Confidence to speak Your Needs

Welcome to Flag Us, the podcast where we decode the green flags and red flags in relationships! I’m Twon, and alongside me is Whitney. Together, we dive deep into the subtle signs, big behaviors, and everyday moments that shape healthy (or toxic) connections. Whether you’re in a new relationship, navigating dating, or simply curious, we break down the signals, so you can spot them before they become bigger issues. Tune in every week as we share real stories, expert insights, and, of course, a healthy dose of real talk. Don’t forget to subscribe and flag your own experiences with us!

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Transcript

Twonn 0:32

Welcome back to Flag Us. I'm Tuan. I'm Whit. And this is definitely Flag Us. Um, so hi Whitney. Hi, Twan. Um, I know usually we just rush into things and stuff, so I'm just wanna slow it down. Okay. So the people get to know us and who we are. Um Whitney. Tuan. With all your red flags.

Whit 1:00

Oh my god this is gonna be.

Twonn 1:05

With all your red flags and whatnot. Um, we just want to get to know you with all your creative flags. Let me not say red flags, because you know I love your red flags. They are green to me.

Whit 1:21

Are they?

Twonn 1:22

Yeah. But anyway, how was your week?

Whit 1:24

My week was good. Yeah. I just work, work, work. Yeah, me too. Okay, I'm just gonna be quiet. You're just gonna be quiet? Yeah. Why? I'm only gonna talk when I'm spoken to. Ooh. Bars. Bars. Oh my goodness.

Twonn 1:44

Ooh, that was a good one. No, save that for after the pod, like, like the whole day, like the rest of the day. Don't don't pod.

Whit 1:52

Absolutely not.

Twonn 1:53

Yeah. You're not gonna speak it though. Speak until you're spoken to after the pod. Okay. Anyway, all right, let's get back to us. Okay. Okay.

Whit 2:11

Okay.

Twonn 2:12

Uh, welcome to another episode of Flag Us. I'm Tuan. I'm with. And this is definitely uh a third episode of Flag Us. Um Whitney. Let's dive in a little deeper. Uh let's get to one. Well, let's let the uh listeners get to know us a little. Right? So we are uh a three-year couple. Is it three years?

Whit 2:43

It'll be three years.

Twonn 2:44

Three year couple, yes. Um I think we adore each other's red and green flags. I think I adore your flags.

Whit 2:53

Oh yeah.

Twonn 2:54

All fucking hundred and something, something.

Whit 2:58

Along with all seven of my personalities.

Twonn 3:00

Yeah.

Whit 3:03

Yes.

Twonn 3:05

I have a drink to that.

Whit 3:07

I adore you as well. You're such a comedian.

Twonn 3:10

Yeah, you too. I think that's what we bond a lot on. I think uh our relationship is a lot of uh comedic uh comeback from one another. Because every time I say something, you definitely have a comeback. I like that about you.

Whit 3:26

I appreciate that.

Twonn 3:28

You're you're cool in my book. You're cool. Okay, so this episode of Flagg Us. Uh what's the topic?

Whit 3:39

Topic we're gonna get into sex and relationships.

Twonn 3:45

Ooh, sex and relationships.

Whit 3:48

Sex and relationships.

Twonn 3:50

Please, more sex than relationships, because man. You said what? Huh? I say we should talk about more sex than a relationship. No, not a lot of people don't talk about sex in a relationship.

Whit 4:02

Because a lot of people are uncomfortable with talking about sex and relationships. Sometimes I'm uncomfortable. Really? Yeah, but you forced it on me, so I mean I don't really have a choice, but I force it out of you. No, I'm just kidding. Uh, I like that you're very open and you speak to you know certain things that you want in.

Twonn 4:19

Yeah, I think uh close, well, that that saying close mouth don't get fed.

Whit 4:24

Sometimes I think closing it just a little bit sometimes.

Twonn 4:28

Oh, okay. Oh, okay. Oh, wow, okay. I will put that in one of my mental notes. Okay. Alright, so uh topic sex. Alright, so first questions.

