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Welcome to another episode of Absolutely Not Another Podcast. I am Mr. Cassie, Game Show Garrett, and exhausted from Disney. Yes. Very, very tired. I feel like we'll be resting for forever, catching up until our next trip. But it was a good time. In terms of like any trip trip we've had at Disney, it was the best one. Oh, yeah. I feel like that comes with age and also them experiencing it before. So like they kind of knew a little bit what to expect. Of course they knew because they would go on YouTube and watch the parades, watch the ride POVs, pre-watch. Pre-watch to make sure that they were like, oh, this is exactly what I remember. Our daughter wanted to ride rides that she couldn't, and our son rode rides that he could that he didn't want to. Yeah. After the fact. Tower of Terror, he did it, but that terrified him for like the rest of the day. Yeah. My mom went with us as well. And one thing she said after both my mom and I rode the ride with him. Because that's my mom's favorite ride. If you listen in on the mini sode, but she said after the fact that we should have rode it before to ride the ride and think of it through his eyes. Yeah. And determine that that probably wasn't gonna work out for him. My mom heart was like scared for him when you guys had him on the ride the whole time. I'm like, oh my poor baby. Yeah, and he wasn't it you should have felt that way because he was petrified the entire time. He was just holding on tight to both of us. The photo and video that came through, his mouth is wide open. He's screaming in terror. It was a memory that I'll never forget because I never laughed harder in my entire life than seeing him go through that. And meanwhile, this is bad. Then there, like some people in the ride after the fact were laughing, saying, like that little boy there, he did it, he did it. And they were like, Good job, buddy, and everyone started cheering him on. So that was good for it. But after that, he didn't like anything. Anything big, anything big, anything that was remotely possible to be big, like Pirates of the Caribbean ride. He's wrote ridden it multiple times, but going down the hill scared. The hill was not even like five feet big, and he freaked out until the hill happened. Yeah. If anyone saw us on that ride, they probably thought we were mean parents because we were making him ride it. The photo passes me turned around and be like, You better knock it off. It's not a big hill, it's not bad at all. And then once he went down the hill, he was fine because I was sitting with him and he was like then pointing at everything. So I don't know. The Tiannis Ridey did the same thing for but he liked a lot of other things. It's not like he had a bad time. Just there was some fun, funny instances that occurred that just were things that I'll always remember. But then we went straight in from the our Disney trip. It's Memorial Day weekend. Is that how like people set say it? Memorial Day weekend? I think so. Okay. MDW. We wrapped that up. And you and I were sitting around yesterday, like, we should go to a pirates game soon. We didn't go at all last year. Yeah. And we know an individual that works for the organization, organization, as Paul Bisonet says, and reached out to her, like, hey, is there any like tickets available? I saw that it was PUP night and Star Wars night. Star Wars night. And Tyson is a big job of the hut fan, the number one fan. She's like, Yeah, we can get you tickets. And then she proceeded to ask if they wanted to be the play ball kids. The play ball kids to kick off the game after the national anthem, literally after the first pitch, they're up and then they play baseball. Yeah. And Tyson, all day after we told him he was gonna do it, he kept saying, I'm not gonna do it. It's not gonna happen. He was nervous. Then Benny, our daughter, was in on it, and then they flip-flop. And he was the one that said it. And she was on camera too. I got on camera because I was holding her. I was I sent it to our one friend, Tyler, and he said, Wow, look at that, the dad trying to take the glory away from the kids. Like I was just making sure that both the kids were in the photo in the photo op. That's so happened I was on it too. It was a it was a very like magical, cool moment, though, because I have never been on the field before for a pirates game. And we were literally down there for like 30, 40 minutes right on the field. The kids were getting to see all the characters because all the store Star Wars people were there. The pirate parrot came up and gave Tyson the lightsaber. Princess Leia was the one of the play by not play by play, she was one of the game day announcers. Yeah. So it was a blast. It was a pretty good time. The only like caveat I would have to it is if you bring a four and two-year-old onto the field, they don't want to like sit still. So they just played in the dirt the entire time, and they were wearing white Paul Skeens jerseys. So all my thought was by the time we got to the play ball moment, they were gonna be on the big screen and they would just have been dirt up and down. They did have it all under their fingernails though and on their hands. I used like 50 wipes trying to get their hands clean every time. Yeah, like I had the like I mentioned, like holding Benny whenever the cameras were on them, and I was kneeled down and my knee was on the dirt, and I looked at my knee after the fact, like looked like I was there for a long time and I was there for a minute. Yeah, not even. But siblings is what this episode is, and I think that our kids as siblings in the last week and a half have had a great had had great sibling moments. Yes, from Disney to Memorial Day weekend to hanging out with their cousins that are also siblings, to uh sharing that moment that they don't really know yet. That's like a great moment for them to be there and doing together. So that's what we're basing this episode around is siblings, yes, and we're siblings, not siblings ourselves. I hope not. That's what we both we both are in families that have sets of siblings. Like I have two older sisters, and I have three, yeah, and we're both the babies. We are the babies, so that makes more sense why we are the way we are. Yeah. And also the story kind of reflects a relationship. The wedding story today reflects a relationship between an older sister and a younger sister. So it's good. If you