Toxic Traits: The Sequel Nobody Asked For!

He texts back in minutes all day, then goes silent every single night and somehow expects you to be cool about it. We’ve both been there, and we’re not pretending it doesn’t mess with your head. We kick things off with real-life updates, then dive straight into the dating behaviors that trigger our biggest toxic traits: overthinking, reading into patterns, and wondering if you’re being treated like a last resort.

From “acting unbothered” while mentally building a full case file to shutting down the moment conflict gets loud, we break down what those reactions actually protect, and what they cost you. We also talk lying, integrity, and why asking a question when you already know the answer feels so satisfying and so exhausting. If you’ve ever needed “receipts” to calm your nervous system, you’ll recognize yourself here.

It’s not all heavy. There’s a backyard burn pile that ends with cops at the door, a debate about why people brag about the weirdest things, and our take on using makeup sex to skip the hard conversation. We land on the part we care about most: self-worth, clear boundaries, and choosing partners who show effort when it matters.

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Transcript

Welcome Back And No Limits

SPEAKER_05 0:01

Hey besties, you're listening to Nothing Untouched, the podcast where we overshare, laugh a lot, and talk dating, hookups, and heartbreak. And all the messy moments in between. Hi, I'm Ivy Noor. And I'm Scarlett May. Buckle up, besties. Nothing is off limits.

SPEAKER_02 0:32

Hey besties. How are we doing? Welcome back to another filling fulfilled episode.

SPEAKER_05 0:40

So I felt like you guys were fucking fortunate, short changed last week. Uh because we cut that shit fucking short. We did. It was a like we I and I feel like I didn't understand the assignment because I I felt like I didn't get everything I wanted to say. So we're back talking about toxic traits. We're here. Yeah. But first, we're gonna just talk about bullshit. Nothing. Yeah, absolutely. Basically us.

Grief, Support, And Quiet Weekends

SPEAKER_05 1:08

So I was gonna ask you, Ivy, how you been? What have you been doing? What's going on? What is everything? What are we doing?

SPEAKER_02 1:14

What so yeah, there's been, I mean, a lot, but not a lot going on. Last week was a little bit heavy week. The boyfriend lost his his grandma, not unexpectedly, but you know, I mean, it was still, you know, hard for the family, stuff like that. So he's still going through that. So it's our first loss together. So that's really sad. But you know, he's he's an amazing guy, so yeah. I'm just trying to be his support system right now and just being his supporter in the background. That's all you can do. Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_05 1:45

He's gotta work it out himself, but being there for him is amazing.

SPEAKER_02 1:48

So good job. Let's see. I'm trying to think. Golly, a lot's it's been only a few days to be fair, but it feels like it's been, but it feels like it's been forever. Gosh, Wednesday, Wednesday. We we recorded on Thursday, didn't we?

SPEAKER_06 2:04

We did.

SPEAKER_02 2:06

So yeah, Friday, I'm gonna stay with a boyfriend, Thursday night after the pod. And then obviously Friday went to work, and then what did we do Friday? Did we do anything Friday?

SPEAKER_05 2:17

Oh, I I don't I I didn't do shit. I was exhausted, tired. Yeah, so I mean it's I can't really say I did anything to speak of over the weekend. Yeah, really. I mean, I like those weekends, but then again, I'm like, I'm gonna lame ass shit. Oh, Friday.

SPEAKER_02 2:33

Friday, I stayed home with my daughter. She was supposed to go to another town to go visit some friends on Friday night? Yeah, but it was storming. Oh, yeah. No, that's is the night that we were worried about getting a storm. Yeah, yeah. No, I I remember that, yeah. And I was like, oh, we'll just stay here, we'll get some snacks, stay in. Well, we went to a grocery store where I we live, and we came out and it was just raining just a little bit. And then by the time we literally got everything packed in the car, getting ready to exit the parking lot, the rain was like sideways. And I'm like, oh my god. I hate that. I don't like being driving in that fucking shit. I'm like, I would even pull over because I get terrified. Yeah. So, anyways, so we we made it home, but like it was it was wild. So yeah, I did that, and then Saturday morning I took her to go see her friends, and then went to the boyfriend's house, hung out, and yeah, I mean it's just been like a really chill kind of week, nothing spectacular. No, but nothing like you know, it's just been nice. Nice, okay. No drama.

SPEAKER_04 3:35

Oh, that's boring. We want drama. I know, I know. Way to bring something to the table, Ivy.

SPEAKER_05 3:42

You are so welcome. Literally the table, because that's where we're sitting. So I guess I will shed some light on the fun in life. What about you? What's your drama? Let's liven it up. Let's think go kind of crazy, positive. I I don't know, it's not crazy, not positive. Like I did, like I said, I didn't just shit over the weekend.

The Texting Guy And A Suspicious Video

SPEAKER_05 4:02

But what I did do is I'm still talking to that guy that I told you about last week. Still texting, no, no phone calls or anything.

SPEAKER_06 4:11

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 4:12

Uh, and I so we'll talk about this toxic trip later. Oh, yeah. Okay. So what remember I told you I he sent a dick pic? Yeah. So I'm really smart with this stuff now because oh, by the way, I bit the fuck out of my tongue last night when I was sleeping. Oh my. I think I just bit it all night because I woke. That's do I sound funny? Because I like I am thinking like I sound like not any funnier than you usually do. Well, I feel like I do because I was talking today and I'm like, oh my gosh, my tongue. I keep fucking messing with it when you bite something. Yeah, I get it. Anyway, if you guys noticed my like tongue bit issue, that's what happened. I fucking slept hard last night. I just bit it all night.

SPEAKER_02 5:00

I was I'm sad I can't report it was something more fun, but they say that uh means that you it's a part of like ADHD when you probably grind your teeth or bite like down at night. That they say that is part of ADHD.

SPEAKER_05 5:13

Well, I they won't be wrong. I probably got a little bit of it.

SPEAKER_02 5:17

Well, for sure. We both do, so it's fine. Undiagnosed, but self-diagnosed, so oh yeah, no, we diagnose ourselves. We don't think we don't see doctors. What is a doctor? Please tell me.

SPEAKER_05 5:29

I mean, yeah, we don't need that kind of shit. We just ask fucking Google what's wrong with us. Anyway, they're when we do ask Google, they're like, bitch, you fucked up. Yeah, get some fucking help. Go to a physician, go, go, get there, go to a fucking therapist.

SPEAKER_02 5:46

Yeah, Chat GPT is like, we can't actually can't answer that for you because I have no clue. Because you're a fucking loser. You need help. You're fucked up. I'm like, thank you so much.

SPEAKER_05 5:57

Yeah, so anyways, yeah, moving on. Okay, dick pic. So actually, it was a video. And oh I have he masturbating, yes, of course. Okay, because he claims he's got a giant fucking load. Oh, yeah. And I'm like so weird when people when guys say that. I'm just like, your load's huge. Oh, great.

SPEAKER_02 6:17

I'd love to take your load right in the back of my throat.

SPEAKER_05 6:20

You know, I said that. I was like, we can finish that load. Such a loser, but no, it's fun to do that. So no, it's fun to sex talk, you know. But anyway, he's like, Yeah, it's all for you. And I was like, Yeah, no, it wasn't. That video was taken on December 9th of last 2025. Oh, yeah, I have a way to know these things, and I'll tell you my secret. Yep. Besties, here's a hook. I will tell you how I know when guys send videos or girls, when people send videos, how you can tell when they took it or sometimes the location. Okay. All right. So uh write in. Let me know if you want to know. I want to know. I know, I'll tell you after the pod because I want the besties to email. Right in banger, cliff hanger everywhere.

SPEAKER_02 7:16

That's how excited I am. Fuck your tongue up too. Yeah, but not by biting it, you know. I'm showing you.

SPEAKER_05 7:26

Uh, so no, for real. I have a way. So I will teach you my ways because I've been in the business of dating and single hood for a little bit now. Also known as stalking. Stalking, yeah. Yeah, it goes along with that. Yeah, yeah, yep. So when he sent me that and I real I did my work, I did my work, he's like, How do you what why do you think that? I'm like, I don't think it, I know it. And he's like, he's like, oh, and I was like, Well, you know what? It's not a game changer or end of I you know normally I would say fuck off, I'm done. Yeah, but I'm trying to be a little bit more forgiving on these things. I I know I'm trying to be because I have to, because I've I kind of just roll my eyes, but it's fine. But I've been I've been I know I know I've been like getting rid of people just for the smallest things, and yeah, people have flaws. I don't know. I haven't met them in person, so that'll that'll be the the deal breaker there, right? You know, go back to deal breakers episode eight, whatever it is. Okay, uh so and then the other thing I'm I'm I'm thinking maybe reading in, you know, yeah, because I do these things, yeah. That's uh gonna be talked about later. But only he he texts right away back, literally within minutes, okay, all the time. Yeah, except for in the evenings. I may get a text and or not, not none at all. So he's married, so he's either got somebody, yeah, and he's only but he works from home. So he either girlfriend, wife, yeah, comes home, something, which I know he has children, and but these are the nights as well that he does not have his children. You know what I mean? Yeah. So I understand the children night. I uh yeah, of course, but the nights that he doesn't have his kids, like what's going on? What's what's up? And I I I'll, you know, I'm kind of passive aggressive in that sense because I'll say, Well, what did you do last night? Yeah, or something like that. And he'll be like, chilled, relaxed. I'm like, okay, so you couldn't have responded. You want me to take your big fat low, but you can't.

