Flaguationships: Toxic Friends, Day Ones & Friendship Red Flags 🚩

On this episode of Flag Us, Twon and Whitney dive deep into "Flaguationships" — the friendships that come with hidden red flags, fake support, toxic behavior, and difficult loyalty decisions. Are your day one friends really your people, or are you keeping them around because of history?

The conversation gets real as they debate whether people outgrow friendships, if history alone is enough to save a friendship, and whether a fake friend is worse than a toxic friend. Twan and Whitney also break down friendship boundaries, opposite-sex friendships, supporting your friends' businesses, and the red flags many people ignore in friendships more than relationships.

Plus: viral TikTok drama, hilarious "Flag on the Play" moments, relationship debates, and unfiltered opinions that’ll have you questioning your own friend circle.

If you've ever asked:

• How do you know if your friend is toxic?
 • Is it okay to cut off a day one friend?
 • Can men and women really just be friends?
 • Why do some friends only show up when they need something?
 • Are friendship red flags worse than relationship red flags?

Then this episode is for you.

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Transcript

Twonn 0:14

Okay, and welcome back to Flag Us, uh, the podcast where we uh like to put your red flags on blast. Uh I go by the name of Twan.

Whitney 0:27

I'm with.

Twonn 0:28

And we are the dynamic duel, the red flags of the red flag community. We are part of the red flag community. Because that's seemed like that's the only thing that uh that shines is the red flags. Yeah. Our viewers. Yeah, yeah, it's the red flags. It's great. All right, uh, this is episode uh seven. Seven, six, seven. I'm losing. Oh wow, I'm losing, I'm losing count.

Whitney 0:56

Yeah, we could.

Twonn 0:57

Six, seven.

Whitney 0:57

Well I think it's seven. It could be seven. Six, seven.

Twonn 1:01

Okay, we're moving along. Six, seven. We shouldn't be losing count this early.

Whitney 1:04

We shouldn't. Yikes.

Twonn 1:09

Okay, uh today's uh episode is called uh flaguationships.

Whitney 1:16

Flaguationships.

Twonn 1:17

So all the red flags that uh pop up in friendships, and we talk about like your day ones, like your your real friends, not the you know, not the ones that you know call you when they need something. We're talking about the real, the day one homies.

Whitney 1:31

Day ones.

Twonn 1:32

Okay, hi Witt.

Whitney 1:34

Hello, Twan.

Twonn 1:35

What's up?

Whitney 1:36

Yo, I'm big chilling.

Twonn 1:38

You looking uh beautiful as ever.

Whitney 1:40

I think you and you're red. I gotta fit the thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. See you fit the thing. Where's your green at? Ooh, the dark angel.

Twonn 1:51

Oh, here we go. Look, here we go. Here we go. It's all my green, baby. It's all my green, baby.

Whitney 1:57

Definitely a little overboard.

Twonn 1:58

All my green, baby. Yeah, yeah, all my green. Um, yeah, so uh, you wanna get into TikTok?

Whitney 2:13

So, uh I don't know if you guys want to jump on the week was. You just wanna know. Nah, nah, let's get into the TikTok.

Twonn 2:22

The TikTok because that was like that was crazy. That was crazy. So we had a video go viral the past week, and it's still applied to the world. I mean, I was potting. What would you want me to do?

Whitney 2:34

Right.

Twonn 2:35

And they are chewing us up. Uh Whitney has a new uh job title. It's called Clapback.

Whitney 2:44

Clapback Queen, because some of these happens need to be put in its place.

Twonn 2:48

So uh we could definitely put into uh your resume, Clapback Queen, because uh Whitney's on uh clapback duty as far as uh TikTok goes. If you're not aware, please go follow us on TikTok, uh flag us podcast. Uh you can definitely see which video went viral because it's still going. It's still going.

Whitney 3:08

And just know that I'm matching energy. I'm okay.

Twonn 3:11

Yeah, yeah. She's definitely matching energy. We lost a lot of followers, a lot of friends, but it's all right. It's all right. I'm expecting it. We got tough skin, so say what you want. We don't care. We don't care.

