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The Best (And Worst) Wedding Themes!

• Bryce & Manda Porter • Season 1 • Episode 7

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Bryce & Manda from Porterhouse Video discuss which wedding themes are the best and worst and how to execute them properly, AND an AITAH Reddit Story whether or not a bride or her mother ruined a wedding.

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00:00 - Intro 
02:19 - We went viral?
08:46 - Do Disney Weddings suck?
13:48 - Best & Worst Wedding Themes!
55:44 - AITAH For a family fight at my wedding?

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Hey Lovebirds, welcome to for better or worse, a podcast about everything weddings, vendors, and love. We're actually at the end of the filming right now, where we have uh drank some drinks and we've had a really good episode. It's a nighttime episode.

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Um, I hope you guys nighttime episode. This was a cocktail hour episode.

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It's a nighty night episode where we're all yawny and we're all drunk, kind of. I'm not drunk.

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I'm not drunk. I had a glass of wine.

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Well, speak for yourself.

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You just downed a Bourbon.

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A Bourbon.

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Yes. No. Good.

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Um we're both married today.

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We are. We both have our rings on. We're allowed to be around each other.

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Marriage. Mowage. Today we're going to be talking about wedding themes.

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We're going to talk about whether or not it's a good idea to go with this and why. Should you really lean into this theme? Should you just pull elements of this theme and whether or not that can affect how your wedding day plays out?

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And we're going to give you tips and tricks on whether or not going full force into one is a good idea or whether backing off of one is a better idea.

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Um, I also have a Reddit story. Uh, an am I the asshole story about some family drama that happened on a wedding day?

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I also have a Reddit story about a bride who is feeling bad because she feels like her maid of honor stole the spotlight of the wedding day. A maidzilla. Yeah. A maid of bullshit. Sorry, that got me good. Uh I was I was literally just gonna say a maid of dishonor. Dishonor on you, dishonor on your cow. Commented that on a short that we posted the other day, and somebody was like, I he I see you with the Mulan reference, and I was like, Yes, that's our second Mulan reference.

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It is. That's funny. Well, we haven't gotten there yet. Yeah, you'll see.

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If you have anything that you want us to read or react to on the podcast that's wedding related, feel free to go to your Gmail and email us at for better or worse podcast.

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Your Gmail? They have to go to Gmail specifically.

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No Hamail, no Yahoo, no AOL. If you have something that you want us to read on podcasts, email us at for better or worsepod at gmail.com or DM us on TikTok or Instagram. Um, and we would love to see what you want us to read. He's trying really hard. Not to seem drunk, yeah. Night podcast. Night podcast. My phone's over there. I need to go get it.

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I love these chairs, man. I'm so tired though. It's hard because like I low-key want to put like blankets over us and have us be like, Do you remember when? Right? How'd you go?

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This is the first time we're recording a podcast somehow, since we posted a little video on all of our social medias and on Instagram that garnered about 1.2 million views.

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I love how this is what you're opening with. That this is what you've decided is your legacy is making me look like an idiot.

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I didn't decide sh. The public decided it.

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No, no, no, no, no. So the public made a sandwich appear in front of me.

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Hey, if you got anything that you want us to read or react to on the podcast, feel free to DM us on Instagram or TikTok. And you can also email us at for better or worsepod at gmail.com. Um, anything goes if it's good or bad. We just want to read it.

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And this is why he's rubbing my feet for this video. I get that pissed me off.

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I can't believe that so far. Our most viewed thing from this podcast is a stupid throwaway bit I did where you magically make a sub appear. Um, if that's our legacy, then that's great. That's awesome. I love that for us. Congratulations to us.

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Thank you so much for sharing that with our people.

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Um, when you um in the future, when they're holding a gun to your hand and you're like, Who's doing this? What did you like for better or worse podcast? You say I liked it before the submarine sandwich, even though that was only like seven six episodes in six or seven.

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I hate you. I hate you. Oh, we are we are filming this podcast very late tonight. At night. At n night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, night, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, nine, night, nine, nine, night, nine, night.

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SpongeBob. SpongeBob, why are you please? Um, we've got our drinky drinks like we said we were going to last time. Cheers.

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Maintain eye contact. Why do we maintain eye contact, baby, whenever we cheers? Uh, because it's good luck.

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No, specifically, if you break eye contact, it's seven years bad sex. So we've been told. So we've been told.

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Don't put that in there. I don't like that.

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My parents listen to this, and so do yours. We have children together. We're having a late night podcast recording. Um, we're in these fancy dancy rocking chairs that we bought because we're we're uh sports parents. And we sit out a lot of games. Um, and we wanted them also to be a tax write-off, so that's why we're recording wanted them to be a tax write-off.

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We needed new chairs because we had just normal, you know, like lawn chairs that we brought to games that finally were like, hey, it's been five years, you spent 20 bucks on these. You know how your hips hurt after every game? Yeah. Here's why. And also, I have a tendency during games to just like stand up and walk around and whatever because of nervous energy. And this helps. These are nice. These are the only problem is it's so soothing to make you go to sleep. There's so many blankets around us, too, that I just like by the end of this, I'm gonna have like a pillow right here. I'm gonna be tugged up in the I mean you're rubbing my feet.

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The hat.

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I'm holding a candle like screwing it.

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It's gonna be nice. Um, what is your drink of choice for our nighttime podcast, baby?

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So I'm drinking grown-up grape juice. Um, it is just a cupcake brand, Moscato D'Osti, which to me is just like the sprite of wines. It's very bubbly, it's very fruity, it's very easy to drink a lot of with Power Aid champagne. Oh, and it's like Power Aid champagne. It's like so good.

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It's like what they give the kids at church when they're like they do not give this to kids at church. No, it's like what they give the kids at church, and the kids are like, I think I had too much of the the whatever they were giving us. The communion. The communion. What are you drinking?

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Yours looks like cider.

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I'm drinking, yeah, it's just apple cider. No, it's um it's uh bourbon. It's wood. Why do you say bourbon like that? Bourbon. It's a bourbon, it's bourbon. Uh it's bourbon. It's Woodford Reserve, I think. I think it's a double one. Woodford reserve. It's 11 o'clock because my alarm sets off and it says it's 11 o'clock. It's gonna be one of those podcasts where we're just kind of fing yapping. Uh we got things to do. We got we got things that we want to read. We do, we do.

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I have a reddit, I have a Reddit story.

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I have it in my the ass Reddit story about a wedding. I have a little game that we want to like we can play, and I gotta do it. We have a game? Kind of. It's uh it's like a yeah or nay kind of game. You want to start with that?

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We can do that. I don't know what it is. The thing is though, if you're gonna be rubbing my feet this whole time, you can't be like switching between drink and feet. It's freaking me out a little bit.

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That adds to the flavor, honey. I want my flavor profile to be half toes and half and half double aged bourbon.

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Double aged bourbon. How many ages has it been aged? How old is your bourbon?

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Double.

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How old are you? Double. I'm twiple you as old.

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Alright, so don't forget to sus Oh my god, no. I was trying to smile too hard. Don't forget to subscribe to this channel. Oh, wait, how do I say it? I need to know how many chairs to put out. Uh, so I need a headcount on how many subscribers we have.

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You need to know how many blue napkins need to be on each table. So subscribe so we know. So stupid.

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So stupid.

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But I look you love it. Um, we're just gonna do it's just gonna be year or nay. I spent the last um like day researching different wedding themes from the last like 20 years.

