Overcoming Survival Mode - Thy Da

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SPEAKER_01 0:01

Welcome to the Amjits podcast with the How I Survived series. In these mental health episodes, I'm creating a space for real conversations about the things we often keep to ourselves, our struggles, our healing, and the stories that shape who we are. Hello, welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much for joining me today on another mental health discussion. Um, before we begin, can you give yourself a little introduction?

SPEAKER_00 0:34

Hello, I'm Tita, and I am a professional coach specializing in nervous system regulation and capacity building. So I help ambitious women and busy mom move out of survival mode and into true sustainable capacity. And I'm thrilled to be here today to dive into the messy, raw reality of mental wellness and what it actually takes to feel safe in your own body again.

SPEAKER_01 1:00

Oh, nice. Thanks for the introduction. Um, would you say that prior to helping women you too were in survival mode?

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Yes. Um, just looking back, I was in survival mode because um I barely remember any of um my life uh because I'm just always scanning for um um danger everywhere, you know, like every time I talk, I'm always afraid that I'd say something wrong, and then you know, I'd spend like days ruminating about it, and then sometimes it actually keeps like keep me like stuck and not wanting to do anything, so I'd be in shutdown for several days at a time.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

This actually reminds me of myself. I would always reminisce on things that I've said. Um, I think it's pretty common. Um so uh I'm just curious, what led you to surpass the struggle of being in survival mode?

SPEAKER_00 2:04

Um, the the turning point was during a very difficult time um of my marriage where there was these intense emotions and I didn't know how to handle them. And I actually felt like something physically um happening in my brain, and I was like, oh my god, is my brain gonna break? And and then there's also and then brought in this fear that, oh, if something was to happen to me, um what's gonna happen to my children? So that was when I decided that I needed to do something about it.

SPEAKER_01 2:38

Well, I'm glad you were able to turn yourself around. Now, do you have coping strategies on a bad day? Because no one is perfect, right? I'm just wondering what your coping strategies are.

SPEAKER_00 2:51

Um, my go-to strategy is moving out of my head and into my body. So when stress hits, the mind loves to spin stories, but the nervous system holds the truth. I use quick somatic tools like deep breathing, physical movement, or grounding exercise to shift my nervous system out of fight or flight. And once my body feels safe, my brain can think clearly again.

SPEAKER_01 3:16

Oh, nice. Now, if you can go back in time, what would you tell your younger self? Or what would you tell the version of you that was stuck?

SPEAKER_00 3:27

My younger self, I tell her to stop taking it all so seriously. I tell her that life is is not always one a big emergency, that you're allowed to play, you're allowed to be messy, that you don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders to be worthy.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Yeah, there are so many people who struggle with feeling like they're not enough. Um, was there a time when you questioned your own self-worth? And what helped you begin believing that you were worthy of a better life?

SPEAKER_00 4:01

To this day, I still question my self-worth all the time, and those moments pops up in instances where, for example, if I've completed a client call and it did run perfectly the way I want it to, I do find myself questioning whether I'm good enough. Then also, you know, if just making contents and then there's not a lot of engagement or views, then of course that doubt comes up again. But the difference is uh today instead of fighting that feelings or trying to prove my worth by working harder, I just sit with it and let my body know that it's safe. So basically, how do I um the question was like how do I overcome the self-doubt, I think, and but in different words. Um so just noticing when that comes up and then take action, uh take action anyway, and over time those actions will build evidence that I am actually worthy instead of waiting for me to feel better to actually take those actions. So if that makes sense, so that's how I am building evidence to prove to myself that I am worthy.

SPEAKER_01 5:15

Well said, I'm glad you have your own method to feel worthy. Um now, if you can give advice to my listeners who might be um feeling, you know, like low self-esteem, uh, what would your advice be?

SPEAKER_00 5:28

Um my advice is that um with the if you are you have low self-esteem and you want to feel more confident, is not to wait until you're confident to take action. The key is to go take action, still feeling not confident. So that over time you keep on contacting taking action, and then you will actually build the confidence. So confidence comes from taking action, not the other way around. So that means finding a way to calm your system enough, like either through deep breathing or movement, and then just go take the action to build the evidence that will um help you build the confidence. So that's that would be my advice. I'd also like to add that you know, like at the beginning I said to spend more time in your body as opposed to your mind. Um, so that either through uh the feeling the sensation in your body or just through the five senses, eye sound, touch without um narrating without like telling any story about it.

SPEAKER_01 6:37

That's all really great advice. Um, listen, I'll end it here. Thank you so much for joining me again. Uh, keeping yourself in doing the work that you do and take care.

SPEAKER_00 6:49

Thank you, Daniela. Um, this has been a great experience, something new. You know, I've never done a podcast like potcat like this before. Thank you. Thank you for your time.