have a wedding story or any story that's juicy or dramatic, send it in to us at info at weddingprocast.com. The stories that are coming in are so good. If you can label it story submission and change the names. Yeah. We have a good lineup coming up of different stories that have been submitted. Yes. I don't want to say genre. It's not like music. It's like a topic. Topic. Yeah. So today's a sibling family related. This segment is brought to you by Guest Lens, the number one digital guest book you need for your wedding day. Because here's the reality: your guests are going to take hundreds of photos and videos, and you'll probably never see most of them because they just sit on your guests' phones. Guest Lens fixes that. You create a custom QR code and a landing page. Your guests scan it at your wedding, and boom, every photo and video can get uploaded into one private gallery from their perspective, and all the guests can see it. It's simple, it's seamless, and it captures the moments you might have missed. Use code WeddingProCast for a discount at checkout. All right, we're going to dive into the story today. I can't believe I'm writing this in. I've been watching your stories for the last couple of years, and my story would be perfect for your page. Seven years ago, me and my little sister both got married 14 days apart and not by choice. I have changed all of the names, so feel free to use it how you need or just use parts. It's a bit crazy. For some backstory, my sister is six years younger than me. We will call her Jill. We have a middle sibling, a brother named Jack, and then there is me, Olivia, the oldest daughter to parents that obsessed over the baby of our family and still do to this day. She can do no wrong in their eyes, and she gets what she wants. You will see this several times throughout the story. This makes the baby of the family seem kind of like a villain. Okay, but it's like the oldest saying, talking about the youngest. I'm sure that it's like they're gonna dive into it, but I'm not knocking my oldest sister. She's a she's wonderful, she's a wonderful person, but she does have oldest sister syndrome, thinking that like me is the baby and the baby boy. Yeah, you really are like special in your in your family because you're the youngest and a boy. Yeah, I was the only boy until our son as well, besides like my brother-in-law's. I felt that I was the favorite for like a minute, but not anymore. My middle sibling is the favorite. Yeah, for sure. Okay. I didn't meet my now husband, John, until a bit later in life. I was 30, he was 34, and had one child, but our love story was fast. We dated for about two years and then we're engaged. My parents never really approved of him because he had a child and they felt I wasn't picking someone who would be fully dedicated to me. Mind you, I adore his stepchild, who was a flower girl in our wedding, and is now a busy teen. I wouldn't change a thing in our life. It's kind of sad. My little sister Jill is my parents' favorite child. It isn't even a question. It had always been like that. Jack gets special treatment too because he is the only boy. But I am forgotten most of the time, or at least that's how I felt growing up. But our engagement in wedding year spoke volumes. When my husband proposed in the kitchen of our home, I was so excited to share the news with everyone. The next day I went over to my parents to share the news, and my my mother reacted so weird. I asked her why she wasn't excited, and she told me she was excited, but worried that it is going to put a damper in the big plans for Jill. I was confused. What big plans? She told me that her boyfriend of only a year had already asked their permission and bought a ring, and he was proposing at the upcoming family cookout. I was a bit shocked. They didn't seem that serious. However, excited that my sister and I would be engaged at the same time. And that's when my mom asked if I would hold off on making a big announcement because my husband, John, had not asked for my hand in marriage and they had prepped the whole family for Jill's big engagement. I would be like hurt if they were like, Don't, don't announce it. Yeah, like not to be excited at all. That's not okay. She's got to still be excited. Yes. No matter what. She's saying she's excited, but saying, Hey, don't say anything. Yeah, that's the issue. I'm like, I was hurt. I was really happy and ready for this moment, but my mom crushed it. Much to her dismay, I made a Facebook post and called and texted all of my important people. Everyone was ecstatic for me, except for my mother, who decided not to talk to me for a week and texted, I can't believe you would do this to Jill. My mom and dad never shared the happy news on Facebook or told any of their friends about my engagement. It was really weird. But you shouldn't really care what is shared on Facebook. And like, I don't know. If my if I post something positive in my life, I don't expect my family to have the same positivity to share it as well. But if that's I'm a youngest sibling, so maybe it's the youngest sibling syndrome of being like, I don't really care that much what is shared on social media. We don't have this perspective, but I do feel like an engagement is like a big moment. So most of the time, if your child gets engaged or they accomplish something really big, you would be like excited to share the news. But her parents not sharing. No. The next family cookout came around and I knew it would be a great day for Jill. So I bit the bullet and I showed up. I would not miss this moment for my baby sister. She deserved all the happiness in the world. Her fiance and now ex-husband, she had put that in there, proposed in front of everyone during fireworks. And it was with my grandmother's ring. My mom failed to mention that part. I feel like when family heirlooms get mixed in, it's like a little some people are more touchy about it than others. Yeah, it gets more sentimental. That's probably why that the mom cared. I'm not saying more, but but more. Yeah. When the proposal was done, she made a whole spectacle. She had hired a professional photographer, she had confetti poppers and a big banner that said congratulations. She proceeded to talk on the phone to all of her friends about her daughter Jill's engagement, how exciting it was for her. The next day came, the photo album about Jill's engagement went up. She never posted any photos of both