The Missing Peace

Are You Drifting Through Life? How to Wake Up and Take Control

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Do you ever feel like you're just going through the motions — busy but not fulfilled, successful on paper but empty inside? In this episode, Brooke Benevento and Danielle Griffiths break down the concept of drifting from Napoleon Hill's Outwitting the Devil — and why 98% of people may be doing it without realizing.

They get vulnerable about their own experiences with drifting, explore how childhood programming and the six fears (poverty, loss of love, criticism, illness, old age, and death) keep us stuck, and share practical ways to move from surviving to thriving.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • What drifting really means — and why it's not about being lazy
  • How social heredity (family, school, religion, media) programs us to drift
  • Napoleon Hill's six fears that keep people stuck in drift mode
  • The self-audit questions to find out if you're drifting
  • Key symptoms of a drifter: constant distraction, fear of criticism, difficulty making decisions, chronic overwhelm
  • What "the great earthquake" is and why pain can be the catalyst for awakening
  • The difference between surviving and thriving — and how to make the shift
  • Why you should stop telling people your plans and just do the work
  • How courage, discipline, and self-awareness are stepping stones out of drifting
  • Why discomfort is actually a sign that positive change is coming

References:

  • Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill
  • The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
  • Episodes 1–4 of The Missing Peace (social heredity foundation)

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SPEAKER_00

Drifting simply means that you're allowing life to direct you instead of consciously directing your own life. What you're reacting to, what's happening to you, um, is controlling you instead of actively creating your life.

SPEAKER_01

Doing amazing. Hey, everybody.

SPEAKER_00

Welcome to the show.

SPEAKER_01

We are going to be talking today about drifting. And I'm going to start this off by admitting I am Danielle and I am a drifter. I'm trying not to be, but uh, we're we're gonna spend some time today talking about what drifting is. And I would just ask the audience to ask themselves, have you ever felt like, how did I get here? What have I been doing to get to this point in my life? And what, why does it not feel the way that I expected it to feel? Because drifting, I at first I thought it was really complicated, but the more I started to understand it, it is very easy to do. I think sometimes people uh reach a certain point in their life, a pr a certain uh level of success, and they're wondering why they don't feel the joy that they thought they would feel. Maybe you're successful on paper. Maybe you are busy all the time. Successful people are usually busy, right? But deep down, something feels a little bit off. I know that has happened to me countless times in my life, even though I feel like the last couple of years I've gone through a huge change and transformation up here. I still catch myself doing it. So Brooke has been a lifesaver literally uh for myself about drifting. So can you help our people that might be new to the idea of drifting understand what it's about?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, for sure. And um I want to tell you guys too that um I used to be an extreme drifter, and there are still times where I can catch myself drifting. And so it's important to understand that we're not trying to get to this perfect place, right? We're just trying to understand it more. We're trying to evaluate ourselves a little bit, bring some awareness. So there is no perfection here. Um, and yes, you can get to higher states of consciousness, but there's no perfection here. So this is all just about awareness and uh and learning more about where you are in your life. Um, okay, so let's first talk about what is drifting. Uh, this is a form of thinking that Napoleon Hill talks about in Outwedding the Devil, it the book that he wrote. Um long time ago, he wrote this. And uh most people think a drifter is someone who you may think of it as being someone that's lazy or maybe doesn't have ambition. But the majority of the drifters in society are extremely busy people who have careers, have a family, like Daniel was saying, and can even be somewhat pretty successful. Um, drifting simply means that you're allowing life to direct you instead of consciously directing your own life. What you're reacting to, what's happening to you, um, is controlling you instead of actively creating your life, thinking, okay, this is what I want, this is my plan, this is the direction that I'm gonna go. You're living by somewhat of a default, and instead of designing your life. Um, I'm gonna be completely straightforward here and say that drifting really is the devil's playground. And a lot of times we don't even know that we're playing in it. And but but we are. A lot of people are playing in this. And uh Danielle and I were just talking about this that some people would maybe refer this to as like an a zombie apocalypse, right? We talk about this zombie apocalypse that's gonna come, and there's gonna be a lot of people walking around like zombies. Well, technically we're not gonna look like zombies, okay? But internally and actively going along in our lives, this is somewhat what we're talking about, is really just being a zombie, is really just kind of just floating through life with no plan or purpose. Um, so we're gonna ask our audience to get a pen and paper out. If you're driving, okay, listen, come back and listen again. Okay. But this, these are really some things that we really want you guys to understand, and that this really is the catalyst. This whole drifting thing is really the catalyst of moving into an awakening for yourself and really creating this peaceful life that you want first internally, then outward. So these questions that we're gonna ask you are gonna be really um are gonna really kind of tell you maybe where you're at um in your life. So, question number one Have you ever felt like you're just going through the motions?