SPEAKER_01

So like themes like nautical.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, that's a that literally is the first one I looked up was nautical or whatever. These are all wedding themes that I found one way or another, like whether they were on YouTube or Reddit or like featured in a newspaper or you know, whatever, somewhere. Yeah, exactly. Sh like that. Disney. Um I wanted to have a Disney themed wedding so bad. I found 25 of them. Oh, I guess I'll just go f myself. We're gonna have a Disney themed wedding, we might as well just go to Disney.

SPEAKER_01

Hell no. That's gonna be a whole nother not a Disney wedding. We're gonna do another wedding and have it be Disney themed. No, well, yeah, sure. Or we'll just go to Disney and wear fancy clothes. Whatever you want, baby.

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Maybe you really feel bad about that sandwich thing, don't you? We can Disney bound as Carl and Ellie. No. When they got married.

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No. She couldn't have children. She died very sad. He thought she was unhappy. I don't I like Carl and Ellie from up, but I like I like Kevin better from up. Kevin's a girl. Uh no, I I really did want to have a Disney themed wedding at one point because I thought there was a lot you could do with it. Like, I mean, think about it. You could have a Disney themed wedding where the entire wedding is like, well.

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Shake it out of you.

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I'm trying to. It's okay. I'll get there. It's because I've been rocking.

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When you start talking, that's one thing about podcasting that they don't warn you about. You yawn like crazy when you talk. Like your body is just like, I'm not used to expelling this much air.

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I love that every time you're like, oh like that's how I feel. Because I'm trying to like get it out really quick. It's like when you barf. But anyway, no, I feel like like if you have a dis like if you're like, oh, I'm going to a Disney themed wedding, for me, that means so many different things. Yeah, it doesn't. And I know I'm going off on a bit of a tangent because we talked about themes, but I feel like this is like if we're just gonna be sitting here drinking, I'm just gonna talk about Disney stuff really quick.

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That's okay.

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Because like, think about it.

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You could be like, is it Disney Parks? If it's Disney Parks, which Disney Parks?

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Is it Disney princess? Is it one Disney princess? Is it a Disney character themed wedding? Some people are like, Oh, yeah, I'm having a Disney themed wedding and it's Star Wars. It's like you just say I'm having a Star Wars themed wedding. Let us know in the comments.

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Every Star Wars like loaths that Disney is Star Wars.

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See, and it's funny that you were like, oh yeah, no, like we could we could Disney bound as my brain automatically went to Constance as as the best thing to like if you're gonna be a bride in Disney.

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Isn't that the isn't that the chef from uh Lady in the tramp? Constance? Yeah, isn't that his name? The Italian chef. It's Constance. Constance. Constance.

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It's Tony. Tony's Times Square restaurant, Tony's Town Square restaurant that we've eaten at on our honeymoon.

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He was Tony. He was number one. We learned from some of our fans, including Lauren, who was on the podcast a while ago, that um some of our friends drink whenever we make a SpongeBob reference, which is hilarious. So keep it up. We'll do it too. Hooray.

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No, Constance is the the bride from the haunted mansion that kills all of her husbands. That's Constance. You want to kill me? And the rest of my husbands. Cool. It's just like a hobby at that point.

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Yeah, it's just like a thing.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, no, it's no big deal. All right.

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Well, anyway, I got a bunch of thieves that I found.

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The quicker you can shut down my Disney thing, the better. No, we'll have to do a podcast one day where we like really break down Disney weddings because we actually filmed a wedding for a couple who was married in Disney, uh, right underneath the Epcot ball.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, they were. And their wedding was out of this world. That's what they said in uh in the Good Morning. No, yeah, Good Morning America segment that they did on it. Was it Good Morning America? It was a Good Morning America.

SPEAKER_01

That tracks. No, but I there's a lot that goes into it because like you can't just be like, oh yeah, no, I want to have my wedding at like three. Like it's a it's a park.

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Yeah.

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Like if you're getting married in a park in in Disney World, like it has to, it's very regimented.

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They got married at like 6 30 in the morning. They were all up and getting ready.

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I think it was a little bit later than that, but like I was gonna say, like four in the morning, she was up getting ready and everything like that, which is crazy because that's usually when I'm coming back from the parks. Like, could you imagine me just like my feet are sore, I've got my lounge fly out of my ears, and I'm like, I have some fireworks, and they're just like doing my hair like in wan, like they're just like pulling my hair and stuff, singing to me, and I'm just like and uh cricket. Oh you are soup and fandish with the hip check.

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So, anyway, these are all themes of weddings that I found over the internet from the last like 20 years. Um, some of them are really good, some of them are not so good, and I just want you to like yay or nay them.

SPEAKER_01

Can I guess a couple of them first and you can tell me if you have them on your list? Sure, go ahead. Till death. Till death do us part. Like uh No, that one's not on here.

SPEAKER_04

Okay, well, it should be because we've had a couple of we've we've had a couple of couples, we've had a couple couples do that, and I always think it's cute. I think it's I love it. I think it differentiates you.

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I I think they're that's really, really cute.

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Some tarot card readers at the reception.

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I said skull hands instead of skeleton You knew what I meant.

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You didn't correct me.

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Oh my god, bones! Okay, here we go. First one, year and a guess one, and you were like moving on. Celestial. Do you want to guess? No, no, uh celestial celestial starry night. Touches of twinkle lights.

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Sophia Nygaard's wedding.

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Sure. Oh, yeah. I watched that wedding film. Yeah.

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Sophia Nygaard's wedding. That was more like I wouldn't see.

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She had like all the clouds behind her and shit. Yeah, it was very celestial. Very cool. I really liked that. Soft. Let's let us interview you and Tyler on this podcast sometime, please. Thank you.

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Yeah, they also did like uh their first dance was the uh the Adams Dance from the Addams family, they were Morticia and Gomez, yeah. It's so hot. Like that was the whole oh, it was so good. So hot. It was so good. Her dress was very Morticia inspired. It was oh my god, so beautiful. So, what do you think? Yeah or nay, is that a good thing to do? I think as long as it doesn't come across as being like prom, like under the stars, or like wish upon a star. I think if you do it in a way that really accentuates the theme through color and and details and not just like I uh there's a bunch of stars, and we'll put up twinkle lights and say it's under the stars. I think if you really lean into it, it can be just so ethereal and expensive looking.

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Yeah, I think it's a lot of the negative space needs to be filmed. Or sorry, a lot of the negative space needs to be filled. Yeah, if you concentrate on one wall being all starry night, and then the rest of it is like a church gym, like you're not gonna have a good time.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, you really gotta like if you really want it to be that theme, it's gotta be a lot of twinkle lights matched with like a lot of like darks, yeah, like like dark, like moody things and just utilize the tables and stuff and put like you know, like uh um like drape lights over that, like the curtain lights, the skirt lights that you put over bushes at Christmas time. I mean, you can even lean into it by having like, yeah, only wear like navy and turquoise and like gold and black, maybe, but like that that would even also tie it in more because you're looking around and the people have kind of become the theme of the wedding, which I always love.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, so yay or nay.

SPEAKER_01

Yay, as long as it's done in a way that doesn't look like senior prom in a gym.

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Number two is the hunt is over. Camouflage bridesmaids' dresses and neon orange vests for the groomsman.

