He Wasn't Supposed to Be Better... But He Was.

In this episode of The Cuckold Marriage Podcast, we explore what happens when it’s not just different—but better. Multiple experiences, different men, and distinct strengths create comparisons that can’t be ignored. Chris asks the questions most men are thinking but hesitate to voice, while Lexie answers with unfiltered honesty. The real question becomes whether those differences break a relationship—or deepen it. Because once that line is crossed, there’s no going back to how things were before. 

Lexie's Website: www.CuckoldressLexie.com

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Have you ever imagined your partner with someone else and told yourself you could handle it? The attention, the chemistry, the differences. But what happens when it's not just different? What happens when it's better? Not in one way, in different ways. One man brings something she's never felt before. Another unlocks something deeper. Another changes the pace entirely. Another makes you feel completely out of control. And suddenly, it's not a comparison, it's a collection. Tonight, we're talking about what happens when those experiences stack and what that does to a relationship when nothing and no one can be everything. Welcome back to the Cuckold Marriage Podcast. I'm Cuck Ultress Lexi Meadows, and I'm here with my husband, Chris.

SPEAKER_00 0:50

Hey, how's it going, Lexi? So good to be back with you again. And um, this topic is going to be pretty, pretty awesome. Um, before we get into things though, wanted to start with a couple of announcements. First of all, we're now on Blue Sky Social. So if you are on Blue Sky Social, if you're not on Blue Sky Social, you should be. It's pretty cool. Much better than uh much better some of the alternatives out there. And we can be found at the cuckold marriage pod on Blue Sky Social. So give us a follow, shoot us a message. Um, you can find us there at Cuckhold Marriage Pod on Blue Sky Social. Next, we really want to hear from y'all, folks. Um, your stories, your questions, the situations you're navigating, that's what makes this show what it is. So don't just sit on it, reach out to us. It's super easy. All you have to do is in the show notes, you just go to where it says send us fan mail, click on that hot link, and it's gonna open up and give you an option to send us either a text message or send us a short voice message. And if you have a question for the show, we can even play that voice message, play your actual audio on the show of you asking us a question. So please, uh folks, we we'd love to have you uh do that. By the way, while I'm talking about the folks um emailing us, uh Lexi, did you know that we last week we were at 52 countries? This week we're in 62 countries. We picked up 10 countries in a week.

SPEAKER_01 2:10

Not bad.

SPEAKER_00 2:11

Yeah, and we're in over 800 cities across the world. It's pretty pretty insane. But I hope everybody's enjoying what they're hearing. And um, and if you're listening to think uh if you're listening to to us every single you know week, no matter where you are in the world, and if you're thinking this hits a little too close, or this is exactly what what we're dealing with or what I'm dealing with, Lexi offers coaching and real experiences through her site at cutculturuslexie.com. And Lexi is spelled L-E-X-I-E. And uh finally, if you want to support the show and get more personal side of Lexi, make sure you subscribe to her on Fansly at Cutculturus Lexi on Fansly. All right, so here's the concept of today's show. I I'm I'm actually pretty excited about this one. I'm not gonna lie, guys. I think this is gonna be every bit as steamy as all our other episodes. Um, so the title of the show is He Wasn't Supposed to Be Better, but he was. So what we're gonna be doing today, and Lexi set set this up perfectly. You set it up perfect, honey, what where you talked about kind of how you know there's just different aspects of different people that that might be, you know, might hit differently or even even better. Um, and so that's what we're talking about today. And from a cuck perspective, I I have no idea what she's about to say. So this is an hey Lexi, you love doing this to me, don't you?

SPEAKER_01 3:28

Oh yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 3:30

So you're gonna get some probably some real reactions from me because I I literally have no idea how she's gonna answer these questions. Um, so let's go ahead and dive into it. So we're talking about, we're gonna be talking about four different aspects of um of some of Lexi's bulls and how they were better than me in certain aspects. Um, so thinking about that now, so we're gonna be talking about more than one guy, you know, several different guys. So when you think about all of them, all the different guys we're gonna be talking about today, did each one of them bring out a different version of you, Lexi?

SPEAKER_01 4:05

Well, I mean, I always try and be myself no matter what, but obviously, depending on the different um the variety of guys and the different aspects and um the dynamics they bring, it's you know, I I'm gonna react a little differently. It's gonna make me um be a little more this way or that way, but ultimately, um, you know, I think that I I try and stay the same for each.

SPEAKER_00 4:32

Yeah, I would say you are pretty consistent. I mean, one of the great things about Lexi is that she is who she is, and you either just take it or leave it with her, and and I love that because it's so genuine, there's no fakeness to her. But I will say I have seen you act different like when you're with different guys, when you're in different bowls. Like when I've seen like I've I've never lifted you off a dance floor. I've you've never like grabbed me by the hand, like, hey, let's go dance to this, like my favorite song. So I've seen you act differently with with them.

