There's a certain kind of night you can feel even before it starts, where you know exactly how you look, you know exactly what kind of attention it's going to bring, and you decide that you're not going to tone it down. That was the kind of night this was. We went out to Vegas with zero intention of playing it safe. And once things started to build, we didn't stop. We followed it. Where that night ended up says a lot about actually how we operate as a couple. So we're gonna walk you through it. From the moment we stepped out of the door to the moment we realized how far we'd taken it. As we get started, let me bring in my subby Chris to guide the conversation today like a good little cuck.
SPEAKER_02Thank you, Goddess. Appreciate it. And also always appreciate the little barbs at the beginning. Before we get started, I'll like always just want to go over just a couple of quick announcements. Um, first, just a quick reminder: we want to hear from all of you. Um, if you've got questions, situations you're dealing with, or something you want us to break down on the show, send us fan mail. That's how we keep this real and make it about what's actually going on and through the mind of all of you. It's super easy to send us fan mail. You just go to the show notes and literally click on the link that says send us fan mail. And you can send either a text or you can send a voice message that we can actually play on the show. And thank you to all of you that sent in. We're we're gonna try to get to as many questions as possible. Want to let you all know, uh, Lexi, we went we we gained another uh about 10 countries this past week. So we went from seven from last week, I think we were like at 63. Now we're at 76 countries and 1331 cities as of recording of this show. That's pretty awesome. That's pretty awesome. So um thank you all for listening in. Um, but if you want more access to Lexi herself, make sure you subscribe to her Fansly. She's cuckholderess Lexi on there, and that's where you get a deeper look into everything we talk about here on the show. You get some fun pictures and videos of Lexi, along with some personal interaction with her. So um highly recommend you look her up on Fansly. It's a it's a pretty awesome uh page that she has there. So let's get to Vegas. Okay, so this story happened, what was it, honey? It was in February, right? End of February, so a few months ago. And we were in Vegas for for something separate, but we knew we were gonna have one night where we were gonna be able to just go out and and have a good time. So um good time Lexi came out, and uh that's what we're gonna be talking about tonight is the story of of that night in Vegas, which got which got pr pretty cool, and um and kind of just the emotions that go through. So, as Lexi set it up perfectly as always, you know, just uh what our relationship, how our relationship unfolds this night is kind of a microcosm of our relationship. So, as always, Lexi had me write some questions and we're just gonna ping pong back and forth on some of the thoughts around these. So, okay, so so let's let's start at the beginning, Lexi. What made you you you dressed in this really hot, like it was almost like a like a greenish, bluish tint. Maybe you can describe the dress, but what made you pick out that dress specifically for that night?
SPEAKER_01So that dress was a like a deep teal, and it was like, I mean, uh it was practically chrome. I mean, it was just very not reflective, but it was um satiny and um it was short, it was backless, it had these like barely there spaghetti straps. I mean, it it was form fitting, it was fancy and gorgeous, and I mean I as soon as I knew we were going to Vegas and we were gonna go out for at least one night while in Vegas, that dress immediately popped into my head because it's it screams Vegas and because it screams Vegas and it screams a night out at a fancy place, um, I never get to wear it. So, you know, I've had it and I've gotten to wear it like once. So I absolutely, I mean, it was immediately was like, that's the dress.
SPEAKER_02Yes, and I was really excited to see you in that dress because you're correct. You had only worn that dress once prior, and it wasn't with me.
SPEAKER_01That's right.
SPEAKER_02As per usual, other people see her and her stuff way more than I do. So um, so I was really, really, really excited for you to wear that dress too when you picked it out. I I knew it was and also when I saw that dress on you, there was only one hotel in Vegas that was screaming my name, and that was the Cosmopolitan. Um, so we went to the Cosmo first, and um when we were at the Cosmo, did you feel the attention you were getting, or did you kind of did it did it kind of take a minute to hit you?
SPEAKER_01No, it took a while. I was so just kind of you know wide-eyed and and just eating up and and um taking in all the lights and all the fanciness that was Vegas and you know, that hotel we went to that that fancy bar in it, what was it called? Like sapphire or something?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, something like that, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, that had like all these crystals everywhere, and it was so fancy, and I I was focused on that. I wasn't really um looking at Oh, you're talking about the chandelier bar. Oh, is that it?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, the chandelier bar.
SPEAKER_01Okay, I don't know why I had sapphire in my mind, but yeah, that one.
SPEAKER_02So I don't remember sapphires.