SPEAKER_02 9:41

What is actually going on there? I know.

SPEAKER_05 9:44

What the fuck? You want to put your load in my mouth, but you can't respond in the evenings. I don't know. I I'm fishy to me. Yeah, absolutely. And I do have a tendency to read into things, but I don't know if I'm reading into that. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 9:58

I I would say probably not in my experience because there's something obviously going on. Because if he's super responsive all day long, and then when it reaches a certain time every fucking time, and then all of a sudden, crookets. Exactly. There's something going on.

SPEAKER_05 10:13

But here's the other hint that I've gotten that maybe not. So he he wants to do fucking shit last minute. Come see me last minute. I'm not a last minute person. I am a fucking planner. I have to clean my house, I have to take care of myself, you know, I have to shave everything.

SPEAKER_02 10:30

Yeah, but to me, that also kind of just saying that kind of throws a red flag too, because that means that he can now get away last minute.

SPEAKER_05 10:37

Exactly. Or plans, oh, you're my last fucking resort.

SPEAKER_02 10:41

You're my last resort.

SPEAKER_05 10:43

Yeah, that's the feeling I'm getting.

SPEAKER_02 10:44

But again, I'm toxic too, though. And I'm an overthinker too. So I don't know, Besties, you tell us your your thoughts on this. Like, what do you think?

SPEAKER_05 10:53

Yeah, tell us because I mean, my our thoughts are probably legit. Yeah, I would say so. I I I have a feeling, but I'm not gonna I would rather meet him first and see. But I I don't when he wants to meet me, I'm like, no, I have fucking plans. I mean, like, I do you think I just sit around waiting for you to show up? Yeah, so like when when so for instance, like when did he want to meet? Okay, so I asked him about coming this weekend. Okay, because I would have arranged it for you know for us to go out. And he's like, No, I can't. I wish I really I really wish I could, but I have some errands I gotta do, and I don't have the kids. And I was like, Errands, okay. Errands with quotes.

SPEAKER_04 11:38

I know.

SPEAKER_05 11:39

You mean her name Erin? Uh-huh. So I didn't really hear from him much on Saturday at all, but I was busy too. So on Sunday, he texts me and he's like, What are you doing today? And I'm like, Well, I got shit to do with my kids. I mean, I do. I I'm not gonna just sit around and wait for you to absolutely decide to see me. I'm not that person, dude. I hope you get the fucking hint. Yeah, that I don't sit around just hoping for your love and please, please come see me. Yeah, no, I'm not that.

SPEAKER_00 12:12

No, I'm a damsel in distress.

SPEAKER_05 12:15

Yeah, I'm damsel. Healthy, I need to save. No, I'm like, dude, no, I don't need your cock. If that badly, where you text me that night and I've got plans, I'm not canceling. That's the end of it. So we'll see if it happens. I don't know. I'm I'm not willing to give up just yet because I'm a fucking I'm losing every, you know, I'm well and at this point, I'm sure you're super curious. Yeah, and I it's a losing battle with this shit. Oh, it's like it's a full fucking time job. I've mentioned it before. It's like just to have a date.

SPEAKER_02 12:50

I would like to just go on a date with, you know, you know what I wish that they had is that like speed dating. And I know you can't obviously they do. I get I get see Facebook post about but it's not like around here. You have to go like an hour so an hour or something away from where we live to actually like have any kind of well bigger cities have them, which is dumb.

SPEAKER_05 13:15

Honestly, if they did it in our city, that nobody fucking show up. I don't, I don't know. Or you'd have the fucking 90-year-olds that are looking like getting them a lot young and hey, listen, you got money, you about ready to die.

SPEAKER_02 13:28

Girl, no, I'll fucking Anna Nicole Smith your ass.

SPEAKER_03 13:32

I don't want to see anything, anything that fucking saggy in my life.

SPEAKER_05 13:37

I would. I would do it. I have a boyfriend, but it's all for the money. Bring it in, bring it in.

SPEAKER_02 13:45

Oh daddy, give me that fucking Louis baton. Not even about like that though, but I mean, I I don't know. Anyways.

SPEAKER_05 13:54

Oh, really, yeah, girl. So the other thing I laughed about this week because I just thought it was fucking

The Stepsister Reveal Dating Disaster

SPEAKER_05 14:01

funny. So one of my guy friends, actually, one of my guy of fuck here and there, A plus guy. I was gonna say A plus guy. We talked on the phone the other day, and he I I was like, What do you or he asked me what I was doing, blah blah blah. Why, why isn't the pot out?

SPEAKER_02 14:17

Oh my gosh. He just wants to hear him mentioned a few times.

SPEAKER_05 14:21

Yeah, so shout out A plus guy. At least he's a listener.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

That's true. Thank you for being a supporter. Yeah, so oh hey, by the way, what was the other grade on that paper? Oh god, I don't know. He never got back to us.

SPEAKER_05 14:34

Say what? The grades are in, fucker. Come on with it! Yeah, the great you know, we know the grades are in. Uh-huh. I just oh, they have to be. This is what three weeks ago. I forgot about it. Thank you for bringing it up. I'm I am texting him right now. I am texting him as soon as we're done because I gotta know. Well, I gotta share with you, besties, anyway.

SPEAKER_02 14:54

Yeah. You know, we should put him on the phone one time and uh he'd be down for it.

SPEAKER_05 14:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:59

We're gonna call him one night, besties, soon, actually.

SPEAKER_05 15:02

We'll put him on the phone and he's gonna He most definitely will yeah, yeah. So he was telling me that he wanted he was talking to this girl and she dumped him. Well, he didn't think it was a dumping, and I was like, that's a fucking dump. What was it? Okay, so she found out he had uh had relations with her stepsister. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 15:28

Well, she didn't dump me, but yeah, so I did fuck her sister, stepsister, sister, and blood, so it didn't count.

SPEAKER_05 15:35

The best part, he didn't even fuck her. He ate her pussy. Oh well, apparently he's really good at that, so he's great at it. That's my god. I go, there is no woman you wouldn't eat. I mean, oh my god. I mean, I'm thinking that's what I'm thinking. I'm like, how many people are are lining up to get get their cooching?

SPEAKER_02 15:58

They knew they they heard how that mouth worked, you know.

SPEAKER_05 16:02

Damn, I I said that. I was like, how many people are you fucking eating cooch for? Do you do this full time? Is this a job? I didn't, I mean, I didn't pay. That fucking shit's funny. No, I I'm to the point where I'm like, well, I I okay, you you clearly have a talent.

SPEAKER_02 16:30

Yeah, we'll call it that.

SPEAKER_05 16:32

Yeah, so I it was funny as fuck. I was like, well, how'd she find out? He goes, Well, I called when she was at her stepsisters, and she he she goes, Do you want to meet who I'm talking to? And she's like said his first name. And she goes, Oh, what's his last name? I know, and she goes, Oh, yeah, I know him. He ate my pussy, yeah. Just like that. Call him out. Yeah, so I was like, Well, you know what? Honestly, I would have been done too. Yeah. No, well, duh. Yeah, no, I mean it's not blood related, but no, you don't want that fucking hanging over you. And he's not only that, like, were they together though when he did this? No, I mean, no, what do you mean together? The girls? Yeah, no, no, no, no. They were six months apart from each other.

SPEAKER_02 17:29

From him dating the one to the okay, like six or seven. Still, there's like a code.

SPEAKER_05 17:33

Oh, there's a fucking definite one.

SPEAKER_02 17:35

There is a girl code, and anyways, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 17:37

No, I would I would have dumped you too. I told him that. I was like, uh, you wouldn't have seen me again.

SPEAKER_02 17:41

Nope, absolutely not. There's a fucking girl code, and I don't in fact, the minute somebody mentions like if I'm talking to somebody and they're like, oh yeah, I kind of sort of talk to him or whatever, I'm like, okay, bye.

