Stop Renting Your Life Out ✅

In this episode of The Main Character Mindset, we’re talking about time wasters—not just people who waste your time, but the patterns that keep you emotionally unavailable to yourself. 

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of revolving around someone else’s attention, potential, or inconsistency , and is ready to reconnect with her own identity, needs, desires, and direction.

Because healing is not just leaving the wrong situation…

It’s remembering who you are when nobody else is at the center of your world.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Welcome back to the main character mindset. If you're new here, welcome my love. Welcome. Today, well, honey, I'm recording shit at 1222 in the morning, okay? Because I had some shit I needed to get up off my motherfucking chest. I hit a fucking epiphany, like literally like 30 fucking minutes ago, and I wanted to share it with you guys. Stop allowing motherfuckers to treat you like an option. World shit. And when I say that, I mean that in the most humblest way possible. People play with your time, get rid of them. Don't allow nobody to fucking play with your time. Time is the most precious thing that you got here on this motherfucking earth. Fuck the money. Fuck the appearance. Bitch, the only thing that you got in this motherfucking world that means something is time. Okay? Because you got it, but you can't get it back. Alright? Don't allow nobody in this motherfucking world to waste your damn time. Alright? Stay away from drifters and time wasters. If you need more in-depth on what a drifter is, read Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill. And that right there is the blueprint between drifters and non-drifters. Because just like I said on yesterday's episode, allowing a motherfucker to waste your time is a sense of control. It's manipulation. You feel what I'm saying? Well, if I can get her to, then she'll. You feel what I'm saying, bitch, fuck you. Alright. And sometimes we gotta have that mental attitude, like, bitch, fuck you. And it's not even on no arrogant shit. No. It's because that you have to hold yourself to a certain standard. Because if you don't, nobody will. And it's a lesson that I had to learn. And then when I peep, like old habits starting to come back, or like old people starting to come back, and they think that that's what it is, and it's not. It's not. And sometimes you gotta remind a bitch, no, that's not it. That does not work for me. And regardless of how the fuck they took what you said, fuck them. Okay. I'm heavy on the fuck them. Because nobody's gonna love you. Nobody's gonna care for your heart. Nobody's gonna do none of that but you. Because nobody's coming to save you at all. And that is the hard fucking pill that you have to swallow. It's okay. It's all about what you do from there. It's no more of well, they won't like me anymore. Fuck them. Because they only like you because you're you you fit in, you conform to to their reality. And the whole point, and like the whole, the whole, the whole shebangie is that bitch, this is your world. Everybody else is just a fucking third person. You know how like in movies when motherfuckers' lines get cut, cut a bitch lines. Because at the end of the day, a motherfucker is only gonna treat you how they feel about you. And by wasting time, they're telling you how they feel about you. The fuck? That shit is a warning. Take that shit and run us all the way down left field with it. Don't let don't don't don't let nobody make you feel no type of way about nothing at all. That shit does not be worth it. Because a lot of these motherfuckers be having people that don't have no type of self-respect. And so since they're used to that, like you can really tell what type of female these niggas is used to. Based on how they talk to you and how they treat you. And if you conform to that, you're just conforming to their pattern. Don't conform to nobody's fucking pattern. Fuck that shit, bitch. We learning patterns. That's what the fuck we're on here doing. We're learning patterns. Okay? And next episode, we getting into that shit. Bro, I literally recorded the fucking episode, right? That was teaching y'all about the psychology of triggers. Okay? Tell me why I went to edit my shit. And it won't even load so that I can edit it. You wanna talk about bullshit? Bullshit. Bullshit, it's bullshit. Okay? It's bullshit. It's okay though. It's okay. That's that was that was God telling me I could do better. Like, I be looking at shit at through like a different lens. I don't look at it like why is it happening to me? I look at it like redirection. Like I'm being redirected to do something better. You feel me? And like it took me a while to not get distracted by other people that like I cared about but didn't give a fuck about me. And that's usually how it goes because a motherfucker don't even give a fuck about themselves and let alone give a fuck about you. That's why paying attention to patterns is so fucking important. Because you can see it before it happens. And once you see it, you don't even have to wait for it to happen. You could just get the fuck from around. