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Ep. 4 Clocking High & Low Vibrational Energies | Getting Up & Staying Up
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What does it really mean to be in your highest vibration?
In this episode of Women in Bloom, we move past the buzzwords and talk about what high vibrational states actually feel like: clear-minded, hopeful, light-bringing, and spacious. We explore how our inner world and outer environments shape our energy.
We reflect on how our highest vibration isn’t about being positive all the time, but about having enough clarity and space to show up as ourselves. We also talk honestly about what pulls us out of that state.
Together, we discuss how to lovingly approach another sister when she’s operating from a lower vibrational place—without judgment, fixing, or self-abandonment. And just as importantly, we name the wisdom in knowing when to step back, create breathing room, and protect our own spaciousness, even when our hearts want to stay.
We also touch on navigating low vibrational energy at work, how it shows up, and how to stay grounded without dimming your light or shrinking yourself.
This conversation is an invitation to notice what lifts you, what weighs you down, and how to move through the world with clarity, compassion, and care—for yourself and for each other.
🌸 Because your highest vibration isn’t something you force. It’s something you return to.
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Hello to y'all and happy new year. Um, welcome back to Women in Bloom. Yes, we had a podcast name change. If you didn't catch it in the last episode, we are going by a new name. Um, Eldris and I are enrolled in a podcast training course, and one of the things that they spoke about was being very intentional and very explicit about what your podcast is about in the title. So we decided to switch it up. So, yeah, welcome to Women in Bloom. Yes.
SPEAKER_01Yes, a little switch up is good every now and then. Yes.
SPEAKER_03And this is your first time on this podcast. You're boomers and boomers. I'm brand new then. You're brand new. Brand new. Okay, okay. So welcome, welcome. Um, you know, it's the new year, and it's the perfect time to kind of discuss that in the intentions that we have for ourselves for the upcoming year. Yes. Um, I kind of touched on this in the last podcast. Um, there's a lot of pressure that comes around this time of year, right? And then there's you also have that layering of folks telling you, you know, just trying to tell you when when you need to set intentions. It should be aligned with spring. It shouldn't be in the winter anyway. Right. Just stay in bed, which I I disagree with. Totally. Because I'm tapping into this new energy.
SPEAKER_01Yes, and and and we're in a new we're in a new season, you know, this is a new year, um, a new beginning year, right? So um it makes sense to really look at how you're moving, you know, and be intentional about how you want to be. Right, right.
SPEAKER_03Right. And even if it's just a check-in, like even if it's just like, oh, I was doing this, let me see, is that really how I feel like I'm do I do I want to do a continuation of that? Like some of the things that we kind of set out to do in 2025. And really, some of these insights come sporadically. Everyone's on their own little like personal journey, right? So it ain't all gonna come in January. This is just like a nice opportunity to, in my mind, tap into the collective energy.
SPEAKER_01Right. I think what January does remind you to be intentional, right? Right. So a lot of times what happens is it's not intentional, we're actually responding in the moment. Which is, you know, it could be, you know, good or bad. But uh January says, let's not just respond in the moment. Let's think about some of the things that you actually want instead of, hmm, well, I could have, right? It's what you want and how you go about getting it. And so that's why I like January. And because, you know, it's my birthday. It's my birthday month, that's right.
SPEAKER_03Capricorn season.
SPEAKER_01Capricorn season.
SPEAKER_03Love it. Okay, okay. Those winter, I don't the only one I know is you. The only one I really know is you. I have had only two Sagittarius encounters. I used to have a really close Sagittarius friend. Um, and then a really cl a close encounter with a Sagittarius man. We will not go there. Okay, let's do a brief encounter. Let me not say close, a brief encounter. But um, yeah, so I'm just like, I'm not even well versed in y'all's except for Capricorn. Now I know a Capricorn when I see one.
SPEAKER_01You've been studying. This is good. This is good.