SPEAKER_01Whatever.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, and that was awesome to be there with Lexi because if anybody has been to Vegas and seen, you know, just the the the how how beautiful people dress there and all that stuff, let Lexi fit right in. She was she was in her element, and I was happy because when you were, you know, when you were younger, you had a bad Vegas experience. So I was just I was dead set on showing you that Las Vegas can actually be pretty awesome. So I wanted to make sure that I took you there because I knew I knew you would enjoy it. Um so from but from my side, I mean I could tell from from the from the word go, the guys were watching you um pretty early on. Were you aware of it or just in your own world, like as you just said?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, it it took me, I mean, we were at the that bar for maybe an hour. Um it took me until we had left that bar and gone down stairs to like the slot machines and um the what's it called, crapped tables and all that stuff to start to really look around and and notice that I was getting some uh some stairs. Um so I was in my own little world for quite a while, just taking it all in. But once I had kind of gotten a lay of the land and checked out the scenery and had uh had a moment to absorb it, then I started being more aware that, you know, I was I was getting some looks.
SPEAKER_02Yes, it was nice because I mean I definitely noticed that, you know.
SPEAKER_01Oh, you always do.
SPEAKER_02I always do. I'm on the lookout for who's looking at you. So did did that attention though, when you notice it, did it change how you were carrying yourself or or at all, or were you already like in kind of a sexy mindset, or what are your thoughts there?
SPEAKER_01I mean a little of both. So I was I was in a sexy mindset because I'm like, I'm in Vegas, I've got a sexy dress, you know, I'm I'm wearing heels, which I hate heels, they hurt, but you know, they they are sexy, so I do sometimes suffer through. Um so I'm wearing my heels and um I was already in a sexy mindset. Um, but I feel like actually finally noticing getting some of the attention that I wanted to get, you know, it made me, you know, push my shoulders back a little more, carry my head a little higher, you know, walk with a little more oomph, you know. I just um it was it was nice to get confirmation that I did look good and that um even in a place where everybody's dressed to the nines for the most part, I still was, you know, garnering attention from from people over the other girls there.
SPEAKER_02It was pretty awesome. It was it was pretty pretty cool to see that. So then we were we were kind of by the slots, we walked over to the craps, and then there was like this little the this little bar, not the chandelier bar. We'd already left the chandelier bar. But I remember we were sitting at table, I think they were playing like like good, like I I'm all I'm always all for like the 80s, 90s type music. They were playing like that kind of genre. Um now when we were in there, um, and and you were having you know a couple drinks, did did it start to feel like you know, just another normal night, or did you feel it kind of like building up, like okay, this is gonna be like a fun, a fun night out that's gonna last long? Because at that point in time it wasn't very late. I mean, it was still probably like 10 o'clock or so at that point. Like it was still pretty early. We went out pretty early that night.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I thought. Um, no, I mean I definitely felt like it was building. I mean, at that it was at that point. I mean, it took me a while, because you know, those fruity little drinks that are like basically a shot worth that they put in these little tiny martini glasses and charge you twenty-five bucks for, you know, um it was like okay. But by the time we finally had played some games, made around, and we got to that bar, you know, I was feeling pretty good and the music was was nice, you know. They did thankfully um play some nineties, not just your eighties. So um I enjoyed that and I was I was feeling myself in my chair a little bit, you know, dancing with the music. Um, you know, I definitely I knew we were going to have a long fun night. I didn't know what we were gonna do or where we were gonna go, where we were going to go because I wasn't, you know, in love with that bar. It's not like I really wanted to stay there that long. But I felt like, okay, now the night's really starting to begin and get fun. And you know, I I wasn't sure what was next, but yeah, no, I definitely knew that we were building to to something else, something even more fun.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, and then we were gonna go to that that speakeasy, that hidden speakeasy inside of the barber shop in the Cosmo, and there was like a It wasn't hidden at all. There was like a line snaking around. I was like, this is bullshit.
SPEAKER_01Clear windows.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, you could you knew where it was going.
SPEAKER_01It was there was nothing hidden about it.
SPEAKER_02Garbage.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Anyways. So, anyways, we at that point in time we made the a good decision. We decided to go to Fremont Street, which and if you haven't been to Las Vegas, the Vegas strip is like, okay, we're gonna, you know, everybody's gonna dress up, we're gonna check your IDs, we're gonna run your social security number, we're gonna, you know, do do all this stuff before we let you in a bar and then charge you $30.
SPEAKER_01I think they just did that on you. I mean, that face trouble.
SPEAKER_02But you go to Fremont and it's much more casual. It almost feels almost like a like a bourbon street in New Orleans. Um so we got down there and the energy shifted. Um, what felt different to you there on Fremont Street? Because I feel like that's where you kind of hit your groove for the night.