of us holding up our engagement rings or us with our partners together. Again, it was so weird. So she just posted the youngest siblings. So that's okay. Like again, the first go-around of not sharing anything, but then sharing that. Yeah. And just one sister or one daughter from the mother, that's an issue. Yeah. And she's saying that her mom, they took pictures like holding up their engagement rings together. And then didn't post any of those, just photos of like Jill and her fiance. That's ex-husband. Now ex-husband. I love that she put that in there. Whatever, I guess. Planning begun, and John and I had already secured our date on our own. We got our dream venue in September, a botanical garden, and we were doing a garden tea party daytime celebration. I had been speaking to them prior to my engagement because I knew they were very busy, and I was very happy to snag up one of the last Saturdays, which I used to think that was weird. People like venue shopping before they're engaged, but now a lot of people do it. My mom invited us to dress shop. I thought this meant for both of us, but when we arrived, the stylist said it was only set up for Jill, but she could squeeze me in at the same time. I would be so pissed. But I would be limited in dress selections. It was fine. We both ended up finding dresses, and my mother graciously put down deposits for both of us. We all took pictures and drank champagne and then headed off to lunch together. That is when I shared the news that we had officially booked our venue at the Botanical Gardens for a Saturday in September. And Jill and my mom started acting mad about it. Jill said, That is really unfair. That's my dream venue. I have always wanted to get married there. And I responded, I had no idea you never mention mentioned ever that you were looking at that location. That is when my mom popped in and said that they had contacted the gardens, but their next available Saturday was in April of the following year. Then she said, Olivia, can you just do your sister a favor and give her your date? You're looking for something a little less fancy, I thought, and that is what your sister wants. I declined and said, I paid for it myself, and this is what I want. I'm sorry, but I'm not giving you my date. Jill threw a fit and cried at the table, and my mom acted mad at me for not being a good sister and giving her my wedding date. I'm sorry, but like oh my gosh. You have a contract. You can't just like give your date to somebody else. Switch it. It's like going on Survivor and playing your idol for somebody else. Like you shouldn't do that unless it's like a good power move for yourself and your game. I don't know why I just brought up Survivor in it, but that's the first thing that came to mind. Like, can't do that. Yeah. You can't gotta play it for yourself. And you bought the date, you want the venue, it's your day, it's not Jill's day. Right. And I can understand, like, maybe asking, like, oh, I really wanted to get married there. And then when the sister says no, that's it. You don't get mad about it. You don't get to throw a bit. And nobody paid for it but the sister. Yeah, and if you want to get married at the same spot, that's not saying you can't do it. Just do it in that April when the date's available. Right. And you're good to go. If there's some sentimental vi value of you wanting to get married there, yeah. If you really want to do it, hey, that's the next available date. Too bad, so sad. Yeah, you didn't book it quick enough. I continued on planning again, and I asked my brother Jack to be my man of honor, and I asked Jill to be a maid of honor. I was not having any other wedding party members. I thought that I would be asked to be in Jill's party, but she never asked. She did ask Jack to be in her party, though. I was hurt by this, and I brought it up one day, and my mom said, Stop acting jealous. It's not her fault that Jill has so many friends. They had to make cuts somewhere, and they knew I was tough enough to handle it. Her own sister, what the hell? Yeah. I do feel like if you have siblings that they need to be a part of it. Yeah. And I'm also like, she is in her wedding. It would just be normal to reciprocate the same thing. It's a sibling. Yeah. And it's not like, oh, they're cutting all the siblings. She still included her brother. Yikes. Okay. One day Jill texts me and says, I have the best news. I booked my venue. I was so happy for her. She said, You will never guess who had a Friday open up in August. I had no clue what venue she was looking at. And she said, The botanical gardens. I'm getting married two weeks before you. My heart sink. Of course she would book the same venue as me. And of course she would rush and get married before me. Her and my mother saw no problem with this. Didn't jump ahead. Even jump ahead. Yeah, of course they don't see a problem in it. They've been acting the way they have. Yeah, that's sad because I think if she would have booked the later date, the sister probably would be like, okay, whatever. Yeah. I had cousins that got married at the same venue, different times of year. They were siblings, and the weddings were totally different. Yeah. I had blast at both. But it was like a year in between, and one was winter and one was summer. So very different. That meant our bachelor parties were now close, and so were our showers. My mom hosted my sister's bridal shower, but for me, she only pitched in. She really doesn't like her daughter. Yeah. She also attended my sister's bachelorette but had a mahjong tournament the weekend of mine. Couldn't find the time, I guess. Oh God. I'm like, is there a backstory between the mom and the daughter? Or is she just really mean to her? She also didn't want to invite any of her friends to my wedding. She said not a lot of people will want to go to the same place twice. She invited them all to my sister's celebration. I bit my tongue through all of this because I could tell my sister was just trying to compete with me and my mom was aiding in the fight. She always wants Jill to win. And all of this, my mom expected me to help set up for my sister's wedding because I was only doing a reading and didn't need to be getting ready the whole time because I wasn't a bridesmaid. And she would be get she would be busy getting ready with her. I helped, of course, not happily though. My family repeatedly did not include my husband or my stepdaughter in