Whitney 3:21

We're solid over here. We solid.

Twonn 3:23

We're solid over here.

Whitney 3:24

Definitely solid.

Twonn 3:25

Um, yeah, but that that tick tock, whose idea was to make TikTok again? Yours. It was my idea.

Whitney 3:31

What was your idea? Oh, wow.

unknown 3:32

All right.

Whitney 3:32

It's it's crazy. I would say that I would definitely say people got a lot of time on their hands. But I mean, it's good for us. We sub, we approve all haters, all supporters.

Twonn 3:45

Yo, it's crazy. It'd be the it'd be the ones with like 30 friends that'd be like, oh girl, he don't like you. Like you. Oh my god. There were some people that actually held it down. Like they held it down, they was like, oh, he loves her. And I was like, oh, look at them.

Whitney 4:01

Like at least they can joke around and they're gonna be able to do it. Yeah, yeah, it's not facts. So yeah, we appreciate y'all.

SPEAKER_00 4:06

Yeah, yeah.

Whitney 4:06

Mama wants talking about he don't like me. I'm still here. Oh, you got something to say?

Twonn 4:13

Oh, nah, nah, nah, nah. What you talking about, girl? You still here? He's still here. All right. Uh, how was your week?

Whitney 4:23

My week was actually my week was decent. I mean, not too much going on. Um, very slow at work this whole week. So it was just kind of like me, you know, just big chilling, really. Big chilling.

Twonn 4:35

Yeah, same thing with me. Um, I've been preparing for uh this week for this pod. Uh, I think we're gonna get a few off. Um, new promotions. Uh, yeah, yeah, just a lot of pod stuff going on.

Whitney 4:48

Um we got to see some family this week.

Twonn 4:51

Yeah, we got to see some family this week.

Whitney 4:53

Um my Cali family. Yes, shout out to the Cali family. Shout out to the Cali family.

Twonn 5:00

I was trying to find a red flag, but I know you lied.

Whitney 5:02

First and foremost, stay in your lane, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Stay late.

Twonn 5:06

Oh, that'd be a oh, we're gonna talk about that. Uh, maybe a next pod. Dating with family. Oh, man. Dating with family.

Whitney 5:15

Oh my goodness.

Twonn 5:16

All right, but today's uh episode is flagged relationships. Um, we're gonna talk about a lot of uh red flags that you shouldn't ignore in some of your um friendships. Most of it is friendships. I don't think we're doing relationships kind of today.

Whitney 5:32

No, it's pretty much friendships, yeah. Friendships and then friendships in a relationship type ordeal. Right, right. What that looks like.

Twonn 5:40

Okay. Um, first question is uh is history enough to keep your friendship?

Whitney 5:49

Um I would have to say history is not enough to keep like a friendship alive. I feel like for a friendship to survive, it shouldn't just be based off like memories since 2014 type ordeal. Like to keep a healthy friendship, there still has to be like some type of effort, um, support, um, communication. I also have to be able to like be around that friend. Like it shouldn't feel like an obligation, like uh, here she comes. Oh, right, like you be with that person. So I just feel like history, because sometimes people just, you know, they go in different directions and people change. So I don't think history is enough to, you know, to keep a friendship.

Twonn 6:42

See, I think um I think guys and uh well men and women are different because sometimes the history with this friend, you gotta keep this friend around. It's like then it kind of seems like you're fake. It kind of seems like you're fake. Like, all right, um I get the whole part if um let's say if y'all don't talk all the time or whatever, but this is your friend, you know? If that, I mean it makes sense to me, but it doesn't make sense to everybody else. But yeah, history enough for me is to keep a friend.

Whitney 7:15

Like I have a I have a you have any childhood friends?

Twonn 7:19

You have any childhood friends?

Whitney 7:20

Yes, I have a childhood friend. Um my best friend Marquita, we've been best friends for like over 25 years. Okay, and I don't talk to Marquita every day. Like I don't talk to her every day, I don't call her every day, like whatever the case might be. Nah, because like if I have like a if I have like an issue and I want to, you know, reach out to Marquita and kind of be like, hey, I trust in her. I know she's gonna give me some solid feedback and I know she's not gonna like sugarcoat something to protect my feelings, like she's actually like a true, true friend. Like we both have like a lot of stuff going on in our lives. But the moment that she came into Texas, the first thing she did was like hit me up.

