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SPEAKER_00

So while we're pause while we were gonna come to a pause, but hey, Maria's coming through. We're gonna look into like the the stats. The stats of it right now, like lifetime in your face, like there's no disputing it. So we're gonna see what the the the a the age in the United States for marriage. I just found that out. I just found that out and it's it's really this like this really sad. In most in most United States, marriage without parental consent is 18. However, almost all states allow exceptions for minors um with parental consent or court approval. A few states such as California have no minimum age for marriage if parental and court permissions are obtained. You don't even need a court court permissions, no minimum marriage. So that means they could get married. There's no like so if you want to marry at like nine years old, you can marry. Like if your parents say that's kind of like concerning for there's some religions that are like, hey, let me marry you off or whatnot, you know? So it's a little sad. It says um 18 is the standard age in most states because that's when you're an adult. Exceptions in Nebraska 19 and Mississippi 21. Hey, that's nice. Um, with parent parental court consent, many states allow minors, commonly 16 to 17, sometimes younger, to marry with both parent and court approval. I don't I believe that's probably lower. Um minimum age no minimum age states, uh several states, including California, Mississippi, and others, lack a minimum age relying instead of on uh judicial discretion. Ban child marriages. Some states have enacted a total ban on marriage under 18, including New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and Delaware. Uh every state is different. So I mean, like, why don't you Google how many what states are no no no age limit? That's what states don't have a um as early as tw uh 2026, 17 U.S. states have banned child marriage entirely. 17, how many states we have like a whole bunch, right? Um setting the minimum marriage at 18 with no exceptions for parental consent or court approval. These states are Connecticut, Delaware, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Michigan, Missouri, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, and recently Hawaii. So that's with um that's with the age 18. With no, like you know, you're an adult, you don't have to have permission, of course. But the other states, no exception states, is anyone under 18 cannot legally get married, even with parental consent. Previous bans, Delaware and New Jersey were the first to ban child marriage. That's you hear that in 2018 were the first states to ban child marriage. That's fucking alarming. 2018, that was like like not even 10 years ago. That was eight years ago only that they banned child marriage. So it's like it's like okay for that, I guess. Other jurisdictions, Washington, DC, America, Samoa, and the US Virgin Islands and Puerto Rico have also enacted similar bans. Barely, huh? Remaining states in the remaining 33 states, child marriage is still permitted, it is allowed, and you can still marry, often with parental consent and or judges' approval, though many have minimum age floors. Uh underage marriage trends, despite the bans early 300 nearly 315,000 miles minors were married in the US between 20 2000 and 2021. So 315,000, 315,000 minors were married in the US between 200 uh 2000 and 2021. That's kind of really bad. So, like that means like all these kids are getting married? Like, why? Like, how? But that means like they're marrying an adult. But you should Google, do they have to marry another child or is it to an adult? I wonder what I'll tell you. Married is married to anybody. Like Yeah, they shouldn't be marrying. I mean, I think that when your children, like okay, okay, okay. Like, are they marrying like another child or they're marrying adults? Um, where like um in the United States, the children that are under the uh uh the underage children that are marrying are they marrying other underage children or are they marrying adults? Yeah, underage uh other underage children or to adults. What's the stats? Let's see if it's gonna tell the truth about it though. We might have to ask like a AI. So between 2000 and 2021, over 314,000 children were legally married in the United States, typically driven by exceptions to the 18-year-old minimum age limit. Yeah, right. Around 86% of these minors were girls married to adult men with an average of age group of four years, data shows marriage child child marriage is persistent issue with over a persistent issue with over 60,000 cases involving age differences that would otherwise constitute statutory rape. What the fuck? That's like saying, like, so uh 60,000 of those cases were with uh that they should have been statutory rape, but since they're not, they're like, oh, let's just marry them off. Go ahead. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01

I know a girl that she would marry the guy. 27, she was never a problem. How to and uh 27 or 14? The problem came when they have to sign the birth to oh, because then that's when they they wanted to know the father's age, right?

SPEAKER_00

Which is worse because then they have information. Uh yeah. I mean, either way, that's child that's that's that's fucking that is predatory.

SPEAKER_01

Like like literally telling them don't sign it, but we're just keeping it go. Yeah, let me just cover up your tribe. Cover your tribe. There was a the was a a man who came up and it it it turned out to be daughter. Oh, wasn't that the actor?

SPEAKER_00

There there's it was all over the room. There's like a lot it happens all the time, I think. Not all the time, but often. There was an actor that did that shit too, like she raised his daughter, and then when she got older, it's weird. There's so many other fishes in the sea, that means they groomed them the whole time.

SPEAKER_01

That is just a mental your brain is telling you that it's okay to grab your hand and things to your your own blood, your own DNA.

SPEAKER_00

Any child. But I wonder where that person met that that 27-year-old. I wonder where they met. Like, or where did he predatorize on her first one? Was it from school? Was it in the neighbors? I think it's because I'm in the home. That's most predators. They they they go after the ones that like dysfunctional families or uh or single parent families because the single parent has to work a lot and working, and that you know, they they target especially target mothers that are single parents. Well, um de definitely because they're vulnerable, they're gonna pry upon their on their you know, the on their mental vulnerability state, you know, especially having children, they're gonna be like a hero and be this rescue, and and little do they know things can go wrong. And a lot of times the mother could be working, not even realize there's a problem because she's providing for that family.

SPEAKER_01

Always advise anybody that you know leaving their libraries. I I I'm against that. Always have a kid member, like this is this forever, this marriage, and a lot of things they see it like let me try it. We'll see what happens. No marriage is thinking that you have and like it's a big thing, you know? It's your fear, your whole it's not something that you try out of gym membership. These people then men.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I mean there's there's a lot of women who are beating on their kids' step, you know, step kids too. You know, like the same thing is or what if it's the parent the the father is a predator, and then it's like and then it's like then then what? You know what I mean? So it's like sometimes you might have to leave the you know, that's why I always say know who the fuck you're laying down with. Try at least, but a lot of times you don't know who it is until you live with that person, and then you realize that you don't know you who should be. You know, and sometimes it could take years to show you, but like, so you really don't know who the fuck you're laying down with, but at least make sure they could afford a date with you, because then they could hopefully afford the diapers. You know what I mean? Like, like honestly, that's why I'm like like go on dates, go see if what they can handle, go see how they if they slurp or slap, it's like you know, like you don't like you know things that once you want to slap their asses for, like so you know, like like see if you want to deal with that. Because if you're gonna if you have a fuck around and find out have a baby, accident or no accident, like you want to make sure you could deal with the f like the person that you're gonna have a baby with, at least so you don't have to go through those problems. So, like you said, like stay with your the the father if you can, like stay with the mother if you can. You make it work, work it out because it's it's better.

SPEAKER_01

Family is so important.

