It's a Different Way to Handle Things

The conversation explores a 3rd grader's approach to social dynamics, emotional intelligence, and her transition between private and public schools.
We talk about handling peer pressure, managing emotions through positive memories, and the importance of leading with kindness while
maintaining boundaries. Plus more...

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:16

Welcome to another episode of It's a Kids Podcast. Um, it is March the whatever. I don't know, because we're recording this early. We got spring break next week, so we wanted to keep the consistency up and put some out there. But today, today, today, we have like one of the um newest additions to the podcast. So if you saw during Black History Month, we posted a video on TikTok and um also posted a video out to parents and to students just talking about Black History Month, and she was on the episode or the video interviewing um different people. So today we have Malia. How are you?

SPEAKER_02 1:04

Good.

SPEAKER_01 1:05

That's good. Alright, so Malia is in third grade, and tell us some stuff about you.

SPEAKER_02 1:13

Well, it's been good, and the school year is kinda okay. A little crazy.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

What you mean by crazy? Because we kind of talked, well, we started to talk about it a little bit before we before starting to record. What what has been your positive thoughts on this school year so far, and what are things that you feel like could be better?

SPEAKER_02 1:41

Um, well, my positive thoughts are not putting hands on each other and saying cuss words a lot. Like the in third grade, they say a lot of cuss words, and I don't understand it. Like, there's a different way to be cool.

SPEAKER_00 1:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 2:00

And by the way, it's to like, you know, just have friends, and you know, the first day of school and there's somebody new here, you can ask them to be friends. And what I'm guessing for you to be popular and all that is to be just nice, um, respectful, loyal, and listen all the time.

SPEAKER_01 2:21

Okay. Do you feel like, because that's interesting to hear, do you feel like even in third grade, because I remember growing up, it was still a thing about being popular. Is that still something? That's still a thing?

unknown 2:33

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 2:34

Being popular, yeah, it's still a thing. You think you're popular? Would you consider yourself popular?

SPEAKER_02 2:39

I I consider myself like not not that kind of popular, but just cool.

SPEAKER_01 2:45

Just cool with people. Right. I feel like I've never seen you get into any type of like disputes or anything negative with people. Is that true or I probably just haven't seen it?

SPEAKER_02 2:59

You you never seen it, but it's bec like people um to be so rude. And I like I I put my nice side first before I put any any root side. Okay. Because them other kids, they be, they be putting their root side before the nice side, and I don't be getting it.

SPEAKER_00 3:22

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

I put my nice side, but if they keep doing that, then I'm gonna have to put my roots out. And then one thing, then you're gonna be all sad and mad, and then be mad at me for what?

SPEAKER_01 3:32

Right. Cause it's cause it's only so much a person can take. Like, you can be nice for so long, and then eventually that's when you have to show people. Because people will take advantage of you if you continue to be nice and you know, don't put your foot down. So it's that's good that you kind of lead with your good side, and if somebody continues to do something, then that's when you show them.

SPEAKER_02 3:56

I have I have to let that side get to me.

SPEAKER_01 4:00

Okay. Who taught you that? Like, where did that come from? Like being able to be able to like handle your emotions and handle your actions. Like, where did you get that from?

SPEAKER_02 4:08

Well, I got it from myself, but one thing, my dad's a cancer, my mom's an Aquarius. Oh god. Them t them two? I I don't know. My mom got a lot of road rage, but what do you keep going now?

SPEAKER_01 4:24

You good. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 4:26

But what keeps me from being all mad and all that, it's just like I don't know what, but I have memories or something that gets me to this good vibe.

SPEAKER_01 4:38

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 4:39

Instead of being mad all the time and screaming in the pillow.

SPEAKER_01 4:43

I like that. You need to tell that to some adults because I feel like even um even being an adult, we have times where we need to have those, like you said, those good memories and those good thoughts so we can be able to, you know, stay on track and have a good day.

SPEAKER_02 4:59

See if you have a child, like if you have a child and you are having a bad day, just remember what you've been through with your child and having all the fun you can.

SPEAKER_01 5:12

That's real good. Do you tell that to your parents? Do you you do you ever have you ever at any time seen like your mother, your dad, like having a bad day, and you kind of do something funny or say something that kind of help them out, help their day?

SPEAKER_02 5:27

My mom, um, I give her hugs when she has stress. She just like she does this, like mat like when she has stress, I see her like like being.

SPEAKER_01 5:47

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 5:48

Just being quiet for a second and I just give her a hug. That's good. I know how she because I get, you know, all mad, and I calm myself down by I have stuffies. So that's the reason why that it calms me down.

