Ep. 3: Self-Awareness—Knowing Yourself in 2026

In this episode, we dive into what self-awareness really means in 2026 and why so many people think they have it but don’t actually practice it. We discuss how easy it is to criticize others but hard to be honest with yourself.

At the end of the day, knowing yourself isn’t just about confidence, t's about honesty and being willing to face the uncomfortable truths that help you grow.

Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:00

Crazy because in life, like things sometimes things have to happen because you see things for really what it is. And um and and and it's cool because that's why I don't really take nothing as like a loss, you know. I'm saying it's either I win or or or I learn because like a lesson learned. Yeah, because like you know, we go into life and we go into things and be like, damn, and why this happened to me, or damn, I didn't think this person would do this to me, but or I didn't think this, and you're like, yo, listen, man, it's just you gotta really evaluate your surroundings. And I think it was big. You kind of like touched on just like relationship-wise, like, you know, um the person you with, you guys kind of gotta have that either, you know, obviously it's never gonna be 50-50. Sometimes one person has to be more motivated than the other, or vice versa. But at the end of the day, that person that you with, you gotta make sure that that person actually is able to um, you know, just just at least put you, motivate you to put you in a position where you feel like I can I can be my best version of the world. All right, again, again, again, we back. Um, we're gonna talk, you know, more so just getting into, you know, just um being more self-aware today. I think that's a that's a big topic we need to kind of touch on a little bit. I think a lot of times we just, you know, not really looking at our surroundings for why things happen for us in our life, what things happen to us. You know what I'm saying? So I think being self-aware is pretty big. So, I mean, how do you feel about the self-awareness stuff?

SPEAKER_02 1:32

Yeah, I feel like it's a good, I feel like it's a good subject because I feel like even in relationships, people are not sometimes self-aware of what's going on. Yeah, can be blind to some things. So I feel like it's a good subject to hit today, honestly.

SPEAKER_03 1:43

Yeah, yeah, yeah. All right, um, so ready for me to kick it off? Yeah, kick it off, kick it off. All right, cool, man. Well, I feel like with um so self-awareness, right? Let's talk about self-awareness. Where does that come from and you know why we even should be bringing this stuff up is because you know, you go in a down a certain path in your life and say you meet with someone or you went around certain people. Um, if those people's energy or the things that they got going on is not, you know, uh coincide with what you're trying to do, then you may not be going and feeling like, damn, why is things are not happening in my life the way it should be. The reason is because you have to look around and see if the people that you have around you uh are are going in the same direction as you a direction as you. And if they're not, then you have to understand that you have as much you may like them, you may think that they're cool, but you cannot, you know, coincide with someone that is not going in the same direction. Otherwise, I feel like it just set you back.

SPEAKER_02 2:37

I mean, like Nah, I feel the same because that's a big thing where it's like the group that you hang out with, the group of the friends that you're the most coolest with, yeah, you all should be moving in the same path. Like you said, if not, think about your circle, think about changing your circle. Um, just so a quick little going off subject when it comes to that is recently I heard a Fetty WAP interview. He was on the podcast with um Wallow and them, I forgot what it is. Uh Million Dollars Worth of Game. Yep. And he was talking about how before he went to prison, he had everybody on him, this and that. Wasn't really paying attention to who his inner circle was, but when he came out of prison, a lot of those people didn't come around while while he was behind doors, um behind bars. So then when he came out of prison, he changed his circle completely around about people who was about him, about his success, about the music, not just trying to be a be about the ride. Because a lot of times when it comes to artists, like the entourage is a big thing they always talk about. Are those people really with with it because of who you are, or are they with it because you're paying for everything?

SPEAKER_03 3:39

I mean, I feel like you know, some people are just with you, but not for you.

SPEAKER_02 3:43

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a good way to say it.

SPEAKER_03 3:44

So, you know, and this is where we're talking about just this whole self-awareness. Yeah. But you know, it's crazy because in life, like things sometimes things have to happen. And and and it's cool because that's why I don't really take nothing as like a loss. You know what I'm saying? It's either a win or or or a learn because like a lesson learned, yeah. Because like, you know, we going through life and we going through things and we like, damn, why this happened to me? Or damn, I didn't think this person would do this to me, but or I didn't think this. And you like, yo, listen, man, it's just you gotta really evaluate your surroundings. And I think it was big. You kind of like touched on just like relationship-wise, like, you know, um the person you with, you guys kind of gotta have that either, you know, obviously it's never gonna be 50-50. Sometimes one person has to be more motivating than the other, or vice versa. But at the end of the day, that person that you with, you gotta make sure that that person actually is able to um, you know, just just at least put you, motivate you, put you in a position where you feel like I can I can be my best version of myself. I think you know, relationships are big when you need that extra, you know, you need that help when somebody else is there for you.

SPEAKER_02 4:51

What's something that you had to unlearn that you had a bad habit that?

SPEAKER_03 4:55

I think, yeah, well, I think the bad habit is that um when you have a good heart, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 5:00

Like you you lead with like your heart is too strong, like you want to give too much.

