Nothing Un-Touched
Two girls, zero filters, and all the real talk. Nothing Untouched is the podcast where we dive into breakups, hookups, dating disasters, and everything in between. From hilarious stories to honest advice, we’re saying what everyone else is thinking — and leaving nothing un-touched!
Nothing Un-Touched
Modern dating: Ghosting, Cheating & Swinging!
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You ever have a date feel totally normal… until it suddenly turns into a crime scene with one missing person? Scarlett finally meets a guy she’s been texting, sits through dinner, and steps away to use the bathroom. When she comes back, he’s gone, the calls don’t go through, and the spiral starts: What did I say, what did I do, what did he see that made him bail? We talk about ghosting, rejection, and why a lack of closure can torch your confidence even when you know the other person is the problem.
From there, life gets even messier. Ivy gets a text from her daughter that no parent wants, the cops are involved, and we’re left balancing laughter with the real talk about consequences, safety, and learning things the hard way. We also share a book club update that takes a sharp turn into true crime, including a retired cop’s story about working alongside someone later tied to serial killer allegations. If you love dating stories, relationship drama, and the “wait, what?” moments that make you call your best friend immediately, you’re in the right place.
Then we get into the big question: why men cheat versus why women cheat. We’re honest about loneliness, boredom, validation, addiction, and the selfish comfort of keeping someone at home while you chase attention elsewhere. We also unpack dating app language like “open to exploring,” plus threesomes, unicorn dynamics, swingers, and the boundaries you need if you’re going to explore anything ethically.
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Welcome Back Besties
SPEAKER_02Hey besties, you're listening to Nothing Untouched, the podcast where we overshare, laugh a lot, and talk dating, hookups, and heartbreak. And all the messy moments in between. Hi, I'm Ivy Noor. And I'm Scarlett May. Buckle up, besties. Nothing is off limits.
SPEAKER_01Welcome back, besties. Welcome back. Thank you so much for tuning in for one more episode. 13. 13. God, we're just cruising along. Cruising. So that means we got two more left before the end of our season.
SPEAKER_02First season, yeah. You'll get a second, a third, a fourth.
SPEAKER_01You'll get them all. I swear. We got a lot of work to do this summer, but yeah, we'll we'll be back for sure. But so before we get into our episode though, as always, let's talk about our past week and and see what Miss Scarlet
The Two Hour Date Disaster
SPEAKER_01was into. What crazy shenanigans she did.
SPEAKER_02Oh, well, we are kind of recording late this week. Bessie's, I apologize. Just like every there were so many things that come up in life, and you know, we you know how it goes. You didn't feel good a couple days. Yeah. And yesterday I did not feel well. Yeah. So I mean it's just going back and forth. And we can't record when we don't fucking feel well. Right, exactly. We sound like dummies. So anyway, I just wanted you had the last episode, not if you listen, if you did listen, didn't, but it was we're talking about toxic trades still. Yep, yep. And I had brought up this guy I was talking to on on, I think it was over text message. Yeah. And I had brought him up a couple of times because we had been talking for a couple weeks and we we had just never met up and it never worked out. Yep, yeah. So I ended up, we made a plan to meet for dinner, and honestly, it was a night that it was storming out, and we were expecting to get really big storms. And I I figured since he was driving two hours that he'd cancel. But no, he's like, I'm gonna come. And I'm like, okay, well, I guess I'll have to get in the shower and get all beefed. But no, we ended up meeting at, and I don't know if you recall besties, but we had a lot, we had a lot of reservations on this guy.
SPEAKER_01Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02This is the guy that we talked about where he he had he only texted night, didn't text in the evening. All of his anytime we want to hook up was last minute. Yeah. He he most definitely had red flags. But I was on the I need a date tour. And you're trying to stay positive, you know? And I just can't go back. I can't keep going back because it's just gonna make me feel worse. Yeah. So I'm I'm giving this dude a fucking shot. And even even though there were some red flags, major ones there, major ones, but then again, you know, everybody has their faults.
SPEAKER_01Hey, listen, unless you take that leap, you just never know. Exactly. He could have been the love of my life. What's that? What's that saying? You gotta you don't know the shots you don't take, or you gotta what is that? I I know exactly what you're talking about.
SPEAKER_02Take the shots, the shot, the shots you don't take. Okay, well, you won't be shot, no. I don't know. I guess something something along those lines. I know what I'm trying to say, but besties. I'm pretty sure you you know what she's trying to say.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I'll think of it later.
SPEAKER_02But yeah, no, so we had made a plan to meet at a restaurant because I don't meet people at my house. You miss the shots you don't take. You miss the shot. Okay, all right, all right. Going back to that. Miss the shots you don't take. Yes, got it. We uh met at an establishment to eat, and it wasn't anything super fancy or anything, and he didn't get there, he didn't get in town until almost eight o'clock. That's right, because he was late. Yeah, because he didn't know if he was gonna come or not. And I honestly, I was just like, I don't go out at 8 p.m. Yeah on a weeknight. I don't, you're old. I'm just like, so can I wear pajamas to the restaurant? Because I if I'm not if I'm not out and about by a certain time, you ain't seeing me out and about. Yep, correct. Okay, Scarlett's staying in. But I did get all dressed up, you know. I wanted to make an impression. Yeah, you know, you looked nice, yeah. So he was already there when I showed up, and he he he was very good looking, like very tall and had uh tattoos, muscular arms. Okay, I mean, I could have fucked the shit out of this dude for sure. I mean, and not thought twice about it, but I didn't get that fucking chance. So we What happened? Oh my gosh, I know Ivy's heard this story so many times. So if if she doesn't chime in, that's why because she's already chimed in a million times. Because I I when something like that happens to me, I can't shut the fuck up about it. That's okay. That's okay. Let's let's tell the besties. Yeah, so anyway, we sat through dinner. I thought the conversation went great. I mean, I not like I I didn't think I was gonna be with this guy forever or anything, but I could have certainly fucked the shit out of it.