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Right.

SPEAKER_00

Danielle and I are both shaking our heads because we're like, yep. And sometimes we still feel like that. Um, number two, have you ever reached a goal only to realize you're still unhappy? Something Danielle was explaining earlier, like, have you gotten to this point where you're like, oh my gosh, I got this and still not happy, still not fulfilled. Why is that? Um, have you ever felt busy but not fulfilled? So this is the other concept of going, going, going, but never really feeling like you're actually really fulfilled in your life. Um, Danielle, I know you've you've experienced this, I've experienced this. Um so yeah, we're both sitting here being very vulnerable and saying, hey, we and we still sometimes feel this way.

SPEAKER_01

And I think we can we can tie it back to different parts of our lives. I'm I'm going through it right now. I'm working in the finance industry, and I realized earlier in my life I was very reactive with my finances. Like, oh, this bill came. You know, I did, I didn't really budget, I didn't really plan. Now, when I started doing that, where I was controlling the money versus the money controlling me, things started changing for the better. And so even though that's kind of like, you know, one little thing over here, I think people can look at different areas of their lives and ask themselves, am I in control of this? Am I working with my Christ consciousness to move this in the direction that I'm looking for? Or am I just being reactive? So I always think of it as the difference between surviving and thriving. And I'm trying to get to that second one.

SPEAKER_00

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

We're not trying, you're doing girlfriend. You're definitely doing the work, you know? And that's yeah, and that's the thing. Like, I I used to always like say that too, like, Oh, I'm trying, I'm trying. But it's like at some point you're like, no, I'm not even trying anymore. Like, I'm actually doing the work. And even though I may not be exactly where I want to be, that's not a bad thing because that means that you're continuously always wanting growth, right? But I am doing these things. So, um, and this, and this does go into um our next kind of topic about how do you how do you how do people become drifters, right? Like Danielle said, like I um she learned something and you know from her from her past um growing up. We we picked these things up. Um, this is what we talked about on the four first episodes of um of the of the podcast. And we did that on purpose, you guys, because we're gonna continuously tell you if you have not listened to one, two, three, and four, go back and listen to it because everything is built on social heredity. So somewhere along the way, we became drifters through uh family, school, religion, and media. So go back, listen to those. Um, because many of us in life, we never stop to ask ourselves, do I actually believe what I have been taught by others about myself and about the world? So I was told something and I'm believing something, but do I actually really know the facts and how I really feel about this subject? Um, so this is where a lot of people um come in contact with drifting because it's like, well, this is what I've always been told. Um something that might happen is uh some some following, you know, this is where we're following what the world thinks. We're we're we're doing what the world thinks is cool, right? So we're choosing a career because it's expected of us. So my mom and dad always wanted me to be a doctor, so I was a doctor, but I hate being a doctor. Well, then why are you a doctor? You know, staying in an unhealthy relationship because it's familiar to you. You know, living for the weekend instead of for purpose. You'll hear a lot of people say, Thank goodness it's Friday. And I'll say, Well, every day's a Friday to me because I really enjoy what I'm doing, you know, and that's the life we want you all to get to. Uh, following what others are doing instead of your own values. Okay. If you, if you're if you're finding that you're doing things because, well, the world's doing it, or well, that's what she did. And that's what the she seems that that's working for her, she's making good money over there. I should do that too. It's like, well, no, if that's not your thing, then you're probably not gonna make money at it because it's not your thing. Uh so these are these are things that this is how you start to become a drifter. And again, listen to the four or first episodes, and they will definitely make sense, I think, for for everyone.