SPEAKER_03 5:04

I think, yeah, because for me, I'm always trying to look at the good in someone. And when you try to look at the good in someone, you kind of bypass some of the things that they may have that you're not really looking at because you're looking at like, all right, you're looking at the potential or you know, the the good in them, right? And then like in hindsight, right, later on, you may look and be like, wait, time out. Like, I didn't really look at all of these other things that may have caused, you know, for why this thing kind of went the way it did. Um, so for me personally, I think my bad habit is to uh try to always find more of the good. And I don't think it's a bad thing, but I feel like, you know, that's why you don't want to lead with your heart. You gotta lead with more so, okay, well, does this person align with what I'm trying to do in my life right now? So sometimes it's not good to meet people with their potential. You gotta meet people where they're at.

SPEAKER_02 5:54

Yeah, the the perfect the perfect uh saying that I always hear is sometimes your day ones are not the people that you go to business with. It's usually your day twos, the people you meet in life that that you find on that path of they might be on a similar journey because you both on that journey, probably late 20s, late 30s, whatever it may be. That's when you find that person. Your day twos, the person that you start a business with, the person that you do this, you do that, they invite you to the wedding. Yeah, pull up in DR, you know what I mean? So it's like, you know what I mean? It's like the people you didn't meet when you were younger, but those people are always gonna be your friends, but they're not all moving in the same path as you right now. And and it's not, and and just to not cut you off, there's nothing wrong with that. Everybody has their own journey in life. Everybody's not trying to achieve the same exact thing. Uh we all have a different path. We all are we all here to do different things. So I and I feel strong about that.

SPEAKER_03 6:47

See, that but that's that's a perfect example because like you know, a lot of people, you know, um, as you get older and as you start moving along in life, you know, sometimes those people, we can still be cool, but we're not at the same pace anymore. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, I'm I'm we cool, but like I kind of outgrew this part of me. You know what I mean? And this is my next stage. So my next stage says I need to be around these kind of people because you're a grown man, you know more about who you are. So now you're meeting people that's actually aligned with what you're doing. So this is why we can be aligned with a lot of things that's happening.

SPEAKER_02 7:21

I feel like the just I'm laughing because I feel like when I'm around certain people and I be like, yo, guys, like I'm not with the club, and like let's go to cigar lounge. I get laughed at because I'm that 30-year-old acting like he's 50. I'm just like, yo, I'm just not about that lifestyle no more. And I feel like it's just because my mind has changed to not enjoy that the fast-paced music, the women, all that stuff. It's just I'm not into that no more. I feel like I change and certain people I'm around, I don't think they'll ever get out of that mindset. And it's nothing wrong because they live that life. They might be single, this and that, they move in that way, but like I'm past that point. Wife, kids, like, I'm not interested in all that stuff.

SPEAKER_03 7:58

I think obviously your priorities is different. You know what I'm saying? So you know what you even want to put around you plays a big part. You don't even want them type of temptations or them type of even vibes around you because that's not where you're trying to go with anything. So why even put yourself in those positions? You know what I'm saying? So I feel like you just on a certain path. And and sometimes you need to, and that's why you need to be around dudes that respect your relationship and respect what you got going on because they're not even gonna allow you to get ahead and mess nothing up between what you got to go on and some dudes be like, yo, come on, just do bro.

SPEAKER_02 8:29

See, I I'm good that I don't have the type of people around.

SPEAKER_03 8:32

No, no, no. I'm not saying you didn't.

SPEAKER_02 8:33

And you're not, but also I even remember, and and the only reason why I said it because I remember a time and we didn't even really know each other uh like that. And you we were like, yo, we about to do this, we about to do something, this and that, either what it was. You were like, yo, don't worry about it. I'm making sure you ain't tempted at all. I remember that conversation because I'm like, bro, like I don't get tempted. You didn't know me enough to understand that I did it, but you were like, bro, I'm gonna make sure like nothing happens because you're not gonna put yourself in there and like in like damage or like what's the word I'm looking for, but yeah, um put yourself in that situation to get in trouble. I'm like, he said that and I'm like, yo, but like I I appreciated that. Yeah, because it was like not everyone's gonna think about that. They got like, yo, you married, just have a good time. Don't don't even think about that. You might you know let's say you go to Columbia, whatever goes, whatever happens, Columbia stays in Columbia. Some people are gonna be like, yo, go to Columbia, but just behave. Like you might have people doing certain things, but you don't gotta put yourself in that situation that to have those temptations or to put yourself in risk because you can have a good time and not cross that line.

SPEAKER_03 9:35

It's crazy you say that, man, because I I don't even remember that conversation that we had.

SPEAKER_02 9:38

Bro, it was it was it was probably like under six months when we met each other, bro.