SPEAKER_01So, what were what was the subject of conversation? Like, what were you guys talking about?
SPEAKER_02Just like my job, his job, the kit, his kids, I mean stuff we had talked about prior to. Okay, I don't think the conversation was anything that he would have it would have been a red flag for him. But I I guess I don't know. Okay, everybody's different, everybody sees things in a different way. And I mean, if you go back, besties, and think about that guy, think about that guy that I was like lazy eye, even though that's not why we just didn't have a connection. Yeah. So moving on, I know this is short story long. That's okay. So anyway, I we ate our dinner. I didn't think anything was out of the ordinary. What did you eat? Buffalo chicken salad. Okay, I believe. I didn't finish it. I don't what did he have? He had like a shrimp thing, okay shrimp and steak, maybe something like that. But I don't usually have you have you done this before? I don't I don't eat a lot on the first date.
SPEAKER_01I definitely scale back because well, it's not just I scale back, it's just because my nerves don't allow me to eat a lot, to be honest. So yeah, I can't eat a lot on a first date.
SPEAKER_02No, and plus, you want them to think that you're a dainty eater and you're not, and you scarf your fucking food down.
SPEAKER_01That wouldn't bother me so much, I don't think, but yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, so this is me going back to one of my first boyfriends. I had such a hard time eating in front of him. Really? I don't know what it was. I don't know if it was, it's obviously my insecurity of some kind. Okay, but it took me a long time. It was weird. Huh? I don't I don't know what was wrong with it. I don't think that you're the only one in this for sure. Yeah, I just didn't think want him to know. Like I scarf, I I would go home and scarf down food. I was so hungry. I was like, that wasn't enough. I mean, three bites of a salad. I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm starving. He probably was thinking the same thing. Probably. He's like, bitch, I know you eat more than that. Blew your butt. So anyway, oh, back to the story. I know what we get sidetracked so fucking easy. Back to the story. We uh the waitress, we paid the tab. I did not pay. He he paid the tab. You better have, yes. Yes, and but normally on a first date like that, if I try I offer and I don't mind splitting the bill if he drove all that way, you know what I mean. I even would have paid for it if I thought he was a decent human being. Yeah, but I didn't get any kind of vibe from him that I would possibly never see him again. I don't know. It okay, but I really didn't, and I'm not going to because besties, I uh went to the bathroom to just go to the bathroom.
Ghosted After The Bathroom Break
SPEAKER_02I come back and he's bailed, he's gone. He he sh bailed a fucking coop. And I was like, okay, what the fuck is happening?
SPEAKER_01So before you got up to go to the bathroom, uh-huh, like what did you say to him? Like, hey, I'm gonna go to the battery.
SPEAKER_02I'm just gonna go to the bathroom. I left my coat, my pur. I didn't leave my I don't know if I left my purse, but I left my coat. Okay. I mean, I left things. So he knew you were coming back. He knew I was coming back. I said I was coming back. Okay. I'm like, I'll I'll be right back. And then, you know, if you want to do something after this. Okay, so you did say those words. Yes. So clearly he did not want to do anything. And so what did he say to you about if you want to do anything after this? He didn't he didn't really say anything. Okay. I mean, I just said those. I mean, I didn't wait for him to response. I went to the bathroom. Okay. And then I come out and he he's gone. He's gone. And I tried calling him. Either I was blocked or he just didn't answer. And then I text him and nothing. Crickets. Crickets. Fucking ghosted. Ghosted.
SPEAKER_01Well, fuck him.
SPEAKER_02Oh, oh, most definitely fuck him. But as I've told you, it still did not make a difference on my insecurities I have. And well, I'm sure that was that's a very hard pill of the soul. Just happen. Yeah, and it's never happened to me before. And I of course, I mean, I don't know if anybody else would do this, but I came home and cried forever. Yeah. Like I was broken. I mean, I put myself out there to a douchebag that clearly was not mature enough to handle saying, hey, I don't like you. Yeah. Or there's I don't feel anything. And I'm I'm like, you are so ridiculous. I mean, even if he said goodnight and we never made plans, yeah, I would kid, I would get that hint too. Yeah. Something. Leaving me in a restaurant and leaving me questioning myself is not okay. Yeah, exactly. Because that's all I've been doing. And I mean, I've tapered off a little bit, but yeah, I I was like, okay, what did I fucking say? What what did I say? But I think that it's it's an understanding.
SPEAKER_01Did he not like my body? I don't I mean, yeah, but see, here's the thing though, you're gonna keep questioning because you don't have that closure, but ultimately it was obviously a him thing. And so, but women, we do this, you know, and I'm sure men do it too, but we can only speak on on the women's perspective. But like, especially when you feel that rejected, you know, you're gonna internalize that and be like, what the fuck did I say? What did I do? Like, why couldn't you have just said, hey, like you said, you know, some some kind of cool You fat bitch, or you I don't like your your eyes.
SPEAKER_02I don't like your I just don't like you, bitch. You're and you're annoying as fuck. I mean, I handled that stuff so much better than I handle being left at a restaurant. Luckily, I had driven there, otherwise, I would have been like, I'm fucking chasing your fucking ass down, dude. You're never gonna forget about me. I leaving me in a rush. I had driven separate, but it didn't nothing.
SPEAKER_01But what's weird about it too, though, when we discussed this, is that he was adamant on still coming. Like he said, even during the storm, he was, you know, hellbent on coming. And so for him just to, and he had said, Well, what else are we going to do? Because I'm not gonna drive that far just, and that was one of the red flat.
