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This week, Celeste & Nikky are talking all things relationship launches. Find out with of the girls is a hard launcher-er and which one of the girls is a soft launcher-er. They get into what makes a relationship post worthy, whether keeping your love life private is actually beneficial, the pressure that comes with putting your relationship online, and of course, they're own launching styles.

SPEAKER_03

Hi everybody.

SPEAKER_02

Hi. Welcome back to Serious of Just Girls. I'm Nikki. I'm Slash. And I just missed you guys so much. It's been a while. It has. Just kidding. It's just been a week. Yeah, sorry guys. We're on vacation. We were just on vacay. We were selling it was a holiday. Haley's birthday. She took up the whole week, guys. We were so busy with all her festivities.

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And we wanted to post that we did have an episode filmed and everything.

SPEAKER_02

And edited, but the thing was on vacation, sometimes you don't have the best service or Wi-Fi. Right. And we didn't feel that it was the right time to step aside, yeah, and stress about that.

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Because we shouldn't have to work on vacation. No. We're on bake.

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We were on backy. Anyways, we're back now.

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Yeah.

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It was so much fun. I had so much fun. That was a good time. That was a really, really good time. We went to like have a sue for our friend Haley's, our best friend. She'll notice that. Birthday. And it was so much freaking fun. Yeah. I had a really good time.

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Shout out her parents.

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Yes, thank you so much, Lily and John.

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And shout out her friends because we had a good time all together.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, everyone I feel like got along and just had such good energy. I was in such a good mood yesterday and today, and I honestly feel like it was because of that. Because of my cup is filled, yeah. The girlhood was girl hooding. Other than that, though, how's your week going? It's been so great. Good. Thank you. That's good.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I've had a I've had a week.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. Mine has been pretty good too. Ulta has 40% off lip products right now. Oh, I heard. Yeah, so I did I did some damage yesterday. What did you buy? I got four ColourPop lip liners, one e.l.f. Ernix ELF, the lip oils, Anastasia lip gloss, a Mac lipstick. I love Mac. And I feel like I got one more thing, and it was all for like 50 bucks. Yes.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, I want to go now. Did you go to Ulta or did you place an order online?

SPEAKER_02

I went to Ulta. My mama took me actually. Thank you, mommy. I really appreciate it. She got some goodies too.

SPEAKER_03

Cool. I hope that you make a haul and post it on TikTok.

SPEAKER_02

Oh. You are the second person today to tell me to post it on TikTok. I'm just really shy, guys.

SPEAKER_03

I don't know why you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_02

I'm really not. I'm not, actually not anymore. But I just think I am when it comes to like how I perceive myself on camera. I just look at myself and I'm like, I should get filler. I'm a little unbalanced.

SPEAKER_03

Why am I the same exactly?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, don't get me wrong. I think I'm cute and all, but I'm just not symmetrical. I feel like in person, yeah, I'm not too stunning. You know, no, you are. You're beautiful. You are stunning. We are stunning people. On camera though. On camera though? I question it. I do too. I'm like I've always questioned it though. So what do people see in me online? What is it? It's probably my outfits and my hair. I have cute outfits. But anywho, that is honestly what holds me back. And it shouldn't because influencers come in all shapes and sizes, you know? No, my biggest dream is to be an influencer. I say it's a little bit. I don't know when I think you should do it.

SPEAKER_03

My boss tells me you could do it.

SPEAKER_02

I think you could too. Yeah. I love when she tells me stuff like that because my boss She doesn't hand out compliments, huh? Just for fun. Yeah. I kind of love people like that though. So when they compliment you, you're like, you mean that? Yeah. She's like I like that. Me and you, we low-key hand them out. We hand out the compliments. Because I feel like sometimes people just need one. We're real generous. Yeah, we're generous. But I'm not stingy with them. Yeah. I mean them too. But can I have a sip of this Alani? Because I just like you do what you mean. Guys, I've had a weekend. She's had a weekend. I know. I saw her today. I was like, have you been home? I lied when I said I was having a good week. She is not.

SPEAKER_00

My sister's been in the hospital for like two days. Okay. That's a real downer. But she's good. She had surgery and she's fine. And she's recovering and she's gonna be home tomorrow. But I've been sleeping in that I've been sleeping on that couch with her.

SPEAKER_02

Girl, that was me what two months ago. Yeah. It is not that comfy. It's not gumpy at all. You have to get a purple wipe though. Do you wipe it with the purple wipe? Absolutely. I do. Yeah, you just gotta wipe it with a purple wipe and pray.

SPEAKER_00

I actually do that, and then I ask for blankets, and then I layer that with the blankets, and then I lay on top of the of my own blanket, and then I bring another blanket for myself.