SPEAKER_01 5:02

You know, I do now sometimes I do get a little excited.

SPEAKER_00 5:05

Yeah, and and I think that's I think that's cool. I mean, as a cuck, it makes me feel tiny, but you know, it it's also in that fun playfulness, right? In the in the fun playfulness way. So let's start with now talking about someone who had me beat in terms of size. And I know that this is kind of a a thing for a lot of cucks, um, is just that size comparison with the bulls. So let's now talk about, you know, think about a guy who who was bigger than me. Um, so the guy who was bigger than me, was that something that you noticed right away, or did it hit you once things got more real? Like how did like when did you realize?

SPEAKER_01 5:45

Well, first of all, there definitely wasn't just one guy that was bigger than you. Let's just get that straight.

SPEAKER_00 5:50

Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate that. I appreciate again there's no faking with her, right?

SPEAKER_01 5:57

But the the biggest I had, um, and the one that's on my mind, I mean, oh gosh, he was bun. Um, you know, he I didn't I didn't know right off the bat just how big he was. I I had seen pictures, obviously, um, beforehand. So I knew that he was packing, but I also know that you guys, I mean, you're all photographers. Like um, you know, certain guys have have mastered different angles and and making things look bigger than they actually are in real life. So while I was hopeful, you just never fully know until you get in there um just what you're working with. And um thankfully, when I did finally get in there, um, I was very pleasantly surprised and um a little caught off guard because I mean it was it was so large. I mean, I was just kind of like like I could feel my my clit tingle a little bit as soon as I realized how big it was.

SPEAKER_00 7:02

Wow, Lexi, that's hot. Um did that difference change how you reacted compared to what you were used to with me? Like what was it like? But first of all, you didn't mention like so how many inches was this guy packing?

SPEAKER_01 7:16

Oh gosh, he was I don't know, he was closing in on 10. I mean, maybe yeah, he was he was almost 10.

SPEAKER_00 7:25

Oh my gosh. And like thick and stuff too. Oh, holy smokes.

SPEAKER_01 7:30

Yeah, he was a mall, yeah, like it was just like a a monster in his in his pants.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

Wow, and so it was it was like amazing.

SPEAKER_01 7:38

It was, yeah. And I mean my reaction was definitely different because I was um I should say I was a little louder and trying to take that thing. Um I mean, he filled me in a way that I had never been filled before. Um I mean, it was like I mean my eyes were wide, like when he first went in, like I was just like, oh my freaking gosh. Um it's uh it was it was something. I mean, like there was that that definite it it was a stretch like I hadn't felt before, but in like a you know, slightly painful but mostly just super pleasurable way. It was awesome.

SPEAKER_00 8:22

Holy shit, wow, that's really hot. Well, uh yeah, guys, I I I don't really have any I don't know what even to say about that. I mean, sometimes you sometimes you're just bested, you know what I mean? So the second thing we're gonna talk about is the guy who knew who who he what he was doing. So first we're talking about somebody who was just like in general bigger, and then somebody who just knew how to work it. So when we're talking about the guy who knew what was doing, what stood out to you most about this guy?

SPEAKER_01 8:51

Well, um, you know, it was it was ironically, um that that same guy, too, he knew he really knew what he was doing.

SPEAKER_00 9:00

So not only was he big, he knew how to because sometimes, like, you know, sometimes I'm sure a lot of the cucks can relate to this. There's like a giant goofy guy who like gets on the basketball court, and you all think he's gonna be good at basketball, but he actually sucks, he's just tall. So, like, you know, I'm assuming that, you know, in the same way, some guys might be like really big and then they just sleep on their skills.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

Oh, absolutely. And every other big guy that I have had has has pretty much been that way. They're like, I can skate by in my sex life because I'm I'm so big, it's gonna be enjoyable, it's gonna be fun. But you know, you can't rest on that and expect it to be like amazing because it's not gonna be. Size is only one aspect. But this guy apparently spent years honing his skills. He like was like, Okay, I've been given a gift, I'm gonna use it. I'm not gonna waste that shit. And so, I mean, I felt like I was in a fucking porn. Like, he he flipped me in every which position you could think of practically. Um he like he experienced or uh like did different tempos and different variations, um, you know, different um, you know, uh how many inches he would put in at a time. He would vary it. Oh, I mean he was he was a fucking pro. He was a pro. Like work stars could take notes from this guy.

SPEAKER_00 10:33

So was it the confidence, the control, or the attention that made him feel different?

SPEAKER_01 10:38

I mean all of the above. I mean, he he had the confidence. He definitely had the control. He he knew just what he was doing. I mean, he was um yeah, he just pretty much rearranged my insights.

