100 Ways to Tease Your Cuck

In this episode of The Cuckold Marriage Podcast, Lexie introduces her new book From Mild to Wild: 100 Ways to Tease, Tempt and Control Your Cuck and breaks down how couples can move from curiosity into a confident cuckolding dynamic. We explore the psychology behind power, teasing, and control—and why structure matters more than shock. Lexie shares practical insights on pacing, communication, and avoiding common mistakes when exploring cuckolding for the first time. The conversation also dives into what separates couples who thrive in this dynamic from those who struggle. If you’ve ever been curious about cuckolding and want a clear, intentional path forward, this episode is your starting point. 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Have you ever looked at her and thought, what if I just stop pretending I'm in control? Not in some dramatic way, just quiet and letting her take up a little more space, have a little more power, and a little more say. Have you ever been curious how far she'd go if you didn't stop her? If you didn't hold her back. Or how far you'd go if you stopped holding yourself back. Because most people never say that part out loud. They sit with it, they feel it, and then they push it away. But if you're here, you probably didn't push it away. You stayed with it. And tonight we're gonna talk about what happens when you do. I'm here with my cucky Chris. Hey honey.

SPEAKER_02 0:49

Hey honey. I am so excited about this episode. This one is gonna be a really good one. Um I'm dying to dive in, but let's do a little bit of housekeeping first. So, first of all, just want to make sure that we keep on folk getting folks to send us fan mail. So the fan mail is super easy to do. All you have to do is click on the show notes, and then in the show notes, you just click on literally the hot link that says send fan mail, and then you will be able to either send us a text or you can send us a voice message, or if you want to send us an email, it's podcast at cuckholderslexie.com and shoot us a question, um, give us advice, ask for certain topics. Um, we need all that stuff to keep the show going. Um, also remember to follow us on Blue Sky. Um, we're at the cuckholder, the cuckold marriage pod on Blue Sky, and we post there daily. So we get you know thoughts, thoughts on there. And then finally, make sure to subscribe to Lexi's uh fansly page if you want more beyond just the podcast. And the best way, the easiest way to find Lexi's um fansly page is actually through her website. So if you just go to cuckholdresslexie.com, uh you can link over to her fansly page. So let's go ahead and get started. So this is pretty awesome, honey. You wrote a book.

SPEAKER_00 2:03

I did.

SPEAKER_02 2:04

So he wrote a book called From Mild to Wild: 100 Ways to Tease, Tempt, and Control Your Cuck. So we are gonna talk about this today. This is pretty awesome, right? Um, and uh I'm really proud of you. And so we're gonna talk a little bit about just some of the some of the things inside of the book. Obviously, we're gonna talk about some of the ways that you like to tease and tempt and control in your relationships, um, but also just gonna go through some more high-level questions about just the whole topic of of teasing your cuck. So let's go ahead and dive into it. So, first of all, my first question is what made you finally decide to sit down and put pen to paper and write this book?

SPEAKER_01 2:48

Well, a couple of things. So um, for one thing, you know, I've been doing this a long time, and every now and then you start to be like, what else can I do? What what's what are some more ideas? Anymore, anymore, anymore. And um, so I thought, you know what? I'm I'm a little dry right now. Why don't I try and find something online and and you know, maybe get some other ideas from other uh cuckholders, you know, and things like that. And while I did find some ideas and I I used some of them and they were great, um, I didn't find um a whole hell of a lot like I thought I would. I thought I'd find just a treasure trove of of ideas and um just little ways to fuck with um their minds and everything like that, and I didn't find a ton. And then I also had um female clients who were asking me, what should I do? What should I do? And so I thought, you know what, I'm just gonna put it all in one place. And then I thought, while I'm putting it in one place so I can easily access it and reference it for my clients, what if I actually just put it out there? And then there'd be more to choose from for co-cultresses like me that are like, oh, what to do next. But a lot of the book is actually very beginner-friendly. Um, you know, as I started to write these ideas down, I thought to myself, you know what, let's make it more just like from the start. Um So that's why.

SPEAKER_02 4:08

Yeah, I think that's one of the really cool things is that the way that you wrote it actually is is geared towards especially the first, you know, there's 100 ways in this book, how to tease tend to control your cuck. But I like that at the beginning, almost the entire first half is pretty mild. And that's why it's called from mild. I mean that's what it's called from mild to wild, right? Like it's trying to ease folks into that, right?