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There's a reason I don't like this. And and it's not, it's not because I don't it's it's kind of ironic because I love camo print. I think camo print is actually really fun. I think it's better for like a stag party.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, like a like more like a joint bachelor, bachelorette party.

SPEAKER_01

Or I even like it when they do like I like when like camos used for like baby showers when it's like our little deer is on the way. No, when they're like a little deer and it's like it's leaned into the fact that it's like you know, that kind of thing. I like it.

SPEAKER_04

But the reason coming out of my turkey blind, it's a boy.

SPEAKER_01

It's a boy, and his name is Radder. Um, but the the reason I don't like it is because that's what Mama June wore to her wedding with Sugar Bear. She wore that big camo dress, and it had like orange accents, and that's unfortunately what I associate like when you're like, Oh yeah, I'm doing a camo dress, I just see Mama June coming out of her house to Sugar Bear with her forklift foot.

SPEAKER_04

Like it's we should we shot a uh commercial for a company where we interviewed somebody and they were having a wedding. And her dress had camo detailing, yeah. Her dress itself was not camo. I feel like the tool had a light camo print on it.

SPEAKER_01

So, you know the show Seven Little Johnsons? Um, right now they're showing on the show like the planning of Liz and Bryce getting married, and he wanted to wear just a camo vest underneath his thing, and it was like this whole big to-do about her being like, I don't want it to look rednecky. And it's like, it doesn't have to if that's the only element. Um, but I don't like that the hunt is over because to me, it once again doesn't speak to it being a couple. It it doesn't seem like the girl had any say in it the same way that Bambi's mom didn't have a say in what happened to her. Yeah, no, I don't like I don't like the concept of it. Like if you want it to be hunt like a hunted, a hunting theme wedding, like I would much rather it be like, I don't know, like figure out something better or just have the theme just be those colors. Like it doesn't have to be like that. I would much rather that be for like literally a stag party, the hunt is over, is kind of a dope idea.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, but literally every uh when it comes to the wedding and the wedding theme itself, it's always so like I'm stuck with him. I don't care if he beats me, you know, that kind of thing. Oh my god. I don't I understand what you're saying, but like I grew up in this kind of area and that thing was was very, very prevalent. Yay or nay for you.

SPEAKER_01

I say nay for the title of the concept, but if that's like your vibe and you want that to be your theme, like your theme of your wedding day, go for it. But like you don't have to announce it that that's like the thing you're going for because I just don't like it.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, I don't want to preface that. There goes your hand again. I want to preface that all of these are ones that like are real and were found by me. Um, I do want to preface that like if that fits your like persona and your relationship and you really want to do it, like go for it.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, these are just like our opinions about like just like what we've seen or like what like my personal notion of this is. This is literally just like what's your opinion? And honestly, it's doesn't matter what we think. Yeah, no, we've spoken to couples who have like spoke seen our podcast, and they're like, Yeah, no, like I I'm having ice cream like later on at night, and it's like do that. Yeah, I wouldn't. I didn't do it, it's your day, baby.

SPEAKER_04

It was specifically this couple they met at a Dairy Queen and like working their first job at a Dairy Queen.

SPEAKER_01

So um having that close out their night is kind of like their beginning and like their like exclamation point on their day.

SPEAKER_04

I love it. It's such a good tie-in to like their relationship. So, like, do what you want, but try to plan around how you and your partner are. If you guys like Manna and I couldn't do starry night, we're not really like starry night people, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

No, that's not our thing. I feel like if we were to do like 10 years into our relationship now, what would we do? What what do you think would be our our theme or like our vibe if you had to pick it? I got one that's not serious, one that's serious. Well, give me the not serious one first, so that way when you say the the serious one, I can like you a little bit. Diet Coke.

SPEAKER_04

I'd like that as a bridal shower theme. Oh wait, you said the not serious one first? It's like the sandwich all the sub all over again. Um, I've got a lot of these. We should probably What was your serious one?

SPEAKER_02

You didn't have one, you motherfucker. I didn't have one. I thought I would be able to think of one by now.

SPEAKER_01

For us? Yeah. It would be a cute tie-in of like I w I wouldn't want to do like it would probably be like somewhat like movie themed. That's what I was thinking. No, it wasn't. It would be movie themed, but it would be couples that wish they were us. And it would be like I'd I'd kind of want to do like couples that ended tragically, which I think would be really cool to be like, yeah, you wish your love story was as good as ours, like Jack and Rose, um Bonnie and Clyde. You know what I mean? Like couples that were people are like, oh, they're like Romeo and Julia. Like, oh, they were 16 years old, they had sex once, and then they killed themselves. Like, it's not that's not great, but like you wish you were as cool as us. We lasted longer, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

Um, let's we've got a lot of these. Aida. Sorry, that was another one. Let's fly through some of these. Ready? Uh Roaring 20, speak easy. Feathers and pearls everywhere with a secret password required to get into reception. Give guests an excuse to dress up in a vintage glam.

SPEAKER_01

So, yay, if it's not a costume party. Yay, if it's uh fully a costume party. Nay, if you're like, you can dress up if you want.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Or if you're not really like leaning into it. Like if there's like inspo, heck yeah. Like if your jewelry is like, yeah, this is very like 20s, my dress is inspired by 20s, like you know, the the the music that's playing during cocktail hour, we're leaning into it. The drinks are inspired by it. Like, details of that is awesome, but like it's either gotta be full blown or subtle.

SPEAKER_03

Yep.

SPEAKER_01

And everyone has to commit, or it looks like it's an unrealized thing.

SPEAKER_04

Gotcha. Yeah. Uh zombie apocalypse, fake blood splattered on a white dress, and zombie survival kick topper.

SPEAKER_01

Live your life. Isn't that so weird that I'm like, ew, roaring 20s?

SPEAKER_04

But like I it's just not far enough. That's the problem. Is that it's one of those things that's like um, a little bit and be like, oh, I can see it kind of like a flapper theme or whatever, or it's like you go in full nuts, right?

SPEAKER_01

I like a fully realized concept. I really do. I can really appreciate somebody who's like, I had a vision and I went with it, and it's important to us. Yep. Um, go for it. See, um, I would never do it. Yay or nay zombie apocalypse. Yay. Cool. Yeah. I mean, like, I feel like a lot of people would be like, this is really, really fun. And I mean, wouldn't it be kind of cool to go like as a guest being like, yeah, no, I heard that like, you know, like when you walk in, you have the option of like bloodying up yourself. I would go thrift a dress. Yeah. Purposefully for that. Or imagine if it was like zombie prom themed. That would actually be really fun too. Like, come in, like, a dress that you like thrifted or inspo'ed by the 80s, and then when you come in, it's like douse yourself in some blood. I feel like that theme would be also really easy to realize, too. Because like you just have to kind of like break some sh.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, Mediterranean summer, lemons and olive branches making it feel like a destination wedding. So, Mamma Mia. Yeah. Mamma mia. I have three dads.

SPEAKER_01

My And the wedding's tomorrow. Like, hell yeah. Don't go. Oh my god. See, once again, it's another thing where like if you lean into it. I like how we just like assume that this is like a Mamma Mia themed wedding, but like I feel like Does anything else happen in the Mediterranean other than Mamma Mia? Like a lot of stuff happens, but this is just like us doing like a if you were to do this in upstate New York, how far would you go? No, I think that that's really, really cute because you could lean into that with the food, the colors once again, have your have your guests dress at a at a dress code, and you could do it either really subtle or like all out.