SPEAKER_00 10:55

Wow. Okay, all right. That is that is good to know. I'm glad he used his his uh his skills because as Steve Prefontaine once said, to give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift. So I'm glad he did not sacrifice his natural gift there.

SPEAKER_01 11:12

He did not, he did not sacrifice anything.

SPEAKER_00 11:14

Okay, so we're so we talked about somebody who's bigger, we talked about somebody who was just better at working it. Now let's talk about somebody who the lasted longer. Um I okay, just say it, just say it. Here it comes.

SPEAKER_01 11:30

Mean it's not that hard to last longer than you, babe. My little cucky, he's good at so many things, and he is good overall, but you know, there's just you're sometimes you don't last that long, little cuck.

SPEAKER_00 11:43

Well, if you saw how hot this woman was, like, I mean, come on, guys. Cut me some fucking slack on this one. It's not fair. All right. So let's talk about somebody who lasted longer then. Um, did that change the experience emotionally or just the duration?

SPEAKER_01 12:01

No, it was just the duration. Um, I don't I don't feel like it, you know, made me feel any closer to him by having him in me longer. Um, it was just um it was how long did this guy you're thinking of?

SPEAKER_00 12:15

How long did he last?

SPEAKER_01 12:16

Almost an hour.

SPEAKER_00 12:17

What? Yeah, you do him for an hour?

SPEAKER_01 12:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:20

And just for comparison, how long do you normally do me for?

SPEAKER_01 12:24

Do you really want me to say that?

SPEAKER_00 12:26

Go for it. This is the Cut Cold Marriage Podcast. We all are about honesty.

SPEAKER_01 12:30

Um, what are we, like two minutes?

SPEAKER_00 12:33

Well, to be fair, sometimes you put on a one-minute timer. Can you talk about that? I I have done that before just to Yeah, why don't you why don't you let let let our listeners know about your one-minute timer bullshit?

SPEAKER_01 12:46

Well, you know, sometimes you you need to be kept on a tighter leash. And so sometimes I want to put the pressure on you. And I I think that there's what better way than to fucking put an actual timer on you and be like, if you don't come, you know, in this amount of time, you don't get to come.

SPEAKER_00 13:05

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Guys, it again, there we're we're chock full of sports analogies today. It's like when a quarterback has like a an internal clock in their head. Like I've kind of got it down now when that minute is gonna end. And I normally come in around 59 seconds. I mean, we're we cut it close.

SPEAKER_01 13:21

Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_00 13:23

Okay. So the guy, uh so so it just it was just more of a duration. It didn't really lead to any more emotional connections.

SPEAKER_01 13:29

Did you know but it's still awesome? Getting to go longer, having it, you know, be more than just a little quickie.

SPEAKER_00 13:36

Gosh. I just don't, but at the beginning we used to have longer sessions.

SPEAKER_01 13:40

We did.

SPEAKER_00 13:42

What happened? I I honestly don't know what happened. Because at the beginning, I mean, we were we were pulling down a good at least 20 minutes, right? 30 minutes.

SPEAKER_01 13:53

Uh yeah, I mean, maybe 20 minutes don't.

SPEAKER_00 13:55

Well, I mean, I guess that was before we went full-on cut cuck, right?

SPEAKER_01 13:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:59

Maybe maybe that changed things.

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SPEAKER_00 14:41

Did you get more lost in it um because it didn't end as quickly? So did the sex?

SPEAKER_01 14:47

I did. I did.

SPEAKER_00 14:48

Really?

SPEAKER_01 14:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:49

How so?

SPEAKER_01 14:50

Well, it's just when when it's going after a certain amount of time, you know, like after about like the I don't know, 20, 30 minute mark, you just it starts to become it's like a runner-side. You know? It just you you just kind of close your eyes and just I don't know, it just becomes like so rhythmic and um I don't know, I don't really know how to describe it. Um but it's it's there's something special about you know, after that 30 minute mark.

SPEAKER_00 15:26

What's the longest you've ever gone? And you're no this isn't just like cucking. Like I'm just curious, like three hours. Three hours straight. Three hours straight with no breaks. Shut up. How when when were when was this? Was this college?

SPEAKER_01 15:40

High school.

SPEAKER_00 15:41

In high school, you went three hours. Okay, so folks, so for three hours, I'm still this is the the origins of cuck old dyslex Lexi here was all the way back to high school you were fucking guys for three hours straight. Yeah, geez, okay, wow, that's that's unreal. Well, to be fair, and we will tell this story eventually on the podcast. We crushed that three-hour mark on our honeymoon. And it wasn't just one person in the room during that story.

SPEAKER_01 16:09

That was different.

SPEAKER_00 16:09

That was different multiple guys.