SPEAKER_01 4:31

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

So for someone who's listening right now who feels that curiosity but hasn't acted on it, what's the first shift that they need to make mentally to get into that mindset of being ready to be teased, tempted, controlled?

SPEAKER_01 4:44

Well, I mean, for for cucks, a mind shift that needs to happen is letting go of that control and stop trying to write the story and just trust your cuckholdress to do that for you and be in control and um trust her judgment, trust what she does. Um, it's it's hard sometimes because a lot of times I see it time and time and time again. Um cucks are often very much in control, in charge, at work. Um, they have a lot of um responsibility, a lot of say so, and sometimes uh that just makes for wanting to let all of that go when you get home, when you're in your sanctuary and you're you're with your partner. So actually let it go. Stop trying to be like, honey, do this. I want you to try this on me, things like that. Like let it go. Let go. You wanted to release control, so do it. Let her do it. And for the cupcoldresses, the the mind shift that needs to happen is one that is away from oh, I don't know. I mean, should I really do this? Do I deserve this? Um, is it being mean? And you know, I don't want to be mean, and you know, things like that. And it needs to shift to a place of I'm in charge, I'm in power, I deserve this, and no, it's not mean because he fucking loves it.

SPEAKER_02 6:09

Yeah, actually, that's a really good point. So, Dan Savage, I've heard him call this um got like an adult version of cops and got cops and uh robbers with your pants off. Like, so in other words, it's a game, right? So it's not these all these things you wrote in this book like can come across as mean or cruel or that kind of things, right? But it's a it's a game, it's supposed to be fun. And so the second these things stop being fun, um, that's where we got an issue, right, Lexi? So absolutely. I mean, what are your thoughts on that? Have you ever seen it kind of go too far where it's I have, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:45

I have, and you know, I think that every I think every cuckholder is at some point has accidentally committed a faux pas or taken it too far and you know upset their partner a little bit. And you know, we don't want that, but 99% of the time, you're not you're not upsetting them, you're not hurting them, you're um giving them exactly what they want and need.

SPEAKER_02 7:09

Yeah, it is really, it is really crazy. You know, some of these things I think to the outside world, if you were to, if you were to go through some of these strategies, they would be like, wow, that is not nice. But for cucks, they really enjoy it. We really enjoy it. It's fun, it's a fun game. So now let's actually dive into some of the book. We're not gonna go through it a ton, but let's pick out kind of some of the 100 ways to tease your cuck and go through some of them. So let's start maybe with some of the more mild ones because you know, I know the mild ones you really designed for also like even if there's not a another guy there, right?

SPEAKER_01 7:44

Right, absolutely. So the first um over half of this book is just the forming the dynamic. Um, you know, if you're starting kind of from scratch, and even if you aren't from scratch, but you maybe are running out of ideas or something like that, um, you know, this this has some ideas for you, but a lot of it is um forming the dynamic, forming the positions of power and um reinforcing those positions every day. Um we're not we're not talking about going out with a guy initially, we're we're talking about that you know, power play and fun dynamic just between you and your guy.

SPEAKER_02 8:31

Um so yeah, so let's dive into what is the first one you want to call out?

SPEAKER_01 8:35

Um, so boundary rules. So one of the ones um that I'm a big fan of is the ask permission before touching. You know, men get used to their wives or their partners um being physically available to them at all times. They feel like going up and and snuggling and grabbing a hug or grabbing a boob or grabbing an ass, you know, and they're just like, well, I get to do that, you know, then they're used to that, and that's fine. But you know what, maybe not anymore. If you want this, then you need to ask permission before you get any, you know, physical touching from me. Um, and again, it sounds mean, but it's a fun rule. It's fun for both parties because you know, it's the the cook never knows when she's gonna say yes or no. And the cuck holder just has to be strong enough to every now and then say no.

SPEAKER_02 9:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:31

That's gonna drive him wild. He's gonna love that. He's gonna be like, ah, the denial. Uh oh, it's terrible.

unknown 9:36

But I love it.

SPEAKER_02 9:37

Yes. It is. It I mean. So you've pulled this one with me, and I think it's so fun because it's just, you know, you want to go in for a hug and you're you're looking and you normally do it when you're looking really good, is when you create this like boundary rule. It's like you're wearing like the like the shorts that I like, or or some kind of top, or you're all done up, and then you you put this boundary.

SPEAKER_01 10:00

Yeah, you're just like, let me touch those legs.

SPEAKER_02 10:02

Yeah, and then you don't let me.

SPEAKER_01 10:04

And it's just like did I say you could touch?

