Mom Vs Wife 🚩✅

Welcome back to the Flag Us Podcast 🚩💚 where we break down real relationships, real situations, and the truth behind green flags vs red flags.

In this episode, we dive into one of the most talked-about topics in modern dating — recognizing toxic behaviors, understanding relationship standards, and knowing when something is a RED FLAG or a GREEN FLAG.

Too many people ignore the signs until it’s too late… so we’re calling it out.

Is this behavior acceptable?
Is it a deal breaker?
Or are people just overreacting?

We keep it real, unfiltered, and honest — because relationships today are different, and somebody has to say it.

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Is this a 🚩 RED FLAG or a 💚 GREEN FLAG?

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Transcript

Whitney 0:01

The world. He's such a baby, y'all.

Twonn 0:11

When I'm sick, is you do the mother money.

Whitney 0:15

That's why I give you a little do say so you do what I say.

Twonn 0:34

And welcome back to Flag Us, uh, the podcast where uh we like to uh dig into a lot of our red flags. Uh I'm starting to think red flags are like actually green flags, because all of our red flags um videos are going viral, and none of the green flags are like nobody's even touching any green flags. So it's just like, are we always so negative?

Whitney 1:02

Well, I don't know what to tell you because you remember I'm blind to red flags. That's what you said. I'm blind to red flags.

Twonn 1:09

So Whitney, Whitney is uh colorblind, so she's colorblind to red flags, so they're basically white flags. But yeah. Welcome back to Flag Us. Uh hi, Whitney.

Whitney 1:20

Hi, Twan.

Twonn 1:21

What's up?

Whitney 1:23

I'm big chilling.

Twonn 1:24

You're big chillin'? All right, that's what's up. Uh, how was your week?

Whitney 1:27

Uh, my week was good. Um, work, a lot of work. I did a lot of work. Uh, we had corporate visits and stuff like that. So it was a lot of like mentally preparing myself to deliver, you know, what I do in the workplace.

Twonn 1:38

Uh, you peeped any any uh red flags that you want to share for the week?

Whitney 1:42

Oh, well, yeah, because during the week, um, let's see, I would have to say a red flag that I peek game on. Um, I guess I gotta be careful with my words being that. Be very careful with your words. Watch our podcast. But I would say uh someone who does the bare minimum, but take credit, the full credit for everything.

Twonn 2:09

Interesting. Interesting.

Whitney 2:11

I saw some of that and I definitely wanted to throat punch.

Twonn 2:15

It's not a throat punch.

Whitney 2:16

Throat punch somebody. Hadoogit. Get over here. One of those for sure. Definitely for sure. Um, but yeah, I'ma I'ma I'ma leave it at that. I'm sure if my co-workers are watching, they know who it is.

Twonn 2:29

Okay, okay, okay. Uh leave it at that. Red flag I seen for the week. Uh the left lane is for people with ticket money. If you don't have ticket money, stay the hell out the left lane. Like 10, 20, 30 miles over the speed limit. If the speed limit is 70, I'm able to go 100 in the left lane. Get out of the left lane. That's the red flags I've seen. People go in that left lane and they just slow down, and that's not the lane for it.

Whitney 3:03

So you mean tell me you're going 100 miles on the 35?

Twonn 3:09

Uh, who doesn't?

Whitney 3:11

Absolutely not. Oh, you definitely, you, you know, you're right. You got ticket money. You got ticket money.

Twonn 3:16

Ticket money. That's what the left lane is for, ticket money.

Whitney 3:18

And I do, I I get you on that aspect, but you know, I think the route you take, sometimes you gotta slow down. I mean, if it's wide open and by all the things. Exactly, exactly.

Twonn 3:30

We come on, come on, let's go, let's go, let's go. Okay, um, this is our fourth episode. It's going pretty good. What do you think?

Whitney 3:39

I think we're doing we're doing our thug thizzle.

Twonn 3:41

Okay, that's what's up. I I kind of like this whole niche we got going on uh with the red flags. Like I said, nobody likes green flags. Is nobody more nobody's positive anymore?

Whitney 3:53

Because everybody needs a little toxicity in their life. Or it's gonna be boring. What if we were just like a perfect couple?

Twonn 4:03

Would you I would be bored out of my freaking mind.

Whitney 4:07

Like exactly. I keep him on his toes, y'all. I'm on his toes.

Twonn 4:12

Don't have any more toes. What are you talking about? Don't have any more toes. I don't have toes. He has toes. I got nubs.

Whitney 4:20

He has toes for sure. Okay. Not very cute, but you have to.

Twonn 4:24

Um so the name of this episode is gonna be Mom versus Wife. Mom versus wife. So oh man, I could tell. You're gonna have to go. I'm gonna have to call my mom and apologize.

Whitney 4:40

Yeah, so this is gonna be uh mom versus wife. Uh I'm gonna be putting Tuan in the hot seat. I wanna see if he's a true red flag or a green flag because he's able to balance between his mom and his boot.