SPEAKER_01 16:11

We we will we will tell that Sam VP because I was doing it for over three hours.

SPEAKER_00 16:16

Yes, yes, significantly over that mark, guys. That's coming. That's it. That's what we call in the biz a teaser, right? The biz? The biz is. What the fuck are we talking about now? All right, okay. So we talked about now somebody who was uh bigger, we talked about somebody who was um skilled, who was skilled. We talked about we just talked about somebody who lasted longer. Now let's talk about somebody who was actually physically stronger. Um I'm not I I would like to think in this section I'm not I'm no like I'm no wimp, right? Like I work out, I like, but like there are gonna be like I'm so I'm really interested to know about this because I'm not a I'm not an unstrong guy. I'm a pretty strong guy. I'm an athlete. So I'm interested to to to know about this.

SPEAKER_01 17:04

You are you sweet little cuck, but you know, this guy had to be so bad. He he was this young guy, like early 20s.

SPEAKER_00 17:13

Early 20s? Oh yeah. Well, and this was recently, right? I think I remember this guy. This was like this was like nine months ago or something, right?

SPEAKER_01 17:21

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:22

So early 20s, you met him on like a dating site, right? And this was like a one-time kind of the funny thing was that he was actually skinny.

SPEAKER_01 17:30

He was skinny. He's one of those that you would not imagine would be that strong. Um, every now and then that happens. You'll like see just like a skinny guy and he'll like you know lift a car.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Um well how did like what did he do that like showed his strength?

SPEAKER_01 17:43

Well, he literally just like one fell swoop, swift motion, just lifted me right up in the air and did me standing up. And I mean he did it well. Like, you know, I've had some guys in the past, you know, try and do that move and you could tell they were like struggling with it a little bit.

SPEAKER_00 18:02

Well, I don't understand. So he's standing and like describes a position. I don't get it.

SPEAKER_01 18:06

He has um my uh he's lifting me up by my legs. So my legs are over his um elbows, over his his biceps basically.

SPEAKER_00 18:16

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 18:17

Um, and he's holding me like that.

SPEAKER_00 18:20

What yeah. That takes him straight.

SPEAKER_01 18:23

It does. And the fact that he did it so smoothly from start to finish, like not just picking me up, but also like the actual action of it. It was so smooth. There wasn't like you he wasn't struggling at all. It was like it was impressive. I was just kind of like, oh shit, look at this. Look, young guys got it.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

Wow. Yeah, you're you're you're you're a bit of a a connoisseur of of of guys of in of that age range. Um is is it is it of all ages. Of all ages. Um, but specifically, you know, um, i is there something about maybe a guy who's younger that kind of hits a lot of these different notes that we're talking about today? Maybe not necessarily the age wouldn't contribute to their being bigger, but I wonder if like the age contributes actually potentially like in a in a in a negative way, the younger they are, because they don't have as much experience. Would that would that matter?

SPEAKER_01 19:16

Yes, actually. I went into it not having high hopes because of his age.

SPEAKER_00 19:21

Right.

SPEAKER_01 19:21

Like I seriously was just like, you know, he's cute, he's nice, he's funny, why not? But I didn't have high hopes. In fact, I was I was actually like I was a little scared that it was gonna suck. And I was so pleasantly surprised. Um you know, and he was just so strong and like it it just made me feel I just instantly kind of like I felt very feminine, very powerless, very like I was I was out along for the ride. Like he just did what he wanted with me.

SPEAKER_00 19:57

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 19:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:58

That's hot as hell. Well, good. Well, I'm glad you enjoyed it. I mean, I always like to hear, you know, that you're actually in enjoying your your your experiences. Um do these experiences, all these ones we're talking about, we talked about we talked about four different kind of qualities, but three different guys, do these experiences stay separate in your mind or they kind of blend into like a new standard? Like is that kind of like just the bar gets raised?

SPEAKER_01 20:22

No, no. I think they they stay separate because you know, like we said at the beginning, it's so no one has it all. You know, it's no one can be perfect and everyone's different, and you know, even these guys, you know, they they didn't all have everything. Um and the memories stay separate in my mind, and I don't expect the all of those things to be combined in any future partner.

SPEAKER_00 20:49

Yeah, that makes sense. Is there one trait like the the bigger, the better, the longer, the stronger that kind of stands out to you?

SPEAKER_01 20:58

I would say that's tough between the bigger and the better. Um, I guess I would if I have to choose between those two because they're both so amazing. Um I would go with the better.

SPEAKER_00 21:16

Better? Really?

SPEAKER_01 21:18

Just by a hair. Just by hair.

SPEAKER_00 21:19

So so you like you just like the the better skill.