SPEAKER_02

Wow. I'm really scared of germs. You really pull up, especially at the hospital. Oh my gosh. I feel like I have gotten so much better with germs. Wait, actually, maybe not. A funny story comes to mind this weekend. I'm like, it's a weekend. So as you guys know, I am I don't even like to say sober because it doesn't even feel like I'm sober, it just feels like I just don't drink. Anyways, so I do like to be a little cracked out though, and I do that with energy drinks because I just want to be like even hyper, more hyper than I already am. So, anyways, my friend got me an Alani and Celeste had never tried this flavor, so I was like, Oh Celeste, do you want to try? And she goes, Yeah, mind you, Celeste's germs are fine, she is fine, hers are okay. But then other people wanted to try it, and I was like, Yeah, or they didn't actually ask me, but I just was like, Oh, I feel like I gotta ask other people because I didn't want anyone to feel excluded or anything. So I'm like, Do you wanna try? Do you wanna try? And by the time I had done that, three other people had tried it, and I was like, you know, I didn't really like this flavor until that's you didn't like it. I was like, No, can you have it? She already knew immediately. She was like, Yeah, it's fine, I'll have it. She already had a drink in hand, like she didn't need it. But she took it from me gladly, and then Haley came up and was like, You don't like it, Boba? And I was like, I did Haley, but I accidentally let too many people try it and now I can't drink it. And she was like, Oh my gosh, okay. And she went to go get me a new one. I was dying though, because I was like, That's really big of you, Nikki. Yeah, and I was like, Oh, don't get ahead of yourself. I was like, Oh, you would have been like, You want one go get one? No, seriously. But then I I thought that I was prepared to drink after they tried it, but I wasn't. And that's okay. Yeah, I was kind of there. I took a step in that direction. I'm just not ready yet. Maybe I'll never be. Maybe that's okay, because that's pretty nasty.

SPEAKER_03

Right.

SPEAKER_02

I don't know where those lips have been.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I usually don't share like that either.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. It's just a little it's just scary. You just never know. You never know. You never know, because they may not know.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

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My biggest thing is like, how do you know you're not sick with something right now? That it's not living in you right now.

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Scared me.

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What's the word?

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We're just very pessimistic.

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We're very cautious.

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Okay, ready? Okay. You have to pick one. Soft launch, hard launch, or never post your relationship.

SPEAKER_02

Okay, I'll say soft launch. Really? Because I do like to have a little hint. Because a soft launch is a shoulder or a hand, like a picture of hand holding. And I like that. But that's that's what you're picking. And I can never do hard launch. Yeah. Oh. No, I'm gonna say soft launch because what do you mean when I get proposed to him, not gonna be able to post my hand in his okay, fine. You caught me. I wish I could never have never had to post my relationship ever. Really? Yeah. I'm scared. You know, have you seen that?

SPEAKER_03

She's an influencer, she is a nurse, she lives in the bay. She's really smart. She had the lash business before. I don't remember her name, but she's in the bay.

SPEAKER_01

She just she puts everything online, and she just recently posted that she was engaged. And I keep up with this girl.

SPEAKER_02

And no one even knew she was in a relationship. No one even knew she was in a relationship. That is so chic. It is so chic, but I could never do it. I know, I know. I could never do that. I did start off with the soft launch, and then I was like, eh.

SPEAKER_01

That escalated real quick though.

SPEAKER_03

As I post, it's just one thing about me is I feel like if I have to delete them, I have to delete them, but like, yeah, I'm not the type of.

SPEAKER_02

It's really your photo diary.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I admire that. Okay, look, look, look. Before okay, actually, I feel like my relationship in college, I never posted him ever. Not one soft lunch, nothing. My high school boyfriend, we hardly ever posted each there's not even pictures that exist of us out there anymore. So with this relationship, well, I guess my ex-husband, I posted him a lot, but that was my husband. Duh. Oh shit. That tasted disgusting. But with my relationship right now, there are boundaries that I have to respect because of his job. So I can't really post him, even if I guess I wanted to. But if I went private, I could post him, but I don't want to be private, I want to be public, and so I just don't post him because it's like you have your boundaries and I have mine. And I want to be famous. Just kidding. I I don't. Unless it's a famous podcaster.

SPEAKER_03

No, I want us to be famous. Sorry.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, we could be famous.

SPEAKER_03

I want us to go global. Okay. I want everybody and their moms.

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We're gonna be Nabiza. Girl. Hello, Prime Minister. What are you so seriously serious about? Okay, wait, wait, wait, though. So what we do choose soft launch, hard launch, never post your man.

SPEAKER_03

I would always do hard launch. Always. Okay. And I will always be public.

SPEAKER_02

Do you think that a hard launch makes your relationship more official?

SPEAKER_00

No. I don't. Okay. But I do think it helps. I do think it helps in the sense of and this isn't my worry. This is not why I post everything, but like prior to this relationship, or like maybe a year ago, I would have been like it's better to time with stuff. No, I feel like it's better to post because who cares? What if that guy is just playing the brick out of you?

SPEAKER_02

And if you're crazy like me, you will figure it out. And it will get back to some crazy angle that I'm like, that's why she's my brand. But then you just start thinking like that. But that's not why I posted.

SPEAKER_00

Because with this last relationship with this relationship, I did start off as a little soft launch. I would just post stuff. And it's so funny seeing people sign up on stuff and being like, What is this?