SPEAKER_03 7:58

Okay.

Whitney 7:59

Because I'm like in my area. And I'm just like, okay, let me see how I can move things around to go see Marquita. It isn't no, like, oh, I ain't seen Marquita in seven years. Like, okay. I'm not, you know. But when it comes to Marquita, like that's definitely my my day one, day one. And when we get around each other, it's like I don't want to leave.

SPEAKER_03 8:19

You know?

Whitney 8:20

So it isn't just the history that we have together. It's like when we get together, like we're so compatible and we match so well that it's like, yo, that's my day one.

Twonn 8:30

Okay. That's peace.

Whitney 8:32

Yeah.

Twonn 8:33

Um, I think it's a little different for guys. Like uh, a lot of guys, I don't think we are on the same uh level, but like that's the homie, you know? Especially if he ain't never done no, you know, no F-boy or no crazy stuff to like disrupt your life or whatever. Usually you keep friends like that around, you know, uh sometimes in history. And the way society now is like, all right, you don't even have a lot of friends. So to keep like childhood friends or whatever, sometimes it's a flex. Like, oh, like you just say, oh, we've been friends for 25 years. That's a flex right there. That's a that's a major flex. I've been friends for like three days, and sometimes people would be like, oh, yeah, we best friends. I'd be like, nah. Yeah, pump your breaks, Playboy, pump your breaks. But I I like stories like that about like 25 years, 10 years, 15 years. I have some childhood friends from um from like church when I used to go to church, and like they're still around and it's still solid. I mean, I think we're on different parts of life, but that's still a homie. We can still hold a good conversation. It's not like I won't call this for person for like advice or nothing like that. I know the type of friends I have, but I still keep some day one homies.

Whitney 9:49

Okay, so with that being said, so do you think people outgrow their friends or do they just like tolerate them?

Twonn 9:57

Alright, so that's a alright, so uh I think some people, I think I, I'm gonna say some people, I think I outgrow friends. Um it's different parts of life that I'm at. And it's like if you can't meet that level, it's like, alright, Royal, I talk to you when I talk to you, or I see you when I see you, type ordeal. But I think definitely uh I've outgrown some friends where it's like, you know, I see you when I see you.

Whitney 10:26

But since you guys have history, you just keep them around, so you tolerate them.

Twonn 10:30

It it depends. It depends on the friend. It depends on the friend. It depends on the friend. All friends are not made the same.

unknown 10:39

Okay.

Twonn 10:40

Let's just get to that. All friends are not made the same. They're not. Some of them I can deal with, and some of them is on the chopping block. So all friends are not made the same.

Whitney 10:50

Okay, so yeah, let's just say history is not enough to keep the friendship. It depends. It depends. Yes, you can definitely outgrow your friends. Um, if you guys are going in two different directions, you guys have different, you know, values and views on certain things, yes, you can definitely outgrow your friend. But I do think people tend to tolerate like their friends because of the history that they have, or whatever the case might be. But like I said, if having that friend is gonna interrupt my peace, yeah, you gotta go. I I don't I don't have to tolerate it. Or if, you know, spending a day with that person, I'm like, okay, I need a drink, or I need a nap, or I need something. That's me tolerating somebody just because we have history, and I don't think that it should be like a second part-time job or um an obligation, you know?

Twonn 11:44

Okay, yeah. All right, I got another question for you, Steven. Let's get a little a little deeper into rap. Um, what's worse? A fake friend or a toxic friend?

unknown 11:59

Yikes.

Twonn 12:00

Yeah.

Whitney 12:00

Okay, that's a that's a good question.

Twonn 12:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 12:06

Yeah.

Whitney 12:06

I mmm I can't even say that I would pick either or I would say that somebody who's both is the worst toxic and a fake friend. Because a fake friend could be dangerous.

Twonn 12:20

Very dangerous.