SPEAKER_02 10:06

Right.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

Right, while you're asking.

SPEAKER_02 10:08

Yeah, it's so fun. Okay, that's a really good one. And again, what I like about that one is that doesn't require another dude.

SPEAKER_01 10:15

No, and it's also it's it's setting up the foundation, you know, you gotta walk before you run. And if you don't set up that sort of dynamic and make clear the rules and get established and get used to her being in charge, her say is, you know, what we're doing, and everything like that, then it's harder to just jump right into, hey, let's let's get a dude. So these sort of things, they really are the walk before you run, getting your house in order, um, getting him in line, you know, before the big time.

SPEAKER_02 10:49

Yeah. Okay, what's the what's the second one?

SPEAKER_01 10:51

Uh so another one I have is uh having, so let's say, ladies, that you guys are going with him to somewhere, anywhere, the grocery store, dress sexier, do your hair better, do your makeup better, be looking good. And as soon as you guys park, right before he's you know, about to get off the out of the car, just look at yourself in the mirror and be like, oh damn. I look hot. You know what, honey, why don't you why don't you stay in here? I don't need you, you know, messing with my game. You know, there might be a cute guy inside and I don't want him to see you, and then I miss my chance. So I'm gonna go in alone and I'm gonna scope the place out. You think you stay here?

SPEAKER_02 11:28

That's harsh. That's pretty savage. Um, so okay, so you're all dressed up and then and then you basically leave your ass in the car. Stay in the car while I go, you know, get attention. Yeah, I don't think you've pulled that one on me, but that sounds pretty high. I think you need to do that at some point in time.

SPEAKER_01 11:46

I think I may.

SPEAKER_02 11:47

All right, what's next?

SPEAKER_01 11:49

So having you as a shopper's assistant. This is super fun for your cucks that love to take you shopping. Um, and it's torture when you let them know, hey, we're not just shopping for me today, we're shopping for the outfit that my bull is gonna enjoy ripping off of me and putting on the, you know, on the floor. Um, and he gets to hold all the bags and pay for everything. And you get to hold up outfits and be like, do you think he'd like me in this or maybe in this? What do you think? Hmm. And it's it's torture, which we love.

SPEAKER_02 12:25

Yes. No, this one, this one she has pulled on me several, several times. And it it is pretty wild, you know, when she's in there trying on all these outfits, and then she'll, you know, come out and she'll she'll show me and be like, Do you think he'll like this? Um it's um it's awesome, just as somebody, you know, in the dynamic, it's just such a fun, easy way to tease and a cool way to involve your cuck in you know, a date that for me a lot of times, like I won't be at.

SPEAKER_01 12:54

Right.

SPEAKER_02 12:55

Right. So it's a fun way to involve me.

SPEAKER_01 12:57

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 12:58

Oh, what do you got next?

SPEAKER_01 13:00

Well, there's always the fun. Um, hey, babe, I just got home from a date with my bull, and we made a mess. So I need you to clean my toys for me that we used. Thanks.

SPEAKER_02 13:14

Been there. That is uh that is a pretty hard one that that you've pulled several times. And and I I've gotta tell you guys, that is awesome to just pull out the team. She hands me the toys, the bags with using a ziploc or something, has the toys in there and clean these. You know, we got them dirty last night. Yeah, that's a good one. Highly, highly recommend that one. So it's so easy, right? It's such an easy, like little way.

SPEAKER_01 13:44

Right.

SPEAKER_02 13:44

It's a two birds, one stone, right? It saves you a job cleaning them.

SPEAKER_01 13:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:49

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 13:49

So um, I love and I you know I've done this with you. Um I'll be getting ready to leave for a date, and I'll be like, honey, you like my perfume? Like, yeah, that's that smells really familiar, you know. Do I know that one? And I'm like, yeah, I wore it on a wedding day. All right, I'm off.

SPEAKER_02 14:13

Yeah, and a lot of times you'll it'll be like lipstick or something like that. Like, hey, I wore it.

SPEAKER_01 14:18

Singerborn on a wedding day. I I mix it up.

SPEAKER_02 14:21

I mix it up. Yeah, exactly. Now, what do you like about that one? What is so hot about, you know, this is the the perfume or this is the lipstick, or like it could be something. Oh, this is your favorite outfit, like I'm wearing it for this other person.

SPEAKER_01 14:34

Like, what are your well it's just the torture, but honestly, I wasn't even sure initially. This is one that I actually tested on you. You were my guinea pig, not someone else. And I wasn't sure, you know, how much you would love it, or if you'd be kind of like, oh and you were just like, Oh.