Whit 4:47

First question. You want me to go ahead and kick it off? Please do. By all means. Uh what's something people are too afraid to communicate to their partner?

Twonn 5:00

What's something someone is afraid to communicate? Um, it's probably most likely, well, what I think will be sex and finance. Okay. It's always the one of the two. So either you either y'all are scared to talk about sex or finance.

Whit 5:18

So you're going with sex and finance?

Twonn 5:19

Sex and finance.

Whit 5:21

Okay. I would have to say um uncomfortable topic. Sometimes I would say um boundaries and expectations.

Twonn 5:36

Ooh, that's a great one.

Whit 5:37

I'm gonna go with boundaries and expectations. A lot of people are afraid to say what they want, um, just because of being afraid of being judged or what that other person might say or think. And um also expectations, like putting a certain expectation on somebody, like how you want them to carry themselves or something of that nature can be a little off-putting sometimes.

Twonn 6:03

Quick question. If we're together, should I be judging you?

Whit 6:08

I don't I mean, I don't think that you should, but it I think it's like human nature to judge. Like just to be like biased about some things. Like, you don't mean to be biased, you don't mean to judge, but based off, you know, someone's reaction or something that they say can kind of have you think in your head like, mmm. So you mean to tell me that somebody hasn't said something to you before where you're kind of like judging them?

Twonn 6:29

Like, I don't I don't say it is judging them. I might be intrigued on a question that'd be like, oh, like this, like, oh, you can ask that question? Like, I might be like, oh, like, like light bulbs. You know, that's what we ever say that move light bulb. A light bulb might go off on my hair. Like, oh, this person is like kind of brave. I don't think it's like judging. I don't think I I'm not in the pre I've never been in the stigmas to judge anybody off of like if they ask or if they want to know something, or or I'm I'm not that judgmental. Would you it depends on the situation?

Whit 7:04

That's what I'm saying. Uh boy bye. Gotcha. Okay. Yeah, it depends on the situation.

Twonn 7:09

Because I'm thinking of some stuff. Yeah, I'm just talking about like nah.

Whit 7:13

Yes, it's de it definitely depends on the situation, or you know.

Twonn 7:19

Yeah, yeah, I gotcha. I gotcha. Good. Cause I don't that was a little odd. Okay, alright, so sexy real sex, um, sex and finance, um boundaries and boundaries and expectations. That's a really good one. That's a good good uh opener.

Whit 7:33

I thank you. Nice. You looking real cute today. I have to say the same about you. Got me over here, like yeah, me too. Who this man over here.

Twonn 7:47

All right, so uh next question. What's what your partner never initiates intimacy, but it's always down to do it when you do.

Whit 8:06

Are you asking, like, is this a is this a you asked if it's like a red or a green flag, or is it okay? Is it not okay?

Twonn 8:13

Or to you, is it a green or red flag? I don't like this evil laugh. You sound like an evil G.

Whit 8:24

I'm gonna say green flag because I say sometimes I'm that person. I would say never, but majority of the time my partner is initiating, you know, intimacy. But anytime that he's ready for intimacy, I'm down for the cause. I'm like, you bring the energy, I follow suit. Okay. Um, from that aspect. But I wouldn't say never, like I never do it, because I feel like if you never initiate, it doesn't make that person feel wanted. Right.

Twonn 8:52

You know, but have you ever like been in that type of situation of someone never with the intimacy? You always had to start it. All right, I've had that same red flag situation, and it's that, oh, I can fix it, I can fix it. Yes.

Whit 9:08

I think it's kind of like, like I said, sometimes I'm that person, but when it was done to me, it was kind of like, like I said, I know how it feels to like not feel wanted by your significant other or whatever the case might be, and it's kind of eye-opening. And I think that's why I'm more open to like initiating, but I will say it's not 50-50 on that aspect. It's more like 60-40.

Twonn 9:30

60-40. Do you do you have to, is attraction a big thing in that starting that intimacy? Or are you just tired? Or like, what's the big, the major thing in starting that intimacy?