SPEAKER_01

Who is this? What's going on? It's so interesting to get those kind of comments.

SPEAKER_00

But I would just do it hard every time.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I feel like I soft launched for a little bit and I was private when we first started dating, and I still soft launched him for yeah, like nine months, I think. And then around our one year anniversary, I posted pictures a whole year. Whoa. Surprise! He took me to Maui! I got a man for a year now. Yeah, wow, pretty much a year because we took pictures for our one-year anniversary. That reminds me, I need to start looking for someone to take pictures of us for our two-year anniversary. It's coming up. Yeah. That's quick. I know. Wow. Love you, Pookie. And I where is it going with this? Oh, well, I posted those professional pictures. But then a couple months after that, I went in public and no face, no case. You know what I'm saying? I'm just kidding. Guys, he loves my humor. Okay. It was so funny because yesterday, I don't know why. What's kind of nice, okay. Also, this relationship was such a slow burn. We really were a slow burn relationship. So I feel like we're still really getting to know each other. And I was just being so goofy yesterday. I just feel like he fell more in love with me. Back to the topic at hand though. What were you saying though? What what had this man giggling over you? Oh, I just I just started talking in a Southern Bale accent. And I was just telling him that I just loved him. And I was just telling him that his Dutch bros was absolutely terrible. It was the most disgusting thing I've ever had in my life.

SPEAKER_03

Have you ever seen Martin Dixie?

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Yeah. Do I sound like her?

SPEAKER_03

I what's her name, Peaches?

SPEAKER_02

Georgia? No. Fuck.

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Fuck.

SPEAKER_02

Fuck Erin. Fuck. Melanie. I'm pro soft lunch, though. Pro soft lunch. And let me tell you why. But pro soft lunch forever. Forever. Lemon. Her name was Lemon. My name is Lemon. How are you? My name is Lemon Brelin.

SPEAKER_03

No, I love her.

SPEAKER_02

I love Teddy. You know what?

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I'm going to rewatch the show.

SPEAKER_02

They hated on her for no reason. She just knew what she was a big fan of her.

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I'm a big fan of her.

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I liked her too. Annabeth. No, that was a good show. I really liked it.

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Yeah, I'm going to rewatch it. Very sorry.

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Okay, anywho. Um I feel like I'm a pro soft launcher, and I know I shouldn't feel like this, guys. It's very controversial in the Catholic community, but I believe in my low hole. I think energy is so I feel like energy is so powerful. There is no way, because I believe in God and I believe that only only God really controls things. He is the main, he's the main guy. But it's scientifically proven that the ocean or the moon controls the ocean and you know everything like the energies just all like how is the energy not real? If it's cloudy, you feel a little bit more sad. Like, how are you not one with nature or not one with like the vibes around you, right?

SPEAKER_03

I agree. However, because I'm the same way.

SPEAKER_01

I do think. I do think I have haters out in this world. That's what I'm saying.

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I don't think they have I mean, God protects you, but they the devil works. The devil's like, hey, and those who hate her? Yeah. Here's some fuel.

SPEAKER_01

Isn't that crazy? No, I do, I do truly I know God, please protect me. Amen.

SPEAKER_00

I was basically saying that I do feel like I have haters and it's not a good feeling, actually.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. And therefore, I was nervous to like post stuff and go public.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like I had always wanted to be public, but for some reason I was kind of scared. Anyway, I feel like I had always been a private. Like my Instagram was always private because I like did kind of believe in that.

SPEAKER_00

But now I feel like I got more haters than ever before, and I'm like, eh, fuck it. God is really so much. We own it now. God is so much stronger, bigger, and like this. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

SPEAKER_03

They're not gonna come out and kill me, are they? So then how could they make me any weaker? Does that make sense?

SPEAKER_02

Amen. Spirit slight? It does make a lot of sense, and I love that energy. Some girl, I have her blocked now, but one time she told me that Do you have her block now? Anyways, she set up on my story one time because I had posted about evil lie or whatever, and she was like, if you're a woman of faith, like you should not pay any mind to this. And like, even if there are bad thoughts and energy towards you, God is bigger than that. And I'm like, that's true. So I ever since then I keep telling myself that and being like, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. But I'm like, it's really hard when something is sabotaged or doesn't work out. It's really hard not to be like, hmm, so who's praying on my damn fault? Yeah, I feel like we think like that a lot too. Who didn't wish good on me?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, whenever I feel like whenever it's coincidental.

SPEAKER_02

It's weird. Is it a coincidence? Yeah. I think Nikki and I are really big on that. Like we are. If I tell you that it doesn't work out, I'm like, oh, clocked. Clocked. I hung out with this girl for the first time and my life isn't going good anymore. Clocked. Yeah. Or even when just like something bad happens, I always say, Oh my gosh, it's it's this person. No, seriously. He or she is thinking about me. Seriously, I'm like, he's not done with me. No, you do always say that. You do always say that. They're not done with me. There's still out to get me. But I mean, that's right. Like, we really shouldn't be paying that any mind, you know. We really, really, really, really, really shouldn't. But I believe in soft launching because of that. I think it protects your peace. I think it protects your relationship. I think that it protects your like I just don't like having outside opinions. I also like, okay, let's say evil eye wasn't a thing. Not that I have anything to hide, but like, I don't want everyone to know your business. Everyone to know my business, or everyone to have access to who I am with. What if they're trying to say crazy things about me?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

I also believe in this in the aspect of just life decisions or just like same like keep it private until it's like written down.

