What are you even talking about???

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What are you drinking?

Ask me anything

OK, that one time I lied

I can't lie

Am I unc?

SPEAKER_00 0:22

What's up, guys? Welcome back to the pod. Hello. Hello. Welcome back. This is it. This is the first one. So welcome to the pod, I should say. Welcome to the pod. Welcome to the pod. We've had a little bit of technical difficulties. We've had trial and error, but we're here. We don't know what day or time it is. No. But we're here. Okay. It's great. I'm so happy to be able to do this podcast. But the amount of work. It takes a lot. It takes a lot. But we're here. We gotta figure it out. So yes, gotta start somewhere. Did a few hours of recording for my other podcast with Aunt Hannah. Yeah. I've talked about all things of all genres. So now I feel like we get to just have some fun. Yeah. I'm yeah, excited for that. That'll be super fun. Okay, so welcome to the Call Your Mom podcast. A podcast where we just are gonna chill and have great conversation. And you're welcome to just experience what conversation is like between Ken and I. Yeah. The kind of the motive behind it all is like obviously, you know, when you grow older, it gets to a point where the only way you're really talking to your mom is when you're calling her. Which is kind of sad, I know. Because you're all leaving. Because we're all leaving. But um, I think even with Carter moved out and moved away, he's in another state, he's in Tennessee. I feel like he, you know, I catch you guys on the phone all the time together. He's so good about calling. He is very good at calling. I think dad may have told him like the only way your mom's gonna survive. And the only way he calls me all the time, too. I think it's amazing. I love it. But he does. He makes sure he calls and checks in. And I mean, even today he called me for like it was a good hour. We just we just talked about all the things. Yeah, but yeah, no, it's fun. It's good. But yeah, that's kind of the motive behind it. Obviously, I'm gonna be leaving here soon. So, you know, we're gonna get in. I know. We're gonna get in what we can in the call your mom podcast, and you know, till we get to the point where it's only by call. Oh, stop it. I know that's crazy. I thought I'd think about that, yeah. We don't have to get there. We don't have to get there. Hey Ken, what are you drinking over there? I'm drinking the Bloom Shirley Temple. Wait, that's what I'm drinking. We have the same thing. Mine's out of the can, though. I have to open this. ASMR. Wait, is it ASMR? Yeah, you're right. Or AMS. Nope, nope. AMS ASMR. But no, these things I actually need a sponsorship because holy balls, these are so good. So good. Bloom energy, bloom in general, bloom energy, all of it. I love it. The Bloom Charlie Temple. The Bloom Charlie Temple is what I have today. Which by the way, it does say pop. It's not soda, it is pop. This is true. Just so you guys know. Anyway. Um, okay. Throw some hands over the soda drinkers. Uh yeah. I just I kind of judge people for calling it soda. Yeah. It's okay. I think it's like a whole thing, just like Michigan, Michigan State is. Yeah. You know. Yeah. I don't know. What's another one where it's like, what are you talking about? It's it's literally anything. Like the cultural thing. Yeah. Okay, Ken. Um, so I thought we could do a segment where you can ask me anything or I can ask you anything. Okay, go for it. Okay, well, if you're first, no, you guys. Oh, I don't have anything first. If I'm being honest, I don't know. Okay, well, burning question. Oh gosh. Have you ever done something and not told me about it? Do you have secrets? Share the thing. If I'm being honest, not really. No. Um, I mean, I've definitely done things I haven't told you about, but like, I honestly couldn't tell you because I think one of the first one that comes to mind, I couldn't tell you because it would expose someone else. Oh dear. And so it wasn't illegal. It wasn't illegal, no. Just stupid. It was yeah, it was yeah, it was mostly just dumb. Looking back on it, I think we both would admit it to it now, but in the moment, we both were like, what are we doing? Would her parents be angry? Or his parents? Yes, their parents would be probably upset. But it's okay. We can have that parent and that friend on the show, and then you guys can't. I would love I that might have we we could probably get that to happen. But yeah, definitely that time of my life, it was probably looking back on it, it wasn't great. It wasn't