anything. It was an argument to even get them on the guest list for Jill's wedding. Again, we all bit up bit our tongue because I did not want to spoil my sister's day. I failed to mention that my sister debated taking her honeymoon during our scheduled wedding. I was shocked to say the least. She knew the date and ultimately shifted it to a week after. It was a whole fight where my parents again sided with Jill and expected me to possibly shift my wedding date for her honeymoon. Yeah, once you lock into a date, like you're not getting out of it. Get out of it without losing money. Also, if like she chose to go on her honeymoon, I'd be like, fine. Yeah, go ahead, do it. Your loss. Which like not the backtrack a little bit, but you were mentioning the mom's friends only wanting to go to one and not the others, but because it's at the same location, I'm sorry, but I'm not speaking for like my parents, but they like to go to the same place all the time. Yeah. So it's not like they're not gonna be like, I don't want to go back there, unless I'm just thinking out loud. I'm thinking in assumption, but I'm from 40 minutes, 50 minutes, sometimes an hour, depending on traffic, to our local botanical garden. Is it a drive to where like they're from? And they have to because there's people that are from you know like south of Pittsburgh that they can only go to the city like once a month because they don't want to take the drive. Yeah, and it doesn't talk about I assume it's not of like a two-hour drive. Right. It doesn't talk about it in the story, like where it is, but I also thought if you have out-of-town family that have to fly in and get a hotel, it's very inconvenient if it's two weeks apart. Yeah, you know what I mean? Like she doesn't address any of that in here, so maybe everyone was local, but I did think when I was reading the story how mad I would be. Like the back to back to back. You mentioned your cousins sibling, like it was not even it was within like two years of each other, maybe a year and a half. I think it was a year and a half. Not to say it was bad, like it was just a drive to Hershey for uh so it's not a it's a drive, it's not flying, so it's not really a big deal. But I don't know. Yeah, it is what it is, I guess. But it's like family, you still go to like whomever you don't want to miss it. As long as you don't have like you had a baby and we had a wedding that was right after our daughter was like a month old, and we're not gonna go to a wedding that's a flight away. Yeah, that's too much. There's more to this story, I feel like, that's being said about the wedding. I'm not trying to say that the oldest daughter and the mother had a falling out in any way or had issues before, but for them to even mention that it was hard to get the husband and the stepdaughter invited, there has to be something more. I also thought there's like a bad there has to be some nasty backstory between the mother and the oldest daughter. She does not share that, and obviously the story's from her perspective. Yeah. This is just the last part of it. Still, though, I think it's like bad. Yeah. I think like the mother and the daughter, youngest daughter are in the wrong. They are saying there's more to it than we're being let on. They are the villains in the story for sure. Our wedding rolled around two weeks later, and my family was not helpful, helpful or excited, it seemed. My dad and brother did help out, and we had a beautiful day. I kept moments with my mom to a very minimum, and I soaked in the moment of becoming a wife and a stepmom. Months after both of our weddings, we got our photos. Back. My mom makes her profile photo and cover photos from my sister's wedding. Nothing from John and I's. We have kept our distance from them since attending events with them sparingly. Jill and her husband got divorced about two years ago, and I saw that coming from a mile away. And that's all she shared. Yeah. Again, there's more to this story than being let on. If we can get a part two, like it's kind of like you go on Olivia. If you can send in a part two or a backstory, we'd love to hear it. Like I don't listen to Crime Junkie as much as I did when it I first got into it. But whenever there would be an unanswered story, I was really hoping to get an updated answer to that said story. Like unsolved mysteries growing up. There's gotta be more to this. There's gotta be a real update. Yeah. So we need an update on what happened for this to all occur. Yeah. Before the engagement, what was going on? And it seemed that the mom, mom and dad, at least a little bit in the story, were mad that the oldest sister's husband didn't ask for permission. The other thing, it was she, I'm not trying to assume this is how I see it, okay? But my oldest sister is 10 years older than me, and my second oldest is nine. They got married young when my parents at the time like didn't have they were also on like the bride side where the bride typically bride's family what pays majority of things. Usually it's usually it's different now, but yeah. Was she married before? Was things like that? That was her wedding already paid for. Oh, like was it the oldest sister's second wedding? Yeah, she didn't say that. She did say she found later in life. Still the like, I think nowadays, when you're 30, that's normal, you're not that's yeah, it's normal to get married now. But when you're I would even say like 20, 25 years ago, like that, you would get married young, like right after college, before college, in college. Yeah. A oopsie baby right at out of high school. It happens, it happens. We were married like none of that's bad. I'm just saying I think the norm now is older, older. I mean, we got married to me. I would say we got married young, we were 24. Yeah. Which, like, in terms of today, I see like our nieces that are like around that age. I'm like, whoa, whoa, you're too young. Yeah. Hold on, hold on there. No, uh overall, mother-in-law or mother-in-law, overall, the mother and the youngest daughter sucked suck in the story. Yeah. I will my siblings, they're older than me. I'm the youngest. They I do not think that I treat them the way that Jill treated her oldest daughter, oldest sibling. We're close with all of our siblings, which is which is good, and we're lucky to have that. Yeah. All right. Our next segment to go along the lines with siblings is the absolutely not things you should not be doing or doing as a