everyone was very supportive, but my parents when I moved out there took like a really weird like stance, like a very like traditional, judgy uh stance. Not saying that you guys were being judgy, okay? No, I am they were being very and they should have been because they were right, you know. But that never works, like someone judging you and like trying to be traditional when my whole life my parents were not very traditional was like. You're trying to be something you're not, you know. I think well, maybe that doesn't relate, but I do think that somebody telling me that I don't think I would have listened because it wouldn't have been what I wanted to hear. So for them to be doing something that's not very traditional or traditional, like I feel you wouldn't have listened too much either. You know? Yeah. But you live and you learn. Like, thank God we're not in those. Seriously, you're not gonna be able to do you do live and you learn, and maybe we're just being very pessimist. And I I think that if it's your true love and the love of your life, and if that is who God has picked for you, then it's gonna work out. If that's who God wants for you, it's gonna work out. But we do think that they're childish and you shouldn't be in one at this grown age. Yeah, I think like if you were gonna be together, just be together. But Haley and I were long distance friends. I went to visit her once in Oregon. She was two hours away from me. I never saw her. Was she? She? Yeah. Actually, I don't think we were there at the same time. Yeah, yeah. I think we there were there very briefly, like three months. I think in my long distance relationship, she was out there. But obviously, I wasn't gonna like take a bus on top of the plane that I just went on. Yeah, yeah. And I wanted to see my parents. We're definitely not out there at the same time. Mm-mm. Susu came to visit me, and my parents would actually come and see me often. And then you guys went to go see me right before I moved home. But I was already no, I know. I'm just trying to think like who saw me in that relationship. And I think only Susu did, and it was like so weird because if you know Susu, she's not a quiet person. She was quiet, she was mute, dude. Like, I think like the energy in that relationship was just so like terrible that even like she I you it even changed her for the brief moment that she visited me, which is like so crazy to think about. Long distance. I think I think maybe what what tips would you have for someone in a long distance relationship? Don't think that you wish you Celeste. Something that some things that you would have done differently in that long distance relationship that maybe could have made it work. Um, I think definitely don't take too much time away from each other. And I think also be vocal about everything, but handle everything with love and care. Because yeah, you shouldn't want to like because I did, I would think like that too. Like, oh, I don't want to ruin the whole trip, like I'm only here for a couple days, and I don't know the next time I'll see him, type of BS. But now it's like, mm-hmm, I wish I still would have said what I wanted to say, and I feel like I did, like I would pick fights, but like for valid reasons, and then I'm like, uh, well maybe I should have handled it a little differently. I should have been a little bit nicer. I feel like you just have to remember why you're doing it, why you're with the person. Do you really love them? Does this person really love you? Yeah. Do you really see this working out? Mm-hmm. Is there really compassion in the relationship? Is there really love in the relationship? One tip that I would say, which I think I already touched on a little earlier, was that try to make see each other as casual or as normal as possible. Try to do the same things that you would do at home that you would do there. Like whoever is visiting who, you know, like whoever is home based there, like try not to change your schedule too much. Like, still say, like, okay, I still gotta do what I gotta do, and then we'll go on a date this day. Not treat every day like a date. Because that's how it was for me. Like, every day was like a romantic gesture, which obviously is beautiful. And if that really was who he was and it would have continued like that, even when we lived together, beautiful. Things probably would have turned out differently. But it wasn't like that. Every day was definitely not a date, and the romance was gone out the door. But don't overcompensate just because you're long distance, I think. And I think we also always say this, but pay attention to the red flags. I talk about this in an upcoming episode a little bit, but this is the topic of it. Um, in that relationship, I've he would always like guilt trip me. He'd always be like, Well, I'm the one who moved away from home. I'm the one who isn't with my family, isn't with my friends. Like, you're at home, you're with your parents, you're with your friends, you're with your family, like you're fine. And I'd be like, um I'd be like, okay, like, yeah, maybe I have it a little bit easier, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't still suck. Yeah. So I think, yeah, pay attention to stuff like that too is a big, is a big um take that I wish I would have listened to a little bit more and paid attention to. Because then it's like, like, we should be compassionate with each other and we should be like, oh, she's going through it too. Like she also, especially me, like I'm very independent, but I also love, like, I did love my partner so much, you know. So it wasn't like, yeah, and that person knew that. Honestly, that person was ignorant as fuck. Like, oh, like, what do you mean? Like, I think about it all the time. I'm like, you knew how I was as a person, you knew how I was