SPEAKER_01

And I think what what you taught me, and you you did have me read the book Outwitting the Devil, um, and I actually took the time to memorize the six fears because everyone I've mentioned this to, they uh uh oh, yep. It's like the the Leonardo DiCaprio. Like, yep, that number two, that was that that definitely uh describes me. So the Napoleon Hill describes six fears that everyone is afraid of. Maybe not all six, but one of them. And they are poverty, loss of love, criticism, illness, old age, and death. And again, when I mention this to people, they go, wow, yeah. And in in the book, it's it's almost like he's having a conversation with the devil. And the devil flat out says 98% of the world is drifting because I instill these fears into their lives that keep them from enjoying their lives, to that keep them from that creator, that co-creator with divine. So I just wanted to mention that because I think if you can get those six in your head, you can start to identify them. Why am I scared about this? Well, I'm afraid I'm gonna go broke if I spend too much money. I'm afraid I'm gonna lose love if this relationship doesn't work out. So obviously, people will have different stories, but I just wanted to mention that because I think if you can start identifying those negative thoughts and saying, is it one of these categories? It'll help with the self-awareness, don't you think?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, oh no, for sure. And there is a really good way that you can do this. You know, I kind of call it like a self-audit for some people to find out what their fears are. So let's go through some questions that maybe you could ask yourself or analyze yourself. Uh, one of them is do you know exactly what you want? This is huge, y'all. If you do not know what you want, how in the heck do you know where you're going? It's literally like getting in the car, okay? Getting in the car, going to Yeah, right? Okay, I'm gonna drive to California, okay, from Tennessee to go see my good friend Danielle. I'm gonna drive there. And but I'm not gonna put in in the GPS, I'm not gonna put in directions. I'm just gonna drive. I'm just gonna follow the sun and I'm gonna drive west. Yeah, that's not gonna work out. You're probably going to get there eventually, but if you don't know what exactly it is that you want and there's no real path for you to take, then you're just gonna be driving blind, really. Okay. So really sitting down, and I and I'm gonna tell you this. This is the question I ask all my clients every single time. What do you want? People look at me with deer in the headlight looks all the time. And I'm like, and they're like, well, well, and I'm like, no, really, what do you want? And they're like, yeah, because you know what? What do you mean? What do I want? You mean I can actually get what I want? I'm like, well, yeah. I mean, if you first know what you want, but people, you know, uh people are not asking themselves this question because we were never asked this question as children normally. We were not asked this question. We were always told what to think, how to think. This is what's best for you. This is my this is my life. So let me teach you, right? And it's like, no, f just stop and ask yourself, okay, what is it that I want? This is the most important question, okay? Um do you yeah, do you have a vision for the future that you want? Well, if you don't know what you want, there's no vision. Are you making uh are you making decisions based on what you want or are you avoiding them? Do you spend more time consuming than creating? This is again, are you watching the news? Are you sitting there watching somebody make a video on, you know, you're watching somebody on social media on a video that you should be taking that time to make the video of your own thing that you should be talking about, that you have knowledge in, right? But we're we're watching somebody else do the stuff that we should be doing. So stop consuming things and be a creator in the world, give to the world, stop consuming so much. Um, do you blame circumstances or do you take responsibility when something bad happens to you? Do you say, oh, it was because of them? Or do you actually go internally and say, hey, you know, I what what could I, how could I have prevented this from from from happening, right? There's there's always two people in every relationship, somehow, some way, you are put there to learn some kind of lesson. And if you're not learning the lessons from your relationships with people or things that you've been through, you're gonna continue to get the same lesson over and over again. Danielle and I talk about this often. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And yeah. And I just want to interject real quick because I think victimhood is something that is a big problem in today's society. And I and what the reason I wanted to mention it is I feel like a lot of people don't realize I didn't realize I was, you know, playing the victim card when I was younger, but I can identify it. And yeah, we live in a world where our world is cultivated by what we consume. Again, media, family, school, whatever we're consuming shapes our worldview. And if you're constantly being told it's someone else's fault and you're a victim, and woe is you, let someone take care of you, or you know, let the government take care of you, or you know, whatever your circumstances are, they're not your fault. It really keeps you from being accountable for your actions. And it also makes us feel like the world, like life is happening to us versus us actually creating it. So I'm glad you mentioned that because I think some people really need to look at at themselves, including myself, and uh see if they're if they're doing that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Yeah. And we um so some things that you might frequently hear some people say is like, well, someday I'll do it, one day I'll do it. When things calm down, I'll do it. When the timing is right, I'll do it. No, when my ducks are just like, just getting that room done. When my ducks are in a row. The ducks are never gonna be in the in the row, y'all. I I promise you, they're not gonna be. You can know what you want, you can have a plan, but I promise you, the ducks are still never gonna be in a row. Because if they were, if your ducks were in a row, okay, there would never be any lessons or tests that would come into your life to help you become who you are. So the ducks are gonna get rearranged a hundred different times because who you are today and who you're becoming, you're gonna be a completely different person. And the only way for that to happen is for you to actually have go really go through failure. A lot of failure. You know, and that's another episode we can talk about is failure. I mean, failure is actually a gift. It's a gift, it is training you to fall down and get back up. Fall down, get back up. How many times does you know the universe or God got to put you down and say, Well, how bad do you want this? You're gonna keep making excuses? Are you gonna you're gonna keep drifting? Are you gonna stand up and continue on your way? Because eventually, okay, eventually you're gonna hit. It's gonna hit. I promise you. If you do not give up, something is going to break. You know, that's just the laws of of nature, you know, is that you continuously go. Hey, that bird is gonna continuously go there every day. And guess what? Eventually he's gonna find the worm because he knows if I just keep doing this, I'm gonna find the worm, right? So it's like changing the program.