SPEAKER_04

Everybody in like white cotton rompers and like that. It'd be sweet.

SPEAKER_01

I think it'd be really airy and light, and I could see it like transitioning. Yeah, I think it'd be great.

SPEAKER_04

Next one is corporate office with a little bit of a next one is corporate office. Um, lanyard name tags for seating charts or vows right off a literal PowerPoint presentation. You're telling me this is a severance themed wedding. Oh, that'd be so sick.

SPEAKER_01

That's what I got when you said everybody gets lanyards and has to read things off of there. That'd be so a severance themed wedding.

SPEAKER_04

That'd be so sick. Can you imagine walking down the aisle to the severance theme?

SPEAKER_01

Could you imagine having a Milchak-esque DJ who's be who would be like and now it's time for the MDE and starting off the night with like a defiant jazz? Yeah, well, that's what I'm saying. Like, could you imagine everybody showing up in pencil skirts and like the t-shirt button-ups with like a really like cool tie? And so I could I could totally get behind that.

SPEAKER_04

Because that would actually be really it would be like the wedding is in the sever, the wedding is in the real world, and then the reception is on the severed floor.

SPEAKER_01

That'd be so cool. Yeah, I'm so sorry, but like imagine the idea of doing a severance themed wedding, and like before you go into the like reception, you have to like go in the elevator and like you go in like couple by couple and it dings, and you like the other side opens.

SPEAKER_04

You have to do the funny thing with your eyes. Can you yeah, look at the camera and do that real quick? Go for it.

SPEAKER_01

I can't. I'll start twitching. Oh my god, that'd be so funny!

SPEAKER_04

Spoilers.

SPEAKER_01

You have to run around everywhere.

SPEAKER_04

Uh next is Retro 70s disco, super popular right now with mirror balls, bright, colorful floral floral arrangements. I don't like it. You don't like 70s stuff?

SPEAKER_01

I don't find it timeless. I find it tacky.

SPEAKER_04

You want disco to stay dead, I hear ya. It's not that Bruno Mars, right? I get it.

SPEAKER_01

I think he's like out of his contract in Vegas now. I think he finally paid off whatever gambling establishment he owed money to. Um, no, I think I I the I think the reason I don't like it is because it doesn't scream like romance to me. But isn't it weird that I find like zombie apocalypse too? But like, I mean, like I feel like in a zombie apocalypse, you're really fighting to stay alive and fighting to stay together and fighting for something. And when I think of disco, I think of like John Travolta, and I'm like, what's he fighting for? Like, I don't, I'm not behind that. Like, disco's dead, baby.

SPEAKER_04

Leave it, leave it dead. It's like, are you gonna go full fro? Like, are you gonna do bell bottoms? Well, costume parties. Are you gonna do like the the the Jackie Brown, like white do it for a retirement party, not a wedding. Not well, onesie. It's a one, it's a a jumpsuit, jumper suit. Is that what it's called?

SPEAKER_01

I think you should just do it for a retirement party or a like a cool birthday party when somebody like was like really like in their prime in the 70s, and now they're old, and you're like, it's back.

SPEAKER_04

You got one guy that dresses up like a hippie with like the fake wig fro or whatever, and this like all you know, oh uh Christopher, he's so funny. Look at him.

SPEAKER_01

Once again, it it's not then it takes away from the wedding and the marriage.

SPEAKER_04

We uh talked about this a little bit at the beginning, but extreme Disney Adult forcing every guest to wear mouse ears and have a bridal party dressed as cartoon characters. I hate that. Yeah, I hate that direction for it, which is the one I found was that direction.

SPEAKER_01

Now, don't get me wrong, I think it would be really cool if you got into the reception and at every single you know it's really gonna gross people out that you keep rubbing my foot and then going like this every five seconds. You you listen wife's foot. You squeeze my foot and then you talk a whole bunch, and then you squeeze my foot once and then touch your face.

SPEAKER_04

I'm Italian, baby. What are you expecting?

SPEAKER_01

I'm gonna put my foot down in a minute because it's stressing me out that you keep letting go of my foot.

SPEAKER_04

You mean that foot, baby?

SPEAKER_01

Um, I think it would be really cute if you showed up to a wedding and at the reception everybody had like Mickey or mini ears. Because I think that that would be really, really cute to just like see. Um, I also think it would be really, really cute to maybe even have like tiaras for girls to kind of like lean into the theme. Um, maybe having like the the guest book be like a Disney autograph book.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Or like our adventure book that you see all the time.

SPEAKER_04

Or little things that you could probably incorporate.

SPEAKER_01

Once again, I'm down for esque. I'm down for aura, I'm down for vibe, I'm down for theming. I'm not down for a wedding to be a costume party except for zombie apocalypse. That's it. Because to me, it's like you really need to do that if you're gonna do it.

SPEAKER_04

Um, let's keep flying through some of these. We got college tailgate, beer pong tables as centerpieces, and drinking out of red solo cups. Hell yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Fully realized concept. Yeah. It's a fully realized concept, and if like that's your vibe.

SPEAKER_04

Everybody's been college. I don't think you can fucking say that. Every everyone has been to college. Who are you? If you haven't, um, leave a comment. Tell us why.

SPEAKER_01

Because who wants to be in debt? Um no, I think that that's a fully realized concept. I mean, like, I think see, you tell you squeeze my foot and then touch your face. I think that it is a easily realized concept. Like, if you're like, yeah, no, do not come to this wedding dressed up, please wear khaki shorts and ripped jeans and whatever and just be comfortable. Like, we're getting married, but then we're tailgating. Like, we actually have like a whole bunch of people just like it's almost potluck, kind of like. Like, people are bringing trays and stuff like that, and it's still gonna be in this beautiful reception place, but we're leaning into the tailgate theme. I could get behind that so much. I always get excited when our couples play Flip Cup as like a bridal party entrance. I'm always like, I wish the whole wedding was this, so I would totally be down to do that.

SPEAKER_04

Um, next one we got is murder mystery, a clue aesthetic where the guests have to solve a puzzle during cocktail hour.

SPEAKER_01

Joint bachelor, bachelorette party. Or even at the wet imagine doing it at a bridal shower. Yeah, that would be a fun thing. Uh who done it, uh, whatever.

SPEAKER_04

No, it takes a for like go for it.

SPEAKER_01

No, no, we've seen Glass Onion. It's stupid, it's just dumb.

SPEAKER_04

It's just dumb. Um, so that's a no for you. Um minions, a bright yellow and blue color scheme with groomsmen wearing denim overalls.

SPEAKER_01

Lena knew it. If it's like a thing that you really like, who knows? Maybe you guys used to work at Universal Orlando and you worked on the minions ride together, and that's where you fell in love. I'm so down for it. Like, if you want to have like, oh yeah, it's like minion subtlety and like your centerpieces are bananas because like that's their thing or whatever. Like, and or like minions.

SPEAKER_04

Can you too? Can you be like Bryce? Do you take Manda as your go for it?

SPEAKER_01

The thing is, they don't talk like that.

SPEAKER_04

They're like No, can you can you do that real quick as if you're the officiant, go for it?

SPEAKER_01

Ha bada ba. No, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_04

Just as the officiant be like, Bryce, do you take Manda? Yeah, go for it.

SPEAKER_01

Do you take Manda to be your lawfully wedded wife?

SPEAKER_03

Badada!