SPEAKER_01 21:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:22

Yeah. I really, really, really like it when you have really good sex when you're not with me. Like I like it when you have a guy with better skills or that kind of stuff. I really too. Yeah. Like it really sucks because you have had some bad experiences too. And I I hate that. I hate it when you come back and you're like, yeah, that sucked. Like, that's just like I like first of all, as a cuck, like that's such a letdown. You don't want to hear that it sucked, you want to hear that it was awesome.

SPEAKER_01 21:49

Yeah. But I have to be honest.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

Yeah, I know. She is very honest. Um, have you ever thought about one of these moments while you're with me?

SPEAKER_01 21:58

No.

SPEAKER_00 22:00

Well, I do remember one time where you thought about a previous moment. You had you had gone um and you were with a guy, and then you got back and and you were like, he was a little rough on me, especially when he was fingering me. And then yeah, and then the next day I was fingering you, and you you literally said, Be rougher, be more aggressive, like he was.

SPEAKER_01 22:23

I know. In like 24 hours, I was like, you know what? Actually, that was hot. I kind of like it, do it.

SPEAKER_00 22:29

Yeah, and that was really hot for me because she basically said this other guy did this thing better than you.

SPEAKER_01 22:35

Yeah, it's better than you'd ever had.

SPEAKER_00 22:37

Yeah, yeah. I remember one time, and this was at the very, very, very beginning when we were doing threesomes. Um, you had a guy who ate you out really well. And um, I remember afterwards I was like, I was like kissing you, and I was like, Holy crowd, that that was hot, but I was a little bit jealous. And you said, You're not jealous that I did anything, you're just jealous that he was better than you. And it was just so like you've called it like so many on so many different things, like about other guys being better, you know, even like down to like sucking your toes. Like you've said, Oh, this guy was better at that than you. Like you're just I don't know if you're trying to get me to improve on certain things, or if you're just kind of jabbing me as a cuckoldress. What is it?

SPEAKER_01 23:17

It depends on the situation.

SPEAKER_00 23:19

Yeah, well, you know what? If you're actually trying to get me to improve, give me give me some actual like follow-up actions, like coach me a little bit.

SPEAKER_01 23:24

I coached you, especially on that fingering.

SPEAKER_00 23:26

You did. Actually, you were very specific about that one. So, um when you think about all these kind of situations and all that, kind of my my last question on this is are there other differences or anything else fun that that is different from me that you actually want to find that you're kind of looking for?

SPEAKER_01 23:47

Well, I mean maybe not so much in the bedroom, but it'd be great to find a kind of more of a like I don't want to say manly man because you're very manly, but a um what's the term I'm looking for?

SPEAKER_00 24:02

Like rugged.

SPEAKER_01 24:03

Yeah, rugged. Because you don't ever go, you won't you won't go camping with me, Mofo.

SPEAKER_00 24:08

And guys, I do not want to camp. If if anybody wants to go camping with Lexi, send us a note in the fan mail because get me out of this fucking shit, guys. I don't want to go camping. Help me.

SPEAKER_01 24:19

I I want to go camping. I want to go snorkeling, and he's freaking scared.

SPEAKER_00 24:23

I don't want to fucking get eaten by a shark. If you want to go snorkeling with Lexi, send us a fan mail, please. Get me out of getting eaten by a shark.

SPEAKER_01 24:30

Someone take me snorkeling, please.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

Yeah, somebody take Lexi snorkel.

SPEAKER_01 24:34

Yeah, so I mean that that's something that I've looked for for a long time and and haven't been able to find a you know nice, sane person that I'd actually want to spend time with that we can go camping and you know, have fun on the campground and and do all these these fun things that you're you're not up for, little man the man.

SPEAKER_00 24:55

Yeah, you know, I remember and she like I I'm dead serious. If you want to take Lexi camping, send us a note.

SPEAKER_01 25:01

It's not that easy.

SPEAKER_00 25:02

Well, it's not that easy. Right, right, right. I'm not saying you're gonna get to take lexi camping, but she's so d dead set about it. She literally one time she was with a bull and I was acting almost like a as a valet that night. That's another story we're gonna have to talk about. But yeah, but she actually was making out with the guy in front of me in our kitchen, like at our kitchen island, and then she like literally stops making out, asks the guy, do you want to go camping? Like, do you how do you or how do you feel about camping or something? It was like feeling out the waters, like how much potential is there here with this guy? Like, do you want to go camping? So, all right. Well, thanks. I I think that I think that's a good one, Lexi. And I good, a good one to aim for is uh is around that. Wow, Lexi, thank you so much for all of these stories. This is insane, and I gotta tell you, as you're cuck, this was actually pretty hot to hear this. I hope everybody else enjoyed it.

SPEAKER_01 25:51

Just when you thought you heard everything. Exactly. We always have more stories for you.