SPEAKER_05 17:55

Out, yeah, out of there. I don't need any friends or families left over. No, no, thank you.

SPEAKER_02 18:03

Nope. There's enough fish out there to fry, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 18:06

So there may be, may not be. I don't know. There's a bunch of married fucks that only talk during the day. So anyway, that I thought that story was funny. I hope he doesn't mind me sharing, but that I fucking laughed my ass off. I was like, say what?

SPEAKER_02 18:22

Regardless, we're sharing. So whether you like it or not, here it is. Yeah. So anything else you got, Scarlet? My God. Actually, I was just thinking, I really don't.

SPEAKER_05 18:33

Oh, God. Yeah.

The Burn Pile That Summoned Cops

SPEAKER_05 18:35

So I started, I had these tomato plants I had to pull from my my my thing, my my bed. And they were, you know, you pull them every year, whatever. Well, they were in my yard, and I decided, oh, you know what? It's about to rain. Oh, this was Friday night. Okay. It was about to rain, and I'm like, I'm just gonna light these on fire.

SPEAKER_03 18:56

Good.

SPEAKER_05 18:58

Yeah. My daughter was standby with the water. Don't worry.

SPEAKER_02 19:03

We already we had the fire department on speed dial. Literally, they showed up.

SPEAKER_04 19:08

What? What did you do?

SPEAKER_05 19:11

Oh, I was fucking humiliated. So it was the tiniest fire. And it was out before they even got here. But a neighbor called the fucking fire, the called them because they thought it was getting too close to my deck. I'm like, it was the tiniest little we were out here. Yeah. We had one on call. Not only that, but it was already out by the time they got here. So the fire department were they hot? Oh my god. No, the fire department wasn't. But the the first police officer that came. Two police officers and two firemen. Perfect. I know. You think I wasn't fucking humiliated? So the I knock on the door and I was changing in my bedroom actually. And my daughter answered the door. She goes, Mom, the cops are here. I'm like, what? I was like, oh shit, what? I was actually like kind of freaking out. I was like, why are the cops here? Yeah. I mean, like, what's going on? Do I have an outstanding warrant? I don't know. I pay my bills. I pay my parking tickets out the square. Anyway, so I go out there and I go come out here and I I couldn't open this fucking door to save my life. I don't know what the fuck was happening. But anyway, I went to the I they went to the back deck and they saw the little burn pile that was out and it was taken care of. Yeah. And he's like, some neighbor thought it was getting too close to the deck. And I'm like, some neighbor is a fucking asshole. Because you know what she fucking did is waste your fucking time. Yeah. And I I apologize profusely because I was like, this is a waste of time for it. Yeah, for real. I was like, you there's gotta be something more important than this fucking baby fire. That's already out. It's done. So anyway, he gave me the fire ordinance. Oh my, you're fucking shitting me. No, he did. He handed me a pamphlet. Oh my god. I was like, okay, dude, you can come back. You you, the police officer that I would have boned. And the rest of you go. But I seriously. While you're here. I know. I was like, damn, I'm putting it. You may as well get your dollars worth it. Somebody. Ivy, you could put out this fire in my pants.

SPEAKER_02 21:29

I'm honestly shocked that you did not say something. My daughter was there.

SPEAKER_05 21:34

That's the only reason. That's the only reason. Otherwise, Terry Scarlet would have been all over the place. And I would have turned on the fucking flirt machine. She would have been over with the fire, like, oh, this little thing right here.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

Oh no. I can't put it out. Help me. Help me. So oh, I'm so sorry, Professor. It'll never happen again. Oh Will it?

SPEAKER_05 22:01

It will literally I mean for real it will because I'm like if he's showing up, okay. So you have to remember what time of day it was.

SPEAKER_03 22:09

I know it's like what day Friday is at what time?

SPEAKER_01 22:14

He was hot, but the Russian start her house on fire next. I know, right?

SPEAKER_05 22:18

No, I'm gonna claim a burger burglarly. What's the fucking word? I can't talk my fucking tongues big.

SPEAKER_02 22:32

That's our excuse this week.

SPEAKER_05 22:34

We'll we'll see what happens. Burger. I still can't fucking burglar.

SPEAKER_03 22:38

I can't even talk. I know. I can't say it now either.

SPEAKER_01 22:41

Fuck off when either one of us.

SPEAKER_03 22:42

I'm talking about. Okay, I'm gonna claim I got robbed. I'm like, he ran down that way, I swear. I don't know. Come in here and look everywhere.

SPEAKER_00 22:57

He might be on me somewhere. I don't know. He took my dildo. I need the pervert.

SPEAKER_03 23:04

I need the real thing now.

SPEAKER_02 23:11

Oh, now we need to hear the most obscene. If you've ever called in to the cops, whatever, we need the most obscene call-ins that you've ever had to do whilst whatever's happening. Fire, burglary.

SPEAKER_05 23:26

Fake burglary. Burglary. Oh god. Fake robbery. Oh god!

SPEAKER_02 23:31

If somebody stole your dildo and you had to call somebody about it, you know, a backup plan.

SPEAKER_05 23:35

I mean no. Some of them are fucking expensive. I probably would. Somebody's 200. You think about it. Who the fuck would steal a deal dildo? Well, there are some fucking sick fucks.

SPEAKER_02 23:47

I mean, who's gonna use a somebody else's? I'd blow down a huge rabbit hole right now, but I would short story long over here, Ivy.

SPEAKER_05 23:58

You're known for those, girl. I know go off on a tangent, but it's it's totally okay. Yeah. Okay.

Acting Fine While Overanalyzing Everything

SPEAKER_05 24:05

So I guess we'll move on to uh toxic traits continued. Uh what is that? 2.0. 2.0. Here we go.

SPEAKER_02 24:14

Bum bum bum. We're gonna keep going with it. So I will start off. All right, bring it. And so my next one's gonna be I act unbothered, but I'm actually analyzing or overanalyzing everything.

SPEAKER_05 24:30

Say what? You don't do that. Never. No woman out there does that. Never.

SPEAKER_02 24:35

Gosh. We're just it's impossible. It's just, you know, sometimes I just don't want to get into it. Just not in the mood for a fight. That, yes, absolutely. Not especially if I'm with somebody or people that I know are too immature to handle what I have to say at first. Then, you know, I just I will close off and I'll be like, nope, it's fine. It's do you ever think about like the repercussions of it?

SPEAKER_05 25:02

Like, as in like, well, what will they think of me? Me, yeah. Absolutely. I do that same thing. And that's the overthinking process.

SPEAKER_02 25:08

Yep. So I'll wait a good while before I actually I'll think about things before I actually word vomit because I've been known in the past a word vomit and it's just come back to bite me in the ass because people don't take me the right way or overtake me or this, that, and the other. So yeah, so like when it comes up, like just say, nope, I'm fine. I'm I'm unbothered by it, like whatever. When actually I'm sitting there like not festering, but some like not in that point in time, but like later on down the road.

SPEAKER_04 25:39

You're fucking dwelling on it all night. You're just fucking biting her tongue. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 25:46

Yeah. So that's that's honestly that is legit for a lot of women, I think. So we just we we want perfection in some people, not well, not perfection, of course.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

But it's known in society though, too, to like chill out and just don't act a certain way. Yeah, and go with it. Go with it. Go with it. Like what's your problem?

SPEAKER_05 26:07

Yeah, exactly. No, I agree with you on that. That that is a fucked up trait I have too. I mean, I I want to be liked, so I go along with things like you said, to be liked. Yeah. And I think I mentioned that before that, you know, I like I said, I mean, I've done things that I don't want to do because I want to be liked. Oh, we know.

SPEAKER_02 26:29

Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, no, but mine's not mine, it's not necessarily I don't like confrontation. Yeah, I I do not like confrontation. Yeah, I'll shut down immediately. You've experienced this. I'll shut down immediately and I'll either exit, leave, whatever, or change the subject real quick, fast in a hurry. Because I honestly, yes, I I care for some opinions and what others, what some people, it's people that I care about the most, I obviously care about what they think about me for the most part, but I've never been one to really give a give a fuck what you think about me. Well, good. So it's not necessarily that, it's just the confrontation part. I don't like yelling, screaming, I don't like arguing. That's just not it, it will make me shut down completely and just not even want to revisit it.