SPEAKER_02 14:52

Yeah, that was really, really hot. I remember the first time she pulled that. We were sitting, um, uh you you were about to go meet a guy, and we were sitting right outside, like on a bench right before you met this guy, and you were put reapplying your lipstick. And that's when you said, Do you recognize this lipstick? And I said, I said, No, what is it? You're like, I wore it on on our wedding night, and now I'm wearing it to fuck another guy. That was a pretty epic, epic response by you.

SPEAKER_01 15:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:19

And kind of keeping with that theme, um, another one I have in here is what we call the dinner candle. So um what I what I do is I um sometimes, you know, I will bring a candle for ambiance and lighting um whenever I'm going off to fuck a bowl. And I'll burn it while we're fucking and then I will bring that candle home and I will set it up on the dinner table is ambiance and lighting. And we'll be eating dinner, and we'll be like partway through the meal, and I'm like, you know where I got this candle? You know what I was doing? The whole see how much is missing? That's a lot that was missing. I was busy fucking another guy while this was burning. That's what this is from.

SPEAKER_02 16:09

Yep. That's legit. Like these things are all real things that you have pulled. And I um yeah, that one I didn't see coming at all. See, I think one of the keys to a lot of these things is just the the element of surprise and shock. Yes, right, is that you don't have to do this constantly, right? It's this is not like throughout the day you are doing this every day. Right, like we live normal lives.

SPEAKER_01 16:36

We do, but it's just he never knows when it's coming.

SPEAKER_02 16:40

Oh no, I'll be brushing my teeth and and you'll you'll say something like this, or or just you know, taking out the garbage, or or what whatever little like task I'm doing, and then you'll and that is I think one of the most fun things is when you just surprise me with these.

SPEAKER_01 16:54

Yeah, ladies, it's our job to keep them on their toes.

SPEAKER_02 16:57

How do you decide when you're gonna do it?

SPEAKER_01 16:59

Honestly, it's just comes to me last second, I don't know.

unknown 17:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:04

All right, did you have another one in there?

SPEAKER_01 17:06

I have two more.

SPEAKER_02 17:07

Oh, good.

SPEAKER_01 17:08

So um now we're getting a little further in the book and we're getting a little bit more spicy. Um so when I um am going on a date, what I have done before is I have left uh a jerk-off instruction video for him. So I tell him, you get to do this while I'm busy having sex with someone else. Yeah. How'd that go for you, Hannah?

SPEAKER_02 17:33

That was that this was prior to caging when you were out.

SPEAKER_01 17:36

This was prior.

SPEAKER_02 17:37

Yes, but um, yeah, that's always fun having uh having a little message left from you there and uh a little bit a little bit of a chore you're leaving me.

SPEAKER_01 17:46

A chore? Oh, I'm sure it was horrible for you.

SPEAKER_02 17:48

Yeah, it was awesome.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 17:50

Thank you. I appreciate that. That's a really good one. I really recommend that one. That was a lot of fun when you did that.

SPEAKER_01 17:55

Yeah. So last one, um the lube dispenser.

SPEAKER_02 18:00

Oof.

SPEAKER_01 18:01

That is your job when I am in the middle of fucking a bowl and you get the pleasure and the honor of being there. Is you gotta be ready with a loop. And anytime I'm gonna be like loop, and you gotta reapply loop wherever I need it.

SPEAKER_02 18:17

Yeah, that one is pretty I now. The first time you did this, I don't think it was give away too much. I don't think it was planned, but the first time you did this, you were with a guy, I was in the room watching, and the loop was right by you, and you just picked it up and tossed it at me and said, do your fucking job.

SPEAKER_01 18:39

No, that wasn't planned. It just kind of Right.

SPEAKER_02 18:42

It wasn't see, and that was the element of shock, right? Is that I I was I was just I was just enjoying the enjoying the view, having some popcorn, relaxing. This is popcorn. There's no popcorn, to be clear. I was I was watching, right? And you just picked it up and threw it over, and it was I was in total shock. And it was one of it was one of your finest moments. It was epic, classic, cuckoldress 5,000 type move. So, you know what I'm curious about? So those are some really good strategies. Obviously, there's 100 in the in in the book, so there's a lot more in there, but wanted to give you know everybody kind of just a little flavor. But what is one moment that you can see when it really clicks for a guy? When when when the woman is kind of teasing and teasing and teasing, especially with a guy who likes to have control, who may have a lot of control at work and all that kind of stuff, and you're trying to get him into that headspace of being a submissive, when's like the moment you see it click for the guy? Like when can you tell, okay, I I got him?

