Empathic Impact

Empathy isn’t softness — it’s impact.

In this episode, I share the story of a moment that changed everything… the night my presence literally saved a life.
This is what intuitive connection looks like when it becomes action.
Welcome to Empathic Impact. 🦝✨

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Transcript

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Welcome to Cataclysm Corner. I'm your host, Val. I don't give answers, I give awakenings. And if you're here, something inside of you has already begun to shift. Let's poke it. This is not going to be one of my questionnaire episodes. This is a rambling session following my taboo tarot ramble. Uh this episode is going to include the story and the topic that I was going to add in to the taboo tarot rambling, but I decided against it because it does not pair well with that topic. This this episode is going to be about empathy and the weight of it. In high school, I had a really close best friend. Well, a really close companion. Because even though we were close, we weren't exactly best friends. I had someone else for that. Um but we were really close. And we were close for probably about a decade after that. So we graduated in 2013, and uh we were close until about two or three years ago. And we still communicate from time to time, but we're not as bonded as we were. But anywho, I give that little bit of backstory on on um the length of the friendship for context of this story. Let's see, hold on, what year was it? 2020? 2021. Okay, so it was it was 2020. Um, after all the the COVID lockdown and all that. Ooh, are you okay? You just head back to the chair. Are you alright? Oh my goodness. Okay, sorry about that. Um, so this was during the whole COVID lockdown, COVID-19 bullshit. Um, anywho, my friend was going through some serious, serious shit. Um now I'm not gonna give any details away like name, gender, whatever's, but I'm gonna tell this story in a way that you get the point without me exposing any identities or any situations. This friend of mine had a spouse and two kids. And the spouse was very toxic, very, very toxic. Um, think baby mama drama, deadbeat daddy, okay. Think that that concept. Um I'm gonna take the kids and you're not gonna be able to see them, and you know, all this shit and everything. Well, he had excuse me, they had just had a huge court battle, and my friend had lost the case, and was dealing with some heavy, heavy emotions. Um, and one night I was having a little get together at my house with some other uh companions and friends, and this particular friend shows up on my doorstep, calls me before showing up and knocking on the door, like a few minutes. Um, I'm guessing they were en route already, uh, and had realized that they should call me before just showing up to make sure that I was not asleep. Because it was already late at this point. Um this was around midnight, and this friend of mine had already drank quite a bit. Um, like this friend was drunk and honestly should not have been driving. Um, but anyways, they show up at my house and I take them back into my mud room area, and I'm like, hey, what's going on? And now, mind you, I'm a giant empath. I know in my last episode I mentioned that I am a walking tower, but I'm also an empath. And I feel other people's emotions, other people's pain, other people's everything. Basically, I can feel the energy shift before anything is ever said or done. And when they walked up my porch, I could feel the heaviness approaching. And my stomach bottomed out before I ever even saw this friend. Now, when I saw this friend, I knew I knew that something was wrong. Like more than what I felt, something was seriously, seriously wrong. Now, when we get back into the the mud room area, I start looking over this friend, you know, looking all over. And I notice that they have their left arm tightly compressed into their gut, like just under the rib cage where you can get the most pressure. You know, that that gap between the lower rib cage and the hip bones, where you can push, push, push, and you're not gonna have the pushback of bones. And I send my roommate because they they had walked back there to check on us and make sure that everything was okay. Because as soon as he, as soon as the friend walked into the house, the whole mood shifted. That's how heavy it was. Um, everybody, everybody was like, what's going on? Are they okay? What's happening? You know, it was one of those moments where it was, it was like a tornado had just walked through the house and everybody was on high alert. Um, whether they were empathic or not, they could tell that something was going on. So my roommate had come back there and checked on us and um asked if I needed anything, and I told him to grab my my first aid kit, which was basically this cosmetic uh fold tackle box like thing, um, that I had put a bunch of first aid supplies in because I'm accident prone. I'm very majorly accident prone. Um, but that's a story for another day, anywho. So my roommate brings me my first aid kit, and I'm like, okay, hand it over. You know, show me what happened, lay it on me, you know, what's going on? And he hadn't shown me his wound yet, but I could smell the blood. That coppery metallic dirt scent. And when this friend lowered his left arm, and I unwrapped the freaking napkins because they had just grabbed some like to go napkins, you know, that you get with like dinner that you order takeout with or whatever. They just grabbed some napkins and wrapped their arm and like shoved it into their gut for pressure and drove over drunker than Cooter Brown. And I'm like, okay, and I usher the roommate out, and I like, I'm like, hey, go get me one of the girls. And he goes, huh? And I said, I need them to hold his right hand, his other hand, so that he doesn't battle me when I'm handling this. And and I keep saying he, and it's not necessarily a he, it just keeps flowing out. But, anyways, so the roommate goes and brings one of the girls that we were hanging out with back, and she's like, Hey, what's going on? I was like, honestly, none of your business. I'm not gonna elaborate. What I need you to do is to hold his hand. And she goes, What? And I said, I need you to hold his hand so that he doesn't, you know, interfere with um what I'm doing. And she goes, Well, wouldn't, you know, the roommate, she said, is their name. Um, that's probably why I keep saying his, because the roommate was a him. But, anyways, so she says the roommate's name, and she goes, Wouldn't he be better? You know, he he's stronger than me. And I said, No. I said, in all honesty, he's