Whit 9:43

I don't know. It could be um, because I'm extremely attracted to you, baby boy. But uh I would have to say sometimes sometimes it could be just like somebody, I don't know, psyching themselves out, like they're trying to figure out like, is this person in the mood or is this person not in the mood? Um, kind of them playing themselves by, you know, having that thought in the back of their head. So they just kind of feel like, I'm just gonna just step back in. If they initiate, then cool.

Twonn 10:18

But you know? I've been in situations where the intimacy never was never started. So But is intimacy always sex? No, I don't think so. I don't think so neither. And people, when people think about intimacy, they automatically think sex, and that's not the case.

Whit 10:39

And and and you're right, because right now when we ask that question, my whole mind frame went to sex. Sex, right. But um, when it comes to intimacy and like quality time, like I definitely initiate like a lot on that aspect just by just laying next to my partner, you know, rubbing their head, rubbing their back, you know, just being there, cooking, cooking for them, definitely keeping him nice and plump. I still got a lot of work to do, but uh yes, making sure that you're taken care of, making sure you're not going hungry, making sure your ribs are not touching.

Twonn 11:14

Yeah, I love that. I love that. I love that. Okay, nice. All right, Wendy with the good answers. She's always good answers, but behind the scenes, she's a red flag. Don't know her.

Whit 11:27

Not a red flag.

Twonn 11:28

All right, she's so good on these mics. Oh man, you're so good on these mics.

Whit 11:33

Yeah, I do what I can, you know. All right.

Twonn 11:39

So, um, you want to get into these more questions?

Whit 11:43

Yeah. Um, let's see. Another question would be um, is it a turn off if you have to schedule intimacy?

Twonn 11:59

It is very much a turnoff because I think, all right, I know, I know stuff happens. Uh life be life in. But if you tell me at nine o'clock on a Saturday night, be ready to, you know, you about to I'm gonna be in the bed, butt ass nigga, just waiting on you. And you frying chicken, you doing a whole bunch of other things, and it's like you on the phone, you doing this, and it's just like, yo, what like if you gonna schedule this, keep your whole, you know, keep keep keep the schedule. Keep the schedule.

Whit 12:31

Keep the schedule.

Twonn 12:32

Keep the schedule. I know life be life, but if if you do it one time a week, twice a week, once a month, or whatever, if you have to schedule it, keep to the schedule. Because I'm not gonna forget. You're not gonna forget. I'm not gonna forget. I forget a lot of shit. You know that. I forget a lot of shit. But that I'm 9 o'clock on a Saturday, I'm not forgetting.

Whit 12:54

Okay. I would have to agree with you. I think it's definitely, definitely a turnoff. I feel that if I have to schedule a dick appointment, it better be a night to remember. And there better be some food that follows up. Because uh some food. I guess some food, yes, definitely some playtime, a good little eat eat. But yeah, if I have to schedule a dick appointment, I'm expecting. Cause clearly, like you said, life be life. And if you guys have a really busy schedule and I have to schedule something, then like you said, I'm gonna expect you to be on time. I'm gonna expect you to deliver. Deliver. You gotta deliver. You gotta deliver. You gotta deliver, especially if it was scheduled for sure. I feel that. I feel that.

Twonn 13:42

Alright, that's an awesome first part. Um we can get to take a break. Okay. All right, so the next part, we get into our favorite part of the segue. Flag us.

Whit 13:56

Flag us. Today we definitely are gonna have like about four questions. So it's not gonna be too long. Okay. Um, and of course, the name of the game. As soon as I say this or state the question, you're gonna tell me whether it's a green flag or a red flag. All right. I know you need time to process first of all.

Twonn 14:17

That last flag, us, I was actually on point with it. You said like you definitely need time to process 10 to 30 seconds.

Whit 14:26

No, to state your side, not to not to throw your flag.

Twonn 14:31

I had to process it.

Whit 14:33

Exactly. So I'm gonna allow you that good, what is it?

Twonn 14:36

Uh you'll give me a buffering time.