Whitney 12:21

They always trying to compete with you, trying to, you know, get one up on you, but you don't even know. They'll sit there and smile in your face, but they're thinking about their next move of print on your downfall, you know? But a toxic friend, I think with a toxic friend, they're kind of just more up front.

SPEAKER_03 12:37

Okay, yeah, yeah. You kind of know. It's like you already know what's coming through. I like that.

Whitney 12:41

But I think like someone who's like literally both of them, they fake and toxic.

Twonn 12:47

Now you gotta go. Yeah, that's definitely. I like that. I like that. Because I wasn't gonna choose, I was gonna choose maybe the toxic friend. Yeah, the toxic friend. I can keep a toxic, but a fake friend, that is like that's really dangerous. Because it's like you smiling in my face, but yeah, you got alternative motives and whatnot. Yeah, okay. I definitely see the toxic because you're do you know the difference in your friendships now? Do you know the difference? Like, can you call it out? Like, oh, this is my toxic friend. This is my whole friend, this is my such and such friend.

Whitney 13:15

Fake friend. Um, well, you know me. My circle is very small. I keep to myself. I only have like a handful of people that I call like my solid people. And I want to say maybe two of those people are outside of my actual family. Okay. Like my blood family, um, where I have two people. I'm just like, okay, these are my best friends. And then my other ones are like, they're my best friends, but they're actually my cousins. Like we've been locked in since we did the diapers. But um I definitely keep my my circle real small just to stay out the drama. I just I don't need the extra stress in my life, you know?

Twonn 13:58

Okay.

Whitney 14:00

So yeah.

Twonn 14:01

That's fire. Whitney with the wise words.

Whitney 14:03

Not with the wise words.

Twonn 14:04

Whitney with the wise words. Ooh, www. Whitney with the wise words. Oh, whatever. What would Jesus do? That's like kind of in the same okay.

Whitney 14:16

So then I'm probably so the next question would be would be so like cutting off, do you feel like cutting off your day one friend is wrong? Is it ever wrong?

Twonn 14:27

Oh, that's a hard question. Because cutting off a day one, it depends on the situation. It depends on the the flag relationship going on at the time because it's like, all right, if you really did something crazy, then it's like nah, we can no longer be friends. I'm not I'm not having that. You know, a lot of people, I think when the ball dropped, the friendship like kind of, you know, I'm like, oh, I'm getting rid of fake people, and you stop, you know, that's usually when it happens. But I think um cutting off a day one depends on the reason. I don't think it's wrong because everybody has, you know, their uh their boundaries, their limits or what they can do with. But uh yeah, cutting off everything, you can you can do it successfully unless you got a crash out. Look, oh I can't live without you, I can't. Yeah.

Whitney 15:19

Yeah, I'm actually I'm I'm on the same page with you. I feel like it depends on the situation, and I don't feel like it's wrong. Like if that person has a negative impact on your life or what you're trying to do, like sometimes you gotta cut people from your life, and sometimes it don't just be your friends. Sometimes it be your family, you know, and sometimes the family be the the main ones you need to cut off. But I definitely don't think it's it's wrong. I don't feel that since they knew you since, you know, way back when that they take priority over, you know, anybody else, especially if they're wrongdoing you, like they don't have your best interests at heart, I would definitely, you know, cut my ties and cut my losses.

Twonn 16:01

Um another question should you hold your friends accountable or accept them for who they are?

Whitney 16:12

Um I would say both.

Twonn 16:15

Both?

Whitney 16:16

I say that I have friends because of the relationship or the connection that we have. So I accept them for who they are. But if I feel like they're wrong, I'm gonna flat out and tell them like, hey, you was wrong for that. Or I feel like you have to have both. To have a healthy relationship or friendship, I should say, um, you should definitely take your friends as they are because they are your friends. You're not there to change them, but you're also there to put them in their place. Sometimes they need to be put in their place. And I feel like my friends should do the same. So if I'm out of line, I accept my friends, but hey, wait, you wrong for that. Not say I'm gonna listen, but at least they're calling me out on my shh. Rather than just allowing me to, you know. So yeah.