SPEAKER_01Well, for one thing, I mean, I'm a Texas girl. I I grew up here and I, you know, so I am I'm all about the more easygoing, laid-back places, you know, whether it be um, you know, a hole in the wall, just general bar or like a country bar or something like that. Like I am all about relaxation and comfort and just partying and and not you know, it's nice to go to the nice fancy places sometimes, but I feel a sense of relief and like I can really just um I don't know, be free. Um have a free mindset whenever I'm in a place that is more relaxed, more people friendly, and not just everyone's in their own little corner and acting all proper with their pinky up as they drink their overpriced drink. So um I loved it. And as soon as we got there, I had like not one but two different girls be like, I love your dress. And so that really set the tone. I was like, Oh my gosh, I love yours too. And it was it was um just a good vibe. Like it was just great vibes on Fremont. It wasn't stuffy like the chandelier bar, it was very good vibes and relaxed, and I freaking loved that.
SPEAKER_02So at that point then, were you thinking that the night was gonna be taken like further? Because at that point then we got to Fremont Street. It still wasn't very late, it was maybe like midnight. So were you thinking, okay, this is gonna be one of our one of our fun nights where we end up eating some random food at 4 a.m.?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, kinda.
SPEAKER_02That's yeah, and I didn't I I didn't know. I was still on the fence if if that's the where the night was gonna go or if it was gonna be over pretty soon. I just didn't know how much how much uh steam you had left in you for that night.
SPEAKER_01I mean, I was perfectly fine staying there. I like I didn't have any all right, next place, like I did at like the previous bar that we just talked about, you know. I like I was totally content, you know, if we stayed there the rest of the night, I would have been fine with it.
SPEAKER_02Right, right, right. And up until this point, you know, it's been kind of a normal Vegas night, right? We we go to the Cosmo, you you pay a little play little slots, you win a little, you lose a little, you know, we go by the craps tables, we're have some drinks. We go to Fremont Street, everything's normal, right? And so there's this uh there's this donut place right at the end of Fremont Street. I think it's called Pink Box. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01So everyone over here is obsessed with donuts.
SPEAKER_02I'm obsessed with donuts. Um, so uh we went over to uh to to that pink box and uh Lexi didn't feel like having any. So um I think there was a carousel right out there, and you're like, I'm gonna I'm gonna sit up by the carousel while you go get a donut. I go in there and I'm not gone more than five minutes, and I come back out. And and Lexi, do you remember what's happening when I step out with my with my two donuts, one of which is for you?
SPEAKER_01Well, I had spotted um a taxi that had thunder was it Thunder Down Under?
SPEAKER_02Thunder from Down Under, I think.
SPEAKER_01Thunder Down Under um advertisement on the side. So it had these half-naked men in jeans and you know, these muscular men. And so I am like watching the door for him to come out, and I'm like flagging that thing down, and he comes out and I'm like, Come on, let's go, we're going there.
SPEAKER_02Yes, yes, that's exactly what happened. I come out and she's she's already got the cab door open. She's holding the door.
SPEAKER_01You'd already been in there long enough. I knew you'd be out any second.
SPEAKER_02And and I and I said, and I said, Well, are we are we going are we going are we going back to where we're staying? And um she said, No, we're going there. And she pointed to the thunder from down under. And by this point, it's 130 in the morning or so. And uh I don't know why you're looking at me.
SPEAKER_01I don't know.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, it was around that time, and I said, uh, honey, I I hate to break it to you, but Thunder from Down Under is not open at 1.30 in the morning. It's like a show. Bullshit. Yes, and so she was very disappointed she was not having that. And so I said, But I do know somewhere else that has male strippers. I don't remember what the there's like a big like normal strip, not normal, but there's a a female strip club with female entertainers on the bottom floor and on the top floor. There's male, there's male entertainers. So I said, we will go there. Um and Lexi, what was your reaction to to that? Do you do you remember?
SPEAKER_01I mean, I was ecstatic.
SPEAKER_02Yes. And that was I've never I've I've done a lot of fun stuff with Lexi. I've never been to a male strip club with Lexi. I've been to a a um a female entertainer strip club.
SPEAKER_01The only reason is that there's not one around here. That's that's the only reason.
SPEAKER_02That's the only reason why we haven't gone. Like I I've looked, you know, for her for one, but I can't find one. But we went in Vegas, and so um it was really funny because did you expect me when when I walked out there and you were saying let's go to Thunder from Dununder? Did you expect me to push back at all?
SPEAKER_01No. I knew you'd be like, Yes, yeah, let's do this.
SPEAKER_02I was all about it. So when we first got there, what was the first thing it felt like when we walked, when we walked, because you you walk in the bottom floor, you know, you pay your cover charge, then they walk you up to the second floor, and ping the elevator opens, and like what it what are you thinking when it's just like oh well, I mean, from the very beginning, when you walk in with you know the the female strippers, you know, there's just like this electricity in the air, you know, like this just it it's sex.