SPEAKER_01

So can we is it possible to maybe give some like symptoms so people can look and say, like, like I I know you've done that for me before.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and Napoleon Hill does kind of break these down. Um, I'm gonna give them pretty simple um some symptoms of a drifter um that you can you can kind of walk through some of these. Um okay, so a drifter will have constant distractions. So some may say that this could be like ADHD in a way, but not to say that ADHD um is not is not real because I definitely have some of it, but it has definitely subsided since I have become aware of my drifting. My ADHD has tended to kind of go away a little bit more because I'm more aware of what I'm doing. Um so uh fear of criticism is huge. That's all that's a fear really. Um, not wanting to be seen, asking others for approval, uh, lack of confidence, talking about yourself negatively, um, difficulty making decisions. The best way to see if this is you is if you find yourself saying something and then saying, I don't know. Or someone asks you a question and then you say, I don't know. You cannot make a decision. Or you make a decision, you say something, and then you say, but I don't know. That's a that's a clear sign. Uh feeling stuck, you know, things saying things like, Well, I'm just waiting on God to give me a sign, you know, what should I? I'm just waiting for God. Well, don't blame God. Like God's been probably telling you what to do. You're just probably have some fear behind it. Um, chronic overwhelm. Um, this would be always staying busy, but never feeling like you're getting anywhere. Um, emotional reactions. So making everything into something. Oh, this is this is bad for me. Why is this happening to me? Well, actually, maybe it's happening for you, and we don't even know it yet. And it could be a year from now. We really don't know. Um, living in survival mode, this is what Danielle was talking about by being the victim. Being in survival mode is is being the victim. That's that's pretty much what it is. Um, and another important point is that most people don't know they are in drift mode. Remember this, okay? So most people believe that all of this, what we just talked about, is completely normal. Okay, this is this is what has society has believed that you know being in survival mode is normal, okay? We have been taught to believe this, but it is not true. Okay. God wants you to be in peace. He won, he wants you to have peace in your life. That that's the ultimate goal is to have peace. And and it and and and and the object of that is to awaken into how this peacefulness feels. So drifting is like, okay, like Napoleon Hill says, you're drifting with the devil, you're drifting with no plan or purpose. So really kind of look at these symptoms and say, okay, how can I slowly move out of this and awaken more? Um and you know, uh something Danielle and I we talk about this a lot too, is that, you know, how do you how do you get out of drifting? Okay. So like this is the most, this is this is really important part of all of this. Right. And I'm gonna reiterate this and say that God loves you so much, the universe loves you so much, okay? That it doesn't ever want you to live like this. Okay, you this is not normal, okay? It wants to awaken you to live in a place in your mind and your body that is peaceful. It doesn't want you to struggle, okay? It's it's abundant yes, universe is constantly trying to pull you out of this drift mode, okay? Now it's gonna send you lessons, all right? But but as if if you're not listening to the if you're not listening or seeing the signs, you know, it's it's gonna be very, very subtle at first. Let me let me throw her this, let me throw him that, okay? And then and then you maybe you didn't pick up on it and you're still drifting. Well, over some time, God's gonna get really kind of uh desperate in a way, okay? God doesn't get desperate, but maybe in let's just say in this physical realm, okay, we're we're we're in desperate times. It's like, okay, we gotta get her out of drift mode. Like I need her to move him or her to move into more awareness. Okay. So as if these signs are not coming and you're not becoming awakened, what's gonna happen is something bad, something really bad. Is gonna happen, okay, because God's gotta wake you up, okay? And so normally what happens is some some kind of pain, okay, unbearable pain will come into your life that shakes you up. It's like I call this the great earthquake. Okay, this is what I've named it. I've named it the great earthquake. It feels like an earthquake, it's shattering, it's everything feels like it's coming down on you. You're literally at rock bottom, okay? If you're not listening to the signs early on and you're not catching it, God's gonna put you down on your knees and you're gonna have to some people will call this surrendering. Okay. So what will happen is you will have a failed relationship, you'll have a health scare, you'll start to have financial struggles, um, you will maybe lose someone that you love. Okay. These are all, see, all the fears now are starting to come in. Okay, more and more fears coming in. And so God's really got to like wake you up, okay? And this is where, and I I'm sure that Danielle maybe has a story too that she can share if she wants, but like briefly I'll tell you that mine was, and I've I've shared my story many times, but mine was when my kids decided not to talk to me anymore. We, you know, my kids what I call now is no contact. And so my kids were gone for nine months, and then what happened? I felt I found myself on the bathroom floor, ready to just really wanting to end my life because I hadn't I hadn't listened, y'all. I got I I I look back now and I think God was trying to show me all these things. The universe was trying to show me all these signs, and I was not listening. I was not, it was not, it wasn't triggering, it wasn't triggering. And finally, he's like, Okay, the one thing that I could do to her that would probably bring her to her knees was to take her kids. And thank God he only he didn't take them in another way, but he took them physically out of, you know, he took them out of my element, right? And and and I woke up. That's what happened. I had a I had an awakening, and then I had a mentor that came in and taught me all these things. And so that was my turning point, and that's what we call it. We call it a turning point where we know where we know that where we're at, we don't want to be anymore, and that we are desperate. We are literally desperate and we have to change our ways, or we're just gonna continue to live a life literally of hell, is really what it is, because that's what I was living. I was living a life of hell, and I wanted, I just wanted some peace.