SPEAKER_02Oh, yeah, I should tell him that because earlier in the day we were texting and he we had made this plan for him to come. And he's like, Well, what if what were we gonna do? And I'm like, Well, we can go to dinner, maybe we can go. I don't know what we're gonna do. I I was like, whatever, it doesn't matter to me. He's like, Yeah, well, if I'm driving all that way for dinner, I don't know if I want to do that. Right. And then the insinuation there to me was that he just wanted to come and get laid. He was wanting laid. Yeah. And I said that to him. I was maybe so this maybe he still came though, even after I said that.
SPEAKER_01Right. Again, it had nothing to do with what you said, I don't think, at all. And regardless, even if it was something that you had said, he was what 35 fucking years old or some shit like that. I no, he wasn't.
SPEAKER_02How old was he? He was 29. Oh my god. I don't know what what is wrong with fucking 29 year olds.
SPEAKER_01You're in the fucking mature jerks. They only think men take forever, we know, anyways, to mature. And so even at that age, they're selfish, they're immature. There's a very rare breed out there that are young and don't do shit like that.
SPEAKER_02Or yeah, and I didn't think, honestly, I thought I didn't know he was that young. I thought he was 35. Yeah, you told me 35. And I was like, I swear to God, I thought that when you 35. And then we were talking, and he said he was 39 or 29. And I'm like, because we had already had the conversation. I'm older than you. Yeah, you know, and that was all over text message. And uh anyway, after I had said, is that all you want? Uh you expect me to put out. Not that I wouldn't have. But just let me know. Like, but I don't want you to think that that's what you're coming here for. Yeah, exactly. And I don't know, he must have picked up on the vibe at dinner that that I maybe I wasn't down to clown. Okay.
unknownI don't know.
SPEAKER_01Very weird situation for there were, like we said though, those weird instances that he was saying prior. The whole he was super responsive during the daytime. Then at a certain time at night, it was crickets. And then, you know, when you'd ask him, like, hey, what'd you do last night? It oh, chilled, or you know, come on, you know, that's weird. Exactly. And so who who fucking knows at this point?
SPEAKER_02So yeah, and I I know women do this fucking shit too, but I have gotten to the point with this dating shit. I've mentioned it before. I believe it was in the breakup episode because I met up with a guy and I just knew it was never gonna go anywhere. So I mean, he wasn't even out of the parking lot anywhere. And I just like, hey, this isn't gonna work out. Because I didn't want him to think that there was a chance. Yeah. So be mature and fucking say that to me. Yeah, I'm not that fucking stupid. And hey, I'm not like I pick up on things pretty fucking easily. Sure. Yeah, I'm very self-aware. That's why I'm like, what the fuck? Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. Anyone knows this guy with tats, hot, has two kids, probably a wife. I don't know.
SPEAKER_01Well, did you recognize any kind of like band line on his finger or anything?
SPEAKER_02I didn't pay attention. That's so funny. Oh man, I would have. Would you?
SPEAKER_01See, I never noticed that shit. Yeah, that's stuff that I definitely notice on uh yeah. Well, I would too. I mean, yeah. I don't yeah, I don't know. It's weird, but I'm a I like to look at hands, hands, teeth, and eyes. Yeah, I love to look at it. Yeah, but anyways, okay. Well, was there anything else?
SPEAKER_02So I I I'll tell you this. I haven't been, I kind of I haven't been back on there. I I haven't pursued anything. Just taking a small break. I mean, it I my I'm not getting any fucking younger here, and I don't want to be 95 and be like, oh, I found my person. And then die a month later.
SPEAKER_00So positive.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, well, I was until this whole thing. He it this put a curveball in my dating life for sure. I understand. And I already had trust issues, trust me. I already had fucking trust issues up the wazoo. And now this just but you know what? I do have my ex, he's a my guy friend. I I called him because after and I was upset. And I was like, he he he had to walk talk talk me off with Cled uh uh ledge because that's how bad I was feeling. I mean, I was feeling pretty shitty. Yeah, but yeah, no, he was sweet to me, he's like uh really kind to me, and then and then oh yeah, I didn't even tell you about this. Wow. So before I went out that night, a plus guy had FaceTime me because he had a question about an assignment. Of course he did. Yeah. And he so he goes, What are you where are you going? I'm like, I'm going on a fucking date. First one in a while. Yeah. And he's like, Wow, you look good, and all this. And then he texted, I don't know, after I got back, and I was emotional. And he ended up coming over that night. Oh, yeah. I mean, just honestly, it wasn't even for I mean, we we banged, okay, but it I I don't think it was for that. I think he just felt bad. Yeah, you know, and I asked him that. I'm like, Do you did you just come over because you feel bad for me? He's like, somewhat, and I'm like, thank you. Yeah, I'm even though it was a pity fuck, it it I I should have been there for him.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, oh yeah.
SPEAKER_02For real. Fucking I mean he done shit. Yeah, so he had told me I should have this is another red flag. I should have known because he had told me that he went back to this chick's house and like he really liked her or whatever, and she had two owls, and that was a deal breaker. What he he said, I wish I would have known she had owls because he dumped her.
unknownWhat the fuck?
SPEAKER_02I'm like, owls? Owls is what does it for you, huh? I mean he's like dump, okay, immediate dump. Maybe he has a fear of them. I I don't know, but I was just like, Are you kidding? That's pretty fucking I want to meet this chick. She's got two owls on her ear. No, yeah. Bring her in, bring her on. Oh gosh. I'm sure she had the same situation. She's like, I'm gonna go feed my owls. Fucking jets out the door. He's like, no, thank you. Fucking owls need fed.
SPEAKER_01I'm out of here. So maybe he's maybe maybe maybe he saw because there are weird animals at the establishment that you went to. Maybe there is an owl there somewhere. Now I'm gonna be looking at the now. I'm gonna be now I need to go there to see it.
