Mismatched thoughts... Stop blaming your parents

Stop blaming your parents. Choices are our own choices. Get with the program

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Same color, just mismatched. Hey, what a doo-doo. So mismatched thoughts coming right at you. Bada bang dang. So today I just want to say, like, you know, talk about childhood and like trauma, stress, and stuff. You know, I have a few friends that are almost forty or forty and above and they can't seem to get over things that happen when they're children. Or when they're childs or children or however you want to say it. You know, I just want to say like that like we were raised a different way, you know, like thirty-five and over. Like, you know, nineteen ninety and below, we were raised a different way. We were raised with responsibilities having to be not told things, like no having to know how to do things. You know, like with me, if I did my chores and stuff like that, I was able to go outside and play until the lights came on. You know, we would play outside and play with other kids and stranger kids and you know, we would like we were trusted enough to be outside on our own and to be in a sense forgotten about, you know, they were like, Do you know where your children are? On the commercial. A lot of them, you know, our parents, I'm not saying all of them, but a lot of them were on drugs. You know, like cocaine was a big thing, you know, crack cocaine, cocaine. A lot of us are cocaine babies or like you know, drug babies. You know, that was the epidemic at the time. I'm not saying everybody, but a majority of people, you know, 35 and over parents, most of them have done cocaine in their life. Like most of them have smoked some doobie in their life, some some reefer, some bud. You know, it was like acid, you know, it was just like one of those things like around the times, like that was their time, that was what was like big. And so not just that, but like like just now I would say like a lot of us are breaking certain things, you know, 35 and over. I am 40 years old, you know. I am a 40-year-old woman, and even though I don't look like I'm 40 years old, I'm still a 40-year-old woman. And I mean, I'm I'm glad that, you know, when I was younger, I was a teenager, I would be like, oh, my mom hits me and like get beat, and uh and yeah, granted, it was it was true, but like, did I deserve all of it? No, not necessarily, you know. My mom, like, don't even think about that, and I would not be thinking about nothing, or I you know, I wouldn't be thinking about whatever she said thought I would be thinking about, and I'd be smacked. Like, do I agree with that? No, because she didn't know what I was thinking, but did it help shape me to who I am today? Yeah, it totally did. Like, you know, I think what's wrong with the world is that like people don't like people don't teach their children what they need to be taught. Like, traditions aren't being taught or passed down. Old wives tells, even if they're old wives tells or not, it's still opinion, it's still a belief that like that family rocks with or thought thinks about, and those aren't getting passed down. Parents are not, grandparents and parents are not teaching their kids what they know or anything like that, you know, or like, oh, like do this. If you have a stomachache, you know, a tablespoon of baking baking soda and warm water that will help your stomach. It's like an alcoholzer. You know, there's things that like, you know, if you have a swollen mouth, cut a red, red, purple onion, put the rawness on them on the skin, and it's a topical of it, and it'll pull all that infection out. There's some things that are not being taught. There's a lot of things that are not being taught. And so, but what is taught is how they were dealt with. Is and that's something I wouldn't say a generational curse, but I would say that is like a a thing. You know, like our parents were taught to communicate and to express themselves and oh well, you have to say I feel or blah blah blah blah blah. No, no, they were not taught that. They were taught to go to work and go make a living. And and and you know, some kids were like, oh, I didn't have my parents. Your parents had to support you and pay for you. How do you think they did that? Not because they were leaving you to go, no, they had to go work and go make a living, you know. Um, I have other friends that are like, oh, I got beat by my dad or my mom. Okay, everybody did. It was normal, like, go pick a switch. Okay, we learn not to pick the little skinny ones, you know, like unless you like that pain. But I mean, like, we were raised a different way, and and like and if you know, my friends that are over 35 and complain about things, it's like I don't really want to hear that shit. We all used to get our asses kicked. I mean, like, it's like it's like, okay, and you're 40 years old, like get the fuck over it already. Like, what is that only thing that you're doing to keep bringing that up or reminding yourself is to a reason for you not to do whatever you want to do or succeed in something because you want to have an excuse or make an excuse of why you don't do something or why this or why that. And really it's just some bullshit. It's some annoying ass justifications that really you should get over it. Like, I'm not saying, oh yeah, it's okay, your mom and dad or your whatever, whoever beat you. No, but you're alive, aren't you? Like, get over it. Like, that was like over what 20 years ago, maybe 30 years ago. Like, come on. And so, like, like honestly, like the people with excuses and justifications and oh I do this because it's bullshit. Bull fucking shit. It's so annoying to people who actually live in reality, who actually like sit here and and you know, accept things and don't accept to be like, you know, don't do the blame game, and you know, don't, you know, blaming other people is stupid. Like, you know, like that's why I always say to tell the truth. Because regardless of what the situation is, if you tell that person the truth, you are giving that person the responsibility like of it of it. Like you're giving them that choice, you're giving them that option. If they either want to be happy with it or they don't, they whatever the situation may be, you tell the truth to them, you're giving them the option to do whatever they want to do with it. Like, and that's not your problem anymore. But when you lie about things, you know, like you're like creating a fucking ongoing cycle of some bullshit, or like, or to be brought up again over and over because it's not closed off or it's not sealed, awfully the way it should be. Like with me, just tell