great, shouldn't have done it, but it's okay. But that's probably about it. You're I pretty much am I pretty honest with you about most things that I do, and even if I'm not, I feel like you kind of find out. So it is kind of the downside to my spiritual gifting. Yeah, right. How the how God wired me, right? Well, I just know things, yeah. I can just sense it. Yeah, and I think I know you guys well enough that yeah, oh a hundred percent. Some of you can lie a little more easily than others, which is very disturbing. So yeah, you know, the biggest prayer that I pray for you guys, what is it? That God would convict you so good if you're doing something out of a life. I will say, well, I will say there is a lot of the time where I feel that like I feel can like convicted about things, but I there is also that part of me where I'm like, there's just like a part where like you have your own moral set. So it's like when you go past them because of like gross your stuff. Because of something, I just am like it. It's literally not even like, oh my gosh, my mom's gonna find out about it. It's just like a what am I doing? Yeah, you know, what am I doing? Yeah, yeah. I feel like you come to me even if you do screw up, like you had a brother, you only have brothers, so I can say you I have a story I could tell you where I admit something. Let me finish my. I just thought about this. Okay, let me finish my okay. Uh the that this brother came to dad and I and was like, I have to tell you something. And it was hard, yeah, but he he felt that conviction, yeah, and he was like, I have always been honest with you, and I don't like to hide things from you. And I'd rather just have it be out there and have you know and keep like struggling behind your back and do you not know about it, and it wasn't a huge deal, but it was enough for him to like feel that he should have like been communicating with us about it, and then we didn't I I was like in my head going, don't overreact, don't over don't overreact, yeah, because you want your kid to come to be able to come. Right. And I even think about the time that me and said person that we already kind of mentioned um got in trouble before it was because we had just kind of like been out too late with a couple guys, and it looked bad on our part because like find your iPhones it'll get you when you're out of college and it looks like you're in someone's dorm room. And we weren't, we were just playing basketball, but it looked bad, and I remember we didn't tell you that we were even going over there, right? That we didn't even do anything. You're on a completely other side of town than what you had told me, exactly, and it had been hours, and I was like, Why are they not back yet? Yeah, and you weren't answering your phone, right? And so it just it looked bad completely on us, so then we did get in trouble. That was the first time that that friend, I mean, we have been friends for so long that she expected it at some point, but we both got in trouble together by you guys. And by trouble, what does that mean? It was it wasn't that we got in trouble, it was like we we genuinely felt really bad. We did, and so did the other pe the guys that we were with. Um, and we felt like it was it was it was just not a good it was just it looked bad and we knew it, and so we apologized and you guys were really graceful about it too, because obviously, you know I think another thing is like the more you just tell the truth, it like at the end of the day, the lies are just gonna come out. Like you're gonna figure out when you're lying. It's better to just come clean and straightforward and be honest than to lie about things because the more the the more times I've been caught in a lie, I feel like it ended worse for me when I got caught in a lie. Because if I told the truth, I wasn't punished because it was the truth, and I wasn't, you know, admitting to something like later on after lying and lying and lying. Have I lied about things and not told you about things and then came clean? Yeah, but I eventually when I came clean, it was like a it was out of the fact that I knew what I was doing in the lie was wrong. But whenever I got caught in a lie, it felt worse and I would get in more trouble because it was like I was genuinely lying and I got caught in it. I feel like our the way that we've based our parenting is by grace because God gives us grace, right? No bummer trees before the pot. Okay. Um that's gross. I'm so sorry. But yeah, so we try to do like grace-based parenting, and that doesn't