sibling. Oh, ask some, you can ask some because we're both siblings. We both can answer as professional siblings. Okay, eating the leftover food your sibling specifically labeled in the fridge. You it's an absolutely not. You should not be doing that to your siblings. Well, here's where I say like if like I'm thinking of growing up. Okay. My mom cooked her mom's an incredible cook. Outstanding cook. She cooked chicken and biscuits. And then my sibling went ahead to try to label a portion of it for her. Come on now. That's the only thing left. I'm eating that. Now, if my sibling came home and like got takeout, that's what I'm thinking is takeout. You can't, you cannot eat someone else's takeout. No, that's like even going to work. I can't believe people actually do that in a work setting. Like seeing like a thing of yogurt and lunch meat or whatever they have. Like, oh, I'm gonna have that. Yeah, you can't be doing that. I I agree. If it's like a homemade meal, one, it's safe for dad first. Dad gets dibs on the leftovers first. At least that's how it wasn't my hands. And then like we all kind of ate whatever. But if you go out to eat and you have leftovers from your meal, you label it, it's yours. You cannot go in and like take your siblings. That that starts like a fight. If there's leftovers from a dinner meal that's there the next day, and you want some, you have to leave some for everyone. Like you noticed that oh my gosh, there's a we made a full pan and now there's just like a quarter left. You really got to portionalize how much you have. Like we do, like we do that in our own thing now, but it's mainly us eating the leftovers, but like I'll see it. But like, let all there there's an egg bake. You saved some for me. I had it for breakfast. Exactly. Like, I split split it in half. Thank you. And we're not siblings. All right, bringing up something from 2007 during a current argument. That was like eight years ago. People don't forget. I would love to say absolutely not for this, but absolutely yes. Like, I feel like anything that happens with your siblings is fair game, doesn't matter when. But sometimes I feel like I get it when it comes to a sibling argument. If something gets brought up and saying, especially as the youngest sibling, and saying I got special treatment, like through your perspective, I there was that's your that's your perspective. There was no special treatment going on. I just lived a different life than you. Yeah. Okay. I don't really have this issue because I have uh sisters, not brothers. But this one is borrowing clothes and stretching them out. You absolutely should not be doing that. However, as a girl in a household of three sisters, I did this frequently. I don't know if I stretch it out, but like my sisters wore very cool clothes, they had a lot of good stuff, especially my sister that's three years older than me. I would be taking her stuff all the time. The cute shirts, like some stuff didn't fit me, but I was I was taking it. It's like a rite of passage with sisters. Even our nieces this weekend were fighting over shoes, and I'm like, been there, been there, shouldn't do it, but it happens. Yeah. That I think the only time I like borrow clothes from family is when you is when you dress up as your dad. The only time, yeah, is whenever I the only time I borrow clothes from family is when I dress up like my dad, and I'm I'm not making fun of him, I'm just showing him how his attire looks on another person's body. Like, is this okay? It's like a shirt that just says bite my wiener. Like he has all those things. Like he goes on a vacation somewhere, he doesn't even go to some of those restaurants and he has to get a shirt from there. Like, okay, buddy. One thing about your dad, he's always getting the vacation T. Yeah. He's easy to buy for. Next one tattling as a fully grown adult. I get it has to before you answer, because I feel like you're like indifferent. It depends on what's happening. Yeah. There's issues going on, and no one wants to speak up and say, like, not to like parents, but just like to everybody. Hey, this isn't what's going on in this my sibling's life is not going well. People need to know about it. It shouldn't be like a secret. Yeah. I think that's true. When it's something petty though, oh yeah, yeah. You don't need to do that. We are not like little kids. We don't need to be telling on each other. Yeah. Like if my sister got a speeding ticket and she for some reason didn't want to tell my parents, I'm not gonna be like, Did you hear Brooke or Aliyah got a speeding ticket? Yeah. Like I wouldn't do that. Right. So absolutely not. Unless, like you said, it's unsafe or something's going on where like they need help, then you tattle. Starting to step in up because like I can be the one that says it, but I don't want me to be like the only I don't know. I get what you're saying. Yeah, date or sleep with your siblings' best friend. Absolutely not. No, I don't know if you can say the same. It wasn't a best friend, it was a friend. I feel like it depends on like the age gap, obviously, and what type of friends your siblings having. Like, I don't know. I do think it's kind of weird, especially if they're like it definitely is weird, but they're friends that if you're of the opposite sex, like for you, they were bringing around a lot of girls. You're a boy. We were all girls and bringing around girls, so none of us are lesbians. So it was like the John B line dead man walking song. Shout out John B line, B Lon. I don't know, however you pronounce it, but he had a song that came out years ago, and it was my one sister and I worked at the same summer job, and it just so happened that she had a friend sleepover, and then the next day I had a sleepover with that same friend. Yeah. I would say though, normally, no. