Awakenings with David Cunningham
Awakenings is a podcast with David Cunningham exploring consciousness, awareness, love, and the deeper questions that shape how we experience life. Through thoughtful conversations and reflections, the show invites listeners to see themselves, their relationships, and the world with greater clarity and presence.
Awakenings with David Cunningham
What Do You Leave Behind After Every Interaction?
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Every interaction leaves something behind.
Not just words, but an experience. An emotional residue. A lasting impression.
Most people never stop to consider what they’re actually leaving behind in their relationships. But if you look closely, it shapes everything — how people respond to you, whether they listen to you, and ultimately, the quality of your life.
This isn’t about being nice. It’s not about pretending to feel something you don’t.
It’s about understanding that love isn’t a feeling you wait for. It’s a way of being you choose. And that choice determines not only how others experience you, but how you experience your own life.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
⬜ Why every interaction leaves an emotional “footprint” behind
⬜ The hidden reason people stop listening to you
⬜ Why love has nothing to do with your emotions in the moment
⬜ How your way of being shapes your relationships instantly
⬜ A simple mental practice to transform any interaction
⬜ Why being loving directly impacts your effectiveness and influence
Every interaction is leaving something behind. The only question is, are you willing to be responsible for what that is?
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Let's talk about our love footprint. That's right. Consider that just like we have a carbon footprint, we have a love footprint. In other words, every time we leave an interaction. Whether it's a 60-second interaction with a clerk in a store, or it's a lunch with our family, or maybe it's working side by side all day with the people we work with, our colleagues. When we leave that interaction, every time we leave something behind: an energy, an experience. The question is, what do we leave behind? Do we leave behind argument, resentment, opinion, judgment, or maybe we merely leave behind indifference? Or do we in fact leave behind the experience of love, compassion, communication, respect? That's what's called our love footprint. And being aware of, cognitive of, and responsible for out to cause an extraordinary love footprint is what will actually give us extraordinary living as human beings. Have us love the living of our lives. See, this isn't a moralistic conversation. We should be more loving. This isn't a Pollyanish conversation. Oh, wouldn't it be nice if we were more loving? No, this is a conversation about our happiness as human beings. We're only happy when we're being loving. Notice, if you're ever being resentful, no matter how justified it is, you won't be enjoying your life. If you're ever being judgmental, no matter how justified it is, you won't be enjoying your life. The only time you truly enjoy your life is when you're being loving. So leaving behind an extraordinary love footprint is about the quality of your own life. And it's about your effectiveness. See, we're only effective with people that we love. No matter how brilliant we are and how much of a difference we want to make, we never really make a difference with people that we're condemning or judging. Why? Because people we're condemning or judging or arguing with won't listen to us. And our power with another human being is a function of, totally a function of how much they listen to us. So leaving an extraordinary love footprint is a matter of your joy as a human being, but also your effectiveness, being able to be heard and therefore make a difference with other human beings. So this is a conversation about our joy and our effectiveness as human beings. We need to also get a new relationship with love itself. See, most of us have related to love as a set of emotions. I feel loving or I don't. Or we relate to love as a set of thoughts. I have loving thoughts or I don't. Now, relating to love merely as a set of emotions or thoughts handicaps us because we don't have a say about our emotions and thoughts. We don't have control over how we feel or what we think at any moment in time. If we relate to love as a set of emotions or thoughts, we're either lucky or unlucky, and we have them or we don't. This conversation requires relating to love in a new way, as a way of being. See, there's ways of being for us as human beings. We can be generous, we can be stingy, we can be tender, we can be cold. We can be respectful, we can be disrespectful. Those are ways of being. Notice the ways of being are ours to control. We have a total say about our way of being at all time, under all circumstances. It's up to us, no matter how we're feeling, no matter what thoughts we have, it's up to us whether we'd be respectful or disrespectful. Whether we're loving and accepting and respectful and compassionate, or whether we're cold and judgmental and resentful, that's up to us. Relating to love as a way of being is extraordinary because it puts it in our hands. And again, we only love living our lives when we're being loving. So can we be loving no matter what emotions we're having? Yes, we can. Can we be loving no matter what thoughts we're having? Yes, we can. That is good, good news. And it gives us access to actually being responsible for and causing the love footprint we leave every time we leave an interaction. Here's what works. Before you go into a situation with other people, whether you're walking into a store to interact with a clerk, whether you're going out to lunch with your family, or you're going to work with colleagues into a meeting, before you walk in the door, actually take a quiet moment, visualize yourself being there, and visualize the experience you want to leave behind when you end the interaction. What experience do you want to leave? Visualize that. Visualize yourself being there, being loving, bringing love to the situation. Visualize what would your experience be like if you were there being loving? What would their experience be like? What might you accomplish together if you were there being loving? So visualize that before you go and be committed to leave then an extraordinary love footprint. And then when you leave the interaction, give yourself a report card. Maybe on a scale of one to five. How did you do? What kind of footprint did you leave behind? So leaving an extraordinary love footprint. It's what will have us be joyous in the living of our lives and what will have us be effective. So I invite us as individuals and as a society. Yes, let's start talking about our love footprint. And collectively, let's take on and be committed to leaving an extraordinary love footprint everywhere we go, whoever we're with, whatever we're doing.