SPEAKER_01There's no sex actually happening, but there's just raw sex in the air. And so that's exciting. And so then we get to the top floor where the men are, and I mean, like, you have to go when you get off the elevator, you have to like go around this long corner, and I'm practically like dragging him. I'm like, let's go, come on, faster. Why are you so slow? Like, I could not wait. And you know, we get in there, and you know, I I this was I guess it was too early in the night for them. I don't know, but there weren't like that many guys there. But I mean I found a seat pretty quickly and um it took about two seconds for this cowboy tall, tall, dark, and handsome. Um well he wasn't really dark, he was just like slightly tan, but he was this tall, handsome cowboy to mosey on over and ask me if I wanted to dance, and I was like, why yes, I just happened to want one.
SPEAKER_02Well, yeah, and let's pause here for a second now and kind of dive into kind of you know the dynamics of our relationship and and you know what was going through our heads and all that stuff. Because I asked you what was going through your head and all that when we walked up there, you know, from my side of the table, you know, I've got the angst going, you know, at that point in time. I'm like, holy crap! Like I knew you were turned on, I knew you were like in a horny mood. I knew you felt I knew you were feeling yourself that night, and that you know, you had confidence in yourself, the way you were carrying yourself, and you were ready to see some hot guys. So I had the angst going. And as soon as the elevator opened for me, like I spotted that cowboy guy like right away. And he was wearing the cowboy hat and jeans and you know, no top, and just like all muscles, and I was like, oh fuck. Like that was my first reaction was fuck, like that's who Lexi is gonna choose first. And I mean, you're right. I mean, we sat down, and I mean, the second that that they came and took our our drink order, I mean, he was on top of us. Well, on top, well, not not on top of me, he was on top of you. And so, what were you so that was your first dance of the night? So, like to tell me about that and what it was like and what were you thinking because I was sitting six inches from you as this was happening?
SPEAKER_01Oh, I was enjoying the hell out of it. I mean, there's there are very few things more exciting than a just muscled up dude just dancing, like straddling your legs and dancing convulsing his body slowly and rhythmically to the music, like showing off all those muscles, and I mean yeah. It was nice.
SPEAKER_02So it's like I mean, you looked actually turned on. Were you like turned on?
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Did you I mean I was right there. Like, did were you even like, was I existing in your head and in your universe at all?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, like about this much.
SPEAKER_02But she's pointing a tiny little bit right.
SPEAKER_01Like I knew I was aware you were there. Yeah. But that was about the extent of it.
SPEAKER_02There was one point where he he he got you up because you were sitting on the chair, and then he got you up and turned you around, and you were like standing, like bent over with your hands on the chair. Yeah. And he was like um behind you, like kind of like doggy style.
SPEAKER_01Like dry humping me, basically.
SPEAKER_02Dry humping you, and that's when you were f directly facing me.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And that was hot, and also just like I don't it felt like it was just you and I, like in that moment in time. Yeah. And that's the cool part about whenever I do get to participate when I'm in the room, like a lot of times it feels like even when there's another person there, like it feels like there's such a bond between you and I. I don't know if you feel that sometimes. But I agree.
SPEAKER_01I agree. You know, he's he's behind me, he's not in my line of sight, but you are. And so you and I are making eyes. I'm blushing. I mean, like as turned on as I am, I'm also, you know, I can be a bit shy. So I'm like blushing the whole time and like just kind of smiling, like, oh my gosh, this is happening. But yeah, no, I definitely feel like it was, you know, a moment between us, a fun moment.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. So because you see this a lot in cuck porn, you see uh the woman making like deep eye contact with the guy, you know, as as the woman is, you know, making love to another guy. So I I guess that's what they're what what you know what the turn on is is you know, there's an emotional connection between the partners, and then there's somebody else you know actually sexually taking the the woman. Yeah. That makes sense.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I know it's awesome, and it's a moment of reconnection because you know, when he when I'm sitting in the chair and he's on top of me doing his thing, you know, there's not really a connection between us at that moment. So I think that you know, that was a really well-timed, well-placed thing, him turning me around like that, because it did allow us to have um, you know, those moments, um and which made it even better.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Exactly. That yeah, that was cool. I mean, at first I was like, you know, my heart was like, oh, and then I was like, okay, this is super hot, like she's right here. And then um and then not, you know, a minute after he was done, then a big blu buff black guy came over. next.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, because he wanted me to go to like have a private dance and I was like, nah, dude, I'm good.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, right.
SPEAKER_01So yeah, then we then we had an another guy just swooped right in.