SPEAKER_00 25:55

There are so many stories from this woman. I mean, we have we have endless content um for this podcast. So wanted to now switch into our viewer questions. We're finally starting to get those viewer questions, and as our as listener questions, actually, not viewers yet. We haven't figured out how to edit the uh the video. But if you have a question for us or want to get in contact with us, remember just send us fan mail. All you have to do is go into the show notes, and there's there's a hot link there that you can do that. So the first question we have here is actually from one of your fansly subscribers. So thank you so much for that um for for that uh for that question um that we got from this fansly subscriber. Um, and uh, if you're listening to this, as a heads up, it's a longer question. We're we're gonna get to the rest of this. Actually, we're probably gonna make a whole podcast episode. It was such a good question, but we're gonna read the first part of your question. So it says, hello, Lexi. I've enjoyed the first few weeks of the podcast, and I'm looking forward to more. Well done. It's exciting to hear both partners' perspectives on cuck holding. It really is hot to hear you describe the cuck holding part in chastity. The physical aspects are thrilling. However, I wonder about the mind fuck part of the relationship. It was mentioned a few times, and I want to hear more about the mental aspects of cuck holding. Lexi, what are your thoughts around the mental aspects of cuck holding and how we really because I feel like our cuck holding is like there's a lot of physical activity, don't get me wrong, but I feel like the mental aspect is really where we hone in. What are your thoughts?

SPEAKER_01 27:24

Well, yeah, I mean, I I love the mindfuck. I love fucking with your mind. Um, I I typically do that um before a date. Um, while I'm getting ready, I'm soaking in the tub, I'm getting my makeup on and my hair done. Um, you know, I'm I'm messing with my cook and telling him about what I'm gonna be doing, what I might end up doing, um, how that uh bull compares to him and um you know, all sorts of things just just getting in his head a bit. Um during, you know, sometimes I I don't always um send messages um or video to um to Chris, but I sometimes do, and when I do, it's to make sure that he I'm always on his mind. I assume that I am anyway, but I just want to make sure and just drive him a little more crazy. So, you know, I'll send some um messages that might get him uh extra hard in his cage or send him a video showing him where I am and how I'm having such a fabulous time and basically just having him, you know, it's like bask in my glory, peasant. Um, that sort of thing, and he loves it. So uh the more he loves it, the more I do. Um and then afterwards, of course, I tend to let him know if he's earned it, of course. Um, everything that happened, let him know just how great my experience was. And um yeah, that's the mind fuck.

SPEAKER_00 29:03

Yeah, I I love the mind fuck. Um, I think that um so it's interesting because you mentioned always being on my mind. So sometimes if it's a longer time away, like one time you were with a bull for an entire weekend and you're always on my mind, but I try to actually distract myself a little bit during those times. So whether it's watching a movie or some other, like if it's a longer period of time where you're gonna be gone um for for a substantial amount of time, not not just a night. If you're gone just for a night, you're on my mind 100% of the time. If it's longer than that, like if you're on like a day date with your with your guy and you're going out and doing something fun during the day, I try to distract myself a little bit. Otherwise, I'm just crippled that day. I just I can't function, um, not only from just you know wondering what you're doing, but just horiness, uh, is is I'm horny that you're out. So I have to kind of distract uh distract myself or else I'll just be completely useless. Um, so but I love the mindfucked. And now as we've progressed, you don't nearly as much reach out to me or give me updates. So a lot of times, if I'm lucky, I'll get one, maybe two texts in a night. And so when I actually hear the ping of the phone, it actually sends my mind kind of going crazy because of the range of cuck emotions, the blender of emotions that I keep on talking about. When I first see the picture, it's it's not the fun kind of emotion at first. First, it's the jealousy hits, and then maybe a little bit of sadness, and then it goes into the arousal, and then it goes into the excitement, then it goes into the anticipation and the angst. But the first reaction is never, is never like a high five to myself. Um, you know, the first reaction is always like a oh, and then it's but it lasts a microsecond. Um But yeah, when I get that first text from you, I'm almost terrified to open it because I have no idea if it's gonna be you telling me and sometimes, by the way, it's something like logistical, like, hey, don't forget to buy milk tomorrow. Super, super.

SPEAKER_01 31:03

I don't know that I have ever sent something like that out on a freaking day or on the town.

SPEAKER_00 31:09

Maybe not that logistical, but sometimes it's like, hey, I'm gonna be home around this time or something like that. It's something more logistical, right? But sometimes it's like, hey, I'm having fun with that. Like sometimes it's teasing, sometimes it's a picture, sometimes, especially if it's late at night. Like if a text comes in like after midnight, I know it's probably gonna be a picture or a video or some kind of teasing. So I always brace myself when I get those. So um, that's a really good question. Thank you so much again to your fans Lee um uh subscriber for that question. So a couple other ones.