Twonn 4:59

I'm just a flag. Why I gotta be, why we gotta, why we gotta pick red or green? I'm just a flag.

Whitney 5:04

No, this what is it called? Flag us. You see the red and green flags? We gonna stay true to ourselves. And before I say, you know, if that time comes and I say I do, I need to know what I'm getting into. So I need to see if my man is a mama's boy. I need to see where your loyalty lies, where it truly lies. Wow. So let's see if Twan survives this episode.

Twonn 5:32

This is a red flag.

Whitney 5:34

Is it?

Twonn 5:34

This is a red flag.

Whitney 5:36

I just have questions.

Twonn 5:36

You're trying to put me against my mom, but alright.

Whitney 5:39

I'm just trying to seek to understand.

Twonn 5:41

Fire away. Pull the trigger.

Whitney 5:43

So, first question I have for you. Are you ready? Do you need time? Do you need some coffee?

Twonn 5:49

No, no, no, no. I'm gonna sit my coffee and then go ahead. Give it to me. No, no, go ahead, go ahead.

Whitney 5:55

All right. So if your mom disrespects your wife, do you check your mom or tell your wife to chill?

Twonn 6:05

Mmm. Okay, okay. Um, I kind of do the the both. So I might have to, you know, put my mom on ice. Like, yo, you know, this is my wife, uh, you gotta chill out. I might even have to tell my wife, yo, this is my mom, you gotta chill out. All right, let me check. And you know, sometimes you gotta check. I think checking both of them is kind of like the idea situation without being uh picking sides because I just can't pick side because my mom might say something crazy. That's my mom. Like, come on, it's my mom.

Whitney 6:46

Okay.

Twonn 6:48

Trying to be I'm trying to be politically correct right now.

Whitney 6:51

Clearly. You're trying to, he's trying to have the safe pick.

Twonn 6:55

He said my mama mutual.

Whitney 6:58

So, okay. I mean, I I get that. It it depends on you know what's what's said.

Twonn 7:02

It depends on the level of disrespect. But if it's just outright disrespect, nah, somebody gotta get checked. Somebody gotta get checked. Either somebody gotta pump their brakes or somebody gotta get checked.

Whitney 7:11

No, okay. You off to a good style.

Twonn 7:15

Ah, let's go.

Whitney 7:16

He might be a keeper, okay. I might throw, let me throw you a curveball. Who sits in the front seat when both of them request it? Who sits in the front seat? In the front seat, so.

Twonn 7:31

If y'all both requests to sit in the front seat. I'm not driving. I'm not driving. I'm not driving. Like, who you supposed to be? Oh, you definitely picking the same route. I'm not driving. I'm not driving. Okay. All right, alright, right up. But if I had to pick, I would have to, I would. I'm sorry, mom. I would have to pick my wife.

Whitney 7:58

Aww.

Twonn 8:00

I would have to pick my wife to sit in the front seat with me. Because I know my mom's gonna go that way. Do this, do that. And I'm gonna have to, if you don't that that passenger side driving, I know my mom does that. Okay.

Whitney 8:15

And as your wife, I would definitely take one for the team.

Twonn 8:18

You would sit in the back seat? No.

Whitney 8:21

No, I will open the door for your mom to sit in the back seat. I wouldn't allow you to pick. You know, I'll definitely open the door for her and help her in there. I even buckle her in if I need to. But um, I wouldn't put that on you. I wouldn't, you know, but nah, I'm joking. Um, I I would I would definitely say it would have to be like, it depends on the relationship you carry with your mother-in-law. Like, I like your mom. So I wouldn't mind sitting in the back. My mom's a real one. That's why. She is. I I actually like your mom. But if I had tension between me and your mom, oh no, she's getting in the back. I don't care.

Twonn 8:57

Would you tell her that in her face?

Whitney 8:58

I I most definitely will. Ma'am, let me help you, like, especially if there's already tension and we already going at it. Like, we already beefing.

Twonn 9:06

Like, I wouldn't say the worst thing to do to break up a fight between your wife and your mom.

Whitney 9:11

Yeah, or I wouldn't go. But like you said, if you want your mama to sit in the front so bad, then you sit in the back. But again, I I think it definitely depends on the relationship that you know.

Twonn 9:20

I think you would just be like, if I chose my mom to sit in the front seat, I think you would you be like, oh, so you fucking your mom tonight.

Whitney 9:27

No, no, I just I it just like I said, it depends on the situation. I just won't go. Okay, y'all, y'all have fun.

Twonn 9:33

So we in the middle of nowhere, and then you just you know hate.

Whitney 9:36

My father's Uber.

Twonn 9:37

Oh wow.

Whitney 9:38

You know, I got friends. I got friends that would pick me up.