not gonna fight you. The the friend's not gonna fight you. But if a male holds his hand and he feels pain, he's liable to punch him. Um, it's it's one of them wounded animal concepts. Uh, with you being female, he the friend's not going to harm you in any way. He's not gonna hurt you. And uh she was like, okay, so she sat down next to me, and I tell her, I'm like, look, are you queasy around gore or blood? And she goes, yes and no. And I said, Okay, so what I'm gonna do, and I pushed the friend's arm back into, you know, to pressurize on his gut. And I said, I'm gonna blindfold you. And she goes, what? And I said, Don't worry. I just don't want to lose my helper because of the the the potential gore. You know, I don't I don't want to be shifting out people midway because that's gonna hinder the process. It's gonna throw a kink in the works. Um she's like, okay. So I take uh a small blanket, uh it was like it was like one of my cat's blankets that I had just washed or something like that. And I just kind of draped it over her head, you know. And I said, can you breathe? She goes, Yeah. So we got that covered, and I go back to tending to the friend. And when I say that this almost cost me my friend's life, I mean it. Because how do I say this so it's internationally acceptable? Um, because I have international listeners, listeners everywhere. Um, y'all don't use the metric system. Or shit, what system? So it's literally a hair's width. Like one of the hair on your head, one of the hairs on your head, like that width from the main artery. Like, in all honesty, this friend should have gone to the fucking hospital, not to me. I'm not a doctor. Now I know emergency aid because like I said, I'm accident prone majorly. And then also that I've had I've had to sew up animals. Um, like an animal gets wounded, and you know, I help it or whatever. Um like I said, I'm I'm very empathic and I have a heightened level of empathy along with that. Um so I care about other souls, whether it be human, animal, plant, it doesn't fucking matter. Um I care about other souls' wells well-being. So I get my friend stitched up. Well, I didn't put stitches in him because I didn't have needle and thread, proper needle and thread. So I used sutures, the the sticky sutures, you know, that you can tape on one side and pull together and seal on the other. Um, so I suture his arm together and I wrap it up very, very tightly, you know, to cease blood flow. And um needless to say, this friend has a giant, and I mean giant, scar running up his arm. Like you can tell that this friend has had one of those moments. Um, so no one talks about the impact on the empath, and I hope that comes across very clearly in the recording. I will say it once again: no one considers the impact for the empath. No one thinks about how it affects the empath when you dump major emotions, major issues, major traumas on an empath's lap. No one considers what they go through when they handle your baggage. Now, this friend and I, this particular friend and I aren't very close anymore, not because of the situation, but because several years after this situation, the shifts that this friend went through and the growth that this friend went through no longer aligned with me. Um, we grew apart and it happens, it happens in life. Um like I said, we still we still communicate here and there every once in a while. Actually, they just messaged me last night about a video game that we used to play together, uh, talking about how my level 80 mage that uh was deleted by the spouse in a fit of jealousy um was rebuilt back to like level 20 or so so far. But anywho, uh I told him cool. But uh yeah, no, nobody talks about the impact on the empath. But I do want to say this no matter what you are going through, no matter how heavy your load is, ending it is not an option. Ending it is not an option, there is no reason to snuff out the light that you hold within yourself. So even though you may have a day where you feel like you have hit rock bottom and nothing is working, and you see no potential rise, no potential rebound, know this. I love you and you are important to this world. Don't ever ever think that ending it, ending this life will make anything better. Because I do have news for you if you end it now, you will just return. You will be reincarnated and put in very similar situations because these situations, these hardships, these trials, these tribulations, they're not meant to punish you. They are meant to teach you. There is something that you are meant to learn within that situation within that trial. Within that hardship. So I ask of you if you have one of these days where it seems like ending it is the only option that you have, I want you to reconsider and I want you to shift your perspective. Don't look at it like, why am I going through this? Why am I being put through this? Why am I why am I having such a hard time? What I do want you to do is look at it like this. What is this trying to teach me? What can I learn from this? What boundary or lesson can I implement from the knowledge that I have gained from this particular situation? So, with that said, I'm gonna end this episode here. And if you've listened this far, either you like my voice or you like my content. Make sure to support the show. There is a support link below. And if you go and find my link tree link, there is also a link to my Instagram where I post drops about new episodes where you can stay in touch. Um there is also a link directly to my podcast page so that you can go look at all my all my episodes without having to wait for them to roll across your feed or your for you page. Also, I am in the works of getting a pop call. Um, that way I can help people walk through their shadows and work through their shadows. We can have one-on-one conversations where we discuss things that are triggering for you or things that you have issues confronting, and I will assist you. I will not do the work for you. That is not what I'm saying. However, I will help guide you and counsel you. I'm not a therapist, but with my life experiences, I've basically seen it all and dealt with it all. So, with that said, I will be sharing that link on my link tree once. Excuse you. Can you be quiet for just a moment? I am almost done. I will be showing and sharing the pop call link on the link tree once I am approved and get it all set up. I just wanted to give a heads up that that is the next new development. Um, with that said, this was Cataclysm Corner with Val. If something inside you is twitching, good. It's meant to. It's called growth. See you in the next disruption.