Unicorns, Every Couple Wants One… We Got Two

We Wrangled a Unicorn or Two 🦄

What do vampires and swingers have in common? More than you'd think.

In this episode, Brad and Brittany explain why they've always thought the Lifestyle has a lot in common with the world of vampires. From secret societies and late-night adventures to the idea that once you're in, you're never quite the same, the comparison sparks a hilarious conversation inspired by listeners who recently rewatched True Blood and completely understood the connection.

Then things get even more interesting.

Brittany somehow pulls off one of the rarest feats in the Lifestyle and wrangles not one, but two Unicorns for the podcast. We welcome Unicorn StrykerBee and Unicorn Bebe for an honest, funny, and surprisingly insightful conversation about life as single women in the Lifestyle.

What exactly is a Unicorn? How do they become one? What are they really looking for in a couple? How do they handle the endless messages, awkward approaches, and couples who don't quite understand the assignment?

The ladies share what attracts them, what sends them running, the biggest misconceptions couples have about Unicorns, and the secrets to building genuine connections that go beyond a single night of fun. We also discuss red flags, friendship, boundaries, dating outside the Lifestyle, and whether Unicorns really talk to each other about couples.

Of course, no conversation like this would be complete without a few unforgettable stories, plenty of laughs, and a candid look at what these women get out of the Lifestyle beyond the obvious.

Whether you're a curious Vanilla, a new Lifestyle couple, or someone who's always wondered what goes on behind the scenes from a Unicorn's perspective, this episode is packed with real talk, practical advice, and a whole lot of fun.

Grab a drink, settle in, and join us as we wrangle a Unicorn or two.

Transcript

SPEAKER_06 0:00

This podcast is intended for adults 18 years and older. We keep things honest, open, and sometimes we get a little spicy with conversations about relationships, lifestyle, and experiences meant to be fun, entertaining, and oh very real. Everything shared on the sexy swinging vampires is based on our personal opinions and experiences. We're not professionals or experts. We're just having sexy, fun conversations and inviting you in along for the ride. Listener discretion is advised, and a sense of humor is highly recommended.

SPEAKER_00 0:53

You should. You are the rock.

SPEAKER_06 1:00

Hi, I'm Britney Bitch, and you're listening to The Sexy Swinging Vampires. And now here's our sexy host, my husband Brad.

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Thank you, Brittany Bitch. Welcome back, all you sexy vampires. We are here today having another sexy podcast. Are you ready, Britney Bitch?

SPEAKER_06 1:20

Sexy doesn't explain. Sexy doesn't quite explain today.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

It is not. I hope you guys that are listening are ready for this. We are going to have so much fun. But the first thing that we always talk about is going to be our fan mail. Because you know what, fan mail is a lot of fun, Britney Bitch. We get people sending us messages now, and they are, I think some people are worried that fan mail is gonna, if I text them, they're gonna get my phone number. If I message them, they're gonna get my information. Actually, we can't.

SPEAKER_06 1:50

I didn't know that. You actually work on itself. Yes. I get the last four numbers.

SPEAKER_00 1:55

I get the last four numbers of your phone number, and I can only reply to you if you send me a message, and I can only reply once. So I want to make sure everybody understands that because they're like, oh gosh, he's gonna frickin' sex to me dirty pictures, and he can't do that.

SPEAKER_06 2:08

Yeah, nor can you.

SPEAKER_00 2:09

But Brandt, you've got a couple of message messages. Can you read those for us? I think they're gonna be very, very exciting for our fans. Just this is the kind of thing that if you are listening, this is the kind of stuff that you can send to us.

SPEAKER_06 2:21

Yes, I'd be happy to introduce some of these fan mails. They were fun to read, and I appreciate all of our listeners um writing in. And even if you don't know, you can send us a message too. So the messages were fun. But there was one that said, I'm enjoying the new show, keep it up. The origin story and hearing about it from both couples is hot as full.

SPEAKER_00 2:41

And I think it was. Yes. That was pretty hot.

SPEAKER_06 2:43

How about oh, I totally want to send fan mail. Groupie fan mail girl in the sip.

SPEAKER_00 2:49

And I think sip means like Mississippi type.

SPEAKER_06 2:52

Okay, I was wondering, I was like, Am I supposed to be sipping on her or what am I sipping? Let's hope so. I mean, let's meet them someday. How about you send me a message and let me know what I'm sipping on? Because that's what I think when I hear sip. Okay. And then next one is, and I love this one, it made me giggle, so thank you. Just listened to episode four, and it made my vagina tingle.

SPEAKER_00 3:13

Oh, that one. That's my mom. And it was so embarrassing. She supports everything that we do, folks.

SPEAKER_04 3:20

So I do not make your mom's vagina tingle.

SPEAKER_00 3:23

No, maybe the other couples did, though. I don't know. All right, so what? I make jokes.

SPEAKER_04 3:27

Anyway, so ew, I just know I thought we can laugh.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

It's okay to giggle. We've got guests today, they're giggling. You guys can laugh too. It's totally fine. This is what I fucking do. If I don't make you.

SPEAKER_06 3:40

Can you imagine making your mother-in-law's vagina?

SPEAKER_01 3:43

My lord.

SPEAKER_06 3:44

The number one, right? Let's say she was even listening to this. I mean, that would be another. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 3:49

Some moms do.

SPEAKER_04 3:51

Well, yeah, not my mom. Think about it. Let's say my mom sent us a message saying you made her vagina tingle. Die.

unknown 4:00

Awkward.

SPEAKER_00 4:01

Well, I mean, listen. It's one of those things you could check it, you're like, yep, I did that one. One last thing I want to bring up because I've heard I've heard some feedback, especially from one of our guests today, actually said the same thing. So, why do we refer to swingers as vampires on this podcast, Brittany Bitch? Do you know why? Well, what was the show? What was the show?

SPEAKER_06 4:21

Vampires are sexy. We were actually talking about um True Blood today, right? And how many sexy vampires are in there? And number one, they're fucking as well. Now I don't want to do like in if you can remember if you watch True Blood, like they did these um or this video recording where they were going ten times the speed. I don't necessarily want that, but the sex was hot.

SPEAKER_00 4:44

So, anyways. And vampires are sexy. Yeah. Pineapples are not. And just in my opinion.

SPEAKER_06 4:48

I mean, I do make them kind of sexy on their Instagram page.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

I mean, there's a hole in the middle, so I guess there's something you can do to it.

SPEAKER_06 4:55

They're kind of pokey.

SPEAKER_00 4:56

They're kind of pokey.

SPEAKER_06 4:57

Do not stick your stuff in a pineapple.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Vampires usually come out at night and usually play with other vampires. Number three, once you're bit, you're always a vampire. Always a vampire. You can't just say, well, I just did it one time, stuck the tip in, and that was it. No, it's you are always a vampire. And you can't tell anyone. You can't. Because they're not going to understand or they're going to judge you. Exactly. Right.

SPEAKER_06 5:21

They'll turn around and be like, oh, we gotta run.

SPEAKER_00 5:23

Run away. And the last little bit is that we are a secret society and we walk amongst the vanillas. Isn't that true, folks?

SPEAKER_06 5:31

No, the only difference is we can come out and we can bite during the day, too.

SPEAKER_00 5:36

All right, folks.

SPEAKER_06 5:36

And we come out.

SPEAKER_00 5:37

So today we actually was Brittany. You did something. What did you do, Brittany? You did something that was very difficult to do. Is today one of our birthdays? It seems like a gift to me. To many. I got two gifts. Yes, exactly right.

SPEAKER_06 5:51

So at least from what I hear. So we wrangled two unicorns.

SPEAKER_00 5:55

You did?

SPEAKER_06 5:55

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

Can we keep them? I will want them. I will set up a pen and the backyard.

SPEAKER_04 6:01

That's what every couple wants, right? Is to wrangle unicorns and then keep them. That's my perception.

SPEAKER_00 6:07

That's why my question was what are we going to do with these unicorns? We're going to interview them today and welcome a striker and a baby. How are you guys? Thank you so much for coming on to this podcast. I mean, you're the first unicorns that we've ever had.

SPEAKER_02 6:22

Ooh. I like that. I'm a cherry popper. You are, you are. I can't wait to hear more. Yeah, that's part of how I entered the lifestyle being a cherry popper.

SPEAKER_01 6:33

So we're gonna get into that. Super excited to be here. Thank you. Interesting in this conversation today.

SPEAKER_00 6:38

What do you think of the podcast room?

SPEAKER_01 6:40

It's kind of so cool. Like it's so official. So it makes it even more exciting. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 6:45

Thank you so much. And these women are beautiful. Not all unicorns are this beautiful, are they?

SPEAKER_06 6:49

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Really?

SPEAKER_06 6:52

I'm excited to hear that too. But I hear. So unicorns, and correct me if I'm wrong, ladies, but unicorns are the magical, like non-existent thing in the lifestyle. That mythical creature. Yes. And so when I think of that, I think of this like beautiful goddess just coming out of the woods, like shaking her hair, and and then voila, I'm here to make all of your bedroom dreams.

SPEAKER_00 7:15

And we all want to ride them.

unknown 7:17

There we go. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:18

I mean, I appreciate that viewpoint. Yeah. I mean, it definitely is not a bad thing to be. Like people, you know, the unicorn lifestyle has been very fun.

SPEAKER_00 7:27

Would you guys agree with Britney's assessment?

SPEAKER_01 7:28

That's what I've been described at, but you know, I am like a goofball. Like I am, yeah, my intimidation towards couples is equally the same. So, but I I hear that quite often. So I have to believe it's true.

SPEAKER_02 7:38

I hear it a lot from the men in the lifestyle in particular. The women are not as excited to meet a unicorn as I have experienced. Oh. But uh, yeah, the men, I'm constantly told, You're so desirable. Everyone's looking for a unicorn. Yeah. I'm like, okay, cool.

SPEAKER_01 7:55

Yeah, but it's definitely been fun. It's it's I believe it's it's it's fun to kind of come into a place wherever I'm at the meeting greets, at the parties, at the events, and like kind of be a unicorn. It's kind of like, oh, hi everybody.

SPEAKER_00 8:05

You kind of walk in as a little I'm here, as a little bit of a celebrity, I would imagine you both, right? I mean, people are looking at you like, oh, that's Stryker, that's BB. Yeah. They are unicorns, and everybody's like, wait, yeah, right?