mean that there aren't consequences to behavior. Oh, we've had consequences, oh yeah, you get consequences, but I mean, there's like non-negotiables, and lying is one of them. Like Revelation 21, liars are not welcome. Right. Yeah. In heaven. I mean, there's a whole lot of theological things to say about that, but you can't argue with what Revelation 21 says. Right. Lying is completely against who God is. Right. Jesus is the truth. So if you're with the lie, then you are like choosing too, like, will not tolerate that. I think another thing too, and if like parents are listening to this, as someone who has it grown up with that grace-based like parenting of like, obviously, you guys want us to come to you with whatever we have. So with that, I think in it grows that like that grows inside us. Like, I I felt it a lot of like, okay, no, I could tell my parents about this. I don't have to, you know, lie about it. And there has been times, like I said, obviously kids get calling lies all the time. It happens, but it allowed me and pushed me to speak more of the truth and be honest with you guys because again, I just felt like if if I was honest with you, it I mean, even in the Bible, it talks about like, you know, obviously speaking up when you're struggling, because like, especially to your brothers and sisters, because it's like obviously those people are gonna be the ones that walk alongside of you, and the biggest ones that walk alongside you all your life is your parents. So, like, if you're just straight up honest with them, it's like they're gonna be the ones that can help you the most, especially because that's your help. Right, exactly. Yeah, so yeah, but yeah, no, I I completely agree. But back to your question, because I had a little bit of a story I wanted to share. Yeah, yeah. I could think of one time that I did something. I guess in this moment I kind of lied. But it was one of those things where I was like, oh shoot, I'm screwed. But I had been hanging out with a friend that night. It was like this this one night, and me and him were gonna we wanted to go play basketball, but we needed a basketball, so we were gonna go back to our house, get our basketball, and then we were gonna go to the church to play basketball there because we have an indoor basketball hoop. So we were like, let's go do that. So we get in the car, and it was right on the road over here, and we were coming down that big hill, the big one, okay? And a deer ran out in front of me, and I didn't hit the deer, but I slammed on the brakes because I was going fast. I was going on this huge hill and this deer and it stopped, and I barely I didn't touch it, but I don't I don't know how. I genuinely did not know how I did not even like touch this deer, but I the brakes gone. Like I slammed on them. Yeah, and we get back home. I think we went and played basketball still and all that, but then I told this person, I said, do not tell my bears. Why? Yeah, because the next day you went to go use the car, and a piece of the car broke, and you guys had to get it fixed. And like I can't remember if it was the break or if it was like something in the car was broken. It was recently when they had to do it. This was years ago. This was like I'm sure whatever you car, but oh it definitely did. Oh, for sure it did. Never told us? No, because I was like, they're gonna make me pay for it. Because legitimately I remember you guys saying, like, you you came home from work and you're like, there's something wrong with the car. And you and it was like related to the I I think it had to have been. Were you like in inner turmoil turmoil? Oh, I was like, there you were like, I think you said something of like, did something, and I was like, no, I don't know what happened to it. What car was it? The pilot? Yeah, it was the pilot. The new one? No, it was the old one. This was like this was like old pilot. The C V axle did break on the Honda pilot on me. So maybe that was your consequence. This is true. That actually pretty bad killed you. The C V axle one? Oh, I know. I was just on the highway. No, for real. Because you would have been on the highway and you wouldn't have to be. That and also I was nannying. Yeah, you were. Yeah, I know. Insane. That's crazy. Well, anyway, so you just came clean with something and you could have just told me. I know, but dad would have made you pay for it. Oh, 100%. That's why I didn't. I was like a sophomore in high school. Come on. Let me let me just back up. If you would have said last night a giant deer ran out in front