SPEAKER_01 31:41

Yeah, for the rest of these questions, um, I'm I don't really like read like all of the entire thing. So I just wanted to pick out like just the actual questions themselves and not read the whole thing. So I've picked out these questions from the the viewers. Do you want to or the listeners, do you want to ask those?

SPEAKER_00 31:59

Yeah, sure. Yeah, we have we have uh four more questions that we want to try to try to cover. And and we gotta we got several more than that, but we uh definitely want to try to get these ones. Okay. Next one is do you ever surprise yourself with the effects uh with what affects you emotionally or mentally? So do you ever surprise yourself with what affects you emotionally or mentally?

SPEAKER_01 32:17

Yeah, so I mean when I think of this, when I first read this question, I was thinking of um, you know, when I meet a guy when I'm out, and I don't expect to have any sort of, you know, emotional feeling of any kind, but you know, just when I think that some every now and then I get surprised by it, you know, uh that recent one um we talked about on I think our last show, um, you know, that uh like that guy that night, he um was Mr. Sensitive and he was saying all the right things. And he was, I mean, I was eating it up, I was loving it. I was, I was, you know, he was basically wooing me with, you know, just you know, being super sensitive. And um I I definitely felt that emotional pull, you know, you just made me want to like jump into his arms, you know, physically and emotionally, metaphorically, you know, and um so that can be surprising. You know, that's happened a couple of times. Um, you know, I I always snap back to my senses afterwards, but you know, at the in the moment, it's it's so much fun, it's surprising. And, you know, I I think that um, you know, you always get excited to hear when I have those those momentary um you know feelings for for someone that I've met, um, when they just kind of, you know, um just reel me in like that. So that can be surprising and fun.

SPEAKER_00 33:50

I do like that. I like it when you when you when you catch a little bit of feelings, um, just because number one, it's hot for me, and number two, like I feel like it makes it better for you. Um like like yeah, I feel like if there's and I can just imagine you, I mean, the way you're talking about this guy on the girls' night, you were kind of swooning over him. I I think you kind of thought post post that he was just kind of blowing a lot of smoke. Yeah. My my opinion is that he was probably crushing on you too. I mean, he was a younger guy. You told me he was in his late 20s. Uh-huh. So he was probably crushing on you too. So that's that's what I think. Um, I could be wrong. Maybe he was just a complete player. But I mean, I wasn't there. I've never met the guy. Um, so question number the the the second one of these um uh questions here is do you think the dynamic changes over time or does it stay pretty consistent?

SPEAKER_01 34:37

So what has happened between us and what I've seen in my coaching time and time again is that um the relationship dynamics um, you know, with this sort of um, you know, cuck holding relationship, they they tend to evolve over time. Um a lot of times people may even start um a lot softer with with um you know, I mean it it grows. It can start off with flirting, it can go to maybe threesomes and hot wifing, and then slowly morph into cuck holding and um aspects of that and the degree at which uh people hold their cuck holding relationship, that sways as well and can increase over time. You know, you it might start off as your your cuck holding dynamics to include just like light teasing, and that's that's really you know mostly it. And then they can go all the way to you know extremes um that you would have never imagined yourself going to prior or never thought you would like. Um so I think that they absolutely evolve over time. I think that it's it would be it's unusual for them not to, and also for people to go straight into a um straight into a cuck holding um relationship from nothing, just from being normal vanilla couple to, and now we're doing this, and now she's fucking a guy and and I'm watching and she's telling me about it, and she's talking down to me, whatever. Um so I do think that there's usually uh typically an evolution that happens in it and that it can change over time, and it doesn't always have to increase it there there can be a stopping point where you both are comfortable and you're like this is what feels right for us. This is us right here in this zone. And and that's perfectly fine and healthy, you know, you don't have to increase it. Um, but you know, it I do feel like more often than not, it's something that is going to slowly evolve over time.

SPEAKER_00 36:44

I completely agree. So I never would have if you would have told me we would have ended up where we are today, I never would have I never would have imagined that. Like I never imagined I never imagined chastity, I never imagined denial. I never imagined being like submissive um, you know, to you being in charge. Like I never that that wasn't on my radar. Um I I I I I I don't even quite fully know how we got to this spot, but but it's I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 37:14

Thank goodness we did, though.

SPEAKER_00 37:15

Thank goodness we did because I like it. I'm looking forward to seeing what else what else evolves. Um so it definitely changes over time. And you know, um uh everybody don't feel free, don't be afraid to hit pause if you need to pause on the dynamic, even if it's just for a day or something like that, or for a few hours to catch your breath.

SPEAKER_01 37:33

Or a week or whatever, however long you need.

SPEAKER_00 37:36

Right, however long you need, don't be afraid to pause on the dynamic if you need a break. Um, next question How do you rebuild connection if something feels off?