SPEAKER_01 8:20

Exactly. Yeah. So there's there's a little intimidation factor about it as well. Okay. But you know, we can we can we can get there. But I I've I've enjoyed my tenure as a unicorn.

SPEAKER_06 8:31

So let's talk about that. Stryker, you've been in the lifestyle. Were you solely a unicorn?

SPEAKER_02 8:38

So my path into the lifestyle has been a little twisted. I actually have my background in kink. I'm about 11 years into the BDSM world. And within that, a lot of times in my submissive role, serving a man, my dog, and another man, or serving. Serving, very much serving. Um, and sometimes women of their choice is very much part of that. And then within the past couple of years, I had a 24-7 total power exchange master slave dynamic. Oh my god, this is a totally other thing we need to dive into.

SPEAKER_04 9:19

Holy cow. It may need to be a part two.

SPEAKER_06 9:23

I love the sub-dom dynamic. I had no idea. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:27

Wait, quick question on this. Is this like a certification, like in IT? Like in a I'm a I'm a certified E plus plus plus plus.

SPEAKER_02 9:34

I went to night school for it.

SPEAKER_06 9:38

I bet you did. It sounded like it was 24-7, so you you had to. There was.

SPEAKER_02 9:43

There was a lot. And so it got to the point where he was not comfortable sharing me with other dominants because of how submissive I immediately became. And that was something that was reserved for him. So then it started turning into I did the cupcake role. So a cupcake is like when you've got the bull and the hot wife and the cuckold.

SPEAKER_01 10:05

Oh my goodness. Right? Yeah. I know. There's layers.

SPEAKER_02 10:08

I know. There's so much. And so the cupcake is the girl that sleeps with the guy.

SPEAKER_06 10:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 10:13

And then the the cuck queen, the woman in the relationship, is is watching. Is watching.

SPEAKER_06 10:19

And every So it's the opposite of a hot wife.

SPEAKER_02 10:22

Yes. Okay. Exactly. And so I got into that because that was very it is a very kinky dynamic, but it didn't involve power exchange. And so my master was comfortable with me engaging with that. And through that I discovered that I like group sex. I like it a lot. And I like watching women edge and come. And I like being a part of that.

SPEAKER_06 10:45

So that was your first experience. So you had not, other than being being a sub, you had not been in like a group.

SPEAKER_02 10:52

Male, female, male threesums. But I hadn't really experienced another woman until then. And that's what this is interesting.

SPEAKER_00 11:01

And again, you've just like blew like this is not a good one. This is the Unicorn 101. I think I told the 301 on something like this.

SPEAKER_07 11:09

Well, my path is different.

SPEAKER_00 11:10

Let me jump on some of these questions before we go way into that type of steam thing. You guys said something about girls. Are you guys both considered bi comfortable? Are you bisexual?

SPEAKER_01 11:21

I am bise selective, I like to call myself. Um, but I lean more bisexually. Um I can't picture myself just going on a date without, you know, the male aspect needs to be there.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

You need a dick. Yeah. That's like Britney.

SPEAKER_01 11:35

Yes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:35

I have to know at the end of the day.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

Yes. Yeah. And but I I love women. I think women are the sexiness, like that normally gets me going. That's normally where the fun starts. Yeah. But I definitely need that male aspect into the group. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 11:48

And BB, how long have you been in the lifestyle?

SPEAKER_01 11:50

So I am like a pony unicorn. Is that a good one? You're a pony? So it hasn't even been officially a year. But I wait, wait. So we go baby unicorn. Yeah. Bebe unicorn. Baby. I got him a baby unicorn. Yeah. Baby unicorn. Yeah. So and the year has been a decade of a year. I tell you.

SPEAKER_00 12:12

I tell you what. So unicorn years are like dog years. It's like a year. Definitely like dog years. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:18

So I mean, I guess like vampire years, it goes another layer.

SPEAKER_02 12:21

It's like every weekend you survive. It's another year.

unknown 12:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 12:25

Well, okay, so less than a year, and then striker. So 11 years lifestyle, but how many two or two and a half years? Pineapple lifestyle. Oh, pineapple lifestyle. Not outside of kink. Okay. Gotcha. Yeah. Sorry, just trying to clarify. Make sure I got my. No, you're good. I'm intrigued. We need to have another episode on kink. Yeah. I will gladly participate.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

So okay, so striker, you have you're not, you weren't just a unicorn in the beginning, though. So how about now? How long have you been just a unicorn? Two or three years.

SPEAKER_01 12:59

Two or three years. Okay, how about you, BB? Just a year. July. July would hit a year. So barely like 10, 10 and a half months.

SPEAKER_00 13:06

So then let me ask you then, why a unicorn?

SPEAKER_01 13:10

Well, interestingly, in my past, I've always been more intrigued into couples. You know, I am so new to the whole thing. So, like, I heard about swingers. There's this type of stigma about swingers.

SPEAKER_00 13:21

Dirty, nasty swingers.

SPEAKER_01 13:23

Yeah. And not only that, sometimes they have like this visual. Like, they didn't always look like me. You know, so I was like, okay, well, I'm not that, but what am I? I'm always intrigued by swingers. And like generally, like, if I am, okay, so this is where I'm not super proud about, but I've always been like a side piece.

SPEAKER_00 13:40

What do you care?

SPEAKER_01 13:40

Like, what does it matter though?

SPEAKER_00 13:42

Were you having fun in life?

SPEAKER_01 13:43

I was having fun in life.

SPEAKER_00 13:44

Was that in the past? Yeah, it's not.

SPEAKER_01 13:46

Um, you know, I don't walk around with the with the trophy or anything like that. Correct. But it is my it's my experience to tell. It's you. And it's always been like there's always been, I don't necessarily always need to dive deep into the relationships. I like to just come and sprinkle, you know, and that's just what I'm I'm happy to do. So then once my good friend introduced me to this the lifestyle, I was like, wait a minute, this answers a lot, this checks a lot of my boxes, you know. And and since then, it's just been like this is this is what I enjoyed. I've been participating in this just unbeknownst to myself. So yeah, so since I can kind of put a a face with the picture and all that, I I've been really enjoying myself.

SPEAKER_00 14:20

So I like the fact that you said it checks all the boxes. I'm gonna dig into that in just a second, though, but I just want to get Stryker in this as well. You resonate the same way?

SPEAKER_02 14:28

Yeah, there's I have a very high sex drive, and women having a high sex drive while being single is often poo-pooed, frowned upon. Yes. Um, we get slut shamed a lot. What's nice about this is I'm having sex with friends. Um, it's the swinger lifestyle, the swinger group tends to be so much less judgmental about casual sex, just sex in general. And as someone who's trying to find a relationship, getting my sexual needs scratched without any emotional entanglements is a wonderful thing. Right.

SPEAKER_00 15:05

I like that way you describe that though. So that's the thing. So it and I know Brittany will we've talked about this on previous podcasts, though, but oh, you're a slut, you're a whore, you're all this kind of stuff, being shamed and you can't have sex. That is so ridiculous to me. And we're gonna talk about that on a future podcast, right, Brittany? Well, we talked about this before, right?

SPEAKER_06 15:22

We have, and the interesting dynamic is men can go out and have sex. It's totally okay. Yeah. But women, and I it's women doing it to women, which is so interesting to me. Because we all generally want it. We want these experiences.

SPEAKER_00 15:37

Probably as much as men do, too.

SPEAKER_06 15:38

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 15:39

Well, not even like full-on sex, it's just even conversations and just hanging out with your girlfriends and kind of like having, you know, not super deep conversations that you want to talk about. Like, oh my god, I fucked this guy last night. And you know, in a regular conversation, it's like, what did you do?

SPEAKER_07 15:51

You can't do that.

SPEAKER_01 15:52

Yeah. And the vanilla board, that is like, I can't say that, but like me and my girlfriends now that are in the lifestyle, we we get into details, and it's just it just makes me feel so much joy.

SPEAKER_00 16:02

I had two dicks in my mouth, and then I have one.

SPEAKER_01 16:04

And he fucked my oh my god, my husband last night, he kept fucking me and fucking oh, you know, in my previous life, this was not an okay conversation. Even being as big as an age as I am, it still wasn't okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:15

And I got judged, right? From from my kink standpoint in particular, you know, I had a roommate who was like, I don't want that guy that shows up with his suitcase full of stuff coming to my house. I was like, If he only knew, honey. And I was like, why? I let him in my body. Why are you suddenly concerned about him being in your house? Like, that's so insulting to me. Right. But it was because I had disclosed to her that he was a sadist and that was what was happening in there. And all of a sudden, me having a visitor made her uncomfortable. Right.

SPEAKER_05 16:48

Right.

SPEAKER_06 16:48

And that's the thing, the preconceived notions or these aspects of what we deem as like social norms, religious norms, all of these things come into these aspects of like, you know, I I remember having a conversation even this weekend where somebody brought up some celebrity, and I looked at her and I was like, are they hurting anybody? Right. And that was the question. Right. You know, at the end of the day, whatever. Live and let live. I think that's a song. Couldn't agree. Couldn't agree more about it. But I think that's maybe a guns of it.

SPEAKER_00 17:16

I think that's what we're all discovering in this lifestyle, too, is that, you know, sexual liberation, we should have fun. There's only a finite amount of days in this life, right? Absolutely. Yeah. Right. I I talked about this in the past too. So a couple of episodes was men typically live till the 76 years old, right? You only have a certain amount of time in life to enjoy and being healthy and all this kind of stuff. And the same with you ladies too. It's like, fucking live, have a good time.

SPEAKER_06 17:40

Well, and I do remember, I don't mean to interrupt, but I do remember let's take ourselves back maybe 15 years. We also had kind of that mindset of like, oh, swingers, who could do that, right? And it was more kind of wrapping our head around it. So I understand there is an element of social norm pressure, right? That people get on. But we digress.

SPEAKER_00 18:04

Yeah, let's knock off this too much. Because I do want to know about both of these unicorns. Are you both single? And do you guys date single guys that are not in the lifestyle? Who wants to go first? Me.

SPEAKER_01 18:15

All right. I am very single, very happily single.

SPEAKER_00 18:18

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 18:19

Not interested in dating.

SPEAKER_00 18:20

Is it because of career, family, or are you just like, I don't want to put up a guy's bullshit?

SPEAKER_01 18:24

Yeah, I just don't. I love I love men. I love relationships. I respect the sanctity of marriage. Like, it's it's just not something that I strive for, but I do like, you know, and and that's why I I love relationships so much that I like to sprinkle myself inside of them.