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna re-record that episode. And I will have that episode ready for you guys tomorrow. I've just been getting this shit together. Like mentally, I just I have been overwhelmed, but like when it comes to this podcast, I literally get on here and just start recording. Somebody did some weird shit, I'm making it a podcast episode. I don't allow myself to get mad anymore. I channel it into something that I love. That's why like time is so important. Because what you spend your time doing is what you will become. And I had to learn that shit the hard way because I was that hard-headed motherfucker that always wanted to be outside with my ratchet ass friends. You feel what I'm saying? Like, I don't drink, but like I was always outside with my ratchet ass friends because like I was chasing the noise. When I learned that my ratchet ass friends, that's all they know is noise. So when I sit in the quiet to meditate, I'm labeled as a fucking serial killer. Because I can sit in the quiet, undisturbed, and very unbothered. Bro shit. That's why I said last episode, fuck what them people talking about. Fuck what they talking about. Because sometimes you have to step out of your norm to become something. And stepping out of your norm sometimes requires you to not waste your time. You feel me? Like, this is my work. It's no sometimes. You gotta show up even when you don't want to. You feel me? Like, it was killing me that I couldn't hop on here and talk to y'all. Real rap. Because like I enjoy doing this. So I realized that I was wasting my time with a bitch ass nigga, bro. Instead of focusing on my craft. So then, like, when you turn around and you look at the things that could have been but didn't form because you were distracted, that shit hurts differently, bro. And then you turn around and you wanna take that anger out on other people. Like, I sacrificed so much for it for you. No. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Mm-mm. You didn't choose you. We gotta stop blaming other people and take accountability where we be fucking up at. Because we quick to blame somebody else for doing some some shit. Like I said, when you point that one finger, it's three point back at you. So what the fuck did you do to get here? A, you fed into them distractions. B, you didn't spend your time wisely. You have to create good habits. And that comes from that's mental, bro. That shit is not fucking easy. I'm not gonna sit on here and tell you that shit isn't easy. It's not fucking easy, bro. It's not. But as long as you have grace with yourself and you actually have the willpower to make a change, that's the first step. Because what it takes what 21 to 30 days to form a habit. So you know how much repetition that shit is to break a fucking habit? Especially when these are habits that you've had, these are trauma-based fucking habits that you have, that you are unknowingly doing. It's more to life than drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes. Okay? This shit is deep. And it's all about how deep you're willing to dig to reclaim yourself from the things that you had to learn to survive. That's some challenging shit, bro. I'm not even gonna hold you. I'm 29 years old, and I didn't realize how many coping mechanisms I had, or defense mechanisms that I had, but you gotta stop chasing that noise, them distractions. Every time your phone rang, you answer it. Fuck them people. Cause at the end of the day, motherfuckers be quick as fuck to run after a person that don't give a fuck about them. Ask yourself this question before you answer that phone or you answer your door or you go outside to that distraction. If I was fucked up today, would they help me? And I ain't just talking about physical, I'm talking about mentally and emotionally. Like, could you, could you, could you hold space for me? Could you be there for me? Could you show up for me? And if the answer is no, fuck them. Fuck them. Period. Fuck 'em. That makes you kind. And send they asses right back to their fucking kind. We can't get mad at the progress that we make if we not making the right decision. We can't do nothing but blame ourselves and figure out the solution. Cause if you dwell on the problem, you are the problem. Robra, don't dwell on problems, bro. Figure out the fucking solution. Everybody has the same 24 hours in a day. It's all about how the fuck you use it. Stop wasting your time on shit that does not fucking matter, bro. If a nigga can't treat you right, fuck him. There's more to life than fucking niggas. I had to go to Georgia to see that shit. There's more to life than niggas. I live in a small town. So it gives crab in the bucket energy. And all these bitches is worried about is niggas. Chasing after niggas. Priorities is not taken care of, but you chasing after a man that don't even like you. How about this? And I had to write this down because the other day I was uh I was talking to my mom and I had made a little jokeety joke, and I had to write that joke down because the joke was fucking serious. Like all shade aside. All fucking shade aside. So imagine this, right? I I said this shit and like I had to I had to pause and I had to write that shit down. Like that's what I be doing. Like when I be saying, because I'm I'm a very I'm I'm a I'm a I be busting jokes. I'm so sorry. I be busting the fuck out of some jokes, okay? And sometimes they be funny, and other times I be having to write that shit down because that was some real ass shit. So boom, right? So it says a baby doesn't keep a man, you're just secure housing. Yeah. Secure housing. And when I said that shit, it was a joke. And it wasn't a joke. It wasn't a joke because that's the fucking truth. That's how men look at you. You having all these motherfucking kids for a nigga that only look at you like secure housing.