SPEAKER_02Swooped right in. And I mean, so then I I mean it was it was copy paste basically. Yeah. Like it was the exact same thing.
SPEAKER_01It's a different vibe with him. He wasn't like cowboy. He was just like this, you know, tall dark black guy and he was cute too. And so I had got a fun dance from him. He had a he was you know had more personality I feel like and um so yeah.
SPEAKER_02Yeah so so then we we continue to be there. So at that point then I we we've gotten change and so now we have like a wad of dollar bills. And so Lexi is going up and giving giving the the the guys on stage you know a tip and then they would like do a little dance but like what what were you thinking at that moment in time? Because at that moment in time you were now going from okay we're having a private party with like you know husband and wife and like maybe one one other guy there to now you're becoming like the center of the party in the actual you know club. Like what are you thinking at that point?
SPEAKER_01Well at that point I didn't feel like it was that I was a center of the party at that point I was just you know throwing out dollars. It wasn't until that girl showed up out of nowhere there was this this girl there that apparently I don't I think she maybe worked at the club downstairs on different nights or maybe she didn't work there at all. I can't remember but she just appeared and she like she came over to me and she had this gigantic stack of one dollar bills. We're talking like hundreds of dollars hundreds of dollars worth of one dollar bills and she just like hands me 10 of them and she's like here so you can go tip him some more and I was like thanks um well I didn't get your name you know so we start talking a little bit so I go and tip the guy come back and she waits for the next guy to come on stage and then she hands me another wad of cash and says here you go go ahead go and I'm like okay cool I'm like down with this um but it wasn't long you know and I'm talking with her in between this it wasn't long before she like I think she talked to the dancer on stage or something she gave me like a big wad and she had me get up on the stage laying down I am a horizontal folks in this short dress and he is doing a personal horizontal lap dance on top of me 69 69 at one point he was literally on top 69 at one point and she meanwhile she's like throwing you know all these dollar bills at him and stuff and it was crazy and there was like a uh bridal party there and they were like screaming and cheering us on and like it was the craziest moment. Yes and so let's now let's now go back to check on the cuck so you've been thinking about it but turning fantasy into reality takes more than curiosity it takes direction I work with couples and individuals to guide you through the conversations and dynamics that make a cuck holding relationship actually work. Those first conversations and introductions to your fantasy are especially critical. Done right it changes everything. Done wrong it can break it.
SPEAKER_02If you're ready to do it the right way with me at cuck cultureslexie dot com okay so here's so that I feel like it's one of those movies where it's like you know your point of view then it's like it switches to the other person's point of view. So um so Lexi is up there tipping tipping the strippers and you know they're they're they're kind of doing little dances and then all of a sudden like Lexi said this woman this beautiful woman just appears out of did I say beautiful I like beautiful I did I say beautiful I said I I think I said I think I said I think I said moodful. Uh yeah is that what she said she was moody moody don't make me come over there so anyways this this woman appears like out of nowhere like out of thin air and starts handing her you know all this money and then Lexi starts to go like talk to her and so they're hanging out you guys are hanging out for a while just chit chatting you know you two and then you start to like dance with each other so you're dancing all sexy you two I'm still sitting in that fucking chair forgot about you she literally forgot about me I'm sitting there and so at this point now now we're like pushing three in the morning so now it's packed in there there's there's tons of other women in there there's bachelorette parties and I'm sitting there by myself as my wife is with so I'm left alone it was so humiliating and and then they go they go up to the stage together and you know she's throwing dollar bills at the stage like Lexi says Lexi's on the stage getting 69 at this point I feel like I'm being double cucked by like two women because I'm like holy fuck she has like she she has like a be her cuck her cucking me is being bankrolled by like another cuckolders right now like what the fuck is happening so like I think that's funny because you had your your your perspective where you're partying I'm sitting there and I'm just like I'm like beat red like I'm so embarrassed. Um and and and they were looking over at me like the bachelor party was like looking over me and like oh yeah that's like pointing like yeah that's no way yeah it was embarrassing as a poor thing well nicely done that's what you that's what you're supposed to take a bow that that is impressive yeah yeah it's yes very good very good cut cultures okay so then um what do you think it was like I mean is that what you thought it was like for me like what did you think it was is I mean was I on your was I even registering at you you were not on my radar oh my gosh so um yeah I I mean that was just a crazy night and so it ended up you know you you partied with with that other woman for for a while and and uh and and more lap dances and all that stuff and then eventually you decided that you know we were gonna go grab food and uh we went to some random Thai food place by Circus Circus dodged some bullets had some bad Thai food and uh and uh went back to where we were staying and um again that's it's just another wonderful example of how cuck holding doesn't have to always end up with another dude in the bedroom.
SPEAKER_00Right.
