Ep. 6 The Yawning of Acceptance

This episode gets into acceptance, being accepting and accepting others for just who they are. No matter who we are, we should feel like we belong to part of a tribe or collective. Where do you feel best when you are vibing in the realm??

Random chat and feeling the flow! 

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Hello there, ladies and gentlemen. Welcome back. My name is Joel Fields, the founder of Fields Mind Body Therapies, and the holistic wizard behind Wizard of Wonder podcast. I'm so glad you guys could join me today. Today's topic is gonna be on acceptance. Accepting who we are, being with what is. Where do we find ourselves in the everyday him ho ha? How ya doing type of society that we are living in? It's a weird world out there, my friends. And I am glad that you are nestling in, getting cozy, and if you're like me, maybe you like to warm your bones beside the fire. Anyway, anyway, hi, welcome in. So acceptance, accepting, like I said, who we are, how we are in life, right? And we can all come from a different background, and we can all come from, you know, a different space and time, you know, all throughout history. We're all just kind of an amalgam of weirdness, all compiled in together, you know. It's the lovely thing about being people, you know, as people, people, and we do what we do. It's it's nice to just kind of accept one another, you know, but that's a hard thing, right? It's it's a very hard thing sometimes when we are, I don't know, just going about our lifestyle and we just we do the things that we want to be doing. And there's this internal, oh my gosh, here we are, yawning again. Here's this this internal desire, this internal drive to feel more complete or feel like you're around more like-minded people, you know, to to fit in, you know. Why do we why do we have this about us, this this concept and our idea maybe to fit in with people? You know, not everybody has it, and some people just kind of go on and they do their own thing and they're like, well, whatever, who cares if I fit in, you know? I'm just you know, a barrel of monkeys in a in a zoo, you know. I don't know why the the monkeys are being barreled up in zoos, but they are. Anyway. Bottom chang. Anyway, I I have a hard time accepting myself. You know, this this podcast is like I said, it's it's a place for me to be a little bit more vulnerable and to share my story and my background and my realms. So last time we talked a little bit about quite a bit, about just things that I I I did to get into health and wellness and kind of a start of trajectory in all of it. A lot of it was a little bit of a ramble, so I do apologize for that. I I can I can ramble. Um, but that's that's why I want to be doing this podcast because I I think it's nice to I don't like who's gonna get my voice out. I gotta figure out these things about yawns. So I don't know, having a hard time accepting myself, and I've I've been doing I've shared before that I've I've been in therapy the last several years, really, and just kind of trying to find you know comfort in like being with myself. Not that it I don't know, like I'm kind of one of those people, and and there's there's a lot of this around in the world where people have this idea of like feeling unwanted or feeling like they're they're not good enough or feeling like they're bad. And even if you didn't do anything, right, the mind can convince itself of this. And you know, I'll go places where there should be a bunch of accepting strange weirdos like myself, you know. Like I'll I'll give an example. A few weeks ago, I went to this holistic health fair, and I just I totally felt like a stranger there. And I was a stranger there. I I only know a few different familiar faces, and while those faces are very kind and very friendly, and I I like seeing them out and about at different things, I I went there to mingle and it just it had this sense of uncomfortability about it, and it just didn't sit right in my soul. And that was that was a place where gosh where you know the the unutral is more accepted. And you know, people run up to me and they're like, let me let me check out your your chakras and let me give you a body scan and see what's out of alignment and and this and that. And you know, I'm I'm a Reiki level two practitioner and I work with energy quite a bit in my practice as well, uh a little bit of a different way than than a lot of people perhaps think, but when I'm I don't know, I I'm very aware of the things that I carry and the struggles that I have, and I don't know, maybe I also have a hard time accepting help from other people. I have a hard time accepting these yawns right now. I'll tell you what. I tell you what. In doing, I don't know, my little ADHD brain's going off the rocker right now, but when I was talking about doing, you know, therapy work, talking with the therapist, working with the therapist, I've been doing EMDR the past year or so, maybe a little over, maybe a little under. I don't know. It's been a little while since I've been I've been doing EMDR, and some weeks