SPEAKER_01

Ba boy. Ba ba ba ba ba. Badada! Potato na. I love the minions.

SPEAKER_04

So, like how much I actually like the minions. They're just tearing.

SPEAKER_01

There was an episode of the Try Guys where they tried on like kids' costumes and were like, can these costumes be sexy or whatever? And it was like sexy minion, and Keith Habersberger was like, What even are they? Aren't these guys just pill bugs that hump?

unknown

I thought it was.

SPEAKER_01

And anytime someone says the minions, I just picture Keith Habersburger in a very, very scantily clad minion costume, being like, Are they just pillbugs that hump? Insert clip of that.

SPEAKER_04

They're just little pill bugs that hump. Uh, we got pirate ship, eye patches, and fake swords where the officiant talks like Jack Sparrow the entire time.

SPEAKER_01

I'm okay with him being there for cocktail hour. If you wanted to have like a piratey themed wedding where like everybody's having like like cocktail hour takes place on like big like barrels and stuff like that, and you want to have like your decor be very like tortuga-esque looking. I'm down for that. But like if it's like that one.

SPEAKER_04

A lot of corsets. That's a lot of like making people put their put their boobies out and stuff. Their boobies.

SPEAKER_01

No, but I could see people kind of like leaning into more of like the piratey Renfare vibe for that. Like maybe the pickle priest would be there for that.

SPEAKER_04

Oh, that'd be so sick.

SPEAKER_01

You know he's a wedding vendor.

SPEAKER_04

That was one that was on there that I was like, pickle? I'm gonna put this on whatever, but I I I took it off because I feel like the pickle fat is is like gone.

SPEAKER_01

No, I feel like it's just I feel like it's just changing.

SPEAKER_04

But the pickle priest is the same person that put zombie apocalypse on this list, so it is it just wasn't interesting.

SPEAKER_01

Zombies are never that trad can that that trend can never die because zombies themselves are undead. Kill me in my sleep.

SPEAKER_04

No, I'm pickles was one where it was like every everything was pickles, and I was like, uh, I don't like pickles that much, but I understand some people do.

SPEAKER_01

I like I like uh Kevin. It's my second mention of a Kevin. Hi Kevin, the pickle guy from SpongeBob, the sea. But doesn't Patrick's like he's like, he's a pickle. Like he's saying that or something. Go away, you tiny pickle. That's a veggie tails reference. Doesn't that hurt? Do you want it to hurt Kevin? Do you want it to hurt me, Kevin? Um, no, but I think like if you were like, yeah, no, like we're you know doing like a pickle themed wedding, and it was like subtlety, like in like the like I mean, like we have like a Christmas pickle on our on our tree on on Christmas or whatever, and like it's it's a subtle thing, but like imagine having that like in your center, like a couple little ones in your centerpieces, everybody's like different shades of like green. I think you could do that.

SPEAKER_04

So we always, if you don't know, um during like Christmas time, you can hide a pickle in your Christmas tree. I forgot about that. And this is like a this is a thing we've done for years, and our kids have always looked at the phone. Where's the pickle? Where's the pickle? It's always like a big thing that we do when we're we, you know, they go to bed, we hide the pickle, and then they have to find it the next morning. Um, and this year we were looking through the ornament bin and we were like pickle wasn't there. Where's the pickle? What you can't find it at all.

SPEAKER_01

The kids were really upset. They're like, we need to buy a new Christmas pickle.

SPEAKER_04

We're the kind of family that puts our Christmas tree up like the second Thanksgiving's over.

SPEAKER_01

Day or two after Thanksgiving, I usually decorate the house for Christ. I love the I also I'm just gonna say Christmas themed wedding. I would love to do a full-on like Christmas morning themed wedding.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, like if you're if you're gonna go for that, go for that. But uh I would love to do that. So we put up the Christmas tree and we're gonna be. There was no Christmas pickle and there was no Christmas pickle, and we were like, what the hell? Where did it go?

SPEAKER_01

Christmas pickle has died.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, exactly. And we were like, shit, there's do we have to go buy a new one? Like whatever.

SPEAKER_01

The kids were really upset. Addie had tried to put a jar of pickles under the tree just to like manifest that spirit.

SPEAKER_04

We are also the kind of family that keeps our tree up until like February.

SPEAKER_03

Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_01

We are not. It comes down mid-January because the kids don't want us to take it down.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, and sometimes we give into it. But while we were taking the tree down, we I took the top thing off, and then out comes the Christmas pickle. We never put it away. We never put it away. It lived in the tree the whole year, and we were like all four of us were like, the pickle.

SPEAKER_01

No, but I'd be down for a pickle-themed wedding. Also, I think that uh for professional wedding guests, we should try to get the pickle priest on here. I would love to have a full conversation with the pickle priest about the difference between doing things at a ren fair and you know, how is that different at weddings? Like how much is the vibe different? How much are you different?

SPEAKER_04

Since you mentioned it, we're starting a new series called Pro Wedding Guest, where we invite wedding vendors on and we talk to them remotely about, you know, their experience with weddings and um why so many people pay them to be guests at wedding. Because at the end of the day, that's all vendors are just professional wedding guests, right?

SPEAKER_01

We're there to be part of the day, we're there to be involved, we're there to experience everything with you, we're there to, you know, help you throughout your day and in enjoy the vibes at the same time.

SPEAKER_04

So if you're a wedding vendor and you want us to interview you for our podcast pro wedding guest, feel free to reach out to us um at for better or worse pod at gmail.com or DM us on TikTok or Instagram. Just shameless plug, real quick. Um, a first episode uh with DJ Josh Staley.

SPEAKER_01

He was the DJ for uh one of the couples on Love is Blind, uh, who ended up getting married. I won't spoil who or anything like that right now. Go watch the go watch the latest season because it was an emotional roller coaster. Yes, it was. Um, but we're gonna split it into two parts. One where we talk about um his time there and everything like that.

SPEAKER_04

Let's see. Next we've got vintage circus. This is con candy machines and midway games during cocktail hour. It sounds like a great time until the couple hires actual clowns to walk around the timer tables.

SPEAKER_01

Um, I think as long as there were no actual clowns, I think that that could actually be really, really fun. The sm the smells alone of popcorn and cotton candy and pretzels and stuff like that would actually be really fun. I mean, you lean into like the reds and golds of like the big top tent. Um, I mean, and who says that you have to have actual clowns? I mean, you could have contortionists instead, or a juggler. I would sit there or a fire breather or a magician.

SPEAKER_04

Or a a lion tamer. That'd be sick.

SPEAKER_01

I'd be so down for that. Yeah. Like, not actually, because that's really unethical.

SPEAKER_04

But like this represent a circle, never ending.

SPEAKER_01

I can get behind it.

SPEAKER_04

Three rings represent a circle. A great time.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, no, I think that that correct. Well, you could lean into like a great a showman theme, too.

SPEAKER_04

So, like, I mean, there's always your first dance, is just the cool jump thing that they do. I'd be down for that.

SPEAKER_01

I'd be so down for that. Yeah, no, I think I think once again, if it's done fully or just with your wedding is you've pulled inspiration from that with your colors and your theming and decor and even the food. Hell yeah, dude.

SPEAKER_04

We have adult summer camp, right? You're not a camp with bonfires and outdoor games for a full wedding experience. Or full weekend experience, my bad. I love that. I love that.