of me in so-and-so, and I had to slam on my brakes from not hitting it, our thought process would have been like, shoot, what she did while she was driving it costs us money now. However, that's that would have made me gay. That would have made me pay for it. But I would have been like, how is a deer running out in front of her any different? Like, that's the risk we take. Well, yeah. And then he would have said, Why didn't you just hit the deer? Because then the insurance would have paid for it all. Right. Well, that's my thing. And it was like, so I just didn't admit to it. I didn't admit to it. Well, and I also wasn't for sure related. No, but looking back, right, and it couldn't look it maybe not been related to it. Hold up, you could have been like, hey, this is what happened, and maybe like because what happens if something would have happened to me while I was driving and then the forever thing you had to live with. I know, I don't know, terrible. I I know, but that's the point here, kids. Just be honest. To be honest, but I it was, but it I I was like a sophomore in high school. I felt terrible. I can't drop their name. A guy, yeah. Think of my friends and scooter friends, yeah. Uh-huh. Yeah. I know exactly what's going on here. Yeah. Well, it was on that road too. So if that was okay, okay. Okay, yeah. I'm with you. Yeah. The scooter guys. I know who you are. No, it's good. The scooter guys is. I know it was like that. And I literally remember, I literally remember we both looked at each other. We went. And then the deer just like stopped and stared at you. Dude, it genuinely the deer stopped and looked at us. It must have been. Honestly, I would have been too. I would like to be like, bro. Don't tell my mom. Genuinely. And then it just walked off, and me and him just we were like, so we still want to play basketball. We were like, yeah, let's go. You guys are nuts. It may not even been related. Yeah, it may have not even been related, but it was funny. So okay. Well, thanks for coming clean. I guess we should do this more often. I actually I don't know if I couldn't lie to my parents, even if I tried. One time I tried one time I tried and my dad caught me trying to go to a club. I'd never been to a club. My friends were going, it was teen night, and he was like, Where are you going? And I was like, Oh, I'm just going out to Tina. And he was like, Where? And I was like, Oh, we're just going to Grand Rapids. And he was like, Why are you all dressed up? And I was like, Because we're going out. And he was like, Where are you going? And I just couldn't lie. I couldn't do it. Uh we have a topic of the day. You want to pick or you want me to pick? You want to peg? Okay. I don't know what it is. Okay. Slang. What is going on? What is going on? Like I follow Mr. Bill Lindsay on Instagram, and I just I can't even anymore. You can't keep up. I this is actually this is actually funny. Yeah, honestly. Neither do I sometimes. Sometimes I get sick of it. No, I will say though that I was just actually watching another podcast where it was like a gen or a gen Z person like came on and was like talking about slang. Yeah. But it is it is definitely like, yeah, things are getting a little out of hand for sure. What's your what's your questions on slang? What do you got go? What do you got cooking? What are some things where like just why? Because I honestly probably might agree with you. Yeah, like am I an unk? Okay. Stories to be told. You didn't know what that word meant like two hours ago. I still don't understand. Am I one? Um, technically, I don't even know what we'd call you, but if I said listen to my mom lore, would you be like see you also didn't know what that was today, two two hours ago? I know. So tell me more. What do I need to know? Okay, well, like mom lore, obviously, it's like you're creating events. Do you know what you know what a canon is? You know what a canon event is? A canon event. What? You don't know what a canon event is. No, I do events for a living. Is it like one of those events? No. Not quite. What? You don't know what a canon event is? Oh my gosh, no. Are you being serious? I feel like you're messing with me. I don't know what it is. I feel like this is like, okay. What is it? Like a canon event is like something that happens in your life that's like, it's like universal. Like it has to happen in your life because it's a canon event. It's like is this like canon of the Bible where it's like the foundation of things, or is it like a canon, like you blow a cannonball out? Neither.