SPEAKER_00 10:56

He know that if he cheat on you, you gonna take him the fuck back. So he could go do whatever the fuck he wants. That's why I said time waster, and that's a time waster. That's a time wasting. You don't need seven years and five kids to figure out if he wanna be with you. It only took was the first pregnancy. You feel me? We gotta stop being stupid for these fucking niggas.

SPEAKER_01 11:21

Like, we have to use our brains, use your prefrontal cortex. Okay? And everything that I'm saying, I'm gonna teach you how to use. This is just a venting session. It's just a venting session of the things that I observe, the things that I see, the things that I go through. Like, real shit. I'm human, just like the rest of y'all. Like, I wouldn't be sitting here busting my little jokes if I didn't go through it. I was once that simpleton that would take that nigga back a thousand times because he said he was sorry, or he licked my pussy a a certain type of way. You understand what I'm saying to you? Don't allow a horse to ruin your life. It's not worth it, okay? It's okay to go to the stables and still go home. You don't have to lay up with that motherfucker. Because a nigga's only gonna do what you allow him to do, and if you allow him to waste your fucking time, guess what? You become a time waster. That's a hundred grand shit. You can't argue with that. Like, bro, there's no argument with that. I've lived it, I've been through it. I've allowed bitch ass niggas to consume my fucking time. And then when I turn around, I have nothing to fuck the show for. Of course, it wasn't no L, it was a lesson, but damn, like I had to learn a lesson like that. You feel me? You're not the only one. You're not the only one. See, now I don't get mad when I learn a lesson. Because I'm still learning them. I'm still learning, I'm still growing. You feel what I'm saying? So, like, when me personally, when I learn a lesson, I'm grateful. I'm not mad, I'm not doing none of that shit because at the end of the day, it could have been worse. It could have been worse. That's it. It could have been worse. Like, I'm I'm learning how to have courage through my mistakes, and I'm learning how to forgive myself after I make those mistakes. Because it wasn't a mistake if I learned from it. You feel me? Sometimes we gotta all the time we gotta look at the glass half full, not half empty. Not about what's happening to me, but what the fuck am I doing? We don't ever want to ask that question because a lot of us don't want to hold accountability. Because when after the accountability comes to shame and nobody wants to hold that shame, we have to hold that shame because that's the only way we're gonna grow. That's the only way we learn lessons. That's why we keep attracting different bodies, same lesson. You feel me? And then we sit in here like, damn, this always happens to me, no, you're the fucking problem, and it's okay to be the fucking problem, okay? Because when life gives you lemons, you can A cut them bitches up and slice it over salmon, or you could put them bitches in the sock and handle business. I'm gonna put my bitches in the sock every time and handle business because at the end of the day, I was the problem. I'm not gonna beat myself up about it. No. When I say put the lemons in the sock and handle business, that means I'm gonna do some introspection because something gotta fucking change. Okay? Something gotta change. And like showing up for yourself is change. Loving yourself is change. Valuing your time, changing your habits is change. You feel me? And it's not gonna start overnight, bro. I started this journey when like 2022 on my house burning. Like that's where an awareness like kicked the fuck in. Like I realized shit wasn't right, and then I had to go through a series of unveiling, I would call it, to see that the things around me weren't right. Because awareness is not gonna hit you all at one time, it's not. But the moment that you're aware of your habits, because I was reading books, I was learning myself. Because the only real power is really learning yourself, learning what triggers you, learning what patterns that you need to break. You feel me? And you can't do that if you're chasing noise. You can't, it's not gonna happen. Oh shit. I don't know who the fuck needed to hear that, but somebody needed to hear that. Because honey, I needed it for myself. I need it for myself because what I be I be feeling myself going backwards, yo, and I can't afford it. I cannot afford it. Like, you're gonna come to a point in your life where you can't afford to go backwards. It's like getting on the wrong train. Get off at that first stop when you know you're fucking up. When you feel yourself fucking up or you are aware that you're fucking up because it don't feel right, like you can feel alignment. I'm not bullshitting you, bro. And when you step off that path of alignment, you feel tired, you feel drained, like overly drained. And that's when you have to step back and be like, what the fuck am I doing wrong? Because the only person that controls you is you. You can either stand in your own way or you can get the fuck out of your own way. The choice is yours. Like, I hope this landed with somebody. Like, comment, subscribe. I love you all. Have a blessed night, and I'll see you on the next episode, main character.