as a lover, like as just like your partner. Like, of course, this wasn't easy for me. So I think pay attention to little little things like that, and well, not little, so that's actually pretty big, but yeah, definitely pay attention to the ruthless MFers in the world. Yes, definitely red flags. Um one huge red flag that I missed in that little distance relationship was he would always like yell at his roommates. Like he would get so angry. And his roommates were they were guys, like they were college baseball players, like they weren't the cleanest, they weren't the most scheduled, regulated people, they would sometimes have people overlaid or not clean up all the time. Like to me, it wasn't a big deal, but he would like he would he would just get so angry at them and he would yell, and I'd just be like, uh, that like they're roommates, you know, guys yell at guys, but it's like no. Honestly, I'm I'm very big on falling out of love. Like, I'm really good at it, like falling out of love with people. Um, and once I had fallen out of love in that relationship, I was like, absolutely not, you're a terrible human being. It's the evidence for what it was. Yeah, it's like I was just like, oh, actually, like you're terrible. You are really good at that though. Like, once you do, once you're done with somebody, I'm over it, yeah. You are over it. I'm just like, it's like I get like it's like it's like if there's a box of love, I'm like, actually, I don't like this box anymore. Let me get out of it. That is me. It's like a broom. I'll exit, close the door. Um I feel like I can't be like that, but I want to be more like that. Well, good thing you have people that don't get on your nerves. Exactly. Um I found the right people that I it goes both ways, you know, that I'm willing, they're willing, there's a lot of love. But there was a time in my life where it wasn't like that, and I was just like alone. That reminds me though, like that's on that's a red flag I should have paid attention to because um my ex-boyfriend at or my boyfriend at the time, he act he would beef with his roommate too a little bit, and I would agree with the roommate. I'd be like, well, they have a point. I think he's on to something. That's so funny. No, yeah, I loved his roommate. Oh, thank you. It's green. Mm-hmm. That's really cute. Thank you. It's like a bright green, like a Christmas tree. Yeah, I love it. It's like fern green. Yeah. But I wish I would have paid attention to that. I loved his roommate though, actually. One of them. I loved one of them. They still one of them still follows me. Really? Mm-hmm. Yeah, he has a girlfriend now, shout out. I feel like he listened. I don't know. I think this one listened to I feel like he supports me. I don't know how to explain this, but yeah, I feel like he's he obviously lived with him, so he knows like that he's not that great, you know? And I feel like he still follows me. And the certain you know when you can notice the certain stuff that they like, they only like the pictures of me when I would post with my partner or a post that was of me with my friends really happy. Like he'll like those. Like so I know that it's not weird, it's just support. Like he just I don't know. Something in my heart tells me that he's happy for me, that I'm happy, and I'm like in a better situation. I actually don't follow um the roommates, they never followed me. I follow a lot of um my ex-boyfriend's friends. And I like that they follow me because I love them, like they were friends of mine too, you know. Like I've been like, obviously, you're not the op, you know. I'm like, I hope y'all don't think I'm the op. Like I really, really hope y'all don't think I was the problem, but whatever. Not the point. Um, but that relationship, one of his roommates, the girlfriend and I got along. Um and so like we went to a wedding together and like I have pictures of her. So in the woman's thing that we did together, I put her on there because she has a baby now. And like he knows I know that she listens because she follows the podcast and like she likes all of our stuff, so I'm like, oh, you're so cute. And so I put her on there. Um, but I'm pretty sure she listens and she does follow me. We're we like keep up with each other here and there, but yeah, she's a mom now, and it's really cool to see that like we still have a relationship, even if the things with me and that guy didn't work out. Yeah, no, I don't talk to them at all. Uh actually, and not both roommates follow me, only one of them. And they were brothers, one of them, like uh that was his like mm butt buddy, you know, so whatever. Of course. You picked your side, yeah. Um, but one of them does still follow me, and I'm just I like I said, I just know that he's happy for me. Yeah. And then one of his a couple of his friends follow me. I don't follow them, I unfollowed them because it's like I don't need to be your friends. I still follow them. I'm like, you guys were a part of my life for so long. Like, I'm not gonna be that girl. Like, I still support and I did support, and I showed my support throughout the relationship for you guys. I feel like that'll change once you're in a relationship. Maybe. Because that's kind of how it was for me. Like I just was like, I don't need to have this connection with his still very close friends. I think the roommate and him, I don't think they're really that friends, you know? So that's why it's okay, I think to me. But his other friends, like his best friends, they still follow me. Yeah. And I'm like, I don't need to be friends. Yeah, it's like I don't care. Like, like I need to be friends with my boyfriend's friends. Yeah, that's true. But I'm like, if you remove me, you remove me. If not, like whatever, I don't care. Yeah, like it's not this like. But I also was more