SPEAKER_01

So this is an the the discomfort is is what like we we want to be comfortable. If we're cold, we put on a jacket, if we're hot, we turn on the AC. Like we want to be comfortable. But what I've learned through this journey is that when I start getting uncomfortable, ooh, something big is about to happen. And if people are wondering, like, well, what do you mean by uncomfortable? Um, maybe uh someone that you've been dating starts doing things that you notice and go, whoa, like I'm not okay with this. And it's a deal breaker. Maybe your job becomes so miserable and you feel you have that fear of poverty. We all do. So you're like, well, I have to stay in this job because if I leave it, I won't be able to pay my bills. So you see how the fear starts to compound. And I would just really get people to think about their lives. And again, I know Brooke and I like to mention if your life is awesome and you're happy and things are good, bravo. We are happy for you. But just speaking with friends, I went on a trip this last weekend with uh some of my very long-term friends. And people are doing good, but you you know, you start talking and you start realizing there are elements of our lives that we want to change, but we either feel like we're too busy or we don't have that power, or we don't want to rock the boat because we don't want other people to feel uncomfortable. So I guess my two cents would be discomfort is good. I have been in positions where I was internally miserable, but I put a smile on because I thought that's what a responsible adult and wife and mother does. And when I have made changes in my life, especially in the last decade or so, sometimes they're substantial, like changing careers or something big like that. It has been the most amazing adventure to now where I get uncomfortable. I'm almost happy because it means change is coming and I need to buckle up because life's about to get better. And it happens again and again. It's almost like a butterfly that, you know, is you caterpillar to butterfly. But real quick before I turn it back over to you, we're talking about signs. And I was thinking of that movie Bruce Almighty, where he's like, give me a sign, and then there's like 20 signs together. Like, I think they're there. And we either choose not to see them or we're like, no, no, no, I'm not ready. My duck, my ducks, my ducks are not in a row.