SPEAKER_00

Gender roles matter, or like mothers and fathers, even if it's the mother, a woman that's a father, or a male that's a mother, it's still important to have those rules, roles to implement to show your children stability. It's you know, I I believe it's a very it's way more important, life-changing. What what doing their own thing then when it comes to? Oh, they tell me all the time leave me I'm annoying and shit. Yeah, you see, like but it's like it's like so what? Like I'll be like I'm annoying and I know I'm annoying. Like I know, I know I'd be annoyed as fuck if my mom did that shit to me. But it's like, hey guys, like it's it sucks. Like I like I I I miss them when they're out, you know, out of the house and and and like thing Lord that they still live with like um but there you know there's times that they they didn't, you know, and like I was a mess. And and it's not that I'm I'm not I trust in them, but I'm scared for the because the world is so evil and cruel. Yeah, and I didn't raise them to be aware of the cruel world because I didn't really know the cruel world to say, like all the way. We can't warn them about everything. We don't even know what's like all the bad we don't even fucking know. We have a good we have a good idea, but you s but there's so much evil that you don't know. My kids like I went into full detail. They say that I won't. I believe it's the right I think it's the right way to go because no, I mean I'm I honestly feel like if you can sit there and explain things to children, say this is look what happens, this do what you don't do. I didn't have my child, my kids, then they're gonna be like, all right, I know what not to do. Hopefully, if they're smart, they'll be like, Alright, we've seen like let us be the sacrifice for them. Let that let us be like the the one if something didn't go wrong, I'd rather go wrong with me than with my kids because they're not they're not kids aren't built to last. They're not not like that last, but they're not made the same way. They're not tough, they're like little like pansies, but little crybabies and shit. They can't get their feelings hurt, like everything upsets them. And so they weren't made to like they weren't made tough. You know what I mean? Like we were made tough, like we fall and get hurt. You know, and so and there wasn't like allergies to like like peanut butter and like and stuff like that. You know, they're it they're just made differently, like like kids, and and it's okay, everybody's different. Just like there's a reason why we got spanked, most of us got spanked, because we got disciplined and look at the respect versus the kids nowadays. I didn't sp I barely hate my kids, like a br like, and that's the thing because I was explaining to them this what you don't do, what you do, and it's a good thing. I feel like that's the best thing to do. That's how you should raise your children.

SPEAKER_01

I never you turn off the respect is not the same. I had them, and I said, I will never be like that.

SPEAKER_00

Wait, I mean it just you consider that abuse, or you think that's discipline? Discipline means to teach.

SPEAKER_01

Well, there's a limit to everything. Discipline has a whole different level, and but people wanna be weak and call it enough. It's really think bad people. I'm not condoning it, I'm not saying that it's okay to any kid. I'm against abuse. You're against okay. We're against it. We we're not uh I'm not promoting abuse. We're we're saying discipline. But then some kids will be sneaky and turn it into like abuse, they'll flip it.

SPEAKER_00

It's a manipulative thing so they they can't get away with it. Because if somebody's gonna be like, oh my gosh, child, oh, and entertain it. Where it's like you little mu like you little motherfucker almost burnt my fucking house down type shit. You're gonna get fucking popped upside your motherfucking ass because you did on purpose. That's why I tell you not to do that. Versus like going, oh my gosh, poor child. No, if the little motherfucker's being bad, you gotta discipline them. You can't be like, don't don't don't touch the fire. No, smack the don't be touching the motherfucking fire. Show the importance in how it's important. You can't be like, oh, and those are little, like, you know, that's the difference. And and then it's it's condoning fucking little bad behavior. And then on top of it, this amount of safety, the priority of safety, like, yo, don't run across the street, Timmy. Don't be fucking running across your fucking ass. You know what I mean? Like, don't be where the hell are you going? Like, you better look both ways. And so that urgency is like to some parents, they'll be like, Oh, it's like that's why your kids are a little little dumbass, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Like, I'm not saying all of our all kids are dumbasses because that we all live and learn, but we were there, we were not we were there, but you know, um, like it sounds and everybody's gonna see their own way and nobody think, you know, it you can't you can't say words that are gonna No, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Everybody's there's always gonna be one person unhappy or one like other way, it's it's not your job to make everybody happy. It's their own person that needs to make their own self happy. And happiness is is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Peace naturally will come with God. Happiness is a choice because you don't have to be unhappy, you have to be happy. And temper and material things are temporary, but at the end of the day, you either let things bother you or you don't. You either let them pass or you don't. You either let them roll on or you hold on tight to them because you you need something to release or whatever coping mechanism, it could be all kinds of things. But one thing that doesn't change is kids leaving our house, kids leaving the house, kids growing up to be their own people, kids growing up to be their own adults, whether we agree with the or not, whether we're prepared or not. They're like these kids are ready to go out the womb. They're like, hey, I'm leaving. Like they're gone. And it's like, why? Why? Why? And then it's like, and then they want to make problems with you so that they don't have to talk to you or like be independent. They want to be independent. You could be independent, but don't be fucking with me and starting problems with me. You don't gotta be against me to be to feel like you're justified for being independent. And that's where a lot of that goes wrong, because these kids like feel like they need to have reason. It's like, no, because you feel bad that you're not being a good child by keeping up with your mom or your dad. So you want to make a problem so like you're cool or something. You know, go suck a toenail.

SPEAKER_01

And they get too comfortable because a mother, a mother, and a father. I mean we we are like mom and dad. Yeah, we're both two and one. Whatever.

SPEAKER_00

There's no there's no respect in anything in our mom. Why do you think so? Because they're not getting spanked. They're not they're not being dis okay. Let's let's be honest, okay? Our the generations before the these new ones, like, they're not, they're like, not only they've been raised by computers, but they're being raised by TVs, computers, and they're not being disciplined. Their parents, our younger parents that have been spanked, that have been disciplined, and we're like, we're not gonna hit our kids because we got our ass kicked. But we got lear we learned respect and and we learned how to be polite and manners. If I get in trouble, I'll be like, please don't call my mom. Call the police, don't call my mom. Please. The kids are like, call my mama, like please, because they don't give a damn. Like they're like, shit, and so because we didn't spank them. You do you agree? In school, they even encourage yell at you, the you two not know what they do. Yeah, they're yeah, exactly. And not even just that, but it's like they need to be yelled at, and sometimes I'm not saying like yeah, dick, dick, that no, it's like it's like again with the urgency, or just like everybody is human, and so yeah, the schools do uh actually really like make monsters out of these little motherfuckers. They're like they can like they're like, if there's something wrong, tell like like kids, like you're gonna just get child trafficked with these fucking services and shit. They just want you to turn yourself in, turn your mom in so they have to pay fines so that they can make a fucking diamond penny off of you, which is fucked up. So these and then they're and then they're over there being abused in like some type of home or something. And I'm not saying all homes are like that because I was adopted and I had a good one, but I'm just saying, like, it's it could be a bad situation because like they want to cry over some shit because they listen to their stupid ass teacher that doesn't give a fuck about them at the end of the day. And teachers, we love teachers. I have a good cousin, I have a sister that teachers, they're lovely, they're good great teachers. So I mean a lot of teachers love and take care of their kids, you know. But other ones, they're just like, Why are you causing problems?

SPEAKER_01

When the I mean, you know, even if you are you don't say that, you don't say those things. Even if you're doing bad, you're you're not God, you come in and just point the finger like you're gonna love.

SPEAKER_00

That was uh parents back then too. They they would be like, You ain't gonna be shit. You're not gonna be this, like, not be like, hey, you could do anything you wanna do, go get them.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00

They're like, that was again because that's what they learned, and that's what they learned, and that's what and then to learn and they learn to spank us, to discipline us, regardless if they call it a child abuse or not. Like, I'm glad I got my ass kicked when I was little. And I would like not I wasn't happy at the time, of course. I was like really bitter and salty sometimes, where I'll like, but my mom would smack me for saying I'm thinking something that I wasn't even thinking, you know? Like, like, don't even be thinking that, like, what the hell? Like, I didn't even think that now, but now next time I'm gonna be thinking that I should be thinking that because I'm gonna get slapped upside my head for shit. I didn't even it didn't even cross my head. And then it would or like, if you're gonna look at me, your eyes are gonna get stuck like that. You better watch how you look at people. I wouldn't be looking at nobody crazy. I'll be like, damn, I'm gonna get hit upside my head, my eyes are gonna get stuck the way that they're saying I'm looking at it, and I'm like, and then I'm gonna be looking all funny.

SPEAKER_01

I'm gonna throw up you before deep down inside when she did that, did was she doing a good thing, or it was bad though?