SPEAKER_06 18:38

I actually like the way you do that.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

Inside of women.

SPEAKER_05 18:42

She is a unicorn. She just sprinkles her magic. So I consider myself a butterfly.

SPEAKER_01 18:47

You know, so it's just like I pollinate, you know, and then I leave little and you have a tinkerbell. Yeah. So just leave little pixie dust that make people fly with happy thoughts. Yeah. You look and you're like, oh, there's a butterfly.

SPEAKER_00 18:58

And I'm totally getting the visual right now. I know.

SPEAKER_06 19:02

I see Baby running around our room sprinkling sprinkle dust. And if you've been to an event with her, that's what it looks like.

SPEAKER_07 19:10

Oh, really? Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:13

I am. So my master slave relationship ended in November, December. And of this year.

SPEAKER_06 19:21

Yeah. 25 years. Okay. Yes, thank you.

SPEAKER_02 19:23

And so I am dipping my toe back in the dating pool right now. I do want a relationship. Um, as much as I enjoy the lifestyle, it is very much I am monoromantic. I only have feelings for one person at a time, and I do like having feelings and having a person. Dating while being in the lifestyle is interesting because it does beget the question of when do you disclose? Do you disclose? At what point do you do that? And knowing the external um stigmas and perceptions of this lifestyle, how soon do I trust somebody into that?

SPEAKER_06 20:03

Well, and I do find that interesting because you are a very specific kink, right? But then you have these other things. So now trying to mix that into your world, that's yeah, another topic, Striker, we could go into.

SPEAKER_02 20:16

Exactly. As much as I want to think I'm just a normal girl, the fact of the matter is, is that unless it's a very specific kind of guy that can meet my kink needs, I'm gonna have to be in some sort of poly or swing kind of setup because my kink needs are very much a part of who I am. And I understand not everybody can meet those, but I don't function without them. And so I am able to compartmentalize, and I've had kink partners that I bottom for. And in my definition, bottom is I play with them with zero sex, zero emotion. And so I've had lots of sadists that I go to for pain sessions, and nothing else happens with them.

SPEAKER_00 20:58

Wow. That's what I wonder what sadist was, but you just described it to me. So it's a little bit of a pain sexual.

SPEAKER_02 21:02

So sadist is who's inflicting the pain, and masochist is who's receiving the pain. And within the kink world, I'm known as a heavy masochist because I can take a level of pain that is not typical. Yeah, wow.

SPEAKER_06 21:15

So I guess if you are a sadist out there, right?

SPEAKER_02 21:19

I mean we'll get you connected.

SPEAKER_00 21:21

Well, this is the thing, Brittany Bitch. So we talked about this on, I think the the last episode, right? We were talking about the Mother's Day weekend, and I said, Oh, these uh uh vampires that were 10 and 11 years, I think they forgot more about the lifestyle than they do than we know about it. Well, listen to Striker right here. She is saying some shit I've never heard in my life. Right. I get the kink stuff.

SPEAKER_06 21:41

I so I have taken you to the dungeon before and you were like, Yeah, this is not my thing. So I do like a little bit of the pain aspect, but to your it's not what defines me. It's fun, I have a a good moment, but if Brad's not into it, then I'm not into it.

SPEAKER_00 21:58

Well, strike striker when you hear a funny story. So On the very first bliss cruise, we went down to the second floor, and this is where the they call it the dungeon.

SPEAKER_02 22:04

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:05

And so I go down there and we're they're just giving us a little bit of a tour. But there was a gentleman and he was on this horse. What the fuck is a horse? He's on this thing. It's like I mean it almost looks like the horse that you would block a street with. You know what I'm saying? But he was straddled over the top of it where his dick was like, you know, perpendicular to the Perpendicular. Perpendicular. Of course I use the down one.

SPEAKER_04 22:28

Thanks for calling him out.

SPEAKER_00 22:30

And so I'd look to my left and I'm looking right down his butthole. Ooh. And and it was like uh Did you put anything in there?

SPEAKER_06 22:38

No. So he was trying to get, or the um flogger, master flogger, was trying to give him instructions on how to flog me. And he the only thing he can see is this butthole vision. So of course, Brad's like, yeah, I can't do it and then I have my thumb going up like harder, harder, and Brad's just like the faced. Poor guy was just drunk.

SPEAKER_00 23:04

It was like, so it was like my second or third year in the lifestyle, and I don't know a shit about fuck, right? So I'm looking into this, going, what is this guy doing? He saw his soul. He's naked, the butthole is up, and looking right down it. And I'm going, this is a lot for me.

SPEAKER_01 23:19

But he ate corn for the corn.

unknown 23:23

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 23:24

See your dinner.

SPEAKER_00 23:26

You've been eating healthy. Wow. Listen, you said there are there any limits on this? I think you just hit it. You said I could say whatever.

SPEAKER_03 23:35

I said you could say whatever you want. Please do.

SPEAKER_06 23:40

Yes. Okay, so let's go. Let's go back to your notes perfect. Unicorns. All right. So my question is from a perspective of finding the right couple, is it even possible?

SPEAKER_07 23:55

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 23:56

So it's so hard. It is. And so couples are unicorns too. Oh. Yeah. Is that I would say Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 24:04

You mean it's hard.

SPEAKER_06 24:06

Oh no, like to find. So everybody says it's hard to find a unicorn, but at the same time, from a unicorns perspective, I think it's hard to find the right couple. Right.

SPEAKER_01 24:14

Yeah, because they they they, you know, like me and Stryker, we're two very different unicorns, as you can hear. You know, and some people, you know, couples like their array, and obviously we like our array of couples. And some people see me. I have a, you know, you can't see me on the podcast, but I have another layer.

SPEAKER_06 24:33

Let me uh explain her to everybody. So she is this tall, dark, ebony goddess, very, very fit. God, her legs could squeeze my head.

SPEAKER_00 24:45

I saw that ass when she walked in.

SPEAKER_06 24:47

I know. Okay. And then striker on the other end, she has these sparkles on her skin. And this amazing smile. She just walks in and the sun just goes.

SPEAKER_00 24:59

And the dark side. That part wasn't ready for that one.

SPEAKER_01 25:03

So funny that you actually hit a good point. So me being of the ebony um rainbow chart. Ebony goddess. Yeah, the ebony goddess. And you know, me being on the fitter side, it also sends a layer of intimidation. But it typically, like, I'm just like the most normal, like goofballest person ever. You know, so I see a lot of couples and they're automatically like super like over the top and trying to impress and all that. And I'm like, it's it's not like let's just bullshit here for a while, unless, you know, but so then when I see them, you know, I feel like okay, I have to make them comfortable, and then then my comfort becomes an issue. So then I'm like, okay, like I am way different than what you know, like I don't, yeah, maybe you maybe never have, you know, not only have you never done anything with a unicorn, you never done anything with a black girl. You know, you never done, you know, so it's like I am it's even more layers of difficulty for me personally. So a couple has to be very secure in one in their marriage, and then themselves individually, and then you know, so it it is very, very difficult to find that couple. And then the three-way attraction.

SPEAKER_00 26:05

Yes. Oh, this is so different. So we talk about four-way attraction. So you guys have a three-way attraction. Absolutely. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 26:12

And I joke, but it is, I mean, you look at BB, and who wouldn't want to fuck her? No, right? Like she's what are you doing later?

SPEAKER_00 26:22

Uh I wouldn't put yourself down either.

SPEAKER_06 26:24

I do, I do have a guest room.

SPEAKER_00 26:26

All right. I told you, can we keep them?

SPEAKER_02 26:29

But it will be those things, and and BB and I are in the same pool, and I joke, like it's there's a shark in the water. Like, how am I supposed to compete with this? And one of the bigger issues I found is that like men, I attract a lot of men. That's not the issue. The amount of women that are attracted to me is less so. And so there might be, and I'm very um, my bisexuality is very specific to I'm not necessarily all women. And so finding a couple where I'm attracted to the man and the woman, and they're both attracted to me is a much harder thing. I know to a certain extent that, like we've talked about this, like, you know, the fetish, the experience of of a black woman. And then I offer the as much as I don't want it to be, I'm the amusement park. Like you've never, you don't get to slap your wife, and you don't get to strangle her, and all of those types of things that I offer that kind of experience. So the men are like, yeah. Damn, right.

SPEAKER_06 27:31

And I could see that where men want that type of experience coming in. So as Brad mentioned, kind of that dark side, yes, right. He called it out.

SPEAKER_02 27:40

Yep.

SPEAKER_06 27:41

That is a thing.

SPEAKER_02 27:42

And the women aren't there, and so they're not attracted to me. So then it's like, okay, well, and we've talked about this before, like BB doesn't play with men without their partner. Right. I do a lot of playing single play. Yes. Not with single men, but with yeah, and it's always most of the communication includes the woman, or I she reaches out to me first and then I communicate with her partner.

SPEAKER_00 28:10

What about Brittany though? Would she be like your cup of tea? Would she be a girl that you like that you like to do? Totally just put her on. Well, I know she's gonna say yes, but I mean honestly, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:19

I mean, honestly, there's there's a certain caliber, you know, I like to stay within a certain age range, close to within my own age, and a fitness level. And then it's after those basics are hit, then it's about personality. Sure. And it's like my vibe. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 28:38

I guess my question though is like, so let's say Brittany walks in, yeah. Right? Because you said you have more of a stronger, you know, your attraction to the female too. So she walks in the room, you're like, ooh, man, she's she's super cute. What's her husband look like? Or you're like, whatever. I don't care. I just want to get with her, and the husband No, I need to know what the husband looks like. That's the first thing we do. Yep. Is that right?

SPEAKER_02 28:57

It's the couple as a whole.

SPEAKER_00 28:58

Yeah. So we walk into a room, how do we how do we size up in your room? People are asking on the like they're listening to this. Genuinely.

SPEAKER_02 29:06

Genuinely, you guys would be ones that I would continue to talk with. You wouldn't be immediately you know, there's a lot that totally just threw you guys. But BB and I have talked about this. There's couples who are genuinely nice people, and I enjoy talking with them and hanging out with them, but my sexual attraction to them is nil.

SPEAKER_07 29:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 29:24

Well, and I remember, so we first met at a meet and greet, you and I did. I don't think you met Brad. Yeah. I don't remember though. That's the thing. She's like, you know what we wouldn't really judge right the couple aspect until you walked into our podcast room today. So now baby, you've met both of us.