SPEAKER_03I've been studying. Um so today we're talking, you know, right in in step with the new year, we're talking about high vibration, right? Um, and how to, you know, sustain, you know, sometimes we have these kind of like life is a life is a is a walk, right? It's a journey. So you won't be at one level all the time. But, you know, when we think of like getting and staying at our highest kind of vibration, our highest self, um, that's that's the task, right? Like when you are encounter when you are faced with those things that kind of disrupt, how do you get back into sync with yourself? Well, let's start by kind of discussing what is what is it to be in your highest vibration. And I think that it looks different for every person.
SPEAKER_01It does. I think I think there's some commonalities, right? But the way we get to those common commonalities, right? That might be different, right?
SPEAKER_03Mm-hmm. Yeah. Like I'm very um keen on, you know, the other day I said something and you were like, girl, what you you shouldn't say that. Remember what I said? Uh-uh. I was like, oh, the best part of my day is when I'm in the mirror, right? Yes. And you were like, huh? What girl? If you don't shut up.
SPEAKER_01I forgot about that.
SPEAKER_03And I was like, wait a minute, let me explain myself. Let me explain myself. Me feeling high vibration is my hair being done.
SPEAKER_04Okay.
SPEAKER_03It is um my nails being almost right. It's the smell in my clothes, like the perfume I spray, all those, like, I don't know, there must be some type of like uh Virgo energy somewhere in my birth chart because like the just this beauty and aesthetic is something that is pleasing to me. Okay. And so I get that. Even when I'm in spaces that are very like I can tell someone has put um a meticulous amount of energy into the design of the space, right? It really means a lot to me. Okay. So that helps me get to this vibration of like that's like taking care of, that's like a baseline for me.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. All right.
SPEAKER_01I and I can I can get there with uh spaces, right? Because I like a well-curated space that goes together, but I also like meaning, right? Like so pieces in a space have a not just a purpose, but they have meaning. So there's there's something, a story, something attached.
SPEAKER_03Some type of sentimental value.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. Like everything that I can say, oh, like I don't have any random pieces in like my special rule, right? Right, right, right. Like every piece has a story, right? And so and I can feel the energy from that. Yeah. Um, but I I so I can I can get there about aesthetics, right? Helping you get to your highest vibration. I think for me, um, when you said that comment, it was it was it was it was um I I think it was not the best way to to phrase it. To describe it.
SPEAKER_02It needed some more elaboration.
SPEAKER_01Right, because the immediate image that came to mind for me was like a a cartoon character, right, that can't get out the mirror. Okay, okay. So uh so I'm glad that you um explained it then and that we're having a deeper discussion about it now because I um I I am and have not been, like even when I was working, right, um, I would dress a certain way and I buy clothes a certain way um for the job. But I always said, like if I was doing a presentation or something that you I said, if you saw me on the weekend, you wouldn't recognize me.
SPEAKER_03Right?
SPEAKER_01She's gonna be in your African attire. Well, no, this is before I got to that. Oh, okay, okay. This is when I was grunging it out on the weekends. So uh a pair of jeans, not pressed, t-shirt, some sneakers. That don't even sound like you though. Yes, it was. Picture going to the public market, right?
SPEAKER_03But I have always known you to have a lot of clothes.
SPEAKER_01Uh absolutely. Three closets full of clothes. Yes. And an outfit for every occasion. But when I didn't have to do anything, you were like, I was totally relaxed. And it didn't have to look good.
SPEAKER_03Okay. And that's is that high vibration for you? Um, it's open for me. Okay. It's simple for me. It's easy, it's accessible, it's not a lot of thought. No comp complex No pressure.
SPEAKER_01No complexity to it, just oh, grab that, put it on, and a baseball cap, and I'm gone. Right?
SPEAKER_03And your little crossbody bag.