SPEAKER_02I I mean, I know people have these weird phobias. I I don't know. I you could at least say that. Bitch, I'm never seeing you again. You have like this. You remind me of an owl. I maybe have said, who me? Who me?
SPEAKER_01Oh my gosh. Okay, okay.
SPEAKER_02Maybe that was it. I don't know. Well, well, we'll never know. Yeah. Unless he finds this pod someday and knows what he did and feeling guilty about it. And you want to write. You better fucking write in and call in. Give me a fucking a reason.
SPEAKER_01Let us know.
SPEAKER_02Whether it hurts my feelings or not. I don't fucking care. I just wanted to know. Yeah. Anyway. Moving
Rejection Spirals And Trust Issues
SPEAKER_02along. Yeah.
Cops Catch A Teen In Town
SPEAKER_02So how are you been?
SPEAKER_01What have you been up to? Oh, well, you know, just living life. I had to go to a training for work this past week. That was interesting. Then I went over to the boyfriend's house directly after I get a text message from my daughter. Oh no. Yeah. So she said, Hey mom, the cops just found me and so and so having sex in an abandoned building. I said, Oh, so then she says, Well, the cop wants to talk to you. Can I call you? Like, what kind of one? What kind of what kind of question is that? Like, can I call you? Because the cop is like, what did she think I was gonna say? No, I'm I'm busy right now. Anyway, so she calls me and I'm trying to ask her questions, and she's like, Well, the cop is talking to me. And I'm like, Well, could then what is going on? So he gets on the phone, you know, he states his name, officer so and so, and he says, Are you aware of what your daughter is out doing right now? And I said, Well, I thought she was out driving around. And he then let me know, oh no, indeed, that is not what she's doing. She is in an abandoned building with doing coitus.
SPEAKER_02Having some relationships. So yeah, let's hope it wasn't too awkward of a position. Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_01That's exactly what another co-worker was asking me all kinds of questions.
SPEAKER_02I'm just thinking of like so many positions that you could that would be the worst.
SPEAKER_01Like that view. Oh, that cop was probably like I can absolutely tell you I did not ask for any details leading up to your daughter.
SPEAKER_02But if it were you, I'd be like, What? What are you doing? Every second it's cock.
SPEAKER_01So, no, I obviously left the boyfriends, and my daughter was in the same town that I was in. And so I told her, I said, You better be home before I get home. And which she replied, Mom, you're already on your Way home, there's no way that I can beat you home unless we speed. And I said, Well, you better be there shortly after. So, anyways, just had the talk with her. Like, let's not be dumb, especially in the middle of town and abandoned building. That's one of the things that we're talking about. It was in the middle of town, then.
SPEAKER_02Okay. Well, yeah. So back in our day, I don't know about you. Back I was country, and back yeah, you found a fucking country rope, and it better be a band, it better be low-key. Yeah. Yeah, because like I never wanted to get caught in one of those awkward fucking positions. Yep, absolutely.
SPEAKER_01Oh, I would die. So yeah, I mean, the daughter is, I mean, pretty, I mean, she's old enough, but still young. So whatever. It is what it is. We we all did stupid shit.
SPEAKER_02Lesson learned. I mean, yeah.
SPEAKER_01But unfortunately, she has to learn the hard way on things. Hey, listen, she does. And I told her, I said, you know, you realize, because this she's been in and out of just being making silly mistakes. And so, anyways, I told her, I said, you know, that you are now a get caught person. You know that, right? Like, I'm a get-caught person, you're a get-caught person. Like, so let's just, you know, try and stay under radar for a while, please. Like, mama needs a rest.
SPEAKER_02Like all the surprises. The fact that the cops know your first name and everything. And let's let's let's maybe recycle the cops a little. Maybe let them go on, move on to somebody else. Let's relax a little bit.
SPEAKER_01But anyway, so we had that conversation and everything's
Book Club Finds A Wild Story
SPEAKER_01good. Then I Friday was book club. Yeah. We had a really good book club.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, those bitches are fun.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, they are so much.
SPEAKER_02No, they're so fun. I I could I was telling somebody else. I was like, the thing about it is you you most people, most strangers you meet, they're not your people. Yeah. I felt like these people were so down to earth, so wonderful and great personalities. That's like, how did this come together like this? I thought it was wonderful.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, it is wonderful. I truly did. Yeah, because we had what four more people join from last month. Yeah. So that was exciting to see it growing. And then while we were sitting there, we had another person join because she overheard our cackling. Yeah. So I mean, that was cool. So I mean, yeah, I mean, it's just neat to see that you know, you can be such a positive influence on other, especially women's lives.
SPEAKER_02Oh, absolutely. And the the best thing I like about book clubs is perspectives because there is a couple perspectives that these ladies had said, and I'm like, I never saw that.
SPEAKER_01But I never thought about that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02So I do like the fact that you know we can get some different what how people perceive things. Yes.
SPEAKER_01And that's that's awesome. And that's that's the whole point of it, you know, and that and also too that they feel comfortable enough sharing those different perspectives. So I think that's obviously a really neat thing. But no, I'm I'm excited to to hopefully grow it a little bit more and have more amazing book clubs. But yeah, it's definitely fun getting to meet everybody and their different personalities and stuff. So, and not to mention, oh shit, not to mention, we found out that one of the ladies' husbands. Oh god, that was so cool. Yeah, he's a retired cop from Florida. He's from New York. You can tell he's got that Boston, New York accent. Oh god, it was thick. Yep. But he was a cop in a detective in Florida, and it just so happened that his partner ended up being a goddamn serial killer.
SPEAKER_02Fucking serial killer. What did they say? Four women, four or five? Eleven people.