SPEAKER_05 27:20

So, in that sense, do you like ever take a strong stance on anything? Like when you're really feeling it, like do you know, I'm going for this. This is my thing, and I oh absolutely like that type of thing. Yeah, absolutely. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 27:35

Yeah, I mean, if it comes to it, like if it gets really heated, like if it if it's a need to like happen in the moment, like I will absolutely stand for what I believe in in that moment or what I think is going on in that moment, but like I don't ever press the issue unless I mean, unless, like, we're for instance, if I'm sitting around talking to a significant other and they're being passive aggressive, or they're and I hate passive aggressiveness, or they're um beating around the bush, or they're lying to me, and I know I've already caught them in the lie. That's another thing that we need to bring up. But, anyways, so I'll sit there and I'll let you tell your side of the story, but then like if you don't let me tell my side of the story and you keep cutting me off, cutting me off, and and doing stuff like that, then yes, I I I will get elevated, heated, and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_05 28:23

So there is some people you just can't fucking reason with. No, I mean, they're you cannot reason with them, they're right, you're wrong, and that's the end of it. And those people, I'm like, listen, you gotta admit what you did. Right. You know, I like last week I

Lying, Integrity, And Bringing Receipts

SPEAKER_05 28:40

told you that, you know, when we talked about it, I was like, yeah, I can admit my faults. I have faults, everybody does, but I I mean I will admit to them. I'm very self-aware. And no, but there's some people that you know, okay. Here's an example. Like when well, and what this may be a whole episode when people say, you know, they you know they're in a fucking lie. Yeah. And but they will never, never go back on that fucking lie. It's like, dude, I have all the fucking evidence right here.

SPEAKER_04 29:08

I have fucking receipts. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 29:10

And they will never, it's I I tried so hard to instill in my children because I know people do this, and I've probably stood my ground on something, you know, here and there in life because I didn't want to admit to myself. But I've tried to instill in my children that, you know, just fucking admit. Yeah, I am not going to be as mad at you if you fucking tell the truth. Yeah, just let me know. Because if you come clean, I know your fucking integrity is there.

SPEAKER_02 29:39

Point blank period. Period. Yeah, exactly. That is exactly it. And so I I actually I will say this. I was a pathological liar when I was a child. I I had a lot of trauma. A lot of kids go to that. You know what I mean? So I was. I I would sit here and convince you that that that's why I was a good salesperson. But I'll convince you. There you go. I'll convince you that fucking sky is purple. You know what I mean? Even though they're sitting there arguing with me. Yeah. But over time, I grew out of that phase and I realized like that's not a good look. It's not a good integrity. Well, you well, you matured. I mean, and not only that, like I realize like that's not how you gain people's trust. That's not or attention, not the good attention that you want. Yeah. And so, anyways, like I that's why now it's I I can't tell a lie to save my life. In fact, I overshare at times because yeah, we talked about that. I know, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 30:29

You're an overshare. And I'm an undershare.

SPEAKER_05 30:32

I undershared because I always I have my guard up. Yeah, you know, and I eventually share. Yeah, it's just depends on who the fuck you are. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 30:41

But it just all comes out in different ways. So for sure. So yeah. Your next toxic, what is it?

SPEAKER_05 30:48

Well, we kind of talked about earlier because well, the example is right now that I read into things too much, clearly. Yeah. Uh, but you know what? It along with that though, it's like I investigate a little bit, but that goes along with feeling like I'm somebody's unfaithful to me. Yeah. And not even that this guy owes me anything, but I feel like if somebody gives me that little inkling, that little little hint that they're being unfaithful or they're giving trying to get one over on me. Yeah, I am fucking gonna run with it and I'm gonna look into it.

SPEAKER_02 31:28

It's not even that he's trying to like he owes you anything. No, it's the fact that he is taking my vulnerability. Vulnerability and effort, right? So there's effort, there's vulnerability that goes into meeting new people, talking to new people, stuff like that. So when you're out there and you're trying to meet these new fuckers, trying to meet somebody, and they're being unfaithful, they're lying, they're you know, doing all the things, not having the integrity, everything that we just talked about, like what the fuck are you doing? I know. Why are why why do this to somebody?

SPEAKER_05 31:59

Yeah, like, and I I I don't know if that's a real case or what, but it feels like that way, you know.

SPEAKER_02 32:06

But it it's unfortunate that it happens more so than not.

SPEAKER_05 32:09

I know, God. You know what I mean? No, honestly, lately it's been more bad than good. Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_04 32:16

God, Prince Charming, where the fuck are you?

SPEAKER_05 32:21

You'll come eventually, right?

SPEAKER_02 32:23

Yes, Scarlet.

SPEAKER_05 32:24

You will find somebody'll be my Prince Charming. Yes, indeed. Someday, I hope. I I'm still positive about it, but I know I hope it happens organically, but dating sites are where I'm at right now because I don't get out. I I spend time with you, I go out with my friends and family, and I choose to do that. And sometimes when I am, I'm not really approached by guys very, you know, when we're out, but I don't approach them, period. I mean, I would have fucked that fuck and right in there. He approached you.

SPEAKER_03 32:58

But your hands were like a like my pants dropped. Fuck me. I'm so sorry. My pants are down and my panties are wet.

SPEAKER_00 33:09

What? Oh my gosh, I must have gotten them wet when I was putting out the fire. So sorry.

SPEAKER_05 33:18

Oh, these are these are lines you can use, besties, because uh feel free.

SPEAKER_02 33:25

Because you know, write them with yours too.

SPEAKER_05 33:27

Yeah, because you know, I may use them. I may be that desperate eventually, where I have to fake shit, fake.

SPEAKER_02 33:34

Listen, if men can go out there fucking using all these stupid lines, then we can too. Oh fuck yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05 33:40

Oh man, anybody can use a fucking line. Oh instead of saying something that maybe bothers me, this kind of goes along with not saying it. I may nitpick a little. Stop. Yeah, I may, I may like not gaslight you, but kind of in a roundabout way. Okay. And uh in a very like secretive way that they don't know. Okay. Here's an example. My ex would wear, I don't know, something like I didn't like. Okay. And I wouldn't say exactly that I didn't like it, I would just kind of make hints here and there. And some people don't get hints. Yeah, some people aren't like aware of surroundings. Okay, yeah. I get that. Which I I doubt that's what it is, but I will do a little nitpicking, especially, oh, especially if I'm mad. Okay. If I'm mad and I tell you I'm not mad, yeah, which happens, you know, I'll just go along with things and I will nitpick. And you will know eventually, because I, you know, I don't do it in a mean way, but you'll get it. Yeah, you you'll you'll understand the fucking assignment.

SPEAKER_02 35:01

So going along with the ex, so you're talking about like the ex-husband, I'm presuming. Any ex. Okay. Really? So like give me a give us a for instance, like what what exactly like just paint us a picture there? Okay, paint a picture. I okay, so so like if he was wearing something.

SPEAKER_05 35:19

Oh yeah, no, if he okay, so he wore these shorts. Okay, he wore these fucking shorts that annoyed me because they went past his knees. And I this is like Jinko style. Uh yeah, but the besties is probably why I don't have a fucking man. Now that I like say it out loud, because you asked me, I'm thinking, oh fuck, maybe I do, maybe I'm an asshole. Okay. I will just be like, oh yeah, and I probably because of those shorts. I mean, like in a in a for instance, like, oh, those shorts probably got your way.

SPEAKER_03 35:59

And I'm like, nice body suit scarlet. No, for real. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 36:08

In a roundabout way that makes sense. Hey, in a roundabout way. I realize she don't like no fucking bodysuit on me. So that was apparent. So yeah, I will like put jabs in there like that, like, oh, those shorts probably took you back, or you couldn't couldn't start that lawnmower because of those shorts.

unknown 36:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 36:35

Okay, it's it's obvious, but not, you know. I mean, to me, that would be obvious.

SPEAKER_02 36:41

He was kind of just like, what my shorts?

SPEAKER_05 36:44

But his toxicity was like, I'll just fucking piss her off today. I'm putting those fucking shorts on.

SPEAKER_03 36:49

Where are the fucking jinkos at?

SPEAKER_02 36:54

Yeah, no, that's for real. I don't know if anybody knows out there what we're talking about with the jinkos. I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 37:01

What went along with that? I don't know. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_02 37:05

What the fucker jinkos? So if you have to, if I'm not painting the picture bold enough, fine. Google gaggle that shit because so a jinkgo is shorts that literally like they were uh they looked like you were sagging. So they had like these big long pockets. So these were not them, these were like gym and they came to like literally like made like calf. Okay. So it was like pants that looked like they were way too short, but like not quite short material. You know what I'm saying? Okay, yeah. When they had jinko across what the I think it was the left butt cheek. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 37:44

That's a God, thank God I never dated one of those. Those Jinkos probably started that fire alarm. I'm like, then when the police officer shows up, I'm like, the Jinkos did it.

SPEAKER_01 38:02

He's like, who the fuck are the Jinko?