SPEAKER_03 9:43

But but it just shows, man, just the respect level and and the people that I got that that are around me, I want to see them win, and I don't want to see them in bad spots. So you know, and and anybody that will will will um will will um I want damn, I want to say like will like put you at risk. Yes, okay. I was trying to look for the right words. Yeah, now for anybody that would like um um cause any type of like disruption, yeah, yeah, yeah. There we go, disruption to where we trying to go in this world. No, no, no, no. Get them out of here, man. You know what I'm saying? Reevaluate your circle, reevaluate who you got around you. Cause and it's crazy because you could be going through this motion of life, right? And you like, damn, things is happening, that's not so great. And you don't realize that that person that's next to you is probably, you know, not the best person to be there. So that's why you're not really getting those blessings that you need. Sometimes you got to get rid of things to be able to see that that next stage and the next level. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 10:43

Yeah, yeah. Question too. So, how do you think self-awareness will affect, like directly affect a relationship? Do you think it's being blind to seeing something that might be going on? I don't know. Like, that's a real that's a that's kind of a good voice.

SPEAKER_03 11:00

I I don't think, like I said, I don't think it's being blind. I think people people date or people be in a relationship uh for the potential of what they feel like that person's gonna become. You know what I'm saying? Okay, okay. Opposed to, like I said, just meeting them where they're at.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

Um that's harder because what if you meet somebody super young? You both are young, you're gone there.

SPEAKER_03 11:18

Young is different. Young is different. We're talking about grown ass people. Because if you meet somebody like you guys, you guys were super young. Yeah, yeah. I was young when I was married as well. So we can't, the expectations can't be that high. You know what I'm saying? We have aspirations for things, but we're both super young, so we don't really have, you know what I'm saying? But we're talking about, you know, a grown person right now.

SPEAKER_02 11:36

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 11:37

There's certain basic things that you need to have kind of in line for us to even kind of make this thing work. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:43

No, I I agree because I always say like I'm married, but if I was single, like my requirements are gonna be pretty high. Yeah, well, because you because like I'm I'm striving for this, and I'm saying if she she was never in the picture, not saying I'm not with her. She was never in the picture, and I'm still where I'm at. Like, I'm striving so hard to get to where I'm at. And if if that if that female is not in that same path, and she don't have to be doing as much as me. It's kind of a like a push-off. It's like uh like I'm not attracted to somebody who's not grinding as much as I'm grinding.

SPEAKER_03 12:12

And and real quick, I can make a pinpoint off of that real quick. Yeah, um, you see, like, I feel this is why like in relationships, a woman they want a certain type of man, right? And I'm I'm saying this to say like they want a certain type of man. If you want to be a wife, then you should be acting like a wife even when you're not a wife. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah. You understand? When you're walking around and when you at places, restaurants, or anything, wherever you at, walk around and be the position of a wife, because then that way that man can see the wife in you before he's even gonna, you know what I'm saying? He's even with you.

SPEAKER_02 12:44

I like that statement. I like that statement so much is because I feel like I'm not going back to like when our parents were were parents and the female never worked, but like I miss that female dynamic where it was a woman was a caretaker and the man was a breadwinner. But I I've I've always adapted, okay, both parties can work and both parties can can pay that role at the same way. Yeah. Because I just I I cherish the female, and I'm not saying she belongs to do these certain tasks, but like I cherish the way the female moves, the way the female acts, the way the female likes to take care of the family. I l I really enjoy that part of a female. Yeah. And if you don't meet that requirement, if you're like, like I don't want to say if you're a man in a relationship, it's gonna conflict with my values.

SPEAKER_03 13:36

I mean, like, I don't blame you with that. That's really tough, man. Cause uh, you know, but uh a lot of it too is that uh uh sometimes you're if you if you didn't see it, it's hard for you to know. Meaning that so say like a female, I uh you know they want to be a wife or whatever it is, but maybe you never seen how a real how a good wife is. So how you you you you over here saying that he gotta be this, he gotta be that, but wait, time out. You was never married and you never even had a good man. So how are you even giving giving advice about what a man should be when you never even had good examples on how to even goddamn you know what I'm saying? So you go. I think I think that's why I'm saying just being self-aware and understanding that you know, before you go and jump the gun and talk about what somebody should have, what somebody should do, make sure that you can look at yourself and say, Well, we're talking about have I had even seen examples.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

Like, like, like, like, am I doing the things that a wife should be doing right now? When I'm around certain men, a certain friend, like am I behaving the way are you holding yourself accountable? Are you are you moving the way that if somebody saw you in the block and just like yo, damn, that's my wife, like exactly. She moving, are you moving like a H O where it's like, yeah, I'm about to just hit that and move on.

SPEAKER_03 14:46

You're over here you ain't moving right in your butt on the gram or wearing the most skimpiest, sexiest stuff or whatever to try to entice men. I'm gonna say, okay, you're gonna have a good time with that, but that's not gonna be for a long time because you're not conducting yourself how I would want my wife to be.

SPEAKER_02 15:05

I don't even want to bring the subject up, but I have to because we speak about it so much. It's the BBL community. The BBL community, I love you guys because you're a good time. You're just not being wifed, and it's nothing against that, it's just that's something that we and you guys have to understand this too. And I and I and I and I want to say this the most nicest way is like we love your natural body, we love the way you look without all the work done. We really do appreciate that. Um I'm okay with fake tits, I'm not gonna lie, but I appreciate the the woman's body no matter how it was.