SPEAKER_02

What I was gonna say about soft lunching is well, what you just said right now, you know, in everything in life, it's good to be private or whatever.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, because not everybody has good intentions for you, and even if they seem like they do, they could not.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I'm like, keep it private till it's public record. Okay.

SPEAKER_01

You know, I will say that I was posting Mason before he even became my boyfriend.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, you did. And I thought that was crazy. You know why? I was judging. I'm just kidding. I really I can never judge you. Now that I'm older, I really just have the mindset of fuck it. Who cares? Yeah, I do, dude. I turned 25 and I feel like that has been like my motto. Like YOLO. Literally, am I freaking 15 again? Where I'm like, YOLO, who cares? They only live once. It's true though, but does it matter?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

So I'm a soft launcher, but honestly, if you want to be a hard launcher, if you want to go on a date with a guy and post him the next day, do it. Yeah, literally do what makes you feel good. If you want to spread awareness, post it. Did you ever post a soft launch besides this relationship in the past? Nah.

SPEAKER_03

I don't think I did either. I think I think the only thing I ever did was we went to a game together and we both posted the same game.

SPEAKER_02

But that was it. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00

He never posted me, I never posted him.

SPEAKER_02

Maybe. Maybe I have, but it wasn't like significant or it wasn't like strategic. It just really was a cute picture that maybe a guy happened to be in. But no, with this one, like I did because here was the thing. I also am to the point where it's private but not a secret. I still want people to know I'm in a relationship. I'm not trying to hide the fact that I'm in a relationship. I do feel like some people do that though. They're like, oh no, I'm private, I'm private, but it's like, damn girl, I can't even tell you're in a relationship, or damn, dude. It doesn't even look like you have a girlfriend. Guys who never post anything, like not even a soft lunch, not even a little manicure, you know? A little girl's hand holding a wine glass. I think that's a little weird. You know, now I know I said I would never post.

SPEAKER_01

Mason's only posted me twice.

SPEAKER_02

Sortifight. I'm just kidding. No, really? Only twice? Mm-hmm. Does he post often? No. Okay, well that's probably why it's only been twice. If I had to take a guess.

SPEAKER_01

No, but like he should want to post me. Don't you think?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, a little. I'd also want to keep you a little hidden. Why? What is he gonna advertise you for? It's like I don't think you should add not that you shouldn't, but it's like, I do think I could snatch you up.

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Just kidding.

SPEAKER_02

And who knows that? If you're listening, I'm just joking. But what if he's like, yeah, she's right. If you think I'm onto something that I'm not joking, but if you think I'm BSin, then I'm just joking. I can never get snatched. So if I must not want to be snatched. Period. If he never posted you a hard launch, do would you pick up on that? Yeah, you would. I definitely would. My significant other, he is a very, very private person. I thought I was private. He's privateer. He's privateer. He is the private of private. He hard launched me way before I hard launched him.

SPEAKER_03

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. And every He actually, actually, can I say this really, really quick?

SPEAKER_03

Of course. Mason also hard launched he hard. No, he soft launched me, but I was like very visibly in the picture. Like I remember you told us that.

SPEAKER_02

You shared it with us. You're like, guys, is this crazy? And I was like, if he's doing it, if you did it, that'd be crazy. And then we did it a week later. Back to you.

SPEAKER_03

But I was just thinking about that. That reminded me of that.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I think it's good when the guys do it first. Poppy makes me it made me feel better. I was like, oh, okay, cool. I wish she had used a better picture of me now that I'm thinking about it. But I do remember that. And I remember thinking, This feels nice. It feels I do understand that the thought of it makes you feel like your partner is proud to have you or proud to show you off, or just Proud to show the relationship that he's in.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. After he did that though, because Mason and I met at Stagecoach, so I had a lot of pictures of from Stagecoach. And when I made my stagecoach dump, I put little sprinkles of him in it.