SPEAKER_01

I always think of like the parent trap with that, where like it's where they do the handshake, or like the movie Grown-Ups, where it's just like living on those vibes by the lake, skipping rocks and drinking by a fire at night. I'm down for it.

SPEAKER_04

We did one kind of like that for Ben and Michelle. It was like Well, also they had rented an Airbnb that was on the lake. And Erica and John. And Erica and John.

SPEAKER_01

I liked Erica and John because I like the fact that we did the wedding at like the house on the lake, and then we had to move from there to this pavilion that was very like it reminded me of like I wish there were like bunk beds on the side where we all could just like sleep over at night and go out and roast marshmallows and stuff. And it was, it was very well done. And Ben and Ben and Michelle's, it's funny, it reminded me more of weekend at my rich aunt and uncle's house. Like, you know, like this cheaper by the dozen two, where they're like on the lake and it's a bunch of like really like cool families that got together for like it was giving Memorial Day picnic wedding.

SPEAKER_04

Like when I was in college and I had a friend who had like a like an aunt that lived close, like on the water, yes, or whatever, and they should be like, Well, we're having a bunch of friends over to my aunt's house or whatever, and it was like a party weekend and a very nice house scene.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, yes, I'm so down for that.

SPEAKER_04

Um, we got true crime, yellow police tape blocking the venue entrance, and white chalk outlines on the dance floor. It completely ruins the romantic vibe and will definitely terrify the grandparents.

SPEAKER_01

Why don't we also have Marishka Hargate show up and we could all do kits and swab each other? That's disgusting. That's disgusting.

unknown

Like gross.

SPEAKER_01

That's gross. Now, don't get me wrong. Like, if you like, if you guys are like detectives or love true crime stuff and you kind of want to like lean into like the life sentence vibe, like I sentence you to life and happy marriage, like lean into like something small like that.

SPEAKER_04

That would be the true crime ultimate boss, is like because a lot of people, it's controversial whether you like true crime or not, right? It'd be really controversial to be like, I'm planning my wedding against like the Murdoch case, you know, right?

SPEAKER_01

Like, yeah, we're getting married by a John Wayne Gacy impersonator.

SPEAKER_04

Like holy shit. I can see that kind of happening. I mean, like if you lean into the TV aspect of it, it's like criminal minds, and you're like, what's their faces? The computer chick and the really hot black guy, then like that works. You can be that for your wedding.

SPEAKER_01

Uh huh.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

He calls her baby girl. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

I was like, that's a man. That was my first like awakening to like Quirky girls. Be a man. No, not a quirky girls. How to be a man.

SPEAKER_01

By just talking nice to any woman.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. Wow. Even if they're even if they're just like dressed funny.

SPEAKER_01

You talk say one more thing about Penelope and I will kill you. I love Penelope. Talking.

SPEAKER_04

Uh next is High Fantasy, Subtle Lord of the Rings vibes with heavy velvet and dramatic capes.

SPEAKER_01

It's just kind of giving like Renfare vibes to me, because I feel like some people like wouldn't do it. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm all down for once again the subtlety of like one ring to rule them all. Um I went to a bridal shower like that. Um, and it was it was beautiful. Like the it was inspo'd by that, and I'm very there for it. But like if you have people wearing like elven ears and stuff like that at your wedding, and some people aren't, I'm just like, I can't tell if it's who is this for, you know?

SPEAKER_04

It's a fence that you gotta walk along because it's like it could either be fully realized or it can be like really stupid.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, like if your cake looks like the eye of Sauron and like you want to have it look like that, that's cool. Or like if you want to have all your centerpieces be like mossy and like cloven and stuff like that, and have them be like very earthy, I can totally get behind that. Like, yeah, if you want to have all your colors be like very earthy or inspired by, oh yeah, we're all wearing like colors that look like you know, Gandalf's cloak, like I can get behind that. If you want to have like all of your things be potato themed because of it, I'm here for it. Like that's the boil them, mash them, stick them in a stew, I'm here for that.

SPEAKER_04

Flower like girl or ring bearer or whatever, if it's like an adult and they're just like Schmeagel Gollum, like yank down the aisle.

SPEAKER_01

Like, if you want to have like one big aspect of it, just like one, that's fine. Like I said, if you want to have like at a pirate-themed wedding, just for cocktail hour, there's a Johnny Depp impersonator walking around just for an hour, and that's like your like real lean into it, and then we'll like back out of it. That would be some fine.

SPEAKER_04

That all of that would be some sh that like is said in passing with somebody who's like having a really extravagant wedding and be like, and there's gonna be a Jack Sparrow impersonator at the cocktail hour. You're like, why? Why? Like, well, because we love him. It's like, all right, that's your one thing. I imagine the best part about the high fantasy one, like the You said high fantasy, and I thought it was just gonna be everyone's just forcibly stoned. Um, the best part about like the Lord of the Rings ask weddings is being able to design signs that say like they didn't have cell phones in Middle Earth. So put them on.

SPEAKER_01

He actually broke his foot.

SPEAKER_04

That's wow. Oh, I love you so much. I love how you you haven't even ever seen Lord of the Rings.

SPEAKER_01

No, that's not true. I watched Lord of the Rings when I was like our kid's age, so like for me, it's very much like an uncle. I totally like I knew him and he was involved in my life, but like I don't remember him because he's not around anymore.

SPEAKER_04

Like this is my like when I'm sick and at home, I'm like, I guess I'll watch an all Lord of the Rings.

SPEAKER_01

He actually broke his foot. Uh you're home by yourself, and you're just like, hey, anybody. He broke his foot. Hey, all you people. Swatch Bob Reference.

SPEAKER_04

Take a drink. Um, 2000s pop punk nostalgia, black lace cover sneakers with incredible millennial dance floor. I feel like that's what like that's all the weddings are. Everybody who's like over 30 does anyway.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna put on some Dear Maria, cow me in, and I'm gonna cry in the bathroom and let my eyeliner run a little bit. I'm gonna have a great time. All the bridesmaids are wearing Converse. I've I did that at a wedding. I did. We both did that. We did. I can once again.

SPEAKER_04

It was sick, and those kind of those shoes are great. They're very comfy. What's your next one? Um, I got three more left. Renaissance fair, uh, me toasts, uh, corsets with a wandering loot player during the dinner.

SPEAKER_01

Gotta lean into it. Like, if could you imagine being a guest that didn't really realize that this is gonna be a fully like like a full Renfair-esque thing, and you're the the one ass that shows up wearing Nordstrom, and everybody else is like pretty and well met, now tempestuous traveler, and you're like, oh shit, I wasn't ready. Um yay! You don't know what you're doing.

SPEAKER_04

Where did you get this gob from? Yes, you you look like you've been chewed up.

SPEAKER_01

Exactly. And once again, I want to interview the pickle priest because I just you know he can't read.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, I do know he can't read. Look at I love that clip where he's like, look at how that fell in there. That was important. Did you hear? Did you hear that? That was important. That was important. Uh Gothic Halloween, black wedding dresses, and moody burgundy florals with a ton of candles. Yep.

SPEAKER_01

Just like that four weddings episode.

SPEAKER_04

You gotta be careful, it's not just like the Harry Potter dining room, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

The dining hall.

SPEAKER_01

I think once again, I think if you lean into it.

SPEAKER_04

That's your ring bearer, is that's amazing.