SPEAKER_00

I mean, at the moment I was like not happy. I mean, it it was a good thing because it made me go, this is what you don't do, and this is what you do. But at the time, I was like, forget her. I'm just getting I'm just I'm just getting smacked for nothing. I didn't even think that. And I didn't it didn't cross my mind so many times I didn't I got smacked and I didn't even think that, or I didn't Is this anger that grows in you? Security is the anger that I was like, I'm running away. Like, you know what I mean? Like I'm not taking this, I'm leaving, you know what I mean? Like, and it wasn't even that big, and I and I'm dumb. Just shows that like like my mom should have beaten me a little bit more. You know what I mean? Maybe I would have fucking got through my thick ass head that like I needed to learn authority, like how to accept authority. You know what I mean? I had all kinds of issues, like everybody does, but like if but when you have a parent that doesn't understand, it's a little bit harder when they when you don't have communication, when you can't talk to them, when you when it just like get hit, like they don't even ask you how your day is. You know what I mean? Like, like that was just but then you have to think that's what they learned. And they didn't teach how to handle it because they didn't know how to handle it.

SPEAKER_01

Period. Expect what they didn't have, can't expect your parents to give you thinking that they they have something worse than what they're gonna the way they beat you is nothing compared to how they got beat. That's true. The life they lived is not compared to speak at like girl, you gave me freaking chills.

SPEAKER_00

That's so true, and it's true. And that's what I'm saying. Like they like they if they if we don't know, we don't want we don't know. That's why it's always good like like like when they go to people's houses, like because you don't know how good it is or how bad you have it, type shit, until you fuck around and go to somebody else's house, and then you're like, damn, y'all ain't got no Kool-Aid.

SPEAKER_01

How come she don't hug me?

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and a lot of parents back then didn't know affection because they weren't taught affection because they didn't have affection.

SPEAKER_01

Get away.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I I mean, I mean, like, I I have to teach myself. I mean, it's just one of those things like you're not used to hug because that was the that was part of their like I'm going to work, I'm gonna go slave it, like I like go work it. I don't got time to be asking, you just know that you better get your ass inside by the time the streetlights come on and have your shit done and have your homework done and have everything done and take your like handle it. Like we're like little adults in a sense at a young age, but we're children, but we were responsible and we could play outside and and be kids. She has to hit you learn that. For sure. Didn't you have to get hit to learn that? Yeah. I mean, but really, like, did we really need to get hit to learn? Obviously, because look at these little turds now. Like, it's like go play outside, huh? Let's go play, let's go ask those people if they want to play a game. What? Why? They don't want to be bothered. Why? What if they do want to be bothered? What if they do want to play? Like, let's go play, like, and it's like they're like the kids nowadays are lames, they're losers.

SPEAKER_01

They grow up to high school, here take this drug, and they're they're like, what is my mom gonna say? I'm scared of my mom. No, I don't want to. But then if you have a cool mom that's you know, you're gonna like Well, I mean, you know what?

SPEAKER_00

That's another thing. Dare, dare program. I learned from the dare program. I was like, I do not want my brain to be sizzling like that, like those eggs. Straight up. Like, like, like, like this is your brain on drugs. Yeah, but like, but I mean it, but like it did teach me about what happens with hair on. Yeah, I learned about hair on. Like, I was like, I don't never want to do hair on because I don't want my butt my body to have like violent cakes and fucking not be able to control it and have pain. Why would I want to do some shit that my body's gonna be suffering after the fact? And then like I learned about that. Like I always remember so it taught me like the about the drugs because then I was like, oh, I don't want that. Nowadays the kids don't know shit of what drugs you do them. They don't know anything. And it's like, why don't they have dare? Like, because they want them to all get like caught up in some shit and die. Like, think about it. Like, like they and now, especially nowadays with all the shit that's the fentanyl that's in shit. Like, they're not teaching these little turds, like, hey, this is what fentanyl looks like, this is what it could pass like, this is what it could be like. The I there's gonna be people who try drugs, okay, but at least know what the fuck you're like looking at and know at the effects of it. They don't even teach them that shit.

SPEAKER_01

They didn't their area of South Central. I think that they would do like more if their their problem was really needed. They would ask us, oh, what's those drugs in your family? And everybody's like, Meh meh meh. You know, because we you wanted the sticker, you wanted whatever. So they're turning these kids into snakes. I'm serious, this is a real, real report. I didn't know. I didn't know what drugs did to you. I never knew. I never saw, I never heard. What I did hear is the cop saying I was on PCP. The the the cop hit him, like literally the the car hit the guy. The guy flipped in the air and got up and started running. And I always thought, like, oh that was a hero or something. Fuck yeah. Like, you know, and that's the only thing we heard over there.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, I mean, that's like I mean, I I literally is a dare officer, uh, police officer that goes, like, I don't like they're like deputy no badge, and like the dare officer told on me because I fell off the bleachers on my dare graduation because I was drinking. Yeah, I mean you're C C E? Yes, like I was like, and we got some vodka in our bottles, and we're like, ha ha ha, we're just bad little motherfuckers because we're like, we're gonna graduate the fifth grade, they're drunk. You dan, you down, we're down, and we got all of our shit from our mom's cabinets and shit, and we had like stupid palm malls, fucking cigarettes, thinking we're cool. Fifth grade, and then we fucking were drunk drinking vodka, and the dare officer ratted on us to our parents. They he couldn't wait till he to see our parents to be like, oh, you never show up to parent conferences, you're here now. I'm tattleting on you, bitches. And we all got total told on, and I remember like being smacked, and I was like, mom, like he's lying. He's like obviously he's the cop. Like, she's like, she's like, like, you don't smell your breath. I'm like, no, I'm a dumbass little motherfucker, like you know, yeah. This is the rawest podcast you're ever, ever gonna hear. I'm serious. Fell out the bleachers and my and I was like cracking up because you know, I was a I was a one of the taller girls. We had to be in the back, but uh we like I we took each other down, boop, and they're like, hee hee hee it was a big commotion. But my mom was like, This little bitch, like you know what I mean? Like, she was so mad at me, like, how hell embarrassing are you that you're gonna go get fucking drunk off my liquor and I can't be drunk, and you're over there fucking thinking you're funny and thinking you're huge. What a fucking I was rebel. I was like, fuck this, like fuck this dare officer. I at least I Learned, but I was like, I was like, fuck this guy, huh? He thinks he knows everything. Let's see if he can't do this. And he did, he did, and he titled titled. I'm gonna ask Kate for that. So I mean, but I graduated.

SPEAKER_01

That's right, that's right.

SPEAKER_00

This guy's still gonna Yeah, but I mean, like, but uh easy, even if they have that, at least they would be informed on what you're gonna get yourself into if it happens, or like because they manufactured most of those drugs, they are the ones who brought it into the streets or whatever, and you know, but they should be telling the truth about them. Ass is good for the brain. Ass is good for the brain, PCP opens up your pineal gland. You know what I mean? Like, like like like marijuana is not the gateway to other drugs, marijuana is a medicine and it helps for different things, you know. Uh any prescription drugs will lead you to can lead you to heroin because if you like prescription downers, like if I could it and narco narco narcos, then guess what? You'll like heroin. That's not good. Like, so don't be taking and then if you're taking pills, if they're not coming from your own prescription, chances of you getting some fentanyl and dying, highly. It's fucked up. You know what I mean? Like it's fucked up. Like, like, like cocaine's not the same. You're not gonna get fish scales, you're gonna get like a fucking stuffy nose for nothing. You know, nause burns your fucking brain cells out, like you're gonna be a fucking dumbass dodo, like da da du, you know how to help anybody and just leave the car on things, yeah. You know, right? Fucking sucking, and it's stupid because it's like, why are you fucking sucking on fucking some air from as you can for what? I'm like, what do you get out of that? Just by burning your air, like your brain cells, dumbness, you know. They you know, and then there's like the lean that they sell like legal, everything they sell legally, you know, Kratum, which is a new thing that's in the smoke shops that are it's like legal hair on and it gets people addicted. Kratom Kratom K-R-A-T-O-M is fucked up. It's like it's legal hair on and it fucking addicts you. Yeah, it's in most smoke shops. They have legal lean now in smoke shops where like they say it's like legal, it's pink and it could be plushy. Like that shit be like sleep sleep medicine. If you ever need to go sleep, that's what it is. You know what I mean? Like, like they're they have some good shrooms, are good, it helps you with m mother nature, but acid's better because shrooms is like a microdose. Well, for me, it's micro-dosing, but shrooms is good. Like a hallucinogen, there's like if you anything, it could be good if you use it for the right intention. Period. Nicotine, like what'd you say about nicotine earlier? It heals all kinds of things, right?

