Your Authentic Self Is Your Power

In this episode, Andrea speaks from the heart about what it truly means to show up as your authentic self in a world that constantly pulls us into comparison. She shares why trying to be like everyone else disconnects us from our own magic, and how the moment we stop comparing ourselves to others, we begin to reconnect to our truth, our energy, and the essence of who we really are. Then that allows others to see and feel us fully. 

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SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to Brian Embody Podcast with Andrea Stamp. I believe in the power of our voices. And when we speak from the heart and embody love for ourselves and others, something shifts within us and all around us. This space is for real and honest conversations around spirituality, energy work, motherhood, womanhood, and what it truly means to live in alignment with who you truly are. No fluff. I'm not here to be perfect. I'm here to be authentically me and to remind you that you get to be too fully and unapologetically. Welcome back to the podcast Ron Embodied with Andrea. Today I felt it was super important for us to talk about showing up as your true and authentic self and not comparing yourself to others. I know it's not easy. I know that, especially from a recovering people pleaser and someone that has dimmed her light too many times and put myself in a box way too many times. Trust me, I'm still a human being. I do know that this is something that you feel on your empowered days. Like, I can show up as my authentic self. I can be so strong. I can, I can really, really like show up. I can talk the way I feel. And then you're going to have those days where you will catch yourself demming yourself because of the people in the room, quieting things that you feel like sharing because you don't feel comfortable, dimming your light because you feel like it's going to come off as egotistical or conceited or whatever other story somebody has told you. But when we do show up as our authentic self, like truly authentic self, and really honor that energy and really step into rooms and podcasts and teachings and things, like when we really do that, that is when our energy and our essence and our magic are felt. But then we have that beautiful, annoying thing that we do, and that is compare ourselves to others. And I know that in a day and age of social media and, you know, big networking events and all of the things, especially as a woman, this may happen for men. I'm just speaking for women right now. We can look at those other women and we can compare ourselves. We can tell ourselves that we are not good enough. We can say that we um, you know, there's every story that we would tell ourselves, we're not good enough. I'm not doing it well enough. I'm not pretty enough. I la la la la la la la. The stories and stories get bigger and bigger if we let them. How can we still show up as ourselves when we are doing that? You can't, because you're going to be spiraling and really going through that we, that hamster wheel of looking at every single person and comparing yourself and either trying to do it just like them, because you know, I am in a lot of groups of women that do similar work to me. And I think when I first started this, like as an example, when I first started energy work, I was in all of the groups of the energy workers. And so your ego, your mind, all of these things will start to compare yourselves over and over and over again because you'll be like, she has so much better magic than I do, or she does energy work so much prettier, or she can really see visions coming through and she can do all these things. At the beginning of my work, it was really hard to not really allow myself to shine and allow myself to really stand out of the crowd, even though I knew that my energy work and my magic and my gifts were just as special as somebody else's. But when we get into that comparison loop and we continuously do things, then we are not showing up as our true authentic, magical, beautiful self. And it again, we are human beings. So we're gonna have these human emotions and these experiences that are gonna show us either how to be more brave and how to really show up as our authentic self and to shine our light even brighter. And we're gonna have those other lessons that come through, or whatever you want to call them, that comes in to show you that you are still playing small, you are still putting yourself in a box, you are not showing up as you. The other thing that happens when we are comparing ourselves to other women is that we start to really want to copy what they're doing because we do not think that we are enough as we are. And that is such a shame because God, universe, creator, whatever you call it, created you to be exactly who you were meant to be. And you have your own magic, your own essence, your own gifts. And the more that we amplify those into the ethers, into this earth, into the universe, into the things, you are going to then call in the people that you are meant to be around, that you are meant to be friends with, that you're meant to be in relationships with, that you are meant to work with if you do this work. Because you are putting that beautiful, amplified energy out into the universe, into the world, so the right people can find you. And if you are copying other people, because, and that is again, because we have expanders out there and we have people that we look up to and we have things. What we have to be careful of is trying to be them. Because when we do that, then we're not showing up as our true authentic selves, and we are not showing up as the beautiful woman, teacher, leader, energy worker that we could be, because we are trying to be like somebody else. And then we get lost in that abyss for a little bit, and maybe we aren't seen the way that we are meant to be seen. Maybe we are not being, we can get misunderstood of who we truly are, all of the different things because we did not show up as our true authentic self. So when you go through these things and you start to notice that you are starting to go down this hamster wheel of comparing yourself to other people and trying to be more like them. I mean, I've seen it in the community for a really long time. It happens all the time. And you will see that something gets like whatever. And I don't think that it's intentional most of the time that people are really wanting to be like somebody else. It just happens because that other person wasn't being in their true authentic, like essence and being able to just like really believe in themselves so much and like let their light shine on their own and let their freak flag go because they were too busy being like somebody else. They were comparing themselves and then they got caught in this little balk that they put themselves in because they felt like they had to follow other people. But when we do that, and I'm not talking about like, you know, we are gonna have teachers that are gonna show us the way, but then what you do is then you take it and you intertwine and interweave your own essence, energy, and magic to it. You show up as your true authentic self. You take what you've been taught. You know, I've been taught by yoga teachers, energy workers, psychics, like all of the different things. So, what you do is you take all of the things that you've learned and you make it yours because you put your beautiful essence into it, showing up as your true authentic self and interweaving all of those things together, and you create what is meant to come from you. Do you know what I'm saying? I know that you know, it's especially when you are just starting out, like I said, when I first started getting into energy work, it is really hard to understand how to show up sometimes as your true authentic self because you're so busy looking outside of yourself. Like, how do they do it? How, you know, oh, maybe I should do it that way. But what happens is that you don't evolve and grow because you are not fully practicing with your own energy, your own self, your own, like trusting what's coming through for you and making it your own. You're too busy looking outside of yourself and not showing up as your true authentic self. You are not realizing that you do not have to do it. Like, okay, when I am teaching people energy work, I instead of just saying like it's a Reiki course and we're gonna learn one, we're gonna learn two, we're gonna do these things, I call it opening your gifts because what I have learned through my process of standing up and really, you know, not dimming my light and showing up as me and interweaving the things that I've learned and the things that I've downloaded that have come through through my gifts, that it has shown me that I am here to help people understand how to do energy work, but to open their abilities, their psychic gifts, their clairs, their how to feel energy, how to keep other people's energies out. So I call it open your gifts retreat because I feel like it is such a gift to show people their own essence, their own light, and that they do not need to be anything like me because they're not like me. I'm not like them. You know, I have so many friends that have so many visions and visuals when they're doing work. I don't. I just don't. I have some things that come through, but mine come through with feeling and different essence, and I can hear and I can do these things. So I create these spaces, these retreats, these workshops, whatever, to remind you to stand in your own authentic truth, your own essence, your own energy, and then amplify that. And it is gonna take discipline and it is gonna take practice and it is gonna take a lot of trust, a lot of surrender, and a lot of believing. And again, as humans, we don't want to do that. So I get that. But that is why I teach the way that I teach. And I know that I still watch people struggle, like because I watch them looking outside of themselves. But I don't feel it the way that you do, or I don't see it the way that she does. I don't do the XYZ.