Twonn 9:40

I bet you do. Do you have a friend that will pick you up? I bet you do have friends that'll pick come pick you up.

Whitney 9:46

All right, okay. You play this safe on that one. Wow, you know. I wouldn't put that on you.

Twonn 9:55

You would put it on me.

Whitney 9:56

I got you. Oh no, Miss Winfrey, come on back here. I got you. But nah, I like your mom. So I definitely I definitely wouldn't mind sitting in the backseat. I'll I'll let her on that, you know. Depending on how far we're going. If it's a road trip and this is in a few hours, we're gonna have to alternate for sure. But anyway, let's get to the next question.

Twonn 10:18

A lot of smoke for my mom this uh this uh episode, man.

Whitney 10:22

I do apologize in advance. People want the red flags. We gotta give them what they want. Okay, so hmm.

Twonn 10:33

I got a red flag for you though. A question since you want to talk about my mom. What if my mom didn't like you? Like, what if my mom does not like you? And I'm saying as like, what if she just came and like, I don't like you for my son, I don't like what would you do if my mom came to you and told you, I don't like you for my son.

Whitney 10:57

I would hit her with a I'm not dating you, I'm dating your son, and it's his decision on who he wants to be with. Because at the end of the day, ma'am, I don't have to deal with you. I mean, I have to deal with you to a certain point, but if that was the case, I wouldn't put myself in that situation. You wouldn't see me at any family functions. Like, you'd be solo dolo. See you when you get home, babe. But yeah, I'm not I'm not here to to fight your mom for your love. Like, you're supposed to fight everybody for my love. No, because I already got it. And if I gotta fight for it, like if you're giving your attention or you're giving your loyalty to somebody else, then your loyalty is not with me. So I need to find somebody who's gonna put me first.

Twonn 11:40

But how do you but how do you be loyal? Like, this is this is not a regular woman. I've came out of this woman. So you can't put that whole aspect of oh, you need to be loyal to me.

Whitney 11:52

It's not that, is that yes, your mother raised you, but at the end of the day, she gave you your wings to fly on and be your own man, correct?

Twonn 12:02

Right.

Whitney 12:02

So do you need your mom every step of the way?

Twonn 12:06

Um, no, I do not. I do not need my mom. And I'm not a mama's boy, but my mom is my mom. And I'm that is like my first love. So to choose between the two, even as a girlfriend, as you step up through the ranks of friend, girlfriend, wife, it's like honestly, seeing how you treat my mom is also a big thing.

Whitney 12:31

But I, you know, I give people their flowers where flowers is due. I give respect where respect is due. Okay. Now, if your mom comes at me sideway and she has no reason to come at me sideways, then I'm gonna reciprocate that energy and it's just gonna be tension. But like I said, I have no issues with your mama.

Twonn 12:46

Okay.

Whitney 12:47

Me and your mama get we get along. Beautiful things. Yes, yes. But there's gonna be situations where people just don't get along with their mother-in-law, and it's because they feel like nobody is good enough for their son. But that's not their decision to make. They can have their own opinion, but their son is a man and he makes his own choices, whether they're good or bad. She just has to be there to pick up the pieces.

Twonn 13:13

But I've but I've also heard uh women who say, Oh, he doesn't have a good relationship with his mom. Or if I've heard I've also heard this, this is the craziest thing. A woman says she won't date a man unless he doesn't, unless his mom is dead or his sisters are dead, and like she has she don't want no type of female, like uh, because she's crazy.

Whitney 13:40

Something is really wrong with her. There's a few screws loose in the head where she feels like she has to be the only female in her man's life. That's crazy.

Twonn 13:50

That is crazy. Like, for you to say, oh no, I don't date men with moms is crazy.

Whitney 13:55

That's probably like a type of woman that locks her man up in the basement and he can only come out when she's present. Like, what?

Twonn 14:03

Or unscrew the pole. You know what I mean? You can't go outside with this. You can't go outside with this pole. This is mine.

Whitney 14:10

Oh my goodness. Okay. Uh, next question. Uh, if your wife makes dinner plans and your mom needs you last minute, who are you choosing?

Twonn 14:21

Hmm. It's I'm not I'm not even gonna believe on this one. If my mom really needs me, I'm going to my mom. I can always reschedule dinner plans with you. Like, but if my mom said, Oh, yeah, I need you here, such and such, I gotta break that off with you. I'm hopefully you can understand, but I need to go to my mom's, if especially if it's an emergency, oh son, I need you here. If I find out it's not an emergency, oh yeah, there's smoke. Oh, there's there's a lot of smoke between my me and my mom. But I for that one, I'm definitely choosing my mom.

Whitney 14:54

Okay. I I definitely say it depends on the situation now. She calls you last night and be like, son, I need you to change this light bulb. Yeah, there's smoke. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She probably wants to. If it's like an emergency, oh, I'm going with you. Like we're going to be.

Twonn 15:05

To make sure it's my mom.

