Ep. 3 2025 Blessings & Lessons + Our 2026 Emotional Glow-Up!

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5:30 Podcast Moguls Training Program 

7:50 Podcast Name Change 

9:00 Coaching Reflection 

13:10 Dreaming 

15:30 Intuition 

15:50 Tips for Building Intuition 

20:04 Adding New Cards to Our Emotional Deck 

26:01 Buttons & Triggers in 2026 

This week on Women in Bloom, Jasmine is sharing some of her wins from 2025. She’s also discussing lessons from 2025, because what year is complete without a few lessons in the back pocket. She’s discussing the concepts of honoring our own divine timing, releasing and repairing. Last but not least Jasmine is unpacking her emotional glow up plan for 2026, which includes examining how we think about our options when responding to emotional triggers. What cards are in our deck and what cards we are adding for 2026? This year we’re continuing to regulate our emotional hot buttons. We’re not letting people dance all over our keyboards! Grab your notebook, your tea or coffee and catch the vibes!

Transcript

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Hey y'all, welcome back. Welcome back. It's been a few weeks and I've missed being on um the podcast. I've missed recording. And um, what can I say? It was the holidays and things were busy, and I also got a new microphone set that I'm I'm probably aging myself by saying this. It took me forever to figure out how to use. My old behind just figured out that I need to get on YouTube and look up some videos to show me what all these symbols in the handbook actually mean. So your girl is back. I'm finally operable. And I should also say I'm very grateful for my microphones. They were um a gift from a good friend of mine, and I am, I know I'm sounding extra crispy on this episode, so you can thank him for that. Um, some of my friends had reached out, like, girl, the podcast is good, but when y'all laugh, it gets so loud, and um, you might want to invest in some new speakers. So, and I kind of experienced that myself just listening to the podcast. I was like, dang, you can't hear all the little like when we're laughing really hard, you can't hear all the little like tidbits and things that we're saying. So, anyway, new Mike, uh, new year, new me. Um, and speaking of the new year, happy new year to everybody. I hope everyone had a great Kwanzaa, a great Christmas, um, a great Hanukkah, if that's what you're into. And um yeah, something about the top of the year really gives me this like burst of energy when it comes to just like recommitting to some of the things that I want to do. Um, I don't find myself making resolutions per se every year, but there's definitely like a like a digging in or an anchoring that happens um at the new year. And I think it has a lot to do with the collective energy that everyone is sharing. This time of year is very potent um with you know opportunities to just like, hey, like recommit, recommit, like start something new. Um, it's very energizing for me. Um, I've been seeing a lot in the wellness space, a lot of people saying, Oh, this is the dead of winter, nothing is growing, it's not an opportune time to be trying to do anything new, you should be resting. Um, and I I disagree. I disagree for me, right? I'm not saying what everybody else should do, but there's a lot of people who use the top of the year to kind of give themselves a kickstart. And um, you know, I had seen some of my wellness folks saying this. One of my favorite podcasters um was saying this, and it kind of I won't say her name because I really do love her, but um, it kind of came off as a little judgy, like almost laughing at people who are still doing resolutions, which I feel like is very um, very much so cornball um behavior. Like whatever works for someone else, you can't poo-poo on someone else's strategy. Um, and I think also a lot of people deal with seasonal depression, and the new year is an opportunity to kind of um not, you don't necessarily want to be nestled under the covers drinking tea, you know, if you're already in a depressive kind of state. You kind of want to be out and about, experiencing the world. Um, even if it's like challenging yourself to reach out to friends more, if that's your resolution, or um if your resolution is to go outside and go for walks more, you know, it's it's a great time to start something new. There's a collective and shared energy. Um, and I I think we do a disservice when we try to add a blanket um approach for everyone, you know. And I think, you know, some of the folks in the wellness spaces, not all, but some of the folks in the wellness spaces are calling for this like period of rest during the winter. And I say if that works for you, do it, but definitely don't let anybody shame you um for having a new year's resolution, like that's corny in itself. So anyway, I just wanted to say that. And um, yeah, for me, I'm just really I am in a space where I'm recommitting. I'm recommitting a lot to the things that I started in 2025 and being consistent. Um, y'all know I'm a Gemini, and when I say I can flutter from thing to thing happily and gleefully, like a fat kid with cake, I love it. I just love doing new things. But one of the things that I want for myself is um more mastery on the things that I'm that I that I'm interested in. And it's last year was a year of me really clearing space for the things that I really want to do well. So I can't be everywhere, I can't be all over the place. I'm sorry if my email is going off and y'all hear that my my job don't stop. But um yeah, I'm really just like um and I'm also recording this at at 9 p.m. at night. So that should tell you a lot. But anyway, your girl's happy to be working, so I'm not complaining. Um, but yeah, I've been recommitting to what I want to do, you know? And um, so this podcast is one of