SPEAKER_03 38:06

They ran that way.

SPEAKER_04 38:16

No, so the Jinko's.

SPEAKER_05 38:19

Hey Jinkos, we're sponsoring you at this point. This is all.

SPEAKER_04 38:22

I don't even know if they're still around. Probably not. Nobody knows what they are.

SPEAKER_00 38:29

Oh, you're only how much older are you than me? I'm not older than you.

SPEAKER_05 38:34

No, no, no kidding. I am, but no, I just don't remember that part. It was it like a certain group?

SPEAKER_02 38:41

Well, it ran rampant in my school that I went to.

SPEAKER_05 38:44

Okay, so if it did, I didn't realize it was jinkos.

SPEAKER_02 38:47

Oh or whatever.

SPEAKER_05 38:49

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 38:49

I mean, we're talking about like the jean shorts, like a long.

SPEAKER_05 38:52

I know exactly what they look stupid as they that yes, they do.

SPEAKER_02 38:56

Even back then, I was like, the fuck are you wearing?

SPEAKER_05 38:59

Yeah, I mean, I'd be nitpicking that shit right up.

SPEAKER_02 39:02

I will say initials JB because I did have a crush on this JB back in high school. Did it? I'm but he did wear the fucking jinkos. Oh, did you nitpick and be like those jinkos? And I was like, Well, when you're wearing those goddamn jinkos, you're not hot.

SPEAKER_05 39:17

Straight to the point. That's Ivy, straight to the point. Get it, tell him, tell it all. No, but maybe if I at some time I should just say, There's fucking shorts, I hate them!

SPEAKER_03 39:34

Get him out of here!

SPEAKER_02 39:37

Are you is there anything else that you want to throw into that? Okay.

SPEAKER_05 39:41

No, that was good. I think the Jinkos was good.

SPEAKER_02 39:44

This is a I'm a Scorpio though, so this is a huge part of being a Scorpio. I forgive, but I never forget. And it will always come back. Oh shit, yeah. Come back around. Oh, absolutely. I don't hold grudges, I just you can eat at the same table as me, but I won't talk to you. Oh, I want you to I want you to eat because you know I'm human and I have humanity. But um, no, thank you. I get it, yeah. No, thank you. You do me wrong, and it takes a while for me to get to that point. And so after I get to that certain point, you can literally fuck the fuck right off. I don't care. I I literally do not, I don't want to hear it. I don't want to hear your side. You've already proven to me that you don't want to show me grace or even have any interest in having any part of relinquishing anything, and you just want to be a toxic person yourself. Yeah. And so I'm so sorry about the dogs in the background.

SPEAKER_05 40:45

Yeah, I they're not even mine. Nope. Somebody was like double t. You know what? We could fucking call the cops for the fucking noise. Noise complaint.

SPEAKER_02 40:58

Let's get them over here, anyways. We'll bring them on the pod. So yeah, definitely. I I definitely I'll forgive you. Yeah, I'll I forgive, but that's proven. And yeah, absolutely. And again, it kind of comes back from last not episode, but episode before, you know, I'm a loyal person. Um, and I'll always be there for you. But you do me dirty, you do me wrong when too many times over, and you literally buy.

SPEAKER_05 41:23

Yeah, so you tie on that curve. In a relation, okay. So when you say that, you don't forgive or you forget, or you forgive, not forget. Yes. So that can tie into relationships so much because well, I mean, I do that, do that too in a relationship because I will in an argument, I'll bring that fucker up. I'll be like, Yeah, that 10 years ago when you left or when you left me at the bar and I I didn't have a ride or yeah, no, I mean I'm for sure toxic, but I mean Well, you're not the only one that's got that toxicity because I mean, we will rehash things in an argument, especially when we're fucking heated. Oh, yeah. Look at listen to us. I know. In that mode. Jinx, buy me a bottle of wine. Okay. Done. No, I think that's like a normal thing, kind of not normal, but I mean, every person, every out there has these traits that we've talked about, or somebody has one of them, one or two of them. Absolutely, you know, and right in right in, yeah. You probably, besties, you probably want to know how I get those pictures and I know when they were taken.

SPEAKER_02 42:39

So she can tell you a little bit about it.

SPEAKER_05 42:42

And a lot of you probably already know the little trick, but he did not, and I love it. It's like, oh, I had one over on him. So if honestly, if he is married or has a girlfriend, fucking have your dick video. Oh fuck, yeah, I save.

SPEAKER_02 42:58

I'll find who she is. I'll find it. Yeah. Scarlet and Ivy on the way.

SPEAKER_05 43:04

Yeah, to the rescue. So do we have any other ones? I mean, we've got more, but oh, plenty more.

SPEAKER_02 43:11

Okay, well, I can keep going. Yeah, keep going, girl.

Wanting Communication Then Shutting Down

SPEAKER_02 43:14

So I want communication, but sometimes I shut down when it matters the most.

SPEAKER_05 43:18

Well, yeah, you said that you clearly shut the fuck down. Yeah, and I do.

SPEAKER_02 43:23

You exit because you don't like confrontation. I don't like confrontation. And if I feel like it's not being perceived, if I've if I've talked to you through and through and told you exactly how I feel. So communication, I'll sit down and I'll talk to you. But if I feel like it's not being perceived, the X is a perfect example. Okay. You know, I again we would have these roundtable talks, and I'd be like, okay, I I need to get this off my chest because Yeah, we discussed that because you were like, I will explain, I gotta get you sat down at this restaurant.

SPEAKER_05 43:51

We gotta talk.

SPEAKER_02 43:53

I'll implode, actually. Won't explode, but I'll implode, you know, because I just I I'll keep everything in and I can't. That's toxic, toxic and negative to me. And I I don't I don't want any well it'll come out in the worst way.

SPEAKER_05 44:05

Exactly. I mean, we that's that's what we talked about me last week.

SPEAKER_02 44:09

Yes, and as an adult, like I've learned how like through all the therapies and everything, like it's just best just to sit down and talk to it. So not talk to it, but talk about it. And if you're not perceiving that, and then you want to talk to me about I don't know, something fucking stupid, I'll shut fucking I'm done. I'll be like, Well, you don't want to talk to me about that, then I'm I'm done. I'm I'm out checked out, check mate, yeah. Yeah, no, for real.

SPEAKER_05 44:35

So but that's yeah, well, that goes along with your like you do. You've mentioned a couple times that you shut down. You you gotta get the fuck out of there. And I don't think you're uh by yourself in that one either. You know, I don't have any more. I mean, I do, I mean, I'm sure I do. I just don't have anymore at the moment. Well, I mean, I'm single, so I've clearly I'm fucking toxic.

SPEAKER_02 44:59

I can keep I can keep going and we go. Yeah, all right, go. I mean, I'm just fucking toxic out last here. I'll distance myself instead of saying I'm hurt. I do that really, yeah. I for sure will do that. Your feelings are hurt. So again, it goes along with that communication piece, and it goes along with your fear not perceiving that communication. And I've been telling you over and over and over again. Again, it goes back to the ex, I guess, because this is the most prevalent in my mind. So I tell you, hey, it hurts me that you're not fucking me. You're fucking watching porn instead of you know having sex with me. That's a hurtful thing. I'm communicating with you, you're now not perceiving that, you're still not doing the thing that I'm asking you to do. Absolutely. I don't want to be your fucking roommate. I want to be your lover, your best friend, you're all of this. I don't want to be a fucking roommate. If that was the case, I'd go get a fucking roommate. I gotta divorce you. So when it comes to when it comes to when it comes to that and not perceiving that, then yes, eventually I will distance myself and just shut down and not sit down and be like, now I'm fucking hurt. Now now I'm just now you're fucked. Uh-huh. Clearly. I've warned you over and over and over again. Now you get nothing. You'll get a shell of me. And I'll it and I'm this is a toxic trait of me. So instead of just like exiting the relationship, this is what you'll get from me before exiting the relationship. And again, a toxic trait.

SPEAKER_05 46:25

Yeah, I shouldn't just exit. You did say that you will give hints. Yeah. Exactly. To they'll if they don't get catch the hint that you're fucking done, that's on them. Yeah. Because you'll hint the fuck up. Yeah, I will. And it'll be all over the place.

SPEAKER_01 46:42

I know. All these little notes like those fuck up.

SPEAKER_05 46:45

George's gotta go. Go jinko. Joe's Jinko's gotta fucking go. Yeah, no, I agree with that 100%.

SPEAKER_02 46:53

So instead of now communicating and now telling you that I'm hurt, now I'll just I'll distance myself, and now you'll you'll see a shell of me, and I you won't even probably hear from me. I'll go out with my friends. I you won't hear from me for days, weeks, whatever it is. And then that's probably where the ghosting comes in.