SPEAKER_00 6:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 6:07

My thing is um video games, like going to the park, like stuff like that. Cause we, I mean, i it's some days where it's like overwhelming and so much is going on, but you gotta remember that somebody is somewhere having a worse day than you. Like even though we go through things, somebody somewhere is having a way more worse day. So uh being able to be blessed and know that, you know, it's gonna get better. Uh going back to that, you said something about your mama's a cancer. I don't know nothing about horoscopes for real. How do you know how that works? Like who taught you about horoscopes and stuff? What are you?

SPEAKER_02 6:51

A Libra.

SPEAKER_01 6:52

When's your birthday?

SPEAKER_02 6:54

October 19th.

SPEAKER_01 6:55

Okay. I don't know nothing about that. I know I'm a Leo. My birthday in August. Who taught you who taught you about that and how do you know it?

SPEAKER_02 7:05

I basically just do science.

SPEAKER_01 7:07

You like science?

SPEAKER_02 7:08

I look at science on my phone.

SPEAKER_01 7:10

That's uh astrology, right? Isn't that considered astrology? I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 7:16

I'd be going on YouTube and just looking at science a lot.

SPEAKER_01 7:21

Okay. That's your how do you feel about science? Is that one of your favorite like areas?

SPEAKER_02 7:28

Yeah, but we had for third grade, we had to ban it because we kept running around and all this chaos.

SPEAKER_01 7:35

Yeah, science got a little crazy, so you, you know, sometimes you gotta, you know, put the pen and then nip it in the bud and do something differently. But that's good that you got a love for science. I hated science. I was bad in science. Middle school, high school, college. I just never could get it. I just I don't know. I don't see how y'all understand that stuff.

SPEAKER_02 7:56

And how I know that my dad's a cancer, I've his birthday is around like July or June. That's that it's probably around June. Cause yeah, it is probably June. And how I know my mom's an aquari Aquarius, no, uh Aries is because she was born in April, April 2nd.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

April 2nd. Oh, she got a birthday coming up. Anything special planned? I know it's like a month away, but you got anything special planned?

SPEAKER_02 8:27

My baby brother's turning one.

SPEAKER_01 8:30

Alright, shout out to the baby brother.

SPEAKER_02 8:33

May 22nd. And which is the last day of school, and I won't be there because we have to plan it and all that.

SPEAKER_01 8:42

So you're gonna miss field day? Yeah, I'm gonna miss field day. Probably miss field day. So this is your second year here. What school did you go to before you came here?

SPEAKER_02 8:54

So I I went to a private school.

SPEAKER_01 8:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 8:57

And I went to a public school for two years.

SPEAKER_00 9:01

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 9:02

No, three three years. Cause uh it was Gateway and the and Gateway was three years. And the school, the private school was called Principia, and it was I only stayed there for um until May.

SPEAKER_01 9:21

Mm-hmm. What so what d do you feel like you notice a difference between like public school and private school? Like, can you notice a difference? Yeah, I know. What's what's the difference that you notice between the two? The food. The food.

SPEAKER_02 9:37

What Jesus Christ.

SPEAKER_01 9:38

Private school food better.

SPEAKER_02 9:40

Yes, I I I agree, but I'm not gonna lie, the chicken sandwiches, like I love me.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

Ooh, I love me a good chicken salad.

SPEAKER_02 9:50

They're good.

SPEAKER_01 9:51

Love me a good chicken salad.

SPEAKER_02 9:53

Yeah, like in school, those are good. I'm just waiting for one in lunch. I've been waiting for it.

SPEAKER_01 10:00

Wasn't there a chicken sandwich today?

SPEAKER_02 10:02

No. It was just a sandwich.

SPEAKER_01 10:05

It was just a but it was some type of meat. There wasn't no chicken, patty. I don't know what that was.

SPEAKER_02 10:11

It was just a patty with cheese on it.

SPEAKER_01 10:14

Right. Uh I was wondering if it was that beef, chicken. I don't, I don't know. But so that's what you're waiting on. You're waiting on the chicken sandwiches.

SPEAKER_02 10:20

Yes, I'm waiting for it.

SPEAKER_01 10:22

Crazy work.

SPEAKER_02 10:22

I need it.

SPEAKER_01 10:23

That's crazy. So I know we like I said earlier, we had started recording the videos back in back in February, and that was like, um, really I mean like me and you. Huh? Yeah, it was Black History Month. But it was really me and you, like our first time really interacting. I feel like me and you never have really like talked. Um, but like when we did the videos and stuff, I I think that was the first time that we really um interacted with each other. But have you always been kind of like shy? Have you always been like a shy person?

SPEAKER_02 10:57

I um I am shy. Like right now, I am right now, but since this is my second video doing this, you know, I'm not feeling that type of shy anymore.

SPEAKER_00 11:09

Okay, good.

SPEAKER_02 11:10

So back then, 2024, when I came to the school, I was really, really, really shy. Because I'm meeting new people here.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

Right.