the things that I got off the ground in 2025, and I'm so happy I'm getting to do that with my mom. I think that's so cool for us. I've just had an opportunity to learn her in a different way. You know, my mom has always been the hardest working person that I know. Like, I mean, she's a baby boomer. I always say that generation takes the cake when it comes to work ethic. They just they do. Um, so getting the podcast started was was one of the things that I really, really wanted to do. Um, and you know, with that, um, I signed up for a podcast training program called Podcast Moguls with um Nikayla James, excuse me, Nikay Matthews Akome. I was about to say James Akome. Um, Nikay Matthews Akome. And what's funny is she started her podcast in around 2016, 2017, and I literally was obsessed with her podcast from podcast from the very early days. Um, she was always talking to people who were side hustling, and I was really, really into that. This was a time in my life and I was exploring photography, and I when I say I was a shudder bug, I mean I was taking pictures of everything. I don't care if it was a penny on the ground, I might take a picture of it. That's how pressed I was. I just love the concept of images, and I was getting into this space where I wanted to start um taking gigs as a photographer. I was taking trainings and stuff, and her podcast around the concept of side hustling was really, really appealing to me. So, fast forward to 2025, I saw that she was doing this podcast moguls program, and I'm like, she's someone that really likes she got me hooked on her podcast. So, why not look into what her training is offering? And you know, not to give away any freebies on here, but let's just say I had to do a name change on the podcast, y'all. I had to, and it makes sense because I was finding myself explaining bloomers and boomers to to everybody. They're like, Bloom, what, what did you say? Bloomers and boomers? And I'm just like, they like bloomers like underwear. I'm like, no, like flowers, and they like like boomers, like like like and then they get that. They like baby boomers, and I'm like, yeah. So I'm like, okay, that's way too much explaining. It's not SEO friendly, it's not searchable. And um, so anyway, say all that to say the new podcast name is Women in Bloom, Personal Development Talks for Women of Color. All right, yeah. Women in Bloom, personal development talks for women of color. So if you see us on Spotify, if you're following us there, you may notice the name change. So just something subtle and just practical, right? So anyway, new year, new me, y'all. I'm doing a doing a little bit of a makeover. Um, so as I was saying, 2025 was good to me. I mean, I don't have no qualms with her. I mean, I know some people were saying, like, oh, 2025 dragged me through the mud, it raked me through the colds, it knocked me upside the head. And 2025, I mean, to be honest with you, 2023 really lumped me up. And I'm gonna just keep it a buck. 2023 lumped me up, and 2024 was like I'm in my comeback era, and 2025 was oh, like I'm certified coming back by any means necessary. So I just like and it met me with all of the supports and all of the responsibility that I was ready for in the season of 2025. So the coaching program, like, um, that actually is not something I pursued. I'm very fortunate to be able to have gotten my coaching certification, but I was actually tapped on the shoulder by um, you know, way up, way up in my in my job um to see if I was interested in this program and them paying for me to go to GW and get certified in coaching. So, I mean, a blessing literally falling in my lap is what happened. So I was so fortunate to be able to do this, and I'm just so like beyond grateful because it's the gift that keeps on giving, and I always say that. Um, I got to explore in the program this concept of curiosity when it comes to helping folks. Like, I'm not helping you by giving you my solutions or like what I think you should be doing, right? First of all, there's no real buy-in when somebody just tells you, oh, go do da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. Sometimes there is, but most of the time there isn't. What really works is when people are helped to kind of pull out and drag out their own solutions to navigating their own issues. So that means holding up a mirror, that means shifting perspective, that means challenging where need be. And that means also in my own way, providing like some neurohacks and tricks. Y'all know I love talking neuroscience, I love talking brain rewiring and just how we shift habits. Um, I've been reading books, Dr. Joe Dispenza, um uh You Are the Placebo, um, The Body Keeps the Score. And this is like how your the body keeps the score is like these are both both books about how your mental health will become manifest in your body, like the concept of these little like microaggressions that we deal with, big T or even little T trauma, that if not given an opportunity to sort of be expressed in our words or in our writings or in some form, they will become expressed through our bodies. All right. So this is why, and I don't really get into the weeds of why I chose this topic as to be an integral part of my coaching, but the reality is that as women, as women of color, we carry a lot. We carry a lot, and we seldom get an opportunity to be vulnerable and express what we're carrying. So it became vitally important to me to be able to hold a space for women of color to do just that. So, and now with this certification, I can do it with this knowledge that I'm actually trained. I'm not out here just shooting in the wind, you know, um, or shooting the shit. I'm actually I'm actually trained um in coaching. And I've used last year, I actually did a um Neuro Change Solution two-day training with Dr. Joe Dispenser's organization to kind of