SPEAKER_01My little crossbody bag. Can't go nowhere without that. Yeah, you can't, because you gotta have all your little implements, all your little tools gotta be with you. Right, right. So um, but uh I w I could recognize that when I was feeling um, when I was dressed, like I've I was going to work and I had on the particular suit, my face was done, my hair was done, and all the other stuff was done. Speaking my language. Never a name person, but if I all the other stuff was done, oh man. I walked out. And then you know I always did that look in the mirror after after before you left, put my little foot out.
SPEAKER_02Right, right. I'm sitting in the hood of the thing, right, right.
SPEAKER_01So I could get with that too. Feeling good about that, right? Um and so I think when uh for me, when I'm in my highest, like I think about, like forget about how I look, right? Things that make me feel good help me get to my highest vibration. So one of the things is um fresh cut flowers. Yes. Right? Yes. Any if you give me some fresh cut flowers, I don't care what else is going on in the world, I can easily, uh, just appreciate the goodness of that.
SPEAKER_03And the thought, yeah. You know? And the time that you have with those flowers. I extended it. I got about five, six days.
SPEAKER_01Right? I got but but I extended. You know, I extended. I can get to two weeks with some flowers, right? So teach me your ways. Yes, yes. I'll do that. I'll do that. But um, yeah, aesthetically, like those things, like my plants, right? Um and the just the life in them. Mm-hmm, right? Those that can help me um get and stay there.
SPEAKER_03Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_01You know?
SPEAKER_03Yeah. I guess like moments where you're like tending and it's just you're you're with nature, but you're in this this the safety and warmth and comforts of creature comforts of your home. I can understand that. So like what are some of the s the in your body like when you can tell your high vibrational? And I wanna talk specifically about that because I think it's good to pick up on the signs and signals of when you're out of sync. Like sometimes you can just be so like rote and going through the motions of life that you don't really sense that you're kind of out of alignment.
SPEAKER_01Right, right. There's I think um a tension that you have in your body that's like constant. And um when you're intentional about um not having that tension, you can feel like an ease, right? You almost like you're just imagine that your your eyebrows are you know stay lifted, right? Like you always walk around like you surprise, right? Okay. Right, and then you stop doing that and you can feel your whole, you know, your brain just sort of like ease and like give space in there, right? So um, and I have to do that sometimes. Relax myself, right? Breathe, and just let my eyebrows down. Let your eyebrows.
SPEAKER_03Let the eyebrows unscrunch. Unscrunch your face, right?
SPEAKER_01You know, fix your face. This is that's fix your face. That's something that adults would say to you uh in a minute, right? But you now you know it has meaning. Yeah. Like fix your face.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. I think of that phrase, and it's like, you know, it was really like, you know, nobody wants to see you frowning up, like you know, who you think you, you know, it was a it's a child's way of like speaking back when when they can't say, so they show it on their face. Right, right. But um, like as a like when you look at the phrase now, it's like, what's wrong with you? Something's wrong. Like, you know, you got to go get yourself together.
SPEAKER_01So and and I think that we're in a time too where um um uh I think a lot of people have not learned or not been taught to self-regulate displeasure. So the way that this you we can all be displeased about a particular thing, right? How how how does that displeasure impact you? Right? Is it gonna throw everything off so that er all the good now is impacted by that and all the good in your life and all the good that you in terms of your relationships to people? Because a lot of times people have displeasure and they um are, you know, it's it's how I show my displeasure. Like I have to show it to people. Yeah. Right? Which is low vibration. Low vibration. When you have folks who I n I'm displeased and so everybody gotta be uh that's right. I'm gonna let you know so that you can be displeased with me. Right? Misery kind of loves company, I think. So um that's another thing. That's another thing. Like you can be around low vibrational people. And that will and if you're not seeking higher, if you're not intentional about that, you can bring yourself lower.
SPEAKER_03Absolutely, absolutely. It's funny because I do think you can pick up on it like stepping into another person's space and world. You can feel when you're stepping into like a higher vibration, like, oh wow. You know, or like a you know, right a good vibration. A good vibration, and when you're stepping into one that you're like, okay, I'm not gonna be here. You know what I'm saying? Like I'm not gonna be, I can't stay in here for too long.