SPEAKER_01 29:44

Yeah. So like so when I first met you guys, I met you first. I I I I met I I didn't know you two were married.

unknown 29:51

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 29:51

We were probably in separate directions. Yeah. So and you personally, you're my you're my type. So when I first saw you, I was like, ooh, super tall, fit, you know, age group is good. I could climb that tree. Yeah, I was like, okay. Stop talking, ladies.

SPEAKER_07 30:06

She's talking.

SPEAKER_01 30:07

Yeah, so so you know, initially, like, I'm like, oh, that guy's my type, you know, and then I look over your beautiful wife. I was like, oh, they would be fun. Hello. You know, so and then it's like, and so generally, like, honestly, I'm more attracted to one or the other more. So it it it like I said before, I worry about becoming an issue for relationship at all. So that's why when uh Stryker mentioned that I only date, or I'm sorry, play with couples um when they're both there, is because I don't, and this is back to the butterfly thing, I only want to enhance. I'm a dessert.

SPEAKER_00 30:40

I like this, and then I've heard this before with unicorns. They are not, they shouldn't be the center of attention. Brittany bitch? We talk to free range and one of our good friends.

SPEAKER_06 30:51

Yes. So interestingly enough, one of our good friends is now a couple with a bowl, right? Um and so free range, Gina and Anaconda is what we call her. Mr. Anaconda. Mr. Anaconda. Um, and yes, I so you talk about 10-inch. We probably need to send him in and see what happens.

SPEAKER_02 31:10

I I I need photos.

SPEAKER_06 31:12

Oh, I've got photos. You're putting all them in a room together, really, bitch. I know, right? So, in any case, when we first met them, we were we were intrigued because a bull and a unicorn coming together. And they both said the same thing. Like, we are here for the enhancement, we are not here for anything else other than just to enhance the like bring the couple together.

SPEAKER_02 31:34

Right. So you guys both feel that way? Absolutely. One of the um married men that I play with, his wife is big into the reclamation sex.

SPEAKER_06 31:43

What is reclamation?

SPEAKER_02 31:44

Oh, reclaiming. Okay, sorry. So coming back after she loves when he comes back smelling of me, that sort of thing. Like, and but I'm very aware of like she knows he's coming, I know she knows. And so it's very transparent. And I love that because then I'll kind of, you know, you gotta play up certain things. Once again, when you're a unicorn, I have to be somehow different or more, I don't want to say more exciting, but I have to be that enhancement that you're choosing to sleep with me instead of your wife at that point. So it's like I'm gonna make sure I squirt extra so that you're covered in my scent. Like that this is something that like if you're gonna go home to her, you reek of me. Interesting.

SPEAKER_00 32:31

We've heard this before, Brittany bitch.

SPEAKER_06 32:33

I don't remember hearing. We have.

SPEAKER_00 32:36

Oh, yeah, we've so this is a thing. I know I've I've heard this with uh with a couple at Cocktoberfest that we talked about. We talked to them before us. Oh yeah, so she so the gentleman I'll give you guys real quick, because I I we have a ton of questions. I want to make sure we get to this. But he did say he's like, Leave me a dirty pussy, is what he said. He wants a dirty pussy.

SPEAKER_06 32:53

Oh yes, but this was on the opposite end that the husband. The husband wanted a dirty pussy.

SPEAKER_00 32:57

Yes, like he he sent he sent the wife off with a bull.

SPEAKER_07 33:01

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 33:01

Right, and or just a date. It wasn't a bull, it was just a guy that she wanted to, she's like, he's cute, fucked him, came home, and he's like, I want all of that. I want to get into it, I want to the reclaiming, all that kind of stuff. So I get that part of it. So now as a unicorn, you guys amped this up. Right. And you guys are like, Okay, so your wife just left left you with me, and she's gonna get everything. And then I'd imagine she would probably message you guys, right, or text you and be like, Thank you so much. My husband is absolutely everything I wanted right now. I'm ravaging him for the next five fucking days. 100% thinking about you fucking him or what you did to him.

SPEAKER_02 33:36

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_00 33:37

Whew, man, I am goosebumpy. I don't know what the hell's going on here. This one is crazy to me. All right, real quick then. So you guys just into threesomes, or do you guys jump into orgies too?

SPEAKER_02 33:46

I do too much pre-negotiation to jump into orgies. That's okay. Um coming from the kink background, everything is highly discussed in terms of limits, soft limits, hard limits, boundaries. I never, like Bibi was saying, I never want to be the source of discourse in a couple. So if you have a limit or a boundary, I need to know ahead of time. I've played with a couple where it's like you can kiss her, but you cannot kiss him. And I need to know that before we go in because otherwise I'm gonna go for it. And I don't want to be when you guys are debriefing later, being like, oh, sorry.

SPEAKER_06 34:25

Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:27

So I do so much, like it'll be days and days and days of messaging before I ever play with anyone.

SPEAKER_00 34:35

How about you, baby?

SPEAKER_01 34:36

Well, I've I've participated in a multi-way adventures. Multi-way. I like that. Um, so I I I don't mind orgies. I haven't had like a a full one. I don't know if there's like, do you have to have sex with everybody to consider them orgies? I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 34:51

No, it's usually more than four people. Or was it four or more, right? More than four. Oh, more than four.

SPEAKER_06 34:56

We discussed this and we actually just did a podcast on or like what it takes to create an orgy like Oktoberfest. So we were questioning, okay, what is an orgy? We decided in the lifestyle, it's six or more people. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everybody, but it's a group of six or more. Now, if you ask the dictionary, it is more than two is what I know. But then we're like, but let's talk about lifestyle orgies.

SPEAKER_01 35:23

Yeah, so like I've been in group situations where you know we all hang out, we're eating dinner, and then bam, the lights are off, you know, and then we're all in couch, you know, and just kind of like making now, girls are going down, girls, you know. So, and I mean just recently, and we had like this bus. Oh, tell me, tell me, tell me. Tell us more. And it was, I mean, it was massive.

SPEAKER_03 35:43

So, how many people are on the bus? 30. Okay. And paint the picture.

SPEAKER_01 35:48

Yeah, it was it was couple mainly couples, it was a few singles, and it was, you know, we had our experience on the bus, and then something happened, everybody just something snapped, and now everybody's clothes are off, and she's licking her, he's licking him. Wait, no. She's licking her, you know. I mean, everything went crazy. So, I mean, is that considered an orgy? And that's actually what I I enjoy like the social aspect a little bit more. Um, I am more like, I don't need to be fucked by every person that's there, but I definitely like, you know, I want to make out, I want to touch, I want to write on you, I want to do those kind of things. Like, I don't necessarily need to have leave there and say, Oh, I just had 10 dicks inside of me, you know. But it's the quality, not quality. Yeah, yeah. I mean, just you know quantity, yeah. Yeah. So, but so I mean, I've had situations where there's been a little bit more intimate, like six players, six people, four people, thirty people, you know, where it's been high sex drives in one small spot. And actually, I I really enjoy that. So it takes a little pressure off of people.

SPEAKER_06 36:49

So, next bucket list item.

SPEAKER_00 36:52

What you got, Brittany Bitch?

SPEAKER_06 36:53

Bus orgy. Bus orgy. Thank you for putting that on my list. Was this a research?

SPEAKER_01 36:58

I just for we did it for a Cinco de Mayo. Cinco? Oh, damn it.

SPEAKER_06 37:03

I missed that. Yeah, I didn't know. Where the hell were we?

SPEAKER_01 37:06

There will be another one. All right, so let me ask you a little bit.

SPEAKER_06 37:08

Bus orgy in the in the pocket. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:10

And this is for both unicorns here. Do you guys think down the road, you I think you might have answered this a little bit, Stryker, but do you guys want to have uh like a partner and do full swaps? Or do you think I mean I know you're comfortable right now, but it just I know you have to think a little bit down the road. Yes. Do you think you want to have like a lifestyle partner or do you want to go full monogamous and go back to just vanilla world?

SPEAKER_01 37:33

I I really like, I mean, if I could find the perfect mate for me would be somebody who has their own life. And then when we wanted to have like a spicy weekend or we met a couple, that was great, we can come into it together, you know, because then we can, you know, it is a lot of pressure being a single woman already in a relationship. And then it's like, so that kind of like you're only so their husband's either satisfying me or I'm satisfying the wife, or vice versa. So it's kind of nice to have somebody that you can bring so that everybody's entertaining at one time, you know. So it's not like okay, I'm just gonna watch it. But there's people who love it like that. But I at this very early stage, I enjoy being single in this, but maybe one day there'd be somebody, but it it it's already hard enough to find a couple, and I kind of find it these men out here.

SPEAKER_00 38:16

But everything's satisfied, everything's checking the boxes right now.

SPEAKER_01 38:20

As of this moment, I am very happy with this my status.

SPEAKER_00 38:23

Okay, and striker, we did we already determined, right? You you do eventually, but they gotta hit all the kink boxes and everything. So where the hell are we gonna find this guy?

SPEAKER_02 38:32

Right, and if he can't have the kink, then he needs to be comfortable with me outsourcing the kink. And it needs to be like one of the things that I hit is that I'm my submissive nature shows up across the board. So at a meet and greet and things like that. I'm not number one, my identity is redacted, so people don't recognize me. You may have seen my nipples, but you haven't seen my face. Your nipples are pretty nice, by the way.

SPEAKER_01 38:59

They are some nice.

SPEAKER_06 39:00

And so is your ass.

SPEAKER_02 39:02

I'm like, I know I've seen you've seen your nipples and you're right, because you hide your face on social media. I I hide my face, you know, and sexy. And so I look forward to having somebody to lead me through those events and be the person making the moves on others because I'll sit back and wait for others to make the move. Even if I am interested, I will never make the first move. And that is just part of my submissive nature. I mean, I'm overcoming some of the training that I had, which was very specific to him and like being overly right waiting. Like I didn't touch without permission in that. So it's like there's a lot of stuff that I'm still working through, but I would love to have somebody to just kind of go in. But I don't see myself taking a partner into the lifestyle until we have a very well set baseline and and established. What if you met somebody in the lifestyle? I think it would still have to be a closed situation until our trust is established between us that I would know that if he wanted to go fuck BB, like sweet. Sure. But I have to trust that he's not gonna view it as, well, now I'm in love with BB.

SPEAKER_06 40:14

And I just don't trust that, right? I don't send my husband off.

SPEAKER_00 40:18

Well, all right, real quick. So listen, so that this is part of what you asked the question. Well, you've never been with a unicorn. This is part of uh Britney's thing. You want to dive into that real quick?