SPEAKER_01 19:45

When I know that what I am doing or saying is something that he normally would be like, okay, but or well, all right, but how about we change it, you know, like something where they would somehow push back and they they start to open their mouth and then they go, Yes, Mr. You know, yes, Goddess. That's when everything changes, that's when that switch flips, you know. Um I um one of those ways that I saw you do it in the very beginning was I was going out on um a dinner date um and I was planning on going back to his place afterwards. And um a couple hours in I sent you a message and said, Hey, this has turned into a sleepover, deal with it. And instead of being like, What? No, we didn't discuss this. You were like, okay. Yes, goddess. If you wish.

SPEAKER_02 20:47

That's exactly what happened. And and I gotta tell you, that wasn't my first reaction. My first reaction when when you because I was looking forward to having you back that night. And um, yeah, when you told me that my first reaction was gonna be like to fight back a little bit, but you didn't ask me a question. You made a statement. You said, I am spending the night.

SPEAKER_00 21:06

I did.

SPEAKER_02 21:07

So I think that is a good way, you know, for to indicate whether or not the cuck is actually catching on, is when you see them kind of complying more with those kind of things. Um not questioning, not questioning, and I think, you know, from the submissives point of view, just learning to dial it back and actually just allow you to have the freedom, you know, and I think that's part of the fun of this dynamic is allowing you to have that freedom. And you know what? I as soon as I like let go and had you and and and said, okay, you know, as you wish, the next day was awesome when you came back and I had a great time. So it's once you let go of that control that you can actually start to have a lot of fun in this dynamic. So I just I really encourage that for a lot of the guys is ask yourself the question are you still trying to write the script? If you're still trying to write the script, then you're not doing it exactly. The way that is going to be the most fun for you. You're going to have the most impact. So, what's the one line a woman can say that you think that kind of totally shifts the dynamic of control almost immediately?

SPEAKER_01 22:11

That's easy. I mean, you guys are suckers for being called cuck, cucky, things like that, cuck boy, um, you know, slave, what what have you, whatever your preference. And so, I mean, it's amazing to watch one second, maybe there's a little bit of tension or something, and you're just like, cuck, go pour me a glass of wine. Cuck, go get this, you know, something like that. You know, cuck plus command, you know, copy paste. And uh that tends to shift things pretty quickly. I love that.

SPEAKER_02 22:44

It is really cool because it also like will pull you out of whatever's happening, like real life, right? And then it helps you just kind of get into that moment of just having fun with your partner and okay, like game on, like now we're playing our game again, like real life can pause just for a few minutes so that so that I can serve you as a goddess and we can just have fun as a couple. And again, this is what keeps your relationship spicy and just having a good time, and just it's it never gets boring because again, I never know what's gonna come out of Lexi's mouth. And I love serving her, so it's like two and two together, or what's gonna go in it. There we go. That is touche. Very, very good.

SPEAKER_01 23:29

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SPEAKER_02 24:04

So a lot of couples are afraid of going too far too fast. How do you help people so that it builds up more slowly and so you don't kind of screw up by doing something and everybody's like, ouch, that actually really actually hurt?

SPEAKER_01 24:15

Well, like I said earlier, I mean the the in the book, and you know, what I recommend for people is building that foundation first. And if you, you know, I made the first over half of the book building that sort of dynamic and that expectation. Um if you just skip to the last part of the book and just go for the really juicy, you know, savage type stuff, you miss the journey, you miss the intensity building, and it can be too much too fast, and everyone, you know, especially your cuck, might be like, oh, okay, uh, felt that one. Um, I don't know if this is quite what I imagined. Um whereas, you know, as we've always said, relationships evolve in every way and sexually as well. And so if you just try to like snap right into it and be the most intense version of, you know, a cuck uh cuckold and cuckold relationship, um one thing, you miss out on the journey, but you also put yourself at risk for feelings being too strong too much too quickly, and maybe there being some hurt feelings or resentment.

SPEAKER_02 25:31

Yeah, I completely agree. So take it slow. There's no need, don't start on on suggestion number 91 on the book. Like that's a really bad place to start. Now, you all have to decide where you sit on this, right? So, like some couples might be way past the first, you know, 25. So I I think that that you all have to decide that for yourselves. So, what what's something that people think the dynamic is about that you found is actually completely wrong?