SPEAKER_01They he was thought to have killed at least 11. 11. Okay.
SPEAKER_02But he would look him up. Did you do you remember his name? Because I was like, God, I gotta fucking there's gotta be some kind of documentary out on him.
SPEAKER_01I posted it on the book club. I can look at it.
SPEAKER_02Oh, good. Okay.
SPEAKER_01Because I uh I'm obsessed with serial killers because I mean, who's well, he was known as the meanest cop on uh Miami's Meanest Cop on Danger Road. And so his name was Gilbert Fernandez Jr., a Mr. Florida bodybuilding champion. He was known for the local muscle for mob. Serial killer material right there. Yeah, they alleged that he may have executed as many as 11 victims, two or three at a time, to systematically eliminate witnesses against him.
SPEAKER_02Like he would kill like the kids if they were there when he was I mean, I don't know. I'm gonna look into it. Yeah, we'll report back, Vessies, because I am all about me, some serial killers. I find that shit interesting. Yeah, absolutely, yeah. And all the documentaries out there, I listened to a lot of fucking troop crime. Yes, same here. Yeah, I love it.
SPEAKER_01So, yeah, so that happened, and then we didn't get drunk at all. Nope, not at all. No, nobody looked at us sideways like bitches, bitches. You nobody said, Is that your third bottle of wine? Never once happened.
SPEAKER_02No, and I was like, no, it's actually not. They they brought an empty one to us. Yeah, we
A Cop Partner Turned Serial Killer
SPEAKER_02want to, it's a project that we're doing.
SPEAKER_01Oh Lord. Yeah, so that my yesterday obviously was a little self-induced, unfortunately. But I'm feeling a little bit better today, just a little tired. No, the daughter and I just literally sat around and those are great days too. Yeah, we didn't watch movies, but we played a PS4 game called Until Dawn. So that was that's that like a murder, like what uh vampire-ish? Yeah, so it's like a butterfly effect. We I watched the movie with a boyfriend until dawn, and I saw that it was a PS4. Oh who's in that? Is it oh gosh, okay?
SPEAKER_02Until dawn. Are they trapped in like a bar?
SPEAKER_01No, they're trapped in a house, actually.
SPEAKER_02Okay, because I've watched something like this, and they were trapped in a bar, and they were just these vampires decided just to murder, try and murder everybody. It's a good movie, actually. I and I don't even like that kind of stuff. Yesterday was the Kentucky Derby. Yes, and I
Derby Drama And Betting Regrets
SPEAKER_02love the Kentucky Derby. I grew up with horses, and I just fucking love the magnificent horses that they can breed and these horses and what they can do. Yeah, so I I'm sure all you besties out there watched it watched it because I mean it was awesome. But this one horse, golden Nugget, no, it wasn't Nugget. Oh it was golden. Anyway, he came from the fucking very back and fucking ended up winning that fucking race because there was one horse that was out in the front most of the time. Okay, and in the last turn, that's when that shit happens. Golden tempo. Okay, so all that shit happens in the very last turn, and I just can't believe the magnificent and these fucking horses. Did you bet on any horse? Okay, so I tried to be but fan duel sh like I couldn't get on fan duel, I couldn't get on DraftKings, I couldn't get on fucking anything because it was all bogged down. Oh wow. I mean, that's because everybody was trying to bet last minute. Okay. But the people I was with, they won they didn't win a bunch, but they won enough to cover their drinks. Fuck yeah. So I I I consider that a win. Absolutely. Yeah. So I didn't get to participate, but I'm kind of glad that it never let me in because I wasn't gonna bet on that one. Who were you gonna bet on? I was gonna bet on Renegade. Okay. And six six speed. Okay. I felt like he had, I felt like he had some underdog shit in the game. But Golden Tempo, my friend, she's like, you know what? This is the we should have put all of our money on this horse because of the sign. First of all, he had a cross on his fucking forehead. Okay. That's fucking awesome. Yeah. You know, that's something there. And then he had the the the first woman trainer ever. I've seen that. Yeah, ever.
SPEAKER_01That was awesome.
SPEAKER_02And that's the coolest thing ever.
SPEAKER_01I was like, we should have just done it for that. Yeah. The cross and the golden or the yeah.
SPEAKER_02I mean, the signs were there. It was just like one of those like moments you you you just know you should do that. But then, you know, you question everything, but then of course. But no, I I thought afterwards, and so did she. She's like, you know what? The signs were all there for us. I don't like you fucking bet they were all there for us, but we didn't, but clearly I don't know signs.
SPEAKER_01I wasn't gonna say anything just yet. We're our home back a little bit. Or just we're gonna straight up ignore them. I don't know. Yeah, but no, good for golden tempo. That's super exciting. So, should we delve in?
Why Men Cheat Versus Women
SPEAKER_01Delve into our 13th episode here.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, so I bet you guys are sick of toxic traits.
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_02So I think we're gonna kind of like do it's not gonna be like one certain topic. It's going to be what why women cheat versus men. Yeah. And then you know, we can swing so many other other things into that, like open relationships, fucking swingers. Talking about swinging things and swingers. We're talking about swinging, swing cocks around, okay? Oh my. Yep, absolutely. So, yeah, do you have your uh first opinion on this?
SPEAKER_01Or well, I mean, as far as like women versus men cheating, and you know, why do men cheat? Why do we think that men cheat over why women cheat, stuff like that? I honestly I I've always wondered this, you know, but I think I think a lot of men cheat because they're looking for that number one, they want their cake and they want and eat it too. Or they're cooch and eat it too. Yeah, that one too. Um and you know, they just for whatever reason need that extra fucking attention, maybe. I don't know.