SPEAKER_06 40:26

Yeah, we can. So interestingly enough, and before the podcast started, um, I think BB, you asked the question, have you guys ever been with a unicorn? And I said no. Um, so actually, in our journey, right, everybody kept telling us, like, you need a unicorn and you need a unicorn. And I had this visceral where the fuck was I? You want to told me you're right? Yeah, I know. You've told us you're right multiple times. Um, no, like I just had this visceral response, right? Where when you get down to you have this emotion, you're like, What is why am I like no? And then after a while, I I had to really sit down and question this because we had an opportunity with a woman, and I was just like, No, I mean, it threw me into a frenzy with Brad for a minute. So come to find out, like, and this is just personal. I lost a sister a few or like several years back. I had no idea my sister and her husband at the time were in the lifestyle. My sister's husband married her unicorn or their unicorn, rightfully so. I don't blame him for marrying this unicorn. They had a fantastic relationship established, like there was nothing on tour towards it. My body's reaction just is not accepting it. Does that make sense? Oh, 100%. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 41:48

And as a sister, I get it.

SPEAKER_06 41:50

Well, and from a perspective of like, I mean, it took me a while to try to figure out like why am I having this visceral response? Like, I would just get shaky and be like, no, I can't have a unicorn.

SPEAKER_01 42:04

And a lot of women are like that. And yes, and that's where you struggle, and that's why I was like, it's important to me. Even when I am communicating with couples, it's gonna be the woman. Yeah, like she's gonna be like a girl code, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 42:14

I think.

SPEAKER_01 42:15

Yeah, and you know, you you're like a friend, and because there is women are just natural competitors, you know, because we compete for the male and the you know, wherever the jungle. We're all going for the biggest, baddest man. Yeah, and so they the the intimidation is there, you know, the competition is there. And you know, as a unicorn, you want to make sure you salish, like there's nothing, there's nothing, don't even worry about that. And that's trying, and that's a big reason why I make it very I had to sit with myself, I don't want a relationship. Because if I make that very clear, the couple sitting there, they're like, you know, but if I'm like, oh yeah, one day I want a husband, they're like, You want my fucking husband, don't you?

SPEAKER_06 42:51

Well, originally that's what I thought it was, in all honesty. I thought that that's what it was, where I was like, no. And then after a while, it's like, my husband's never gonna leave me. Number one, I got his balls wrapped too tight. I'm just teasing. But but are you? Yeah, probably not.

SPEAKER_00 43:06

She lets me play in this lifestyle. Like, if I fucking get out of line, what an asshole, stupid, dumbass that I am, right?

SPEAKER_06 43:12

Right, seriously. But so that's what I thought it was originally. Yeah. And then I really had to dive deep in myself and figure out now, these things are the those things that you work through when you find a feeling in a lifestyle. Because I know inherently, like, you both are gorgeous. There's no reason why I shouldn't uh like bring you into my room and have my way with you too, right? So that could be a lot of fun, and it's one of those things where it's just like, okay, step at a time. You have to unravel all of these layers in order to get comfortable. So we're working towards it. We are so and I try I mean, settle down there. I'm just gonna be honest.

SPEAKER_00 43:50

Listen, no, truth be told, though, uh you know, I I am I'm so happy to be in the lifestyle. I am, I really am. And whether it's uh four, three, five, six, seven, whatever it is, as long as when Britney is having a good time, I'm having a good time. And briefly talked about this girl code, right? We're gonna this is a an episode all in itself. But the girl code is so important. And and you guys can uh briefly talk about this, but the I Britney and one of her really good friends, Celine, right? Um they talk about this all the time. If you uh step out of line, meaning like you need to bond with the female first. And you said it right away and I know Striker you agree with this but like you need to bond with the female first. You need to get her ultimate trust. And I will say there's not a guy code but I can I guarantee you I can go up to a guy and we uh we had something very much like this Brittany in Scarlet Ranch one time. The dude was looking to get this orgy going right in Scarlet Ranch. His wife was petrified I looked at her and I was just like she I mean she was cute I would love to have had sex with her but at the same time she was like I don't know what he's organizing right now. Right. I had no idea what's going on. Yeah her eyes were big and I and Britney's like okay we're gonna go downstairs and I said did you see this girl she is not in it's not happening. Wow so my point is if you girls are all talking it's one thing and then you pull me in hallelujah. You know what I'm saying? But if I'm going to go to either one of you two unicorns and be like hey I want you guys to meet my wife talk to her and then we're all gonna have sex you're like I think this guy's already maybe and correct me if I'm wrong here but he's a little schmucky. That's a good word right like I think that it's I don't even know if schmucky is a word but that's just like we can't swear on this fucking podcast. No fucking swearing no fucking so striker so the best way or how would you like people to approach you in the LS I think we've hit on this but I want to make sure it's absolutely clear for there's a couple right now listening going oh I want that unicorn but I'm gonna go and do it and it's a dude it's like don't maybe yeah so you said you want people to approach you.

SPEAKER_02 45:50

So how do they approach you? I honestly like a human like a person I'm not I'm not a Pokemon. You're not trying to collect me I'm not a prize I'm not something coming in and being like oh you're a unicorn you're so desirable blah blah blah blah blah come and talk to me about sounds douchey to me already 100% like just come and talk to me and be like and don't be like oh I we're looking for a unicorn here's my wife it should just be like we're talking it's natural and like oh by the way here's my my wife Brittany bitch and I'm like amazing I love it let's vibe let's talk and then if it's gonna flow naturally Brittany and I are gonna exchange numbers not you and I and Brittany and I are going to message and depending on how it goes she'll create a group chat with you and then I know okay I have it's the couple vibe. Right. And if it stays just her and I'm like then we're friends and we're cool.

SPEAKER_00 46:45

So baby is that the same way with you too like I mean very similar because here real quick for me I'm thinking I wouldn't even want to be in a three person chat yet at this point. So do you just stay with the girl for as long or do you wait for the girl to say I want to bring my husband into this well and I I like the in-person like I try I'm a very social unicorn.

SPEAKER_01 47:04

So I'm gonna be at the meet and greets I'm gonna be trying to be available because I I I know that you have to be approached and I don't want to be like okay now you have to reach out because sometimes if you like say if there's somebody listening to this podcast and they find me somehow now they message me. Generally like text message gets it gets a little cringe but you see somebody or social media messaging but like in person you see me at a meet and greet you see me at a party you see me at pull party you see me at an event you know generally I the vibe is is where we're gonna hit it off. You know and you can look like I don't have a specific type but so when I see that and I'm like okay is this person are they married? Are they just in a relationship? And then I start to learn I'm like okay I would then I determine is this going to be a full sexual experience or are we just going to hang out and have a good time and I'm just gonna you know get these couples so excited and then they're gonna go home together and fuck. You know I don't always have to be taken with them if that makes any sense. You get some out of that it sounds like you know I go home with my my favorite vibrator and I'm like I bet you they fucked me Brad and Britney they probably just rubbed each other we probably will to both of you I think I think about them you know so and it isn't the penetration's not necessary but then but then once I determine like you know maybe like hey I met you at that meet and greet on Friday you know this is you know I don't necessarily have to have the female reach out to me first but the interaction needs to be with the female you know the husband sometimes is like hey this is my wife's number you know because I understand like it's not always going to be perfectly you know like hey we kind of liked you how do you want to do this you know I would prefer to make sure your wife's on track.

SPEAKER_00 48:37

Sometimes the guy is the extrovert and has to do that kind of thing. But then basically what he's doing is serving it up because at that point if this was me for example I would be like talk to my wife because if I do any more than just what we've talked about it seems like I'm pursuing you correct without her. Yeah so how often are you guys rejecting couples and what would make you decide to reject a couple?

SPEAKER_02 49:00

Honestly it's when I'm not feeling it when unfortunately the stereotype about swingers being kind of like old creepy couples, there's a lot of them and they are tend to be the most like you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. And so there's a lot that approach and I'm just kind of like yeah that's that's not it. And so I'm not good with confrontation. I'm not good with being aggressive as we've said so a lot of times it's just like haha that's so sweet and I don't like respond any further.

SPEAKER_00 49:30

So you have an ick kind of a a gut feel yeah kind of thing.

SPEAKER_02 49:34

Like I said and it and it needs to be I'm attracted to both and they're attracted to me and their vision of the role I will serve in their relationship matches up with the role I want. Like unicorn has many different meanings. Okay so I'm not polyamorous so I'm not capable of having feelings for multiple people so if you're looking for a unicorn that is going to be in romantically involved with both of you I'm not your girl but it's not completely without feelings. We're friends we're friends that have a sexual relationship. So I need to feel that friendship with both of you but if you want a romantic thing that's not me and I'm not the one does that make sense totally makes sense.

SPEAKER_00 50:19

You guys must get a ton of messages from people. You guys are on what platforms are you on Cassidy and maybe on like SDC, SLS or is it just Facebook just regular Facebook.

SPEAKER_01 50:30

I don't have any I haven't ventured out to any of the sub lifestyle stuff. I I have a group that I have and that category of people have been satisfying to me so I just kind of stay within that.

SPEAKER_00 50:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 50:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 50:40

And that's fair enough. So I'd imagine though like you so let's stick with that for just one second here maybe so you have some regulars is that what you're saying?

SPEAKER_01 50:49

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 50:49

And do you enter in with some do you let new people come in just organically?

SPEAKER_01 50:54

Yeah well I mean currently I have a very interesting dynamic I want to hear this. She knows all of this of course I do we talk yeah so I I I said I don't when when they're married married legally married that I want to play with them together. But when they are not married I can play with them separately because to me if you're not married you're single.

SPEAKER_05 51:20

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 51:21

Um and still the same respect as far as the female aspect but I don't ever want to come in these people are in a covenant and I don't you know but when you're in a lifestyle and you're just kind of like in a relationship of some resort I can I can figure out a way like okay well you guys just like to have a good time. You guys just partnered up and then if your relationship seems like it's going that way.

SPEAKER_00 51:40

So anyway I am currently playing with a guy who we have a a really great time just single with him on the side okay yes do you find couples to be a little possessive of you guys too meaning like okay so hypothetically Britney and I we're we have one of or both of you two and we're like nope you're you're mine. Every weekend we're gonna go somewhere or we're gonna take you on vacations things like that.

SPEAKER_01 52:03

I've been offered that.

SPEAKER_00 52:04

Have you? Yes how about you striker I have not been offered you have not been offered that but what was that kind of like a sugar daddy type situation?