SPEAKER_01

Which is your mother-in-law. Uh yeah, no, I could I could lean into that. I think that that's just oh, it's so moody and dark. And I mean, like, I I think these themes can work really well if this is like who you are. But like, if you're normally just like this like bubblegum pink girly who is just like, yeah, I like tanning or whatever, and my wedding is gonna be like Halloween themed and black and everything. Where did that come from? Why are you doing this? But like, if that's your thing, then like yes, do it, go for it, go all out, please realize your dream.

SPEAKER_04

I saved uh a weird one for last I thought was really funny for you, and it's Titanic themed, and it's uh black tie and violins galore, maybe some nautical theme mixed in.

SPEAKER_00

Woo!

SPEAKER_01

Woo! Okay, okay. So if you want to lean into it where everybody's kind of dressed very elegant, lean into that vibe. Um, that's cool, but does like the night end like right before, like right after dancing starts, like you have like all of your caters come in and dump buckets of cold water on everybody, and you all have to try to get to the lifeboats? Like, what is that?

SPEAKER_04

What is that? That's the I got two jokes, okay? I'm gonna rattle them off. Ready? The photo booth is the bed where the old couple cuddle and die. And instead of clinking glasses to make the couple kiss, you have to blow the whistle.

SPEAKER_03

Oh there's a boom, Jack.

unknown

Come back.

SPEAKER_03

Come back.

SPEAKER_01

I feel like I feel like you could do so many things. Could you imagine if just like all of a sudden like the clock strikes like a certain hour or whatever, and some dude with binoculars comes in and goes, iceberg, and another guy comes in and just like throws a giant block of ice or like smashes the ice sculpture that's been on display the whole time.

SPEAKER_04

I would just want the like the sound of the horn going off everyone's just oooh. I would want the um the really cool boat speed thing that they have and all those wherever it's like a big wheel that they're like you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01

I think that that would actually be I'm I'm mixing up King Kong with Titanic, but but they do have like a yes, I know what you're talking about. That would actually be really funny. I mean, like I feel like people probably do, like maybe at like the Titanic Museum. I wonder if people have had like wedding receptions and stuff there because it's like a funny.

SPEAKER_04

For sure, for sure. I think one I think one just hit the news recently because it flooded during like a wedding thing, which was which is h hilarious. That's a straight irony and it's fucking that's amazing, actually.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, but like no. No, no, the f you know what it's funny. You said before the photo booth was just like you can snuggle in bed like the old people. The photo booth is just your hand. Oh like the car, the car window. That's it, just your hand. Like you don't get to do anything else, it's just your hand. Like, oh honey, that what that one's ours.

SPEAKER_04

Like, do you first dance to my heart will go on, or do you first dance to the Irish jig? Irish one that they spin around it in the bottom.

SPEAKER_01

That's that's all they do. They don't even do the Irish jig, they just cross hands and go, I hate that part of the movie so much, it's so awkward. The way she's just like, Jack! And he's just like I hate that part of the movie so much. Yeah. No, hard pass. Oh man.

SPEAKER_04

On that note. So if you had a weird wedding theme that you did for your wedding, let us know. I don't want to say weird.

SPEAKER_01

If you had a unique wedding theme, or if you feel like you missed the mark with your wedding theme, or people didn't realize you had a wedding theme, or like you didn't realize the worst is when you're like you didn't what if you didn't realize that? People were like, oh my god, I love the fact that this is like this theme, and you're like, X fing cute sweet. I did not realize that that is what I had done. That's actually funny.

SPEAKER_04

A weird wow.

SPEAKER_01

I love your ET themed.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, I love your stinky wedding.

SPEAKER_01

Hey, you're drunk.

SPEAKER_04

That's the most wine I've seen you drink in like three years.

SPEAKER_01

I'm not drunk though, that's the thing. Dy X M V V U T S R K P O N M L K Just.

SPEAKER_03

You can just do that.

SPEAKER_02

For you audio listeners out. I'm doing the nose test.

SPEAKER_04

You just missed. I didn't miss. Yes, you did. Did I? Did I? I want to just kick you. If you're a wedding vendor and you want us to shout you out on the podcast, podcast. If you're a wedding vendor and you want us to shout you out on the podcast, feel free to reach out to us. We are looking for any wedding vendor that loves weddings, loves the game, and wants to talk to us about why they love weddings. We're also launching a new like secondary podcast, I guess.

SPEAKER_01

I would say it's more of like a segment within our podcast.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, it's like part of it's part of like the whatever our cinematic universe is of this wedding.

SPEAKER_01

I love that stuff.

SPEAKER_04

Um, we're calling it pro wedding guest. Uh, we filmed last week with DJ Josh Staley, uh, from Columbus, Ohio. He was a DJ that was featured on season 10 of Netflix's Love is Blind for one of their weddings, and it was an amazing, amazing conversation. He was so awesome.

SPEAKER_01

The vibes were top tier. It was a great time.

SPEAKER_04

He was great. We want to add more people to that list. We have kind of like a list going right now of people that we're going to interview. But if you want to be a part of our new series pro wedding guest, reach out to us, email us at for better or worsepod at gmail.com or DM us on Instagram and TikTok, and uh we can try to set something up. It's remote only. Um, unless you're our neighbor and you want to be in our house, you don't have to be though. It's remote only, and um, we get to talk about why we love weddings so much.

SPEAKER_01

Maybe we'll play a little game or read a story or something as well that pertains to what we're talking about, but it's super chill. Yes, just a little hangout where we talk about weddings.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, and why we love love.

SPEAKER_01

Alright, so this is a uh Reddit story from Am I the Asshole?

SPEAKER_04

Sweet, is this like recent?

SPEAKER_01

Uh, three days ago. Oh it's very recent. Am I the asshole for a family fight at my wedding? No. This happens at every wedding we've been to.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, you are. You are the assh for it. Not the people that fought at your wedding. It's you. If you're the couple, then no, you're not. But if you're part of it, then yes.

SPEAKER_01

All right. Hi, everyone. I'm laying in bed on my wedding night wondering if I'm the assh for a family fight that happened today. This makes me so sad. Just the fact that, like, you're on Reddit on your wedding night because this has just it's eating you alive right now. We had a small, intimate Catholic wedding, 41 guests in total, followed by dinner. My husband and I intentionally kept it small, though we did invite some extended family to honor our parents.

SPEAKER_04

Nice.

SPEAKER_01

My family is very small and complicated. Most of it comes from my dad's side, where there's a history of addiction and mental illness. The only people I'm truly close with are my aunt and her daughter, my cousin, who was a bridesmaid. The rest of the side of the family is pretty distant. I have another aunt, we'll call her Kathy, who struggles with addiction. We see her once a year at Christmas. I invited her mostly to honor my dad, but I didn't invite her adult son, Jeff. This is hilarious.

SPEAKER_04

So funny.

SPEAKER_01

This is hilarious. Shout out the fact that the fact that this I have an aunt named Kathy, and she has a son-in-law named Jeff, who is my brother-in-law. This is not them. This is and Jeff is spelled J-E-F-F, not G off, the way he spells it. So this is not about you guys, which is funny because we also had a Catholic wedding and and Kelsey had a Catholic wedding. This is not about my family. This is hilarious. Sorry, I'm just going through to make sure that there's no other names of my family members in it. All right, so we're good.

SPEAKER_04

My Uncle Paul.