SPEAKER_01 37:45

Okay. So I mean I'm not really sure how to answer this question. Um it just sounded like a good question, but now that I'm actually trying to come up with an answer, um rebuild the connection if something feels off.

SPEAKER_00 38:03

I think, in my opinion, it's just all about communication. So just communicating, because what is gonna happen event what's gonna happen, and it's most likely gonna happen with on the cuck's end, is you may get jealous, you may get sad, you may feel like you're not getting enough affection. Um, and you just have to vocalize that. You can't be afraid to vocalize that. And and and I I I don't know, Lexi, if you have any other thoughts.

SPEAKER_01 38:26

I mean I don't know, maybe just grab you by the balls, lead you over to the couch or the bed, sit down and lie next to each other, our legs intertwined, our faces close to each other, and then I'll lean in and softly whisper in your ear, who's my favorite lover? And then I'll answer my own question with whoever it actually is.

SPEAKER_00 38:48

No, I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_01 38:49

I'm kidding.

SPEAKER_00 38:50

I was gonna say that's way better than communication. I like that one better. I was I was like falling for that hook line and say, You're better than than the than the guy on your night out at uh just spinning bullshit.

SPEAKER_01 39:02

Well, no, like you know, all kidding aside, like, you know, sometimes um, you know, denial is a fun part of this dynamic, and it can be fun after being out for a night and being like, you know, oh you know, you can just suck on my toes and come to my feet. Um, but there are times where reclamation sex is the best sex, and it can be so important in keeping that bond strong, um, you know, right after uh an experience. And um you know, when that if that doesn't work, you you can. You can go with I guess where Chris's head was and you know, cuddle and talk about how awesome your partner is, how lucky you are to have them, and how how wonderful your life is together. That's it sounds simple and cliche and silly, but it it it's powerful.

SPEAKER_00 39:57

It's really powerful, especially in this dynamic where you kind of need to be reminded everyone now and then that your partner does still value and love you and want you. Um final question. Was there ever a time you were with a bull and had to tap out?

SPEAKER_01 40:13

Yeah, I love this question. Um so uh I don't think I told you this one either. Um, so this was maybe it was last year. Um so I was with a guy and um everything was going great and we were we were going for a while, it had probably been over 30 minutes or so, and you know, I I enjoyed the runner's high as I talked about earlier, but you know, I started to, you know, get you know a little a little sore, and you know, he had done uh a good job of throughout, you know, he would maybe like take a quick, you know, break from the hard pounding to kind of go slow for just a little bit before going right back into it and everything. And that was great at first. I love that. And then after a while, it was kind of like when he would like he would go really hard and fast, and I was thinking, okay, okay, he's gonna come, he's gonna come now. And then he would slow down and go slow again, catch his breath, whatever. And I was just like, oh my gosh, dude. And then he did it again, and I was like, Oh, this is definitely it, he's definitely coming. Nope. Okay, all right. And I was enjoying it, don't get me wrong, I was, but I was also getting like like he was pounding me so fucking hard. Like my like my skin was like, I mean, my whole crotch was like red, you know, at this point. Like I was he was like pounding the shit out of me and I was starting to hurt a bit, and I like I kept trying to wait and thinking that he wouldn't. I I finally had to be like, look, babe, this is this is awesome, but if you cannot come in the next minute, like I I can't take anymore and I'm gonna have to tap out. And um, I mean, I didn't use ex those exact words, but I yeah. And you know, he he did, but I mean, I he took, you know, the full minute and I was just like, oh my gosh, I felt like he was killing me, but it was like in a fun, amazing, sexy sort of murder. Um, but yes, I did. I had to cry, Uncle. I had to tell him. I was like, I'm sorry, I can't. You got you gotta, we're done.

SPEAKER_00 42:34

Okay, that was hot. That uh this is why you keep me in a cage, huh, honey?

SPEAKER_01 42:38

That is why. Wow, one of the many reasons, actually.

SPEAKER_00 42:40

That was that was really, really hot. Um, well, that that is great. And thank you everybody for sending us those questions. Please, please, please send us more. There's really not too terribly much that is off limits. Um, so send us questions that you have about Lexi, about us as a couple, maybe questions to me, questions about the dynamic, but send us those questions. And I wanted to just to close out today by again thanking everybody for listening today. I hope that um I hope that you enjoyed this episode as much as I did. I mean, I love hearing these surprise answers that that Lexi has given me. Uh, don't forget to um to follow us on Blue Sky. Don't forget to reach out to Lexi at cuckholderesslexie.com. Uh, don't forget that Lexi is spelled with an IE at the end. Um, and uh we are looking forward to talking to you all again next week. Lexi, you want to say bye to our listeners?

SPEAKER_01 43:31

Bye guys, have a good night.