Whit 14:39

A good 25 seconds with that to process. I'm gonna say 15, because you know we gotta get the show rolling. All right, all right. Let's see here. Um, so the first question is skip foreplay completely. All right. That's definitely a red flag. That's definitely a red flag.

Twonn 15:06

That's definitely a red flag. That's definitely a red flag. Yeah, I need I need some type of you gotta get that thing. You gotta get the engine going.

Whit 15:13

Yes. I I actually agree with you on that one. Definitely agree with you on that one.

Twonn 15:17

You gotta get the engine going. Skipping foreplay is like, like, what are you in a rush for? I understand a quickie. You know. Wham bam, thank you, ma'am. I I understand that, but as a quickie, usually not quick, but that foreplay. Gets you right. Gets you right. Makes it a little better for sure. Gotta get them juices flowing. Okay.

Whit 15:42

Lone winged. Okay. All right. Okay, so I guess something that we agree on. Crazy, not often, but uh Wow. Mm-hmm. Uh, talk too much during sex. You want me to say it again? Absolutely not.

Twonn 16:00

Like be a talker. I love be a talker.

Whit 16:04

Too much? Like, what's too much? Too much. Like every just going in. Just yeah, yeah, baby, give it to me. Just like that. Oh, yeah, you got it, Dave. Like, there has to be some type of pause. Like, why why are you talking so much? Why do you want, like, you want me to just talk to you?

Twonn 16:24

Gotta talk me through it.

Whit 16:26

Okay. You understand? Talk me through it, but through the whole, like, am I your am I your your sex coach through the whole thing? It's an instructor. Yes, it's an instructor. The whole encounter?

Twonn 16:38

You're an instructor.

Whit 16:39

Absolutely not. I think in the back of my head, I'd be like, shut the f shut up. Shut up. Like, enough is enough. Because now, someone that talks too much, now they just be saying any goddamn thing. Yeah. And some of the shit sounds stupid. Like, shut up. Just shut up. Shut up. I can't believe you just want somebody to talk to you.

Twonn 17:04

Communication is key. All right. Next question. Communication is key.

Whit 17:11

Communication is key, is crazy. You taking it to a whole nother level, that's for sure. Some talking is okay, but too much talking is absolutely not.

Twonn 17:21

Talking is talking.

Whit 17:22

Um doesn't like to talk about sex in general.

Twonn 17:28

Alright, yeah, that's a that's a red flag.

Whit 17:33

I think at this point is where we need that that uh I have mixed feelings. I'm kind of on the fence.

Twonn 17:41

Doesn't want to talk about sex like at all.

Whit 17:43

Like that is like Yeah, okay, I'll go with a red flag. I can't like not all the time, but you know, some type of, you know.

Twonn 17:50

It doesn't have to be like all the time, but we have to have some type of conversation about some type of intimacy or sex, or what do you like? Or I mean, there's people out here that don't want to talk about it at all. Like they get they start cringing.

Whit 18:07

Yes. I used to be that person.

Twonn 18:10

Really?

Whit 18:10

Yeah. It just kind of like made me feel, I don't know, maybe uncomfortable. But maybe it could be the person I was talking to, or I don't know. But I I would say in the past I've been like that. Like when people want to talk about sex, I kind of just like pull back.

Twonn 18:27

Like, was it like a friend group or it's just like a whole like guys, girls?

Whit 18:31

Um, I think a little bit of both, like somebody that I was dealing with, and then also like, I mean, when we're with girls, girls talk about girl stuff, but I think when you're talking or in a conversation with like the opposite sex, sometimes it can be a little uncomfortable. A little intimidating. Yeah, but I mean, yeah, I I would say like if somebody's in an actual relationship, it's definitely gonna be a red flag. Because like you said, there has to be like some type of you know, communication in regards to sex and what people are looking for, what they want, what's gonna make them happy, what's not gonna make them happy, to see if they're actually compatible, you know?

Twonn 19:06

Yeah, we gotta talk. We gotta we gotta talk, ma. We gotta talk.

