The power of yet

The Power of Yet

What if one small word could change the way you see yourself and your future?

In this episode, we explore The Power of Yet, a simple but transformative mindset shift that helps you challenge limiting beliefs and break free from the mental patterns that hold you back. So often, we tell ourselves stories like “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do this,” or “I’ll never succeed.” But what happens when you add one powerful word: yet?

Through guided reflection and practical insights, this episode invites you to:

• Recognise the limiting beliefs and schemas shaping your outlook
• Understand how these patterns influence your achievements and confidence
• Learn how to reframe your inner dialogue using the power of yet
• Begin building a more compassionate, growth-focused mindset

This is more than positive thinking, it’s about creating real psychological shifts that open the door to possibility, resilience, and self-belief.

To deepen your journey, this podcast is accompanied by The Power of Yet Workbook, designed to help you put these ideas into practice. You can find it at the Mindful Moments Therapy Shop:
🌐 https://www.mindfulmomentstherapies.co.uk/mmt-shop/The-Power-Of-Yet-Workbook-Digital-Download-p833284261

Because you may not be there… yet.

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Sometimes, the most important step is simply giving yourself space to pause… and notice.

Until Next Time…
Take things at your own pace.
And allow yourself to reconnect in whatever way feels right for you.
 

Take care.

Phiona 

Transcript

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Hello and welcome to the Mindful Moments Therapies podcast with me, Fiona. Today I'm going to be talking about something that can sometimes feel quite confusing and often very personal. The patterns in our thinking that shape how we feel about ourselves, especially when it comes to not feeling good enough. And they can have been with us for a long time, since birth, since a young age, maybe even coming in from other elements. And if you've ever found yourself thinking, why do I feel like this about myself? Even when things seem okay on the outside, or why do I keep falling into the same emotional patterns? Even when I understand them. Today I'm going to be talking about the power of yet. So I'm Fiona from Mindful Moment Therapies. I'm a counsellor, clinical hypnotherapist, a somatic therapist, and I also work with approaches such as EFT tapping, IEMT, which is integral eye movement, and breath work. I work with children, adults, couples, and groups, both face to face in Haven't and online across the UK. And this podcast is a space for you to begin to understand yourself. Maybe in a different way. Or maybe just in a gentler way. A way that helps you make sense of what you've been experiencing and supports you in the beginning to move forward. Everything I offer in the podcasts is always from a place of curiosity. There's no expectation, there's no judgment. Sometimes it's planting a seed of awareness, a seed of something different. And that's all it is. Have you ever caught yourself thinking I'm just not good enough? I always mess things up. I never feel confident. It's always me. These are really human thoughts. And they can feel so automatic, so familiar, that they almost fade into the background. You might not even notice them fully anymore. They might just think like part of how you think. An automatic response, if you like. And over time, they can begin to feel like facts. Not something you question, something you just take as a given. Something you believe. You might notice this voice showing up in small everyday moments. Before sending a message. Do you re reread it and think, oh I can't send that? I can't say that. And you delete it, you write it again. After a conversation, and you're replaying it over and over and over in your mind. Or when making a decision. That quiet doubt. That second guessing. The sense of I've probably got this wrong. You might notice it when something goes well. But instead of feeling good about it, there's a part of you that downplays it even. That wasn't a big deal. Anyone could have done that. Or what about when you get a compliment? And someone will say, Oh, I love your top. And your automatic reply is, Oh, this old thing, I've had it ages. Or, oh, it was on sale, it was cheap, rather than accepting the compliment itself. Or maybe when something doesn't go to plan and the voice becomes louder, and it becomes, see, this is just why I shouldn't even bother. What's important to gently understand is these thoughts just don't appear out of nowhere. They're patterns learned over time, reinforced through experiences, and repeated until they become familiar. But most often, they're born out of survival. They're born out of keeping you safe. Many of the clients I work with don't always realize just how deeply these beliefs run. Often these patterns, sometimes referred to as schemas in therapy, begin much earlier in life. They can develop through early experiences of criticism, feeling unseen or unheard, high expectations, inconsistent support, or environments where love or approval felt conditional. And sometimes it's not even about one big experience. It can be an accumulation of smaller moments, comments, reactions, situations that slowly shape how you begin to see yourself. You might not have noticed it at all of the time. Because as children, or even in early relationships, we often adapt in the best way we can. We learn what keeps us safe. We learn what gains approval. We also learn what avoids conflict. And over time, your mind starts to create a narrative, a way of understanding the world and your place in it. And that narrative may have sounded like I need to get things right to be accepted. If it's not perfect, then it's wrong. If I make a mistake, something will go wrong. Other people seem more capable than me. These beliefs can feel very convincing because they've been repeated, reinforced, and internalized, if you will, a form of self-hypnosis. How does it show up in your life? These patterns don't just stay