Misunderstood & Finding My Way Back to Myself

In this episode, I talk about what it really feels like to be misunderstood—and how easy it is to leave your heart when you’re in pain.

I share parts of my own journey this past year… the moments I was in my shadow, the judgment, the hurt, and the lessons that brought me back to myself.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being human. About recognizing when we’ve lost our way, and learning how to come back to that place of love, compassion, and truth.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, judged, or disconnected from yourself… this is for you.

Take what resonates, leave the rest.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to God and Body Podcast with Andrea Stamp. I believe in the power of our voices. And when we speak from the heart and embody love for ourselves and others, something shifts within us and all around us. This space is for real and honest conversations around spirituality, energy work, motherhood, womanhood, and what it truly means to live in alignment with who you truly are. No fluff. I'm not here to be perfect. I'm here to be authentically me and to remind you that you get to be too fully and unapologetically. Welcome to Ron Embodied with Andrea. Today on the podcast, we are going to talk about how it feels to be misunderstood when there is so much, I think, pain that can come around being misunderstood. And how can we really anchor back into our light, back into this frequency of love, empathy, and compassion? I know that that is not always an easy thing to do. Especially when we try to share with people outside of ourselves whether we are seeking validation after we've been through pain or being misunderstood, um, or we're just seeking to kind of feed I kind of like see a dragon like feed this energy over and over and over to validate our feelings, our judgments, our anger, all of the things. And I'm not saying that we're not going to be human sometimes. So when I'm talking in this podcast today, I want you to take what resonates and leave the rest. I know that a lot of us in our life have been misunderstood for something. And sometimes we've been on either end. Either the we are the ones that are looking at somebody, not through the eyes of love or compassion, maybe judgment, um, jealousy, envy, you know, all of these different things. And so we can fully misunderstand where someone else is coming from, how someone else is holding space. Um, we can be extremely critical and judgmental of um how they are doing things, um, how they're raising their kids, whatever. Okay. And then you can be on the receiving end of the misunderstanding, where you may be showing up as your true self, and you may have not shown up as your true self. Maybe you showed up deeply in your shadow. Maybe you felt um judgmental one day and you shared something about someone that you shouldn't have. Maybe you um were going through a really tough time and you were in this really negative space and you were misunderstood. All of these things, whether you are the one that is sending that energy out, or you're that one that is receiving that misunderstanding, all of it is uncomfortable and all of it is out of alignment and not in this frequency of really coming back to that space of love. And I think I was really nervous to record this podcast because I kept wanting to maybe like think my way through the podcast or through logic. And I had to realize that if I was really to share my whole heart of what has been going on for me in the last year and be able to really express myself in a way that it may be helpful for other people, I couldn't come from this logical thinking way of how to explain misunderstanding. I had to really sit with my heart. And I will tell you in the last three days to record this, there was a lot coming up for me of how I wanted to like, how I thought I wanted to show up for this episode. And I was so frustrated last night because I was like, I just don't really know how I want to explain this. And at four o'clock in the morning, it just downloaded the whole thing and reminded me that I really wanted the whole point of this misunderstanding podcast was to really remind you that you can always choose to, no matter what pain is happening in your body, no matter what has happened with X, Y, Z, that you can come back to that frequency of love. And look through the eyes of compassion and empathy and love at anything that has happened in your life. I think that's just this last year, 2025, was one of the most challenging years of lessons and tests to show me where I was not in my heart, where I wasn't looking through the lens of love or compassion or empathy or anything towards people. I was definitely deep in my shadow last year. And and a deep amount of judgment and not holding space for people and with love. And for anyone that knows me, my close best friends and my family, they deeply know that's not who I am. But for other people that do not understand and that do not know my heart, it was there was a lot of misunderstandings of who I am. And since I was so deep in that shadow phase, and again, I'm a human being, so we're all gonna go through these tests in our life. We're gonna go through these darker moments, we're gonna go through shitty relationships that are not good for us. We're going to go through patterns of people pleasing instead of noticing where we need better boundaries. Um, there's so many different instances that came up last year. And I feel that if I just share, maybe there will be something that touches you that sparks something in you that can remind you that maybe you were not standing in your light. Maybe you were not anchoring that light, maybe you were not standing in that frequency of love. And how can you find a way to find your way back to that? In this last year, like I was stating, I was deep in my shadow, and not every day, obviously. And I'm not stating all of this to shame myself, to be really like judgmental and hard on myself. I have worked so much in the last few years that I'm able to really process these things without spiraling into those. Um, it does not mean that I am perfect and that I do not have bad days, that I do not spiral for at least a little bit of being really hard on myself. But the lessons in this last year were about that, were about how instead of when I have things coming up for me, that I wasn't really trying to go back into that um compassion state or love state. I wanted to run away from all of those feelings. As a person that has been hurt a lot in her life by friends and uh boyfriends, and really poured my heart and soul into other people. There was some part of my life that I thought numbing out and running away and trying to really get away from the pain was so much easier than just realizing that these things had happened. I had been hurt, I had been misunderstood, I had had these things. So instead of really like processing them, I would begin to learn how to build a wall up around me. And this put this huge armor around my heart. And this continues throughout my life, and this is before I understood some tools and some ways and energy work and all of the things like I didn't even realize what I was doing. This last year was extremely humbling to remind me that all of the things that I deeply did not care for in other people, or I was misunderstanding them, or I was judging them, I was too doing those things as well. I did not realize that I was, because I know who I am and I know the love that I have. But when I went into these deeper states of healing in this last year, excuse me, I went to the depths of deep judgment of others, deep misunderstandings of others. And instead of like walking in the path that I know that I'm meant to do on this earth at this time, I chose to begin to shield my heart again. When I had started to open it back up in 2017, when I started doing all that energy work, and it floated with me for a long time. And I think around like 2024, I started to repeat a pattern of going back to I was hurt, I was misunderstood, I was XYZ, and now I'm a tough bitch. I'm just gonna shut this down a little bit. I'm gonna put that armor back up just a little bit. And I don't even think I realized it. Okay. I did it without even knowing I was doing it. And then I started noticing a lot of behaviors in 2025 come back in that I I know that I did when I was younger. I think it's interesting now that I'm on the other side of this feeling right now, um, to really be able to have deep conversations with my family or my friends and realize that the pattern came in so intensely of me being hurt and then really stepping outside of my love frequency in my heart and just trying to control everything and just trying to think my way through everything and just process it and move the fuck on.