SPEAKER_01 52:11

Sugar couple maybe it feels like it but I and not the toot mine horn but just so you guys I didn't really like to have a good time. So you know they want they see me as like a way to stimulate even if it's just not completely sexual but just this person is fun and she also understands us. You know so I get invited to things like okay you know and I've played with a couple recently outside of that gentleman I was speaking about and sometimes the husband is much once the wife has completely she's gives completely permission for us to go wherever we want to go we we don't play without her but I you know him and I flirt a lot and there's been a occasions where he's like hey I want to see you this weekend I wouldn't mind if we were you know and so I'm like I don't want to always make the the wife I sometimes I see that she's like he's really interested in BB you know and I'm like okay let's let's lean back on let's let's lean away you know because as a female you pick up that vibe you get yeah you get that gut. You know their eyebrows kind of shrink down a little bit.

SPEAKER_00 53:08

Do you think he's catching a little bit of feelings with you?

SPEAKER_01 53:11

Not the feelings like you know but the interest is strong.

SPEAKER_06 53:15

The excitement yeah like he just wants to continue it's kind of like a little bit of a drug baby's a little drug where he's like exactly okay let me get riled up and then I'll go home which is great but you can only have that have that for so long.

SPEAKER_01 53:28

Yeah and I as a as a girl code I always consider the wife's perspective. Like would she like this type of dialogue with her husband you know whether or not she gave permission sometimes wives give permission just so that your husband can just shut the fuck up. Yeah you know like go ahead and talk to her because clearly you can't sleep tonight unless you talk to PB you know and you know but I know like she I'm a female first I know she wouldn't love us to keep talking every day now tomorrow and now this event's coming up and you want to hang out with me you know like let's give it some space you know so that's that's something that's very important. I I just I'm aware of that.

SPEAKER_06 54:03

So earlier I think BB you mentioned or maybe a striker you mentioned like yeah we know each other right we know what's going on so do you guys talk well okay I know you two talk but do unicorns in general talk and then do you talk about couples like hey stay away from this couple or don't oh yeah okay very much very much very very much I'm glad you brought that up pretty bitch that's really important.

SPEAKER_02 54:29

Yeah I a couple weeks ago talked with uh a girl who had been a unicorn in the lifestyle for seven plus years so she's very versed part of it was a little like affirming to hear my experience honestly is that especially at bigger events a lot of the women are not exactly welcoming to me. Um and she reflected that feeling now once again her and I are both more introverted. BB comes in and she's you know butterfly she's there you know she's sprinkling her butterfly all over the place. But you can get those looks where it's like especially I would say the women who are the pillow princesses not so much the bisexual women we are just straight up a threat to them because I have nothing to offer them. And so me being there is a threat to their relationship because I offer something to their man but not them. And it can be really hard.

SPEAKER_01 55:29

And you could pick up on it pretty quickly like very quickly. You could see that these people may be lifestyle because their husband is sexually you know and he's convinced his wife to let's do this. You you really you really could see that.

SPEAKER_06 55:42

Which is so interesting in the lifestyle amongst itself right so I agree with you even when we're choosing couples right where it has to be that four-way connection and if I get that vibe that the woman is not I'm like same thing.

SPEAKER_01 55:56

Yeah yeah yeah it's so interesting yeah and you and you we could pick it up a really quickly like I like I want to see this wife is having a great time like I've enhanced this night this experience and I can if if she's kind of sitting there kind of falling back or just I want their levels of excitement to be equal.

SPEAKER_00 56:14

Exactly you know I'm like and I can I can smell it quick like I was just saying that in my brain I was like I think I think you unicorns are even more in tune oh yeah with because and and Brittany you correct me I'm wrong here but like you know I you have a great sense of this. When a couple is a red flag you're like nope we are staying away from them right away and I think you girls are the same way.

SPEAKER_02 56:36

And we tell each other.

SPEAKER_00 56:37

Yeah we tell each other well this is the other part of it too if it just think about this too if you guys piss off one unicorn you might piss off oh yeah dozens in the valley or wherever you are in the whole country not that big of a community.

SPEAKER_01 56:48

Yeah well it'd be very rare like you're saying like to have two in one room I'm like that's so very like her telling me BB don't do this she's just like hey I had an experience with them my comfort was kind of jeopardized in this situation you know and I've heard you speak on a different level and you always you also mentioned that you're not comfortable with that. Be prepared you know and it's more you know and even with her like I'm like oh I saw that you were you know this person was underneath your comments your pictures you know she's like yep he DM'd me all night and all day or she DM'd me and I'm like I do want to let you know that they are interested in XYZ yeah and I know that you mentioned that you're not interested in XYZ so you may even want to shut it down or you may want to make that clear prior to you know any further engagement this is good Brittany bitch I like that though isn't it yeah it's very informative and I like that you look out for each other too because it is yeah it is like that XYZ now I will say we do have that with some friends too not to say that it's like um hey these this couple's bad or not so I try to stay away from that because our experience may be different from somebody else's experience.

SPEAKER_06 57:51

And we've actually had that where like a friend was just like why didn't you warn me about the the experience and I was like because we had a great one so correct what was I going to warn you about Tuesday different than Wednesday. Yeah exactly but at the other end so let's say the couple's into kink and I'm not into kink but you know this then it's like hey just have way this is what they like correct right and vice versa.

SPEAKER_01 58:12

And it's more so on that level just like you know what they were fun. I had a great time with them but they you know just want to kind of give you the foundation because we're both very busy women and we don't you know want to spend a lot of time texting and all that and just to find out like BB if you could have told me that you know I could have saved me three weeks.

SPEAKER_02 58:31

And and to be honest I know within the lifestyle like the couples you guys communicate too I know that you know it goes out like hey this guy can't keep up and can't get hard okay so men if you cannot get hard there are multiple things to do then. Yes and if you do there's no shame no shame and you need to bring it with you it's your responsibility to bring it with you.

SPEAKER_06 58:54

A thousand percent yeah nobody else's other than I've left Brad's a couple times.

SPEAKER_02 59:00

Yeah there's nothing wrong with using anything but I 100% agree don't go into the play situation like oh yes his dick's gonna be really hard today yes right I mean but it's it's like 100% on everything. Like don't go in when you are having a hygiene issue.

SPEAKER_00 59:17

Like that's not the day to schedule a play date yes thank you for women too right for period yeah literally literally literally period discs work awesome if you want to have sex on your period put in a menstrual disc like don't make that mess right and or don't have your menzies right and also confirm with your partner I'm on it I have a disc in are you cool with that block the calendar out if you need to so at the end of the day is oh this is a lot of uh communication simple communication yeah right and we preach this a lot we want everybody to make sure that you are talking and whether you're taught as a unicorn you get confirmation talking to from from the male to the female and I swear you cannot go wrong with overcommunicating with the female am I wrong whatever okay very good Britney bitch okay you have amazing questions well so we talked about and Bibi I think you brought it up like you just spent three weeks you know and you wish you would have saved it.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:15

So has I read in time when you were like yes this couple I'm in and then you get there and you're like this is not gonna work.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:23

Well I I I have a similar experience it's just back to what I was saying in the beginning you know me being black female and me being a little bit more on the fit side and you know maybe like a six and a half and above you're a 10 yeah you're your stature though that's the other part of it too so you you are you're not the average size female and I I take that and don't take that as a negative right because I am you're not five foot five I'm trying to fetishize you but right right and that's so good leeway.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:51

It's just I get fetishized often a lot of time when you're saying about the couple like I'm like your general basic girl you know I I I have the benefits of having these little extra attributes but and so sometimes they overcompensate a lot you know because I think like I'm I'm this goddess like oh baby's in our bedroom and I'm literally like a 12 year old like hey guys you know like you guys want to play you know got some Legos you're like swat swat swat swat it's funny because I was playing with this couple and I'm like we're we're putting a music on and I'm like doing like this dance and they're like and I'm like I'm not gonna sit there like some whole she she's like rodeoing and like about to rope just so you know she's more like a cat with a ball of yarn. Yeah like I'm like and and and it hurts it it it's tough for me too because I'm like I don't want to meet this goddess image all the time like I just I'm literally just as average you know like I'm just like can we just go hang out and have my dream of the other life because for you the appeal that they see in you is something of just who you are.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:54

It's not a like for me my submissive side my slave side is a a role I wear that is truly me but it I can differentiate it.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:04

You don't ever stop being a beautiful black woman yeah but striker though when when they finally unwrap you and they hear all of those things that you are so confident in doing does that give them a different perception and they look at you like you're too much or you're like oh I want all of that I get dehumanized.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:25

Dehumanized? Yes very tell me more about this that doesn't sound um because it'll be like I said it's like the positive and negative like I know I'm an amusement park. Like you want to come and try it out and have a good time and ride the rides and but I'm still a human when I have stated boundaries now I'm very bad about once I'm in that submissive mindset, it's very hard for me to express my boundaries and it'll be after the fact that I'm like I was we talked about it. Like eye contact is one of my hard limits well I should say soft limits because when I'm emotionally connected to somebody we can make eye contact. If we're just fucking you don't get to make eye contact with me. That's intimacy and like you don't face slap me and condoms are unnecessary. Sorry a necessary just making sure that didn't sound like unnecessary. It was kind of merged together but I got what you were saying yes. So you know do not miss that one. Right. You know and there's been other times just in my past where you know being submissive I got bound and and blindfolded and all the torture stuff was great and then we fuck and then he shows me that he came in me and I'm like what the fuck like that was not agreed upon. No you know and it's like so I they get caught up in the experience of like I'm your sex toy I'm your slave yes I will do things. I've learned tricks to be a better sex toy. There are things I can do that I know are are not necessarily the norm but that doesn't mean at the bottom of it I'm not a woman with feelings and you need to treat me as such.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:59

Gosh I can imagine so I know I've had some of those feelings and not having the ability to turn to Brad and be like oh my gosh like I that brings a whole different perspective coming in where like I know when Brad and I walk out of a situation we always talk like did everything go okay and if something didn't it wasn't necessarily Brad's fault but some like something may have happened and I have him to lean on you guys walk away and that's where we even you know our our relationship is beneficial because I can talk to her you know and say like oh my god I had this you know this was real uncomfortable situation and you know it so it is it is nice and it's important that you as a unicorn you have somebody somebody you know but obviously they're not to the degree of closeness as a married couple you know so and then you know you don't want to be that killjoy who's like look at my husband's over there having a fucking great time and out of here like a thousand percent.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:52

I know yeah like you know like and that's what I feel like couples married couples struggle with like man my husband really likes this girl and I'm just really not in her husband there there have been times where yeah I have been like okay I need time with my husband yeah and it sucks because I know like he is fucking this girl's brains out but I'm like no I'm done like I need my husband stage right yeah I want to ask because earlier before the podcast we kind of talked about like you debrief after a play and it's like did I cross a boundary or you know whatever it is like did something happen.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:27

When it has happened and you're like I didn't love that you did this how do you work through that because at that point like I feel like I would be a little resentful even though I know like maybe we hadn't pre-discussed it. And so it's not an at fault but like as a couple that's been doing this how do you emotionally get through it?