SPEAKER_01Right, right. And and and getting up and moving. And you know what? Um I think that there's something to be said about um when you have people in your life who can help you see when you're having a low vibrational moment.
SPEAKER_03Oh what about a low vibrational season? Oh, sometimes it's more than a moment.
SPEAKER_01It is, you know, it is, it is, it is. For me, it's a moment, right? But I'm old enough now that uh I try not to have no seasons. But you're right. Sometimes it is more than that. When I was younger, oh yeah, it could be a season where you just trudging through. You know, you're going through the motions.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. What's it like when someone has tapped you on the shoulder to say, um You low vibrational, sis?
SPEAKER_01It doesn't come like that. You don't come like that. You don't come like that. But that is um, you know what happens is I am low vibrational out of my mouth. Okay, in your words. In my words, right? Um and that's where it'll come out, right? So um, and occasionally, it this is how it comes out for me. This is when I feel like it, when I'm whiny. When I'm oh, I didn't get this, or I didn't have that, or this is so hard, and somebody could say, Well what what what is that?
SPEAKER_04Like right, right?
SPEAKER_01You acting like and I got oh well thank you, right? Because I sometimes I need to be um pulled back to myself, right? And um, and so so I'm appreciative, right? But it doesn't it doesn't come like you low vibr, what's good, what you know, does it's not that it's sort of like, well, what do you mean? Like really asking me some questions. Like even yesterday I was having um a discussion and it was the way it was put to me really has had me thinking yesterday about it was about the the book. Right. Which book?
SPEAKER_03Um Oh Strengths of the Black Family.
SPEAKER_01Right, okay and so um uh Beyond this Moment coach, Rev uh Tanisha, right? So she's working with me on how to move that to the next uh uh level. And and so the question that she asked was like, what is what how come you haven't been talking about it? Like what is it that you are not feeling about it? Like uh and almost as if to saying, you m you know, you is it it's is it a little bit of an imposter syndrome going on there? Or like you know, and I've and sometimes what we do, we put out the energy of of it's not good enough, right? And um so I was sitting with that. And so uh I so for for and you could be low vibrational on certain things and high in other areas, right? So I've been low vibration with this book. Which is a everybody who and I haven't known anyone who picked it up and said, mm, like Right.
SPEAKER_03That thing flew like hotcakes.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Everyone who looked at it said, Oh wow, because it's visually appealing and it does all the things.
SPEAKER_03It's engaging, you work with it, you don't just read it and set it down, you can integrate it.
SPEAKER_01Integrate it, right, right. And you could use it with other folks into life, right? But I haven't been acting like it's all that. Yeah. Right? And so I have to sit with what is it about that that for me that I need to bring up into another level? Because I I because I do think it's good. Yeah, yeah. But I've got to work on me to do that. Yes.
SPEAKER_03Um, and it I think there's an aspect of self-promotion that comes when you do something like that. Right. And if you're not someone that's used to, you know, every room you go in talking about yourself, then it can be a challenge. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Definitely. When I'm feeling high vibrational, I'm much more confident about the things that I'm doing.
SPEAKER_04Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_01Okay, okay. Um, so that's how I one of the things that I can recognize when I'm not as confident about a certain thing.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, yeah, for sure. Um I know that you know, when I'm feeling high vibrational, there's like a just a peacefulness that kind of I that washes over me. I mean, there's plenty of things to complain about, there's plenty of things to celebrate as well. Um, you know, I'm feeling balanced. Um and when I say balanced, there's one particular area where I'm I'm a heady person, like I can be in my, you know, introvert, I can be in my head. Um but when I'm balanced, I'm kind of like I'm observant and social. There's like a a nice equilibrium that I'm able to find where I'm not required to engage more than I want to, and I'm also um comfortable enough to engage in the way that I want to. Yes, yeah. Um so that's part of, you know, I think low vibration is when I am a mute. Like when I'm very, very quiet and not saying anything, it's low vibration. And it's like there's an aspect of me not speaking because I am now I'm churning. You know what I'm saying? Like I'm in my head. I'm in my head, overly in my head. So like the spaciousness and freedom to kind of just freely be outside of that space is um is is when I'm in a balanced like I enjoy that quiet time, but not so much.