SPEAKER_01

It it cleans it, it's a spiritual use for for cleansing the area. Let's say there's a lot of bad aura, a lot of bad everybody knows that there's certainly where there's been a lot of this or things have happened. Like, stop and think, you don't even hating in magical stuff, right? Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00

Spiritual and magical, yeah.

SPEAKER_01

There was there was an entity that are there that have some kind of energy, and then they die. And something has to be.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, but still. But nicotine, literally, like scientifically proven, has it will can help with certain like um like Alzheimer's or Alzheimer's. There's like certain a couple different things that that is proven that nicotine is a helper and or a healer of different things. So, I mean, it's it's it's but it's you know, it's used against us. So everything, right? We never want you to be okay. Not in America, they're like die, die, die. Like they're like, die from your water, die from your fucking air, die from our food. Cancer, cancer, cancer. Yeah, like Doritos is cool. They came out with some like dye free shit. Like, so it's like naked, so it's like all the same chips, but like not with all the poisons. It's like, hmm, why didn't you do this a long time ago?

SPEAKER_01

Another poison.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, I was gonna say, I was gonna say that. Try this one, yeah. This one, it just tastes the same because the same poisons that are in there. We were just saying it was the dyes that were making it, like, you know, poisonous, but yet you're still eating all the shit that other countries banned. And it's like, thanks, we love them. Fucked up. At least don't poison our waters. At least, at least give us a fighting chance. Oh, and don't grow your own seeds or don't grow your own fruits and vegetables. They don't want you growing your own your own food. They don't even want you making your own shit from 3D makers. You're like, so they want you to become dependent on them. And then and then and then what are you gonna do? Like, have what what are you gonna do with yourself? Like just talk to like your plant, like Wilson almost?

SPEAKER_01

Everything is is is around for everything, media, everything, everything. And people that's what it is.

SPEAKER_00

They want you to tell all your business to on in the air so that they know that they don't got to do no research no more. If they want the police want to find out anything, they're just like, let me just go on this person that knows this person's like everybody's tablet, they're not making investigation work hard at all, okay? They're like, they're like, here, this is where I go every day, this is how long I stay there, here's how many steps I take when I'm there. And it's like, what the fudge are is wrong with you guys? Why are that's how it people have been caught cheating, by the way, by the little walking camera thing.

SPEAKER_01

Here's my kids, look the little ones.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, this is how they're growing, this is how they look, this is this is their friend. You're gonna find a video, so yeah, I'm like, yeah, yeah, and with AI nowadays, they could they could do any video or anything with some people are fucking weird. You never know if they could be looking at you with some glasses, and then they're looking, they're like reading your whole profile with some glasses. That's creepy, it's n it's weird, but it's like why? Because they want to fucking they want you to hang yourself and like so they don't have to do no work. So if they need to ever look for you, they already know where to find you because your dumb ass fucking told them everything. And I'm not saying, hey, be paranoid. No, actually, we're against big brother type thing, and like there's a lot of surveillance, and I'm sorry, but I don't want my face to be known and or surveillance because why? Why the fuck do you want to know who the fuck I am or what what I'm doing? Like, why does my movements have anything to do with you type shit? Like, you know, like like how I wipe my ass, which I wipe from the front to the back, I do it on my own time. I don't need somebody knowing when I do, how I do, whatever I do. You know, and with the the uh the motion sensors and the Wi-Fi and being able to see in your house and scan your shit. Like, why what's wrong with you guys? Why would you wanna see what's the fuck's in what other people are doing? That's weird. People are weird in their households, they're weird outside, but they're even weirder inside. I don't want to see somebody fucking picking for dingleberries. Or like, or like people be doing some nasty shit. Like, especially when they're bored and lonely. Imagine if they're like 80 years old, fucking man, you could you could just fill in the blank right there. There's so many things that you could do and say, and hopefully they're at 80 years old, they're not doing some nasty shit.

SPEAKER_01

Even young ones. When the internet came came, it just made a whole different layer of mold and it it's place is wrong. It's no dignity, there's no morals, there's no value in family, there's no value in anything.

SPEAKER_00

But as long as we value ourselves, as long as we do it for ourselves, because you know, because how we feel about ourselves is gonna reflect. Like, and if people they don't have to like you, they need to respect you. You know, and then like when people don't respect people, that's when the people need to be said something say something, say something, or I mean like that's but also that's when people have a reflex, a natural reflex, like pop, you know what I mean? Like it's really bad. People shouldn't hit uh we don't say it hit people, no butts about it. I was about to say, but smack the shit out of a dumb person. No, but I mean like it's sometimes it is needed. Like it is like some people it is because they can't be doing those things because if somebody doesn't do something about it, sometimes they're gonna fucking feel that they can keep on doing whatever, however, whenever and to whoever. And then it's like for other people who cannot stand up for people or stand up for themselves, pobre. Like, why? You gotta like start sending because if if you don't, somebody else will and like and and and if you wouldn't like it, don't do it to somebody else. You know? Or the person's not gonna get through everything just yep, and hopefully you're not the last person who does it to him, because like they could be like, This might be the first time you did some shit to me, but fuck you and fuck the bitch you wrote in on, and you're like, what the fuck? I just breathed. Like like like like I just I just said hello and you're like bra taking my and it's like you know, it could you never know people's trauma. You know, and you never know, you never know, like and you never know like how people are gonna react or what the fuck battle they're going on in their head. Because some people are going on with some real some real situation.

SPEAKER_01

Mental illness is so real people that have that in in so many different categories and so many different ways, and there's not I mean you can't just name one woman out of the There's so many sickos, I mean psychos.

SPEAKER_00

I mean there's so many of everything, but I mean mental illness is a real is a real thing and real mental illness, not like a cop out mental, not one that's like, oh, I'm just gonna act crazy so I can collect some money.

SPEAKER_01

Those motherfuckers, that's some acting, boy. Or when people fake it in your face and then they're doing like you win, then you'll never see it. Then onto certain things, and you act that person fate at your face, like they'll look at you wide open with their eyes wide, wide, wide open, and they'll look at you right in the face. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_00

Crazy as like, and it happens so many times where you're like, you little like have it. I just saw you. I just fucking saw you. Like, you know what I mean? Like gaslighting. They're gaslighting. That's that's crazy to me. That happens so much. Gaslighters, the gaslighters are a cyclic individuals because they're gonna try to get they're trying to fuck, they're playing psychological warfare, and that's when it becomes like really dangerous. Cause you can only fuck with somebody's reality so much until you snap. That will make a person snap. And I understand uh snapping on that because you're like, you're fucking with their reality, you're trying to convince them that that's not what they've seen or that's what not whatever they witnessed, and they for a fact know that's like why are you gonna fuck with somebody's reality like that?

