Expect not

To expect or not to expect, id reject

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Same color, just mismatch, mismatch thoughts, woo-doo-woo. So like thinker, little thinker, thinker, little food for some thought. Or thought for some food. I don't know, okay. So you know, what I have learned is that we shouldn't yes, it's good to have boundaries and it's good to have expectations, it's good to know what we want. Like as far as like with a partner. And what I did learn is that like it's good to have, like, you know, like like it's good to know what you want, what you don't want, what you won't tolerate, what you will. And a lot of times people don't know what they will and won't tolerate until they're faced with the situation. And so, with that being said, I believe that we shouldn't say, I don't ever want to date this, or I never, I don't ever want to have this as a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Like, I don't ever want to, you know, date a user or or date a sex addict, or it could be anything. It could be a certain race, it could be a certain habit, it could be a like a little whatever. It could be like I like, you know, pet peeves, it could be anything. But like, for instance, like, like, I believe that we should it's good to have like I think we should be more open. And the reason is because, like, for instance, I would say I would never date somebody who does hair on, or like it does something like that. Like, nobody wants to do date a person who uses anything, but especially like a person who uses hair on, heroin, or like a downer, like, like, you know, it's just like it's like it's a sad, it's pretty sad, like, you know, like and then one time in my life I was dating a man and I didn't know, and I was dating him for like six months. And around almost like the seventh month, I discovered it, and I was like blown back. I was blown away. And just like recently, like like probably like a couple days ago, I was like really thinking about you know you know, all that, and I would realize, oh wow, you know, I basically like didn't want this, and I said no, I would never, and then it happened. And so never say never. You know, and so I was talking to my other friend, and you know, she she was like saying, like, yeah, I I I would do the same thing. I never, you know, I said I never wanted to date a man who had kids, and then turns out like this guy I was dating had like six kids. I'm like, dang. You know what I mean? Like, so and she was like, she's like been with him, she's like about to marry him. And and then I was like, and then it makes you go into like a point where you're like, dang, what do you do? It makes you have to choose, do you follow what you feel like or how you've been feeling like all that time, or what you stood by, quote unquote, what you stood by, or you know, like your standards, or do you do you accept it after since you know it, and do you like you know move on forward? You know, so and with that, okay, so period. That's a quote wow question mark. You know, is you come to a fork in the road, what do you do? Do you stand by what you always said you want to do? Uh you wouldn't never date somebody like that, or you're not interested in somebody inter interested in somebody like that, or would you be like, dang, like I've already been with this person or I'm with this person, and like, you know, blah blah blah blah blah. There's a fork in the road. And I believe that's why that happens. So you could it's like it's almost like changing you, you know, because one or the other, you're either gonna stand by what you've always talked about or you're gonna wait and and change your m you're change your mind. It just it just like is really interesting to think about because it's like uh I'm sure it happens to everybody, just most probably people don't really realize it and like break it down. But you know, of course I do. So and also like what like how do you feel like okay, well XPr excuse me. Also, like when you I f I believe, and I'm pretty sure I'm right about this, and so I'm very honest. Like, you'll know if I'll tell you if I'm for sure I know, you know, like I'll tell you like it's like a fact or not, you know, like or like but like I'm just saying my opinions, I'm gonna make sure you guys know that I say I believe. And I believe that you know, like when you when you let your guard down and you allow it, like okay, like you you you accept him and you move it on and over like that thing, you know. Do you you know, I believe when you accept it and you go with the the the choice of you know moving forward with him or her or whatnot, like I believe you're letting your that guard goes down. And so there's no more gate, there's no more boundary up for that one. Like you're accepting something you said you would never accept, or you're acknowledging something you never, you know, you might not like it, but you're accepting it, you're moving forward. And so when you do that, I believe you're allowing the floodgates to open. And I'm not saying you're gonna be flooded with that same type of person, but I'm saying that now you don't have like now you're gonna be like, okay, this is what the the signs are of this. Now I have signs, now I know what to look for. But if you accept it, then not only are you gonna be looking for it, but but I believe you actually become more blurred to what you're actually trying to look for. Meaning like, oh, the signs are like the or maybe they do this or this or this. So that must be like because they were doing this, you know. So like, but I believe that those things that you feel like you're like you look back on and like, oh, like now it makes sense or this, this. I believe those become blurred in a sense because now you let the guard down in a sense, you let something, you know, you let the wall down, and now you won't even realize when something crosses that line or crosses that wall so that should be up. And then when you date somebody, again, somebody else, you won't even realize that they're doing exactly what you don't want. Or or have whatever the case may be, what you don't like or what. Because why? Because you accepted it with the first one. Brain like you know, just something to think about. It's kind of really interesting. But you know, mismatch slots. Bye, have a good day, guys.