SPEAKER_00

Yep, yeah, yeah. And you can you can ask the universe God for a sign. You can ask him. I know, I know for me, I ask them all the time. Like, oh, give me a sign. And I say sometimes, hey, show me like I'm a two-year-old because sometimes I'm just, you know, in my own world. I'm gonna need it with it. Right. Pretty much, right? Like that's what that's what I'm gonna need because I I'm obviously not seeing it, and you're gonna have to show up and and show me. And I'm gonna tell you something. Nowadays it comes pretty quickly. The signs come pretty quickly. And it is a process.

SPEAKER_01

So keep in mind I I know we are spoiled in our lives right now in in 2026, where things, you know, we order something, it's there later that day. Like in my day, we had to like send off a thing and wait like six to eight weeks, talk about learning patience. But uh so the big question now is how do we help people become non-drifters? And again, understanding it's a process. It's not something you're gonna do once and then magically everything will will change. It's a process. So, what what would be ways we could um help people become non-drifters?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah. I think that really just going back and asking ourselves, you know, is it is what asking ourselves these these questions that I've I've I've really asked, you know, and really sitting down and asking yourself, you know, am I where I want to be? You know, and I know that sometimes people will say, I don't have time. And I'm gonna tell you something. That's all you have. That's all you have. Okay. You don't have anything else, really. All you really your time is so precious. It's you against your time, really, is what it is.

SPEAKER_01

I think also understanding that having that discipline and that self-awareness, it's hard at first because it's scary. But the more you do it, I I I saw an Instagram meme or something the other day that said something to the effect of self-discipline is self-love, taking care of yourself, setting boundaries for good behavior, for good health, for good mental clarity. We're just in this overwhelming world where we constantly feel like we're just reacting to things. But when you take a minute, take a beat, and start co-creating, like we keep saying, um, things can be so different. And so I'm excited for people to get into this.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Yeah. And okay, so when you start to have a a lot more awareness, okay, you're you're you're waking up, whatever that that is, okay. And there's some things that are gonna start happening. All right. And so a lot of times clients will call me and they'll say, Why is well my gosh, Brooke, this is this is happening now. And I'm like, Yeah, this is this is good. And they're like, but it feels like Danielle said, so uncomfortable and like, great, we're moving through it, you know? Um so let's say, yeah, exactly. Exactly. So, so let's let's say that you maybe, maybe actually you might be listening to this now and thinking, okay, wait, I know I'm in an awakening. Like I know that I have awareness now. Like, what what are some things that I want to really also let you guys know that these things are normal? Okay, so it this can start to feel weird. Different things can happen, you know, in your life. Things, random things can happen. Uh, you might notice more, you know, um, things that are coming, you're thinking something, and all of a sudden it's synchronicities are coming in. Okay, so so here's some here are some things that's gonna happen, all right, when you start to kind of transition into this sort of more awakening, right? We're drifting, okay? We don't want anyone drifting. We want you all to start to awake into peace, okay? So what's gonna happen is you're gonna have increased awareness. So you start noticing your thoughts and then your patterns, your thoughts and then your patterns. And then you and then at one point you make the choice to say, okay, I had this thought, I'm going to stop this thought, and I'm gonna change the pattern. Okay, that's that's what's gonna start happening. Now, the next thing that's gonna happen is majority of people are gonna start taking personal responsibility. Okay, so we have a thought, we want to blame somebody, and we go, we retract it and we say, no, wait a minute, I'm not gonna blame that person. Let me first look internally and see maybe what I'm causing. Not to say that the other person is not is not ha is not helping in what's happening. Okay, there's yes, there are two people. However, let's just stop the blame for a minute and go internal, okay? Next thing, some other things that might start to happen is you start to have more clarity, you become more clear on what's happening. Like Danielle said, you stop reacting, you pause and then act that you're gonna start to notice, okay? Um, something else that might happen is your courage. Okay, courage is huge. This is actually a stepping stone from drifting into actually moving into peace, is actually the courage point. Okay. Uh, I love courage. I love to talk about it because it uh has absolutely changed my life. And this is basically when someone will say, Oh, I can't do that. I don't want to do that. I'm scared. I have fear about doing that. What if people make fun of me? What if someone doesn't support me? But then what happens is when you move, anyways, you do it through the fear, you're you're you're sweating. Your your mind is already, you're sweating, you're like, Oh my gosh, I don't want to do this. When you move to the other section, that's courage. All right. And so you start to be making decisions despite of the fear that you're actually holding inside of you. Um, discipline. This one. This is discipline, is basically just patience, okay? Um, you stop waiting to feel motivated. You stop waiting for the feeling of let me be motivated. You do it anyways without the motivation. Okay. A lot of times when you don't want to do something, that is your indication to get off your butt and do it anyways. Okay. That's how we grow. That's how we move. The times that you're motivated, my goodness, thank God for those times because that's special. Because the times that you aren't motivated and you do it anyways, that's growth. That's where you know, okay, I'm actually, this is actually where the the line is will actually make the biggest impact is when you're do you do something when you're not motivated.