SPEAKER_03 15:40

You know, here's the thing, right? It's a way to do things, man. I see you can you can post pictures that look very classy and needy, yeah. Like you just look like a woman, you look classy. But if every picture you turned around, your head is turned around, and all your boot, the one leg back, one leg in front, and you're trying to show your ass and every single thing, then you may have some things going on within yourself that you need validation from these people online in order to feel beautiful. But understand, like you could be very, you know, not showing much in a dude's imagination. He don't need to, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 16:15

Like, he didn't know what I'm saying, like some kind of like some kind of like I think I think you said the right word. I think imagination is great. Like, leave something for us to guess. Yeah, leave us the idea that hey, like, she's beautiful. Like, I wonder what that may look like, not just giving it to us off the jump.

SPEAKER_03 16:32

Because we know if you post every single time and all your pictures are all showing your ass, you're just trying to get attention from men. So is that moving like a wife, or is that moving like I'm just trying to get attention to feel your whatever you got going on inside of your ego, maybe as a woman. So you're just trying to get the DMs, then be like, oh, these dudes be in my DMs, they be wilding.

SPEAKER_02 16:54

Oh, I mean, I mean, look at look at what you post. So look at what you post, look at how you're gonna be.

SPEAKER_03 16:59

You know, here's the thing, man. Like, and like, and you and you say that that woman, right? You want to be a wife. Why don't you hang around wives so you know how wives should walk around, how they should walk around, how they should be some insight on how to become a wife. You hanging around girls that ain't got no good men, they all getting cheated on, and it's like the blind leading the blind. How y'all getting advice from each other about how to be wives and and what what men should be, but none of y'all even have examples for what good men are.

SPEAKER_02 17:24

Good men are loving them bad boys.

SPEAKER_03 17:26

No, but you're not even around husbands and wives. You're around girls that's running the streets and just dealing with dudes with money here and there, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then be like, I'm looking for a man. You ain't looking for a man. Look at your surroundings. Look at your surroundings. Yeah, you know what I mean. Very true.

SPEAKER_02 17:40

I will I will honestly, I would love this to hear a female. Oh, we eat it up right now. Eat it up. They would like I would love to hear a female's point of view on this because I feel like I need to hear what they have to say about this because and and and from both sides, a wife and a non-wife. Somebody's simple out here doing it in the streets.

SPEAKER_03 17:55

While you're sitting here, they'll agree with it. I don't think so. I don't I don't know. I feel like because sometimes people say things because they think that that's what you want to hear at that time. And then but then when they go out, when they go out, that that toxic dude that calls your phone the late night, you're gonna let him come over and smash because you know your emotions is the tie to this dude that ain't gonna ain't good for you. So don't be mad at why my life keeps going in the same direction because you keep doing the same thought shit. So it's gonna keep happening. I'm not trying to be fucked up, I'm just being honest, bro.

SPEAKER_02 18:27

I'm just no, no, no, you being honest, you being honest, you're being honest, you're being honest, nah. Nah, that that that's that that's a that's a good one. Um I know we you kind of went into this, but I feel like social media doesn't help this whatsoever. I feel like social media puts puts a bad image on what reality really is. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 18:49

Self-awareness, right? If you want to be a wife or you want to have a better relationship, stop following things that aren't aligned with what you're trying to do. Right?

SPEAKER_02 19:01

Okay, if I'm following strippers, elaborate, elaborate, elaborate. You know what I'm saying?

unknown 19:05

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 19:06

But as in a female, as a as a as a as a as a female, you know what I'm saying? Okay, you just you you're you're you're following, you know, uh dudes that's not like if you want a certain type of man that has high value standards or whatever, then maybe you should start liking, because you know this algorithm, right? You start liking things that uh men that are are family men, men that are, you know, talking about, you know, their wives and how they love each other, follow those things. Or instead of just you following the dude that looked like he got some motion, he got a dope whip, he got this and that, whatever it is, and that's what you like. Yeah, that's what you like.

SPEAKER_02 19:40

Yo, but the content that does well is the female chat and the the the guys down down in Miami Beach talking to the the beautiful girl in the dress outside the country.

SPEAKER_03 19:48

Well he does a good job. Talking about right in Miami?

SPEAKER_02 19:50

You're talking about King?

SPEAKER_03 19:50

I don't even know his name, but that dude be killing it. Six foot, like six foot six's eight dude? Six'e, niggas. First story, bro.

SPEAKER_02 19:57

I've been I've been I've been following him for a little while because he got motion, bro. I ain't gonna lie. He's not dumb. He got motion. Nah, nah, but did you? But but but but did you know how old he was? He's 44. He's moving. Yeah, yes, bro. His age, his age got released. He was like, so what, bro? I'm 44, I'm still doing this.

SPEAKER_03 20:15

Older than me.

SPEAKER_02 20:16

Yes, sir, yes, sir. He's m but look at the emotion he got at 44 years old, man.

SPEAKER_03 20:20

You know how I knew. I didn't know how old he was. But when I had it, like when just that's why you know black don't crack. That's not black don't crack. Facts, bro. Shout out to him too. But I you know, when you when you um I heard him talking one time and I was like, yo, this dude, he ain't stupid.

SPEAKER_02 20:33

No, no, no. He speaks with elegance, he speaks like he's intelligent.