SPEAKER_01

Um so uh I invited her mostly to honor my dad, but I didn't invite her adult son Jeff. I barely know him and only see him once a year. Kathy didn't show up to the wedding, which honestly didn't surprise me. After the ceremony, my mom asked me if I invited Jeff. When I said no, she got upset and walked off. Also, why is this a conversation that's happening at the wedding? Why didn't you ask this beforehand?

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, it sounds like you're it already sounds like your family sucks, but go on.

SPEAKER_01

I got the sense that my parents thought Kathy didn't come to the wedding because I didn't invite him. Later at dinner, my other aunt told me that Kathy didn't come due to her own personal issues. Relieved, I went to share that with my parents who were sitting with my now in-laws. But they doubled down and said I was selfish and disrespectful for not inviting Jeff. I got frustrated because to me, both Kathy and Jeff are not really part of my life. At some point, things escalated and my mom thought I told her to leave. I didn't. She then raised a glass and said, Congrat you, Latians, slipped it down and walked out. We stepped out to talk, eventually smoothed things over, but I told them I wasn't going to spend the rest of my night focused on them. My mom left during dinner to cry in the car.

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01

It was embarrassing. People noticed, asked questions, and tried to comfort me on what was supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life. Now my parents are texting me saying that they love me and I feel torn. I understand they might feel guilt, but I also feel that this was completely out of line. Yeah. Am I the asshole for not inviting my cousin and for how all this played out?

SPEAKER_04

Um, yes, you are the asshole. I'm talking to you specifically. You're the asshole. I'm kidding. It sounds like your parents got a case of the wedding brain, which we talk about all the time on here, but wedding brain, if for those who are not preview to it, um, is the fact that everybody on a wedding acts completely opposite of how they normally are, or their qualities are magnified.

SPEAKER_01

Their quirks, their characteristics, their what have you. If you have a very like outgoing mom, she's she's helping deliver food to tables when normally she would just be very chatty, or you have an uncle who uh is a little, you know, pops off at the mouth a bit, and now he's arguing with a groomsman he's never met before, like yeah, about like sports or some shit like that. Exactly. Um, or sometimes people do the exact opposite, where my mom, who's never spoken to anybody, and this isn't real, but like somebody will be like, Yeah, my mom is not talkative and she's not very much of a crier, and then on the wedding day, she's sobbing and talking to anyone who will listen. You're like, Where did this person come from that I have never met in my life before? You know?

SPEAKER_04

I think one shitty thing you can do if you are a parent to somebody getting married is hold over their head that like I'm paying for this wedding and I'm gonna be. I want certain people to be here to see my child get married. On the other flip side, it is one of like the only opportunities you get in your life to have a party with like everybody that you know, right? Yeah, for a really great reason, yeah, for for a great reason. And sometimes you let that kind of like distant family sh slide in order to have people at your wedding, but also it's not like we've said about ring bearers and flower girls.

SPEAKER_01

If you know that this kid is not well behaved and acts a certain type of way, what makes you think that on the wedding day that's gonna change? You know, like some people do not get it together on wedding days just because it's a wedding. Yeah, you know, it just makes it worse sometimes. It makes it worse, yeah. Exactly.

SPEAKER_04

So you're definitely not the asshole for not inviting them.

SPEAKER_01

It sounds like your mother got swept up in the emotions and felt weird, it felt some type of way, and you caught the the fire, you you got hit with the firing squad when she was just feeling some type of way, and who knows why. But you don't deserve, so especially not at your wedding, and for you to be posting on Reddit the night of your wedding when you were supposed to be reeling from the day, yeah, that sucks. But Reddit does agree with us and uh deemed this poster not the asshole good. Um, some of the comments say your mom had a meltdown at your wedding over this. Why? Definitely not the asshole. Why was she so upset? Um, and somebody was like, because the day wasn't about her, and she took that personally.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, 100% for sure.

SPEAKER_01

And then this is this is why I picked this because of this comment. And it says, not the asshole. Your parents are drama llamas and you are not responsible for childish behavior. 2008. Like, who's the f she's a lint licker? Um I'm really sorry that they embarrass you on your wedding day. Um, it's just it's it's absolutely ridiculous uh that this happened. Uh someone says you're not the asshole, but your mom is. Making a fight and saying congratuling lations is such an ass thing to say to your child at their wedding.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. That maybe you should um maybe you should cut some contact with your mother.

SPEAKER_01

That's what a lot of the comments also say is that you should you should probably go, Why did you do this to me? You need to figure out moving forward how to never do this to me again because I won't tolerate that.

SPEAKER_04

For a while. You might not know your mother as well as you think you do if that's how they reacted, and you're surprised.

SPEAKER_01

Somebody said, hate to say this, but maybe your mom has some issues you aren't aware of. You describe some erratic behavior, and I wonder if that runs in your family. Like it's it's a thing. Um, you know, some people are just like, I hate when parents try to dictate who gets invited to your wedding. It was very considerate of you to honor them with who you invited, but they don't have the right to get mad about you not inviting someone you barely know. I do wonder why this set them off so much, though. There might be more to the story. And an actual congratulations. I hope you don't waste the honeymoon fretting over this.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

Also, congratulations to you. Yeah. You've been married for three days. I hope that this has not done anything to taint all of the hard work you put into your day, everything that went on on the day that went right. Do not let it overshadow how beautiful you were, because I know you looked beautiful and felt beautiful, and you do not deserve this to be the story of your wedding day because it is not.

SPEAKER_04

Yes, absolutely.

SPEAKER_01

I I hate that aspect of, yeah, I only invited them because my parents said I had to. Why? Your parents don't need to have a play date at your wedding. Like, they're there to watch you get married and be there for you and be a part of your day. This isn't like a, oh hi, welcome to my child's wedding. Oh my goodness, like, look who's my child. Like, if you get flack from like other people, like, oh, why wasn't I invited? Like, it was a very tight guest list, and they wanted to invite a lot more of their friends than people. I had no say. That's all you say. I didn't have a say. If I did, you would have been invited. Like, I I don't like when people do that too. Like, why wasn't I invited to your wedding? Who cares why? Yeah, you didn't get to go. Sorry, you missed out on it. Think about why. Yeah, you tell me why you weren't invited.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, exactly. If we're not close, like don't expect to see it at the wedding, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Or if if I thought we were close and I wasn't invited to the wedding, I'm assuming that you had to make some really difficult choices. And I hope your day was beautiful. I am not entitled to go to your wedding. The only wedding that I'm ever entitled to go to was my own. Everyone else's that you're a guest, and it's a privilege to go to a wedding. It's not a right.

SPEAKER_04

It's a privilege to pee. That's a urine town reference. Um, I've got to write a story too. That's a short one for us to read.

SPEAKER_01

You gotta get through this because you're really your drunk is showing pretty bad, and we gotta wrap it up. What?

SPEAKER_04

Okay, hold on.

SPEAKER_01

Um, Emma the ha well, that was today's episode of For Better or Worse. Which one are we up to? Two right now.

SPEAKER_04

This is episode seven, I believe.

SPEAKER_01

That sounds about right. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_04

Might be episode eight.

SPEAKER_01

We're gonna look at what one it is. No, it's episode seven. Yeah. I say that tracks because I feel like we haven't said seven yet. But anyway, don't forget to RSVP to this channel by clicking subscribe and to be notified when we put out a new video. Ring the wedding bell below. Bye.

SPEAKER_04

Bye, everybody.