SPEAKER_02So I've I have a I go back on this different uh times. I do feel like there is some cheating that happens like a one-off. Okay, like you're just in that headspace at that one time or something, you know what I mean? And then I think when long term happens and you fuck a many a times, that is most definitely you're unhappy and you just don't know how to get out of your marriage. You're talking about both men and women? Yeah, oh, absolutely.
SPEAKER_01Okay, women cheat too. No, no, uh I just didn't know if that's the perspective you were coming from. Yeah, no, I'm from both. That was gonna kind of be like a question I had too, because you know, if your partner does cheat, do you uh care more why they did it or just that they did it?
SPEAKER_02I want to know why they did it. Yeah, yeah, I'm the same way. The well, that goes back to our how our insecurities. Oh my god, we bring it up all the time. But it it it makes us feel like what did I do? What did I do? Yeah, I mean, how does this relate back to me? Exactly fucking asshole, exactly, and all you did was destroy my being and my happiness. So tell me what the fuck the reason is.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. Yeah, no, and I will I will beat it until I can't beat it anymore. The questions, the the why, the well now what kind of thing. So yeah, I definitely will sit there and realm in it for way too long.
SPEAKER_02And I've told I've said this before, Ivy, that I feel like they don't even fuck tens, they fuck twos, and you're nine. I mean, I I I was like, what the fuck?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, that's I mean, that kind of goes into the ex, you know, because I mean, the women that he was entertaining, I'm just like, what?
SPEAKER_02What are you doing, dude?
SPEAKER_01Like, what is wrong with you?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, like seriously, you just constantly got beer goggles on, but whatever, you know.
SPEAKER_01It it I don't know, you know, and that's that's another good question. Like, is it better if they go for somebody that is better looking for than you, or that they go for somebody that is worse looking than you?
SPEAKER_02Like what honestly it hurts either way, it hurts either way, but in my head, my headspace, if they did it because they the person was hotter than me, that would give me a better understanding. Yeah, like yeah, no, for real, like that bitch is hot. Uh see if she wants a threesome, okay. No, I've never done that, but uh, I do I do think that that would make my conscience feel a little better. Okay, because if it was somebody fucking ugly, I'm like, or somebody boring or something, not not just ugly and not personality-wise was fucking boring. I'm like, what are you doing, dude?
SPEAKER_01Get the fuck out of there. Like it makes zero sense, yeah. I don't know. So yeah, I mean, these are all like hard questions though, too, because it's like even when you're in that moment, like I said, even with the ex, I was always regardless, I'm just questioning, you know, and he was constantly going back to watching those videos of the the one ex that supposedly a narcissist and love bombed him and and this, that, and the other. He was just she was just so terrible to him. And so for him to continuously want to have something to do with her really mind fucked me. Because I'm like, well, you say one thing, but then you're still involved with her, obviously, some way or another. So, and then as soon as you know I left him, he went to her.
SPEAKER_02So yeah, I mean, well, he probably didn't have he's like, Oh, she decided to leave me, and I finally, or she is I I could hold on to that for years because I mean, yeah. So I don't know. Men like the comfort, women too. You you like the comfort of knowing there's gonna be somebody at home waiting for you when you especially when you go out and do your fucking fucked up shit. Yeah, absolutely. You want to know that you're you're you're safe at home and she's making dinner or he's making dinner, and I am not not ever gonna lie, I have cheated because it's I can't tell you all the reasons because it did happen more than once, and I am not proud of it by any means. But my reason I I can't speak for other women, but my reason was fucking loneliness, yeah. And I wanted somebody to pay attention to me. That's understandable for sure, and that was it. And even if I got that somebody paying attention to me for like the wrong reasons or taking advantage of me, I it still happened. Yep, absolutely, whether it be negative or positive, you just needed that, and I and I need that clarity because that clarity gave me enough fucking balls to move the fuck out, get get my own place. It made you feel validated, yeah. Yeah, oh absolutely, yeah. So I do think there's men out there that just are sex fucking addicts too.
SPEAKER_01Yo, yeah, definitely. And the ex was for sure not even a sex addict, he was just a porn addict. Yeah, I mean, that's just he was an addict all around, you know. Yeah, he had a gambling problem, gambling, fucking lying, cheating. I mean, who knows? But yeah, so I it is what it is, and I too have cheated, uh, but I it's been a long time. I cheated on my husband, my ex-husband now. But my reasoning for that was I wasn't necessarily lonely, but I guess in a way, because like I mean, he was a liar, you know, he couldn't hold down a job. So there was a lot of reasonings behind it, but I think the one big reason was just because I was, I was, I was over it. I was bored, you know. I had told him us a few times, you know, that I didn't think it was gonna work out, you know, that we needed to think about maybe taking the next steps towards divorce. And I'll never forget the night that it happened, and then after the fact, that next morning, I felt so bad and worthless. And you know, like I'm like, this was really bad. Like, why did you do this? And so I went right home and and I told him, Well, good for you. You know, I did. I I had to. My conscience was just screaming at you. Yeah, I that's how bad I felt. And I was crying while I was telling him, and you know, so and I was like, and this is exactly why I think we need to have a divorce because I'm obviously not in it, yeah. Unfortunately, his grandpa was a pastor who married us. So he shit he got involved, came over and talked to us. He's like, maybe we could just do some Christian counseling. Yeah, he's like, No, we can get through this. And I'm like, say we, like, and you know, and then this pastor talking about, you know, how uh what is that a temptation, you know, get the best of you. My eyes are rolling so big. I know. So I was just like, oh my gosh, like, no, this is my this is me, my my brain, my heart, my body telling me that I'm I'm done. So I stuck it out for two more years and then he oh my god, and then he cheated on me, and yeah, no, I stuck it out for a very long time, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Because I love my fucking children, and I would I didn't feel bad about it that I that that we got divorced. I just felt bad for the kids, yeah. And that's it, that's the only reason. But the kids are fine because who wants a fucking terrible parents to come home to? Oh, for sure. That are that don't show love and compassion for each other, and that was the one thing I have said so many times. I was like, I did not want my children thinking that that was a marriage, yeah, and that was how it should be. Because I grew up in one of those situations where it was toxic as fuck. Yeah, and I I well, I I have clearly have issues from it, and I don't want my kids thinking that our marriage was ever something they have to deal with, yeah, absolutely. And so yeah, I was like, I don't want I don't want this, I don't want this for them, and I don't want it for me.