SPEAKER_03 20:37

And and and you know what it is? And you know what it is when you when you're so secure within yourself, your confidence is different. And obviously, people are drawn to have to people that have confidence. Like, if you don't believe in yourself, who gonna believe in you? He walks around with that. I believe in me. You know what I'm saying? So that's why, and not even that, but you're six eight. So you obviously got them. He's killing.

unknown 20:57

He's killing.

SPEAKER_02 20:58

I mean, I'm six feet with a future hair transplant. I'm gonna be doing this.

SPEAKER_03 21:02

I mean, listen, man, listen, man. When I when I got the little platforms on, I'm about 5'10.

SPEAKER_02 21:08

5'10, man.

SPEAKER_03 21:09

Nah.

SPEAKER_02 21:10

5'10. I'm putting a little hit of the muffler, I'm six two months.

SPEAKER_03 21:14

Nah, it's all good. Listen, man, I'm the I'm you know what I'm saying. Look, I I just I'm just not tall, obviously. You know what I'm saying? I'm with the short kings. You know what I'm saying? I'm not. But it's all good though, man. It's all good, though. That's why I had to work out because it's why I gave my little weight up. You know what I'm saying? But um, nah, it's cool though, bro. It's cool, man.

unknown 21:31

It's cool.

SPEAKER_02 21:31

Nah, I love how them dudes be doing that. And then it's just honesty, they just need more respect.

SPEAKER_03 21:38

What's up? Like, he shows you that like he could just go and you know, talk to a girl. Obviously, he's 6'8, he go talk to a girl, and she be with it right there, like, oh, come on, let's go, let's go do this. So it be a dude that I know it's all whatever.

SPEAKER_02 21:51

So, but I mean, let's first it it has to do with him being dark skin. Yeah, it has to do with his tats. Yep, and he broke. The height is key. No, no, no.

SPEAKER_03 22:01

But what I'm saying is that if a girl likes you, she's all in.

SPEAKER_00 22:06

She's all in.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

But these females he mess with, they don't like them. They want to fuck. Yeah, you right. It's not about wife and shorts. They want to fuck. It's a one night, it's a wanna fuck. Let's move on. It's because he's different. This content type picture. That's it. They have not climbed that pole. I see some of the women who be breaking their neck a couple times. I'm like, yo, like my motion ain't like that. Like, nah. Come on. I gotta, I gotta go to Turkey, and then my motion is back. When that hairline comes back, I think the motion is gonna be all the way. Bro, but I honestly I'm not gonna even lie. I don't need the motion that I got a wife and kid. I'm just saying, if it's available, let the motion move itself and say no to it after the fact.

SPEAKER_03 22:45

At the end of the day, everybody wanna still be wanted. You I like for like that's a great thing. It just ain't even about like listen.

SPEAKER_02 22:53

I could be locked up for 10. I don't mean lock, I could be wiped up for 10 years. You still want to feel like I get hit on bro.

SPEAKER_03 23:00

I want to feel like somebody said, Some girls tapped you and be like, oh my girl wanted to talk to you. Like, yeah, I'm married.

SPEAKER_02 23:05

So you feel like I'm Yeah, bro. Honestly, when I was in Houston, that happened. Nice. I felt like, yeah, no, I feel like she was like, I pulled that car where she was like, yo, married? And I'm like, yeah, man. Yeah. You know what I mean? I had a I had a soft in the head, like, yeah, I'm good, girl. Yeah, I'm good. And I it it feel it felt good in the heart to know that like I'm married, I came out here, we I'm moving like I'm married, I'm still wanted out here. It felt good, man. It felt it felt real good. It felt real good. It felt real good to be to be to have that good feeling. And it's like when I move around, like, and just so everybody know, like, it's okay to like be approached, especially when you're not an ugly dude. It just don't act on it, bro. Like have respect for the woman at home. That's all I'm asking. Yeah, because I want to have the most respect for my wife, no matter how no matter what I'm doing outside. If I'm at a you know, an event with with my boys, I'm gonna always think about if my wife saw this, would she be okay with it? Because that's the thing you have to think about. Because I don't ever want to have that video. Black men don't cheat. For sure, bro. Black men who black men don't cheat themselves. Black men don't cheat.

SPEAKER_03 24:23

Because I think sometimes they be forgetting we don't cheat, man. It's just an old treat.

SPEAKER_02 24:27

You guys do old treat, man. This is what was putting up right now.

SPEAKER_03 24:31

Black men don't cheat, man. It's over. Sit.

SPEAKER_02 24:33

You gotta you gotta just gotta you gotta you guys gotta just move a little smarter. I'm gonna lie.

SPEAKER_03 24:37

Somebody gotta move like idiots. I get it, but I'm just no, but I don't know what they're talking about because black men don't cheat. Niggas cheat. Nah, I don't know. We not niggas, we black men.

SPEAKER_02 24:45

Yeah, no, no, no, no. Because they're ready to go off in a second time, bro. In a second, but yeah, man.