SPEAKER_02Right? Absolutely like I mean I was definitely cucked that night um but it it didn't end that way. I mean a lot of times it does a lot of times it ends with the guy in the bedroom or or a lot of times Lexi you're alone with a guy that that that she's met or been dating or you know um whatever you know they're they're out there alone but um a lot of times it doesn't a lot of times we're just out and she does stuff like this and I I honestly think it's just as thrilling. So I you know I want to I mention that because you know a lot of the guys that you coach Lexi you know they yeah you know some sometimes you can't get your wife all the way there you know what I mean but sometimes they're willing to play games with you does that make does that make sense that you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_01Yeah I mean not not every girl who has a husband or a partner that wants her to go sleep with another man and and cuck him about it is going to be willing to do that. Some will, some won't and you have to feel them out. It's a delicate process but um there can there is still fun to be had even if she's not willing to actually go all the way you know she she might still be f willing to do fun things like you know what we're describing tonight. And you can't tell me that that wouldn't still be fun guys.
SPEAKER_02Right. Right. I I mean I almost I almost think of it like the the actual like sexual acts or like halftime at the Super Bowl. It's um I mean it's pretty cool it's awesome it's funny don't want to miss it but it's everything before and after that that actually really counts in the long run. And so that that's where I think the teasing and the aftercare and all that stuff is just so important to this to this lifestyle. So that was the story of our of our really fun night in Las Vegas and you know as always Lexi is just amazing company and just she just does her thing. That's what I like about being with her she just she just owns it. She just is who she is and she just likes to have fun. So Lexi I think we're gonna transition now to some um to some viewer questions to some listener questions right let's do it yeah we got we got a bunch um this week we we uh we have time for four uh that we picked out and it's cool because they kind of kind of came from all over the um all over the map yeah like I said we I mean we're in in more than 75 countries now so we're getting questions kind of from everywhere haven't gotten any of voice ones yet though so please send us a voice one I really want to hear those ones but um but Lexi I'll hand it over to you you you want to kick us off with the question first question I think you're gonna do the first question. Well I was gonna do the first one all right then let's see here the first question um came from Cincinnati Ohio so this listener actually had had more of a um more of a thought um that than a question but uh but I kind of wanted to address it so this uh this listener said my wife and I listened to your podcast and we are in a cuckold cuckholders relationship this podcast is very informative and steamy definitely helped me out and helped work through the jealousy issue with her bull when her bull and her were talking on the phone uh and we communicated and aftercare and it was just like a slap in the face um in reality like holy shit this is really happening and it was an emotional roller coaster again thanks for your podcast wasn't aware of the podcast for for this lifestyle yeah and I think that that's a really good so I just totally understand where that question is coming from. So I could totally see this happening Lexi where you know you're you have a bull, a regular bull or or you have you know a guy you're dating or something like that and then unexpectedly like I hear you chit-chatting and laughing with him on the telephone like my first reaction is going to be jealousy. And so I feel what this guy is feeling because just because we're able to eroticize our jealousy a lot in this lifestyle doesn't mean that jealousy isn't there. It just means it's it's it's a it's it's a band-aid it's not really covering it up you know you have to work at a deeper level to to to fix that part of you. But I mean Lexi do you have any thoughts on that like from a jealousy perspective I mean I just you know I I know for you though like you have the jealousy right and you just that that's why we're not in like a swinger relationship.
SPEAKER_01I mean I would not want anybody else but you you know you don't share oh no I don't share at all I don't I don't even share your mind you're not allowed to be thinking about other girls.
SPEAKER_02Yeah exactly and I and I don't um you know to be fair I I really you know Lexi occupies 100% of my mind. Damn right 100% of the time all right I'll cut toss it over to you for the next question.