Whitney 15:08

Huh?

Twonn 15:11

Anyway.

Whitney 15:17

You know me so well. I guess in the three years we've been together, you know a little so. You know, I just wanna, I just wanna um, you know, check out the scenery. But yeah, if it's an emergency, I'm I'm I'm good with counseling. If it's uh, I need you to cut my yard or I need you to plug or you know, screw in a light bulb, like mama, you're gonna have to wait. You're gonna have to wait on that one, but okay, you know, depending on the situation. Okay, so this is this might hit home for a few people, um but do you call and vent to your mom about your wife when you guys get in an argument?

Twonn 15:59

That's a very good question. Um I do not. Um venting, no. Ask advice, yes. I do ask my mom for advice on like certain situations. My mom's been married to my dad for almost 20 something, almost maybe even 30 years. So her insight on, you know, trying to get through certain situations, I appreciate her um like her outlook on love and oh, stay with this person, stay with that person. But as far as venting, absolutely not.

Whitney 16:36

And do you feel like there's men out there that vent? And if they do vent, what impact do you think that causes on somebody's relationship?

Twonn 16:44

Um, the mom can definitely resent either the wife, the girlfriend. That's where's that whole aspect of uh I don't like you for my son. Oh, I don't like you for my son. You trifling whore, or she might come up with a little something crazy. But yeah, I don't think you should ever vent to your mom about your significant other. I think that's definitely a red flag.

Whitney 17:09

I definitely think it's a red flag. Cause too, like you're going to your mom and you're talking about your wife about certain things. And what happens when there's like an argument? She slips up and says, Yeah, some of you.

Twonn 17:19

You trifling, you trifling heifer.

Whitney 17:23

Yeah, it can definitely be like, so you talking to your mama about me, but also that can definitely impact the relationship because now there's kind of like your mom has a one-side story to you know the situation and not really hearing the other person out. So she's gonna go based off what her son is saying.

Twonn 17:40

Yeah, nobody wants nobody wants to know that their son is a F boy or like a like, oh, once you hear like the woman's side, you like you start looking at the son kind of crazy, like you didn't tell me that.

Whitney 17:54

And you done already built up this whole scenario and how she ain't and ain't gonna be and ain't good for her son because of what he's saying.

Twonn 18:04

Trifling, whatever, whatever.

Whitney 18:06

Don't vent to your mama about us women, okay?

Twonn 18:11

Don't do it.

Whitney 18:13

Talk to your therapist, talk to your friend, talk to anybody but your mama, okay?

Twonn 18:17

Talk to your mama. Don't talk to your mama. Can you talk to your dad? Yeah, I think you can talk to your dad. I think that's a better uh understanding. Like, my dad probably knows, like, he's probably. Oh, like for the man to talk to his father.

Whitney 18:33

Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. I can see that. I can see.

Twonn 18:35

But yeah, I don't think it's cool to talk to you because your mama, your mama. A set of blaze. Yeah, your mama, a set of blaze. She'll probably pull up with your job. My mama definitely pull up at your job with the smoke too.

Whitney 18:50

Oh my goodness. Actually, when your mom pulls up to my job, she's very well behaved. I love your mama. Okay, all right. Okay, so alright, here's one. Okay, so your mom expects you to be at her house for holiday dinners, functions, but your wife decides she wants to start her own family tradition and have things at your house. Uh where are you going?

Twonn 19:20

Um, so if my wife decides to, she wants to start doing things at home, I would have to stay home. Like my mom, uh my mom would understand, hopefully, my mom would understand that I would have to, like, listen, I have a I have a whole family that I mean I think she would understand. You got those mamas who probably wouldn't like you because, oh, you breaking tradition. He comes over here, he's been coming over here for 20-some years.

Whitney 19:52

Yeah.

Twonn 19:53

But uh, I think my mom would understand, and then she would encourage, she would definitely encourage your tradition. She probably wouldn't like it. She probably wouldn't like what you got going on, but yeah, you ain't cooking turkey for Thanksgiving. You cooking fish? There's no turkey here, type situation. Yeah.

Whitney 20:19

Then she'd be like, Yeah. Okay, so if they okay, I would say, so like if they both had like your mom's like, okay, you know, that's fine, you stay home. Would you make time to like maybe go over there later? Absolutely. Absolutely.

Twonn 20:33

Absolutely, I'll dip off, you know. I'll dip off, go see my mom. Or we could dip off after, you know, after we done settled down, we done did our little tradition thing, and then I will go see my mom, go see the family and all that. Because usually the family's always over there.

Whitney 20:48

You might be a keeper, y'all.

Twonn 20:50

Man, I am a keeper, man. You might be a keeper. I told you my my red flags, you colorblind.

Whitney 20:56

Who colorblind? You colorblind. Actually, I can the shirt you got on is blue.

Twonn 21:00

It's not really blue, it's Nipsey blue, but alright, cool.