SPEAKER_05 47:10

Okay, so I have a question for you. So in a grudge situation, yeah. So not necessarily a grudge. Okay, so not grudges, but like, okay, let's say you have an argument with in a relationship. How long will you go without talking? It's a real thing.

SPEAKER_02 47:30

Um I mean, again, this is the thing.

SPEAKER_05 47:34

And let's say you were living, let's say you were living together, you're like in the past with your your exes. How long could you go?

SPEAKER_02 47:42

Prior, it would have been, it could have been weeks, days to weeks, honestly, because that was my toxicity. Like, I just go fuck yourself. And you don't get my attention, you don't get nothing from it. No, you don't even get acknowledged exactly. But now it takes a lot, you know what I mean? Because I've I've grown from that, I'm trying to grow from that, but yeah, prior, like, no, I mean, I think at one point when I broke all my fucking plates and shit like that, it was almost two weeks I didn't talk to the guy that I was dating at the time.

SPEAKER_05 48:16

Because I was like, literally, go fuck yourself. I can relate to this because I got get an argument with my exes, and I hate of course it's fucking uncomfortable, and I hate every moment out of it. And I it makes me in a bad mood everywhere, work, everybody. And it it just I just don't feel like I should have to say be the one. You should be the one reaching out to me.

SPEAKER_02 48:43

Sometimes if if it's you on you, you should realize that you're the fucking problem.

SPEAKER_05 48:47

Exactly. I know it, girl. Yeah, no, let's go, Taylor Swift. Yeah. No, for real. Um I'm not the pro or you're not the problem, it's me. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 49:01

No, for sure. Yeah. And and again, like the garage thing, like it was just to prove a point. Like, I don't need you. Like, I I don't need, I don't need your bullshit, I don't need you kind of thing. But like at the at the end of it, like I I would sometimes, you know, unfortunately, I hate to say the word, like come crawling back, like, okay. Oh god, no, there, yeah. Like way back when I would, I would come crawling back, like, okay, like I'm bored now. Like, now what's next? You know, but I've I've definitely learned from that and I've gotten away from that, thankfully. You know, maturity, age, whatever you would call it. But nowadays, it's just it if you really cannot see what's in front of you, if you really cannot see what I'm giving you.

SPEAKER_05 49:46

Oh, I just came up with one. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 49:48

Yeah, no, go. I'm I just totally accepted. And literally, you can go fuck yourself. Yeah and and that's it. Again, I will give you more than enough chances.

SPEAKER_05 49:57

So I just thought of one that I've done.

Makeup Sex As Conflict Avoidance

SPEAKER_05 50:02

So we're in an art, let's say we get I get an argument with my significant other whatever the fuck. Let's say, look, I I will use their attraction to me. Oh well, it's not weaponizing, it's more like just for let's let's talk it over, you know. Like instead, you know, talking it out, let's just fuck. Okay. You know, like let's just have makeup sex. Okay. As in, like, I will just come if I'm in the wrong, let's say I'm in the wrong, which I haven't, I will use that uh, I will use like my your body, yeah, my body, the attraction they have for me as like my you're oh you forgave me because um you know, I I have it I it's been known, I've been known to do that, and then I'm like, Well, we just had sex last night, you didn't forgive me then, yeah, and it was really good. You just uh took your load to make that one that you don't really actually have, fucker. That you're claiming to have. I was like, yeah, uh by the way, when he did send me that video, yeah. People that didn't listen to the first half, uh no, I was like, that's it, that's all you got. And I mean I mean, it seemed big, it seemed like a normal load to me.

SPEAKER_02 51:20

I'm like, nothing special here. That's what fucking DF would always say. That's why he would never want to come in my mouth. He's like, It's too big for you. I got, yeah, I got such a big load. You'll joke on it and die. I did get him to come in my mouth though, and so well, how big was the load? Not big, exactly. I'm like, are you like spray me on the like fucking blow against the goddamn wall? Like, if that's the case, we need a videotape that shape and get paid.

SPEAKER_05 51:47

I just I thought of this because when you get some like let's get those firemen back over here. They got they got it. We'll just like hit me where it counts. We're like, take care and blow me against the house. I was like, is it is it this kind of load? So men, there's gotta

Why Do Men Brag About Loads

SPEAKER_05 52:10

be a meme out there. I should it has to be. There's gotta be a meme out mean meme out there that maybe that's what we should put on the back of our shirts. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 52:18

Something about loads, loads, not big load, nothing untouched shirts for a golfing thing.

SPEAKER_05 52:23

Yeah, nothing untouched except for your load. Give me your big load, motherfucker.

SPEAKER_02 52:29

Anyways, no, guys, seriously, write in, even girls at bestie. Is there like an astronaut? Maybe we're just used to big loads and we just don't know. Yeah, because we just got men like so attracted to us, they just can't handle themselves.

SPEAKER_05 52:43

I don't know. I mean, I've had I've had guys that look have little to nothing, but I I mean they've impregnated everybody.

SPEAKER_03 52:50

I mean I don't think it only takes one, it only takes one little guy in there.

SPEAKER_00 52:57

A little strong one, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 52:59

So I I don't think it has anything to do with normal, big. I I don't care about your load. I really don't. That's like the least of attractions.

SPEAKER_02 53:07

I would like to know though, are there women out there, ladies? Are you out there picking it on a fucking load in your mouth? Yeah, we're gonna know how big your fucking load is.

SPEAKER_05 53:16

Did you get a fucking mouthful in there? I actually prefer a small load if I'm getting a mouthful. If I'm getting a little bit more, I mean, to be quite honest, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 53:23

But the thing of it is though, I can take it regardless. But I don't know. I'm just thinking, like, I have some. She's a trooper here.

SPEAKER_03 53:31

It's like, you can take that fireman's hose, you know what I'm saying? Super soaker. Yeah, get that super soaker out.

SPEAKER_05 53:39

So we might have to test this. I'll get a super soaker.

SPEAKER_02 53:48

Give it a give it to me every day, every night. This load. Yeah, it's just so wild. I am curious though now. Men, I want you to write in and tell me why you think that women need to know how big your load is. And women, I want you to write in to tell us, or sorry, us, us all the way around, not just me. Nothing untouched. Charlotte and Ivy. I want to, I want, we want to know. Like, okay, so big load. Why? Why do you think that women want to know how big look how big your load is? Is that like an attraction people have? I didn't understand. I don't know. Is it a fetish? It might be a kink. Who fucking knows?

SPEAKER_05 54:22

Kind of like the guy that talked about his pH, the pH levels.

unknown 54:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 54:27

I mean, I I don't know. I don't know what's happening in the world. But I forgot. But I don't I really don't give a shit about loads. Yeah. I'll tell you that right now. Same. Whether you got a big one or a small one or medium size. We'll take your loads. I wouldn't have known the fucking difference. I mean, I mean, if I was like changing my whole bed sheets because you put your load, I mean, like it was a flood in there. I mean, you flooded all over the fucking carpet. Like, then we got a problem. You probably need to go see a doctor at that point. I mean, if they fucking unloaded and I had to like redo my my carpet and my my flooring. I mean, I think that's a big look.

SPEAKER_01 55:11

Good, nice. That'd be big.

SPEAKER_02 55:13

That'd be something to brag about.

SPEAKER_05 55:15

Yeah, yeah. Not that little tiny thing that I was like, oh, is that all you got? That barely filled his belly button.

SPEAKER_02 55:25

All right, besties. Okay. So, oh, this is I I feel like this is kind of on a you end, but I do this too.

Asking Questions When You Already Know

SPEAKER_02 55:35

I stop before I ask a question.

SPEAKER_05 55:38

Absolutely. No, I uh yes, I do.

SPEAKER_02 55:41

I yeah, I do that because it's like, yep, I want to know if you're gonna lie to me. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I I wanna know if you're gonna tell me the truth or if you're gonna lie, comes back to the fucking ex. Yep. So I 100% knew he was cheating on me. Oh yeah. I went 100% fucking knew it. The work was there, the work had been that the fucking receipts, bitch. I did, I did, I put it all in. And so yeah, I I already knew the receipts, I already knew your answer. So when I ask you the question, and you'll know, like when I ask you a certain way, and I try not to like perceive it this way, but I already so basically about you pull a scarlet and you're like, Well, I would weird. I always say, Well, that's weird because oh, you're one of those. Okay, that's weird because what is this? Or I've seen that, or you know, XYZ. Yeah, I'll be like, Oh, that's that's interesting. Thank you for your side. But here's what I actually know. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 56:40

No, and that's exactly what I've done too. Yeah, I mean, I do it too. I gotta do my work before I gotta do all I gotta prove myself in the court of law. Yeah, we gotta have that evidence. Yeah, we do because I'm gonna be right in this situation, bitch. Because I am gonna prove you fucking wrong and I will come with receipts and it will be a thing. And you try to lie to me, as we talked about earlier. We try to instill this.