SPEAKER_01

Um Yeah, I want to mention on that note, I think it was Mel Robbins in her let them theory. She she wrote a book a while back. And I'm I'm it's either the lift-off theory or the blast off, but she said when you need motivation, you count it down like you're a rocket about to launch. You know, you're you're not wanting to get out of bed. You're just in your head. Five, four, three, two, one. And something about having that countdown makes our brains say, okay, something is is happening. So I just thought that was that was a cute way to deal with the yeah.

SPEAKER_00

I've never, I haven't, I haven't read that book, but that that would be a really good way is like make a commitment to yourself that you know, I'm gonna count down five to zero, and on zero, I'm getting up, right? Yep. I mean, I I I still sometimes am laying in bed and I'm I have to go to the gym. And I'm like, Brooke, put your feet on the floor. I just keep saying that. Brooke, put your feet on the floor because I'm not, I don't always want to uh rush off to the gym. I mean, there are some days that I'm like, man, this bed is real comfy. I could just sleep, you know. But no, I that's what I tell myself is put your feet on the floor. Put your feet on the floor. But I like that one. If you need, yeah, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, get up. Um okay, something else that tends to happen is that uh less need for approval of people.

SPEAKER_01

That's a big one.

SPEAKER_00

You yep, you care less about fitting in and what people think about you and your ideas, and you do it anyways. You don't even ask if somebody likes the idea or whatever. And I'm gonna I want to stop right here and tell you guys something about this, okay? Stop telling people what you're gonna do. Okay, just do it. Don't ask for approval from anybody. Now, maybe your spouse, because yes, but even them, them, if it's not gonna affect them, do your thing. Just do it. Don't because what happens is that when you tell somebody what you're gonna do, one, it takes the excitement away. And two, then you get their energy about it. And what if they don't think your idea is a good idea? But God already told you to do it. Don't ask for permission. It's not a conference call. I always say that. This isn't a conference call.

SPEAKER_01

We learned that when we were trying to figure out baby names. Like we would have, you know, before our kids were born, we would have a name in our head and we would tell it to someone. I remember we told a specific name to to uh one of the grandparents. The look on your face like it ruined it. And so I I agree. Like it we get excited about things and we want to tell people. But what I've also learned, you know, I I I want to write a book. I've been talking about writing a book for like four or five years now. And I actually have started it, but once I started telling people, every time I saw them, how's the book coming? And it almost put pressure where I wish I would have like had had most of it written before I started telling people about it.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Yeah. And then you're like, oh, well, I haven't really written it, you know, haven't really gotten that motivation to do that yet, you know? Well, I think it too.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. And and and I think the one of the other things um with what we're talking about is just having a vision. Like we have students in high school make vision boards about what do you want your life to be like? Like, why do we stop doing that? Why are we not constantly evaluating our surroundings? And I'm not just talking about the material stuff. I think, you know, a lot of people's vision boards have mansions and Lamborghinis and, you know, uh yachts. Yeah. What about the internal gifts? Like, what about peace and happiness and what brings us those things? Like it's it's such a beautiful journey for people who are willing to break their cycles and start looking into the mirror. And so I'm so excited about this.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, this is a great episode. And I think a lot of you are gonna be having um a lot of different thoughts, thought processes that are gonna start coming into your into your mind. And um, you know, I think as we close out this episode, we're Danielle and I are trying to keep these shorter for y'all, but you know, we try our best. Um but to kind of like start closing it out is that if you discover today that you are drifting in some way, I want you to know that this is actually the greatest turning point of your life. And instead of thinking about it as like, oh my gosh, I'm a drifter, think about how exciting it is that you've realized that and that now there's such a beautiful journey that is coming your way. Uh, I will tell you that when I first started this journey, I never knew how great it was gonna be until, and I'm not gonna say that it's over, okay, because it's never over. However, there is something about the beginning that when you start this and you really, you really heal a lot of it, you look back, and I look back on it now and I'm like, man, I wish I would have enjoyed it more. You know, I was so into this like deepness of like releasing all the trauma from my life, you know. And I and I really wish that I earlier on would have looked at this as such of a gift, really it is a gift from from the universe, from God.