SPEAKER_03 24:51

So each different stage. And like, you know what's crazy? Right? I think obviously, you know, you know, you grow and you know what's best and what's not to do, whatever. Because I've been through mad stuff. But I think that it's not a decision I'm I make because of the female that I'm with. Like, I'm not gonna not cheat because of you. No, I'm not cheating because this is not something I want to do for my personal self. Yeah, yeah, it's more about morals. I think females need to understand, like, I'm not not cheating. I don't want, I don't even want somebody doing something or not doing something because of me. I want them to do it because that's their morals within themselves, that they don't want to do something. You know what I mean? Because the minute that you know, if if your loyalty just with me, then the minute that you feel like you got a little slot, you might want to jump on it. But if but if your morals and principles are saying this is not what I'm about, then that's not what you're gonna do. If I make sense.

SPEAKER_02 25:43

No, 100% agree. Because if you if you're that type of person, no matter what comes across you, you're not gonna do anything. I'm gonna be small call. I got you. Yeah, and no matter what you do, your morals are gonna you your morals are gonna jump in front in front of you and things like that. So while he does that, we're gonna jump to the next subject. And it's like, for me, it's like, was self- is self-awareness learned? Is that a trait that you can pick up? And I feel like you can pick it up. I feel like that's something that that you can learn over time. You can like look at certain traits, look at how people move. Look at look at the way you move as a person in a sense, whereas can you do better as as a person? You know what I mean? And I feel like that's a that's a key thing that all of us can do. All of us can do, all of us can behave better, all of us can pick up certain points that we may not be seeing or behaving a little bit better, you know what I mean? So, you know, when Ron, you know, when when he get back when he gets back on the mic, he'll elaborate more on that stuff. Because um, if it's not something that can be learned, it's something that can be teached. It's something that if we see somebody doing wrong, a friend, a female, anybody, it's something that we can speak on and just say, hey guys, you know what I mean. And it's to me too, it's a lot, it's a lot of times when it comes to like um if I notice how someone's moving and maybe they don't see, because there's certain times where I don't know, this is kind of an off story, but certain times where it's like someone tells me stories about the relationship, and I'm like, yo, do you are you not questioning that movement of your partner? Because it feels a little fishy to me, but that's not my place to step in and say, yo, I feel like that he he not moving right. You're not and you're not seeing it because you might be blind to it. Like, like you said, so you might not be self-aware to the different ways that certain men are moving because you're blind to the love. Yeah, religion might be coming coming over you, but you're like, yo, love is love, love is everything, and you're not looking for it.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

I think with um stuff like that, man, like it's hard, man. Unless unless you and that person is like super connected and cool, you almost gotta stay out of religion, start it, stay out of stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02 27:44

Like that's hard, but to me, it's hard when you actually care about people.

SPEAKER_03 27:47

Yeah, but you know what though? Yeah, but you know what? You you can care about them, yeah. Um, but you could actually do more damage by so and they could backfire, you know what I'm saying? So you allow people to kind of make their little mistakes themselves, unless you and that person really have those open, real like I feel like see, we we have this kind of we have this, right? We really do talk to each other. So, you know, regardless, I know you're not gonna take nothing personal that I'm telling you because I I'm I care for you. I'm not gonna take nothing personal. You so we have that type of relationship, but you know, certain people they not as open-minded, so you can't really just tell them, you know what I'm saying?

unknown 28:21

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 28:22

And I wish I could. Some of you just gotta let it ride, man. Like, not everybody's open to it, man. And it's crazy about part about it, you could do that and they could be mad at you for it.

SPEAKER_02 28:31

Yeah, but even if other people around you are seeing this too, and you all don't really want to say nothing, it's like you all space, y'all speak about this, not behind the person's back, but you all are picking up kind of like behaviors that you feel like that person should be questioning their partner.

SPEAKER_03 28:46

I feel like you gotta just wait to see if it's an open door to be able to even communicate that.

SPEAKER_02 28:52

I don't think there is. In the scenario that I'm talking about, there is no open door. I don't feel like there will be this ever an open door because that would meet that would be me stepping over my belly.

SPEAKER_03 29:03

So if you know that that that that is a touchy subject and it's something that may cause some friction between you guys, I don't think it's worth to do it.

SPEAKER_02 29:11

I know, and I'm I'm I'm kind of like on edge about it because I don't want to say something, and I'm not gonna say something, but I feel like I should because if I open your eyes, maybe you'll see it, or maybe you look at it like I'm attacking your relationship. That's what I'm saying. And I'm not trying to do that.

SPEAKER_03 29:26

I'm telling you, and not even that, just leave it. Because here's the worst part, right? You know, you do say something, they get into an argument, then they mess around and get back together, whatever it is that they're doing, and they're gonna pillow talk. Yeah, but what if the couple's mad? Oh, even worse. Because what's gonna happen is you say something, right? They may argue about it, he may say something about it, but then soon they're gonna pillow talk and they're gonna be like, you know, Casey even felt like, or whatever it is, that you that's gonna put me in a bad situation. She's gonna give you the cold shoulder, and now you're like, ah, he must have told her, and now you guys are all walking around feeling weird as shit. So I don't think it's worth any of this shit.

SPEAKER_02 30:05

That's gonna put me in a bad situation.