SPEAKER_00 12:52

I mean, does that really work for any of us? Standing in that space, it really doesn't. I mean, it doesn't for me. A lot of the lessons that did come up in 2025 were to remind me who I am, to remind me that I'm here to walk this different path that isn't gonna feel comfortable all the time, to love people that have hurt me, to show compassion to myself and to others, and to really be able to anchor that love.

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It's not I will tell you that it's not easy, especially when the shadow side of my personality came out as deep judgment to others, massive judgment to others, because it's so much easier to look at other people and judge them and to misunderstand them and to do all of these things, even if you're not intentionally trying to hurt anyone, but it's so much easier to look outside of ourselves, to project all of those things out into the ethers instead of actually looking at ourselves and realizing oh, maybe there is a little piece in here that actually needs to realize like, I'm really judging myself, I'm really hurting myself. I am the one that is overly judging towards other people because deep down I am really judging myself. And I want to say something really quick because I know that there is a lot of people out there that say that, you know, everything is your, you know, your mirror and your teacher, and there is truth in that. There is also that, you know, there's gonna be things out there that you are okay with being upset that you were hurt. Um, it is okay that you get pissed if someone, you know, says something about you that is not true. You are going to have those human emotions, okay? But I don't feel that everything is your mirror. I do think that there's a lot of things and a lot of teachers and a lot of lessons that you're gonna learn from other people. But just because someone's a piece of shit someday doesn't mean that you are a piece of shit. And I just have to say that. Because there is a lot of people that are gonna come into your life that are going to be big teachers for you that do not need to stay in your life. So when I say that, you know, you get to look at people through the lens of love and through judgment, I am not saying that people are not going to really hurt you. And that some of these relationships should be complete because that is going to happen. Not everyone is going to be in your life forever. And I think that for someone like me that has really, really been in her heart since she was a little girl, I have really had a hard time not seeing people in their light and in their love. And so that has caused me to take even longer to release the lesson because I love people so much and I see their potential and I want to do these things for them and I want them to see what I see. But some people are not going to be those people for you. They are going to be released and they are going to move on. They served their purpose, they served their lesson, they they brought in what you were meant to see or feel about yourself. And unfortunately, so many of us get stuck in that pain, in that victimhood, in those different things, and we lose ourselves in that spiral. And it takes us a really long time to get out of it. And then we have to go through that whole other round of healing of judgment towards ourselves and grief and shame. Oh my God, the shame that we allow ourselves to feel and to just get lost in when we feel like we either were hurt by somebody and we feel like validated to live in it for a really long time, or the shame that we hurt somebody else. And so we spend years just replaying the conversations in our head, the situations that we caused, all of this turmoil in our body when, in reality, if we can find a tool, a person, a safe person, all of these ways to help us start processing these things, to move us more forward, to help us come back into our frequency of love, to remember who we really are, to remember who we really are. Because we'll get so lost in the drama or the judgment or the shame, the guilt that we lose ourselves.