Whitney 21:04

Oh, Nipsey blue. So there's a color out there called Nipsey blue.

Twonn 21:07

There is a color. It's Jay-Z blue, there's Nipsey blue.

Whitney 21:10

Okay, so now we just play blue colors with celebrities. I'm sure they wasn't thought of when that color was invented.

Twonn 21:20

It's the only color now.

Whitney 21:22

Okay. All right. All right, so um, actually, I think it's time for flag on the play.

Twonn 21:31

Oh, we love flag on the play.

Whitney 21:32

Flag on the play. Okay, let's see.

Twonn 21:34

We love flag on the play.

Whitney 21:36

Let's do it. I think today we're gonna do a little bit different. So it's gonna be flag on the play, but it's gonna be like um, what is it like?

Twonn 21:44

On your truth. Okay, on your truth, flag on the play. Okay.

Whitney 21:48

Yeah, so I'm gonna kind of like, I'm going to read off a few questions. And this is kind of gonna be about us.

Twonn 21:56

Okay. So this is a personal, personal.

Whitney 21:58

We're gonna see if we're on the same page. So I'm gonna say a question, you're gonna say whether it's me or whether it's yourself. Okay.

Twonn 22:04

And we're gonna see if we can kind of okay if we're on the same page. Okay. All right. Uh if you guys are listening on auto or uh audio, um, we are on YouTube. Uh we are on Spotify if you want to watch the video. So we will be pointing at each other really hard. All right, but go ahead, shoot. All right, so um I don't even like the way you look at me by the time we I think my eyes is getting a little blurry.

Whitney 22:36

I can't really read the question. Um, it says, who's most likely to start an argument over nothing? It's definitely gonna be me. Sir, why is this pencil on the floor? Who put the pencil on the floor? Definitely me.

Twonn 22:54

I definitely start you'll definitely say some wild shit. Like, yo, who who put this paint on the wall? Why is there paint on the wall? Why is there paint on the wall? Why is there a ceiling fan on the ceiling?

Whitney 23:05

Who does that? Who does that? Uh yeah, definitely me. Like I said, I gotta keep him on his toes. I gotta keep him, you know, I gotta keep the life in our relationship. So, yes, I I'm with you on that one. I definitely start arguments over nothing, and I keep him going for a little bit. Um, who spends more money on unnecessary stuff?

Twonn 23:32

It's not unnecessary.

Whitney 23:34

It you just be spending.

Twonn 23:35

It's not unnecessary. You just be spending, like I always it's always necessary.

Whitney 23:39

It's not necessary. You just you get what you want and not what you get what you need, but majority of what you want.

Twonn 23:46

And sometimes it's like you know what it is with that is it takes me so long to find something that I actually want. So one of the time by the time I I I uh I want to buy it, oh I don't even look at the price. Like it takes me that long to just be like, oh I'll finally I'll I'll find something I want. I'm gonna just buy it. Just buy it. Don't look at the price, just buy the shit. Definitely buying stuff.

Whitney 24:18

Just be buying stuff. Uh who's more dramatic when sick? The biggest baby. So what? In the world. I'm I'm more emotional vulnerable.

Twonn 24:36

Hey, don't be telling me different my secrets in my truth.

Whitney 24:40

He's such a baby, y'all.

Twonn 24:42

Don't tell people my truth. When I'm sick, it's like, yo, the world is coming to an end. Like, I just might pass away. I just might pass away. Like being sick. Like, you don't understand how vulnerable and how I've never, as a man, I'm never that vulnerable. So I do want to be babied. I do want to be hell. I want to be pampered.

Whitney 25:03

You facts.

Twonn 25:06

But then when I'm back on my feet, it's like, ah, let me get back in the gym. Let me get back. Let me get back to the movie. Oh my god.

Whitney 25:11

Facts. Yes. It's cute though. It's really cute. I get to be the nurturing person that I am. Okay. So uh this. Oh my goodness. Okay. Um who's more stubborn about directions?

Twonn 25:30

Look, we used to be on the same page. We are. We definitely.

Whitney 25:33

It's I hate being lost. I hate being, oh shoot, wrong turn. We gotta turn back. I hate it.

Twonn 25:42

You know what's a red flag with you that I don't like? Is the fact that you don't know streets, you don't know highways. You be like, oh, I'm by the What? Where?

Whitney 25:53

The one next to the tree. Right next to the tree across from the pawn shop.

Twonn 25:57

Like, yo, my G, like, yo, where are you on the map? Where are you on the map?

Whitney 26:05

Like, he's like, what freeway do you take? I don't know. I go that way.

Twonn 26:10

She don't know north, south, west. She just knows she's under a tree next to a water burger across from the pawn shop. Crazy work.

Whitney 26:20

Definitely. I do my directions based off scenery. So like if I'm going, I'm like, okay, I see a McDonald's, that means the next exit, I need to get off. Yeah, so don't ask me for no directions.