Twonn 17:02

So what about you? Um this is a guy dynamic. Uh so I accept friends for who they are because I mean, there's something in you that kind of I like, you know, that it's like, you know, this is my friend. Um, as far as holding them accountable, um, in public, I probably wouldn't do something like that. Let's say he gets into a we get into a melee or something like that, knowing my friend is wrong. But when the privacy of our own little whatever, whatever, I'll I'll address it. I'll hold him accountable. Like, yo, you're gonna get us into a wreck or something. Like, you, you know, you tripping. But as far as um accepting them for who they are, yeah, I think I just have to, you know, because some some friends, family, they crazy. They are crazy. But you go you love them. You love them, you love them.

Whitney 17:54

You do.

Twonn 17:55

If not, you probably wouldn't talk to them ever again, or they'd just be, you know, I'm good with that. Like once the friendship is over, I act like you never existed. I think that's my superpower.

Whitney 18:05

Okay, okay.

Twonn 18:06

I damn sure think that's my superpower. All right, so uh let's get into flag on the flag.

Whitney 18:14

Okay, flag on the play.

Twonn 18:16

All right, flag on the play is kind of um our it's not like a rapid fire. It's either red flag, green flag. Uh, we got a few flags too. Whitney, you know I love having flags. Oh my god.

Whitney 18:31

Let me just check on the side of my chairs. Did you stay doing something?

SPEAKER_00 18:34

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Whitney 18:36

Okay, so this for what the game?

SPEAKER_00 18:38

Yeah.

Whitney 18:38

We're going back to the flags for more.

Twonn 18:42

Yeah, you got some more flags. They all red over there, but hold it down. Hold it down. Yeah, yeah. Hold all those red flags down.

Whitney 18:48

I know you're lying.

Twonn 18:49

Yeah, yeah. I know you lying. Nah, I ain't lying. I ain't lying.

unknown 18:53

Okay.

Twonn 18:53

All right, so first question on flag on the play. Okay. You're never your bit your friends never support your business, but watch all of your stories.

Whitney 19:05

That's a red flag. Like, where's the support? You're supposed to be my friend. You're supposed to be my number one fan.

Twonn 19:13

Number one fan. Where the support? Where's the support? And then they be like, the thing would I be like, they like, oh yo, I seen your podcast. I didn't see you in the likes or in the comments. Comments. Or you didn't repost. I mean, if you know me, you should try to at least repost, you know, some of my uh my my shit. Like, come on now. But they be like, oh, I've seen it. Y'all like what you're doing over there.

Whitney 19:38

Well, you always get that. I like what y'all doing.

Twonn 19:41

I like what y'all doing over there, yo. Let's fuck it.

Whitney 19:43

Just take a second to just not you're not a good friend.

Twonn 19:47

You're not a good friend. All right, let's next one. Your friends talk crazy when they're drunk.

Whitney 19:53

I don't know. I like a little crazy. I like a little crazy, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:01

I like a little crazy.

Whitney 20:02

Unless they do too much. Then you're like, oh man. I like a little crazy. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. You know what? We we all the sun. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We all the sun. We on the same page, okay?

Twonn 20:13

Alright, uh, your friends only hit you up when when they're broke.

Whitney 20:20

I got family that do that.

Twonn 20:23

You got family that does that?

Whitney 20:25

Yeah.

Twonn 20:25

Call you when you do it.

Whitney 20:26

Call me when they call me only when they want money. Like I got like I print money at the house.

Twonn 20:32

Oh. Yeah, I noticed I get a I get a certain amount of calls like after the 15th. After the 15th to the first, it's all no, 15th to the 30th, 30th. That's when I get the most calls. Like, hey, yo, yo, did you loan me some bread?

Whitney 20:45

I'm like, I'm broke too.

Twonn 20:48

Yeah, broke, baby.

Whitney 20:49

Hey. We got we have bills too.

Twonn 20:53

Alright. Uh, your friend flirts with your ex.

Whitney 20:58

That's a red flag.

Twonn 21:00

It's a super red flag. Red, red, red flag.

Whitney 21:03

Stay away from my exes. But you know what? You know.

Twonn 21:08

Go ahead. You're trying to get one off.