SPEAKER_00 19:05

We lose ourselves in all of it.

SPEAKER_01 19:09

So, like I said at the beginning, I had a really hard time because I wanted to think my way through this. And I can't think my way through all of the lessons that were taught to me in 2025. There was so many. But a lot of them geared towards that I was allowing myself to leave that frequency of love, leave the downloads that were coming through, and how I was being asked to show up and how I was asked to hold space. And then there would be a little bit of oh, just judgment towards others because really I was mad at myself. I was I was disappointing my own self. And then as the uh 2025 was coming to an end, like I don't know, from August on, I fell into the deepest parts of my shadow that I have ever, ever fallen into. And from the outside, I'm sure it looked just like I was my normal self. I was still processing things, but on the inside, there was so much going on inside of me where I was misunderstanding so many other people instead of just having a conversation. I left the frequency of love, completely cut like armored my heart, and was just like processing everything through my mind and thinking my way through everything. And I know this last lesson came up for me to show me that this is not how I'm meant to serve on this planet. It is not how I'm gonna show up to love and hold every woman that I work with with love and integrity. It was there to show me that I still had some deep inner wounds to deal with of times that I had been hurt and misunderstood.

SPEAKER_00 21:19

And then I was projecting that back out to other women. And it was awful.

SPEAKER_01 21:30

It was awful because you don't want to look at yourself that way. You don't want to look at yourself as the mean girl or a hurtful person. And do I know deep down in my heart who I am? Of course I do. Do I know that I have a huge heart and so much love to give and that I definitely know that I am here to do work with that love frequency of the Divine Mother? Of course I do. But when you lose your way, And you go so deep into those lessons and into those judgments, you are going to be so misunderstood by people that do not know your heart. And then you're going to have those instances where people that know your heart, they're going to understand. They're going to talk to you. They're going to be direct with you. They're going to open up to your heart with you. And they're going to have these conversations and they're going to tell you when you're, you're fucking up. They're going to tell you when you're not in alignment with your soul. They're going to tell you when you're being a shitty friend. They're going to tell you when they're getting hurt. They're going to talk to you. But you're going to have those other people out there that are not going to do that, that did not know your heart. Even if you thought they did, you are going to have those few that you thought you knew, that you thought that they understood your heart and they didn't. And then you deeply get misunderstood and hurt other people from that misunderstanding. And it's going to happen because we all are here to learn lessons and to grow and to heal. And instead of falling into this depths of shame and guilt, how can you take a step back outside of yourself?

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Step back into that frequency of love and compassion for yourself.