SPEAKER_01Okay. All right this one is from Irvine California um oh gosh I remember this one now okay hello guys really enjoying the podcast over the first few weeks my wife and I have been experimenting this dynamic and it's all pretty new she did the bar scene found a guy one time and he did not respect her the one thing she told him was to pull out and nut in a towel that she prepared he of course did not listen and orgasmed inside of her leaving me to buy a plan B and a lot of fear for the next month. Anyways because of this she has asked if she can take a lover instead of bullsh I agreed but she wants someone she can trust so it turns out that man is my best friend of fifteen years it is somewhat arousing but also terrifying and I am in a literal 50-50 split of I don't know if I want this but this is also hot. They are yet to have sex because I have not allowed them to yet I just wanted to get your guys' thoughts on lovers and my best friend potentially being her lover. I fear it might be too close of a friend. Okay freaking alarm bells going off like um red flags everywhere I I'm just gonna be completely blunt because that's what I am I don't think that this is a good plan. Um though the taking a lover instead of having bulls good plan it being your best friend of 15 years not a good plan not a good plan rarely have I seen something anything remotely like this have a chance of working. It's not that it can't happen I'm sure it possi it possibly could but it would be very very hard you know but having a cuck cuckulders relationship is already very complex. There are a lot of emotions involved um it's it's a very complicated dance of a dynamic. And so it's it's and it's it's can be fun and worth it but if you throw in not just an extra layer but like 10 freaking layers of complexity by having your best friend a 15 years be the lover I mean that just kind of blows it out of the water and you're already expressing you know some fear about it. I think that this would only lead to you losing that best friend of 15 years. It would lead to resentment in you toward both of them I fear that it would damage your relationship with her I just feel like there's just damage all around. I don't feel like this is a good idea. I feel like you should pump the brakes on him being the lover. You know she can find someone that yes, everyone starts as a stranger okay your your best friend of 15 years, he started as a stranger you know she can find someone on a regular vanilla dating site or maybe a site that's more geared toward this um you know alternative lifestyle um she can find someone and she can take her time getting to know him. She doesn't have to sleep with him the first time or even the second time or even third time meeting him she can get to know someone and start to build and develop that trust um in that way. It's um and I think that that's going to be the best method to do that.
SPEAKER_02I completely agree. I mean you're gonna but the odds of it working out for the the odds of it working out where they stay where your wife and your best friends stay lovers and that lasts for the rest of your life are not high. And so at some point in time you're going to lose one of them or both of them and it just doesn't seem like a risk willing to take for any amount of kink that is involved. It's like one of those kinks that is just um like like one like the other one where like some people have a fantasy of of their their wife getting pregnant by by a bull like like that one is just like where you gotta just cut it off and be like okay that's just not realistic. Like it's just you know whatever that's your fantasy but obviously that's that that's not something that is realistic. Like and that I I kind of feel this is in the same category. Just don't don't mix that um that's my personal opinion.
SPEAKER_01Okay, next question London England across the pond all right hi Chris and Lexi been listening from London and really enjoying the show all right bit of an honest one from me I'm based in London and the idea of this has been on my mind for a while. I'm in a solid relationship nothing missing really but there's still this pull toward wanting to explore something like this. Does this mean that something's lacking or can this just be something you add to a relationship that's already strong? And how do you make sure it doesn't mess things up? So great questions. No, it does not necessarily mean that anything is lacking at all. Um you can have a strong healthy relationship that's healthy um just from a straight relationship point of view and also a sexual point of view and still have this longing still have this fantasy um we all have things that turn us on and you know if this is your fantasy great but um it doesn't mean anything's lacking um it it can definitely be something that adds and um makes the relationship um more interesting more fun um you know more spicy um but yeah it's it's something that you do have to have that strong relationship like you you say you have a solid relationship um in order to do it um how do you make sure it doesn't mess things up so that's a pretty complicated question and there's a million different ways to answer that it kind of depends on you and her but um to be just very general I I would say that actually kind of like what what Chris just touched on is that you know the kink the kink is one thing your relationship is another so the kink is always gonna be have to be secondary and if you ever find that it's becoming the kink or nothing like you guys can't just have normal sex without some some fantasy involved someone else involved you know anything like that then that can be a warning sign. Um but you have to really be open and vulnerable. You have to establish trust within each other and your um relationship you have to be open and vulnerable with that person. You can't hold things back if you start to feel some resentment build up you need to address it right away. And you have to not push this on your partner if they you know it's one thing to introduce an idea to your partner and um you know that's fine. But if you are pushing for it and regardless of how they feel about it, you know, if they're really unsure, they don't really seem into it but you're like Yeah but I want this so please do it. That's not good. That can mess things up really quickly. That can lead to resentment on her end and things like that. So um you know as a a general sense that's you know those are some ways that you should try not to uh not to do those things so you don't mess it up.
SPEAKER_02The one thing I want to add is you had mentioned you know does this mean that that something is missing from the relationship? Yeah I would argue that in order to enter into any complex relationship dynamics you have to already be whole in your relationship to begin. If something is missing in your relationship and you try to add this complex dynamic you risk the relationship crumbling under the the not a strong foundation. Absolutely so yeah so it if it it it absolutely doesn't mean that something is missing if you do this correctly it means that nothing is missing and actually um the one person I I met before you Lexi that um that that was in the lifestyle actually put it perfectly when she said to me you know my life is already whole this is just the cherry on top and I thought that that was a really nice way to articulate the lifestyle so all right one more question here we have time for one more question so the final question is actually from Melbourne Australia that is awesome should I try to read this in an Australian accent don't don't do don't do it gosh I was not gonna do it I just wanted to see your reaction it says hey Chris and Lexi listening from Melbourne love the pod a bit we a bit of a bit weird one is that is that a is that a saying there bit of a bit weird one I can wrap my head uh around it in the moment but I keep thinking about it after like once you're back home and everything's normal again is it ever a bit awkward or do you just carry on like nothing changed? I don't know um uh if I'd be in my own head for the next day or if it would actually bring you closer that I think this is an awesome question actually this is a really freaking good question now that I actually like pause and like think about it so so are things and this is especially true like when you come back from like an a an overnight you know when you're when you're spending the night somewhere like is it is it awkward the next day so I mean what are your first thoughts?