SPEAKER_02

But that was all that I did. But I did that after he posted. Yeah, but we didn't know. Yeah, I really didn't even think I just thought you were with a group of people. Period. That's true. You know what I mean? It was subtle. It was so subtle that was it even a launch? Yeah, it was not a lot. Or was it a toss? Oh, anyways. Do you feel like keeping your relationship private makes it healthier? I feel like that's that's a good question. I would say yes. Really? I think you could avoid a lot of arguments, but that's if both people think the same on posting. I think that if I was like, you need to be posting me, or he was like, you need to be posting me, and I didn't want to, or he didn't want to, but you know, if we didn't align completely on that, I could see how it could make your relationship unhealthy. But if you both align on it, then I think it's healthy. But then I also think for me it's healthier because I just have better peace of mind and I have no expectations, right? I'm not expecting him to post me, I'm not expecting him to do anything crazy, and he is not expecting me. I know some of his little friends be asking him though, why doesn't she post you or why didn't she post your face? I just never want anyone to get the bad idea or the wrong idea if I do or don't post Sushi's face. It really is just a personal preference for everyone, I think. I am very proud of my little handsome man. I love him, but I just I love him. But I just I don't know. There's just I feel like I have gone public with things that didn't work out, and it is tough to know that you put so much out there and it didn't work out, and some people are just like, whatever, didn't work out, don't matter. And I feel like for the most part I'm like that too, but there is a small part of me that's like Ugh. Maybe just not yet.

SPEAKER_01

I think I didn't think this way up until a couple months ago.

SPEAKER_00

But I I wish I would have thought that way when I was in my dating era. Because I should have posted every man I ever dated.

SPEAKER_01

Who cares?

SPEAKER_02

They would have got caught up. No, especially one. Yeah, we know. Girl, the D the hey girlies would have gone crazy. They would have been flawed. One, two, three, four. Oh my gosh. But you know what?

SPEAKER_00

But that would have been fine, you know? Because awareness to it.

SPEAKER_02

Hey, what's that app?

SPEAKER_00

I know exactly what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_02

Finder? No. Ho Finder? No.

SPEAKER_00

No. Fuck. I know it because my ex is on it. He is? He is on it.

SPEAKER_02

Sickening.

SPEAKER_00

And I'm in the comments.

SPEAKER_02

Oh a the T app. The T app. It was the T app. You would have been like the Celeste T app.

SPEAKER_00

Hell no. The hey girl is would have been crazy. No, they would have.

SPEAKER_03

But I wish that I had just been posting everything because then I feel like during that time, one thing is I am very loyal when it comes to dating.

SPEAKER_02

Mm-hmm. Yeah, my love a girl wasn't made for the streets.

SPEAKER_03

No, I was not. So I would have been I would have been seeing multiple people had I known that he had also been seeing multiple people. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_02

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_03

So I wish that that was the case.

SPEAKER_00

But it's okay. I'm past it. But now I wish I would have posted everything and everything because I remember at that time I would just post a little stuff and nothing crazy.

SPEAKER_01

But now that I And I don't feel that way about that.

SPEAKER_02

Now that you don't care.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I don't feel that way about Mason. It's not that I think he's being sneaky at all, because I know he's not. But I'm just less I just wish I would have done it with the intention of not caring.

SPEAKER_02

Do you feel like you're just so proud of the relationship that you're in? Or why do you feel like you're so open now posting?

SPEAKER_01

I think that has a lot to do with it, but I also think I'm just like, this is my life. I'm okay with posting everything. Yeah, this is my life. I love that. And I love my life. I've just been like really, especially today, I just been really lover girl today.

SPEAKER_00

About life though. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, it's been a tough weekend, a couple days, but had such a fun weekend. And then like same. I feel like I've been in such a good mood. Yeah. My sister went through a little rough, rough couple days, but she's fine now and everything's fine. I and you've got to spend so much time with her.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, we were catching up. We were just talking about so much. We really she's just so busy. This is what I wanted to say last time. So we'll put it in now.

SPEAKER_00

But my sister got a job recently and she's just been locked in, and I'm so proud of her, but I don't see her as often anymore because she's never home or she's working or she's with her kids.

SPEAKER_01

She's just always doing something, and so we really just sat and talked about life, and like it was nice.

SPEAKER_02

It was nice. She was just your sister.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, she was just my sister.

SPEAKER_02

She wasn't a mommy, she was your sister.

SPEAKER_01

Exactly.

SPEAKER_02

I love that.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Do you feel like there should be a waiting period before you post? No.

SPEAKER_03

Maybe. Really? Maybe there should be.

SPEAKER_01

Because what if a couple dates? You're me you're talking to someone and you're just getting to know them.

SPEAKER_02

You know? Like But you just said that would have been really good to kind of get some exposure. You're right. I did just say that. It's so hard because these are really preference. So it's like, what do you think?

SPEAKER_03

I think do what your heart tells you to do. Okay.

SPEAKER_02

Sometimes you're not proud of what the you're not, you're just dating. But sometimes if you want to just share it, like you should share it. Yeah. Sometimes I feel like I used to post cute, like couple y stuff before because like I just like the way I looked in it. I was like, hey, I look tea. I guess he's there.

SPEAKER_03

Would you ever date someone if they never posted you?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, you would?