SPEAKER_01Right. I I like quiet time, and um I think yeah, that I can tend to get it in my head. Um but I've had those moments where like being a mute, and if I'm in a space where I am mute, I will leave.
SPEAKER_03Mm. Mm. Tell us tell us tell us more about that.
SPEAKER_01Well, uh you know how you you might be in a in a particular you've gone to a gathering. You didn't go, you know, you you know people and you didn't go with anyone, so you don't having someone that you're conversing with. Um but you, you know, you go in, you're planning on having a good time, and um, and you get to a point where you, you know, like have you ever been in a space and you're saying like I think I'm done here.
SPEAKER_03Oh yeah. Right? Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01And I was just like, I'm not talking to anybody, nobody's talking to me. Uh um and it's not like I'm being antisocial, but I've you know, socialized enough in that particular space, and I want to leave now. Yeah. You know? And so, um, and I could it could it will happen for me because I am a social person. If I'm in a space where I should be social and I'm not being social, then that's not my space.
SPEAKER_03That's a sign. That's a sign. You take that as a sign. I take that as a sign.
SPEAKER_01And I'll just leave, you know, and somebody will look up and say, Oh, oh, where where'd Jackie go?
SPEAKER_03I just learned that that's called the Irish goodbye. An Irish goodbye? Yeah. Why is that a goodbye? I don't even know. I didn't look up the like the historical like reference or whatever, but um someone posted on socials just like, How do you leave a party? And then they said Irish goodbye, and I was like, I think that might be what I do. Let me go look that up. And it's when you leave without saying anything because you don't want to dampen the mood.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_03So you just quietly slip out the door. The purpose of The Irish goodbye is you don't want to end the party. Just because your party is over doesn't mean you want to end some other folks' party. But I do think maybe like a a text afterwards, maybe five minutes after you left, like a hey y'all, um, I'm I'm headed out, you know, that would have been like a nice balance. Right. Because sometimes once you when one person does that, what we see is the domino effect is there's three other people that that are like, I'm gonna head out too. Right. I'm gonna go at least one person is going with you. Right, right. You know what I'm saying? So you don't want to be that person that starts that domino.
SPEAKER_01Right. And but it and so to that point, by the time I got back to the hotel. Everybody was there? No. Oh. They had already decided to break break up.
SPEAKER_03Okay.
SPEAKER_01So I could have waited maybe another 10, 15 minutes.
SPEAKER_04Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_01And you know, talk to folks and see. But but it was I was in a space where I felt like I don't need to be here and I would rather be someplace else.
SPEAKER_04Right?
SPEAKER_01And so it was taking care of me. But I could have done that in a in a in a different way. Yeah. Right? But I recognized that the vibration in that space did not match you. Did not match me or wasn't serving me. Yeah. Like, you know, sometimes you're in a space and you just like, why am I here? Mm-hmm. You know? Yeah, yeah. And I think I used to talk to you guys about this. Sometimes I'm I get a warning right of that triggers me that I'm going to be responding in a different way, a way that I don't want to respond. Yeah. And and sometimes that warning is look sort of like my body telling me. Okay. And so I'll have like a prickly um my hairline will be prickly. Right. Yeah. My hairline will be prickly. And there's interesting. And and and there's a a a a space on my head that'll be like mmm tight. Mm-hmm. Almost tight. So, um, so uh part of me being operating in my higher vibration, right, physically, is paying attention to the warning signs that my life is. In your body.