tighten up on that. So again, y'all, 2025 was just like the year of being so very clear on what I want to do, how I'm gonna do it. And um, I don't think I've ever had that amount of clarity before. So when I say it was a gift, know that I mean it. Um, so helping women helping women of color feel seen, feel heard, feel um validated. Um, you know, and I guess the what type of women I'm speaking to, those have been who've been told they have resting bee face. I mean, I was told I had I've been I've been hearing that since I was a child, right? So like I don't know how a child has resting bee face. I don't know where that how people look at a child and think that, but people thought, thought, I've gotten a lot of feedback over the years about that. And it it's not necessarily that there's an attitude, you know, and I think a lot of times other women experience this, and there needs to be more places and spaces where it's okay to just show up as who you are, and if there is a need or a desire to make some changes, you're supported in doing so. Okay, so that's a little bit about my coaching, the clarity of my coaching, like why I'm doing this. Um, and yeah, the gift of 2025. So, one of the other things I really, really got to hone was my intuition, and this happened through my reintroduction to dreaming. My dream state spoke so loudly to me last year. I mean, it was knocking at my door, it was thumping upside my head. Like my waking life, my dream life is just as active as my waking life. My inner world is extremely vibrant and very much so processing and assessing the state of things in my waking life. And this awareness really led me to more discernment and self-trust. So, and I'll say this all started um through trainings with a woman named Bonnie Buckner. She is the founder of the International Institute for Dreaming, I think that's the name. And she has a really great book out that's called The Secret Mind. You may have seen me talk about it on social media, and it really talks about this concept of dreams and intuition and weaving dreams into our decision making, um, how we navigate life. And you know, one of the things that became very clear to me is that in my waking life, as I'm observing different scenarios, there's this like constraint between what I actually feel, what I think I should feel, what society wants me to feel or think about a thing. And it really can kind of muddle the clarity for me. But that is not a factor in my dreams. My dreams are vividly like um the the feelings are so um pronounced, the sensing is so pronounced and so true, if so to speak. So anyway, intuition and dreaming was something I was really able to get better at. I'm not an expert by far. Um, and one of the things I'm looking forward to in 2026 is continuing the um dream group I'm a part of. We meet every Sunday and we kind of work through some of the practices and we do what we call opening a dream, which means that someone from the group shares a dream and um we get to work them through just like kind of dissecting an analysis of the dream, which is so much fun. Y'all know I'm a nerd when it comes to this type of stuff. So I'm I'm in my happy place. Okay. Um, so with that, with that, I became way more clear um in kind of just relationships that I needed to let go of, situations that I needed to remove myself from, um, doors that I needed to knock on, bonds that I needed to strengthen or repair. Everything just became very clear. Um, so I would say to anyone who is trying to work on your intuition, or maybe you were unsure of how to move when you're sensing things. Um, in particular, this kind of wondering if you should stay or if you should go, you know. Um, I made the habit of asking myself, is this experience calling me to grow or elevate? Meaning that is this a moment for me to own my shit, or is this experience calling me back to an old, less evolved version of myself? And this is kind of just, you know, if this experience is calling you to grow and elevate, sometimes we have like a nagging feeling of we know what we should do, right? We know we need to make a phone call, we know we need need to have a difficult conversation, we know we need to do um maybe some repair, or maybe we've we've done something that we're not necessarily proud of. So that's not, I think sometimes the people can confuse intuition with like just uh um abandoning something. And because it's easier to do that, it's easier to walk away than to kind of own our stuff. Um, but I'm here to say that you know, owning your stuff is nine times out of ten the thing that you will respect more about yourself and that others will also respect more about yourself, about you. So that's that. If the experience is calling you to grow or elevate, you know, that's what you should be doing. Um, but if if in reality it's calling you back to an old version of yourself, if it's resurfacing behaviors that you had let go of maybe in high school or five, 10 years ago, then maybe that situation has run its course. Maybe it's actually dead and um maybe it's dead weight. So I'm saying this because I don't want it to be confused with being a runner and a track star, right? You can't you can't um move from job to job, right? And you can't move from relationship to f to relationship, um, expecting things to be different if you haven't actually done the work on yourself, because you'll show up to that place, you'll show up to that new person with the same things that you were doing before. And that's actually the definition of insanity. So if your intuition is actually right and something is not for you, definitely go with that. But if your intuition is not right, if the situation demands that you rise, if it's calling you to be a better version of yourself, calling you to even calling you back to a lesson that you've had before, and maybe you've done the