the truth and I'll like even if you tell the truth that did you do your homework, no, I might want to ground you, but I won't, because I'll be like oh, you know what, you told me the truth. Alright, whatever. I guess there's no homework today, whatever. You know what I mean? But if you're like, no, yeah, I did do my homework and you lie to me, then you're gonna be grounded because I know that like you're lying. That's some bullshit. Don't be insulting my intelligence. You know, like, but like if you tell me no, you didn't do your homework, you're giving you're giving me the responsibility of what I want to do with that, with that choice, with that option. Do you know? And so like remember those things. Like, you know, and so like it goes into, you know, when you accept what happened to you in your childhood, like, was it okay? Was it not? Everybody, there's no right way or wrong way of raising somebody, especially back in the day. We it's a trial and error. We all live and we learn. I'm a mother, I I live and learn. Like, you know, all kids say that their parents yell at them or their mom yells at them. Okay, and get over it. Toughen your skin up, and maybe, you know, it's like help, it's like all parents yell, like all moms yell. And if they don't, then they're like highly, like heavily medicated, most likely, or they're just like really like I don't know. But people, everybody's gonna get ticked off sooner or later. Everybody's can lose their cool. That's that's normal. Nothing's wrong with that. And there's no win to sit there and say, Oh, you had a bad mom or you had a bad dad because you were disciplined. Discipline means to be taught. Discipline means to teach. If you're not being taught, you're not learning, then you're not being like, you're not being disciplined. You can't be like, Don't touch the fire, you're gonna get burned. No, don't touch the fire, you're gonna get burned. Like, like smack the hand or something, like you know, so that they know the urgency that it could be their life, okay? So, like, you know, like unfortunately, a lot of people hold on to these, oh I got beat, or oh I got hit. So much, okay, you're fucking 40 years old, get over yourself, and you're not living your life because of this. Why? Like, come on, that's like stupidest shit ever. Like, get over it. Like, everybody got hit, and if you didn't, like, like more power to you. Like, you're probably like freaking like these new new kids that are like a lost mess and don't know humility, you know. But like if you got your ass kicked, you know humility, and you know you're not gonna be all getting your your panties in a ruffle so easily. You know, like like like like everybody needs to toughen up a little bit, and like people are always concerned about the things that they shouldn't be concerned about. Like, like, like, hello, like there's a lot of other things to be worried about. Like, what about how are you gonna live your life or make your life better? How are you gonna switch that around? Like, I'm glad I got my ass kicked. I used to not think that, but now I'm happy, like, I got my ass kicked. I used to be, I got humiliated. I know how to take humiliation, I know how to be humble, I know how to, you know, put my tail between my legs and put my head down. I know how to, you know, like be like like learn. I've learned, I've learned, and like, and like those those things that they taught you, like while you're being disciplined, hopefully it taught you to be a good person and it went a long way. You know, and like and all the people who want to blame their moms and dads for their behaviors, grow the fuck up. Like, grow up. It's fucking enough is enough already. Like, it's enough is enough. And if you didn't get your ass kicked, you know, like like bravo. Like, I hope you make good decisions, you know. But but I just wanna say that that was mismatched thoughts, you know. Smart like the smarter thing to say is like, oh, it's okay. No, it's just like scroll up, get your shit together, stop acting like a little pansy, and and and like stop blaming your mom and your dad for your choices that you make today. Because you're an adult, you make your own choices. Don't be blaming other people for your choice, and you make, oh well, I did this because of that. No, you did that because you chose to do that. That was your choice. Like, all the people with justifications and excuses are like fucking lame. I can't stand that shit. I mean, like, I yeah, you'll hear me like start making excuses and you'll hear me cut that shit out real quick. Cause for what? Like, nobody's gonna like know how to like get better themselves or make things better if you're over there blaming everybody else for everything else. Like, hello, hello, hello. Like, it's your life, it's your conscience. Learn to live it and choose to do it. Because I'm sure like your parents aren't like, oh, I used to beat Timmy so much, and that's why he's uh whatever. No, Timmy is whatever, because Timmy chose to be like that. Like, whatever. Like, you tried, you tried, parents, you know, like like like and no matter what, parents, like, like one of your kids or all your kids are never gonna be satisfied. Like, they'll never you know, like you can't make it them all happy. And if you have more than two, you know, more actually more than three, you can't have all three of them or not gonna be good. What you're gonna have one that's gonna be like a little rotten. Guaranteed. You can't have all three great ones. You could have two great ones, but you can't have three great ones. There's just one's gonna be automatically like a turd. And so, you know, like you know, don't be upset. Like, as long as you tried your hardest of what you know what your hardest is, then you did it. And like, you know, people want to be like, oh, if I was a mom, like be a mom and then say something, or be a dad and then say something. Don't assume and don't judge, because like, mmm, there's a whole different, like, it's a whole lifestyle, and like you don't understand until you live it, until you feel it. But like, you know, like I always want to say one of my models is don't ever like judge somebody because you're asking for a life lesson. So if you're like, oh, I would never do that. You're asking for God to teach you a life lesson, and usually those are not nice life lessons, life lessons. So I I I necessarily I want to avoid those myself. I don't want those challenges, but that's just me. But uh yeah, just like a little, you know, a little reminder to people stop acting like little bitches, you know, men and women, they're all the same, we all bleed the same. Same color, just mismatched, mismatched slots. Bye.