SPEAKER_03Right, right. You know, I just get this jitteriness and like um just overall tension, like muscle tension, body tension, when I am in this space of low lower vibration. And it's not a constant kind of thing. Um, but it definitely is something that pops up. My body gives me signals almost immediately, like this is, you know, this is not necessarily or like so the extremes, like when I'm in like a like I remember one time a few years ago, I had started wearing my Apple Watch consistently, and this is why I wear it every day today. I was having a tough conversation with one of my staff. Um, and it was kind of I was trying to coach him around something, and he was extremely um resistant to it. And he began to like buck in our meeting. So, you know, I'm having to um maintain my cool as his, you know, supervisor. Okay. And um also I'm responding to like my watch is going off saying your blood pressure shot up just now. Are you okay?
SPEAKER_04Okay.
SPEAKER_03And it was an immediate signal that, and I I was so grateful for that because I think so often we find ourselves in these spaces and we don't um we just endure them, like all these little like aggressions and you know, little traumas that we pick up. Um and it could be just a byproduct of the work that you do or having to manage people. It's not necessarily like disorder in your life, but these things happen in the human experience. And you might think it's normal. Right. That that blood pressure, that high blood pressure and your heart racing, you might think that that is your normal state. And some people do get in this into this cycle whereby they're stuck in that. Right, right. Um, and that was like an indicator. I actually called my boss and told her I'm gonna go home for the rest of the day. After I finished that conversation and closed that out, I made the executive decision for my health that I was going to break from that experience and allow myself to reset, you know.
SPEAKER_01Right. No, that's good. That's good to be able to to know that and also to figure out what your body needs in order to bring it back down. Exactly. You know, exactly. I think that um not responding to those kind of aggressions helps to keep you in that space, right? But to recognize and to remove yourself from that that environment is really, really important. Um but I I was um thinking about some of the things that help me to stay in a high vibrational space is one thing is um being reflective. And I've said this before, I'm very reflective on myself. Like self-reflection is a tool that I use. And especially anytime when I have something circulating in my mind for a while that I might have a little unease with, right? Asking myself, what well, where did this come from? You know, why why is that there? And trying to track my movements and my actions back to that. Because a lot of times when I have unease, it's about something that I've done, not necessarily something that somebody else has done. You said that before, yeah. So um trying to track that. Um, but what I've been practicing, what I've tried to practice regularly, um, that is have has more meaning for me now, is uh um gratefulness or just having an attitude of gratitude, right? I have a lot of good. A lot of good, especially when I think about you know some of my peers, some people that I know having so many challenges. And not that not that I don't have challenge, right? But I have so much good. And whenever I get to a space where I am grateful, um I have a different attitude of uh not so much the attitude, I have a different way of interacting with people. I mean that's how you can see it. Um when I'm have an attitude of gratitude, I'm more grateful for for your daddy.
SPEAKER_03Leave my daddy alone.
SPEAKER_01No, I am more grateful for him because one he first of all, he's overcome so much, even in these past few years with you know, all these operations. And he still stays upbeat.
SPEAKER_04Right?
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Um and still, you know, does little things, oh I bought I got you this, and you know, that he's thinking about me. Right. I have I'm just grateful to have a partner. So um, but so I can yeah, I can be um grateful. And and the another um thing that goes along with reflection when I think about how I've behaved, if it has caused someone else some dis-ease, right? That I I've I'm working on, right? Uh apologizing and asking for forgiveness. Repair. Repair, right? Um and it do so it doesn't happen all the time. It's that's that's hard.
SPEAKER_03That's we're gonna have a whole episode about that because that is one of the hardest things to do. It is.