SPEAKER_01

That's a sicko. But it says that some there's people that like to play with people, they'll play with your mind. It it is and you'll never catch on to it. You'll be like, I mean that they they program you some minute they maybe certain put you in every you don't want to be in, make you angry, make you happy, make you however however they want. They'll program you that they they your feelings will be like whatever, however, they want.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, there's manipulation is crazy. Manipulation, they're grooming you, they're getting ready. I mean, honestly, like the best way of getting ha and having somebody your routine is starting and always keep even if it's like you go into the morning and you have like that 10-minute, 20-minute, 30-minute break in the bathroom, start it from the beginning so that they know that's your fucking time by yourself. And so, you know, so it's like it's like it's like it's it's a good thing in a sense when you have a routine to an extent extent. But but it's okay, yeah, yeah. You know, but like when people when people have routines, but boy are manipulators and gaslighters and they do it manipulate the situation. They're they're dumb, but they're smart enough to know that that hey, this is your reality, that's their game. If they're play and they're playing games, why doesn't it affect them the same way that it affects us because you're like, hey motherfucker, you're fucking with you're lying to my face.

SPEAKER_01

I'm not giving you that.

SPEAKER_00

Why are you giving like that's when gives me a bunch of ass and and I'm looking I'm and I'm seeing it, dude, and the person's like no no yes makes me like they're fucking with your reality, they're fucking with your your your peace, they're fucking and it's like why you gotta lie to my face, motherfucker. Like you bust your ass. I can't stand I can't s I cannot that's what I'm saying. I'm not mature enough in certain situations yet, because I haven't been able to learn how to control my emotions completely. And I'll admit it. I'll admit it. Like I'm learning every day how to control my emotions and it's uh and and it's a battle, but I know I'm gonna be a better person at the end of the day. But boy boy, do they do can't do I feel like I'm gonna catch a case sometimes, you know?

SPEAKER_01

Oh yeah, because because that person knew knows how to how to maneuver you, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Because they already ran you and worked you and they know what works. Why why fix it if they don't break?

SPEAKER_01

If it's not broken, why fix it? Why talk to someone? Oh you wanna play around that other person, hey, you might not want to play, you know.

SPEAKER_00

You might want to they fuck around and they don't they find out because they don't believe it. They're like, ah, she's a little puty little thing. Ah, I think she's just she's just angry right now because of how she's feeling. No, be aware a woman's scorned heart. You know, hell house no fury like a woman's scorned heart is a real thing. Hell they ain't got shit on a woman that's hurt. Because a woman that's hurt is smarter than you. And and I'm sorry for I feel sorry for the lesbians out there because I was telling my best friend, I'm like, I don't know how you're a lesbian, because I I get it, that your attention is all there. You guys women are attentive, they give you all the attention and all the shit, you know, all the things that we want in Ivory Man. You know what I mean? But like, fuck that shit. That's some scary shit. Cause a a maybe a woman's gonna want to fight a woman like a like like it's an even equal opportunity. Did a study saying that uh being a couple I'm not really sure. I'm not this is something that I heard. I believe so too. I heard like homosexual couples are more violent. But beat the shit out of each other. The cheating thing is you don't want to think about they beat the shit out of each other because it makes sense. You're not gonna want to you're imagining beater woman and woman, you know what I mean? But a woman will fuck the shit like beat the shit out of another woman and a man will beat the shit out of another man. But I mean that's what happens though.

SPEAKER_01

I think they're to you.

SPEAKER_00

I'm gonna fuck you up, bitch.

SPEAKER_01

But if it's a guy you're like, alright, I'm gonna kill you.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and then don't let me catch you like you know this ass fucking. Yeah, I'm gonna go fuck the I'm gonna go fuck the neighbor boy type shit. Some something, you know, you don't think I'm I'm gonna go give it to him raw and good, like like you know what I mean? Like some nasty type thing. You know what I mean? Like a bitch is like, wait, bitch, I done caught on your ass and you think you're sick. Because a woman is uh women are better cheaters. Just holding up their sleeves all down, like I'm gonna smack this bitch. You know what I mean? But I was like, hey, it's fair game. It's a woman's a woman, so same, it's same gender.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00

Don't fuck around with the bitch, don't fuck around with a bitch because I'm I'm just saying, like, as me, that's but nowadays dating women are like the same thing as dating women because they got they got some foul ass emotions that are not even valid for the most part. Like it's like you're not a woman, stop acting like a woman, you don't have a period, stop acting like like you have a period, and you're coming at me sideways. Like, if you want to act like a woman, like should I like Macy like you know, it's like we don't control violence, but shit happens, and men act like bitches sometimes, like big bitches, little bitches, but they're not acting like men where they're like think logical and be calm.

SPEAKER_01

They're like that's why there's so many relationships with a female acting like the color. You know, a lot of people decides a woman that's they're in your house, and and the guys just following behind her, they'll they'll quick.

SPEAKER_00

I mean, honestly, because it's it's because if a man does not take the reins, then of course the woman's gonna take the reins. If the woman has a man up because the man ain't manning up, there's a fucking problem. You know what I mean? Like if a man does, and I understand personality problems and stuff like that, but a man is supposed to be a part of a head of the household. I don't give a fuck what anybody has to say about that. There's a reason why there's a man, okay? Like the man needs to, if there's a couple of a man and woman, let the man be a man. And I too have a problem with like, let me just just let me just do it. Like, you know, because like men are fucking dumb sometimes. There's no offense to anybody, but like men it could be dumb. Everybody could be dumb. But sometimes men are just fucking like they're pinpointing dumb. And you're like, let me just do it. Like, I got it. Because if you're not gonna act like your man, it's not like saying you're gonna be a dumb man of the house. But if a man doesn't want to do some shit, there we don't have a choice to let it go. We have to do it. Our kids need it, or something has to get done. We can't just let him cop out. He could cop out, but then it falls out back on us. It's not fair. So that's why I think women act like the man of the house or be the man because the man's not doing it.

SPEAKER_01

It's not good. Somebody say like in the house, the man's voice has to be the loudest. Everybody surrounding that fear and respect of let's put two homes together. This in this home you hear the the dad, right? Hey kids, get a bed, or you know that's a strong in this home you hear the woman like come on, get a bed uh what ho what home you think will be taken very very seriously.

SPEAKER_00

The woman's because the woman means b because the woman because the woman like knows like like they have to like well it depends, I guess. Because it depends on uh honestly if the kids respect the man.

SPEAKER_01

That man has to be the leader, he has to be a good one.

SPEAKER_00

He's supposed to be the leader, he's supposed to be the leader. That's why God gave him the water. Yeah, that's why they have like that's why they have the kids.

SPEAKER_01

This one, this one like kind of uh loses air, you got the other one, use the other one, you know.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, yeah, right. I mean, like, yeah, you're right. I mean, I believe in gender rules. I believe that men are supposed to be men and take charge and be the but like but again, if a woman doesn't trust that man, she's not gonna give up the reins. She's not gonna give up the control, like, here you go, honey, just run us at right us, run us right into the to the wall and take us down while you slide down the wall. That's not fucking cool. And it happens a lot. So a woman, I mean but then it goes in it goes into don't date those men. But you really don't know what kind of man it is until you live with them. So it's like it's like it's it's kinda but yes, I believe a man needs to be in control and have the final you know, have the say and and and mean it, you know. The women could have their ideas and opinions and the man's supposed to back it up and support it. You know, be the be the force of it. But I mean like but what's going on with it?

SPEAKER_01

No morals, no there's no rules, guidelines, or anything. Figuring out life, like figuring out how to be a good parent, figuring out how I mean everybody's doing what you want to do. You cut off your penis, want to cut off your breasts, you cut off your breasts, that's what touch your penis.