SPEAKER_03 30:07

I'm telling you, as your brother, it's gonna put you in a bad spot. And you don't even need to why and why even put yourself in this drama for? No, nah, just stay out of it.

SPEAKER_02 30:15

It's just listen, I'm seeing these things that maybe she's not seeing, and I'm like, yo, you gotta open your eyes a little bit. Nah, you gotta let people ride, bro.

SPEAKER_03 30:24

But to failure, not everybody's ready. Not everybody's ready, not everybody ready, bro. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes when when the fruit is being, you know, you know, sprout up out of the freaking ground, it may not be ready yet. You gotta let it fall to be, you gotta let it be ready, man. Let it be ready, man. It ain't ready yet. Let it let it ride.

unknown 30:40

Let it ride.

SPEAKER_02 30:41

I feel you. It's just, I feel you. It's just when someone's like somewhat close, I want to point this out to them without hurting their feelings. I know. It's like I gotta just stay out of it completely. I'm telling you, because the pillow talks happen. Once the pillow pillow talks happen with their partner, it's over, they're gonna bat mouth.

SPEAKER_03 31:00

He, you know, hating on our relationship. There's people that always, and then that then then then you'd see a sub on the gram, but like, you know what I mean? Stay away from those snakes in the grass, stay away from people that you know be smiling your face and really just don't want to see you happy, and you looking at it like, damn, are they talking about me? Bro, I'll be wanting to see people happy. I don't I just want you to like see what's in your face. Sometimes stay your ass about the situations that you ain't supposed to be in, bro. Avoid it, protect your peace, your peace. It's not worth it. It's not worth it, bro.

unknown 31:32

It's not worth it, bro.

SPEAKER_02 31:33

Is this is this something that like, let's say, is this something like if you saw something out of the norm with a friend, is this something that you would bring up to them? I told you, it all really depends on how close I am with that person. Let's say, let's just let's say that's your day one. Day one. You day one, you know, he's he's he's not seeing that his female might be, you know. That's all great.

unknown 31:51

That's all great.

SPEAKER_02 31:52

Mm-hmm. She moving a little different behind his back.

SPEAKER_03 31:55

You know what? If it's somebody that really close to that I love like that, I would, I would, I would definitely, I would definitely, I would definitely. But how would you approach it though? I'll have your relationship. And then never you start I wouldn't even say, you know what it is, you gotta wait for you know, I wouldn't just go and directly say, Maybe I'll wait for them to start complaining about it.

SPEAKER_02 32:14

Yeah, but what if that doesn't come? What if it's all good and happy and you know some shit is not like not sitting well with you? And I'm not saying you cause something, but like somebody's moving weird, where you're like, bro, like is there something else going on where you don't have the the true idea of what it is, but like you can sense it and you need to say something because homie's not really seeing he's blind to the love, he's blind to the body, he's blind to the face, but like home like homegirl could be moving, like you know what I mean? And I and and it happens sometimes where I see it where you meet this girl, she ain't you in love with her, but like she's moving like that with everybody. You just a part of the the number game right now.

SPEAKER_03 32:55

But you know, sometimes, man, like I told you, right? Um I I I feel that things have to happen for people to see things. Sometimes it ain't for you to tell somebody what they're doing. So they gotta learn a lesson. Like, look, look, look. They gotta fall on that knife themselves. Don't touch the stove.

unknown 33:12

Don't touch the stove.

SPEAKER_03 33:12

They want to touch the stove. Don't touch the stove, they want to touch the stove, don't touch, then let you gonna let them you'll let them burn themselves. When they burn themselves, then they're gonna know. Then they gonna know, don't touch the stove. But if you tell them, they they gonna keep they gonna keep wanting to do it. So you gotta let them ride, man. Not everybody's ready, man. It's okay. You can't save the world. Yo, I try to do that. I wish I could. I wish I could. I do my best. I do my best.

SPEAKER_02 33:33

I wish I could. I wish I could. I get it. I wish I could try to pour these things out to people.

SPEAKER_03 33:37

For me too man, like in order for me to be better, I don't mind to take criticism. I don't, I don't mean to, I don't, I don't, um, I don't be closed off when someone comes to talk to me about, you know, maybe some things that I've could have done better, and I can be honest with myself and say, you know what, I'm sorry if I made you feel that way. Or, you know, because I'm not perfect myself, and it's okay, right? But the only way that I can be better is if I can look myself in the mirror and say, you know what, I I want to be better or whatever it is, you know, I can be real with myself to understand that um a lot of people don't want to, they always want to say, Well, I did this because of this person, instead of saying, Instead of saying Do you think this is a trait you picked up in your later years? Yeah, see, stuff like this. I mean, you know what's crazy though? Be honest, look and I'm gonna tell you this is the truth, man. Like, I have amazing parents, bro. Like, I mean, the best ever. So I've never seen my mom or my dad disrespect each other ever. I saw how my mom, you know, was submissive to my dad. So it so being that I seen it like that, I think I always knew that. Like, so I always was able to look at myself too. Even if I didn't make the right decision, I knew like I even if I did mess up, I'm like, I know I messed up. You know what I'm saying? It wasn't like I'm sitting here saying, Oh, I'm gonna blame you for why I did what I did. No, I did what I did because I made the mistake, not because of you. I did it.