Whitney 21:09

I ain't trying to get one. I'm gonna let it go. I'm gonna let it go.

Twonn 21:12

She's about to give y'all some history. Nah, nah. No history.

Whitney 21:15

No, dude. No, I'm I'm gonna stay. I'm not gonna show my true colors today. I'm just gonna say that is a red flag.

Twonn 21:23

You're trying to get back.

Whitney 21:24

I'm gonna stay on my ex's part.

Twonn 21:26

Oh, okay, yeah. Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. Because your ex. Your ex is the get back. Your ex is the get back. I'm trying to fuck all your friends.

Whitney 21:37

Who? You?

unknown 21:39

No, I mean.

Whitney 21:40

Because when you said it, you said I'm trying to fuck all your friends. You talking about me?

Twonn 21:44

No, I mean, like, if we if you my ex to get the get back, if me and Subin is how we broke, I'm trying to fuck all your friends. All of them just for my get back.

Whitney 21:56

Red flag. Like I said, we should not be sitting on the green side. I'm Care what Swan says, he isn't.

unknown 22:03

Okay.

Whitney 22:04

This belongs to you. Him. These are yours.

Twonn 22:08

All right. Your friend disappears when you're depressed or when you need them the most.

Whitney 22:13

Oh, that's definitely a red flag. That's not my friend.

Twonn 22:15

It's not my friend. That's not my friend. That's my friend. I mean, I understand, you know, some people get low. I have a friend that's always like, they're in their own, you know, they get tunnel vision. Like me. I get I get low. I get low. I understand when they get low, but I have to reach out to the Please reach out. You know, it only takes a few seconds to just to get in line with the with your feeling. But I have some friends that get low. You know, they get tunnel vision. They wouldn't know I have a problem until I state, yo, I got a problem. Or I need your advice and stuff like that. But you got to be more comfortable with your friends telling them that stuff. You know, yo, I need some advice. I have a what you call.

Whitney 22:53

You know, but they should at least do a little check-in, you know, hey, you good? Yeah. You know, one text a week to just follow up.

Twonn 23:00

All right. Next one. Uh, your friends always late, but expect you to be on time.

Whitney 23:13

How is that a green flag?

Twonn 23:15

It's a green flag for me because it's war. It's war. You expect me now. I'm gonna show up all the time. I'm gonna show up all the time late, fashionably late. Black people time, all the time.

Whitney 23:27

So your friend is late, but they expect you to be on time. So you're a red flag. Again, stating my case. He's a red flag. He's definitely a red flag.

Twonn 23:36

Anyway.

Whitney 23:37

You're such a red flag. You know, next episode, I will not be sitting in the seat. It will be you.

Twonn 23:44

This girl's always trying to play musical chairs in here, man. Just sit in your seat.

Whitney 23:49

Sit in your seat. But you're proving to the people that you're the red flag.

Twonn 23:53

It's not a flag over there, baby girl.

Whitney 23:56

It's the red light.

Twonn 23:56

It's the red light. It's the red light special. Alright, next one. Uh oh, wait, we already did this one. Your friend talks crazy when you're when drunk.

Whitney 24:12

Okay, so we're done with that one.

Twonn 24:14

Yeah, we're done with the flag on the flag. Good job. That was a good segment.

Whitney 24:17

It was.

Twonn 24:18

It was actually pretty.

Whitney 24:19

Actually, no, yeah, we should go back to doing the little flag flag thing.

Twonn 24:22

So the rapid fire was cool, but I kind of missed the, you know.

Whitney 24:25

I guess in between, because sometimes rapid fire does need a, you know, uh pick a side for sure. You know, gotta give you something to think about.

Twonn 24:33

I'm throwing my red flags at you, see? Look at that girl. I just throwing my green flags at you. Yeah, because we the hell.

Whitney 24:46

Yeah, damn. So anywho, we're gonna continue this segment with the next question. So I think it's my turn to pick a question. So do you think people ignore red flags in their friendships more than their relationships?