SPEAKER_02

I thought Sushi would never ever post me. And I went into our relationship fully believing that. And then he hard-launched me, and I was like, So let's redefine what private is. Because I was not expecting him to post me at all. And then he did it after a date, and I was like, what is going on? I think that if my partner had never posted me, I I don't know. Maybe eventually I would have been like, hey, like, not even a little a little hand, a little shoulder, my hair. Yeah, like my hair. Yeah. Not even something like that. Maybe eventually I would be like, okay, what the heck? I definitely would have. But I think it would have taken a long time for me to say something. I don't think it would have taken me long at all. Maybe I would want to be a better person, but like that does not make you a better person. That does not make me a better person. Just makes me a more private person. Nothing is wrong with that. I I mean, I don't wish that I was more open. I feel like I'm a lot more open than I used to be. Like just the fact that my thing is public. I have this, I have, we have a podcast, we talk about a lot of things. I was told recently that I'm a closed off person sometimes. You're listening, you know who you are. And I just feel like that is so false. I'm actually an open book. If you if I feel like you actually want to read the book with me. No, Nikki was literally, she looked at this person and she was like, I literally have a podcast. And I air out all my business, talk about my life. What do you mean? Try again. Tell them to tune in. They really want to know about me. And clearly they do because that's what I'm saying. People are asking me questions. They maybe ask me questions. But you know what's so funny? Literally, some people were asking me some questions recently, and I just you know what I realized in that moment? Just because someone asks you a question doesn't mean you have to answer. That is the free will we have. So I just I just turned around, basically. I'm not gonna say what I did because it'll give it away, but sometimes, guys, I do the funniest hand gestures, and I just cannot wait until we do video because I just feel like you guys would laugh so much more with us.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I think you guys are gonna love it. I was just thinking too, I wish we could have a guest on for this because I feel so much funny.

SPEAKER_02

I want to know what someone thinks because I this is the thing. I feel like I know Celeste so well and she knows me so well, but it would be fun to get to know someone else for funny questions.

SPEAKER_01

You think hard launching too early is embarrassing though? You do, huh?

SPEAKER_02

That's my thing. That's what it is. If it's too early and it doesn't work out, I'm like, oh yeah, that hottie that I just posted. No mo.

SPEAKER_01

No mo he's gone. He's gone. What if you've been dating for a year and there's no evidence of you? And what if this man was public? He's not private. He's public.

SPEAKER_02

Uh yeah, you see, that's the point I want to make. You both have to align. It has to be public, but he's telling me he wants to be private. Clearly, not really. Clearly, you want to be public about your image, but not your life. That's just weird to me. I do feel like some people kind of use it as an excuse to appear single and maybe get some attention. Whereas me, I feel like I make it known I'm in a relationship, but you just don't know who I'm in a relationship with. All right. I said that really well.

SPEAKER_03

That was yeah, I like that.

SPEAKER_02

So I do feel like it could be a little embarrassing, but then it's like, would it, is it really? Because I've actually never seen I have seen that girl that I'm telling you about post all her relationships, and I'm just like, oh my gosh, I'm happy for her. That didn't work out, and now she fell in love again. Yeah, so I'm like, I'm not even judging her, so why do I feel like people would judge me?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I've definitely seen a couple people with like lots of relationships, but yeah, I'm like third one this year.

SPEAKER_02

Good for you. Like, there's enough love to go around.

SPEAKER_01

Keep trying until you find the one.

SPEAKER_02

That's what I'm saying. Call it the bachelorette. So yeah, I think it could be a little embarrassing, but only if you let it be embarrassing. Everything could be embarrassing if you let it be. But if you just don't care, then you give I feel like you give the emotion of embarrassment, you give it the power. Yeah. Sometimes yeah, like you give it the power. If it's if you're just like, whatever, it is what it is, it happened. That's how I'm trying to be about like pictures and videos. Because I used to be so like, oh, I don't like this picture, don't post it. I don't like how I look in this video, don't post it. But now I'm like, whatever. This that's how it looked like in that moment. I don't always look like that, and that's okay. Have you ever seen a really funny soft launch? Or really hard launch? Really funny hard lunch or soft lunch? I always giggle when I see someone famous that is like, surprise, I'm married. I'm like, what? You know what? One of my coworkers told me or sent me a TikTok, and it was like basically saying, Do you guys know a girl, like a cool girl who like the fact that she has a boyfriend isn't the most interesting thing about her, and like that's not all she talks about. And she sent it to me, and I was like, that is so funny. First of all, thank you. But that is so funny because I feel like my friends are like that as well. Like, their partners are not the most interesting thing, like it is something we're all proud of, but I feel like we just have so many other like so much. I don't know, like our personalities are bigger than our relationships, you know what I mean? And that's why we can still be independent and do things that we like. But apparently she just didn't know a lot of people like that. I was like, we never met my friends, and but I I feel like that kind of goes hand in hand with with your relationship too. Like, I don't want to have a couples page, you know, like I want to have a me page and sprinkle sprinkle. There's a man in my life, and I love him enough to sprinkle him in, but he's not like the main character in my life until he's my baby daddy. Then he'll be the main character. Oh, I had a question to ask. What's your favorite hard launch?

SPEAKER_00

My favorite hard launch. That girls. I love when people are not in a relationship and they just post that they're engaged.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

And I'm like, You were building this up.

SPEAKER_03

Fuck, I wish I could do that. I'm like, genius! I should have thought of that.