SPEAKER_02 57:10

Just know if I'm asking a specific question, yeah, for a specific era, a date, or whatever it is, know that I already already know. God, if we already know, just know that don't be fucking stupid. Don't be fucking stupid, just tell us what is up.

SPEAKER_05 57:27

What like period? Just tell us, tell us why, why? And you know, sometimes I I don't forgive unfaithfulness.

SPEAKER_02 57:35

I feel like that's questioning my intelligence absolutely is when you're fucking trying to hide all this shit and you don't think that I already fucking know, especially like with cell phones. Like, I you obviously you're gonna school me on some shit tonight, which I'm super excited about. But like I know so much. I used to work for a fucking cell phone company. That's what I did for a fucking living. You know that I can go back and know exactly date, time, when you did it, when you watched it, when you fucking looked at the even pictures, even pictures, videos on your phone. I can there's a timestamp for everything on your motherfucking phone. It's know that it we have so much fucking technology.

SPEAKER_05 58:13

Don't be fucking stupid, and we're smart bitches.

SPEAKER_02 58:16

So nice try.

SPEAKER_05 58:17

We can we can fucking work it, and we've been in the system, and if and if we don't know, we'll fucking figure it out.

SPEAKER_02 58:24

And we will fucking stay up all night until we fucking figure it out. Oh yeah, no, I will do the work because I will put in the work your gut tells you so many fucking things, and then like for me, for me, no, if I don't, if I don't follow my gut, then I'm just fucking miserable. Then I'm then that's when I am fucking overanalyzing, spiraling, fucking going, you know, in all kinds of different directions until I just fucking see it right in front of me. And then I'm like, at first I'm like relieved. I'm like, okay, you're not crazy. Yeah, right? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a weird thing, right? You go through so many emotions. It's a fucking stage. There's stages. There are denial.

unknown 59:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 59:08

That's the first thing. Denial, you don't even look at it. You don't even want to look at the phone, you don't want to look at the thing, situation.

SPEAKER_05 59:14

Denial is the first stage. And then accept non-acceptance as the last one, right?

unknown 59:18

Amen.

SPEAKER_05 59:19

Well, for us, investigation. Investigation. We'll figure the fuck out.

SPEAKER_02 59:24

Any kind of work. Yeah. So the criminal, the work will be done before. Start asking questions to friends, family members. Like, where were you at this time? What were you doing with this time? Where was he at? Yeah. She at this time. So yeah, put in the fucking work because why not? I mean, it has to be done. You're worth it. Number one. You know, everybody out there that's listening, you're worth it. And just know that ultimately, too, like if you honestly, that is so pretty. I don't know where that's coming from. So sorry, squirrel. There is a rainbow coming from somewhere. Oh, it's the front door on the wall. It is really pretty. Anyways, just know that you are worth the work and that you're you're worth somebody putting in that fucking extra

Self-Worth And Not Being Last

SPEAKER_02 1:00:09

effort. That's all I ever fucking want. That's you know, I have come to realize like I should not be the last resort. I should not be your last forethought. I should not be, I should not be. I mean, the boyfriend, for fuck's sake, the day that my dad died, well, the day after my dad died, he went out and fucking golf with his buddies. I was fucking devastated. And he couldn't even take a step back to be there with me in that moment. Yeah. And so that, you know, I mean, right then and there, that told me a lot about character. It does tell it. And told me like how he really felt about me.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:47

Yeah, but sometimes we just like acceptance. We want to accept these people.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:51

But I needed somebody in that moment too. So oh, obviously. Yeah, of course. But, anyways, so I do have, if you have anything, I just I have a couple other ones that I want to touch on real quick.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:02

I've been chiming in left and right. Right.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:04

I think we have the same toxic traits. No, I know, right?

Imagined Scenarios And Getting Bored

SPEAKER_02 1:01:10

Um, so I create scenarios in my head and then react like they're real.

SPEAKER_05 1:01:16

Okay. So you've already planned the whole thing before it happens. I I get that. Yeah. So you're thinking about like the future and how it's gonna go down. Yeah, exactly. Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:29

And so I do that more so now than I should. And I I try to keep myself not doing it. So, like, let's say the boyfriend hasn't messaged me and I know that he's in his own realm or way or whatever. So I'll immediately go to like, oh my God, you know, because I've already put myself out there, right? Oh, okay. I'm out there, I've opened myself up, told you that I'm in it to win it, kind of thing. And now you're kind of drawing back on me. It's okay if I draw back on you. Don't fucking draw back on me. No, hell no.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:02

You know what I mean? I come first, bad. Yeah, yeah, I can draw back, but you can't. Yeah, it's me, it's all about me.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:09

It's about my feelings. So, but just to come to realize like it's not that serious. Like, take a deep breath, like relax, don't spiral, like it's nothing else. And he's told me, this is kind of where we come from the reassurance thing. He's already told me, you know, if I'm mad at you, I'm gonna tell you. I'm like, well, I fucking hope so, or if there's something I've done, like you gotta tell him. And he's like, You'll know it. And I'm like, I hope so. So, like being in that adult relationship where the communication is real is still very new to me. Yeah, you know, no, it's great. And so sometimes like I do like freak out a little bit, and then I'll take a step back and be like, relaxed. I know, chill out, yeah. You're like thinking to yourself, like, do I really uh does he hate me now?

SPEAKER_03 1:02:54

What did I say? What did I do?

SPEAKER_00 1:02:57

I'm really cute and adorable. You just told me two hours ago, but now you're ignoring me, so go to that overanalyzing shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:06

It's a fucking vicious idea. Oh my gosh, and it is definitely all mental. Yeah, you know, and oh yeah, and getting out of that toxicity, getting out of that, and not just immediately going to fuck you. I don't want to ever see you again, because um or ghost you like you'll be all right, like just calm down, calm down, everything will be okay.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:24

Breathe through it, girl. Breathe through it. Everybody's fine, I'm fine, you're fine.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:30

We're fine. Everybody's fine. Nice bodysuit, Scarlet.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:38

Yeah, so are we keeping it?

SPEAKER_02 1:03:40

One more. Okay, one more. Yeah, one more. Okay, go ahead. One more. I say I hate drama. This comes to you, but low key get bored when things get too peaceful. Oh shit. Not me, not I, yeah. No, nope, nothing here. Yeah, no, I don't create my own drama by any means. And I don't I don't like the peace. I love peacefulness and I definitely don't create drama, but I will say that it's it's a it's it's a double-edged sword. Because I I definitely don't like the drama. I don't like to bring anything bad, negative into me, but I do like to spice things up. So and that's what the boyfriend likes to do too. So like it's not drama necessarily. Oh, I don't think so. But it's just like it's like the the back and forth kind of thing, I guess. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:28

You gotta create some spice, you know, like you gotta fight to have makeup sex, you know. No, no, but you know, you have to have I don't know, if it's boring, it's it's not worth it, you know. I I would I don't want a boring relationship. I I just I like when people say they don't fight ever. I'm like, fuck off, you do, you do, uh, and or if you don't, you create what the fuck is happening?

SPEAKER_02 1:04:54

Yeah, or if you don't, then you have to create scenarios to kind of make whatever fight it is, to you know we're two different people coming together. You're saying that you never fucking have a lot of people. Exactly.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:05

It's like you just agree with everything because it's possible.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:09

Are you the same fucking person? I mean, you didn't you surely didn't like those fucking shorts, right? Jingos Jingos!

SPEAKER_04 1:05:17

I mean, we know that you didn't like those fucking jingos. So I know you fought over it, bitch. So fucking come clean.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:29

Gosh, darn it. I just I lost something too, but we can probably all touch on it.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:33

The jingos talking. Yeah, probably.

unknown 1:05:37

All over my face.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:38

I'm like that fucking load! The jingos can't handle it!

SPEAKER_05 1:05:43

That even those fucking long ass jinkos couldn't handle his load. Do does is that what it is?