Twonn 25:02

Oh, okay. Um, I think they ignore flags in their relationships because I think either they get in the good, good, or it's just, you know, sometimes that, you know, that intimacy can put somebody, you know, out of their mind. You be delusional. Um the part with your friends, it's just like, yo, you peep everything, you watch everything. You you know this person. So even when they say something that you don't like, you just like, oh, you know. You kind of like you kind of address it. But with the person that uh you're dating or you're, you know, you're hunching this, like, all right, you just kind of ignore all of those flags. But what do you think?

Whitney 25:46

Um, I think people ignore a lot of red flags in their friendships more than they do their relationships. Because um, you know, people nowadays when they get in a relationship and they'll cut somebody off instantly. Like, oh, he gives me the ick, or I don't like how he does this. Like, I'm just gonna jump ship. I'm just gonna jump ship. A lot of people are jumping ships so quickly. But when it comes to like your friends, it's like, oh, you know, that's my friend though. Like, we've been knowing each other for X amount of years, or we got history together, or I know she did this foul, but that's my friend. She didn't mean it type thing. But sometimes when it comes to a relationship, I'm guessing depending on how new the relationship is, sometimes people just jump ship immediately based off something that they didn't like that someone actually did. That's interesting.

Twonn 26:39

I thought um, I thought it would be opposite for you. No, I thought it'd be opposite.

Whitney 26:45

Why?

Twonn 26:46

Because you ignore all the red flags with me.

Whitney 26:51

That's because I'm already getting old and I don't got time to be, you know, dealing with people and you were just no.

Twonn 26:58

Oh wow, so I'm just around.

Whitney 27:00

So like uh, you know, I could crazy you know, I could mold you into the man I need you to be.

Twonn 27:07

So build the man, huh? You and that's the you still in the in the business of build a man?

Whitney 27:12

I gotta build a hey hey tick tock.

Twonn 27:16

Hey, TikTok. You see what she said? She don't like me. This should go vile TikTok.

Whitney 27:23

Because you know what? We don't even look like we go together.

Twonn 27:26

Oh well. You guys please go to go to go to TikTok and please read some of these comments because they are hilarious.

Whitney 27:35

Hilarious.

Twonn 27:36

We like to have fun, and you guys definitely kept us entertained. Because she was calling me like baby.

Whitney 27:45

And he was like, Alright, don't go in there and get too crazy. No, I just did one little paragraph, did my little mic drop, you know, went on about my day.

Twonn 27:53

Okay, all right.

Whitney 27:54

Back to uh back to our our segments.

Twonn 27:57

Uh, should you have friends that are single?

Whitney 28:01

Um, well, like while I'm in a relationship. While you're in a relationship, um, I don't think there is a law against having like single friends. Um, I feel like there should be like some type of boundaries. Like your friends should respect your relationship, and they shouldn't be having me out there doing no like bald head hoe shit, you know. Oh, back to the ball head hoe shit. Don't hit me up talking about single. Nah, don't do that. Um, and they also have to respect that, you know, my priorities have changed. Okay when it comes to my family. As long as they can respect those boundaries that I have and never like try to get me to do anything that goes against my relationship, then I don't think there's a problem to have, you know, friends that are single. I have some I don't have too many friends, but everybody that I'm really close to is probably in a relationship.

Twonn 28:53

Um I think I have a lot of uh uh I call them unicorns because they date and then you know they go about their business. I call them unicorns, and they got no kids. And like we're pushing, you know, we up there in the in the fourth floor club and they got no kids, and I'm just like, you know, like alright, dog. Like what's going on? But anyway. But yeah, I think there's no problem with having uh single friends.

Whitney 29:25

Okay, so then can you have friends from the opposite sex?

Twonn 29:31

I have friends of the opposite sex. I think it I mean we have boundaries. We definitely have boundaries. Um, I think you should tell your friends, you know. I don't think you should hide your girl from your friends. Or hide your friends from your girl. But um because that's a red flag. Yeah, that's a red flag.

Whitney 29:50

How many one of your reflexes? I know you got plenty.

Twonn 29:52

Oh. Why? Because you threw them all at me? Because you throw them, she's just been throwing flags at me all goddamn episode. Literally.