SPEAKER_02

That's kind of like what I'm trying to give without giving, but I'm like, I already give a soft launch, so if I got engaged, people wouldn't be surprised. But I think that is just so chic. I'm like, oh my gosh, you are so cool. Thanks for asking. My favorite hard launch. I did ask you. No, you said what's been my favorite or funniest or something. Oh my gosh. So, anyways, my favorite hard launch has been this podcast. We hard launch. That was a good one. We didn't tell anybody. No, we didn't. Anybody that we were doing this podcast. We just posted it. And I remember we posted the post with the date, like what day we were gonna launch the first episode or whatever. And people were like, What is that? What is that? And we're like, You're gonna have to stay tuned. We stayed true to that with our best friends. We're like, You just don't have to stay tuned, you just have to stay tuned.

SPEAKER_03

The only person that I told was my sister.

SPEAKER_02

That's the only person I told. And I didn't even I might have told my mom the day before, yeah, or something like that.

SPEAKER_03

I know I told her in those recent days because we were gonna. I went to Mexico with my sister. This was around the time. Oh, yeah, yeah. And I was like, I'm gonna tell Roseanne. I feel like she has good input on this. And I remember so that's why I told her because we were making our logo and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, we were messing around with everything with how we wanted it to look. That was a good thing that was my favorite. That was like a high. And then when we did post, I feel like we got so much love and attention.

SPEAKER_00

We were literally high on love.

SPEAKER_02

Like, no, we really were. Is that the right thing? We could say high on love. You can listen to, yeah, we can you can literally listen to episode two, and you could just hear how excited because we had posted it and then recorded right after, which maybe I don't know, it's nice to listen back because I'm like, oh my gosh, we were so excited. Yeah, but at the time I was like, oh my gosh, we cannot control ourselves. We are talking so loud right now, but we were just so happy, so happy, so giggly. That was a good time. That was my favorite hard launch.

SPEAKER_01

That's a good one.

SPEAKER_02

So Celeste. What are you so seriously serious about today? So Celeste.

SPEAKER_01

Roseanne, my sister, said my name earlier today, and she was like speaking in Spanish, and then she said my name, and she said it weird.

SPEAKER_00

Like she said, like, no, she said Celeste, and I hate my dad.

SPEAKER_03

He's been recently on a little and so when he's mad at me, he won't say my name how he always says it. He'll be like Celeste because he knows I hate it. I just hate when people's name.

SPEAKER_01

She likes Celeste.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, my dad's always called my parents have always called me Celeste. That's what I've grown up. Um so today my sister said some something and then she said my name like that, and I was like, don't say that, you're about to really piss me off.

SPEAKER_01

Anyway, what I'm so seriously serious about is I always record everything and I do nothing with them. And I like where this is going. These last couple days I've just been like, okay, I'm really gonna put these together, I'm really gonna put my on to my little vlogs and upload them to my YouTube channel and look back on them because oh, what are all the videos for? They're just like taking up space on my phone. And I need to get rid of videos and I need to just complete them and actually finish what's the what's the right way to say it? Follow through. I need to actually follow through with everything that I want to do. And so I just need that's what I've been doing these last couple days. I've just been editing on my vlogs. I have videos from Mexico, I have from when we went to Mexico, I have videos from when we went to New York City, I have videos from Stagecoach, I have videos from literally everything. And I didn't mention it in this video, but Mason and I met at Stagecoach and I was telling him that I was editing that video, and I was like, isn't it so cute though that I recorded everything? I literally documented our first couple days together.

SPEAKER_02

And like, is he in it? Yeah, he's in so many of them. I was not shy, I was like, this is for my YouTube vlog, but I was never going to post it.

SPEAKER_01

I was never going to post this.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So I'm kind of glad that I waited that long because now it's like Yeah, there's my man. Yeah, so I don't really feel the need to hide it. And now he can be in the videos. But back then I was like, oh yeah, I'm not gonna put those in the the vlog. We'll just say cheese, it's for the memes. And that was really it. And I have a lot of videos.

SPEAKER_02

I'm like, I probably shouldn't say this, but I have a lot of uh other videos with other people that I just have to delete now. But yeah, but at least now in the recent six months or whatever, you have you have a good amount of content to put out there. Yeah, and it's just for me, it's not for like You were editing, you were talking about your editing on the car ride home, and I was like, I should vlog.

SPEAKER_01

You should, everybody should vlog.

SPEAKER_02

I know, and then you keep saying to post on TikTok, or my coworker has been telling me to post on TikTok. My grown motherly aged co-worker, like, you would be such a cute little influencer, and I'm like, so here's the thing, I'm not symmetrical, which is what I told her, and she was like, I don't even know what that means, and I don't want to know. And I was like, Okay, just post your TikToks, it's fine. Yeah, so I'm really proud of you.

SPEAKER_01

Thank you. Because it's tedious, it's so much work, and you want them to be good. You don't want to put it on the body.

SPEAKER_02

The way that these people do this every day, I know multiple videos, and I I'm on I'm on the TikTok editing right now, so they're like just giving me tips and I'm like watching the whole thing, and I'm like, okay, cool, I'll do that, I'll do this, I'll do that. I'm just trying to do that.