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Uh posting family drama cryptically on Facebook. Absolutely not. I feel like we've talked about this before, but if there's a real issue going on, if it's with friends, family, talk it out amongst yourself. We don't need to air out dirty laundry online. Yeah, I don't want something to be posted that's regarding family or to and from family members, and then people that are outside the family reaching out to me. Like, what's going on? Is everything good? I saw so-and-so's post. I don't know. Yeah, I don't they didn't tag me in it. Yeah, don't do it. Announcing big life updates during someone else's moment. So similar to like our story, kind of like it was wedding, it was wedding on wedding. I usually err on the side of no. I would say absolutely not on that. If it's especially if it's like a big moment, like an engagement or something like that. Then you're kind of being like the one-upping sibling. Yeah, you don't want to one-up. Like give people their moment, but also let people celebrate their own moment. So if they also have something going on or a big win, like just because something else, somebody else has something big going on doesn't mean you both can't celebrate. However, if it's like a day reserved, like a wedding or a baby shower, there's no need to interrupt that exact moment. Yeah, like not at the same time, is this question kind of like a wedding happens and a sibling gets engaged at the wedding? Or is this like posting something and announcing it? I would hate that. Like I hate no one should get engaged to somebody else's wedding, I don't think. But just in general, like I think of it as like as in an opposite side of things. It's kind of like the how this family did not treat it in the story. Is if there's two weddings happening, if there's a wedding happening and a baby announcement, if there's a wedding happening and someone got a job promotion or whatever it is, that's just like good news for the entire family. And that's something that can all be celebrated at once. I'm just saying, not on the exact same day. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, wait a day or two. It's like an email, wait 48 hours. Gosh, this next one's a good one. Telling your sibling they were adopted after every argument. I feel like that's like a rite of passage between siblings, like especially the older siblings to the younger siblings. Should you say stuff like that? No. But it's part of being a sibling, getting dragged on. That's just sibling talk. Yeah. All right. Next one. Making the oldest sibling the automatic babysitter. Absolutely not. I don't think it needs to be oldest sibling. Wait, making the oldest sibling, I feel like the oldest sibling might be the one that's asking to have their other siblings babysit because they probably are the first one to have a kid. Yeah. I think I think it's in the sense of like you have a bunch of kids and you make the oldest kid babysit the younger ones. And then I say absolutely not because they're still kids. I can understand like every once in a while, maybe the oldest sibling watches the kids like a babysitter would. But I think like automatically being like, Oh, she's older, she can take care of them all the time. Like, they're not a built-in babysitter. And if you're if they're gonna babysit, I think you should pay them. And they're like if they're capable of babysitting their youngest sibling or their youngest siblings, they need to like live their own life too. Right. Not you as the adult give your kid the moment of their teenage years. You chose to have the kid, not your not your oldest kid. Yeah. Okay, this one I think is like really I'm like looking at it. It could be at the age that's put on here, but it also could be the like 20 years beforehand. Fighting over who sits in the front seat at age 34. Again, this could be even like at 14. Yeah. I say absolutely yes, you fight over it. Yeah, once you're like in the stage of life that you are well, 34. I'm not really like driving with my family to like call shotgun or call Chewy, as other people call it. But whenever I was upgraded from being able to go from the backseat to the front seat, oh, you couldn't call it until you got out of the house. Yes. And I was the first one to call it. I'm like, give me that front seat. That's mine. And then like my sister would get so mad. It's like a privilege to sit in the front. But then, like, if you call it, this was always the rule for me, at least. You call it on one way, you can't get it on the way back. Right. That's a fair rule. It's a fair rule. Shout out my mom for coming up with that rule. Okay, two more. Turning family game night into psychological warfare. That's again, this is like a sibling thing. It eventually is gonna happen. When you're playing like video games, board games, whatever it may be. If you come from a competitive family, which I did, it was serious. And like there would be tears shed, you'd be upset afterwards. This happened and you didn't win. Your siblings came into town. This is maybe like five years ago, and we played the game sequence, and your sister got sequence the first time. You got to get it two times. Yeah, and then she put another one more chip on the board and said, I got sequence again. This is five, and then this same row, but these five are also sequence. And that was it was like a fight, and she got so butthurt, she stopped playing. Yeah, game games ended at that point. And I just want to shout out Aliyah, you were looked at the rule book. You are wrong. You were wrong. You were wrong. We know she listens. All right. Last one fighting over who got the good bedroom. I again I feel like that's an absolute yes. It's a it happens with siblings, specifically if you have to share bedrooms, or there's one that's significantly smaller, or one that has like an air conditioning unit and the other one doesn't have it, you're fighting over it. Yeah. I never had like a fighting opportunity about a bedroom because when I was birthed, I had my I had my own room. It was like basically a closet turned into a room or like a storage room when I was for my first like 10 years when all of my siblings were there. And then my sisters moved out. My two oldest, my closest to me was still there. She had the big room. I had the next big room. Moment she moved to college, I took the big room and she would be home for winter break and she would be home for summer break, spring break, and that's it. I get I had the bulk of the time. I get the big room. Yeah. Okay. And she was okay with that. Most of the time it's age-based. Yeah. Or like if you have like more girls versus a boy, like, and that you're at a certain age, you don't want them sharing a room. Yeah. Boys gotta have their own room. Fair. Ask us anything where you guys have asked us questions on our social media, some wedding-based, some personal, and we are gonna dive into those. So I'm gonna do the personal ones first. What are you going to get when you go to the movies? Are you a candy, slurpey, or a drink kind of