Twonn 26:31

I'm not I gotta know streets, I gotta know intersections.

Whitney 26:34

Oh my god.

Twonn 26:35

I gotta know I know all of that.

Whitney 26:38

I definitely don't know a street highway. Couldn't even help you. Um the next question is who's funnier when drunk?

Twonn 26:54

I'm gonna have to give that to you.

Whitney 26:56

I definitely gotta give that to you. I gotta give that to you.

Twonn 26:59

Yo, because you don't you don't drink. So it's like it's so funny when you do drink. Nah, I definitely have to give it to you. Why why you gotta give it to me?

Whitney 27:11

What did I do that was that was the one time we got literally, you were drunk, okay? You had so much to drink, and I think we got in a disagreement on the way home. Mm-hmm. And you asked me to pull over because you needed to pee. Okay. So I pulled over, pulled the car over. Little, this we on a dark street. I think we was coming from Kleen. We was definitely coming from Kleen. Dark street pulled over, and you get out and you pee. You use the restroom. You got back in the car, and I'm on the road and I'm driving a little bit, and you was like, bae. And I'm already mad at you. I'm mad at you, mad as heck. Like, we already got an argument. I don't want to talk to you, I don't want to hear nothing from you. And you was like, bae, babe. And I was like, what, Twine? He said, I think I left my dick outside. What? I was trying so hard not to laugh. And then I didn't even I didn't even answer you. I'm just still driving. He said, Babe, did you hear what I said? I think I left my dick outside. How?

Twonn 28:17

All right, I get it.

Whitney 28:19

I was like, what the? And then you start laughing, like laughing. And the whole time you was just like, look in the real, like, I think I left my. No, you didn't.

Twonn 28:32

Alright.

Whitney 28:32

I'm sure you didn't leave your dick outside, for sure. I was weak. Oh my God. I literally told some of my co-workers everybody was on the floor. Everybody was on the floor. So I'm definitely gonna say it has to. Because what have I done while I was drunk?

Twonn 28:46

Um, it's just that you don't know how to handle your alcohol. Well, you're not, you're, you're a lightweight. I will call you a lightweight. I handle alcohol already. No, yo, you are the funniest when you because you don't know how to walk. I don't know how to walk. At all, at all. And I mean like a drop. I could be five. It could be, you know what they did, Don Julio? It could be like five drips of Don Julio. This girl over here.

Whitney 29:13

Absolutely not. I just be a little light-headed. You know, I'm feeling myself.

Twonn 29:18

It's cute though, because you don't drink, so you get past.

Whitney 29:21

Whatever. You you take you take the you're gonna take it on that one. Uh let's see. Next question. Spend more time on social media.

Twonn 29:31

I think that is you.

Whitney 29:32

No.

Twonn 29:33

I think that is you. It's definitely you. I think it's you. You send me you send me more reels than anything. I'm on social because I gotta do the podcast and I'm doing like a lot of.

Whitney 29:43

You think it's me? You send me a reel, and when you send me a reel, I'll just squirrel up, squirrel up, and then I'll see something and I'll send it to you. I don't, I'd be on Candy Crush. I don't mind.

Twonn 29:53

So, so alright, alright. So, so, alright. When you be going to sleep, I'll get off the phone with you. Oh, hey, babe, I'm going to bed. It be 10 o'clock. 10 o'clock. What time do you go to bed, Whitney? 12 o'clock. Cause why?

Whitney 30:11

I'm on Candy Crush.

Twonn 30:12

You ain't on Candy Crush. Yes, I am. You're scrolling.

Whitney 30:14

No, I'm on Candy Crush. I'm on Candy Crush. I'm on Candy Crush. Do you know how far I am on Candy Crush?

Twonn 30:21

First of all, Candy Crush rehab. This one, please. What what what level are you on, Candy Crush? Let me check.

Whitney 30:31

Let's see here.

Twonn 30:34

It gotta be like 6,000. Level 6. I didn't even know Candy Crush go that fucking far.

Whitney 30:39

6,000? No, sir. I'm on level 9,900.

Twonn 30:47

9,900?

Whitney 30:48

And counting. And it's because it's these late nights on Candy Crush. So you the social media king. I am Candy Crush Queen.

Twonn 30:57

So that level 9,000 is crazy. Alright, I'll take that. I'll take that. And counting. And counting. Alright, I'll take that charge. But I gotta be social. Everybody, you gotta be social on social media. Like what I don't like about social media, and I kind of just don't understand it, is why nobody likes they're just they're just watching. Everybody's watching. Watching.

Whitney 31:20

Everybody's nosy. Everybody's watching.

Twonn 31:23

They don't like nothing. They won't, they, but they watch. I'm always every time I go, uh post something on like on on our Insta or whatever. The first three people is always the haters. Like they set the alarm for uh when these people are gonna post. And they and they we got one like one time from one person, but I think they unliked it.