SPEAKER_02 1:05:50

Is do men like the fact that, oh no, no, you're it's too big.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:54

It's too big. Like, oh, I don't know if I can handle that. Oh yeah. Handle this mode.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:01

But the boyfriend will blow you in the ceiling.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:03

Boyfriend, if you were listening, when I was talking about your dick when I couldn't handle it, that was actually true. So don't listen to any of this.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:08

But you know what we really know what I meant. You know what we really truly couldn't handle is the fucking wine decanter. I am still like that fucking thing.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:21

We have got to when we get to our studio, we definitely will have like fucking wine decanters out there on the wall and shit like that.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:29

I know. You know what I'm gonna actually include in this is the picture of the wine decanter. Good.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:34

If I can, yeah. If I can figure out how to do shit like that.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:37

I do know that. Yeah. No, we'll put it on our socials, Facebook, Instagram, nothing in touch.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:42

We can do that. We have that now. Yeah. So oh, we need to go back to listen. Yeah. We're gonna go back to some episodes during the summer and all the things that we said that we're gonna post, because I was like, oh, we'll post that, we'll do that. We just couldn't do it the way that we wanted to um in this realm, but on our Facebook and our yeah, we can. Um so with it. If you end up seeing a big old fucking bat dick, I said old bick.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:08

That's that is that is it. Or if we showcase what we drink, that is what we you know, what we're drinking, and which and which come on, sponsors!

SPEAKER_02 1:07:20

Sponsors, brothers bear, bear brothers, that one too. That one too. We like that. That's what we be drinking, we be doing, yeah. We had that one, I think, a couple of weeks ago. Yeah, we drink it a lot.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:33

It's uh it's a it's a signature at all. Yeah, that's where we shop for Holdie.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:40

Yes, it's cheap and we love cheap.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:42

I like cheap.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:42

Yeah, poor single wet.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:44

I don't like cheap in men. I don't like cheap in men, but I do like cheap when I'm buying it.

Spending More To Save Your Sanity

SPEAKER_05 1:07:50

Exactly. Yeah, but you know what? This brings up another topic. I will not go. So I'm one of these people that okay, I'll spend a little money to make it right. Yeah, and I hate when people only spend money to fucking put a band-aid on it, and that that kind of pisses me off.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:10

Okay, so kind of elaborate on that.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:12

So, okay, let's say a home repair. Let's, I mean, talk okay home repair. Instead of buying the cheapest fucking wood, I will spend that maybe an extra dollar or two to get the what I want and the long lasting of it. Yeah, so that's probably been me like forever, and I don't know where I got that from because but you gotta spend a little money to have what you want.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:38

And so you don't have to do things later doing it, because then long run you're just gonna keep spending more money. That's how I look at it. But sometimes people don't have that extra money to kind of like agree for stuff.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:47

Yeah, no, in everybody's situation is different, but I'm I'm one of these people. I if if if it's good and it's inexpensive, great, I'm going for it. But I also don't I also look at it like this like I'm not gonna replace that two years. Yeah, I'm gonna go with the one that's 50 bucks more because I don't want to fucking have to deal with the night.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:09

You have that 50 extra dollars, then yes, absolutely. Yeah, but yeah, I mean I can see both sides for sure. Oh, for sure. Yeah, absolutely. If you could afford that 50 extra dollars more, and that way, like in two years, it's not gonna go to shave. You don't have to spend that extra money, just keep like re you know, vamping or whatever it is that you're doing. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:26

But sometimes, you know, yeah. So here's another example. Like, I fucking hate to shave, so I know it's a fucking it's too much. So I will spend that extra money and get the wax that lasts longer. Yeah, but I I want that fucking wax because it does last longer.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:45

Yeah, I don't know. I'm getting there.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:46

That's a bad example. I'm getting there. That's a bad example, but no, I get it though. Yeah, it may make sense. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 1:09:53

Well, you know what? It's tomato tomato.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:55

It really had nothing to do with our topic today, but I I just wanted to throw that out there.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:01

I just wanna throw that in there. Um I would love to have the fucking goal to go out there and just fucking get my coochie wax, truly.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:09

I'm just I am terrified. Girl, it's the best thing ever.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:12

And I am terrified of the pain, and I can handle pain, but I'm just like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:16

So, okay, well, it is a twinge. It's a little but it's like your eyebrows? Yes, exactly. I don't even is it worse than your eyebrows or it's a little bit because it's fucking pulling your lips. I know it's pulling your lips. I'm scared of like, does she do the asshole and everything? Oh fuck yeah, that's the best fucking part is I I love a clean asshole for myself. It just feels good. Oh, I know. I it's I shaven, so I know. Yeah, and it's clean. It I don't have to fuck with it with a shit razor anymore. And that's where my the hair grows the most.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:50

It's like, what the fuck? What's happening here? See, I don't I'm not very hairy, and I don't feel like you are too either. Well, not now. You're dark complexed. I I grow do you shave your arms? Fuck no. Yeah, so it's blonde. We have a very similar that's another weird thing about me and Scarlet is we have very similar like complex skin color, yeah. Like uh so, anyways, but we also don't we don't have a lot of hair. So like even on my legs, like I don't have a lot of hair, but my armpits, good night. Do you get your armpits waxed? No, I don't, but because I can't let them grow that long.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:25

I it bothers me. But I I've been looking into maybe some laser stuff for my armpits. Yeah, fuck that. I don't know. It it I need a sugar daddy for all that. I know. Well, I mean, I said I looked into it. I'm not I the wax is enough, but I like like we both love to take care of ourselves and we want we want us our always, I will always be like that person that I won't give up on myself. Yeah, if if that makes sense. We will not give up on ourselves. Nope. This is gonna be a thing. If we do, if we had a bad day, that's fine. I I have looked terrible, yes, many a time, many times.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:08

See you to the public. I will scour away in my little fucking uh house and you won't see me for a couple days.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:16

Yeah, but we like to take care of ourselves, so I'm I will do those things. I will spend that little bit of money so I don't have to fucking take out a razor and try to pump that leg up and get in the right position to get that fucking.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:29

Yeah, exactly. But I've told you this before, it pisses me off because fucking a female razor is 50 to a dollar more, 50 cents to a dollar more than a man razor. A male a feet are oh my god, a man male, a male.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:43

Say burglarly. Oh my god, burglar, burglar, burglar alert, burglar alert, burglar alerty, robbery.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:52

Um, anyways, and that pisses me off. So yeah, no, I it'll come to the point where I get fed up with it enough where I'm just like fuck it, fucking wax me. But I just I have to when it once I pull that trigger, it'll be fine.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:04

Oh, once you pull it, you will not go back. Well, you won't because it it you won't want them the nightmare of the I don't know, she gets every fucking hair. Yeah, I mean, she opens up the lips and everything, gets in there. I and it may be like I don't know, spread them. Uh you mean just like just I hey, I wish the cop would have said spread them out of them like get in there, yeah. Get on put your hands over that.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:33

Uh-huh. Yeah, let's do that.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:34

Spread them. Yeah. I would have been like, yeah, I'm spreading. Oh, oh, so uh you just for your load.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:42

Officer. You just for Do you have a big load too?

SPEAKER_05 1:13:46

Oh, I want to see how big is your how big is that fucking load? Because that's the only thing I'm attracted to. A bunch of fucking cum in my mouth.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:59

Okay, so we're gonna wrap it

Write In And Closing Thoughts

SPEAKER_02 1:14:01

on up. Wrap it up. No pun intended there. No, so if you have, please, any experience that you have with toxicity. This is our 12th episode. Shorts that you don't like. Uh so just so, yeah. Shorts.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:18

You realize how much we fucking changed since episode one? Oh my gosh. I feel I it's it's like, well, the miraculous, if you will.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:28

And we can now take big loads.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:34

Just listen. I know for real. Your load size, we can handle it. Yeah. Now, I mean, yeah, no, for real. So, yeah, so besties, gotta write in.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:44

Right in.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:45

We're on Instagram, we are on Facebook, we are doing the thing. Nothing untouched pod. Yep, and that that's nothing untouchedpod at gmail.com. And we do check it and we do look at your Facebook. It'll be in the show notes too. And your Instagram.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:03

We're done spelling it out for you folks, but it'll be people know how to spell. Scarlett, not always, but anyways, Scarlett got mad at me for keeping to fucking, you know, spell it on out. But, anyways, yeah, so it'll be in the show notes. It's always there, so it's a little hyperlink. You just click on it, it'll send you right to our fucking Gmail. And fucking bet. I want you to want us. Want I want you besties. We're gonna wrap this up, wrap it up, wrap it up, be safe out there, folks. Yeah, maybe don't take a big load that you can't hang. Yeah, maybe make him wrap it so it goes in there, you know. Yeah, and I guess, you know, if you like those big loads, please write in. If you like to brag about your load, please tell us why. Yeah, um, other than that, you know, until next week. Till next week. We do have some fun stuff coming up, so just stay tuned. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:56

Love you guys, love you. Thank you so much. Bye, bye.