SPEAKER_00

This world is like because they're against creating they're against people making babies and creating. So if they they have the agenda of planting seeds or la or like or or pollinating these seeds to letting them get be confused and and whatnot. And I'm not saying like homosexuals are confused, but like but the whole gender thing, they're the soy boys, you know, like the the boy you know, like soy has a lot to do with it, they're poisoning our foods, it has a lot to do with it, like they're like they're ruining, you know, they're taking the man's men's testosterone out of the out of, you know, a lot of things. And so I get it, it's the food and the drinks and stuff like that. It's poisoning, but then again, it goes to like a choice and like and and I would I would be scared to be a man if I was a man because it's a har like to be hypo, to be a gentleman, to be like a strong, protective, to you know, provide that's a lot of fucking I mean uh we do that as women as mothers, but that's like a lot of a lot more when you're a man of the house. Like that's why I think men get scared and they hop out, they don't want to do it, because it's like it's a lot of responsibility.

SPEAKER_01

I mean, men, we don't hate you, don't think for you guys, but and it's that's very true. Glad you said, you know, all these child payments and all that they that are holding kids. Yeah, no, and that it would these women lie to them and tell them they grow the kid grows up and goes, babies is really not. And it's so many men that have that.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and it is sad, but a real man, a real man it takes a real man to be a father and to raise those kids, you know, to raise those kids if they're not his command them, even women who raise children that are not theirs. Yeah. It takes a lot to re to love somebody else's kid because that didn't come from you, but it is it doesn't take a lot because it should be natural and normal to love a child, like to love a child because they're innocent. They have nothing to do with it, you know, like and like they need love. No somebody doesn't nobody deserves not to be loved, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Um it says a lot of sorry says a lot about has the patience racing somebody else's and it's just gonna be little issues and you come here and you you do it. All my respect to woo-hoo because it's like I would ha I have it in me. My my my motherly will probably kick, but then uh thing is bigger and I would like what do you mean? As soon as I would hear you like, oh yeah, it's a rap, it's a rap. No, it'll it'll it'll hurt. Oh I mean, no, and there's women that that can hear that and they still stand tall on their on their decision of being a mother to them. Yeah, and that's badass to me. That's all my respect. If you grab that little kid when they're little and you raise them up, like all my respect, all my respect, and God will see you and give you so many black life, and it's just it's and then when you do that and then the little little little kid turns into an ungrateful fucking asshole because you loved him and then you're like, you know what?

SPEAKER_00

I should have fucking not even you know, and I'm joking, I'm not joking. Because you know, it's understandable to feel that the way you f people feel about it, but as one of those women, when those when the child comes up and wants to like blame like it's because of you, and it's like I had nothing to do with your mama. You know what I mean? I had nothing to I did have everything to do with fighting with your dad to get you from your mama that she was a piece of shit, you know what I mean? Like, like yeah, I was there to like I was there to be that supportive system and to raise you as my own, but you want to blame me for some shit that I had nothing to do with, and I understand it because I was adopted. I understand having anger misled towards the like the wrong person, and like like you know, I get it. But like, but people don't understand it, and then like most people, it's a generational thing that they don't explain things and they don't know how to, you know, and and then you're like the fuck? I'm not the scapegoat, you know what I mean? Like, don't blame me, and then it's like you know what, I'll be that scapegoat.

SPEAKER_01

But sometimes interrupting family structures that will of goodness, love and everything, yeah. So somebody has to walk in, that's a good thing.

SPEAKER_00

That's uh Yeah, it it can it can be, but like, but when the child feels a certain way that cause their own mom didn't want them or didn't love them, or like you know, they're it's bad enough that they when girls have daddy issues, but it's worse if they have mommy issues when they're that same gender. Same thing is like if a man has daddy issues and they're a man, it it does a certain kind of like a trauma to them in a way, like where it's like, like I'm a daughter, like why doesn't my mom love me? Or like uh why doesn't my dad love me? Like, and like having to ask those questions or why didn't they want me? Like, what's wrong with me? They don't understand that it's not you, it's the parent who has the problem, or it's the parent who's trying to give you a better life. And like I too had those problems where I was like, like what like mad at my my mom, my adoptive mom, because she what adopted me. Like, you know what I mean? Like, like she was there dealing with my nonsense of fucking like of uh some bullshit of me going through like living life and not understanding like why because they didn't have answers for me and they couldn't tell me or they or whatever the case may be, maybe they couldn't talk about it, maybe they were strong enough. I don't even know. But it's like why? And I took it out on my pam my mom. This you know what I mean? So I didn't understand that until my stepdaughter did that to me. And so you don't understand until shit happens to you. Until you live and you live, and you're like, I did nothing but love you, and you're like, damn.

SPEAKER_01

The outcome is never the same.

SPEAKER_00

But like for you, like you know, but something. Yeah, but you don't under if you don't that's why I say never judge something and never judge something because once you make a judgment upon somebody, you're asking for a life lesson. That's something I live by, like, and so and that that's something I learned myself. That like that like for instance, like I would get mad at my mom, my adopted mom, and be mad as hell, like and like and going through it because I didn't know where it came from and I didn't know where I got my looks from, and and that really fucked me up. And I would be mad at my mom, like who the one who person who wanted me and who adopted me. And and then I didn't get that. I was a child, like I was a teenager, I was going through it, and like so. I think like people who do get adopted, they should have some type of therapy. You know what I mean? Like when they get older to be able to learn how to cope with things that they that their parents can't take or whoever is t adopting them or raising them, that they don't even realize that that's going on in that child's head because they have no idea what it's like to not be wanted to say, you know what I mean? Like from a from an early age, and so like people don't realize that these things are happening and that like it could be causing a lot of problems. And so I didn't realize that my mom loved me. I'm mad at my the woman who wanted me and adopted me, and I would take it. Yeah, but I didn't nobody told me what I'm Thing now, you know, and I didn't get it until my stepdaughter that I raised from a young age was like, Fuck you, bitch. I'm like, Oh me? Like, how dare you? You should be saying fuck you, bitch, to your mom who didn't want you. You know what I mean? Like, and like and I sat here and dealt with it because I love her, and then I still love her, you know what I mean? But like I didn't get it until she did it to me. Like, straight up. And only God knows what things have been said. Well, no, actually, a lot of times, a lot of times it's like when they get a certain age, they're like, huh. If I, you know, like if I just like sit there and like, if I I'm gonna try this, I'm gonna try this, I'm gonna try this. And so, like, like sometimes people are just like naturally curiously or like just kind of bad. She's kinda like want to be like a little like baddie. And so it's like, I'm not putting up with that shit. We're not but we're not dealing with that shit. And so she's like, I wanna go like with my mom. Like basically, I wanna go with my mom. Your mom doesn't like she can't she you we won you a long time ago, cousin a long time ago. Don't be mad at me, be mad at your mom, because you're old enough to know, but your mom didn't want you, so like don't be mad at me for it. Like, don't take it out on me. But like, but and it's just like something because you're secure, you're fucking going through it and wondering why you don't have this, or why you have this, or why do you have a stepmom and not a mom? Well, you know what I mean? Or like why do you have a stepdad and not a dad? And it's like, and like just seeing it from other people, it makes them fucking angry or makes them question things and not understand things people aren't gonna be like, Well, your mom's a crackhead, so whatever, you know what I mean? Like, it's like, well, your mom's not unfit, she didn't they want to say your mom fucking did this. It's like people just kind of be honest depending on what age it is. Yeah, the honesty would be the best. Yeah, I'll be like, sorry, kid, sorry, stepdaughter, your mom, you know, like smell smoking crack and fucking all these dudes and going from man, I'm sorry your mom chose a man over you. Who wants to tell you to get that?

SPEAKER_01

You know what I mean? Yeah, sometimes you just have to be you just have to be fucked up as it sounds as well.