SPEAKER_01 26:01

Oh, a lot of couples think that it's only about her hooking up with another guy and the teasing that goes with it. And it's not just about that. It's um that's that's such a small part, actually. Because I mean, more power to you if you're the kind of gal that goes out and then does a new dude every night. But that's not realistic, that's not how it is. Um, you know, your your conquests, you know, are not gonna be all the time, but your dynamic, um, well also not all the time, should be steady and there and um it should be nurtured. And so it's not just about the sex with another dude, it's about the mind fuck, it's about the teasing between the two of you, it's about the fantasies, it's about um, you know, just enjoying every aspect of this together and the flirting and the teasing and um the commands and all of it. Um so it doesn't, it's not just all about okay, she's going out now and she's fucking somebody and then she's gonna tease me about it. It's it's so much more than that. And that's such a small part of it, really, in the grand scheme of things, as far as time spent.

SPEAKER_02 27:14

Yeah, I I agree. Yeah, don't don't don't be so fixated that it all has to be in the bedroom, like a lot of because you're just missing so much of it.

SPEAKER_00 27:22

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 27:22

What do you think separates couples that actually like succeed in this dynamic from ones that actually fail in the dynamic?

SPEAKER_01 27:28

Um, I mean, a few things. There's uh communication, because if you're not communicating, then that is with anything equals um some resentment, some hurt feelings that aren't being expressed, and the other person doesn't know that you're hurt, and so they're just gonna keep acting like the sun's shining, and meanwhile you're upset that they don't get that you're hurt. Well, you have to communicate that. You have to communicate it um the second that you feel it. And um respecting boundaries, you know, and this is especially important for culturesses. Um, you know, you need to find out ahead of time, you both need to find out what each other's boundaries are, and then respect those. So if he has specifically said, I don't want you doing this or going into this realm talking about this or calling me this, you have to respect that. And if you don't, it's a bit of a recipe for disaster. Um, you know, there's there's also aftercare. Aftercare, you know, you can't skimp on it. Um, because cuckolding is a very intense and sometimes very emotional thing, especially going into and after and during and after um, you know, a session with a bull. And so if you're just like, all right, all done, let me tease the hell out of him and then go to bed, you know, you're you're cutting everything short and you're not giving him your cuff what he needs to not just rebound from it, but also to feel closer to you and like your bond is still strong.

SPEAKER_02 29:11

I think that's nothing to add. That was a perfect answer. I mean, I just think that that's exactly what I know I need. Um, and I think the reconnection is like the best part, like just to re whatever that reconnection looks like. You know, sometimes for us it's going on a date after something like that, or just hanging out on the couch and just watching a movie. So um, I mean, I think that was all great. And I think that, you know, this book is super helpful for anybody, but just uh it's just the fun of it, right? It's just having fun, teasing, tempting, controlling. It's just a lot of good ideas because I mean, especially if if you're like us and you live the dynamic pretty much 24-7, um, it's you run out of things to do. And that doesn't mean that every the 24-7 we're we're talking about. Well, I mean, I mean, it's just like at any point in time, it can happen, right? Right. Like that's what I meant by 24-7. Is that you might tease me at, you know, 7 a.m. or at 10 p.m. or something like that. Like you just never, like, there's not like a it's not like a it's not contained to a scene. Does that make sense?

SPEAKER_01 30:17

Absolutely. And sometimes, you know, whether it's uh cuck holders or a cuck reading this book and maybe suggesting some things to, you know, about hey, this would be fun, um, without taking control. Again, cucks this is about releasing control and not trying to direct everything. But if you find something in this book that you're like, oh my gosh, I killed for that, it'd be so amazing. You know, you might just be like, Hey, what do you what would you think about this? Would you be up for it? No, okay, cool. You know, something like that. You know, there's no harm in you know, approaching, but it's letting her have the power to be like, hmm, I don't think I like that. And you being like, okay. Whatever you say, you're you know, you're you're the boss, type of thing. So I think that it, you know, it's a it can be helpful. It's a I think it's a decent book.

SPEAKER_02 31:09

Yeah. And um, the best way to get it is actually going to her website, cuckholdresslexie.com, and there's a link on there that'll take you to the it's kind of hard to find on Amazon for some reason.

SPEAKER_00 31:19

Yeah, yeah, I don't know why.