controlled over like my followers and my following, like for a little bit. I was private and like really did not like it. I've never cared. So maybe that's why we just have a different outlook on social media. Like not that deep. So, what are you so seriously serious about? Um, this hair appointment and these roots. I have not gotten my hair done since New York. That was back in December. I haven't gotten my hair done. I keep on making appointments and I'm not able to go, so I cancel, reschedule, and then I have to do it all over again because I'm not able to make it. So last week, this is gonna be such a treat. I'm so happy for you. I am like, what time is it? I gotta go soon, but I gotta go too. We're just having too much fun here. But yeah, I'm really excited. And I'm just so excited to like feel brand new. I'm also gonna get a haircut. I'm gonna cut my hair a little bit shorter. Congratulations, brand new woman. It's long. Yeah, so that's why I think I'm gonna cut this out, but that's why I think she should go to the Pilates class so you can see me. But yeah, yeah, I'm really, really excited. And my cousin does my hair and she just does the best for sure. She really treats you. Yeah, like she really gets in there. Ooh. And I'm just so excited. And I'm really excited for you. I also don't really know what I'm gonna do with my hair. I think I might keep the red. I think you should. One more time, two more times maybe. Um, but we'll see what shade she decides. I'm just gonna let her do whatever she wants, I think. I really want to get my hair done. I just can't commit to anything right now. Yeah. I'm just like, uh. It's it's a lot of maintenance. It's so much maintenance to do anything to your hair, and I'm just like I'm really mad at myself. Yeah. You have really beautiful hair. Yeah, and people are like, oh, I love your like hair, is it natural, whatever? And I'm like, yeah, it is. I wish it wasn't. Like, I wish I would do something fun with it, but no, this is classy. You know when you just get over it though, and you're like, I want something different, I want something new? That's how I feel right now. I'm just like bored. I yeah, I'm bored of my hair. Like, one, it's so long summer, like I'm just tired of it. Two, I just want something different. I want to feel brand new. Like, I think you will though, just getting it done right now. You're gonna feel good. Yeah.

unknown 48:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 48:44

I'm excited. Thank you. I can't wait to show everybody. What about you? What are you so seriously serious about? Um, I'm so seriously serious about not getting guilted into going to work. Cause literally, like if anyone asks me to switch a shift to cover, to go in, I'll go. You just gotta it'll you'll get to a point where you're like, would they do it for me? No. Yeah. Right now you're not there. Like, I feel like it's like. I feel like yeah. You not that you like really love the job right now, but I think you just appreciate the job right now. And so I think that's why you feel that way. But you're gonna get to a point where you're like, I don't need to. It's really hard to to I need to not make things personal because when my manager, when show coming and asked me or my charge, I'm like, oh, like I know what it must feel like to be stressed, to be short-staffed, but at the end of the day, like to that company itself, I'm just a number. Yeah. Like they don't really they don't care about me. I'm just a number. And they're they will replace me tomorrow if they need to. And at the end of the day, you're getting paid. Like it's not like you're doing anybody a favor, like it's not volunteer work, yeah. I agree 1000%. And I need to remind myself that I'm not going today. I'm just kidding. No, you already said you were going. No, I said that I was going, so I'm gonna go. It's hard not to feel like I'm doing someone dirty.

SPEAKER_01 50:04

Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_00 50:04

I do feel like I have good boundaries though, where I'm like it's only if I want to do it, and I know that I want to do it today. Um, but I used to like get way too personal with my bosses and stuff like that. Like, I would let them know me a little too much, so then they feel like they have a right over my life. It's a problem with oversharers. Oh my gosh, has that ever happened to you? Yeah, even like me, like when I used to be, when I used to manage, like you just like that honestly, you do feel that way, like, oh, I know this person on a deeper level. Like, if I'm asking them for a favor, like they'll for sure come in. But it like it shouldn't be like that. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. It's so bad. Yeah, so I learned from that and now I'm like they can totally tell me no, I can totally say no. I think it's so hard because I literally did not fit in at this I still don't feel like I have friends there and I don't really fit in there because I'm just like positive and nice and stuff, and they're not. But now that I'm starting to find the people that are a little like me, I'm like, okay, for you, I'll come in. For you, I want to work with you. But like, no, Nikki, like you're tired, stay home. Yeah. But it is fun to do that. Like when you have like an incentive to go in and it's like, well, I'm gonna make money. Yeah, and then it's like my friends are there today, so I'm gonna go. Yeah. But yeah, that's what I'm so seriously serious about. Well, I'm also so seriously serious about ending the long distance relationship stigma. I think that if your man loves you, he should move to you. Or move you out there. Or move you out there. Yeah. Or move y'all together, do something. No, that's so crazy because my sister would always be like, uh, like I know that you would move if you like, like if you wanted