SPEAKER_06 1:05:47

Yeah that's a great question. We went through a lot of those phases and both of us went through a little bit of resentment like through our first year. Right. And in fact we actually pulled back for a little while was like what the Why are we doing this? Because we were arguing a lot. We were um holding things to each other. And at the end of the day, we both kind of took a step back and said, this isn't one doing the other. Like there is a lot of grace that comes into it. And so even now, when we have the conversation, it's understanding the intent behind what somebody's doing is not the opposite. So I'll give an example. When we first started this lifestyle, because I do think there's a little bit of theatrics that goes into it. But also, too, you're with a new partner, you're going to give more feedback and probably scream and shout. But also, too, when you have kiddos at home, you learn quiet sex, right? So that was our thing. And when we first started, Brad would look at me and he's like, You are having you're getting your fucking.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:48

Never heard you leave like scream that loud and come that off.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:52

How does that feel? Oh my god.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:53

Yeah. And so we actually have some really good friends of ours that are or some of our first couples that Brad had a few issues with because he would fuck me and he felt like he was fucking my brains out. But it was more that working through, yeah. And finally it turned to him. I'm like, honey, I'm like, all of not all of this, like all a lot of this is not necessarily theatrics in a way of like I'm faking stuff, but I'm giving feedback. I'm bringing the fun and the amusement part to this sexual experience because I want my partner to know that it's fun. But also too, like it's just fun. Right. Let go.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:29

But letting go is good though. That's the thing. It's like I come louder now, too. I'm like, I'm more vocal than I've ever been when I'm gonna do it. God, I'm not.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:36

Yeah. No, for sure. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:37

But what but I guess, you know, in the same respect though, I if it was the other way around, you'd be like, you don't make me like you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 1:07:43

Like, no, there have been times where he's done things, and interestingly enough, it's been outside of the bedroom. Okay. Where he's done things where I'm like, uh-uh, you know, where I'm like, you have not done that to me for a long time. And at first I held that against him. Uh-huh. And finally I just found my voice where I was like, look, uh, I you did that to her. I want I need you to do that to me. Okay. So I've started expressing my needs a lot more. That communication you were talking about earlier. Exactly. And it just And I want to do it to her. That's the thing.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:12

It's just like, I just don't know why. It's just in the moment, when you get in the moment sometimes, you're like, okay, well, let's do this. Let's just try it. Because you don't think I don't I don't pre-plan the positions I'm gonna put somebody in per se, or do this or that. And then all of a sudden they're like, well, let's do this, and all and it looks great. And she sees it from across the room. She's like, Well, I want that. I want you to pick me up and you know.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:30

Well, the endorphins are flowing, and the brain does a lot of different things on the endorphin. So you're like, I didn't know. She did the same with the boys. And again, intent.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:37

And then think of this, baby. The guy had like this enormous cock.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:40

Right.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:40

And he's like the successful attorney, and then he's got all this money, and then here I am just sitting in the corner and going, man, too easy for him. So so nervous.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:51

Or I've got his balls, he's also got my ovaries wrapped around his fingers.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:55

You know, but we're but we're at that point now. Being five, going into six years in this lifestyle, though, striker. We look at this going now, there's not a whole lot that upsets us because we don't we don't go outside of our our our box of parameters, is what we call it, right? Not rules, but we call parameters, right, Brittany?

SPEAKER_06 1:09:11

I would say so. I would agree with that. There are things that do come up, right? Where it's like, people, you can't, you cannot say every scenario is gonna come up. You do not know what's gonna come up, right? Right. So it is kind of a here's what I'm gonna go with, and here's what you know I hope happens, and you talk about it after. And if it is not within a comfort level of another, okay, next time it's not gonna happen. So for instance, I like being spanked. Brad does not like to spank me. Okay. Um, and then also other men are like, I'm afraid because your husband's gonna kill me. Right, right. Um, and I'm like, no, no, no, it's fine. My husband's not gonna kill you. So there are things that we're kind of learning to navigate with each other, but there are things that do come up where in the heat of the moment things just happen or don't happen. And it's like, hey, let's not do that one again. And you just you walk away knowing again, you both love each other and you just intent is all of it, is what my thoughts are.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:10

So Which you know brings me to a point. Like, I'll play with a couple and I know that imagine me playing with a couple and then I'm now after a day or two, I'm texting you guys still. Yeah, and it and it feels weird. A lot of times I in communication because I don't want any more like individuals to think, like, oh, okay, BB's interested in us, you know. So why I'm saying this is because some couples are like, does she have a good time? We haven't heard from her. We're talking to her every day for three weeks, and then we have we fuck her, and then now we don't hear from her. And a lot of times she ghosted us. Sex was bad. A lot of times that doesn't mean that. A lot of times that means like, I need you guys to recalibrate and not think that for one second. You need to get back in touch with yeah, like I know that these are experiences, and sometimes those need to end. And if they linger on, that's when the concerns that we were talking about earlier come. So I'm saying this because a lot of times single people, single women, unicorns, you know, we may not talk to you as much or the communication may change because it's important to us that we know I'm not a threat.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:06

Yeah. So do you prefer that kind of like, okay, so reclamation time period happens after? Okay. Yes. So you have sex with somebody or a couple, and then what do you think is the proper amount? Because I know Brad would be like, okay, let's text her tomorrow. Or did she come back over?

SPEAKER_01 1:11:24

Men are always like better, Britney bitch.

SPEAKER_07 1:11:27

Bless her.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:28

That is that is into this fucking thing I know. I love the for people who are listening. The wife needs to be the re-engaged 100%.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:37

You guys are educating people so much right now. No, I'm not joking. I'm not joking about this at all. Because this is the stuff that Britney and her friends actually talk about too. Right. And I think that people are missing, uh have to hear this and and listen to every word that you guys are saying here. Because if er the dude, sit the fuck back and let the women do the talking and be happy that you're here in this very moment. Correct. One of the things I really like about you two, which is different from a uh a couple situation, is that you are so in tuned, worrying about the female and the couple, right? That is even as even if you weren't a unicorn, I think that couples in general should listen to this and and take this as part of a textbook. We don't have a textbook in this lifestyle, right? Vampires do not have textbooks.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:23

I might write one. You should write one.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:25

I think she's on to something here.

SPEAKER_02 1:12:26

I'll annotate it. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:28

And and I just think that if you listen to this, you will you will get through this lifestyle so much easier, less drama between your spouse in this, and you will have more success in this lifestyle.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:41

So, with that, a question new unicorns coming onto the space. And BB, I know you're new based upon everything you just had a 30-person bustle or two that I have not had yet.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:52

Well, listen to it. Yeah, they're like it's like dog years, though. So she's definitely dog years. If she's 10 months in, she's literally 25 years old.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:01

Very mature. I also think there's experiences. So I've met people in the lifestyle for five years and they've had like five experiences. And they're babies, right? So when you think about that, a new unicorn coming onto the scene. What advice would you give them?

SPEAKER_01 1:13:16

I would give them the advice of just be confident, uh, be yourself authentically. You know, don't inherit any personality, you know, because the thing about it is like, oh, I want to have this new life, or you know, be the person that you are the most comfortable being because you don't want to have to keep this narrative or this ideal over and over again. I am just who I am all the time. And if you don't like me, I'm moving on, you know, and get to where you're most confident physically because that's going to interrupt you a lot of, you know, you're gonna get invited to a lot of parties, you're gonna get a lot, you know, events. So not saying big, small, whatever you are, wherever you're the most confident physically. So then when you're out and about, you could feel because they're gonna put you a little bit on a pedestal. Yep. You know, I hate saying that. And you know, so get yourself into whatever shape you want to be in. You know, um, if you want to have your hair certainly, you know, I I feel like it's a pedestal and a microscope. Yes, you know, and you know be prepared to be kind of like desired, you know, and and and I just 100% just agree that you need to just be confident in yourself, strive to look and feel the best you can look because you are, you know, an enhancer to a relationship.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:23

Striker, would you agree with that as well? Because I because I have this one, I have this one couple that had had had something like that, but she says, I don't want to be the center of attention. So that's probably not good to like if you say that, you're probably not a good candidate to be a unicorn, true or false.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:37

I mean, true, because I would say we're a special guest star.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:40

So when the special guest star shows up, and you guys aren't being uh like cocky or no or arrogant about this. I'm gonna tell you guys right now, I don't believe that to be the case. I think you guys are just being 100% honest.

SPEAKER_02 1:14:51

Seven nights a week you sleep with your wife. How many times am I there with you? But I will say I made a very rookie mistake transitioning from kink to lifestyle. So in the kink world, particularly like fat life, where I was, my account's not active right now.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:08

That's a unicorn site, right?

SPEAKER_02 1:15:10

Oh no, it's a BDSM.

SPEAKER_07 1:15:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:12

Oh, it's BDSM, sorry. See, this one I don't I don't know shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:15

Um, but a lot of times you in the kink world, just where I come from, you message the man because he's normally in my situation, the Dom. I was early on in the groups and somebody did their couples profile, and I was like, I'm actually attracted to that woman. But it was the guy who posted the intro. And so I DM'd him. And I'm like, now looking back on that, I'm so embarrassed. And I'm like, you guys are my type. And I'm like, oh my God, this is so cringe. I reached out to the dude, I reached out first, like, you know, and it's just humiliating. But I'm coming from the situation where you talk to the Dom, you know, and I still just thought that way. And I was like, I it's one of those things, and I see this couple all the time, and I'm just like dying inside every time I see them, like, oh my God, I was so bad. Please don't.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:05

But you learn stuff, and that's the thing, and that's the beauty about these podcasts now. Because probably, you know, even back then, I don't know how many, I mean it was only a few years ago, but still, there's not a lot of people talking about this type of stuff. As honest as you guys are being here today, right, Brittany?