Whit 19:09

Gotta talk.

Twonn 19:10

We gotta talk.

Whit 19:11

Okay. Um, I want to say we have one more question. Okay. Ah. Last question. Um pulls out toys during intimacy. I feel good with a green flag. Why are you a red flag? Like I'ma say green flag. We bringing life to the party, baby.

Twonn 19:38

All right, so this is where the whole not talking about don't in the middle of a session. Don't just pull out a big black dick or some or like a fucking vibrator or something. You gotta tell me that my piece ain't hit it like that. Don't just introduce a toy without my approval. Like, I think my approval is definitely needed to pull out a fucking toy out the you know, off the I mean what is she trying to be spontaneous?

Whit 20:13

Y'all be talking about, oh, this, I want to try this, I want to try that. I would say, I would say a yellow flag is good for this because it depends. I'm not saying pull out no big dildo now, I want to put it in your butt or anything of that nature. Of course not. But like, you know, uh, you know, a bullet or something that can kind of spice up the sex.

Twonn 20:34

It has to have, we have to have a conversation before it gets to that point. Of like I could be, I could be open about it. I'm very open about it. Like, uh we we do toys in the bedroom, but don't tell me before it happens. I'm not saying every time, but we have to have that first initial talk to say, yo, are you comfortable with me bringing toys in the bed? Just that one conversation. Then I'll be like, ah, it's either yes or no.

Whit 21:00

So then it depends, like I said, because like you said, it's very important to have that conversation about sex and intimacy. So maybe you already have that conversation about, hey, baby, go to the drawer. You know what to get when I say go to the drawer.

Twonn 21:12

Go to the drawer. Go get my little friend. Go get my little friend.

Whit 21:19

So yeah, I would say, I guess it depends. Like, if you guys already had the conversation, but like you said, don't come out of nowhere, like, you know.

Twonn 21:28

Yeah, just pull out a big black dick and talk about let's have some fun.

Whit 21:31

Like well, yeah, that's a yeah, that's crazy. If a if a guy would be down when she pulls it out, then yeah, that's a red flag. Because what are you into? Are you on the DL? Like, what we doing?

Twonn 21:45

If you're open to Does that make you in the DL? Like, all right. Open to somebody. This is a super side. What you call? If I ask if we we were intimate, we we are life partners, right? If I asked you, hey babe. I was wondering. I wanted to try something new.

Whit 22:08

What you trying?

Twonn 22:10

If I wanted to try something new.

Whit 22:11

As into what? You have to.

Twonn 22:13

Oh, so we gotta go with the details.

Whit 22:15

Yeah, go in the details of what you're trying, and then I'm gonna tell you how I'm judging. As long as I'm I'm doing it with you, should it matter? Yeah.

Twonn 22:22

Hmm.

Whit 22:24

Yeah, it should matter.

Twonn 22:26

But I want to do it with you. So whatever it is, it experiences.

Whit 22:30

But how do I know you ain't did it before with someone else and experienced that pleasure? And now you want me to do something that you did with someone else that probably was maybe, depending on what it is, probably wasn't a female.

Twonn 22:46

I'm just saying. Oh wow, now niggas is gay. All right. I didn't say that.

Whit 22:51

I didn't say that.

Twonn 22:53

Conversation that's gone left, all the way left.

Whit 22:55

I did not say that.

Twonn 22:57

That conversation went all the way left.

Whit 22:59

It depends on what you're asking.

Twonn 23:01

When from having a life partner to that, this nigga might be taking it in the butt.

Whit 23:07

Now, don't say that it's not. People didn't see those red signs before. It's happened. Like it's it's a it's a real life. No, absolutely. Oh, it's happened. Stuff you want to talk about? No, no, no, no. But don't say that this scenario never happened in real life because a lot of women found out that the men were on the D Dale by them, you know, liking certain things.

Twonn 23:29

Oh, okay. Yeah, that's that's why I don't do I don't do butt stuff. No butt stuff.

Whit 23:34

No butt stuff?