to, like you could move. I'd be like, I don't really want to, but like I would do it if it meant being with the person, but I also wouldn't want to be so far away from my family. It's so hard. You have to do things, you have to be selfish and you have to do it for yourself though. Because this relationship that I was in, the only reason I moved out there is because I I at the time had a good job, it was during COVID. I was making enough so that I could live on my own, maybe not in SoCal and live that comfortably. I think I could have made it work, but I was like, you know what? There was a few approved states that I could live in and keep my job, and one of them was um Washington. And I was like, oh my gosh, I want to move to Seattle. I've always wanted to move there. I think I can make it work. It's your Twilight or not Twilight, it's your 50 shades for real. But also I think Twilight too. I think that had a lot to do with it. Like I just love the gloomy, raining, you know, like I just I loved it. And so I started looking at apartments, I started applying to them. Like I was really making my mind up about this one place, and my partner at the time was like, Well, like if you're ready to take the next step in life, like we should move in together, like I love you, like telling me all these amazing, beautiful things that every girl wants to hear. And I was really young and I was really dumb. And I was like, Alright, let's start a life together. And it was funny because a couple months into our relationship of me living there, I told him, like, why like why did you even why'd you want to be together? You because we were arguing and like not in a good place, and I was like, Why'd you ask me to live out here? You know, this relationship was gonna be so terrible. And he was like, Well, I knew that if you moved to Washington, like you would have left me, like you would have broke up with me, like straight up. Yeah, and I was just like, huh. Yeah, that's crazy. Yeah, and I What do you mean? You knew you were terrible this whole time. Yeah, literally. I'm like, you know, you were lying, you set me up for a failure. No, literally. So basically, I think that's why I'm just so biased because I'm like, I was also so young, like I could really, honestly, I could have waited until he like moved home or he finished school or whatever the case was. But home wasn't even home for you guys. Like, there's there was no home. Yeah, there was no home base. Like, no matter what, his home was away from my home. So crazy to think about, but my man my man used to live my man right now who's 1.2 miles away from me. But now he lives it's like 22 miles or something like that, and it feels like a whole different state. Going from because at the time we lived super close to each other too, so like it was really easy for us to see each other literally every time. Even if it's just like an hour or two, you know, like no, this this man was like two miles away from me still. So when we like went, that was such I remember my sister would be like, She's so sad. My parents were so sad for me, like everybody was so sad, and some of my parents would be like, Oh my gosh, like my sister, like everybody would say like it was really hard for me. But I wouldn't do it again. No, I wouldn't do it again either. And I'm like, Pookie, if you're listening, this is the furthest you're going away. This is the furthest. You go any more miles further. You're so funny because you're going the opposite. You're going further. I'm going further, but it's different. He can come to you. He can come to me. Orange County, Inland Empire, that's doable. They're sisters. Yeah, they're literally we're neighbors still. That's what I meant to say. Inland Empire is like, I'm a man. She's a boy. True. Yeah. I'm like, she's a boy. Orange County's a girl. She's such a girl. We're meant to be in Orange County. Yeah, I just want to be in Orange County. At least for little. Well, that's it. Sorry if we were a little negative. Sorry if you're in a long distance relationship. This is just our take on it. And sorry if we were all over the place. We were all over the place, but I feel all over the place, guys. I'm a little jet lagged. Celeste woke up grouchy. And but this is us, and we're always just gonna be us, and we're gonna try to be as authentic as possible. Um, but we love you guys, and I had really fun today. I didn't have really fun today. I'm gonna go. I'm going to work right now. Pray for the patients. No, don't do that. Should I not say that? No, it's funny. Um, actually, I don't do patient care right now. Kind of, not really. You'll be fine. It'll be fine. I just enter. I'm gonna answer the phone and be like, hey. Instead of saying like hi. Thanks for telling. I'm gonna be like, what? Can you imagine calling a hospital? I answer and I'm like, what? What do you want? What do you like what? Anyways, I'm Nikki. And I'm Celeste. We um were actually just came to our attention that people get confused still. Between our voices, people get confused with our voices. Yeah, no. If you still get confused, then we have to hang out or something. Yeah. We sound different, yeah. I'm Celeste. Like, I'm sorry we both sound like a girl. Like, how do we sound different though? I feel like I have more of like a you have like a whispered tone, and I think I have more of like a I think you have a sweeter voice. No. I think mine is more like aggressive? Yeah. I mean you cuss. That's true. Don't on the pod, at least. No. Don't tell them that. Just said we try to be as authentic as possible. You guys will get to know me soon enough. And you guys will be able to differentiate our voices because it's really not that hard. Okay, I gotta go. I gotta go too. My hair appointment coming. We're seriously just girls, and we love you guys. Bye. Bye.