SPEAKER_01Well, and you deserve to be happy, and your kids deserve to see you happy, yeah. You know what I mean? So I mean it there's just so much that comes into it, so yeah, no, yeah.
Open To Exploring And Unicorn Rules
SPEAKER_02So that was my cheating story, and uh so why do you think um so I see on all these fucking dating apps haven't been on a while or a week or whatever why they put open to exploring? So I'm confused by this because does to me that s insinuates because there is an option for open relationship, I think. Yeah, but open to exploring, I feel like they want to bring somebody else in into the mix.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I would think it was either somebody else into the mix, whether it be a same sex or you know, yeah, opposite sex. You know, I or maybe like you said, bringing somebody else in, because I'm I when I see that I'm thinking that they have somebody, they're in a relationship, they're married. So that's yeah, that's exactly where my brain would go. Have you ever been offered uh threesome?
SPEAKER_02Oh girl, yeah. Yeah, I was in Mexico one time, and this couple. I I've never done one. Okay. And but I would have. I fucking would have with him. Okay. I I not that I'm attracted to girls, but I couldn't even like justify that. Okay. I was just like, I mean, she wasn't like gross or ugly, but she wasn't somebody I would ever be attracted. Like, even if it was for a threesome. Okay. I have to, if I'm gonna do a fucking threesome, it's I have to be fucking attracted to that girl. Absolutely the girl, especially, and the the guy the most, but the girl, yeah. I I'm not gonna like be unattracted to you and this is all going on.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I know. Yep, I 100% agree with that. Yeah, I mean, for me, it's definitely that, and it's harder for me to. Find another female attractive, even though I do have those tendencies. Like I I'm very particular with my females, super particular. Same. Like it's almost to like a weird particular I don't know.
SPEAKER_02Like there's just certain things like I'm like so if uh Cindy Sweeney came and knocked on my door, I'd be like, we don't even need a man right now. Get out of here. She's on Euphoria. I I swear that's her name. But she is like she's got the boobs, she got the butt. She's just attractive. Okay. And I I'm like, man. Yeah, I I would I would fuck around with that. Okay. Got it, got it. But I mean, I'm sure any man be like, Cindy Sweeney's coming. Get the fuck out, bitch. You're not even invited.
unknownYeah.
SPEAKER_02So I wouldn't even get a part in it, but I guess I mean I'll be the cuck hold or whatever it is. Is that what it's called? Yeah. The cuckold in the corner. In the corner. No. Yeah. I'm missing out, but okay.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I don't know. But so I don't know. I've I've definitely I've delved into my fair share of three sons and stuff like that. I did have this, I don't even know. This one night I was at a drag show with some co-workers and this other girl that I knew. She worked with us, but we weren't like close. I don't know. Just that night we started making out and it got pretty heated right there at the bar. And I was like, okay, like we gotta oh yeah, we got to take this beath.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, just calm down. Everybody calm down. Um the park and bartender's like, yeah, you bitches need to go. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01And I was, you know, I was also worried because she was married, and I knew that she was married, so that was in the back of my mind, and I felt again the whole cheating thing came like to light. And anyways, I found out that actually, no, he's open to that kind of thing. Never knew that, obviously. And so we all three started talking and sharing pictures and stuff, and I was gonna be their unicorn, and what's that? So unicorn is somebody that you share amongst each other, but it there's no commitment.
SPEAKER_02Like that's oh, I gotta hope not.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, there's there's no like there's these standards, these standards, these sets of rules, and then that's it, you know. And so yeah, I I was all for it, and I get I laid out my ground rules. So the very first night we were supposed to all get together and meet, just cordial, nothing, no expectations. My daughter ended up being sick, and so I had messaged the girl and I said, Hey, we're gonna have to postpone because my daughter is sick. She freaked out. She freaked out, she got almost mean, but then like, I don't know, very weird about the whole situation. Maybe she thought you were making it up, and she and that's fine, but that that what I wasn't. I yeah, you know what I mean? And so, and I had even said, you know, we can try, you know, the next night in a couple days, whatever. I said, but just right now I can't. And I had told them prior, like being obsessive, being clingy, that kind of thing. That's just not my that's not my forte in this kind of situation. I don't need that. I have my life, you guys have your life, whatever. And so when this came about, it was just like uh uh, so I just cut it all ties. I'm like, yeah, thank you. I don't need that psycho in my life.
SPEAKER_02Well, especially if she was being already like that, right, without anything, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I know I would have I would have red flags for sure. So that was I would have left her at her fucking restaurant. So that was that was an interesting take. But anyways, so yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, no, I haven't had one, but you know, I do think that the open relationship thing. I'm not I don't know what it means when they post that, so I trend to swipe off of them. Okay, because I don't I don't want you to be like I just want your eyes for me and yeah, me only. Yeah, and that's what I want. And I don't want you to be like, oh, we're just open to everything, and I'm doing this dude on the side. I'm not I'm not okay with that. Yeah, so I want it to be me, me and you only. Okay, and I I would save a threesome for like when I'm single, like this, you know, but I feel like people get asked on a threesome like every day. I'm like, I had one chance, one, and I'm like, no on her, but yes on you.