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Neither.

For the plot

Where it started for GenZ

SPEAKER_00 18:46

It's okay. Like, think about this, okay? Everyone had this experience of crying over math at the like dinner table. What crying over doing their math homework? Yes. Yeah, crying over the home. I cried at the dinner table when you did your math homework. Exactly. I did too. I was probably right there with you. But that's a canon event, like it happens to everyone, right? Like it's a universal thing. Or like your first heartbreak. It's a canon event. Monumental. Monumental moment. Monumental event. Yeah, it's like it's a moment that you like everyone kind of experiences and walks through, but it's like it just kind of like shapes you. But like, yeah. So it's like it's a canon event. Or like, what about do you know like what like um like for the plot? You know what that means, right? Yeah, that means like you're doing it for the story. Yeah. Yeah. But like in Gen Z like terms, like people will just be like, oh, I'm doing it for the plot. Do you get like that sense of like it's like we're it kind of like makes up for doing something stupid? Oh, it makes up for doing something stupid. I thought you it can Gen Z uses it in any way, but like I'm saying, like the way like we kind of use it now is like it's like okay, like I'm doing it for the plot. It's like okay, you're about to do something to them. Okay. It's like, like, for instance, like a way I could put it is like, this is the best way I can think of it. Cause this is like ways that has happened before. But like, it's like if someone starts, like, let's say, like, one of my friends starts, like, reaches out to a guy that they know they shouldn't reach out to, and they're like, it's for the plot, it's for the plot. It's like, it's like, you know, it's probably gonna end badly, but it's for the plot, just to see what happens. Oh my gosh, I have one of those stories. I know that's crazy. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? It's like for the plot, uh-huh. It's like canon event, things like that just happen. So it's like, yeah. No, it's crazy though. This one time I was on the phone with um Aunt Jackie, and we were gonna go to see the movie Titanic when it came out, and um there was this boy from another country who went to school with us. Okay, um, exchange student, and oh um so anyway, I wanted to I wanted him to go, or maybe it was to go bowling first, and then we were gonna get him to go to the movies with us. Anyways, whatever. I was so nervous to ask him. So she's like, oh, hold on one second. And this was like before cell phones and everything. I guess you can add a call now, but it was called three-way calling back in the day. Anyway, you can still do that thing today, but right, but you had to like, yeah, you had to like hit a button on your own. It wasn't like that phone. Yeah, and you had to like, oh, how did we do it? I think I don't know if you had to do like star. She's actually started a code you had to enter, then you had to dial the phone number, and then you had to push that star button again. And then all of a sudden, she's like, Oh, hold on really quick. I have to go do something. And then all of a sudden the phone is ringing, and she's like, ha ha ha, like laughing on the other line. And then this person picks up, and I was like, I don't even know who she's calling at this moment. And she goes, It's so and so then. And I was like, she like three-way called this guy. That's insane. And then I was like, nah, that's crazy. She was like, hey, this is so-and-so's. And then Robin's on the line. And then I was like, and she's like, she had something she wanted to ask you. And I was like, heck no, I would not be playing that game. That was a monumental moment. Yeah. Canon event. It's not necessarily canon event. That was more like for the plot, but that was for the plot. That would be technically, I guess, considered for the plot. But yeah, no. Gen C definitely has been coming up with some weird ones lately that I just I don't know. I don't understand it. There's like I don't even want to say some of them because it's like uh no, I'm not here for it. Yeah, but I mean, earlier you called yourself an unk, and I'm like, what does that even mean? There are so many moments when I'm gonna be 20 this year. I think that's like unk status for real. I'm reaching unk state. So what am I? Do you you know what flow state is? Is that like when you're cooking? Can can you please explain more? Is that like is that like when you're cooking? Cooking like cooking? No, like you're trying to use a lot of things, you're getting a lot of things done. You're like in your element, and you're like, you're like nailing it. She tried to use another word in of gender. That's mine. No, cooking is like my word for flow state. Or cooking now. You made that up. I did not. You did. You made that up. That's not real. That is. That's what you would say. You're like, yeah, she's cooking. Yeah, okay. No, no, no, that's real. Yeah, flow state. That's like that's what flow state is. Yes. That's my understanding. Okay, yeah. Okay, yeah. Yeah, yeah. That's it. Yeah. Okay. Is there another one that I need to know of? I don't know. There probably is. Do