I'll go to EMDR, and then other weeks we'll just chat about things that are going on. And well, that's great, you know. I I love it. But I think while also doing EMDR, it's opening up different parts of my brain and allowing me to remember some things that have happened that weren't the best, right? And you know, our our body, our nervous system, wants to always protect us from the uncomfortable and when we start uncovering some of this stuff, our bodies can make shifts, you know, whether it's a good shift or whether it's a bad shift. Maybe you've been holding on to something for a long time, and then when it starts to shift, your body is like, what am I? Who is regulation? You know, and it gets all weird. But when I'm my therapist once told me that by yawning, you know, she she works with a lot of a lot of people and helps them through a lot of deep stuff through EMDR work, and she's saying, you know, a lot of people like when they start yawning, it's it's kind of a sign of processing. And it's funny because when I was gosh play a little game at the end of this episode if you're like, how many times did Joel yawn? And if you tell me the the number, who knows he might win a sticker. Yeah, I have a lot of stickers. Anyway, back in the day when I was in Catholic school and I was forced to go to mass, I would yawn all the time. I don't know. I always thought it was maybe the incense that they had, maybe it was something going on in my brain. I don't know, but I would yawn a lot. I've yawning right now. Good lord. That was a doozy. Sorry for the silence of me yawning here, but I've even yawned through interviews. I don't know if I don't know what it is. I don't know if my brain's like gasping for air. I've heard that before as well. And then a yawn is like a an attempt to like oxygenate your brain. I don't remember who told me that one, but I've heard that somewhere along the lines. I don't know, goofy stuff like that, goofy, goofy things. But acceptance, you know, within my practice of of fields mind body therapies, you know, I I wanted to create a space where people feel accepted. Even when I work with clients online, you know, I you know, sometimes people will come to me and they'll be like just so so uptight or so distraught about something that they're experiencing. And, you know, I I I want to be able to accept them for who they are, and I as well in turn want them to accept me for who I am. So that's why I I try to really keep an open mind about who comes into my realms and who I work on. The work that I do within craniocycral therapy and somatoemotional release is so fascinating because there is this level of like non-judgment and being accepting and being open to receiving and open to listening to the body intently. And something that I really enjoy about doing that is you know, I bring those clients to the here and the now. Oftentimes we are just overstressing about everything, and we are running around like little gremlins with you know all this story work in our heads. And when I work on a client one-on-one in my practice, they really come back into their body and they really sink down into their tissues. You know, I'm starting to have clients be more aware of where I'm working and how I'm working. Some people will they'll get on the table and everybody's different, you know, every single body is unique. Some people, when they come in, you know, they might be sleeping in five minutes. You know, other people they might be like on the fringe of awake and sleep, you know, in kind of that hypnagogic state, you know, in between rest and sleep, or I'm sorry, in between sleep and awake, you know, is this like a dream space. And a lot of clients dwell within that dream space within this work because it's such a beautiful liminal space. It's kind of like you're you're floating in in dreams, maybe that moment right before a person can astral project, or who knows? When I was a kid, I used to get into astral projection. I watched this show, it was kind of like X-Files for Kids. Maybe some of you maybe remember it, uh, but it's called So Weird. And it followed this girl and her family. Her mom was a famous musician and she toured the country. And the girl in the show, Fiona was her name, she would encounter all these supernatural instances, various things. And it was a good show, but it was kind of like X-Files for Kids in a way through Disney Channel, and I really enjoyed it. A lot of the episodes taught me about things that I've been curious about, like when I was like a a little toddler chop and a little little bipity bop, and but but it touched on things like that. So it touched on like astral projection and ghosts and banshees. I remember an episode where Molly went to go visit her her father who was passing away, and he lived in old Ireland. He was this old kind of tough, grumpy guy with her, but like he showed his his love in a different way. And I don't know, there's this whole thing about a banshee, and Fiona was like bargain bargaining with this banshee uh for her grandfather's life, and it was just this really emotional, interesting