SPEAKER_00 11:48

Because you're not meant to.

SPEAKER_01 11:50

Or maybe you need to practice more. Maybe you need to have that discipline. But what we have to do is we have to stop looking outside of ourselves and comparing ourselves to everyone else and trying so hard to be someone else that we are not. We get to just show up as us. Again, I know it's not always easy. I'm telling you, as someone that has gone through her own spirals all the time of telling myself that I am not enough, that I do need to do it this way. But the more that I stand into my heart and the more that I stand in my own energy and I show up as me, as my true authentic self, is the more that I feel that joy. And that none of this is like work for me. It's just fun. And yes, again, I do understand as an entrepreneur, I am going to have to like, I have to work. I don't get to just fly through the ethers of like, you know, whatever. There's gonna be days that are harder than others. But my point is, is if you can find a way to really just show up as yourself, even if it's not easy at first, even if it feels like that you're not showing up as yourself because you are showing up as your authentic self instead of like pretending to be somebody else, because I know that that's happened to me in the past as well, it will soften. And then you will start to feel that joy and that essence and that energy comes behind it. And it's so magnetic. It's amplifies out to anyone that is meant to be around you, is meant to work with you, and it happens all the time. And you are going to have days and maybe seasons where you're not gonna be your best self, you're not gonna show up as your authentic self, and that is okay. There is gonna be times because again, we are all human. And what is that saying?

SPEAKER_00 13:50

Also, like um, no, I don't think that's important. Doesn't matter. So the best thing you can do is just stop comparing comparing yourself. Because it's just they aren't you and you aren't them.