SPEAKER_00

That's not it's never gonna be never because they're gonna be like you're insulting my intelligence for lying to me. But sometimes, but sometimes they don't they can't handle it, and I understand that too. Sometimes it depends on the age of the the child. Of course, yeah. You know, but you but but then like at like like you know, like do you you said you left at an early age, it causes a child to leave early when they don't have understanding of what what's going on, or if they don't feel like they belong, or they don't it could be anything, like they could be anything, or just having like a feeling of not fitting in, or even or it could be abused or not wanted, or it could be anything, or not even like having conversation or even a relationship with with the people you live with, and then feeling like like like needing to leave. And a lot of people who have parents or family that don't communicate and don't talk to them, which is a lot of people, they leave early and then you become an empty nester at earlier than than expected. And you're like right, and it's like and it's be all because what we can't communicate, we don't explain things, or what is it trauma that people go through things and we don't even understand what they're going through, and they don't feel what it could be a lot of different things, right?

SPEAKER_01

Very painful, very what what what parent wants to be just ignored and and ignored like literally then I mean I'm only human, I have to react to things. Is it's something like you for my for cutting hole and then say, yeah, okay, you guys forgot say the least yeah, you know, like no what uh you guys wanna do this where you just like I'm big on things. Always with my family how to Mexican how Mexican moms don't know how to turkey for things. No, they don't, they sure don't. Mines didn't. I learned in a place, right? I got parenting classes when I was in the when I learned so many awesome things there. I never knew of. I never knew of a birthday cake up present and all that that brings together birthdays and and Christmas and all that stuff. A lot of people are gonna less memories and that makes connections.

SPEAKER_00

Even if you're getting fucked up, you're doing it together, or you're doing it around your family. And even though and when we fuck up or we don't feel like we're being like what we want our family to see us as, we don't show up or we don't like we don't communicate, we don't keep in touch, and like we have to remember like, hey, we're family, like we we gotta love each other and accept each other for who we are and how what we are. And even if you don't like something of somebody else, keep it to your motherfucking self because the chances of them wanting to show back the fuck up is lower, and then the older we get, the less you see your family. I fucking miss my siblings. I miss the fuck out of my brother and my sisters, like I miss the shit out of like Danielle and Ronaldo, and you know what I mean? Like I I miss the shit out of Michelle, like I miss the fuck out of them. I miss you guys, like you know what I mean. Like I wish I had them so close that I could go, like, you know, like just see them like and just hang out with them like other people. Like, I wish I had that. Like, I love them, like you know, and the older we get, the less I hear from them.

SPEAKER_01

No one has anything. It's for your own benefit, if your kids are seeing your family members and do this and do that, and your kids keep doing it and it keeps going. It's very weak to go for Christmas.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, yeah, or something, or at least like one at least uh once or twice a year. This is sad.

SPEAKER_01

It's is re I'm sorry, it's really sad. Like how what's going on? Like, what's going on, world? Like, what the hell is going on here?

SPEAKER_00

Nobody sees it, like because they're on social media and they feel like that's enough for them to see their pictures, and and and that's enough. I personally am not on social media like that. Like, I would I you know, like I locked out on my Facebook a long time ago, and I and I and I don't feel like and I miss my friends like my friends like my friends from a long time ago, but it's like I'm sorry, but like I would rather talk on the phone with you, or I would rather you seek out a postcard or something. Like people don't get together because they like I feel like they feel they already see each other online, and that's probably good enough. My kids, like, you don't eat what no, like no. Yeah, why don't we get together and hang outs instead of like, oh, let me see the pictures. Like, I have like you know, like uh my my my my sister's a grandma and I don't I don't even know my like I what is that my my niece my great niece or what would that be something of like my something of my niece my niece had a kid I don't even know if it's a boy or girl and it's like it's like what's their names? I don't know because I'm not on social media, but if I didn't have if you didn't have social media, maybe you would call me and let me know what the name is. Maybe I would call you and then it goes back to who's responsible for that. Is it both people are responsible, or is it the person who's the events happening in their life responsible, or is it the person who's serious about their who who's whose responsibility does that fall on? Do you where do you who think?

SPEAKER_01

Very, very, very sad and it I I I want to and a lot of people see it like oh how could she? Um oldest daughter, isolated all the way I did too. There's been times where I have for my own safety, I have to during that time that I stayed away from my safety. I had to hear people that she had one baby and the baby my ears by and she got contact with me and I got met up and everything, and she had four daughters and um couldn't imagine how painful. That's why I gave advice to how painful it is to hear a little voice go, Mom, who is that? My daughter never told her about me. She didn't have the slightest idea who who I was. Little eyes looked at me like with I wanted it just break. I felt like a thing in my stomach. I never felt in my life. I wanted it fall. I wanted it, I wanted everybody to disappear, and I wanted it all the way down, and and um that was my doing. And it's important that families have to stay together, work things out, and just be good to each other. These families are getting all messed up, like girl has to read out to you. She has to and be thankful for every all the goodness you alive. Where where where was she gonna be? Just imagine the stuff that you saved her from. She could God knows what. No, a foster home is not always something and and and there's so many bad people out here damaging everything and and and don't maybe I'm I'm a bad person too for damaging my my my grandbaby. You didn't damage your grandbaby. Like you have to um open your eyes to what what what it is, what it truly is. It's so important. Just focus on what's important. It's the ones that are always looking, looking you think give her a hug.

SPEAKER_00

It's strange you're calling her. Of course it is, because that's your that's your grandbaby. It's better late than never. And it actually, if that was me in that situation, because I I my my stepdaughter has a grandbabies or her has a babies, I don't even know their names. And so at the end of the day, it's like I make a choice. I could choose to contact her because it is a choice. We but all have the choices, so then it goes into like I'm gonna be in that situation too, and then I'm gonna feel like crap, but then I'm gonna be like, but you, that's your child, because like that's your child, your child, you should tell your child about who raised you. Because if you can't say it, then then you're not proud of who you came from and how you came from, and you shouldn't even be proud parent of that. Because honestly, like how I feel about it is like like m like I was adopted, right? I found my biological mother and and I told my kids about it, okay. And and my kids were little when my my mom who adopted me, I call her my mom. Like, I don't she's my mom, she raised me. You know, they have they don't even have memories of her because she died, they she died when she was very little. And and but it's like, hey guys, I found the woman, and you know, this is this is your grandma, like your real biological grandma. And so, you know, us being strangers, she's a stranger to me, you know, she's a stranger to me. And and and I'm an adult and I'm a I'm uh in my 40s, and I'm still struggling with it because she's a stranger to me. And and we'll get into the whole like how you people feel and how other people feel, because it like I said, it fucked me up, but it was my duty to teach my tell my kids who their grandma was. I could have kept it myself, no, but it's like she she's a loving person, she's a good woman, and it's like my duty to my myself and my children to be that bridge. And so if I never would have shame on fucking me. Because you know what? She's a beautiful person, and it would be I would be keeping my children away from a good person in their life. You know, and people make mistakes and people do bad. My mom left me at the babysitters, me and my sister at the babysitters and didn't even fight for me. But I'm grateful because I got a I had a good life, you know. I mean, I when I was younger, I was fucked up. It fucked me up. Like I was like left, basically left in the garbage in a sense, you know, left and not came back for it fucked somebody up. But like, but now that I found her, you know, it's it's it's hard for me, but I had to tell her, look, you don't have to deal with me. Okay, I know it's probably causes problems and stuff like that, emotions, but if you're gonna be a grandma, be a grandma to them and be consistent to them. You don't have to fucking talk to me, you don't have to call me, you don't have to text me. But if you're gonna say you're a grandma, fucking be consistent. And so if you say you're gonna call every Sunday, fucking call every Sunday. If they don't answer, that's their choice not to answer. But at least you did it. Because then it gives them the choice that it falls back on them. So if my kids don't want to answer them, my daughter let one of my daughters loves her. They have a type of bond. The other one's like, okay, stranger, you know, but like you're giving them that choice to deal with it. What do they want to deal with it? And if they're little, it's a different situation, but it ultimately falls back on to say your daughter.