as thoughts, they begin to shape your experiences, your behavior, and how you relate to yourself and others. You might recognise this in yourself if you overthink decisions, go back and forth, back and forth, worrying about getting it wrong, struggle to trust your own judgment, or often looking to others for reinsurance. Can often feel stuck in repeating emotional patterns, even when you understand them logically. Or you just simply may find relationships challenging. Maybe feeling overwhelmed or unsure of where you stand. Maybe there's just a quiet whisper of I'm just not quite enough. These can also be characterized as perfectionism, people pleasing, avoiding things that feel uncertain, or being overly self-critical. And underneath all of this, there is often a deeper emotional experience, a feeling of not quite feeling safe, of not quite feeling secure, or not quite feeling enough as you are. Sometimes awareness isn't always enough. One of the most common things I hear clients say is, I know where this comes from, I just can't change it. This can feel really frustrating. Because understanding something logically doesn't always shift how it feels emotionally. Because these patterns don't just live in your thoughts, they are held in your emotional responses, your nervous system, and your learned way of coping. So even when you know something isn't true, your body and your emotional patterns may still respond as if it is. This is where self-criticism can deepen. Because you might start thinking, oh, I should be over this by now. Why am I still like this? But healing doesn't work like that. It's not about forcing change, it's about gently creating new experiences that allow change to happen over time. Here is where the power of yet can bring about that change. One small but powerful shift we can begin with is the introduction of the word yet. It might sound simple at first, almost too simple, but sometimes the smallest change in language can create the biggest shifts in how we relate to ourselves. Because when we say things over and over and over again, like I can't cope, I never feel confident, I'm no good at relationships, I always mess everything up. I just can't change. There's a finality to those statements. They sound closed, fixed, certain. When we repeat them often enough, our mind simply begins to treat them as facts and as a truth. Not as a feeling, not as a moment, not as a response to stress or fear, but as an identity. So instead of I'm struggling right now, it becomes a belief of I'm someone who can't cope. Instead of I don't feel confident in this situation, it becomes I'm not a confident person. And this is where the word yet becomes so important. Because yet opens the door, it creates a space where there was previously a full stop. So I can't cope becomes can't cope yet. I'll never feel confident becomes I don't feel confident yet. I don't know how to set boundaries becomes I don't know how to set boundaries yet. I can't trust myself because I can't trust myself yet. And that small word changes the emotional tone of the sentence. It doesn't pretend everything's okay, it doesn't dismiss how hard things feel, it doesn't ask you to jump into false positivity. Instead, it gently says, This is where I am right now, in the present. But it may not be where I stay. It grounds you into the present moment, not fixing you into the past or fearing what may be in the future. It's very different from forcing yourself to think positively. Because positive thinking can sometimes feel really invalidating. For example, if you're feeling overwhelmed and someone just says, just believe in yourself, you'll be fine. That just may not land. But yet meet you where you are. It acknowledges the struggles whilst also leaving room for growth. It allows both things to be true. I'm finding this hard, and I'm still capable of change. This is what we call creating psychological space, and this is often where change begins. In therapy, we go deeper than just changing thoughts. We can begin to explore where these patterns came from, how they've been maintained, and what you've needed at the time that may not have been met. We gently and softly challenge those beliefs, not by dismissing them, but by understanding them. We begin to build emotional resilience, helping you to feel safer in your own responses and more grounded in yourself. And over time, we can begin to create new ways of thinking, feeling, and relating. So if you've recognized yourself in any part of this, in the overthinking, the self-doubt, the feeling of not being enough, I just want to gently say there is nothing wrong with you. These patterns developed for a reason at the time. And now you're in a place where you can begin to understand them differently. If something in today's episode has resonated with you, you're very welcome here. I've created the Power of Yet workbook, which is available on my website. It's a digital download at $4.99 and is a great way of just gently beginning to challenge the negative thinking loops and cycles that you may be in. It's a great workbook that's simple, yet can really help support you in those changes that you're seeking. So if you head on over to my website at www.mindfulmomentstherapies.co.uk, you can click on the shop link and find the workbook and download it. If you feel you'd really like to work on this more deeply on a one-to-one setting, reach out and we can have a chat and see if you're in the right place to begin some therapy sessions. Future episodes, I'm going to continue to gently explore these patterns, helping you understand them in a way that feels clearer and more supportive. I'll also be sharing practical tools you can begin to use in your everyday life. So it's not just understanding what you've been through, but also learning how to move forward in a way that feels right for you. And if you still feel ready to explore this more deeply, then do reach out. We can work together face to face in Haven or online across the UK. You can find more information in the description or on my website. But for now, just take care of yourself, and I'll be back here with you in the next episode.