episode, but it was it was a good one. But anyway, this awesome show highlighted a lot of these cool things. So I really dove into a lot of that stuff when I was a younger chap, and I think that's what made me, you know, go on this exploration, this this whole trajectory of exploring both my inner realms and outer realms, and you know, doing a lot of I don't know, my own self-experimentation into the world of mind-body therapies, right? And learning, you know, how how people are how they are, really. I'm I'm kind of an observer of the human condition, and I really enjoy meeting new people and and feeling feeling out their vibes, if that makes sense. I don't know. I'm a vibe feeler. But yeah, and and there's always a realm of acceptance around that as well. Crazy. You know, when when I sit when I sit down here, I I just sat down, I I got some new new equipment today that I'm pretty stoked about, and I've created a little little bit of a podcast studio in here. And I I want to take this seriously, you know. I I want to really get my voice out there. And you know, as I sit here thinking about it, you know, taking a moment to really think about acceptance. And like I s I briefly said, you know, I I I have a hard time accepting myself, I think, in this space. Goodness! How many does that make now? Is that ten? I don't know. I lost count. Count of my yawns. But sometimes I have a hard time accepting myself in this space. Not not where I live, like like you know, I I I live by myself and I have my own my own walls here that protect me and accept me, but I guess there is maybe a point where you just kind of spend a lot of time by yourself and thinking inside your own head that you know maybe somebody else doesn't accept you. And you know, I've I've talked a little bit about how I I feel like I just have a totally different type of mentality around here, you know, or maybe I haven't found my my tribe to vibe with, and I don't know. It's it's odd being like a touch therapist, you know, and then having a desire to like be around more people and hang out with more people and like be, you know, in response to the things that people, you know, somebody might be like, hey Joel, I'm going to this crazy sound bath tonight. Like, do you want to come? You know, I might be like, Yeah, that sounds amazing. You know, I I love I love doing stuff like that, but it's just where I'm at currently, you know, it's kind of a really, really big struggle to find people who are into those kind of things and find people who would even think to be like, yeah, bro, like let me invite you out, you know, and then I can respond to that for my generator style, you know, through a sacral authority. I can be like, yes, that feels good in my guts, let's go. Or no, I don't want to get weird with a bunch of strangers listening to gongs. Although, I'll say, I went to the best sound bath at the beginning of the year, and it's it's crazy how much my mentality has changed. You know, here we are sitting in April, mid to late April, that you know, like my mentality from now, from the end of the beginning of the year, has completely shifted. I feel I feel like I've maybe done a couple different quantum leaps somehow, entered a new trajectory. I don't know if it's the state of the consciousness, the the entire continent or globe, even, or what it may be. But I definitely feel like there's been some shifts. And even opening up and like finally being like, you know, I'm gonna take a step to put forward my voice and be vulnerable in a podcast that goes around the world, you know, that takes some guts to be accepted on that level. I don't know. You know, we're all we're all just ants, you know, part of the part of the ant hill, part of the colony, just trying to all figure it out. And in today's world, you know, of uncertainty and chaos, it's it's good to good to remind yourselves of the things that do truly make us human, you know, like somebody just wanting to fit in, you know, it might be the end of society or civilization, but there's still a desire to connect with humans, you know. I think that's cool. And I don't think that should be, you know, I don't know. I I I think there's really something to that for people to want to connect, even when you know things are crazy. You know, I live in the United States and I've grown up here, you know, it's it's lovely in the United States. I live in Ohio, I've predominantly lived in Ohio, and while it hasn't generally been a bad state, this past year, you know, even the past several months really, Ohio has seen some weird things. You know, we got Yetis, we have meteors, we have, you know, kind of an uprising of humanity. A lot of people are just sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, and they're rising up. You know, I I definitely feel that. But even even in Ohio, you know, the the democracy has been taken away with changing cannabis laws and taking away the will of the people. There's a lot of a push towards a more standardized medical model, and they're doing away with a lot of like wellness practitioners and help holistic people, functional medicine