SPEAKER_01 23:32

Because you know the truth, you understand the truth of who you are. And if you don't, continue to work on yourself. Continue to do that deep inner work with yourself. Work with your shadow. Work with your child self. Do the work. Because trust me, it's so important. If I wouldn't have done the work in the last almost 10 years, 2025, I think, would have killed me. If I'm being honest, it would have been just so fucking hard for me to understand what it was trying to say to me. Because it was just trying to make me realize that if I'm going to be able to hold that deep of light on this planet and anchoring it in love and compassion and empathy, that I can I have to hold other women in love and integrity. And I can still have boundaries. I don't need to allow in people that have hurt me, okay? But I can still be in that frequency of love. I think I've listened to so many people outside of myself in the last couple of years. So many people outside of me being like, oh, well, yeah, but you want to feel all of that rage and you wanna, you want to do these things. Because again, I know that we have a child self in there that needs to feel some of these things. But I have never healed that way. I heal by actually seeing her, my child self, my teenage self, my 20-year-old self, and giving her so much love and understanding and empathy and compassion and so much love. And I lost myself for a while, like I was saying, sorry, I got off track, is that listening to so many people outside of myself, where they just say that, you know, you're bypassing if you're just, you know, in your love. And I disagree. I disagree. I think that's the highest frequency that we need to be in. We need to find that love back into our lives and for others. We need to be able to look at ourselves through the lens of compassion and empathy and love so we can heal those aspects of ourselves that have been hurt, that have filled this massive amount of guilt or shame, all of the things, judgment towards ourselves and others. I'm not just saying to be fluffy. I'm telling you to not bypass a thing. I'm telling you that if you have a hard time to really go into those frequencies of love, then take that time, find the help that you need, whether it's an energy worker, whether it's some best friend that is safe and holds space for you in the best way, whether it's a therapist, whatever that is for you, find that space where you can find a way back to yourself. Because that's the whole point. It is about really standing in who you truly are and who you are in your heart. And we are going to continue to be misunderstood because of somebody else's shadows and somebody else's judgments and somebody else's pain that they've had in their life. But you have to remember that has nothing to do with you. You get to come back to yourself and remember who you are. I had to do that in 2025. And man, it seeped into 2026. It was a really tough lesson this time. And I knew that it had to be a really big one and a really hard one of being really, really misunderstood for me to understand it. Because as I continue down this path and I continue to walk the path of being able to anchor light in this planet and anchor light in myself and show others how to do the same and how to walk in love and how to walk in compassion, this lesson had to whoop my ass. It had to show me where I was so deeply guarded, how I was so deeply judging others, how I was really so deeply in my shadow because I was running away from myself. I didn't want to look at the ugly side of myself. I didn't want to sit and see that side of myself. And a lot of us don't. It's uncomfortable. It sucks. It really fucking sucks because I know who I am and I understand my heart. And I understand how deeply I love. But this lesson also had to remind me that, whoo, girl, you gotta stop guarding that heart. You have been hurt. You have been betrayed. You have been massively misunderstood. But you get to choose different going forward. You get to choose to hold that frequency in that grounded way. And again, I'm not saying bypass your feelings. I'm telling you to process them. Process the grief, process the shame, process the judgments, the anger, the frustration. Process those things so you can come back to your true self and you can remember who you are, that we are all just a frequency of love.

SPEAKER_00 29:30

That is just what I wanted to share today.

SPEAKER_01 29:32

Again, take what resonates and leave the rest. And just understand that none of us are perfect. None of us. Remember to not hold anyone in this like a pedestal state, that we don't make mistakes. Because I think that it's happened to me and it's happened to many other women. And we get put on these pedestals that we are this certain way and that we're always supposed to be that way. And so when we make mistakes, just like any other human, we will be so drastically misunderstood and judged. And let me tell you, some of the lessons that I had to learn this last year is that I did that to other people. That I hurt them because I was expecting them to be perfect.

SPEAKER_00 30:31

None of us are perfect.

SPEAKER_01 30:33

We are all going through this human experience. And the all we can do is our best and try to remember who we are and to stand in that frequency of love and see I see through the eyes of love and compassion and empathy.

SPEAKER_00 30:54

Knowing that none of us are perfect.

SPEAKER_01 30:58

We are all going to make mistakes. We all go through our shadow periods. We all have times where we are so deep in our pain or our shadow or our healing that we just forget that other people are going through their own shit too. So just give yourself grace if you are going through something right now, or you know that you've been misunderstood, judged, talked about, hurt, whatever it is, how can you find a way to ground it, process it, alchemize it, move it, breathe through it, shift through it? How can you find a way to come back and anchor that love?

SPEAKER_00 31:53

Because honestly, coming back to ourselves is the whole point.

SPEAKER_01 32:00

Understanding that all of these other things are just a piece of the lesson of this human life and this meat suit.

SPEAKER_00 32:10

How can you show yourself more love and more grace and release the shame, release the guilt, release the judgment, and come back to your true self. That's all I really wanted to share with you today that was on my heart.

SPEAKER_01 32:32

And what I really would love for everyone is just how can you take a deep breath today?

SPEAKER_00 32:40

Ground your energy all the way into that love frequency, and maybe just show up a little different today for yourself, for others, whatever that may be.

SPEAKER_01 32:55

And sometimes it's good to just start with ourselves. How can we show ourselves a little less mu judgment, shame, guilt?

SPEAKER_00 33:04

How can we show up just a little bit softer and be able to be in our heart?

SPEAKER_01 33:15

I am sending you all so much love because I know that sometimes all of this shit is really hard. It's not an easy thing. It's not an easy thing to sit in our uncomfortableness, especially when we're misunderstood.

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But how can you come back to yourself just a little bit more and give yourself just a little bit more of love?

SPEAKER_01 33:42

Even if that feels almost impossible.

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How can you see through the lens of compassion and love for yourself and for others? Thank you so much for listening. Until next time.