same things over and over again. This is your opportunity to try something new. Try something new, surprise yourself, surprise everybody else, right? Do something different. We're gonna take a quick break. Um, and after the break, we're gonna have a little bit of real talk on reimagining the cards that we have to play. And um, this just kind of speaks to sometimes feeling like our back is up against the wall. Um, and this is a concept that I am familiar with, this feeling. And I kind of, as I was heading out of 2025, came up with this analogy just around, okay, what's in my hand? What cards do I have left to play? Um, and it's not always ending the relationship, it's not always finding the new job, it's not always giving someone the silent treatment, deflecting or projecting, right? Those are old ways. Those are old ways. Next up, we're gonna talk about some other cards we have to play, some that you might not have suspected. Are you in your growth season and looking for a coach who will walk with you as you do the work of rewiring the way you've moved through your personal or professional life? Are you ready to let old habits die and walk into your new world brighter, lighter, and more sure of yourself? I provide a safe space where you can let your guard down, be heard, and navigate the changes you want to see in yourself. From one bloomer to another, I get it. Change is hard, but you don't have to do it alone. Visit nbloomwithjasmond.com to schedule your discovery call today. One of the mantras of neuroplasticity and rewiring our brains and our habits is this concept that we have to play new cards, right? If the cards that we've played in the past are trauma responses, things like deflecting, silent treatment, um, projecting onto other people, those are things that are in our old deck, right? But now we're playing with a new deck and a new hand. So we have to really think outside of the box as we navigate some of the situations that we come and find ourselves in. And this does require a little bit of bravery. And I say that because, you know, I can say, Oh, why don't you try apologizing? And that, or why don't you try being vulnerable? That assumes that the other person that you are engaging with is operating on the same level of emotional maturity that you are, and I can tell you without a doubt that most of the time, most people are not doing the work. There are there are a lot of people that are not doing the work. And if you're kind of moving in a a wounded way, or if you have been, and I say this word, I don't like this term, but if you have been kind of low bribrational, you may and you've decided that you want to be different, you want to change your feathers, you want to be a bird of a new flock, but you're in your old flock. When it's time for you to be vulnerable or you know, tell the truth or um apologize, that other person might not receive it in the way that you want them to. They might not receive you with open arms, but this is really for you, right? These things, this um radical apology, radical honesty, radical authenticity, these are more so for you. So you have to let go of the idea that someone Is going to be able to receive the new you, but it's still your charge to show up differently for your um for your personal development. Um, so instead of those negative things that you used to do and respond with, maybe trying honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, empathy is a card, um, taking ownership, you know, even going a step further, if if you're apologizing, how about pairing that with how can I make this right? Or apologizing and, you know, inquiring further, can you tell me, you know, how that made you feel? Right. And I'm not saying be a doormat. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that if the things in the past have not worked for you and you're on this mission to try and do three things differently and consider what other options are available to you and you don't like the way that your current situations are going, your current if you're if your life is not the way that you want it to, what I'm saying is surprise them, okay? Surprise them, surprise yourself. All right. So the theme for 2026, and I'm with you on this. This is something that I became more conscious of as I was moving through my work in 2025, is that I want to play from a new deck, genuinely. And there's a lot of cards that I love, right? I ain't throwing out the whole deck, but there are some cards that I want to add, right? I want to be able to activate parts of myself that perhaps were dormant or didn't even seem like an option in the past because I'm rewiring, right? I want to do things differently. I want to create opportunities for me to have new experiences. Suppose that apology gets to the right person and the outcome is that they're like, wow, thank you so much. They're completely shocked. First of all, they're not used to you owning up to nothing, right? So they're completely shocked. They're like, wow, thank you so, so much for being that person, being the bigger person. And suppose that person now knows that it's safe to engage with you in this way. So you guys just like level up on your relationship stuff. Y'all level up together. Imagine that. Like, really imagine that. Not, I mean, with with your with the with with work, maybe it's with your homegirls, maybe it's with your man. You know, imagine that. So let's let's look at the deck. Let's look at the cards that we have left to play. All right. Scared money can't make no money. And I say that with love. Scared money won't make no money. You gotta bet on something. Bet on bet on some new some new uh ways of being for yourself. After the break, we'll get into a new concept that I've been playing with since last year, which is only a couple months ago. And it's this concept of emotional hot buttons. Basically, um