Twonn 23:35

No butt stuff. Telling you with your life partner. There's poo that comes out. There's poo that comes out of there. Like, I just can't get over that. It's like it's uh it's connected to the poo hotline. There's poo. It's not like it's ever stopped. There's just infinite shit. All right. Anyway.

Whit 23:54

So you ain't never ate butt?

Twonn 23:55

I gotta anyway.

Whit 24:00

Cut, cut, found in the plate. That's enough with flag us, uh, flag us for not just a flag on the plate. Okay. I mean, we're gonna finish up with uh this episode with I think we got about you know a few more.

Twonn 24:21

So we're gonna keep on the cop the topic of uh sex and relationships. Uh I have a question for you. Um can you tell if the sex or the intimacy is gonna be good by kissing? Absolutely.

Whit 24:39

Yeah, I feel like when you kiss somebody, um that's like a trailer to the main event. So if somebody I'm just saying, if his kisses could get me wet, I know he bringing too. He bringing dick too, for sure.

Twonn 24:58

Okay, yeah. I'm uh I'm not a real, I'm not a big kisser. Like I I love kissing, but I don't give that to everybody, if that kind of makes sense. I'm not a big, like, if I first meet you, oh no, I'm not. You gotta wake work your way up to that that old kissing phase. But yeah, I think I'm really I'm really a great kisser. As you can tell. Yeah. Really a gay kisser.

Whit 25:22

I mean, you ain't I've had some terrible. I feel like if somebody is a like if the kiss is very awkward and sloppy, like you're already turned off. You're not even in the mindset of like, oh, I'm trying to see what you know that dick do. Absolutely not. But if somebody can like really, you know, make you feel a type of way on a kiss, I'm like, I'm trying to see, trying to see what that's like.

Twonn 25:50

So the kisses, kisses, is I've had some terrible kisses lead up to sex, don't they? Most of the time, but sometimes it's like, man, you can tell how bad the sex is gonna be by the kiss, also. Like, I've I've been able to pull that out, like, oh, this is this is gonna be terrible.

Whit 26:12

So you agree. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can tell how the sex is gonna be based off of a kiss.

Twonn 26:18

Terrible.

Whit 26:18

Like I said, it's giving you that trailer. Okay. Um question for you. Uh do you care more about effort or natural skill?

Twonn 26:33

Hey, I love me an eater. A eater. It's like a natural skill. Like a man eater? Man. Here we go. A man eater? It'll change your life.

Whit 26:50

So you eat a few.

Twonn 26:51

I prefer natural skill.

Whit 26:53

Really? I'm gonna go the other route. I'm gonna say effort is a flex. Effort? Okay.

Twonn 27:02

I mean, effort effort is a flex. I ain't gonna lie. Effort is it is a I feel like it's a flex because you can teach someone technique.

Whit 27:11

You definitely can teach somebody technique. I feel like it's good to have natural skill, but sometimes when you have natural skill and you know you got it like that, sometimes you don't feel like there's any room for improvement. You feel like, I got it. I got that.

Twonn 27:26

But there's that guagwak 3,000. And twist with a double.

Whit 27:32

Yeah, oh yeah. But sometimes with that natural skill, it's the saying, yeah, she might have that guag guac 3,000, but that's all you getting. You ain't getting nothing new because that's her skill, that's her skill set.

Twonn 27:42

So you have to have some, you was like a combination of little both, maybe?

Whit 27:47

Yeah. I mean, because if you if you know, if you put forth the effort, if you put forth the effort and someone teaches you the technique, practice makes perfect. I'm just saying.

Twonn 28:01

Okay. I'm just saying.

Whit 28:04

Practice makes perfect.

Twonn 28:05

Sounds good. Alright, so I think this is the last question before we can uh get up out of here. Uh, how long should you wait before being open about what you like?

Whit 28:23

How long you should wait?

Twonn 28:25

How long should you wait until you can be open on what you like?