SPEAKER_02 31:21

But um, but anyways, if you go to her website or just on the homepage, you just still see a picture of the book and it's just a little link that says like buy the book or something like that. That's the easiest way to find it. So thanks, Lexi. I think everybody is excited to. I know I am terrified because I have, you know, you haven't done all 100 on me. And there's some of them that I kind of hope we don't do. And that's by the way, that that is like about the boundaries discussion, right? Is like I think you know which ones in I know which ones you would not be up for.

SPEAKER_01 31:52

You personally, yes.

SPEAKER_02 31:53

Yeah, me personally. But I mean, what you I think what you tried to do is you work with so many cucks thanks to your coaching. You kind of got a little bit of ideas from all of them, right? Isn't that like where you got like a lot of a lot of them? Is is from just got a couple of them from from from just like from your cucks that they had ideas or just like their fantasies or something like that.

SPEAKER_01 32:10

Yeah, no, I only got a couple.

SPEAKER_02 32:12

They all came from your head, just straight up. Yeah, that's insane. This woman, you're I'm not that blonde. You're delicious, you're deliciously evil. Yes, I am. Yes, you are. Okay, let's go now to um listener questions. We we we have two this week. So, um, folks, again, please send us fan mail. We want to hear from you. We want to answer more questions. I have one on here, and then honey, I'm sorry, I forgot to put the other one. I have it on my phone, so you'll see me grab my phone if you're watching the video. So, okay, so here's the first question. This one is from um Dallas, Texas. And what they wrote was, hello, love the podcast. We are just getting into the lifestyle, and something we have been searching for is a place for her to feel safe and talk with other cuckoldresses. There seems to be many groups for cucks and couples looking for bowls, but unable to find a group for cuckoldresses. It seems that there are a lot of cuckoldresses that like the idea but lost on the what to do next or how to handle the situation. After being out of the dating pool for a long time, so for example, older married couples. Um, the question uh we had was have you ever thought of creating a group for new cuckoldresses or know of one? Uh, andor a group of uh cuckold couples could meet and discuss the early early uh process of the relationship. The idea was to discuss information on the podcast for new cuckold uh for new cuckholdresses. Most of the podcasts and a website we have found were either telling the partner about cuck holding or how to find a bull, missing the process from accepting to experiencing others. Once again, thanks. I think the podcast is going great. We look forward to learning more as we listen, always learning kept and tea.

SPEAKER_01 33:56

Okay, well. Um so I mean some of that, you know, I I do um help people on a one-on-one coaching basis for um the process of accepting and experiencing and all that. Um I don't um have I don't know groups necessarily that are like like that. Um but you know, I mean it wouldn't be like a terrible idea to have like I don't know, maybe like a forum or or something like maybe we could add to the website so that people can that would be cool connect that way.

SPEAKER_02 34:43

Yeah, yeah, that's a good idea.

SPEAKER_01 34:44

Because you have like one for cucks and one for cuckoldresses, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:49

And you know, like it would be great to meet, you know, more more actual cucks too. So that would be that would be nice because you know, sometimes you just want to vent to somebody and you just don't have anybody to talk to about this.

SPEAKER_01 35:00

Yeah, I think that's an idea.

SPEAKER_02 35:02

Yeah, yeah, we can look into that for sure. So thank you for the question. But yeah, it is hard to find these folks. But I think one of the things is too, like if you're in your like lifestyle event or something like that, a lot of times people are so open about their dynamic if they're into swinging or polyamory or ENM or something like that. If you're also into this dynamic and you're in that setting, like do us a favor and like be a little bit more open about it when appropriate in that setting. Um, and that way we can find each other. Um, like it'd be nice to make it easier. Lexi, I know for you to find other women like this, um, and and for me to find other guys, you know, who are in the same situation. It's just nice to meet people who you can relate to. You can go through this stuff with, right? Okay, um, one more question that we got in, um, and this is from Jefferson City, um, Missouri. Okay, hello, longtime listener, first time texter, long time listener. We've only been around like a month and a half, but but I I will consider that. Wait, okay. A definition of a long time can mean something different for everybody. For this person, a long time is a month and a half. My wife and I are both 26 and have been married four years. Yeah, very young. Our sex life is what I would call a few stages above vanilla. I have several sexual fantasies that I would consider extreme, such as having a threesome with my wife and another man, male, female, male. My wife will use a dildo on herself while she sucks me, or vice versa. I have made small comments about what if I let you fuck uh another man? And she always said that she'd never step outside of our marriage, which I respect her for that. My question for you guys is should I let it go completely or continue to take small comments about it and see where it'll go? I'm pretty good either way, and I'll just need an outside opinion. Thank you. What do you think?