Whitney 31:45

They they did it on they did it on accident.

Twonn 31:48

Yeah, because I got the alert and then you won't crazy. Crazy.

Whitney 31:58

I'm guilty of that. I don't mean the likes of this. And sometimes I'm like, should I leave it? Don't you take your like back then? Yeah.

Twonn 32:04

Yo, you're definitely a red flag. Because I didn't mean to like some like back.

Whitney 32:10

Because it wasn't meant to be liked.

Twonn 32:12

Oh, that's crazy. I took it off. All right.

Whitney 32:14

And I'll be and I'd be hesitating sometimes because, like you said, it sends it a notification. I was just like, well, hopefully they get a lot more before they notice that I wow.

Twonn 32:23

They just waiting for your like. Yeah, you just wait for your like.

Whitney 32:28

Okay, uh, ooh. Who leaves dishes in the sink more often?

Twonn 32:35

I don't wash dishes. I pay bills. I don't wash dishes.

Whitney 32:39

Not a darn dish.

Twonn 32:40

I don't wash dishes. I pay bills.

Whitney 32:42

Not a dish. And not only that, you when you go to work, and sometimes like if you take stuff out of your little lunch panel you left in your car, when you clean out your car, you just take all the dishes and you just set them in the sink. And then you walk off.

Twonn 32:54

Yeah.

Whitney 32:55

And then, yeah, no. I'll take that charge. No, I don't do dishes. Not a not a dish.

Twonn 33:02

I don't think I don't think men should do dishes. I think I graduated. And that's my we go back to my mama. She made me wash dishes so much as I became a man. I'ma pay somebody to do this. Nah, I'll pay bills now. She ain't wash dishes, not a wash dishes.

Whitney 33:16

And you know what? And it's preferred him not wash dishes because every time he takes one for the team and he be like, you know what today? I'm just gonna wash the dishes. You gotta hear about it. Better not better not put no cup in that sink. They better not put no fork in that sink. Not nothing. But he can go in there and put whatever he wants. But let him take one for the team and do a dish for the day. I just wash these dishes. I just cleaned this kid. Yeah, no. Mm-mm. We prefer him to, you know, stay out the kitchen. In all aspects. Alright. Um, who's more likely to hold a grudge? I'm gonna say that's gonna be me.

Twonn 33:54

Petty. Petty Betty over here. Petty Betty over here.

Whitney 33:57

Okay, not too much.

Twonn 33:59

Petty Betty. I gotta sit here and try to butter you up. I gotta be on like a comedic, so I gotta try to lighten you up.

Whitney 34:05

Next question. Uh who's more spontaneous versus boring? I'll take the boring charge.

Twonn 34:18

Okay, I was uh okay, okay. You being truthful. Okay, I like the city. Oh, you was late with me.

Whitney 34:24

Okay. I'm definitely a homebody. I'm more boring. Tawan gotta drag me out the house on several occasions.

Twonn 34:31

I gotta get out of the house. I'm an outside kid. I'm an outside, well, I'm not a kid, but I'm an outside kind of guy. Like my mama, I was always outside. So now that, you know, I'm not saying like I gotta be out, but it's always with family or I gotta do something with you or something. I ain't saying I gotta go outside. I don't party, I don't club and all that stuff. But other than that, let's go outside. Let's go get some of this free air.

Whitney 34:55

I like to be in the comfort of my home. My own home.

Twonn 34:58

Your own home.

Whitney 34:59

My own home. Yeah, like I, as a kid, yeah, I was outdoors, but I think like the world just got crazy. Yeah. I see too much crazy stuff. Um, even like with my kids, like I limit the amount of time, even though I they need to be outside and be off the phones and stuff, but sometimes it's scary out there. You know, you just don't want to see a kid in harm for their very shelter.

Twonn 35:21

It's 10 o'clock. Do you know where that's my favorite? My mom already know where the hell I was at.

Whitney 35:33

Oh, okay. This is gonna be the last question of Flag Us on your truth. Um, who's more likely to binge watch a show without the other? I think it's both of us. I'll watch it without you. I binge watch a lot of shows. Sometimes you binge watch some shows that was my shows. Like, what was that? Uh uh can't even name it. Yes, it is. The mayor of Kingstown. That was my show first. When it got to like the third episode, I had to watch parts of it because you just that was the third season.

Twonn 36:13

I think it's a bit of a chance. Third season. Third season. Yes.

Whitney 36:15

That's crazy. How is it your show?

Twonn 36:17

I caught up.

Whitney 36:18

You did catch up because I was waiting, and then you proceeded to keep going. So I was already season one and season two through. Season three came, like I came and walked in the room and you were already halfway through season three.

Twonn 36:30

First of all, this is not our this don't turn into our show.

Whitney 36:35

First, it was my show. It was my show. That was my show.