SPEAKER_02 11:20

So in August, this August, I won't be shy because I'm going to be staying here for the rest of my life until high school.

SPEAKER_01 11:30

Until high school, right. Because I feel like last year, you probably only talked to who, Miss Price and probably your teacher.

SPEAKER_02 11:39

My teachers, Mr. Sadler, Miss Lauderdale, Mr. Floyd.

SPEAKER_01 11:43

There's your teacher's last school year?

SPEAKER_02 11:45

You talking about 2024 or 2025.

SPEAKER_01 11:47

2024. Well, I mean, at the beginning of 2025, you were still in second grade. Yeah, um, and Ms. M. So did you really talk in there? Because I didn't really see you talk as much, like to in class.

SPEAKER_02 12:01

I was focused.

SPEAKER_01 12:02

You was focused. Hey, I like that answer. That's a cold. That's a cold answer.

SPEAKER_02 12:06

I wasn't I wasn't talking to people a lot. My first my first friend was Journey.

SPEAKER_00 12:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 12:14

Like, she asked if I could like be her best friend. I said sure. I I thought she would not gonna lie, I thought she was in the third grade because she was tall. She was she was tall, okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:28

Still tall, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 12:29

And tall people, and tall people, I think they like a different grade or something.

SPEAKER_01 12:33

Cause they taller. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 12:36

I be thinking that.

SPEAKER_01 12:37

That makes sense. That'd be funny to hear how y'all become friends. Like, hey, you want to be my friend? Yeah, sure. Okay, now we're friends. That's not how you become friends. Like, you gotta, you know, get to know somebody, like, yeah, I think I want to be friends. But they always do that when it's somebody new. They just instantly walk over, like, hey, can I be your friend? Like, I don't even know you.

SPEAKER_02 13:00

Yeah, I say sure because she's my first friend here. So I'm like, sure. And then I'm introducing myself in the in the class. There's some new students, and Jamur. He was the only one. Oh, James. James was the uh one too. He he I knew him for a long time. He's my co he's basically kind of my cousin.

SPEAKER_01 13:22

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 13:23

Because we knew each other.

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Okay. Cause I knew each other as basically my your cousin.

SPEAKER_02 13:29

I mean, I went uh we went to like a school, like in Gateway. We went to a friend's party.

SPEAKER_00 13:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

And we was we was there and we was having fun. It was Minecraft. I I could never remember that day. Okay. It was awkward.

SPEAKER_01 13:48

It was awkward. Yes. It was both of y'all, both of y'all are some good kids, though. Um so that that that's good that you gravitate towards people that got good energy and stuff like that. Plans. You got any plans for spring break?

SPEAKER_02 14:01

Oh yes, I do. So this I was supposed to go to Dallas. Okay. But um, I'm going to Kansas for next week.

SPEAKER_01 14:10

Nice. How long you gonna be gone?

SPEAKER_02 14:13

Um, not that long.

SPEAKER_01 14:14

Just something to get away for a little bit?

SPEAKER_02 14:16

Get away for a little bit, cuz I've been staying in St. Louis and Missouri for the longest.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 14:24

It's basically my hope. I was born there, of course.

SPEAKER_01 14:27

Born here.

SPEAKER_02 14:28

Born here, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Yeah. I think I might um take a little trip for a couple days. Um, that's about it. But yeah, so I really wanted to like, I know I've been telling you this week I was gonna grab you. Uh, I just had to make sure everything was working because we had some technical issues. But like everything is cool now. So um, like I said, Malia is one of the students that we'll have on for a while because she's third grade going to fourth. So, like she said, she ain't going nowhere. This episode will probably be out sometime next week. But we just wanted to record early because we're going on spring break and gotta protect those boundaries. So, anything else you want to say? Because your people are gonna hear this when they come out.

SPEAKER_02 15:11

My people?

SPEAKER_01 15:12

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 15:13

Oh, uh, okay. But I'm gonna talk about third grade. Third third grade.

SPEAKER_01 15:19

You want to talk about third grade again? We about to go.

SPEAKER_02 15:21

I know, but didn't we already talk about it?

SPEAKER_01 15:24

Yes, you talked about third grade and they language and they uh not keeping their hands to themselves and all that good stuff. Oh your mind getting bad already, Lord. Lord hopefully.

SPEAKER_02 15:36

It's because I've been focusing on homework a lot and not not.

SPEAKER_01 15:41

That's good though. That's good that you've been focusing on your work, but you know, it's almost time for spring break, so you ain't gonna have to worry about focusing on no work. You gotta enjoy yourself.

SPEAKER_02 15:49

I know. All right, just a couple more days until the end.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

A couple more days, two and a half, because that's Friday we get out early, so we'll be out of here. All right. So thanks everyone for listening. It's been the episode of It's a Kids What's I think.