SPEAKER_01

I love that for you because I want to put out good videos so that I can look back on them and be like, oh my gosh. Not only did I have a great time doing that, but I also edited that so freaking well.

SPEAKER_02

Period. I love that for you. I'm really proud of you. No, Celeste is really good. She is so good about just capturing every moment, honestly. She'll be like, What?

unknown

Hold that.

SPEAKER_02

Don't move. Hold on, Nikki, you got your camera? Because we can literally, how many canons were on this trip? Four, I'm pretty sure. There's four canon G7Xs on this trip.

SPEAKER_01

Who were the ones at work?

SPEAKER_02

Who were the ones that were snapping these picks? Me and Celeste, but mainly Celeste. She was like, girl, there was another girl on the trip who I didn't know that she knew what she was doing with these settings. I was like, so can you write that down for me? What you just explained? Because she was like, explain it's it's a lot of work. And Celeste is usually who I go to too for my settings. I'm like, hey, this is looking a little funny, whatever. I want it to look like yours. Because I'm just not good. I feel like I could learn about that stuff. You're better. I could learn about that stuff, but it's just oh my gosh. It's a lot of work. And I think about that because I have me and Sushi went on a trip to Hawaii and I made a vlog of the whole thing. It took me the whole plane ride home. It was like a five-hour plane ride. But the more that you do it, the better you'll get. Yes. And I think you will also realize how you need to record to make it easier on yourself. 100%. So yeah. T. I don't know. Maybe we'll see. Maybe I'll pop out with something too. But I feel like we have to. I feel like we have to do content for the pod too. People want to get to know us. They want to feel like they're friends with us. And they are friends with us. So that's something we ought to think about. What are you so seriously serious about? Uh, you know, I'm just not in a serious mood lately. I feel like I was really serious. I was listening to the last podcast and I was like, my voice sounds so sad in some of this. I was really sad the last couple weeks because things just haven't really been working out for me. But I honestly just feel like I I preach it to a lot of people and I need to preach it to myself too. Like, redirection is protection and like rejection is protection. I just feel like what is not for me, God won't have, won't give to me, you know? So if it's not for me right now, if there's some things I gotta figure out, then I'm gonna figure it out. But I'm just trying not to be so serious. So I guess I'm just seriously serious about not being serious. Like I will that's not true because there are things that I want to lock in on, and one of them is I really want to go back to church. That has been a good thing. Me too like we should have go together. Yeah, I feel like we did talk about that a couple months ago and we just like haven't dedicated the time to go.

SPEAKER_01

I'd love to go with you.

SPEAKER_02

I think we would really just that would be really good for us because I I just feel like it is a good way to have what is it called, discernment, just to be disciplined and just to sacrifice and for me it's two hours a week because it's a half hour there, an hour there, and then a half hour drive back. So that is two hours out of your week that you can dedicate to listening to the word of God and just allowing the Holy Spirit to have better access to you. And I I really think you can I saw this thing on Pinterest that it was really cute and I I saved it for my future home, but it said something like this little home is a church or something like that, or you can make church and home or something. And I was like, that is true. And sometimes I do listen to mass on YouTube, you know, but it is different when you force yourself to go somewhere, you know. And when you get dressed, it is sad to say that I'm forcing myself to be there, but sometimes it is like sometimes I'm like, no, get up and go. At my previous job, uh-huh I had a surgeon that worked at my job, and he I think he loved me.

SPEAKER_03

We were cool. And he would tell me, So we were closed on Sundays, so he'd be like, What are you doing tomorrow? And I'd be like, 'Cause it'd literally just be me and him. So he would make a conversation with me, and I'd be like, Oh, well, tomorrow I'm gonna go to church, and then I don't know, I'll figure out what else I'm doing. He'd be like, You go to church, and I was like, Yeah, I go to church, and he was like, Okay, what we're gonna do is we're gonna start sending each other our church outfits. So we went sending each other our church outfit.

SPEAKER_01

And one time he goes, See you, that's so nice. You just put on your beautiful big white dress and you get dressed up and you go to church and this and that. And I was like, Hey, doctor. You're so right.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, me and Susha did it a few times where we went to church and then we had breakfast after, and it was just such a wholesome, what a beautiful way to I don't know. If Sundays feel like the end of the week for me, it does not feel like the beginning of the week. So, like, what a beautiful way to end the week. Yeah, you know, I just I really want to get back into that because I just feel a little lost in life lately, and I feel like what better direction to take than search?

SPEAKER_01

So yeah, I've got a series about and it's been fun. So we should go. Proud of you. I'm proud of you. That's a really good, that's something really good to take responsibility for and just want to be better at, so I'm proud of you, and I hope that we get to go next week. Yes, not this week, but next week. Okay, great. That's everything, man. That's everything for this week.

SPEAKER_02

I feel like we were yapping. We were really yapping. That was really fun. Hope you guys enjoyed it, and we love you guys. Bye. Bye.

unknown

Bye.