SPEAKER_01And sometimes sometimes just by speaking your truth, you cause someone else some harm. Right. And so it's not about apologizing for speaking your truth, but it is you know, acknowledging acknowledging the harm that is done. Right. And so um just working on being a better human about that. Like, what have I done? What can I what do I need to and I'm using this word small a like atone for. Yes. Yes, yeah. You know, so you know, it's that's when we need to think about being our best selves, it's those things.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. For sure, for sure. And there's so many different ways that you can look at this, like, you know, when you say reaching the highest version of yourself, and I think a lot of times we can center it around being at the top of your career, you know, being at the top of, you know, all these different things. And it really has more so to do with like the inner work, you know, that you know, begins to reflect outward, you know, and being high vibration. I know that for me, um, and I know I s I somehow always bring it back to social media, but it's such a big part of like life these days for folks. Um, and logging off is one of the things that brings me back to where I need to be.
SPEAKER_04Yeah.
SPEAKER_03So many times when I'm scrolling, I see something political or and and don't go to the comment section because they're acting up in there.
SPEAKER_01I don't I don't even do the comment section. And I try to scroll b past a lot of it because I know how it makes me feel. Like I know my triggers. And sometimes even the reading.
SPEAKER_04Right. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01So sometimes even use there's a so much you can only so much you can scroll past. You're gonna see something. Right. So you always have to think about right. You have to think about what is coming in the gateway, right? If you think of your eyes as a gateway, what are you allowing in the gateway? Because once it's in there, it's there. It's in there.
SPEAKER_03It's there, it's introduced, and you know. I think one of the things about social media is that it um it feeds off of polarization. Yeah. So those things that tend to polarize people get higher engagement. Yeah, yeah. And then they get promoted to even more people because of the level of engagement. So the worst things get, or the most divisive things, so to speak, get amplified. Right. And the most divisive ways of thinking about things are the things that get amplified. So just realizing how that whole system was designed and just like that's actually not good for the human psyche.
SPEAKER_01So And I think about the algorithms, right? Look at you using the words. I'm using the words, I'm using the words, but the algorithms, so sometimes, like, I don't get a lot of foolishness because I scroll past them or I delete them. So I don't get a lot of that's not in my my algorithm.
SPEAKER_03One of the things that really, really helps me in the immediate, like when I'm sensing I'm being pulled out of you know, this headspace is box breathing. So a four count in, a four-count hold, a four-count exhale, and a four count hold. And literally like clockwork, I can feel my body calming down immediately. It's like a it's like a magic pill for me for like when I really need to calm. Just an immediate calming my system from like a very visceral like response to something that I'm kind of triggered by. Right. You know.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. That's an immediate for me as well. And I find um making sure that my um my feet are um like physically, right? Making my sure my feet are flat.
SPEAKER_03Really? Yeah.
SPEAKER_01I'm very when I'm relaxed, my feet, I can do this, right? But when I'm in a tense situation, right, I I sit up straight and put my feet, you know, on the ground. Right. And um and I feel I feel better. I feel more in alignment.
SPEAKER_03You know so I guess those song lyrics, I it's mostly gospel songs that say, Oh, you place my feet on solid ground. That that line did that ever mean something to you?
SPEAKER_01Um it it did um from a spiritual sense of being, you know, um uh solidified and having a foundation. Okay.
SPEAKER_03But not in this sense, not in a physical. Okay, okay. Okay.
SPEAKER_01But I I like to, you know, if I do this, I'm feeling better. Um, and sometimes even when I'm having a pain, if I do this, I feel better.
SPEAKER_03Straighten up.
SPEAKER_01I do feel better. But breathing definitely.
SPEAKER_03For sure. One of the artists that I love to listen to um that gifts me just in a zone, in a great zone, is India Irene. She has a song called God Is Real. And what she's doing is she's talking about all the natural phenomena that happen in the world sunshine, water flowing, um, plants growing, um, babies laughing. And it just reminds me of all the little things that kind of what you said, like things to be grateful for, allow you to shift your perspective on a thing. Yes. So, you know, when you're stuck in a rut, you know, even I'm very conscious of the music that I play when I'm in like a if I'm going through something very hard, that's not the time for me to be bumping, like, you know, Cardi B and I the drama, her latest album. You know, I'm I can't bump that right now.