SPEAKER_02 34:55

Yeah, because like I could bounce it off of that, I could truly say, um, my my mom and my dad, they weren't together, but I I go with my dad. I could truly say the things my dad did in my early years that that I didn't really appreciate, I appreciate those things now because as as everyone knows, as becoming a father, you see those things, those habits that you were like, what the fuck is he doing? What is he doing? Like, he's bothering me, the curfews, this and that. But then it's out of love, it's out of respect, it's out of like I see those things now that I didn't see when I was younger, and I wish I appreciated it because now I feel like being a being a father made me closer to my father. And I love that now. Like, it's different. I don't know what it is, I don't know how to explain it. It's just it's different, it's different. It could be the case too, is like I lost my brother. So having a one less sibling had built a better connection with my father in general as well, too. So that's probably something to do with it as well. But like it's it's strong. The connection with me and my dad is strong.

SPEAKER_03 35:59

I think as we, you know, we get older, we start to really see things for real. Yeah, like appreciating the things that yeah, now we're dad, you know, and that's the only tough part about dads, to be honest. And I'm gonna tell you this, and I'm gonna say this the real man. Like, I Chris Rock said this, man. It's like women and children are love uh unconditionally, unconditionally, and men are loved under a condition. So, you know, as a as a man, sometimes, you know, you you you um you can try to do the best you can, but I think, you know, uh, especially with um, you know, people, kids, whatever, they don't realize that, you know, men have feelings too. So, you know, and and and we Yeah, they feel like we're like uh Yeah, because you know that's that's what we that's what we're built to be, right? We're not built to have emotion. So like you know, you can you you know they don't realize that so you go into the motions of working hard and trying to make them happy, make everybody happy, but then they can do something and rip your heart out, but you can't show emotion, you gotta keep moving, you know what I'm saying? As a man, so it can kind of be a little rough on men, you know what I'm saying? And that's why it's a super important. Obviously, we talk about the men's mental health as well, because things like that you feel like you're not good enough or you're not doing enough, or you know what I'm saying? And and and because you're not feeling appreciated. So what happens is like, um, and now, like you said, as a grown man, it took you all of this time, but maybe at that time, you was probably like, oh dad, oh. So you don't know that he probably had bills he had to pay, you don't know he probably that we're obviously separated from your mom. You don't know he had all of these things he had going on, and then on top of that, his son is making him feel like he ain't doing enough. He mad at him all the time. And now you're sitting back as a grown man, like, oh fuck that. He was only he only loved me. Like you think about those things that he was juggling his life himself, he loved me. He had to juggle the fact that he got divorced or whatever the case is. So a lot that was going on in his life.

SPEAKER_02 37:52

And you don't notice these things until you get older.

SPEAKER_03 37:54

And you didn't until you might have been ripping his heart out. Not trying to be you might have been killing him. I know what you mean, though. I know what you mean. And he might have felt like like like shit. And and and then, and then they'd be like, oh, what's wrong with him? Why he walking around like this? Because he's juggling everything, and now as a man, you like, damn, bro. Like, I probably could have been a little better tool. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 38:16

Yeah, and the point of this is really, yo, if you have a father and mother in your life, appreciate them, guys. Like I really appreciate them. Like, not for these holidays, not for Mother's Day, holidays, every day. Yo, appreciate them every day. Call them because there's a statement that I think a comedian told me, like, when you move away from home, you speak to your parents less. Think about it. You call your parents once a month, that's 12 times a year. So you're speaking to your parents 12 times a year. You might see them once or twice a year. That's one time a year. Maybe they have 20 years left. You're seeing them only what 20 times over the next 20 years, 40 times over the next. You gotta cherish your parents, cherish them, bro, because they're not gonna be here forever. I know, they're really not. And I do that, and I do that, and I appreciate my mom, I appreciate my dad, appreciate the journey I've been on, you know, different because they weren't together, but otherwise.

SPEAKER_03 39:12

See, that's the real, that's the realest thing, man. Like, like I think sometimes we take things for granted, man. Like saying, literally, if you have, I don't care what y'all got going on, you know. Sometimes people be having, oh, I'm mad at my mom, I don't want to talk to my mom. I want to talk about one dad, if they still on this earth, appreciate them. Cause God forbid something happened, it'll be something you be looking at and being sad. Nah, I crush. So so just appreciate them, know that they love you. And gun, and you know what else is real too? Well, the other thing is crazy is that remember they was trying to figure it out too. Yeah, we all trying to figure it out. You know, you and then we as sometimes as kids be like, oh, they didn't do this for me, they didn't do that for me. They was trying to figure it out the best way they can. Yes, they may not have been perfect, but that don't mean that they didn't love you. They was trying to figure it out. So how you gonna look at them any which way? How are you? How that means you don't have a right to do that.

SPEAKER_02 40:07

No. No. But I think we're gonna end it on that. So that's beautiful ending. Um key to episodes be self aware, share, share your knowledge. I hear some doors clinging, clinging. I'm gonna end it right here.