SPEAKER_01Well, I mean, I don't know. I don't threesomes can just I think that the perfect way to do a threesome would be in that kind of scenario where you're in somewhere you don't even know, you won't ever run into them again. Oh, yeah, that would be ideal because I have tried to do the whole threesome with people that I actually know, and it just it doesn't end up good. Oh, I can't imagine it has never ended up good. No, it doesn't. Feelings get hurt, you know, feelings get caught for whatever reason, and it just it ends in turmoil. So yeah, no, thank you.
SPEAKER_02And I'd have to be extremely secure in my relationship, right? So secure that I could allow this to him to do that with some other person, yeah. Cause I wouldn't, I would be jealous, of course, but I don't know. I want to experience it too someday. Maybe not. I don't know. I'm too old.
SPEAKER_01My biggest fantasy anymore is not because I've already had that female, so it's like, whatever, that's old news to me. But I've now I want two males.
SPEAKER_02Oh, hell yeah. That's girl, that's what I look up on porn. It's literally I I punch in two guys, two guys and one girl.
unknownLike, yes.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, have you have you seen Owen Gray and small hands? Uh-uh. You gotta look you gotta look them up. What's the small hands part? He's just the guy's got smaller hands. I mean, they're not like I'm Janet. No, nothing like that.
SPEAKER_02No, it's just what he's yeah, but that was a Saturday night live skit, Bestie.
SPEAKER_01Oh well, let's see here.
SPEAKER_02Well, I would also open. Go ahead. Well, we also want to talk about some
Swingers Parties And Sex Club Curiosity
SPEAKER_02swingers because I I have reached out to which we haven't had a guest on, which I we we know you we're gonna we're gonna get there because stay tuned for season two. Season two. But I would love I I don't want to participate in a bunch of group sex. But okay, no trains here, thank you. No, but I'll I I'm certainly a person that will go and get the material aid. I understand that, and find out what the fuck happens. But I have a friend, she uh she is her and her ex-husband. See, that's when I I'm like, oh, it's your ex now. Yeah, because you bitch has been swinging, but they she was telling me so many things I had no idea about. Like they have swinger weekends, yeah, hotel takeovers, yeah, that's what she called it, and I was like, hotel takeovers, and she said that she'd be walking by the pool and just everybody, everybody just fucking somewhere. Like what you see in a fucking movie, yeah.
SPEAKER_01And I'm like, I don't even know if I can handle that because you know the Gilded Ages, like that's what they did, right? Like, no, yeah, like are you talking about Bridgerton? Well in those eras, yes, but then they would just have I don't know if they were called sex parties, but like by the end of it, everybody was everywhere just fucking.
SPEAKER_02So yeah, that was before diseases came out. No, that's probably why diseases that's why I'm like, no, I don't think so.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I don't know.
SPEAKER_02Would you do it?
SPEAKER_01Not well, of course not if you had the the the guy, the boyfriend. The boyfriend. I mean, I've I've asked him before, but he's not interested in that kind of thing either, which is fine. I would just be curious. I'm just a very curious cat. And so I just always want to like see like the functionalities of it, right?
SPEAKER_02Same. I'm I'm just like you. Like, how is it working?
SPEAKER_01What how does this how does all of this happen? I don't want to participate, but we'll be the voyeurs. We'll be the the the whatever the voyage.
SPEAKER_02We'll just be the people that are like, oh, we'll be your cheerleaders, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And the fact that we did bring this up that I we wanted to go to a sex club eventually. Yeah, I I just want the experience, not the I don't want to participate. No, nothing. I just don't, I don't want to be fucked, but I definitely want to know what's going on in there.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, yeah. And I won't take a magnifying glass or anything or no videos. I just want to I want to have it in my Brian where I'm like, oh, I remember that one fucking time, Scarlett, when we went to that thing.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, you know, we we need the experience, and we that's the way we can report back, besties.
SPEAKER_01And I already told the boyfriend, I said, listen, if we ever do get a chance to go to one of these, then you have to be on standby because you know I'm gonna be honey horny, honey, horny as fuck after watching all these fuckers. So yeah, literally, these fuckers. So no, I I don't know. I I did have some of uh an open relationship, but not with not the latest ex, but the anyways, and he said that he was more open than I felt that he was at times, so that was kind of weird for me.
SPEAKER_02What does that mean?
SPEAKER_01Because, like, if I were if I did go meet someone, and it was always this one particular person that I would meet up with, and he was way older, but we just had a lot in common. I don't know. I just felt like he would be kind of jealous or upset at the end of the night or during the night. So it ended up being kind of awkward. So I don't know, but but he still is that way. He's still like, no, he's terrified of commitment, doesn't want anything to do with it, and so he'll do everything in his power not to to have that. So fuck. Damn. So he says that he is open to the open concept, but when when it was us, I didn't feel like he was as open. So uh open-ended relationships, talking about swinging parties, right
Send Your Story For Free Merch
SPEAKER_01in. Have you ever have you been a unicorn? Can we be invited to one?
SPEAKER_02Uh no, I would go in a heartbeat. I I just want that experience.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, yep. I I want to say I did it, yeah. But again, just know that we are not participating.
SPEAKER_02We're just no, not gonna be fucked in a pool by 10 guys. Yeah, that doesn't even sound a bad thing.
SPEAKER_01That sounds like uh expected UTI, is what it sounds like 110, and who knows what else? Oh my gosh, like okay, anyways, yeah. Um we don't want it.
SPEAKER_02We're we will observe, I will 100 because uh we uh me and you are but great at this. We love to like people watch yeah, she got some knock movie. No, look at it. I mean, uh like I love that, and then in pornos, there's only so many certain pornos I will watch because I'm just like, no, not she's not attracted. No, he's not attract. I'm like, uh, I know I'm so particular.
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