Twonn 36:37

It didn't turn into our show. But it's my show. But it doesn't turn into our show. It does not turn into our show. Because you watched it.

Whitney 36:44

It was my show.

Twonn 36:45

You didn't even tell me about it. I had to learn about it from some way.

Whitney 36:49

You don't ever listen to me when I tell you about show.

Twonn 36:52

You don't listen to me.

Whitney 36:53

I told you about uh the what was it? The oil. What's that show called?

Twonn 37:00

Uh, I know what you're talking about with Billy Bob Thornton.

Whitney 37:02

Yes. I told you about that when you disregarded the whole thing now of a sudden. I was already watching something. Yeah, whatever. You know what? Let's just get off this topic before I have to fight you on this podcast. Anywho, you know what? We're gonna wrap it up.

Twonn 37:18

All right, that was a good uh No no no no.

Whitney 37:20

We got one more question. We we're gonna wrap it up with this last question and then you know we'll get to our little conclusion. Okay. Um, last question. Okay. Um when you get married, so when we get married, I'm gonna say that because I'm gonna put me in there when we heard me. When we get married, do you feel that I come before everything? Or that's just something that people say. Like when people say, like, oh, when you get married, your wife becomes or your wife comes before anything. Do you think that's an accurate statement or do you think a cat just I think that's a cat?

Twonn 37:56

I think that's a cat. I can't put you before everything. Everything is a lot. That is a that's a that's a lot.

Whitney 38:06

So I mean nothing to you.

Twonn 38:08

I didn't say that neither.

Whitney 38:10

That's what you're saying. You don't like me?

Twonn 38:11

I didn't say that either. I said everything is a lot. So, I mean, you do definitely come before, you know, a lot, but everything is a is a kind of a push. Like, it's certain things that I'm like, I gotta go handle. If you need me, I'm there, but you can't come before everything. I'm not even gonna sell you that dream of, yeah, yeah, you come before everything. You my everything. Nah, I'm not gonna sell you that dream, girl. I'm not gonna sell that.

Whitney 38:38

No, I understand that. Yeah. Definitely can't be everything, but majority of the things I need to be a priority.

Twonn 38:45

Yeah, all right, whatever. But I don't even believe in that happy life, happy wife. What? That's a that's the that's I think a woman came up with that saying, happy wife, happy life. No.

Whitney 38:57

Do you feel when I'm happy your day goes a whole lot better?

Twonn 39:00

No, absolutely not. Absolutely not. You know what I had to do to get there? I'm miserable as hell.

Whitney 39:09

Cap. I call this cap.

Twonn 39:11

Miserable as hell.

Whitney 39:12

I call his cap.

Twonn 39:14

That would make me miserable. To make you happy all day.

Whitney 39:17

No, I'm saying if when I'm happy, when I'm happy, like just on any given day, is your day better? But if I'm upset, and I'm not even upset at you. All right, all right, all right.

Twonn 39:26

Is your day like I'm saying, I'm saying if I gotta make you happy all the time, that means I'm happy whether you make me happy or not.

Whitney 39:33

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Twonn 39:34

But you have your own happiness is make if whatever you happens and makes you happy is cool. But the fact that if I have to sit there and make you happy all the time would drive me fucking crazy. So that's saying happy wife, happy life is a is it's it came from a woman. It had to come from a woman. And it was very selfish. Happy spouse. Happy house.

Whitney 39:57

Happy house. Oh no.

Twonn 39:58

Bars.

Whitney 39:59

So I guess if both of us are happy, then that makes a smooth.

Twonn 40:02

Yeah, a smooth transition from anything and everything.

Whitney 40:09

I hear you. Alright, y'all. That was our fourth episode of Flaggus.

Twonn 40:14

Ooh, four down, four down, baby. Let's go, let's go. We're getting up. Well, I ain't gonna say we're getting up there, but well, we're pushing the needle.

Whitney 40:21

The fourth episode where we call the place, we throw the flags, and we allow you guys to decide who's a true red flag and who is the green flag. I'm with. I'm Tuan. And this is Flaggus. Okay.

Twonn 40:52

They're gonna flag on them. They're gonna put a flag on the bottom.

Whitney 40:54

If I'm a red flag here, what do you think I am at work?

Twonn 40:58

And the fact that you say that with confidence scares me. What you think I'm here? I'm flagged. And that's the power dynamic that I hope you don't bring home because you're the boss there. Don't come in this house thinking you're gonna run shit though. Don't think you rush it.

Whitney 41:15

Like I run parts of the house. And that's the reason why I think they should give it to you. Don't start fishing at the end.

Twonn 41:21

This is what it's gonna give women power because now y'all come home and think, oh, you ain't gonna delegate and tell me what to do.

Whitney 41:30

Now I have you have opportunity of delegation because sometimes you just need to be home. When I do about it. That's why I give you a little do say so you do what I say.