SPEAKER_01

It's not it's not your decision to that family member away from from unless it's a unless it's a harmful situation. Okay. Yes, unless it's a harmful situation, but at least explain it to them. But I have a I told my my other kid, problem with your oldest daughter, but that's between me and her. Your sister. You're you can that's I'm never and I told her like never that I never have it. Yeah, well, your your actions make me look look how they want me to look.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, but yeah, but she'll try to make you look bad by by not like letting her know. It's like it's like shame on her for not saying, Hey, hey mama, this is your grandma. You know, like like because she has so much like like like problems and that and it all problems reflect hate, anger, like hatred, and all these things, but that reflects how she feels on the inside of herself. Remember, you have to remember when hatred is coming out of somebody or like just unnecessary ungratefulness and stuff like that, like and I understand people have different ways of dealing with their problems, but that reflects off of how they feel inside, unfortunately. And it's sad because it's like it's like people in, but then it goes into they can be like I'm not saying your daughter, like in general, but like people make want to have reasons to blame people for their problems or why what something goes wrong, instead of them just taking like okay, this is what happened, I'm gonna accept it. I I I don't have to understand it, I accept it, or not even accepting it, but it's like no, your mom, it's my mom's fault for loving this guy, or my mom did this, or my dad did this. It's like motherfucker, we're adults, we're we're we all make mistakes, we all have problems. We I didn't I raised you, you were you were a a teenage you were a preteen mom, and like you they can't expect shit more from you because you were raised with your own daughter. I'm a teenage mom. I'm not too far behind you, like, but like I wept with my daughter. We learned together. I was a child too, you know, and so like that's why the statistics on on teenage moms are shit. Like, like teenage moms, because they're they're usually not gonna have the dad around because they're teenage moms, they're teenage children, and so like they don't know they barely learn how to fucking wipe their ass type shit. Like it you know what I mean? So it's like they definitely shouldn't have been having sex, and then it falls back on their parents. Like, where the why the fuck were their parents like now there? And it goes into support and all these other things, there's all these things, but instead of blaming them, is we made choices, we did whatever we did, and we raised we're raised our own kids with ourselves, grew up together.

SPEAKER_01

And when I got up, because you're a mom, you're supposed to be. That's how we looked at you. Better be perfect or else you're a piece of crap, mom.

SPEAKER_00

Everything you do, watch out. My dad could be dude, this is this, but you do it, you do one little thing wrong, and you're a fucking garbage. Yeah, because because we're everything for them, so they expect everything for us and they expect us to be super.

SPEAKER_01

So I so I told her one day, I say, look, and then lies uh operation far away. Were you a good daughter? Yes or no? Oh because she was like, No, I was a okay daughter. I wanna what and and then I'll tell you. Now, when I say uh I mean I'm meaning like and I got proof of all the places my kids have been. There's not a place you can't tell. There's no place, there's no like holiday, there's no I I was I overworked myself to home to the point that my health is empty nested. I gave it my arm, my my bones, everything I work, construction. I work like I because I had to raise my kids all on my own since the age of 15. I've been paying rent until now. I see myself homeless by myself, no home, no food, no money, no job, no nothing. I'm all messed up, and I'm always and like what I did. I just stepped back and I said, you know what? I'm just gonna go away. I'm gonna leave everybody alone. You guys want me to leave you alone? Okay, leave you alone. I'm getting tired of being stomped. Down in my heart, yes, I was a team and I wasn't gonna do a good job. I was just and and and the person that I was with is literally that's that's a straight pedophile. A 14-year-old girl pregnant. And and I mean, there's no probably some people gonna be like, yeah, but you wanted to or whatever. No, no, no, no, no. Um, 14-year-old girl does not have brain all completely they're not I'm kidding. I know I didn't. I'm speaking. They're your child, you're supposed to be playing with Bradley getting over Barbie dolls type shit. No, I had what was I do when I thought that I had a baby in my own. And I was happy that that I wasn't like scared or anything. I was happy so much. My kids gave me so much strength. Oh, yeah, we're gonna strengthen my little stuff. Daddy, I'm not a big girl, not a big girl, but so much strength. They gave me the power to get up in the morning and go work and and and they probably didn't live like a rich life and all that, but let me tell you. I have twins, boy and girl. The the girl wanted a uh pink, uh pink, and he wanted a uh blue one. What was the point of having two of them? But it was like that. I have the money to do it, and I gave, gave, gave, gave, gave. I raised uh kids that have no awesome kids. They're good, good representatives. They they work and go to college and and do what they're supposed to do, thank God.

SPEAKER_00

And uh say spare the rods, spare the say spare the rods, don't spoil the child. How do they say it like don't spoil the child, spare the rod or something like that? Like, don't spoil your child because they become ungrateful, basically. They become ungrateful little bastards and they fucking expect everything to be handed to them, and when you don't, there it's your fault. Trust me, that's what they say, don't spoil them, because like make them be humble and grateful. Because I'm not we're not saying they're not grateful, but when you give them everything and then you fucking die over giving them everything because you they don't want you don't want them to know what it's like not to have whatever they want for and not to realize they don't have another parent or whatnot, whatever the case may be. You go above and uh uh and beyond our duties and don't teach them to respect and to appreciate the value of what you do from because it's like I'm you're my child, I'm doing everything for you. As much as I can, my possibilities I might not be like perfect, but I'm gonna get you what you need and what you want. Cause I don't I want I don't want you wanting or needing anything in life. I'm gonna do whatever I need. They don't appreciate it.

SPEAKER_01

None of us, even me. We're not doing what worshipful mothers are being mother being daughters, so it's not gonna work out. We're not doing we're not I think they should do like some classes a good money, a good dad. They gotta tell little boys like don't go having all these girls have children and child's gonna take this.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, and and not just that, but women are gonna find out and and cre like circumcise your ass. Like you think of your ass guys gonna like be like oh hell, yeah, you know exactly like I didn't I didn't know that I don't wanna lose my license. You know about child's no no they don't even teach them how to use checkbooks because there's no more checks, they don't teach them shit because they want them to not succeed in life. Period. Our our government is set up for us to fail. Period, period. And I too, you know what I mean? Like put them indoctrinated with them with the schooling, like whatever, whatever that it's all another stuff like subject, but it's cause that we didn't we weren't taught that. We weren't taught that we were taught we weren't taught those things, like they our our parents really talked to us basically, like about things. So, like of course we have to learn and be like, oh, we don't want to be like that because we needed more as from our parents, but but we don't know how to be more because we're not knowing about what it is, so we're just gonna f free like tail melee it and fucking figure it out as we go.

SPEAKER_01

Right. That's your hand, you guys. Like that's a good one. Like, think about it. Think about it.

SPEAKER_00

Raise your hand if you don't have you won't have enough money for uh to support uh afford your own rent because child support does not give a fuck about your other bills, they only care about if you have uh biological children or children that you adopted under your house. That's the only thing they'll take into consideration. Your rent could be more than your check, you could not have no money come in. They don't give a fuck. They uh oh, and uh the amount of time you have with your child. That's it. The children that live at home with you that are yours or adopted and your time that you have with the child that they're trying to get you for. That's it. And if you sign the motherfucking birth certificate after 1997, you are financially responsible. It don't matter if John Doe is a motherfucking dad. Guess what, buddy? When you sign the birth certificate, you are responsible for financially. Born in 1997, you could put Michael Jackson with your daddy, you could put Queen Elizabeth with your daddy, whatever. Anyone could be your daddy, but after 1997, that person that male has to sign because you're signing your rights away. You're saying, This is my child. And even in of court, if it's saying that it's not, I'm still signing my s myself saying you're and it to all the men that aren't sure and still do it. I I I respect you. And it says that you know you're oh my phone nine.