Episode 46 - Joy Is Rebellion

The best revenge? Thriving anyway.
In this episode, we talk about why choosing joy is one of the most rebellious things you can do. When people go out of their way to stop you, block you, or see you fail — and it doesn’t work — that frustration on their face is proof that your joy is powerful. Other people’s opinions and actions don’t define your outcome. How you respond does. What you think does.
Choose joy. Not because you want to be a rebel, but because nothing bothers them more than watching you win anyway.

Transcript

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So I truly believe that joy is rebellion. You find joy in it. And it's not because you want to be a rebel. It's because you find joy in the fact that those who put up guardrails for things that you find to do. It's not working. Everything that you do to stop that from happening, you know what, not even stop it. Because you can't stop it. But you can stop the outcome that they want. And the fact that you can stop the outcome that they want. And see the frustration on our faces. See how much they're annoyed. See how much that they just hate that what they wanted to happen didn't happen. I truly believe there's joy in it. I believe that that alone can bring you joy if you think about it correctly. Cause in the end, other people's opinions don't matter. And really what they do don't matter. How you respond is what really matters. What you think is what really matters. They're just out there trying to do whatever they need to do to stop you from your bowl. Me personally, I can say over the years that some things have changed. There was a time back in the day where I felt that people didn't like me, or I was told that people are doing things that are uh trying to hinder my success. I won't say I get upset, that I'd be down about it, that they either thought negatively, or I'll be annoyed that they were going out their way to try to stop me from achieving my goals. Now I'm getting to the point to where I don't get annoyed if they don't like me. I don't care if they don't like me. I don't care if anyone likes me. I like me. In the end, it's only really matters, right? You like yourself. No one else has to. Um. As long as that happens. Um, yeah. I don't care. And then if I'm hearing that people are doing certain things, or it comes up that people are doing certain things to try to, you know, hinder my growth or take away my opportunities, it doesn't bother me anymore. In the end, I actually thrive in the idea that people are trying to stop me. It's more motivation. If they're trying to stop you, there's a reason behind it. And more than likely, at least for my case. It's because they see your trajectory. They see how hard you work, and they see the things that are coming to you that they want to bring themselves. And they know they just don't have that it factor to get it. So they do whatever they can to try to stop you. Some of the different schemes. Not even just schemes. Sometimes they just try to go out their way just to be addicted to you, be annoying, be mean. And in the end it doesn't matter. Because that's all they can do. They can't do anything else. Like what else are they gonna do besides that? Which means in the end, all you have to do is just focus and get the job done. Because if that's all they can do, what's really stopping you from achieving your goals? The only thing that can stop you from achieving your goals is your attitude. So you gotta make sure you approach it correctly. You still treat people with respect, you still show up every day, you still do what you can to help the team achieve whatever goal is set. And then once uh anything random happens or people are testing your patience or anything like that, you let it go. You let it go. Because in the end it doesn't matter. What they say doesn't matter, what they're trying to do to you doesn't matter. Because it's not gonna stop you from getting where you're trying to go. So you let them have it. You don't have to go back and forth. That's how they feel, and that's how they feel. In the end, you're just being yourself and you're just keeping it real. Nothing else to it. I feel that in the end, when you are rebelling, you don't just do it just to do it. There has to be a reason. Whether it's a system, whether it's uh you don't like the way things are done. There has to be a purpose. So yes, you rebel, but also you take care of yourself. You don't put yourself in compromising positions, you don't put yourself in a situation to where they can backfire because you don't want to stop your progress. So you continue to rebel in your own ways, but you still be careful, and that truly in itself is joy. Because then there's one realization that you come to terms with. No one can really stop you. No one. No one can stop you. You can only try to put obstacles in your way. Only you are capable of stopping yourself. And if you realize that you are the only person that can stop you from getting to where you want to go, at that point, then why be the reason that you don't make it? Why not be the reason that you succeed? Why aren't you good enough for good things? Why aren't you good enough for achieving things? One thing I've learned about um corporate culture is uh something that Jay-Z even said. It's politics as usual. There's literal politics in everything. How you treat people is everything. No matter what you do, it all can come back and no matter what you're doing, it builds this uh character that they think of at work. It doesn't mean you have to be careful. What it actually means is that you just be yourself. Don't overdo it trying to put in a good impression, don't go out your way to try to make people feel comfortable. Just be yourself. And of course, in being yourself, you wanna be respectful. You don't wanna uh be inappropriate, you wanna be professional. And that's what you're gonna be. Other than that, you let your personality go through. And that's it. What's the point of faking if uh say you do try to fake who you are? Now you have this pressure that you have to be a certain way that you're not. And then on top of that, what if it doesn't work? And they still don't like you anyway, then what you gonna do? There's no point in it. In the end, just be yourself. And that's just how I feel about it. I'm just kinda stone, and it's just how I reset.