SPEAKER_01

Really, I have something perfect to add to your to it being a gift. And I we may have mentioned this before, um, I'm not sure, but I've heard that worrying about the past is is what can cause us depression. Worrying about the future is what can cause us anxiety, but enjoying the present. The present is a gift to you. Yep. And I I think it starts with self-awareness. Once you start being aware of your thoughts, aware of what you're doing, and that's something Brooke has helped me with so much. And I'm not anywhere close to where I want to be, but every day I get a little bit closer, and that's what makes Mondays feel like Fridays. And, you know, it's just it, it, it's it gets so exciting and so hopeful in a world that is really flipping messed up right now. It gives me hope that things are going to get better. And the more people that get into this type of work, it'll happen even faster. And let's go.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah. No, and and this is the thing is is that you know, we all sit here and we want to say, like, the world is I wanna I wanna change the world. I wanna change the world. And I'm going to tell you guys something. The world will change when we all change within. Once every single person on earth can do that, okay. And I'm not, and I'm saying that it's gotta start with the few. It's gotta start with the few people, right? Like if you're a mother, okay, it's gonna start with you, and then you know who it's gonna go to? It's gonna go to your family, okay? Then your family's gonna experience this peace. And then your family is gonna go outside, whether you have two, three, four of you, your family's gonna go outside into the communities. And guess what's gonna happen? They're gonna touch all these people, okay? Slowly but surely, they're you're gonna be touching. And this is how peace spreads. This is how love, uh, acceptance, you know, Christ consciousness will come back to the earth, you know, because we're all internally then really somewhat saved by this drift that we are trying to say and explain that we don't want you good to live. And there is a way around out of the drift, you know, and it's just every day consciously thinking about where you are and create co-creating with the universe, with God, with love to really accept your life. And I'm telling you, once you do this, your life will completely change. It will be like it is it it's not hard anymore. It it's just so beautiful in its own way, you know. So we really hope that this episode has helped you. And Danielle and I again want to tell you guys that if you could, you know, like, subscribe, comment, we have our email, all of our stuff down at the bottom. We want you guys to email us. Tell us if you liked this episode, tell us if you have a question. If there was something small and you're like, you know what, you guys, can you do a 10-15 minute episode on just this small thing again to clarify exactly maybe it's just this one little question that we asked you to ask yourself. Can we go deeper into that? Like, we are here to support you and help you in any way. You can send it anonymously. We we don't have we won't say who it is. We'll just say, hey, you know, a listener um asked this question and we think that there are no dumb questions in this world. I guarantee you, if you're asking the question to yourself, someone else probably is asking this question. Someone else does. Yep. Yeah. Great point. So so write, so write in to us, let us know. Um, and if you know us personally, send us a text. You know, you don't always have to use the email. You could text us too. We are more than than welcome to to help you all. And um, yeah, Danielle, do you have anything last things you want to say?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I would just end with Brooke and I are on this journey for peace. And we have a lot more peace in our lives than we used to. And that's what we want for you. So again, if your life is going good, we're so happy for you. But if you're like most people I talk to these days, that's not the case. And if you're looking for something to change, today's the day. Like, let's let's go. I know I sound like a coach trying to give a pep talk, but it will change your life and it will make the way you look at everyday tasks completely different. And I can't wait for you to feel proud of yourself and that self-discipline and that self-awareness when you learn what drifting is and you learn, you know, you start that process of not being a drifter. It's life changing, and I can't wait for you to experience that too. Yeah, me too. Thank you so much for joining us on the Missing Peace podcast on behalf of Brick and I. We hope you have an amazing day. We'll see you next time. Bye, y'all.