SPEAKER_01 36:56

All right, we gotta start going over these questions ahead of time. You know how much I love the surprises.

SPEAKER_02 37:03

Yeah. Um gosh, I mean, there's maybe as you're thinking, let me provide my first snap judgment.

SPEAKER_01 37:11

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 37:11

So my first snap judgment is it depends on the level of conversation that you've already had with your spouse. If you've already had all the conversation, been vulnerable, and not just jumped to the hey, I want you to fuck another dude thing, if you've set the foundation, if you've if you've had all the conversations that you need to have, and she's made an educated decision that this is not for her, then you gotta drop it. That's my personal opinion. I mean, what do you think, honey?

SPEAKER_01 37:38

I agree. Um, if it was more of just a, hey babe, I had this wild idea, you know, what if you did this? And then her knee-jerk reaction is, oh gosh, I would never, I would never step out of our marriage, you know, of course not. And that was it, solely it. No conversation before or after, then you know, there there might be some there might be room for a deeper conversation and revisiting this um in a you know safe space and you know, just being like, hey, you know, I know I kind of sprung that on you. Um you know, I I just kind of wanted to talk a little bit more about w how I got there and why maybe, you know, I thought that might be hot. Um you know, I I know that you're just so amazing and you would never step out on me. Um, you know, but what does the I mere idea of it hold any excitement to you whatsoever? You know, knowing that you're not gonna hurt my feelings, that you're not gonna break my heart. I am I'm interested in this, and I would not consider it, you know, cheating or or something that's against, you know, your values and your morals. Um so knowing that kind of background information, you know, does it turn you on at all? Would you have any interest in it whatsoever at any point in the future? You know, something like that might get a better reaction um and a more thought-out reaction instead of just a oh no, that's that's not proper. Um, I wouldn't do that. You know, it's that's not how it's supposed to be, and I would never hurt you like that, you know. Um that might help get a more genuine thought-out response as opposed to just, hey, want to do it? Um yeah.

SPEAKER_02 39:35

Yeah, and I think this is this is what you do so well in your coaching, right? Is that you you slow guys down. Like it's about flowing your role as as a guy, um and having that real no nonsense vulnerable conversation and thinking with your head and your heart and not just not just your head below your your belt.

SPEAKER_01 39:58

And not just spitting out something and being like, hey, what do you think?

SPEAKER_02 40:04

You know, just like it can't come out of nowhere.

SPEAKER_01 40:06

It can't come out of nowhere, it can't have no explanation, it can't be sudden and intense. Um, because that's gonna get you a reaction that you're probably not gonna like.

SPEAKER_00 40:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 40:16

Um, at least for most women. I mean, there's gonna be some women out there that are gonna be like, Yeah, I'm down. Yeah, you know, but women like me. But um, I think a lot of women, you know, if you throw something at them like a freaking ball to the face and be like, you interested, you know, they're gonna kind of be like, uh, I don't know about this. I don't know whether this went stop it. So you you have to come at it the right way if you want success. And I'm not saying that you know you've ruined your chances, because that's not necessarily true at all. You know, we you just need to have a more thought-out, drawn out conversation, assuming that you haven't already. And if you have, and she is aware of everything and she has had time to think about it, and this is how she feels, then you know what? You may have to accept that it's not gonna happen and and learn to live with that.

SPEAKER_02 41:12

Yeah, and by the way, we've said this before on the podcast, but it doesn't all it doesn't have to be always in absolutes. Like just because you don't want involved another human being in your relationship, that's understandable for a lot of folks. Um, but that doesn't mean that you can't still have fun and play in the fantasy. So just keep that in mind. You don't always need another human being there.

SPEAKER_00 41:38

Very true.

SPEAKER_02 41:39

But all right, those were the questions for the week. So uh send us more for next week, and we would love to answer, and we'd love to hear from all of you, and we appreciate your feedback. So if you heard something in this conversation that actually hit you, don't ignore it. Just sit with it, talk about it, explore it, and we will see you next week on the next episode. Lexi, you want to say bye to all of our listeners?

SPEAKER_01 42:04

Bye guys.

SPEAKER_02 42:05

Bye everybody.

SPEAKER_00 42:09

I see it in your eyes, there's no way to hide it. Too many seconds you're wasting. Yeah, you don't need a fight. I can tell that you're lost. There's no point in the night. I can see that you're lying. Kind of cute that you're trying.