Whit 28:32

I think it should be As soon as possible. As soon as possible? Immediately. Really? Yeah, I feel like life is too short. Life is too short to play charades in the bedroom. Like, I feel like if you have if you have a preference or you have something that's just kind of like a deal breaker for you, I would like to know that up front so I don't waste my time. Um because there has been someone that I talked to before and he told me like some things that he wanted, and I just felt like, yeah, I don't see myself doing that. And I don't see myself changing to adapt to what that person wants because I feel like that's not me and I'm not gonna do it. Especially like if me and that person is just like talking, we're not really official or anything of that nature. I feel like when I get married, yeah, you know, leave something to somebody's imagination. Or how would it feel if, you know, you want to try something, it's your first time trying something. I'm like, ooh, should I already try that in 92? I mean, not in 92, because you know I was really long. But you get what I'm saying? Like, I already tried that before, so we won't be able to experience anything together because I already did all that. If that makes sense.

Twonn 29:54

Okay, that definitely makes sense. Shouldn't say much. But um, I think I don't think as soon as possible, because that can definitely ruin a vibe. So I think uh between the first couple of sessions that you guys are intimate, um, I don't think you should judge, but you should definitely, hey, I like that thing you did, such and such. But it was a little, it was a little, you was a little trying to get off my balls a little, you know? Just a little, just a little pep talks here and there. Oh, hey, I like the way you did that, such and such. Or even talking about it after. A lot of people would I noticed that they don't talk about the aftermath of, hey yo, last night, man, you did your thing last night.

Whit 30:43

Wouldn't you Yeah, that's what that's what I mean. I mean when I say immediate, like after your first encounter. Like, you know, I'm not saying like oh I thought you on a first date type shit.

Twonn 30:51

No, no, no, like you didn't do that on my first date.

Whit 30:53

Boy bye. I'm talking about like first sexual encounter. Like after that, then I'll be like, hey, you know, that type of thing.

Twonn 31:01

Like you're not just like are you that are you not on the first are you open to like your first sexual encounter? Like, are you like telling before you even get the cookies? You telling him, I like it like this, I want it like that, I want it like that.

Whit 31:13

No, no, no, no, no, no. Oh, like you know, like after you guys been intimate for the first time, you know, sometimes you you lay in there, you having pillow talk. Like you said, you can let somebody know.

Twonn 31:23

So that's when you start telling him, like, hey, you put my hair like that again. Like that. Okay, I got you.

Whit 31:29

Or like if you know when they just didn't there and choke you when you about ready to pass out, like, hey, you know, I like a little choke and choke, but not to the point where my light is flashing before my eyes, like, you know, something like immediately. Because if not, then that person's gonna continue to do something that you do not like, and you're just gonna what keep putting up with it until they feel like you're not into it.

Twonn 31:48

Like until you black out.

Whit 31:49

So I guess I should change my verbiage and be like after you know the first sexual encounter with that person to kind of tell them immediately what you want and what you're looking for, but not on the first date. Like, hey, you know, all I want to be gonna be uh like not that, but yeah.

Twonn 32:07

Okay, Whitney. This is a great episode of a lot of stuff that people don't don't normally talk about. Yes. Uh well, this is our sex, um this is a sex episode, which is crazy because you got me to, you know. Yeah, she honestly she don't she don't like to talk about none of this stuff, so there's I'm I'm proud of you.

Whit 32:34

Thank you. I'm proud growth, baby. Like I said, effort. Effort is my flex, baby. It's my flex. Keep playing with me. I'm gonna be a professional when it comes to talking about sex.

Twonn 32:47

Oh yeah. All right, anyway, we're gonna hit this fucking conversation now. All right, this is flag us. I'm Twan. I'm with and this is flag us. Flag Us. You say oh yeah?

Whit 33:05

You got me out here talking about sex now. I'm hot and heavy.

Twonn 33:08

You hot and heavy? We could dish these fucking microphones and delivering dick.

Whit 33:13

You taking dick? Oh, most definitely. You want me bent over this share? Come on.

Twonn 33:19

Let's get the fuck up out of here.