Whitney 30:03

So yeah, I feel like um, like you said, you could definitely have friends from the opposite sex. Boundaries definitely have to be in place. But the moment that I see like some type of like flirtationess, or y'all having like private conversations, or like you said, they come over one day, like, oh, he didn't, I didn't know he had a girlfriend, or I didn't know he was dating. Yeah, yeah, that's a that's a then that's a red flag saying, like, I say, what y'all what y'all got on the side, you know? Um, so there definitely have to be like some boundaries when it comes to having you know friendships from the opposite sex, you know?

Twonn 30:40

Okay. Uh do you ever introduce your friend to who you're uh who you're talking to or whoever you um dealing with?

Whitney 30:51

Like from the opposite sex?

Twonn 30:53

Yes.

Whitney 30:55

Um, I just feel like it just depends. Like I said, I stay in the house. But if we out one day and I see my friend, I ain't about go this way.

Twonn 31:03

Okay. And what about the invite? Do y'all do like outings with is it okay to do outings with mixing your friends and your relationship?

Whitney 31:13

Um, I guess I just depend on the amount of people that go in. Because if it's just me, I wouldn't want to invite like my single friend. Cause now they're like the third wheel, they just look crazy. But if it's like a whole group thing and everybody coming, or like say we had a game night, and you know, you invite some of your friends that have couples, and I just invite some of my friends, and everybody just I mean, I feel like that's okay.

Twonn 31:34

Um but what do you think? Um I don't have a thought on that one. Um I think um if I'm out with my girl and I see a friend, of course, oh what up, what up, homes? But as far as like if we on a date and he doesn't have if he's like a serial dater, I wouldn't invite him out with us. I wouldn't invite, you know, because it's just like it looks it looks a little messy. Now you, you know, you looking at him crazy the next time you see him, because he got another, you know, it's just it's just that'll be the type of relationship I probably keep to myself.

Whitney 32:10

Okay. Yeah, I feel like I I was put in a situation like when me and um you know, the father of my kids started when we started dating, he had a best friend. And she was from the opposite sex.

SPEAKER_03 32:21

Oh wow.

Whitney 32:22

And they lived together. Oh wow. Like they were like roommates, and that did not sit well with me. Yeah, it did not sit well with me. But after like, you know, seeing the interaction and years went by, I was like, oh no, like that's really his best friend, best friend. Like there's nothing that was going on between that, but I'll tell you what, when we first started, I was like, yeah, no, that's weird. Mm-mm. They definitely done did something, but nah, and like till this day, me and that person is still cool. Oh, that's dope. Me and my baby dad are cool. Um, she's the actually the godmother of our daughter. So, like, yeah. Whole 360. The first when it wore, I was like, there ain't no way. I had an issue. I used to turn my nose up, like, ain't no mm-mm. I did not like that friendship whatsoever. Surprised because you're a fighter. Yes, yeah.

Twonn 33:11

I'm surprised. I no, no, no kicky ass. No, no kicky ass?

Whitney 33:15

No, you know, I if I would have jumped the gun on that one, I definitely would have been in the wrong because there was nothing.

Twonn 33:21

You're always wrong. So what would have been the difference?

Whitney 33:24

Oh, hush. You see, this is why.

Twonn 33:26

I'm always wrong, but it's alright.

Whitney 33:27

Oh, you know what?

Twonn 33:29

But anyway, it was flag relationship. I'm mad you've been throwing these flags at me all goddamn episode.

Whitney 33:34

You provided me with the resources I needed to throw ammo at you, so you should be mad at yourself.

Twonn 33:38

You bet this is the reason why we You gonna care about our host because podcasts.

Whitney 33:48

First and foremost, you're not gonna be throwing stuff at me. You see what you started?

Twonn 33:52

Alright. Let's end this.

Whitney 33:54

Uh yeah, collect all your flags.

Twonn 33:59

Alright, guys. Uh, this is the uh whatever episode of Flag Us. Whatever episode. Yeah, we'll have the number down pad. Uh yeah, this was Flag Us. I'm Tawn. I'm with uh yeah, this is Flag Us. Yeah, you can.

Whitney 34:23

All right, keep on playing.

unknown 34:25

Uh