SPEAKER_01No I don't feel like it is I mean you're always pleased as punch. You're here on cloud nine after those days so I have no reason to feel awkward. I mean as long as you're happy at the end of the day and I'm happy at the end of the day then yeah I don't feel it's awkward at all. I feel like we just kind of carry on and if anything it's not like we um we don't just carry on and act like nothing happened um and and that nothing changed. If anything we we feed into it you know we make little comments you know about oh you know last night he had me in this position did you know that you know and things like that. So um we don't we don't just go about our business and not mention it.
SPEAKER_02We mention it and we you know continue uh Chris is high yeah exactly and it's and that's almost kind of like our form of reconnecting like initially yeah is that playfulness but it's very intentional right like Lexi is doing it because she knows that I Enjoy that, right? I'm assuming that's why you're doing it.
SPEAKER_01No, I'm just evil and I love to just rub it in your face. Yes, I know you like it.
SPEAKER_02So yeah, I mean, she's just fantastic at it. And I think she enjoys, you know, playing with my mind. But at the same time, it's um it's this um it's this reconnecting that we're doing. It's this dance that we're doing to fall back into each other's arms. Um and uh and so yeah, I wouldn't say it's awkward at all. I would say it's actually super exciting when you come back. The only awkward time ever, there was one, and that was when you came back from your weekend with that with that high high roller guy. And um and I I met you outside, and uh and I had brought you a dozen roses. Yeah. Oh I had brought you a dozen roses. So Lexi was away for two whole days, and I was super excited that she got back. I had the house nice and clean, everything was ready to go, and I I brought a dozen roses, and so I I went to go meet her at the car. I hand her the roses, and she, oh, thank you so much. It's good to see you. A kiss, a hug. And she says, you know, cuck, go get my stuff out of the back. Um, and uh, and I opened the trunk, and there are way, way bigger red roses. I I where the hell did that guy get?
SPEAKER_01I don't know.
SPEAKER_02Did they just show up in your room?
SPEAKER_01Yeah, they were there when I got there.
SPEAKER_02God, what a douche. I really don't like that guy.
SPEAKER_00Oh, stop.
SPEAKER_02I'm just kidding if you're listening. I just, you know, that's the jealous, right? That's the jealousy coming out. But yeah, there was way bigger flowers. And um, and then there was also just tons and tons of like gifts of jewelry and and clothing and perfumes and chocolates and all all of this stuff. And that was the only time that I thought it was a little bit awkward because I just like I don't even know. Like, I felt like everything I like I had done like was so insufficient. Um, but I mean I don't think Lexi felt that way.
SPEAKER_01Oh no.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah. So those were the questions for the week. Um, any final thoughts, Lexi, on anything we talked about today?
SPEAKER_01Uh turns out Vegas can be fun.
SPEAKER_02Yes.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. I had a bad experience um several years back, about a decade ago, and um yeah, you know, it turns out I was just with the wrong guy, and this was a blast. I I like Vegas now.
SPEAKER_02We should do a meetup in Vegas at some point in time with like our some of our listeners, like do something like that. How fun would that be?
SPEAKER_01That would be fun.
SPEAKER_02If you are interested in something like that, send us a fan mail. Send us a fan mail with questions and like let us know like stuff like that that you may want us to do in the future. Um would be just super fun. Again, all you have to do is open ideas. We're open to ideas, ideas on topics too that you want to hear about. That would be really helpful too. Um, so again, all you have to do is go to the show notes and click on send fan mail. It's a hot link, and it'll open it up where you have an option to send us a text and and we reply to those texts. Like it's so so you will hear back from us, like thumbs up, like we'll address it or something like that. Uh, and uh, or you can send us the voice one as well. So um thank you all for joining us, and we will talk to you next week. Lexi, you want to say bye to all of our fans?
SPEAKER_01Bye guys, till next time.
SPEAKER_00I see it in your eyes, there's no way to hide it. Too many seconds you're wasting. Yeah, you don't need a fight. I can tell that you're lost. There's no point in the night. I can see that you're lying. Kinda cute that you're trying.