person? So I probably get the same order that I got for the last 30 years of my life going to the movies. I'm guaranteed to get popcorn. Just slather that thing up with butter. And now they do it for you, the butter. There is like some places that you can do it yourself, but I do like that they do it. And I just I tell them point blank, load that baby up with butter halfway, and then like a third, a third, a third on top. I don't want anything else on it but butter. Okay. But growing up, the other thing, going to the movies all the time, I would well not going all the time, but the movie theater, you get the big bucket. Carmike Cinemas had it. I don't know if CarMike's a thing anymore, but you can buy a popcorn bucket, then was like $25. And refilling it was like a dollar. So we would even not go to the movies, and my aunt let me onto this path. Like, just go get a bucket of popcorn and take it home with you. So I get popcorn, typically like a Coke, and then I'm it depends. Sometimes Sour Patch Kids, sometimes Bunch of Crunch, sometimes cookie dough bites. Cookie dough bites came later in my life, but Bunch of Crunch, Sour Patch Kids are my typical choices. Those are good picks. Yeah. I'm like a Diet Coke, nachos, milk duds. Yeah. I can go for some nachos. I like the like grab at some of yours. Or if someone gets nachos, like, hey, you're gonna, I'm gonna take a couple of those, you can have my popcorn. And we don't go to the movies like a ton. Not with kids, it's not as much. But like when we go, I like to splurge. Like I'm not sneaking in the dollar store candy anytime. I used to. Yeah, I used to. Now I'm not like now. I'm like, I'm getting what I want at the movie theater and going in. Yeah. Our first date that we ever went on. Well, not one of our first dates. We went to go see Frozen, but we snuck in Chipotle. Yes, we did. Yes, we did. Like burritos. Don't look over here. Don't mind us. Like it probably smelled like easily detectable. Oh, yeah. All right. Next question. Obviously, you two like to take your kids to Disney. Yes, we do. Where else is on your bucket list for travel? Not Disney. Not Disney. We can't say Disney. I need to take a break. No, that's what I'm saying. I need to go so start like branching out because they're not. It's great to see them like see these memories, but I want them to go to places that aren't Disney until they are able to ride every ride and getting over their fear of riding every ride. That's what I'm here. I'm thinking, when can I plan my next trip? Like a beach trip is great, but like going places that are kid friendly, first off, but just not Disney. Do you have any places? Not Disney. I would love to take the kids to Sedona or Scottsdale. I have grandmother, so yeah. But then like I grew up going there. That's why I'm like, oh, that would be so fun. When they get to an appropriate age, it'd be nice to like when my when Tyson maybe Benny too, but I want to start taking them to like different stadiums and different ballparks for football, baseball games, not even just like NFL, but like college games. And I don't go to like every I've gone to Daytona, that's it for a NASCAR race. But my aunt takes her kid all over to the different NASCAR places. And those seem like a good time to take like a kid growing up. Yeah. If they're into it. I'm not like into NASCAR, but when you go to a race, it's a good time. They are fun. New York City too, I would say. Yeah, New York City. I feel like hopefully both of them or one of them gets into shows because I would love to go there and do a couple shows. We'll see. Uh wedding questions. Two questions. What is your I will die on this hill wedding tip? That you should have organized seating at your wedding. So I do not believe you should have open seating. I think you either need to have table assignments or seating assignments because when you do not, it's a cluster mess. It lays the timeline. And people don't believe me, but I've seen it. So do organized seating. Organized seating. All right. Second one, what food service style is your favorite at a wedding and why? I like a stations menu the best or family style. So stations I like because usually you can have a bunch of different flavor palettes or types of food. So maybe there's a pasta station, maybe there's a carving station on the other side, um, a salad station. You can mix and match your menu a little bit more and it's quick service. I also love family style, which is when they bring the food to the table and you pass it around and eat it. Um, that's like more communal and usually a little hearty, a little more hearty of a meal. So those are my two favorites. As long as there's food, I'm good. You don't care. All right, VIP table. This segment is brought to you by Betting on the Wedding, an interactive activity that might be one of the most fun things that you can do at your wedding day. It's an app where your guests can make predictions throughout your wedding, like who's going to cry first, how long the speeches will go, who's hitting the dance floor with the craziest move. But here's where it gets better. You can even keep it super light and just play for bragging rights, or if your crowd is a little competitive, you can actually have guests make a real bet. At the end of the night, the winner can take all, or they can split it with the pot with the couple. It's super easy to set up. You create your event, share a QR code, and your guests are in. This is the kind of things your guests will be talking about long after your wedding. All right, VIP table, sibling related. This is TV or movies, best siblings. Yes. And my only question when it comes to this, I like now thought of it, is this sibling duos or is this the encompassing siblings in a TV show? I think it can be any. It doesn't have to be, it doesn't have to be duos. However, a lot of mine are duos. If it is duos, but there are like another sibling or two, and we like bounce those people out of there like the mother did for the wedding? I think so. Okay. All right. Speaking of frozen, my number one pick is gonna be Anna and Elsa. Yeah, that was frozen. That's on my top tier for sure. Yeah. It's like obviously they're a cartoon, but it's a good storyline, and they are good sisters. Like Anna really loves Elsa, Elsa really loves Anna, and they show that throughout the movie in the first one and the second one. Yeah. And like they one sacrificed herself for the other one. Gone to sacrifice