you need to know any of these? Probably not. No, but sometimes I will say it might I'm like, what is she saying? Like, I'm trying to translate. Yeah. It's like, how do we do it? Like, we've gotten to the place with Gen Z that they are now bilingual with their own language. We are. And that's what's and I don't know why. Well, like I had slang. You guys have a new language. It's not even English. Let me guess some of yours. Oh, okay. Um how about psych psych. Psych is like, it's like not like it's like oh that didn't happen. Psych. It's like, oh. It's like, here, here's this. Psych, you can't have it. Just it means like just kidding. Oh, just kidding. Like you're taking something away. Yeah, psych. Yeah. Um, how about uh, oh gosh, now I have the pressure. Um really random thing. Tubular. Oh my gosh, wait, yeah, but that's like so weird. It is weird. Tubular. It's so weird. Oh, yeah, we can stop this. This is weird now. No, Gen Z though. Gen Z got some interesting slang for sure. I never said tubular. Okay. You made that up? No, that's like surfer slang, I think. From the 90s. Oh. Tubular. That's like so tubular. Absolutely tubular. Nobody said that. That's insane. I would probably gag and throw up if someone said that to me in the real love world. If someone came up to me and was just like, you're so tubular, dude. I'd be like, get away from me, please. My friend, you're gonna be moving to Huntington Beach. And you're not actually gonna run into that. Tubular. Tubular. Okay. I guess maybe, guys, maybe I I don't know. No. No. I'm not, I don't know. Tubular is just a little interesting to me, but we definitely have some interesting words though, for sure. I there was I was watching a video today about it. There's oh, do you wanna know what one I learned today? What? I actually can't remember what it was. I didn't even know what it meant. But it was oh my, what was it called? I don't remember. It was another word for PS5. I don't know. I said PS5 like the video game? Like the video game system, yeah. I asked Jack, he goes, What? He didn't know. He didn't know either. So you guys are starting to come out of that and be like, That's why they're still going. That's why I'm onk. Your unk. Yeah. So I'm unk too. Oh, 100%. Yeah. I'm like the generational unk. Yeah. Sadly. Okay. Great to know. It's not a great thing to be unk. Unk is kind of like a Oh, it's a diss. Oh, that was a big one for my generation. What? Diss. Is that is that it? Like you just a diss. Oh yeah. Well, yeah, we'd be doing that too. But that's ours would I guess be more considered a roast, or like, oh, you just like get roast. Yeah, no. Get roasted. We were always saying some weird stuff when I was in. But then like I think back to it, 2016, it's like we're dabbing, we're freaking flossing, we're fortnight in. Like we were in a weird, we were in a weird time. So like to be honest, looking back on it, I'm ashamed. But and maybe we will be of this. I will say the next gen has some interesting ones. And it's it's yeah, it's so guys. We gotta get this figured out though. I'm I'm a little sick of it. So I will say, gotta come up with something a little better than 6-7. No, no, the amount that I've had, I actually I subscribe to the culture translator email from Axis, and I learn about the things that are trending. I have had to stay up on it. I don't know what you're saying half. No, I know. But I will, this is something I actually want to say. I have learned that if you are like, okay, not dad. Dad's a bad example. But if you know, you're less likely to like cringily say it. Yeah. Dad, on the other hand, he'll just tell you. He'll throw it out and I'll be like, no, not the right context, but like you'll say it, and I'll be like, yeah, like right context. I'm like, okay. It is a little weird when you say it, throws me off. But one time I walked in the kitchen and I was like, all right, chat. And I will say it makes us laugh. Like I like it does, it's it does put a it does put a good laugh in the in the room, but like try. But I've learned that if your parents know, it depending on who your parent is, for real. But if your parents know, they're less likely to out of you. Yeah, right. Make it weird, but yeah, yeah. Anything else you want to add about the slang? No. Questions, clarifications, conundrums, quaffles? No. I think I'm pretty up to date on it, but I think it's helpful for people. Yeah. For parents watching.

unknown 29:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:09

You guys are gonna have your things. We had our things. You know what I'm embarrassed of? What? Who let the dogs out? And won't 30. Honestly, we're right there though. Like, we have like, what does the fox say? So it's like we that's we're how it started. We're just on the we're just on the we're just that's how it started for your generation. I don't right, it is how it goes. It was yeah, that time it was a weird time. Sorry about that, by the way. R just in their ear. I'm like, wow. How is the podcast good? Mom barked in the mic. That's crazy, you know. Anyways, thanks guys so much for joining on the pod today. Yeah. It's pretty cool. In our lobby. You get it? She doesn't understand that one. But thanks for watching. Uh, thanks for joining. Uh, love you bye. Love you bye.