SPEAKER_06 1:16:18

I agree. And that's what we love about this podcast. And even when we were back on two plus two, the amount of people that came up and was like, thank you, we had no clue. And even when we talk about like the girl code, you should always connect with a girl, right? Absolutely. Um, I remember we actually have some uh mutual friends, and her husband and I just started chatting because we we have some very ideological similarities, right? And so as we were talking, I was I turned to her and I was like, I will get to you. I'm just I'm we're just talking about X, Y, and Z. I was like, it hasn't nothing to do with anything, but it was because I didn't want to break that girl code, right? Exactly. Right. And it's just so interesting trying to learn and navigate those little things.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:00

And I will say, I mean, while I do have my fair share of creepy DMs, one of the things that fills my inbox the most is from wives or girlfriends wanting to know about the kink world and how to do some of the things that I do. They want me to be their mentor or their teacher, and I get a lot of explicit questions. I don't mind that at all. Like, please learn. Like, you want to talk about throat training? I'll talk about throat training. I did throat training for a long ass time.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:30

Brittany, you want to learn about throat training?

SPEAKER_06 1:17:32

I definitely want Stryger back on, and we need to do like a whole better stuff. I know, I know. Brad's like, uh, I don't know what to do with this.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:44

But I mean, there's so many other directions. I can't even tell you guys a fucking to keep me speechless is really not.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:52

The interesting thing though is we have two very distinct unicorns, and maybe this is my perception, but Stryker, I would imagine people would be reaching out to you for kind of those fetish type situations. Very much, and then BB, at the other end, you are that butterfly that people are like, we want you in our room. Um, so uh just it's fascinating to think about the different elements of the lifestyle, and we've talked about this multiple times. Like, there is no one set space for what the lifestyle is, right? You all have your individual things. What you do is what you do in the bedroom, um, and what you bring in is totally up to you. So I agree very much. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:31

Well, one of the I got two more really quick things.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:34

So I've one of the things I want to understand from you both, what do you guys get out of this lifestyle personally? Like you guys, I got the smiles on this. I was just gonna, I was a throwaway. I thought I was gonna talk about two seconds. Go ahead, Stryker. What do you you want to go first?

SPEAKER_02 1:18:49

I have a very high sex drive. And so, like I said earlier, I like being able to have sex with people that I trust and that I can get my needs met, and I know there's not emotional entanglement, and that's at the very base level. Yeah, but also I enjoy the friendships, I enjoy the honesty. Like I said, I had a friend who basically judged me. I thought we were best friends, and she judged me hardcore for my sexual proclivities, and that hit hard. And here it's like I can call BB and be like, guess what I did? Yeah, and she does.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:22

I be in that conversation going forward. 100%, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:19:27

And there's it's really fun more like this dick, BB. You have to fuck it.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:31

Oh my god, it was so good doing it. Yeah, and she's like, she's like, Oh, he's cute. And I'm like, oh, his cock is good.

unknown 1:19:38

Damn.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:40

It does happen. Brittany bitch. It happens.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:42

You told me that don't talk like this, girl. Don't talk like this.

SPEAKER_01 1:19:44

Not in the vanilla world, not in the vanilla world.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:47

But trust me, yes, my group is.

SPEAKER_01 1:19:50

I met this guy. Please, please fuck him and let me know what you thought about it.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:55

It happens.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:55

And I and Brittany, correct me if I'm wrong here, though. Like, we actually do that with other couples too. Yes. We do. We do.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:01

And then the girls do another exchange.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:03

Oh, really? Well, so like, for example, with Celine and Stone, one of our good friends, right? That we just had on the the uh podcast not too long ago. And we tell them, like, you need to meet this couple, or we meet another couple, and like one of our great friends is Celine and Stone. You gotta come back. Talking by referral, right? Oh yeah, 100%. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:19

Yeah, it happens with couples too, where it's all referral-based, right?

SPEAKER_00 1:20:23

Where it's like referral-based swinging.

SPEAKER_02 1:20:25

Yeah, when BB's like they're fun. I'm like, okay, I'll respond to their messages. Yeah, yeah. I love that.

SPEAKER_00 1:20:31

All right, ladies. So we've we have talked about. Oh, what about BB? Oh, yeah, we have to. Oh, BB.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:35

I'm sorry, sorry. I thought we talked about it.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:38

I I just love thinking about a couple fucking to me, fucking them previously. That's really big turn on. And at least, you know, I'm not big in porn. Yeah, I'm not, I don't really watch porn. I'm a mental person, so like I'll be like in Marshall's going to Brad, and I'm like, God, I know Brad fucked the shit out of Brittany. Think about my ass bouncing up on Facebook.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:58

In all honesty, we might have already. Just so you know, do it. I think I might have been like, you want to fuck BB, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:21:07

And this was after maybe the first time we yeah, and I and there's just even right now, my heart's doing a little bitter. Just so you know, and it's just it and it's just amazing. And then just the friendships and just like being an adult conversating and you know, having parties, and just like, you know, the husband walks by and I'm making out with his wife, and he's like, God, my life is really good.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:28

I do say that a lot to reflect. So there's a song. Um, I don't you guys probably don't. I don't know if you guys listen to country music, but there's a song that Kenny Chesney sings, and he goes, Who gets to live like we do? And the crowd is supposed to yell back, we do.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:41

Yeah. Right.

SPEAKER_00 1:21:42

And I think what you just said therapy is exactly that.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:45

It's just like, you know, you get into your, you know, the second stage of your life, kids are grown, you know, whatever the case you are in the lifestyle, and it's just really nice to know that life isn't done. Yeah, it's actually so much better. You know, and if I can be a part of that, and that just makes me, you know, whether it's full intercourse or whether it's just like, you know, just some some soft stuff, I get the same exhilaration out of it. And it's just, you know, just me not wanting a relationship, that gives me the same type of satisfaction of, you know, of a relationship for me.

SPEAKER_00 1:22:12

So I love that. You know, and um something that's interesting uh for me is I feel like it just in general, even in the vanilla world, I always feel like women are obviously more emotional than men and then physical. But you girls, I know you have emotions, so I'm not discrediting that by no means. But right now, where you are in life, you're not interested necessarily, maybe in the emotional connection. You are more physical, right? Yes, which is so different than anybody here in this whole world, even in even in the lifestyle. My wife is emotional, right? She is we are connected, like you have no, like these wires talking to us on this podcast. We are connected. I can't imagine, like, well, as a young 20-something, maybe I was. I would fuck whatever is in Scottsdale right now and you know, go home and have a good time. Maybe girls did in their 20s too, but as they get a little bit older, emotional connection is so much better. But you guys are not there yet, and that's totally okay. And I appreciate that kind of stuff. Well, someday maybe you will. You get you're having your cake and you're eating it too, to a certain degree right now. You're like, I get the physical, I get to be a mom, I get to be career-driven. You know what? The guy will come when it's time for that. Yes, and that is so backwards than the most vanilla world is.

SPEAKER_02 1:23:21

And I want to reframe that just a little bit. Please do in the sense of we own our sexuality now. Yeah, like where we don't need an emotional connection to get off. Like, I know my body, I know what will make me come, and I can seek that and choose that without it being, I really like this guy. I see a future together.

SPEAKER_00 1:23:41

Need four dates before I fucking own it.

SPEAKER_02 1:23:43

And all that stuff that you're doing. Yeah. And all that stuff that happens in your 20s where we're told we're not supposed to be sexual creatures. And then now I own it. This is who I am. I want that orgasm, and you better give it to me. Like, and that's it. Like, that's what you're bringing to the table, not a commitment. You're bringing me an orgasm and show up or shut up.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:05

Damn.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:06

I actually I love that, and I'm diving into those behaviors. Like, why do we as women need that? So there's so much more to it, but I do think there is a program, right? That we women need to have that emotional connection, and truly we don't. We can experience pleasure just as much as a man can, and how do we do that? We can shut it off. Yep.

SPEAKER_00 1:24:28

So this has been a fantastic episode. I swear we I know we're way over an hour, and I don't give a shit. Because you know what? Joe Rogan podcasts are like three and a half hours. Fuck it. If you guys are interested, thank you for hanging in there. But I have one last thing because I know unicorns, how do you discover them? Do you guys care? You guys, if you want to, feel free. If you don't want to, you don't have to do that either. Platforms, usernames, do you guys want to be discovered? Are you guys happy with where you're at right now?

SPEAKER_02 1:24:53

I will say right now with my kink with my FET profile disabled with all I've been going through. No, but if people want to reach out to you and you guys message me and they sound cool, fine. I will do them.

SPEAKER_00 1:25:05

Renny Bitch will be she's the one that's gonna be in charge of this. Oh, we don't know. She will vet the motherfucker for you. How about you, BB?

SPEAKER_01 1:25:10

Very similar. Like, I I'm interested in a good time. Just know that it's not always gonna be sex. But just know if you hang out with me, we're gonna have a fun time. You know, but I person I personally prefer meeting in in the wild, you know. So through local and I'm still in that. We're meeting in the wild. Yes, you know, because I I I I absorb energies, but um, in in any groups or but for now, if you could reach out to Brittany and Brad. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:35

How do they meet how do they reach out to us, Brady Bitch? So if you want to have me bet you, because that's what it would be, yes. I will vet the um unicorn hunters. I like it. No, what do we call it? Seekers. Uh unicorn seekers. No, there's gotta be Wranglers. I will bet the Unicorn Wranglers on Instagram. I will vet the Unicorn Wranglers at Vampires Brad and Britney on Instagram. Or you can visit us at www.sexy swingingvampires.com.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:11

Excellent. Love it. Well, thanks again. Thank you. Thank you. This is thank you guys for joining us.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:17

So much fun.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:17

I got a feeling Britney's gonna bring you guys back.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:19

Is there well anytime well, he's not letting you go. Now, is there anything else that maybe we didn't cover?

SPEAKER_01 1:26:26

No. I mean, just just know I don't consider myself as icing on the cake. I am the ice cream on the side. You know, so we are not we are not the better part of we are on the side just for fun. So don't we're for fun, we're not better than we are amplify. We amplify, we make we get a little dip a little cake, turn up the bottom. The amp that goes to 11. So no intimidation needed. So it's getting closer for me trying this.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:53

I love it.

SPEAKER_01 1:26:53

Well, find the right unicorn. Yep, trust.

SPEAKER_00 1:26:56

Thank you guys again so much for being here, and we will catch you guys next time.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:03

Bye.