SPEAKER_01 14:10

And like I said before, the creator created you to be exactly like you are meant to in this life, and you get to just trust it and start to fall in love with yourself so you can serve out in this universe. Even if you literally work at an insurance company and you are showing up as your true authentic self, and you're in your joy, and you're in your love, and not doesn't have to be every day, by the way, but you do that, then there is a piece that's probably serving because your energy is amplifying that beautifulness. Do you know what I mean? I don't know. It's just been on my heart and my mind this week. And I watch the community and I have been really taking it in too much lately, just watching it. A lot of people compare themselves. And I think that as we are moving into more of 2026, that we get to understand like you don't have to. You can just show up as you, and the right people will find you if you do. If you can continue to just be in your heart and in your essence and in your own energy and really show up as your true self, I really think that that's the only thing that matters. We don't have to do everything that everyone is showing online. I mean, especially if you're an entrepreneur right now. Oh my gosh, the only thing you see is how to sell yourself and how you can do this and how you can do that, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, dude. Or you could just choose to show up as yourself. And I know some of us, some of us women, we gotta make money, we gotta hustle, we gotta do all the things. And I totally believe in working and, you know, action, all of those things. Like, I don't know if you know anything about human design, but I'm a manifestor 3-5. And I love just taking action and getting things done. Like I wanted it done three days ago, if it's on my heart, you know. I act on things very quickly when it comes through.

SPEAKER_00 16:14

If I don't, my energy will show it. So, you know, give yourself grace.

SPEAKER_01 16:24

But if you feel like you are constantly going through that hamster wheel of not showing up as yourself, you're finding that you're always comparing yourself, maybe it's time to switch groups, lives. I don't even know. I know that's silly. But it's true. I mean, I think if you can't show up as your authentic self, and I know that a lot of us it's our own shit, but sometimes it's who we're surrounding ourselves with.

SPEAKER_00 16:56

So keep that in mind as well. But um yeah, find those ways to show up.

SPEAKER_01 17:06

And again, my best advice would be to show up how you would around the people that really love you, but show up around everyone that way, knowing that it only matters how you feel about yourself. And I know that's a whole nother topic, especially with women, that we're really hard on ourselves. And a lot of us don't love ourselves, a lot of us judge ourselves so hard that we don't even know who our true authentic self really is. I was like that when I was younger.

SPEAKER_00 17:46

My mom said the the sweetest comment to me the other day. I think it was right after my dad's celebration of life this weekend.

SPEAKER_01 17:56

My mom looked at me and she just said, Yeah, I'm just so proud of the woman that you've become when you were younger. You just didn't know who you were, and like you were so self-conscious, and you cared way too much what other people thought. It was like the only thing you cared about. And now you're just doing the thing and you shine your light out into this world. And she's like, I was telling your sister that the other day, and you're and she was just like, Yep, she's just, you know, she's gonna get right back out there and she's gonna do the thing because she is here to shine her light or something like that. And it was so, it was so amazing to hear that because I was one of those women back then. And I do know that it was really hard to show up as my true authentic self because I was so worried about what everyone else thought, or how if I could be like them, or maybe I should change myself because I didn't probably love myself. And I know that that's not an easy task for us as women sometimes. But damn it, we are all lovable and we are all amazing, and we all have our own magic, we have our own energy, our own essence. And the more that we can find a way to find ourselves back to our true selves, that is where the magic is.

SPEAKER_00 19:13

And I know it's not always easy. Again, I know it's not always easy. I have such a dry throat, sorry. But uh try to find those things that help you.

SPEAKER_01 19:29

And I know I've said it in past uh podcasts, but be surrounded by people that lift you up, and really start to understand like the more that you love yourself, the more that you stand in your light, the more that you amplify that energy, that is where it is showing up as your true authentic self, standing in your light, not fucking dimming yourself, that is where you're going to feel that massive amount of joy.

SPEAKER_00 20:05

And you're so connected then to your true self. And it feels so beautiful. So, ladies, I know it's not easy, like I said, but do whatever you can to find that space.

SPEAKER_01 20:22

Surround yourself with fucking amazing women, whether that be your mom, whether that be your sister, your aunt, your cousins, your best friends, networking women, groups of sisterhood, whatever that is, find it and let them hold you and receive it so that way you can find your way back to yourself if you aren't there yet. Because the world deserves to see you. The world deserves to like see that light in you, and you deserve it too. You deserve to stand in that true authentic self, your true self, and to feel that joy and honor yourself and love yourself and really appreciate this beautiful life that we are living.

SPEAKER_00 21:14

All right, ladies. With that, have a beautiful day, evening, wherever you are in the world.

SPEAKER_01 21:21

And remember, you are fucking awesome just as you are. And find a way to amplify that. You don't need to change to be like anyone else. You are whole just as you are. Just remember that. And if you can't remember that, listen to this over and over and over again until you drill it into your head. That you are whole and beautiful just as you are, and coming back to your true self and that essence and that energy, that is where the magic lies.

SPEAKER_00 21:52

Until next time.