SPEAKER_01Good to get it to my spiritual bag. Yeah, I do. Um singing does it for me every time. Um especially something that um is repetitive, right? And I know that the words have meaning, right? I can um I can get with that and just you know, do my own chanting, my own mantras around it. Uh yeah, it does something um definitely for me. But um India I re has a song and I can't remember the title of it. It says, If you want to walk in power, dedicate an hour and an hour to something, the meaning of life. And it's and it's really about prayer, right? And um she said, a little bit for your mother, a little bit for your father. I think I know that one. Yeah. That is a beautiful way ahead of her time.
SPEAKER_03Because this is the self-care stuff everybody's on now. Right. And India been on it since she came. Right. Since she came out. Since she became India I read. But to give her her proppers. Yeah. Um one of the things also that I I have to say is that the more I become aware of just kind of our biology and the way that our minds work, the more that I can give grace when someone is, you know, trying to pull me out or maybe they're unintentionally doing some things that harm me. It's like, um, first of all, hurt people, hurt people.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_03And also that everyone has a script that they're playing from and their old set of experiences that they're operating from, just like I do. Right. Right. So being the grace that I want to re giving the grace that I want to receive when I'm when folks are acting out, right? And they're not being, yeah, you know, kind of like, okay, you know what? They are choosing violence right now, and I don't have to choose that. I'm gonna disengage. Do I write the person off? It's not a write-off, but it is a you can't share space with me right now. Right. Until you get yourself together. I understand, but we can't share space right now. Right, right.
SPEAKER_01So Yeah, I like that one.
SPEAKER_03Extending grace.
SPEAKER_01Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER_03Yes. So um before we wrap, are there any um insights that you would like to impart on our listeners before we head out?
SPEAKER_01Um I just what all that I have been saying, um, uh the biggest thing for me is know thyself, right? So it's hard to try to get to a higher vibration if you don't know that you ain't at that. Right. So you gotta really know your know your triggers, but know when you're when you're when you're not operating in that way. And so what are some of the things um for you? I did what I I did want to say one last thing. Um and I don't know if anybody else's brain does this, right? But I can feel when my brain is um spacious and and open, right? It's this there's a different feel that you have in your head when you've decluttered it, right? And and part of that decluttering is really getting to the the the core of what's important, right? And sometimes we focus on a lot of different things that are not important at all. But when I focus on the core, I can feel my my brain open. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03This is probably a whole nother episode. Um, but there there's something to be said about blocks that we have. Yes. And unresolved blocks can lead to a cluttered mind because it's like having a running to-do list. Right. You know that there's something to do for one reason or another, you don't do it and you let it sit, and that is a block. So that leads to a cluttered mind because you can't move on. You you got so your overload, you know.
SPEAKER_01And there's more than one of those blocks.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, yeah, there's task overload. So that's a whole nother episode that I would love to dig into with um the proper time.
SPEAKER_01I'm 65, so you know.
SPEAKER_03I got time. You got time.
SPEAKER_01Not I'm 65. I'm 65 and be 66 in two days.
SPEAKER_03The fact that you're about to be 66, and you in my mind, you just turned 60. I don't know where the time goes. You're like, no, no, no, ma'am. I'm I'm gonna I'm at another milestone. So um the last thing I would impart is, you know, one of the biggest things that you can do for yourself is to recognize, listen to your body, you know, when those signals come up. Um, sensing and just awareness, your body will always tell you what's happening. Um, and there's two parts to this. And I think acknowledgement of both is important. You have your environment, the places and spaces that are, you know, raise your vibration, that lower your vibrations um, or match energy. And then you have your own inner world. So there's there's two ways to think about this. And um, that's I think that's a good starting point for reflection. That is. Excellent. Yes, yes, yes.
SPEAKER_02You go, girl.
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