Episode 11 - Calm Ain’t Cheap

Peace sounds beautiful until you realize what it costs. In this episode, I talk about what I had to give up to protect my peace — from old habits and mindsets to people who only knew how to exist in chaos.

This isn’t just about quiet — it’s about choosing calm over comfort, growth over noise, and the life you deserve over the one you were surviving in.

If you’ve ever lost something just to feel whole again, this one’s for you.

Transcript

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Hey, you are now locked in the hard reset, the juice cast on. Let's go. Hey, what's going on? So this episode we will be speaking about the price of peace because calm isn't cheap, you know. Um having peace, you have to pay for it in some way. Um, for me, I would have to say that when I was younger, I didn't really value peace. I just valued fun and just going out, you know, having a good time. Um, the peace that I had was when I used to go to the gym at midnight and shoot around until like four or five in the morning by myself. That was my peace at that moment in time. Now, uh other than that, would I say I had peace? I can't say that I had peace. I still had things and issues that I had to deal with. I still was dealing with the emotions of being disowned by my family. I was still dealing with the loss of my best friend. So I didn't really have peace, but I tried to find it in things that you know I found solace in, which was like basketball, um, hanging out with my friends, uh, Lenny Rockets and whatnot. So those were the things that I basically uh try to do to pass the time, but in reality, I never really had peace when I was younger. Um as a kid, I would say I didn't have peace in the first half. You know, when my mom and dad were together, it wasn't much peace. Uh there's always something going on. But once uh they broke up, there was a lot more peace. But even then, um I well, no, there was peace. I can't say there was any issues once I was living with my mom, it was just me and her, so there wasn't uh any extra curricula that's going on. It was just pretty chill. Um but you know, as I got older, peace was uh something I didn't really think about and something I didn't really care for. I was just trying to have fun and have a good time. Um, by the time I joined the Navy, I still didn't necessarily have peace. I actually found uh my peace working. You know, that that was that was my piece, having a goal to attain, trying to get a goal, trying to get uh trying to do my best and you know receive accolades. That was my peace. That's where I found solace. I found solace and working. Oh, there goes Jahan. There goes little Jahan. Yeah. Um, so I found peace and basically uh how can I say it working. Like I was at work all the time. And that's mainly because when I was home, there was no uh there's nothing really to occupy my mind. So whenever I was at home and uh chilling in my house in Japan, it was just me by myself alone. So I wasn't really uh I didn't find much peace being alone in my thoughts, to be honest. So um that was a lot, and then eventually once I ended up in San Diego, I in my head peace was most important. So I actually sought out peace once I was in San Diego. That was what I actually was trying to achieve. That's what I was trying to get. I didn't care about you know goals, I didn't care about work really, it was just I wanted to be mentally and emotionally well. So I proceeded to focus on getting peace. And when I started doing that, um what happened was I was uh I was actually talking to family more, so that was good. You know, I was living with Brown and Gonzo, so I was talking to my friends more, it's a lot more social. And you know, uh the time that I did spend alone, I spent, you know, just looking up different things like real estate investing, how to get in, uh, what's the best strategies, uh, how to make money from it. Like just different things I was interested in. And um, while doing that, you know, I was still working through my head of all the things that happened in the past and kind of get better with that. And once I got better with that, you know, it's just uh a continuous process. You continue working on it, you continue trying. So then after I uh got used to that, I proceeded to you know, meet my wife and everything. And now, when I look at it now, peace is at home. Um, peace is the environment that I love being in, which is around my immediate loved ones, you know. Um, but now when I'm telling you about peace and how I found peace and I'm focused on it now and how I have a lot of it now compared to when I was younger. Let's talk about the price of peace. In order to fully get peace, I feel you have to let go of everything. All expectations, um, all of that in order to get peace. You need to focus on just being a good person, being good on how you treat people. Because when you treat people well, you feel good that you treated people well. It helps your uh mental well-being, you know. So I feel that is most important. Um also what comes with peace is cutting out all the toxic shit from your life. So um, those who are put you in bad situations or have you feeling bad about yourself in some way for no reason, not because you did something wrong, but just because you know they have some kind of securities that they have. You gotta let those things go, you gotta let those people go. Um having those people around is only gonna weigh you down mentally and make you feel bad about yourself. So there is a price to pay when you talk about having peace. You gotta get rid of all the toxic things and all the bad things that make you feel bad and make you not want to go for your goals, um, be good to people, be good to the environment, and you know, do your best. So for me, throughout my life, the price I've had to pay for peace, it's not just that. It's uh, you know, I gotta love basketball. I played basketball for years. I used to practice by myself all the time, practice different drills. I used to go to the gym, do all that. Um, and me finding peace, I actually let go of basketball. I no longer feel the need to play basketball, to vent, or to get out of my frustrations or things of that nature. Like I it doesn't serve me anymore. The way I do it now is literally, you know, spending time with my family and talking to my therapist. And I'm good. I don't need to go to the gym for four or five hours lifting and shooting a ball. I don't need that anymore. Um, I let that go for my peace. It became a task. It didn't become something that I love doing. It became something that I made myself do because I felt like I had to do it for whatever reason. So um, you know, I let that go. This is when you find your peace, you let certain things go that don't serve you anymore. And you hold on to the things that help you feel well and help you feel better and help you become a better person. So to me, that's the main thing. If you don't take anything, the price of peace is to let all of the toxic and weighing things go. Focus on yourself, do what you gotta do. Now, in regards to people, do you want to just like let people go? Let's uh give it some more nuance. Like if you have a kid, you don't let your kid go to find peace. That means you need to find something internal to work on so you don't feel that your kids are weighing you down because you brought them into this world. You're supposed to care for them. They're there for you, you're there for them. You should want to do whatever you can to make sure that their life is good. So they shouldn't be considered something that weighs you down and doesn't bring you peace. It should be something that motivates you and thrive and makes you thrive in whatever you're trying to do to achieve whatever goals you want to achieve so they can have a better life or they can have a good experience. Um when it comes to people, if people are affecting you negatively and putting you in bad situations, they're always talking down on you and making you feel bad about yourself, you shouldn't feel wrong for letting those people go. They're not serving you, they're actually breaking you down and making you feel bad about themselves. You don't want somebody that's gonna break you down and feel bad about yourself. Now, if there's someone who's honest and telling you of your toxic traits and telling you, you know, you need to stop doing these drugs, you need to stop hanging out with these type of people because these types of people are putting you in bad situations, those aren't bad friends. You want to keep those. They're trying to keep you on a straight narrow, straight narrow and keep you on a good life. That's all they're trying to do. So I don't consider them negative. I don't think they would be negative to your peace. If they're invading your peace by telling you these things, that means internally something within you is keeping you from being your best self. That you're not allowing them to improve your life by keeping you from the things that don't serve you. So remember, uh peace in itself is an idea that can be seen in doing good things that bring you peace and feeling good as a person, and then also escapism. You find peace in doing bad things because they make you feel better and not think about you know other things that are your trauma and you know uh holding you down. But in the end, if you have trauma and things that are holding you down, you need to confront those and face those so you can be at peace with those situations, and then you won't have to go out and do things that negatively affect you. So um, that's just how I feel about peace. The price of peace is literally you need to let some things go and you need to confront some things so you can let those things go. It's all about letting go so you can have less to worry about and more to enjoy. Um, this is the episode for finding peace. Um, what you're listening to is hard reset. I'm Juice Castone, episode 11. This was Hard Reset. Hopefully, you got some. Leave a comment, answer the polls. Go ahead and contact me at Juice Castone on Instagram, Twitter, everything to go and holler at your boy. Expectations, basically.