herself. They love each other that much that one would sacrifice their own life for the other, which is like huge. And I feel like in terms of like a uh girl sibling, you don't really get that much in movies. No. And that movie, too, was like for the first time when you watched that, I did not see that coming. Yeah. I figured eventually like it would change, but that would be my number one. Okay. I don't like my hair is wackadoo. I feel like Shirley Temple. Is that who it is? Shirley Temple. Animal Crackers in my soup. I don't know. She's yeah, that is her. All right. My first pick is going to be Luke and Leia Skywalker. Oh they were Star Wars. Yeah. I mean, that's just like the classic one. They I don't know whether or not George George Lucas, the creator of Star Wars, planned on them being siblings after the first one. Because I'm pretty sure they kissed. Yeah. There was something about that. There's something romantic going on. And then it turned into being they were siblings. Yeah. So overall though, great. Great duo. Great duo. Yeah. R.I.P. Princess Leia. Oh, but you do too, right? And my second pick is going to be Thor and Loki. They were also on my list. Yeah. They obviously had like a budding rivalry in the first movie and kind of into the second movie a little bit, but they cared for each other. They always were there like to look out, but just at the start, it made it be presumed that one was trying to get the throne over the other. Yeah. But I think the both characters have had a great story arc. The Thor has went like skyrocketed after Ragnarok. Yes. And the Love and Thunder was kind of so so. I still didn't mind it. But the Loki series really opened up Loki series. Loki's the best. I am looking forward to Doomsday because I think both are in it. Are they in it? Yeah. They're at least casted in it. My next one is going to be the Tanner sisters from Full House. Michelle, DJ. I feel like we had a Stephanie. Yeah. I feel like we watched similar shows growing up and still watch similar shows. So they are, I don't know. I grew up watching them. And their three sisters, like my three sisters, I always like them. Even in the remake, I know that um Michelle wasn't in it, but DJ and Stephanie were. And that was still really good. Um, okay, my next one's a movie. You probably do not have this on your list. I might. From The Parent Trap, Hallie and Annie. Didn't have it on my list, but I wish I did. Yeah, I love that movie, and also they're twins. The storyline's great, and I know it's just one person playing both characters, but it's so good in the movie because they have a good like sister arc. Yeah. Great. I can't stop. I can't see you really. Because of the curls. First one is going to be the Starks from Game of Thrones. Oh, I didn't even think of that. Like they always they all all but a few died, half of them died. Yeah. But they had a good that even they had someone that was a half-brother that turned out to be spoiler alert, not a brother at all. Right. And uh Jon Snow. But they like always looked out for each other. They had each other. The North remembers. I just thought that there was um, I'm sure you're not gonna pick the other family in here, but also the Lannisters, they were really close. Yeah, so close that they were in love. They were too close. But that's not my fourth pick. My fourth pick is going to be my fourth pick is going to be Alexis and David from Shits Creek. Oh, just another good one. Another good one. We were, I think it's Shits Creek. Um the best wedding TV show episodes was on my list like a couple episodes back. Um I was hesitant on not putting another Shits Creek, but we just got back in the watching it, or at least I have. It's been just it's always on the pop station on TV. There's nothing on except for that. So I just pop that thing on. What are we watching? Off campus. Off campus. There's no siblings in that one. I did try to actually look to see if that one was on there. Yeah, there is. There is, but they're not really like they're not like that good. They're not enough to make my best siblings on TV. Okay, your last pick. Okay, my last pick. You're gonna probably laugh at me for this. Um, Zach and Cody from my list. It was on my list. I was almost gonna pick it, but I decided Alexis and David. I had a lot of Disney ones on my list because like I watched a lot of Disney shows growing up, but Zach and Cody, I think, were the best ones. And they have like a spinoff series. It was just good TV. Yeah, I didn't really watch it growing up, it was right at the end of my Disney TV series watching. Like I was Lizzie McGuire, even Stevens. Yeah, even Evan Stevens was on my is on my uh honorable mention list. Honor besides uh that for your honorable mentions, I had Bart and Lisa and Maggie, but like Bart and Lisa Simpsons. Um, I had the Weasleys from Harry Potter. Oh, that's a good one, but more of the twins. Yeah, like I didn't want to like put all the siblings, but I felt like the twins, I forget their names now. This is bad. I just put the Weasleys. But the family itself is like they're good siblings, they all watch out for each other. Uh Katniss and Prim Everdeen. Oh, I just watched those movies, and then uh Corey and Eric from Boy Meets World. Yes, they were on mine. Tachala and Cherie, the Black Panthers. Didn't think of them, but that's a really good one too. And uh The Gallagher's from Shameless. I hate that show. And The Roy family from Succession. But like I watched Succession only, like I I want to finish it because it's done, but I got late into the game, and it's really not a series that you can just binge, or maybe it is, but for me it wasn't. Yeah. So I didn't continue on. You had a lot on my list. The only ones that were in addition that were not was the kids from Family Guy, Chris Dewey Mill. Oh, yeah, that should have been on my list. Yeah, that should have been on my list. I thought of like South Park, but like the sibling, like there's no Oh, and Wizards of Waverly Place. I like that sibling combo. Good thing you only picked one Disney because I I think you would have lost, but you might have had a good pick. I tried to I try to change it around with like movies and shows. So yeah. Hopefully I did okay. That was good. That was good picks. All right. So just a reminder that if you have a story, please email it into infow at weddingprocast.com and label it story submission. 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