triggers. Yeah, we're gonna talk all things triggers. Well, not all things. We're gonna talk a couple a couple things triggers after the break. Um, and how I'm moving in 2026 and how I want to invite you to move in 2026. Are you in your growth season and looking for a coach who will walk with you as you do the hard work of tinkering with the way that you've always thought about things, the way that you've always processed things, and maybe old reruns that you got planned in your mind that you're ready to break free from? Are you ready to let old habits die and walk into a lighter, brighter, more abundant world? I provide a safe space where you can let your guard down, be vulnerable, be heard, and help navigate the changes you want to see in yourself. I'm a bloomer. I get it, and I created this space for women like me. Women who find themselves in a moment of incredible transformation. And change can be hard. But guess what? You don't have to do it alone. Visit nbloomwithjasmine.com to schedule a discovery call with me. It's totally free, and we can talk about how it can support you. Alright, so what we want to do, well, what I'm doing in 2026, what I'm inviting you to do is examine your buttons and triggers. What buttons on your keyboard are radioactive? What's radioactive? Okay. These can include things like being ignored, being excluded, um, someone lying to you, um, loss, feeling passed over, someone correcting you, um, criticism, injustice, rejection, um disorganization. I got a good sister friend who hates, literally hates, and is triggered by disorganization. Um, tardiness, you name it. So, first of all, it's natural. It's very natural to, you know, we each have our thing. Some what what what what doesn't bother one, you know, can be like uh radioactive for another person. Um so what what we can do first in dealing with this is recognizing that our responses are in a lot of cases an overreaction to the trigger, right? So we can recognize that okay, maybe my perspective on this is informed by past experiences, past traumas, um, past discomforts. So once you recognize your trigger and you're you're aware of it, and I say trigger, but I'm also saying pattern, once you're aware of it, you can give a little bit of thought to what that past experience is that what um what past experience that trigger is connected to, right? So um, if you know, tardiness is connected to connected to maybe when you were a little girl, um, and you know, your parent was late coming to pick you up from school all the time. And it made you feel some type of way naturally. Um, and maybe that's why this trigger is so loud for you, right? And you know, one of your girlfriends shows up an hour late to a dinner gathering that you plan. So that's something. That's something, right? But your response might be on the level of like your inner child feeling that re feeling that. Um, and maybe it's not necessarily your response is like an overshoot, you know, for what the current situation is because of that past experience. So, um, so once you like kind of connect that past experience to the trigger, now you can be like, oh girl, you're tripping because all right, you're tripping because of that. Okay. And you can see now the narrative that you've been kind of reading from. And this gives you an opportunity to maybe reframe it more rationally and choose a new reaction that will break from your old pattern. All right. So if your former reaction was, um, oh, you know, this person is always late, I'm not going out with them no more. We just won't hang out. Or, you know, that's not my friend anymore. I don't want to be in the friendship anymore. Um, a new opportunity would be to sit down and have the conversation with the person. A new opportunity would be to break from the expectation with this person. Um, there's there's a lot of different things that you could try to kind of regulate your reaction and regulate your behaviors in that situation when that situation arrives again. All right. And what happens when someone is trying all your buttons knowingly, right? Or unknowingly. So um if someone is, you know, intentionally pressing buttons, I am definitely not advocating for sitting in, you know, situations where someone is intentionally trying to harm you or hurt you emotionally. But if you notice that you have an overreaction to some of these things and your hot buttons, you know, people just always they got they're kind of puppeting you, right? They're puppeting you, they're pressing all your buttons, they doing things to get on your nerves, and um, hey, maybe, maybe if it's if it's um intentional, then you go ahead and do the removal. But if it's not, if it's not, and it's you, and it's you that's tripping, and you're hypersensitive to these things, then maybe try try to be less reactive. Try to try not to have people have so much control over your feelings and emotions. Anyway, y'all, I've been talking for a while, and this is a solo episode. This is my first solo episode, and I'm realizing that I actually really enjoy kind of getting my talking points together and really kind of doing this outpour of um just insight, information, sharing. It's I I just love the concept of nerding out. So if you enjoyed this episode, please, please, please drop us a follow on the podcast, rate the podcast, comment on the podcast, and share it with a friend. I think I said four things, all right. Follow us, comment, rate, and share with a friend. Um, happy new year, y'all. 2026 is a year of brand new beginnings. So challenge yourself to tap all the way into the opportunity to a new start. The time is ripe for a full bloom, okay? If you love the concept of rewiring your way of thinking and showing up clearer and softer in 2026, download my 2026 in bloom guide to outline your emotional glow up for 2026. All right, y'all. Peace.