people. It's it's really like they're trying to change the laws to restrict a lot of that because they want to maintain that modicum of control, and it's icky. It's it's not that sweet, sticky, icky, it's the it's that other kind that's that's not so great, you know. And people feel it, you know, schools feel it. My gosh, you know, in in my little rural community, one thing that kind of makes me sad to see is a lot of people do not get behind, you know, funding the schools. You know, I just saw this big thing coming out where where there's this proposed levy to raise more money, and all these people online are like, oh, the the schools get enough money, da da da da da da. You know, no, like like wake up and pay attention, you know, put down your cornmeal for a little bit and focus, farmer John. You know, that's that's the things that are happening, you know. Like, I don't know. I I I just I I worry a lot that our world is slowly becoming the comedy film idiocracy, you know. If you've seen that, you you should have a little cause of concern, you know, because because that's tricky, right? But here I am trying to talk about acceptance and trying to keep on a topic. And, you know, I'm talking about idiocracy, so maybe we should just accept that our world's in chaos right now and let that chaos blow through. Maybe that's part of the transformation that we're here for, right? There's a lot of things that are falling right now. Society is kind of through collapse right now, you know, and it kind of should be. You know, I think back sometimes and it's like, how did we ever have a renaissance, you know? The both the industrial renaissance, the artistic renaissance, and all the good stuff, any renaissance, really. It's kind of time for another renaissance, in a way. You know, we have this whole patriarchal system that's just pretty gross and pretty darn corrupt. You know, you can see all these politicians that own insurance companies, that own doctor's offices, that own pharmacies, that own everything. And it's just like this this giant machine of control, you know, and it breathes down so hard on our necks and our shoulders, and it affects our families and our loved ones. It makes us wonder if we can accept each other or not, because you know, there's this big cog that's like, no, you are alone, you are just the slaves to me, you know. I don't know, this giant corporate wheel of disgust, you know. And if you're maybe like me, like maybe you feel it in your bones. Maybe you wake up thinking about it and you're like, oh goodness, right? But it's not something I guess to get like too distraught over or too upset about. You know, we still do have air. It might be a little dirty, but it's still breathable right now, right? You know, maybe you have all of your fingers, you have all of your toes, you can stand up, you can sit down, you can go to the restroom or do whatever. You know what I mean? Like human stuff. You know, there's so much that we do take it for granted, even though the world is falling apart. So I guess maybe just accept what we can, and then what is out of our control, we just kind of gotta let it go. You know, right now we're in that stage of rebirth where we just had this new moon in Aries at the time of this recording, and you know, there's this new this new energy of excitement. I mean, as an Aries son, I can I can totally feel it. And I'm I'm like ready to run with things that have been festering in my mind for so long. And you know, I I you can make all the plans that you want, you can envision all the stuff that you want, but if you do not light that fire and move forward into action, it's just not gonna get done, right? And maybe this is a little bit of a pep talk to myself, but maybe somebody out there is gonna be like, Yes, bro, I get you, I get you, you know, and maybe they're tired of eating cornflakes, maybe they're tired of eating Taco Bell, maybe they're tired of just sitting around feeling like, you know, whatever. Feeling like oh, whatever, you know, just a homie in the night, chilling, listening to bedtime stories. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know where I was going with that. But anyway, guys, this is this is another episode here. We're wrapping it up, and I'm so glad that you guys can join. And I'm so glad that for anyone who's like listening to this, anybody who's like, oh yeah, bro, go go with your fire, you know, go go do your your thing, put that voice out there, you know, and thanks for maybe sticking with me. I I tried to stick on a topic of acceptance, it's probably not done. We're probably gonna cook on it again, but yeah, that's just something I want to talk about today, right? Feeling accepted in like a small town, and I don't know, I just don't want to be an outcast anymore, even though I'm trying to accept becoming an outcast and being an outcast. I mean, shoot, I'm the wizard north of town, right? People come to me for mind body healing, it's magical work, you know. So if you guys are interested, feelsmindbody.com. And if not, check me out next time on Wizard of Wonder. Take care later.